Closer/seed/questions/conflict.json

{
  "category": {
    "id": "conflict",
    "display_name": "Conflict",
    "description": "Calm, practical questions about what happens during disagreements: early signals, tone, pacing, pauses, fairness, differences, compromise, recurring patterns, and staying on the same team.",
    "access": "mixed",
    "icon_name": "forum",
    "schema_version": "question_v2",
    "metadata": {
      "total_questions": 150,
      "free_questions": 45,
      "premium_questions": 105,
      "type_counts": {
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        "multi_choice": 90,
        "scale": 15,
        "this_or_that": 10,
        "written": 5
      },
      "depth_counts": {
        "1": 55,
        "2": 75,
        "3": 20
      },
      "source_question_count": 250,
      "source_free_questions": 75,
      "source_premium_questions": 175,
      "new_question_count": 150,
      "net_catalog_change": -100,
      "content_version": "conflict_v3_final_reviewed",
      "guide_basis": "QUESTION_CONTENT_GUIDE, QUESTION_QUALITY_CHECKLIST v11, and QUESTION_SCHEMA v8 reviewed July 12, 2026.",
      "pack_purpose": "Help couples compare what happens during disagreement and choose safer, clearer ways to handle tension without turning the pack into therapy homework.",
      "pack_boundary": "Owns active disagreement mechanics: early signals, tone, defensiveness, pursuit and withdrawal, pauses, fairness, the real issue, compromise, recurring loops, and team mindset. Apologies, forgiveness, reconnection, and changed behavior after the disagreement belong in Conflict Repair.",
      "safety_boundary": "No question requires disclosure, affection, forgiveness, continued engagement, surrendered privacy, surveillance, or staying in a conversation or relationship that feels unsafe.",
      "mass_rewrite_reason": "The repository source contained 250 questions including 150 written prompts. A later reviewed work copy still used depth 4 and omitted required top-level options, so a complete importer-aligned replacement was necessary.",
      "review_workflow": "Ten controlled 15-question sensitive-topic batches with prompt-option fit, read-aloud, repetition, safety, depth, access, and cross-pack review.",
      "final_review": "Final read-aloud, option-parallelism, privacy-and-support safety, clinical-language, duplication, cross-pack, and schema review completed."
    }
  },
  "questions": [
    {
      "id": "conflict_001",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When tension first shows up, what do you notice in yourself?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "early_signs",
        "self_awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_001_i_get_quieter",
          "text": "I get quieter"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_001_i_start_talking_faster",
          "text": "I start talking faster"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_001_i_switch_into_fix_it_mode",
          "text": "I switch into fix-it mode"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_001_i_want_a_little_space",
          "text": "I want a little space"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_001_i_get_quieter",
            "text": "I get quieter"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_001_i_start_talking_faster",
            "text": "I start talking faster"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_001_i_switch_into_fix_it_mode",
            "text": "I switch into fix-it mode"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_001_i_want_a_little_space",
            "text": "I want a little space"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_002",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "How can you tell irritation is starting to build?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "early_signs",
        "irritation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_002_my_answers_get_shorter",
          "text": "My answers get shorter"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_002_my_jaw_starts_tightening",
          "text": "My jaw starts tightening"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_002_i_replay_the_same_thought",
          "text": "I replay the same thought"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_002_i_feel_an_urge_to_correct_every_detail",
          "text": "I feel an urge to correct every detail"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_002_my_answers_get_shorter",
            "text": "My answers get shorter"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_002_my_jaw_starts_tightening",
            "text": "My jaw starts tightening"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_002_i_replay_the_same_thought",
            "text": "I replay the same thought"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_002_i_feel_an_urge_to_correct_every_detail",
            "text": "I feel an urge to correct every detail"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_003",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps a small disagreement stay small?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "deescalation",
        "small_issues",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_003_keeping_it_to_one_clear_issue",
          "text": "Keeping it to one clear issue"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_003_using_a_normal_speaking_voice",
          "text": "Using a normal speaking voice"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_003_having_enough_time_to_talk",
          "text": "Having enough time to talk"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_003_asking_before_making_an_assumption",
          "text": "Asking before making an assumption"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_003_keeping_it_to_one_clear_issue",
            "text": "Keeping it to one clear issue"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_003_using_a_normal_speaking_voice",
            "text": "Using a normal speaking voice"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_003_having_enough_time_to_talk",
            "text": "Having enough time to talk"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_003_asking_before_making_an_assumption",
            "text": "Asking before making an assumption"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_004",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How quickly do you notice when your mood changes during a disagreement?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "awareness",
        "mood",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Usually pretty late",
        "max_label": "Almost right away"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_005",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "Talk now or take ten minutes first?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "timing",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_005_talk_now",
          "text": "Talk now"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_005_take_ten_minutes_first",
          "text": "Take ten minutes first"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_005_talk_now",
            "text": "Talk now"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_005_take_ten_minutes_first",
            "text": "Take ten minutes first"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_006",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What signs tell you I am becoming overwhelmed?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "overwhelm",
        "signals",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_006_my_words_start_coming_faster",
          "text": "My words start coming faster"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_006_i_stop_making_much_eye_contact",
          "text": "I stop making much eye contact"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_006_i_become_unusually_still",
          "text": "I become unusually still"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_006_i_repeat_the_same_point",
          "text": "I repeat the same point"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_006_my_words_start_coming_faster",
            "text": "My words start coming faster"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_006_i_stop_making_much_eye_contact",
            "text": "I stop making much eye contact"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_006_i_become_unusually_still",
            "text": "I become unusually still"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_006_i_repeat_the_same_point",
            "text": "I repeat the same point"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_007",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What is your first instinct when we see things differently?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "conflict_style",
        "first_reaction",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_007_explain_my_side",
          "text": "Explain my side"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_007_ask_a_question",
          "text": "Ask a question"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_007_look_for_a_compromise",
          "text": "Look for a compromise"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_007_take_a_breath_before_answering",
          "text": "Take a breath before answering"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_007_explain_my_side",
            "text": "Explain my side"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_007_ask_a_question",
            "text": "Ask a question"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_007_look_for_a_compromise",
            "text": "Look for a compromise"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_007_take_a_breath_before_answering",
            "text": "Take a breath before answering"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_008",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which reactions from me are hardest for you to read?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "signals",
        "interpretation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_008_sudden_silence",
          "text": "Sudden silence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_008_humor_at_an_unexpected_moment",
          "text": "Humor at an unexpected moment"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_008_a_flat_tone_of_voice",
          "text": "A flat tone of voice"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_008_becoming_very_calm_all_at_once",
          "text": "Becoming very calm all at once"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_008_sudden_silence",
            "text": "Sudden silence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_008_humor_at_an_unexpected_moment",
            "text": "Humor at an unexpected moment"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_008_a_flat_tone_of_voice",
            "text": "A flat tone of voice"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_008_becoming_very_calm_all_at_once",
            "text": "Becoming very calm all at once"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_009",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which conditions make a disagreement easier to enter?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "comfort",
        "starting_conflict",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_009_a_gentle_opening_sentence",
          "text": "A gentle opening sentence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_009_knowing_the_exact_topic",
          "text": "Knowing the exact topic"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_009_not_feeling_rushed",
          "text": "Not feeling rushed"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_009_keeping_the_conversation_out_of_earshot",
          "text": "Keeping the conversation out of earshot"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_009_a_gentle_opening_sentence",
            "text": "A gentle opening sentence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_009_knowing_the_exact_topic",
            "text": "Knowing the exact topic"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_009_not_feeling_rushed",
            "text": "Not feeling rushed"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_009_keeping_the_conversation_out_of_earshot",
            "text": "Keeping the conversation out of earshot"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_010",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "written",
      "text": "What do you wish I understood about your first reaction to conflict?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "conflict_style",
        "personal_context",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "max_length": 500
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_011",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Before you can think clearly, what tends to help?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "clarity",
        "regulation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_011_a_minute_without_questions",
          "text": "A minute without questions"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_011_one_clear_point_to_consider",
          "text": "One clear point to consider"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_011_a_reminder_that_we_are_okay",
          "text": "A reminder that we are okay"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_011_a_little_movement_or_water",
          "text": "A little movement or water"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_011_a_minute_without_questions",
            "text": "A minute without questions"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_011_one_clear_point_to_consider",
            "text": "One clear point to consider"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_011_a_reminder_that_we_are_okay",
            "text": "A reminder that we are okay"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_011_a_little_movement_or_water",
            "text": "A little movement or water"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_012",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Which body signal tells you tension is getting serious?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "body_signals",
        "escalation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_012_a_tight_feeling_in_my_chest",
          "text": "A tight feeling in my chest"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_012_heat_in_my_face",
          "text": "Heat in my face"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_012_clenched_hands",
          "text": "Clenched hands"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_012_restless_legs",
          "text": "Restless legs"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_012_a_tight_feeling_in_my_chest",
            "text": "A tight feeling in my chest"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_012_heat_in_my_face",
            "text": "Heat in my face"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_012_clenched_hands",
            "text": "Clenched hands"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_012_restless_legs",
            "text": "Restless legs"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_013",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes you more likely to assume the worst?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "assumptions",
        "triggers",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_013_vague_wording",
          "text": "Vague wording"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_013_a_badly_timed_comment",
          "text": "A badly timed comment"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_013_an_old_issue_resurfacing",
          "text": "An old issue resurfacing"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_013_a_sharp_facial_expression",
          "text": "A sharp facial expression"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_013_vague_wording",
            "text": "Vague wording"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_013_a_badly_timed_comment",
            "text": "A badly timed comment"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_013_an_old_issue_resurfacing",
            "text": "An old issue resurfacing"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_013_a_sharp_facial_expression",
            "text": "A sharp facial expression"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_014",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you stay curious instead of defensive?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "curiosity",
        "defensiveness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_014_asking_one_honest_question",
          "text": "Asking one honest question"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_014_hearing_the_full_point_first",
          "text": "Hearing the full point first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_014_remembering_our_shared_goal",
          "text": "Remembering our shared goal"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_014_slowing_the_pace_of_the_talk",
          "text": "Slowing the pace of the talk"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_014_asking_one_honest_question",
            "text": "Asking one honest question"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_014_hearing_the_full_point_first",
            "text": "Hearing the full point first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_014_remembering_our_shared_goal",
            "text": "Remembering our shared goal"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_014_slowing_the_pace_of_the_talk",
            "text": "Slowing the pace of the talk"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_015",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What early choice gives us the best chance of staying kind?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "prevention",
        "kindness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_015_lowering_the_volume_early",
          "text": "Lowering the volume early"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_015_choosing_one_topic",
          "text": "Choosing one topic"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_015_letting_each_other_finish",
          "text": "Letting each other finish"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_015_naming_outside_stress",
          "text": "Naming outside stress"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_015_lowering_the_volume_early",
            "text": "Lowering the volume early"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_015_choosing_one_topic",
            "text": "Choosing one topic"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_015_letting_each_other_finish",
            "text": "Letting each other finish"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_015_naming_outside_stress",
            "text": "Naming outside stress"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_016",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What kind of opening makes a hard topic easiest to hear?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "openings",
        "tone",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_016_a_calm_request_to_talk",
          "text": "A calm request to talk"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_016_a_short_reason_the_topic_matters",
          "text": "A short reason the topic matters"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_016_one_specific_concern",
          "text": "One specific concern"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_016_a_question_about_whether_the_timing_works",
          "text": "A question about whether the timing works"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_016_a_calm_request_to_talk",
            "text": "A calm request to talk"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_016_a_short_reason_the_topic_matters",
            "text": "A short reason the topic matters"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_016_one_specific_concern",
            "text": "One specific concern"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_016_a_question_about_whether_the_timing_works",
            "text": "A question about whether the timing works"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_017",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which times are usually worst for starting a disagreement?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "timing",
        "stress",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_017_as_one_of_us_is_leaving",
          "text": "As one of us is leaving"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_017_very_late_at_night",
          "text": "Very late at night"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_017_when_someone_is_hungry",
          "text": "When someone is hungry"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_017_in_the_middle_of_another_task",
          "text": "In the middle of another task"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_017_as_one_of_us_is_leaving",
            "text": "As one of us is leaving"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_017_very_late_at_night",
            "text": "Very late at night"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_017_when_someone_is_hungry",
            "text": "When someone is hungry"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_017_in_the_middle_of_another_task",
            "text": "In the middle of another task"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_018",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How much does timing affect how well you can listen?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "timing",
        "listening",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not much",
        "max_label": "A great deal"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_019",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What keeps a direct question from sounding like an attack?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "directness",
        "tone",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_019_a_steady_voice",
          "text": "A steady voice"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_019_a_concrete_example",
          "text": "A concrete example"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_019_one_clear_request",
          "text": "One clear request"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_019_no_audience_nearby",
          "text": "No audience nearby"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_019_a_steady_voice",
            "text": "A steady voice"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_019_a_concrete_example",
            "text": "A concrete example"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_019_one_clear_request",
            "text": "One clear request"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_019_no_audience_nearby",
            "text": "No audience nearby"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_020",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "Face-to-face or a short text first?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "starting_conflict",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_020_face_to_face_first",
          "text": "Face-to-face first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_020_a_short_text_first",
          "text": "A short text first"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_020_face_to_face_first",
            "text": "Face-to-face first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_020_a_short_text_first",
            "text": "A short text first"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_021",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a serious conversation feel like an ambush?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "timing",
        "pressure",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_021_no_warning_at_all",
          "text": "No warning at all"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_021_bringing_it_up_in_public",
          "text": "Bringing it up in public"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_021_starting_when_there_is_no_time",
          "text": "Starting when there is no time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_021_dropping_several_issues_at_once",
          "text": "Dropping several issues at once"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_021_no_warning_at_all",
            "text": "No warning at all"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_021_bringing_it_up_in_public",
            "text": "Bringing it up in public"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_021_starting_when_there_is_no_time",
            "text": "Starting when there is no time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_021_dropping_several_issues_at_once",
            "text": "Dropping several issues at once"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_022",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which tone changes make it harder for you to stay open?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "tone",
        "escalation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_022_a_sudden_jump_in_volume",
          "text": "A sudden jump in volume"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_022_sarcasm_replacing_plain_words",
          "text": "Sarcasm replacing plain words"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_022_an_icy_calm_voice",
          "text": "An icy calm voice"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_022_short_clipped_answers",
          "text": "Short clipped answers"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_022_a_sudden_jump_in_volume",
            "text": "A sudden jump in volume"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_022_sarcasm_replacing_plain_words",
            "text": "Sarcasm replacing plain words"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_022_an_icy_calm_voice",
            "text": "An icy calm voice"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_022_short_clipped_answers",
            "text": "Short clipped answers"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_023",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What kind of reminder helps you soften your voice?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "reminders",
        "tone",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_023_a_private_phrase",
          "text": "A private phrase"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_023_a_small_hand_signal",
          "text": "A small hand signal"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_023_a_request_for_one_breath",
          "text": "A request for one breath"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_023_hearing_my_name_said_gently",
          "text": "Hearing my name said gently"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_023_a_private_phrase",
            "text": "A private phrase"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_023_a_small_hand_signal",
            "text": "A small hand signal"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_023_a_request_for_one_breath",
            "text": "A request for one breath"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_023_hearing_my_name_said_gently",
            "text": "Hearing my name said gently"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_024",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you bring up frustration before it sits for days?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "frustration",
        "timing",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_024_a_regular_check_in_time",
          "text": "A regular check-in time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_024_knowing_honesty_will_be_welcome",
          "text": "Knowing honesty will be welcome"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_024_turning_the_complaint_into_a_request",
          "text": "Turning the complaint into a request"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_024_keeping_the_first_talk_short",
          "text": "Keeping the first talk short"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_024_a_regular_check_in_time",
            "text": "A regular check-in time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_024_knowing_honesty_will_be_welcome",
            "text": "Knowing honesty will be welcome"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_024_turning_the_complaint_into_a_request",
            "text": "Turning the complaint into a request"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_024_keeping_the_first_talk_short",
            "text": "Keeping the first talk short"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_025",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How easy is it for you to ask whether now is a good time?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "timing",
        "comfort",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not easy yet",
        "max_label": "Very easy"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_026",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you hear concern without hearing criticism?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "feedback",
        "listening",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_026_a_focus_on_one_behavior",
          "text": "A focus on one behavior"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_026_a_gentle_opening",
          "text": "A gentle opening"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_026_knowing_why_it_matters",
          "text": "Knowing why it matters"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_026_a_real_chance_to_answer",
          "text": "A real chance to answer"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_026_a_focus_on_one_behavior",
            "text": "A focus on one behavior"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_026_a_gentle_opening",
            "text": "A gentle opening"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_026_knowing_why_it_matters",
            "text": "Knowing why it matters"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_026_a_real_chance_to_answer",
            "text": "A real chance to answer"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_027",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What kind of beginning makes you feel blamed before the point is clear?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "blame",
        "openings",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_027_always_or_never_wording",
          "text": "Always-or-never wording"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_027_a_guess_about_my_motives",
          "text": "A guess about my motives"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_027_a_comparison_to_someone_else",
          "text": "A comparison to someone else"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_027_a_conclusion_stated_like_a_fact",
          "text": "A conclusion stated like a fact"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_027_always_or_never_wording",
            "text": "Always-or-never wording"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_027_a_guess_about_my_motives",
            "text": "A guess about my motives"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_027_a_comparison_to_someone_else",
            "text": "A comparison to someone else"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_027_a_conclusion_stated_like_a_fact",
            "text": "A conclusion stated like a fact"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_028",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Which setting makes a hard talk easiest for you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "setting",
        "comfort",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_028_sitting_on_the_couch",
          "text": "Sitting on the couch"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_028_walking_somewhere_quiet",
          "text": "Walking somewhere quiet"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_028_sitting_in_a_parked_car",
          "text": "Sitting in a parked car"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_028_talking_at_the_kitchen_table",
          "text": "Talking at the kitchen table"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_028_sitting_on_the_couch",
            "text": "Sitting on the couch"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_028_walking_somewhere_quiet",
            "text": "Walking somewhere quiet"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_028_sitting_in_a_parked_car",
            "text": "Sitting in a parked car"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_028_talking_at_the_kitchen_table",
            "text": "Talking at the kitchen table"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_029",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a disagreement feel public even when nobody is present?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "privacy",
        "outside_involvement",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_029_threatening_to_share_the_messages",
          "text": "Threatening to share the messages"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_029_mentioning_a_social_post",
          "text": "Mentioning a social post"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_029_invoking_relatives_as_judges",
          "text": "Invoking relatives as judges"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_029_talking_loudly_enough_for_others_to_hear",
          "text": "Talking loudly enough for others to hear"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_029_threatening_to_share_the_messages",
            "text": "Threatening to share the messages"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_029_mentioning_a_social_post",
            "text": "Mentioning a social post"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_029_invoking_relatives_as_judges",
            "text": "Invoking relatives as judges"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_029_talking_loudly_enough_for_others_to_hear",
            "text": "Talking loudly enough for others to hear"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_030",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What would help us choose better timing more often?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "timing",
        "planning",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_030_a_simple_signal_for_serious_topics",
          "text": "A simple signal for serious topics"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_030_choosing_a_later_time_together",
          "text": "Choosing a later time together"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_030_checking_whether_it_is_urgent",
          "text": "Checking whether it is urgent"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_030_avoiding_talks_when_we_are_exhausted",
          "text": "Avoiding talks when we are exhausted"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_030_a_simple_signal_for_serious_topics",
            "text": "A simple signal for serious topics"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_030_choosing_a_later_time_together",
            "text": "Choosing a later time together"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_030_checking_whether_it_is_urgent",
            "text": "Checking whether it is urgent"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_030_avoiding_talks_when_we_are_exhausted",
            "text": "Avoiding talks when we are exhausted"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_031",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When you feel unheard, what do you want first?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "being_heard",
        "needs",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_031_a_full_turn_without_interruption",
          "text": "A full turn without interruption"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_031_one_sincere_question",
          "text": "One sincere question"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_031_a_summary_of_what_i_said",
          "text": "A summary of what I said"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_031_a_slower_pace",
          "text": "A slower pace"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_031_a_full_turn_without_interruption",
            "text": "A full turn without interruption"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_031_one_sincere_question",
            "text": "One sincere question"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_031_a_summary_of_what_i_said",
            "text": "A summary of what I said"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_031_a_slower_pace",
            "text": "A slower pace"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_032",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which signs show that I am listening even when I disagree?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "listening",
        "disagreement",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_032_i_let_you_finish_the_thought",
          "text": "I let you finish the thought"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_032_i_repeat_the_main_point_accurately",
          "text": "I repeat the main point accurately"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_032_i_remember_a_detail_you_mentioned",
          "text": "I remember a detail you mentioned"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_032_i_stay_present_instead_of_preparing_a_reply",
          "text": "I stay present instead of preparing a reply"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_032_i_let_you_finish_the_thought",
            "text": "I let you finish the thought"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_032_i_repeat_the_main_point_accurately",
            "text": "I repeat the main point accurately"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_032_i_remember_a_detail_you_mentioned",
            "text": "I remember a detail you mentioned"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_032_i_stay_present_instead_of_preparing_a_reply",
            "text": "I stay present instead of preparing a reply"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_033",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which interruptions bother you most during a disagreement?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "interruptions",
        "listening",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_033_finishing_my_sentence",
          "text": "Finishing my sentence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_033_correcting_a_small_detail",
          "text": "Correcting a small detail"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_033_switching_to_a_different_topic",
          "text": "Switching to a different topic"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_033_answering_before_i_reach_the_point",
          "text": "Answering before I reach the point"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_033_finishing_my_sentence",
            "text": "Finishing my sentence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_033_correcting_a_small_detail",
            "text": "Correcting a small detail"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_033_switching_to_a_different_topic",
            "text": "Switching to a different topic"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_033_answering_before_i_reach_the_point",
            "text": "Answering before I reach the point"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_034",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How easy is it to say that is not what you meant without getting frustrated?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "clarification",
        "frustration",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not easy yet",
        "max_label": "Very easy"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_035",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "One person finishes first or short back-and-forth turns?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "turn_taking",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_035_one_person_finishes_first",
          "text": "One person finishes first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_035_short_back_and_forth_turns",
          "text": "Short back-and-forth turns"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_035_one_person_finishes_first",
            "text": "One person finishes first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_035_short_back_and_forth_turns",
            "text": "Short back-and-forth turns"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_036",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which choices make a complicated point easier to explain?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "clarity",
        "speaking",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_036_using_one_real_example",
          "text": "Using one real example"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_036_starting_with_the_main_point",
          "text": "Starting with the main point"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_036_saying_what_outcome_i_want",
          "text": "Saying what outcome I want"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_036_pausing_between_ideas",
          "text": "Pausing between ideas"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_036_using_one_real_example",
            "text": "Using one real example"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_036_starting_with_the_main_point",
            "text": "Starting with the main point"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_036_saying_what_outcome_i_want",
            "text": "Saying what outcome I want"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_036_pausing_between_ideas",
            "text": "Pausing between ideas"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_037",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Which response makes you feel most understood?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "understanding",
        "validation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_037_i_can_see_why_that_landed_badly",
          "text": "I can see why that landed badly"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_037_i_think_i_understand_the_part_that_hurt",
          "text": "I think I understand the part that hurt"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_037_that_makes_more_sense_now",
          "text": "That makes more sense now"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_037_let_me_check_that_i_heard_you_correctly",
          "text": "Let me check that I heard you correctly"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_037_i_can_see_why_that_landed_badly",
            "text": "I can see why that landed badly"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_037_i_think_i_understand_the_part_that_hurt",
            "text": "I think I understand the part that hurt"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_037_that_makes_more_sense_now",
            "text": "That makes more sense now"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_037_let_me_check_that_i_heard_you_correctly",
            "text": "Let me check that I heard you correctly"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_038",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes you stop explaining even when the issue matters?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "shutdown",
        "listening",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_038_being_mocked_for_caring",
          "text": "Being mocked for caring"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_038_getting_interrupted_repeatedly",
          "text": "Getting interrupted repeatedly"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_038_debating_every_small_detail",
          "text": "Debating every small detail"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_038_seeing_an_eye_roll",
          "text": "Seeing an eye roll"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_038_being_mocked_for_caring",
            "text": "Being mocked for caring"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_038_getting_interrupted_repeatedly",
            "text": "Getting interrupted repeatedly"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_038_debating_every_small_detail",
            "text": "Debating every small detail"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_038_seeing_an_eye_roll",
            "text": "Seeing an eye roll"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_039",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you hear my side without losing your own?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "perspective",
        "balance",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_039_separating_understanding_from_agreement",
          "text": "Separating understanding from agreement"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_039_writing_down_my_main_point",
          "text": "Writing down my main point"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_039_asking_one_clarifying_question",
          "text": "Asking one clarifying question"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_039_summarizing_your_view_before_replying",
          "text": "Summarizing your view before replying"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_039_separating_understanding_from_agreement",
            "text": "Separating understanding from agreement"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_039_writing_down_my_main_point",
            "text": "Writing down my main point"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_039_asking_one_clarifying_question",
            "text": "Asking one clarifying question"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_039_summarizing_your_view_before_replying",
            "text": "Summarizing your view before replying"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_040",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "written",
      "text": "What is one thing I often miss when you are trying to explain yourself?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "understanding",
        "personal_context",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "max_length": 500
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_041",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which habits keep the point of a disagreement clear?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "clarity",
        "focus",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_041_staying_with_one_subject",
          "text": "Staying with one subject"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_041_using_plain_words",
          "text": "Using plain words"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_041_keeping_examples_brief",
          "text": "Keeping examples brief"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_041_ending_with_a_clear_request",
          "text": "Ending with a clear request"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_041_staying_with_one_subject",
            "text": "Staying with one subject"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_041_using_plain_words",
            "text": "Using plain words"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_041_keeping_examples_brief",
            "text": "Keeping examples brief"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_041_ending_with_a_clear_request",
            "text": "Ending with a clear request"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_042",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When we are talking past each other, what should we try first?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "misunderstanding",
        "reset",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_042_define_the_word_we_are_using_differently",
          "text": "Define the word we are using differently"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_042_restate_each_position",
          "text": "Restate each position"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_042_ask_what_the_main_issue_is",
          "text": "Ask what the main issue is"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_042_take_a_very_short_pause",
          "text": "Take a very short pause"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_042_define_the_word_we_are_using_differently",
            "text": "Define the word we are using differently"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_042_restate_each_position",
            "text": "Restate each position"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_042_ask_what_the_main_issue_is",
            "text": "Ask what the main issue is"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_042_take_a_very_short_pause",
            "text": "Take a very short pause"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_043",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes you feel that your feelings are being argued with?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "feelings",
        "dismissal",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_043_being_asked_to_prove_the_feeling",
          "text": "Being asked to prove the feeling"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_043_hearing_the_emotion_corrected",
          "text": "Being told I should not feel that way"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_043_getting_an_explanation_of_intent_too_soon",
          "text": "Getting an explanation of intent too soon"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_043_having_my_reaction_compared_to_someone_elses",
          "text": "Having my reaction compared to someone else’s"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_043_being_asked_to_prove_the_feeling",
            "text": "Being asked to prove the feeling"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_043_hearing_the_emotion_corrected",
            "text": "Being told I should not feel that way"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_043_getting_an_explanation_of_intent_too_soon",
            "text": "Getting an explanation of intent too soon"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_043_having_my_reaction_compared_to_someone_elses",
            "text": "Having my reaction compared to someone else’s"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_044",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you say I disagree without sounding dismissive?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "disagreement",
        "respect",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_044_acknowledging_the_point_first",
          "text": "Acknowledging the point first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_044_keeping_my_voice_even",
          "text": "Keeping my voice even"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_044_giving_one_clear_reason",
          "text": "Giving one clear reason"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_044_leaving_sarcasm_out_of_it",
          "text": "Leaving sarcasm out of it"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_044_acknowledging_the_point_first",
            "text": "Acknowledging the point first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_044_keeping_my_voice_even",
            "text": "Keeping my voice even"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_044_giving_one_clear_reason",
            "text": "Giving one clear reason"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_044_leaving_sarcasm_out_of_it",
            "text": "Leaving sarcasm out of it"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_045",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What would make our next hard talk easiest to understand?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "free",
      "tags": [
        "clarity",
        "next_time",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_045_shorter_speaking_turns",
          "text": "Shorter speaking turns"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_045_one_question_at_a_time",
          "text": "One question at a time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_045_less_history_in_the_first_round",
          "text": "Fewer past issues at the start"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_045_a_clearer_ending_point",
          "text": "A clearer ending point"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_045_shorter_speaking_turns",
            "text": "Shorter speaking turns"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_045_one_question_at_a_time",
            "text": "One question at a time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_045_less_history_in_the_first_round",
            "text": "Fewer past issues at the start"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_045_a_clearer_ending_point",
            "text": "A clearer ending point"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_046",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "How can you tell you are starting to feel defensive?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "defensiveness",
        "self_awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_046_i_explain_the_same_point_again",
          "text": "I explain the same point again"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_046_i_focus_on_exact_wording",
          "text": "I focus on exact wording"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_046_my_body_gets_tense",
          "text": "My body gets tense"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_046_i_start_planning_how_to_leave",
          "text": "I start planning how to leave"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_046_i_explain_the_same_point_again",
            "text": "I explain the same point again"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_046_i_focus_on_exact_wording",
            "text": "I focus on exact wording"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_046_my_body_gets_tense",
            "text": "My body gets tense"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_046_i_start_planning_how_to_leave",
            "text": "I start planning how to leave"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_047",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which conditions help you lower your guard?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "defensiveness",
        "comfort",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_047_a_calmer_tone",
          "text": "A calmer tone"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_047_an_honest_question",
          "text": "An honest question"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_047_hearing_me_own_my_part",
          "text": "Hearing me own my part"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_047_a_little_time_to_think",
          "text": "A little time to think"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_047_a_calmer_tone",
            "text": "A calmer tone"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_047_an_honest_question",
            "text": "An honest question"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_047_hearing_me_own_my_part",
            "text": "Hearing me own my part"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_047_a_little_time_to_think",
            "text": "A little time to think"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_048",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How easy is it to notice when you are defending instead of listening?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "defensiveness",
        "awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Usually difficult",
        "max_label": "Usually easy"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_049",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes an explanation sound like an excuse to you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "explanations",
        "ownership",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_049_it_arrives_before_any_ownership",
          "text": "It arrives before any ownership"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_049_it_focuses_only_on_good_intentions",
          "text": "It focuses only on good intentions"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_049_it_changes_the_subject",
          "text": "It changes the subject"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_049_it_asks_for_understanding_too_quickly",
          "text": "It asks for understanding too quickly"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_049_it_arrives_before_any_ownership",
            "text": "It arrives before any ownership"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_049_it_focuses_only_on_good_intentions",
            "text": "It focuses only on good intentions"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_049_it_changes_the_subject",
            "text": "It changes the subject"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_049_it_asks_for_understanding_too_quickly",
            "text": "It asks for understanding too quickly"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_050",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "Ask what I meant or tell me how it landed first?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "clarification",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_050_ask_what_i_meant_first",
          "text": "Ask what I meant first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_050_tell_me_how_it_landed_first",
          "text": "Tell me how it landed first"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_050_ask_what_i_meant_first",
            "text": "Ask what I meant first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_050_tell_me_how_it_landed_first",
            "text": "Tell me how it landed first"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_051",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What keeps a mistaken assumption from becoming a full argument?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "assumptions",
        "prevention",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_051_checking_the_basic_facts",
          "text": "Checking the basic facts"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_051_asking_one_neutral_question",
          "text": "Asking one neutral question"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_051_saying_when_we_are_uncertain",
          "text": "Saying when we are uncertain"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_051_waiting_before_reacting",
          "text": "Waiting before reacting"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_051_checking_the_basic_facts",
            "text": "Checking the basic facts"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_051_asking_one_neutral_question",
            "text": "Asking one neutral question"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_051_saying_when_we_are_uncertain",
            "text": "Saying when we are uncertain"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_051_waiting_before_reacting",
            "text": "Waiting before reacting"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_052",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which thoughts make conflict harder for you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "thought_patterns",
        "escalation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_052_here_we_go_again",
          "text": "Here we go again"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_052_you_will_never_understand",
          "text": "You will never understand"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_052_i_have_to_win_this_point",
          "text": "I have to win this point"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_052_nothing_is_going_to_change",
          "text": "Nothing is going to change"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_052_here_we_go_again",
            "text": "Here we go again"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_052_you_will_never_understand",
            "text": "You will never understand"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_052_i_have_to_win_this_point",
            "text": "I have to win this point"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_052_nothing_is_going_to_change",
            "text": "Nothing is going to change"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_053",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What is the best way to correct a wrong assumption about you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "assumptions",
        "clarification",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_053_give_a_short_correction",
          "text": "Give a short correction"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_053_offer_one_example",
          "text": "Offer one example"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_053_ask_what_led_to_the_assumption",
          "text": "Ask what led to the assumption"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_053_pause_and_explain_later",
          "text": "Pause and explain later"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_053_give_a_short_correction",
            "text": "Give a short correction"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_053_offer_one_example",
            "text": "Offer one example"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_053_ask_what_led_to_the_assumption",
            "text": "Ask what led to the assumption"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_053_pause_and_explain_later",
            "text": "Pause and explain later"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_054",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you admit that you misunderstood something?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "misunderstanding",
        "humility",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_054_no_gloating_afterward",
          "text": "No gloating afterward"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_054_room_to_change_my_answer",
          "text": "Room to change my answer"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_054_clear_facts_without_a_lecture",
          "text": "Clear facts without a lecture"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_054_a_kind_tone",
          "text": "A kind tone"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_054_no_gloating_afterward",
            "text": "No gloating afterward"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_054_room_to_change_my_answer",
            "text": "Room to change my answer"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_054_clear_facts_without_a_lecture",
            "text": "Clear facts without a lecture"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_054_a_kind_tone",
            "text": "A kind tone"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_055",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How comfortable are you saying you may have read something wrong?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "humility",
        "comfort",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not comfortable yet",
        "max_label": "Very comfortable"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_056",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes you feel accused even when the words are careful?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "blame",
        "context",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_056_the_timing_of_the_conversation",
          "text": "The timing of the conversation"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_056_a_tense_facial_expression",
          "text": "A tense facial expression"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_056_a_familiar_painful_pattern",
          "text": "A familiar painful pattern"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_056_knowing_other_people_are_nearby",
          "text": "Knowing other people are nearby"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_056_the_timing_of_the_conversation",
            "text": "The timing of the conversation"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_056_a_tense_facial_expression",
            "text": "A tense facial expression"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_056_a_familiar_painful_pattern",
            "text": "A familiar painful pattern"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_056_knowing_other_people_are_nearby",
            "text": "Knowing other people are nearby"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_057",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What kind of mind-reading hurts most during conflict?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "mind_reading",
        "hurt",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_057_assuming_my_motives",
          "text": "Assuming my motives"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_057_telling_me_what_i_feel",
          "text": "Telling me what I feel"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_057_deciding_what_matters_to_me",
          "text": "Deciding what matters to me"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_057_predicting_what_i_will_do_next",
          "text": "Predicting what I will do next"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_057_assuming_my_motives",
            "text": "Assuming my motives"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_057_telling_me_what_i_feel",
            "text": "Telling me what I feel"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_057_deciding_what_matters_to_me",
            "text": "Deciding what matters to me"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_057_predicting_what_i_will_do_next",
            "text": "Predicting what I will do next"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_058",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When you feel blamed, what do you need before responding well?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "blame",
        "response",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_058_a_clear_statement_of_the_issue",
          "text": "A clear statement of the issue"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_058_a_moment_to_breathe",
          "text": "A moment to breathe"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_058_one_specific_example",
          "text": "One specific example"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_058_knowing_the_goal_of_the_talk",
          "text": "Knowing the goal of the talk"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_058_a_clear_statement_of_the_issue",
            "text": "A clear statement of the issue"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_058_a_moment_to_breathe",
            "text": "A moment to breathe"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_058_one_specific_example",
            "text": "One specific example"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_058_knowing_the_goal_of_the_talk",
            "text": "Knowing the goal of the talk"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_059",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes it hard to believe the other person means well?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "good_intent",
        "patterns",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_059_a_pattern_that_keeps_repeating",
          "text": "A pattern that keeps repeating"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_059_a_contemptuous_tone",
          "text": "A contemptuous tone"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_059_a_detail_that_was_hidden",
          "text": "A detail that was hidden"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_059_an_agreement_that_was_ignored",
          "text": "An agreement that was ignored"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_059_a_pattern_that_keeps_repeating",
            "text": "A pattern that keeps repeating"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_059_a_contemptuous_tone",
            "text": "A contemptuous tone"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_059_a_detail_that_was_hidden",
            "text": "A detail that was hidden"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_059_an_agreement_that_was_ignored",
            "text": "An agreement that was ignored"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_060",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps separate a bad moment from a judgment about character?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "character",
        "focus",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_060_describing_the_behavior_itself",
          "text": "Describing the behavior itself"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_060_avoiding_labels",
          "text": "Avoiding labels"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_060_naming_the_stressful_context",
          "text": "Naming the stressful context"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_060_focusing_on_what_should_change",
          "text": "Focusing on what should change"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_060_describing_the_behavior_itself",
            "text": "Describing the behavior itself"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_060_avoiding_labels",
            "text": "Avoiding labels"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_060_naming_the_stressful_context",
            "text": "Naming the stressful context"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_060_focusing_on_what_should_change",
            "text": "Focusing on what should change"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_061",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When you need space, what do you want me to understand?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "space",
        "processing",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_061_i_am_not_leaving_the_relationship",
          "text": "I am not leaving the relationship"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_061_i_need_my_body_to_calm_down",
          "text": "I need my body to calm down"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_061_i_need_time_to_organize_my_thoughts",
          "text": "I need time to organize my thoughts"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_061_i_intend_to_return_to_the_topic",
          "text": "I intend to return to the topic"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_061_i_am_not_leaving_the_relationship",
            "text": "I am not leaving the relationship"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_061_i_need_my_body_to_calm_down",
            "text": "I need my body to calm down"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_061_i_need_time_to_organize_my_thoughts",
            "text": "I need time to organize my thoughts"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_061_i_intend_to_return_to_the_topic",
            "text": "I intend to return to the topic"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_062",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a pause feel respectful instead of dismissive?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "respect",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_062_giving_a_return_time",
          "text": "Giving a return time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_062_offering_brief_reassurance",
          "text": "Offering brief reassurance"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_062_leaving_without_slamming_anything",
          "text": "Leaving without slamming doors"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_062_allowing_enough_actual_space",
          "text": "Allowing enough actual space"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_062_giving_a_return_time",
            "text": "Giving a return time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_062_offering_brief_reassurance",
            "text": "Offering brief reassurance"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_062_leaving_without_slamming_anything",
            "text": "Leaving without slamming doors"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_062_allowing_enough_actual_space",
            "text": "Allowing enough actual space"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_063",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes you want to keep talking after the other person needs a break?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pursuit",
        "pause",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_063_fear_that_the_issue_will_disappear",
          "text": "Fear that the issue will disappear"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_063_needing_reassurance_first",
          "text": "Needing reassurance first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_063_worry_that_the_talk_will_never_resume",
          "text": "Worry that the talk will never resume"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_063_feeling_too_much_momentum_to_stop",
          "text": "Feeling too much momentum to stop"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_063_fear_that_the_issue_will_disappear",
            "text": "Fear that the issue will disappear"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_063_needing_reassurance_first",
            "text": "Needing reassurance first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_063_worry_that_the_talk_will_never_resume",
            "text": "Worry that the talk will never resume"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_063_feeling_too_much_momentum_to_stop",
            "text": "Feeling too much momentum to stop"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_064",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How much time do you usually need before returning to a hard topic?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "processing_time",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Only a few minutes",
        "max_label": "Several hours or more"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_065",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "A specific return time or just later today?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "return_time",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_065_a_specific_return_time",
          "text": "A specific return time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_065_a_general_later_today",
          "text": "Just later today"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_065_a_specific_return_time",
            "text": "A specific return time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_065_a_general_later_today",
            "text": "Just later today"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_066",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps when one person processes faster than the other?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "processing_speed",
        "patience",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_066_slower_speaking_turns",
          "text": "Slower speaking turns"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_066_a_few_written_notes",
          "text": "A few written notes"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_066_a_clearly_defined_pause",
          "text": "A clearly defined pause"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_066_letting_one_question_land_before_the_next",
          "text": "Letting one question land before the next"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_066_slower_speaking_turns",
            "text": "Slower speaking turns"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_066_a_few_written_notes",
            "text": "A few written notes"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_066_a_clearly_defined_pause",
            "text": "A clearly defined pause"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_066_letting_one_question_land_before_the_next",
            "text": "Letting one question land before the next"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_067",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Which check-in during a pause feels best?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "check_in",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_067_a_short_text",
          "text": "A short text"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_067_a_brief_verbal_reminder",
          "text": "A brief verbal reminder"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_067_no_check_in_until_the_agreed_time",
          "text": "No check-in until the agreed time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_067_a_quick_hug_if_it_is_welcome",
          "text": "A quick hug if it is welcome"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_067_a_short_text",
            "text": "A short text"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_067_a_brief_verbal_reminder",
            "text": "A brief verbal reminder"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_067_no_check_in_until_the_agreed_time",
            "text": "No check-in until the agreed time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_067_a_quick_hug_if_it_is_welcome",
            "text": "A quick hug if it is welcome"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_068",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes waiting for a conversation feel harder?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "waiting",
        "uncertainty",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_068_no_return_time",
          "text": "No return time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_068_complete_silence",
          "text": "Complete silence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_068_mixed_signals_about_whether_we_are_okay",
          "text": "Mixed signals about whether we are okay"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_068_continuing_the_argument_by_text",
          "text": "Continuing the argument by text"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_068_no_return_time",
            "text": "No return time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_068_complete_silence",
            "text": "Complete silence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_068_mixed_signals_about_whether_we_are_okay",
            "text": "Mixed signals about whether we are okay"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_068_continuing_the_argument_by_text",
            "text": "Continuing the argument by text"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_069",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you ask for more time without making it seem like you are avoiding the issue?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "space",
        "communication",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_069_giving_a_simple_reason",
          "text": "Giving a simple reason"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_069_naming_a_return_time",
          "text": "Naming a return time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_069_offering_one_sentence_of_reassurance",
          "text": "Offering one sentence of reassurance"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_069_saying_what_i_need_the_time_for",
          "text": "Saying what I need the time for"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_069_giving_a_simple_reason",
            "text": "Giving a simple reason"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_069_naming_a_return_time",
            "text": "Naming a return time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_069_offering_one_sentence_of_reassurance",
            "text": "Offering one sentence of reassurance"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_069_saying_what_i_need_the_time_for",
            "text": "Saying what I need the time for"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_070",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "written",
      "text": "What do you wish I knew about the way you process conflict?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "processing",
        "personal_context",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "max_length": 500
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_071",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which behaviors make space feel like punishment?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "space",
        "punishment",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_071_refusing_all_ordinary_communication",
          "text": "Refusing all ordinary communication"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_071_ignoring_practical_questions",
          "text": "Ignoring practical questions"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_071_delaying_without_any_update",
          "text": "Delaying without any update"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_071_acting_cold_in_front_of_other_people",
          "text": "Acting cold in front of other people"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_071_refusing_all_ordinary_communication",
            "text": "Refusing all ordinary communication"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_071_ignoring_practical_questions",
            "text": "Ignoring practical questions"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_071_delaying_without_any_update",
            "text": "Delaying without any update"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_071_acting_cold_in_front_of_other_people",
            "text": "Acting cold in front of other people"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_072",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What should happen if the agreed return time no longer works?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "return_time",
        "follow_through",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_072_send_a_quick_update",
          "text": "Send a quick update"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_072_choose_a_new_exact_time",
          "text": "Choose a new exact time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_072_have_a_two_minute_check_in",
          "text": "Have a two-minute check-in"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_072_ask_what_cannot_wait",
          "text": "Ask what cannot wait"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_072_send_a_quick_update",
            "text": "Send a quick update"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_072_choose_a_new_exact_time",
            "text": "Choose a new exact time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_072_have_a_two_minute_check_in",
            "text": "Have a two-minute check-in"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_072_ask_what_cannot_wait",
            "text": "Ask what cannot wait"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_073",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which behaviors create too much pressure when you need space?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pursuit",
        "pressure",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_073_repeated_questions_without_a_break",
          "text": "Repeated questions without a break"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_073_being_followed_from_room_to_room",
          "text": "Being followed from room to room"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_073_a_stream_of_rapid_messages",
          "text": "A stream of rapid messages"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_073_a_demand_for_an_immediate_answer",
          "text": "A demand for an immediate answer"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_073_repeated_questions_without_a_break",
            "text": "Repeated questions without a break"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_073_being_followed_from_room_to_room",
            "text": "Being followed from room to room"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_073_a_stream_of_rapid_messages",
            "text": "A stream of rapid messages"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_073_a_demand_for_an_immediate_answer",
            "text": "A demand for an immediate answer"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_074",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which kinds of distance leave you unsure we will return to the issue?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "withdrawal",
        "uncertainty",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_074_someone_disappearing_without_a_word",
          "text": "Someone leaving without a word"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_074_no_idea_when_the_talk_will_resume",
          "text": "Not knowing when the talk will resume"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_074_a_cold_goodbye",
          "text": "A cold goodbye"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_074_every_attempt_at_contact_being_refused",
          "text": "Every attempt to reconnect being refused"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_074_someone_disappearing_without_a_word",
            "text": "Someone leaving without a word"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_074_no_idea_when_the_talk_will_resume",
            "text": "Not knowing when the talk will resume"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_074_a_cold_goodbye",
            "text": "A cold goodbye"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_074_every_attempt_at_contact_being_refused",
            "text": "Every attempt to reconnect being refused"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_075",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What would best help our different conflict speeds work together?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "processing_speed",
        "teamwork",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_075_a_shared_pause_rule",
          "text": "A shared pause rule"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_075_a_short_first_conversation",
          "text": "A short first conversation"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_075_notes_for_the_slower_processor",
          "text": "Notes for the slower processor"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_075_an_agreed_signal_for_overload",
          "text": "An agreed signal for overload"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_075_a_shared_pause_rule",
            "text": "A shared pause rule"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_075_a_short_first_conversation",
            "text": "A short first conversation"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_075_notes_for_the_slower_processor",
            "text": "Notes for the slower processor"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_075_an_agreed_signal_for_overload",
            "text": "An agreed signal for overload"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_076",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which short reset helps you come back clearer?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "cooling_down",
        "reset",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_076_taking_a_short_walk",
          "text": "Taking a short walk"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_076_drinking_a_glass_of_water",
          "text": "Drinking a glass of water"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_076_sitting_quietly_for_a_few_minutes",
          "text": "Sitting quietly for a few minutes"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_076_doing_a_simple_task_with_my_hands",
          "text": "Doing a simple task with my hands"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_076_taking_a_short_walk",
            "text": "Taking a short walk"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_076_drinking_a_glass_of_water",
            "text": "Drinking a glass of water"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_076_sitting_quietly_for_a_few_minutes",
            "text": "Sitting quietly for a few minutes"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_076_doing_a_simple_task_with_my_hands",
            "text": "Doing a simple task with my hands"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_077",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which kinds of pauses help you calm down?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "calm",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_077_quiet_in_another_room",
          "text": "Quiet in another room"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_077_a_few_minutes_outside",
          "text": "A few minutes outside"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_077_a_warm_shower",
          "text": "A warm shower"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_077_listening_to_one_song",
          "text": "Listening to one song"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_077_quiet_in_another_room",
            "text": "Quiet in another room"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_077_a_few_minutes_outside",
            "text": "A few minutes outside"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_077_a_warm_shower",
            "text": "A warm shower"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_077_listening_to_one_song",
            "text": "Listening to one song"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_078",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How easy is it to tell when a break is actually helping?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Hard to tell",
        "max_label": "Very easy to tell"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_079",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What signs show that you are ready to return?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "readiness",
        "pause",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_079_my_body_feels_less_tense",
          "text": "My body feels less tense"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_079_i_can_hear_more_than_my_own_side",
          "text": "I can hear more than my own side"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_079_the_urge_to_win_is_fading",
          "text": "The urge to win is fading"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_079_i_can_name_one_clear_request",
          "text": "I can name one clear request"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_079_my_body_feels_less_tense",
            "text": "My body feels less tense"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_079_i_can_hear_more_than_my_own_side",
            "text": "I can hear more than my own side"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_079_the_urge_to_win_is_fading",
            "text": "The urge to win is fading"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_079_i_can_name_one_clear_request",
            "text": "I can name one clear request"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_080",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "Would quiet or movement help you reset more?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "cooling_down",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_080_quiet_alone",
          "text": "Quiet"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_080_movement_alone",
          "text": "Movement"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_080_quiet_alone",
            "text": "Quiet"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_080_movement_alone",
            "text": "Movement"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_081",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What should we avoid doing during a pause?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "respect",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_081_recruiting_other_people_into_the_fight",
          "text": "Recruiting other people into the fight"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_081_sending_angry_messages",
          "text": "Sending angry messages"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_081_posting_about_the_disagreement",
          "text": "Posting about the disagreement"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_081_rehearsing_insults_for_later",
          "text": "Rehearsing insults for later"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_081_recruiting_other_people_into_the_fight",
            "text": "Recruiting other people into the fight"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_081_sending_angry_messages",
            "text": "Sending angry messages"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_081_posting_about_the_disagreement",
            "text": "Posting about the disagreement"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_081_rehearsing_insults_for_later",
            "text": "Rehearsing insults for later"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_082",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a pause feel less dramatic?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "low_pressure",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_082_using_a_neutral_phrase",
          "text": "Using a neutral phrase"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_082_leaving_at_a_normal_pace",
          "text": "Leaving at a normal pace"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_082_setting_a_simple_timer",
          "text": "Setting a simple timer"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_082_keeping_doors_and_objects_out_of_it",
          "text": "Not slamming doors or handling things roughly"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_082_using_a_neutral_phrase",
            "text": "Using a neutral phrase"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_082_leaving_at_a_normal_pace",
            "text": "Leaving at a normal pace"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_082_setting_a_simple_timer",
            "text": "Setting a simple timer"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_082_keeping_doors_and_objects_out_of_it",
            "text": "Not slamming doors or handling things roughly"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_083",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What is the best way to restart after a pause?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "restart",
        "pause",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_083_restate_the_issue_briefly",
          "text": "Restate the issue briefly"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_083_ask_whether_we_are_ready",
          "text": "Ask whether we are ready"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_083_summarize_the_last_useful_point",
          "text": "Summarize the last useful point"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_083_start_with_the_shared_goal",
          "text": "Start with the shared goal"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_083_restate_the_issue_briefly",
            "text": "Restate the issue briefly"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_083_ask_whether_we_are_ready",
            "text": "Ask whether we are ready"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_083_summarize_the_last_useful_point",
            "text": "Summarize the last useful point"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_083_start_with_the_shared_goal",
            "text": "Start with the shared goal"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_084",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What can make a break increase tension instead of lowering it?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "escalation",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_084_no_idea_how_long_it_will_last",
          "text": "No idea how long it will last"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_084_cold_behavior_during_the_break",
          "text": "Cold behavior during the break"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_084_starting_side_arguments_by_text",
          "text": "Starting side arguments by text"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_084_missing_the_promised_return",
          "text": "Missing the promised return"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_084_no_idea_how_long_it_will_last",
            "text": "No idea how long it will last"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_084_cold_behavior_during_the_break",
            "text": "Cold behavior during the break"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_084_starting_side_arguments_by_text",
            "text": "Starting side arguments by text"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_084_missing_the_promised_return",
            "text": "Missing the promised return"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_085",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How confident are you that we can pause without losing the conversation?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause",
        "confidence",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not confident yet",
        "max_label": "Very confident"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_086",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you physically calm down when conflict feels intense?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "body",
        "calm",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_086_unclenching_my_jaw",
          "text": "Unclenching my jaw"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_086_slowing_my_breathing",
          "text": "Slowing my breathing"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_086_sitting_down",
          "text": "Sitting down"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_086_lowering_my_own_voice",
          "text": "Lowering my own voice"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_086_unclenching_my_jaw",
            "text": "Unclenching my jaw"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_086_slowing_my_breathing",
            "text": "Slowing my breathing"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_086_sitting_down",
            "text": "Sitting down"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_086_lowering_my_own_voice",
            "text": "Lowering my own voice"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_087",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What would make our pause plan easier to remember?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "pause_plan",
        "practical",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_087_one_phrase_we_always_use",
          "text": "One phrase we always use"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_087_a_default_amount_of_time",
          "text": "A default amount of time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_087_a_note_somewhere_private",
          "text": "A note somewhere private"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_087_a_simple_hand_signal",
          "text": "A simple hand signal"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_087_one_phrase_we_always_use",
            "text": "One phrase we always use"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_087_a_default_amount_of_time",
            "text": "A default amount of time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_087_a_note_somewhere_private",
            "text": "A note somewhere private"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_087_a_simple_hand_signal",
            "text": "A simple hand signal"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_088",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "If we are both still upset, what should happen next?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "readiness",
        "next_step",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_088_extend_the_break",
          "text": "Extend the break"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_088_narrow_the_topic",
          "text": "Narrow the topic"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_088_choose_a_later_time",
          "text": "Choose a later time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_088_discuss_only_what_is_urgent",
          "text": "Discuss only what is urgent"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_088_extend_the_break",
            "text": "Extend the break"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_088_narrow_the_topic",
            "text": "Narrow the topic"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_088_choose_a_later_time",
            "text": "Choose a later time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_088_discuss_only_what_is_urgent",
            "text": "Discuss only what is urgent"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_089",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes returning to the conversation feel like a bad idea?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "restart",
        "safety",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_089_the_mockery_starts_again",
          "text": "The mockery starts again"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_089_the_issue_changes_immediately",
          "text": "The issue changes immediately"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_089_threats_return_to_the_conversation",
          "text": "Threats return to the conversation"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_089_there_is_no_willingness_to_listen",
          "text": "There is no willingness to listen"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_089_the_mockery_starts_again",
            "text": "The mockery starts again"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_089_the_issue_changes_immediately",
            "text": "The issue changes immediately"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_089_threats_return_to_the_conversation",
            "text": "Threats return to the conversation"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_089_there_is_no_willingness_to_listen",
            "text": "There is no willingness to listen"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_090",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you return without pretending you are completely calm?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "restart",
        "honesty",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_090_naming_the_tension_that_remains",
          "text": "Naming the tension that remains"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_090_speaking_more_slowly",
          "text": "Speaking more slowly"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_090_asking_for_a_little_patience",
          "text": "Asking for a little patience"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_090_starting_with_a_smaller_part_of_the_issue",
          "text": "Starting with a smaller part of the issue"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_090_naming_the_tension_that_remains",
            "text": "Naming the tension that remains"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_090_speaking_more_slowly",
            "text": "Speaking more slowly"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_090_asking_for_a_little_patience",
            "text": "Asking for a little patience"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_090_starting_with_a_smaller_part_of_the_issue",
            "text": "Starting with a smaller part of the issue"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_091",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What helps a disagreement feel fair to you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "fairness",
        "preferences",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_091_equal_speaking_turns",
          "text": "Equal speaking turns"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_091_the_same_rules_for_both_people",
          "text": "The same rules for both people"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_091_keeping_the_talk_private",
          "text": "Keeping the talk private"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_091_staying_with_one_issue",
          "text": "Staying with one issue"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_091_equal_speaking_turns",
            "text": "Equal speaking turns"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_091_the_same_rules_for_both_people",
            "text": "The same rules for both people"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_091_keeping_the_talk_private",
            "text": "Keeping the talk private"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_091_staying_with_one_issue",
            "text": "Staying with one issue"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_092",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which habits make an argument feel stacked against you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "fairness",
        "pressure",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_092_frequent_interruptions",
          "text": "Frequent interruptions"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_092_changing_the_standard_mid_conversation",
          "text": "Changing the standard mid-conversation"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_092_bringing_in_old_evidence",
          "text": "Bringing in old evidence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_092_speaking_for_what_other_people_think",
          "text": "Speaking for what other people think"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_092_frequent_interruptions",
            "text": "Frequent interruptions"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_092_changing_the_standard_mid_conversation",
            "text": "Changing the standard mid-conversation"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_092_bringing_in_old_evidence",
            "text": "Bringing in old evidence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_092_speaking_for_what_other_people_think",
            "text": "Speaking for what other people think"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_093",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps us stay with the actual issue?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "focus",
        "one_issue",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_093_naming_the_topic_in_one_sentence",
          "text": "Naming the topic in one sentence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_093_parking_side_topics_for_later",
          "text": "Parking side topics for later"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_093_using_only_one_example_at_a_time",
          "text": "Using only one example at a time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_093_asking_what_decision_is_needed",
          "text": "Asking what decision is needed"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_093_naming_the_topic_in_one_sentence",
            "text": "Naming the topic in one sentence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_093_parking_side_topics_for_later",
            "text": "Parking side topics for later"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_093_using_only_one_example_at_a_time",
            "text": "Using only one example at a time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_093_asking_what_decision_is_needed",
            "text": "Asking what decision is needed"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_094",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How easy is it for us to stop a disagreement from collecting old complaints?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "past_issues",
        "focus",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not easy yet",
        "max_label": "Very easy"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_095",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "One issue now or a written list for later?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "focus",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_095_one_issue_now",
          "text": "One issue now"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_095_a_written_list_for_later",
          "text": "A written list for later"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_095_one_issue_now",
            "text": "One issue now"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_095_a_written_list_for_later",
            "text": "A written list for later"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_096",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What keeps directness from turning into cruelty?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "directness",
        "respect",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_096_describing_behavior_instead_of_character",
          "text": "Describing behavior instead of character"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_096_leaving_labels_out",
          "text": "Leaving labels out"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_096_keeping_a_normal_volume",
          "text": "Keeping a normal volume"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_096_making_a_specific_request",
          "text": "Making a specific request"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_096_describing_behavior_instead_of_character",
            "text": "Describing behavior instead of character"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_096_leaving_labels_out",
            "text": "Leaving labels out"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_096_keeping_a_normal_volume",
            "text": "Keeping a normal volume"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_096_making_a_specific_request",
            "text": "Making a specific request"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_097",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Which sign of respect matters most when we strongly disagree?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "respect",
        "preferences",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_097_getting_a_full_turn_to_speak",
          "text": "Getting a full turn to speak"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_097_no_sarcastic_jokes",
          "text": "No sarcastic jokes"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_097_keeping_the_conversation_private",
          "text": "Keeping the conversation private"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_097_using_honest_rather_than_loaded_wording",
          "text": "Using honest rather than loaded wording"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_097_getting_a_full_turn_to_speak",
            "text": "Getting a full turn to speak"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_097_no_sarcastic_jokes",
            "text": "No sarcastic jokes"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_097_keeping_the_conversation_private",
            "text": "Keeping the conversation private"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_097_using_honest_rather_than_loaded_wording",
            "text": "Using honest rather than loaded wording"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_098",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a disagreement feel disrespectful without raised voices?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "respect",
        "contempt",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_098_eye_rolling",
          "text": "Eye rolling"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_098_mocking_the_concern",
          "text": "Mocking the concern"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_098_dismissive_laughter",
          "text": "Dismissive laughter"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_098_a_deliberately_contemptuous_silence",
          "text": "Silence used as punishment"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_098_eye_rolling",
            "text": "Eye rolling"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_098_mocking_the_concern",
            "text": "Mocking the concern"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_098_dismissive_laughter",
            "text": "Dismissive laughter"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_098_a_deliberately_contemptuous_silence",
            "text": "Silence used as punishment"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_099",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which kind of personal attack stays with you longest?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "personal_attacks",
        "hurt",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_099_an_insult_about_my_intelligence",
          "text": "An insult about my intelligence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_099_a_claim_about_my_intentions",
          "text": "A claim about my intentions"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_099_a_criticism_of_my_family",
          "text": "A criticism of my family"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_099_a_judgment_of_my_worth_as_a_partner",
          "text": "A judgment of my worth as a partner"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_099_an_insult_about_my_intelligence",
            "text": "An insult about my intelligence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_099_a_claim_about_my_intentions",
            "text": "A claim about my intentions"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_099_a_criticism_of_my_family",
            "text": "A criticism of my family"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_099_a_judgment_of_my_worth_as_a_partner",
            "text": "A judgment of my worth as a partner"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_100",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "written",
      "text": "What does disagreeing respectfully look like to you in real life?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "respect",
        "personal_definition",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "max_length": 500
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_101",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps us protect our privacy without cutting off healthy support?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "privacy",
        "outside_involvement",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "talking_somewhere_private",
          "text": "Talking somewhere private"
        },
        {
          "id": "waiting_until_emotions_settle_before_sharing",
          "text": "Waiting until emotions settle before sharing"
        },
        {
          "id": "leaving_identifying_details_out",
          "text": "Leaving identifying details out"
        },
        {
          "id": "choosing_one_trusted_person_instead_of_an_audience",
          "text": "Choosing one trusted person instead of an audience"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "talking_somewhere_private",
            "text": "Talking somewhere private"
          },
          {
            "id": "waiting_until_emotions_settle_before_sharing",
            "text": "Waiting until emotions settle before sharing"
          },
          {
            "id": "leaving_identifying_details_out",
            "text": "Leaving identifying details out"
          },
          {
            "id": "choosing_one_trusted_person_instead_of_an_audience",
            "text": "Choosing one trusted person instead of an audience"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_102",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When a side issue appears, what should we do with it?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "side_issues",
        "focus",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_102_write_it_down_for_later",
          "text": "Write it down for later"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_102_schedule_another_conversation",
          "text": "Schedule another conversation"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_102_decide_whether_it_is_truly_connected",
          "text": "Decide whether it is truly connected"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_102_drop_it_if_it_does_not_matter",
          "text": "Drop it if it does not matter"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_102_write_it_down_for_later",
            "text": "Write it down for later"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_102_schedule_another_conversation",
            "text": "Schedule another conversation"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_102_decide_whether_it_is_truly_connected",
            "text": "Decide whether it is truly connected"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_102_drop_it_if_it_does_not_matter",
            "text": "Drop it if it does not matter"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_103",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you feel that the same rules apply to both of us?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "fairness",
        "mutuality",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_103_both_people_may_request_a_pause",
          "text": "Both people may request a pause"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_103_both_people_get_uninterrupted_time",
          "text": "Both people get uninterrupted time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_103_the_same_language_limits_apply",
          "text": "The same language limits apply"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_103_each_person_gets_to_clarify",
          "text": "Each person gets to clarify"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_103_both_people_may_request_a_pause",
            "text": "Both people may request a pause"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_103_both_people_get_uninterrupted_time",
            "text": "Both people get uninterrupted time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_103_the_same_language_limits_apply",
            "text": "The same language limits apply"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_103_each_person_gets_to_clarify",
            "text": "Each person gets to clarify"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_104",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes fairness easier when one person is more visibly upset?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "fairness",
        "emotion",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_104_slowing_the_pace",
          "text": "Slowing the pace"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_104_avoiding_scorekeeping",
          "text": "Avoiding scorekeeping"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_104_keeping_the_topic_clear",
          "text": "Keeping the topic clear"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_104_using_brief_breaks",
          "text": "Using brief breaks"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_104_slowing_the_pace",
            "text": "Slowing the pace"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_104_avoiding_scorekeeping",
            "text": "Avoiding scorekeeping"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_104_keeping_the_topic_clear",
            "text": "Keeping the topic clear"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_104_using_brief_breaks",
            "text": "Using brief breaks"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_105",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What helps us discuss one disagreement without judging the whole relationship?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "focus",
        "character",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_105_talking_about_the_specific_event",
          "text": "Talking about the specific event"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_105_avoiding_always_or_never_claims",
          "text": "Avoiding always-or-never claims"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_105_leaving_character_verdicts_out",
          "text": "Leaving character verdicts out"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_105_keeping_future_choices_open",
          "text": "Avoiding predictions about our future"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_105_talking_about_the_specific_event",
            "text": "Talking about the specific event"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_105_avoiding_always_or_never_claims",
            "text": "Avoiding always-or-never claims"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_105_leaving_character_verdicts_out",
            "text": "Leaving character verdicts out"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_105_keeping_future_choices_open",
            "text": "Avoiding predictions about our future"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_106",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What usually hides underneath a small argument for you?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "underlying_issue",
        "self_awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_106_feeling_overlooked",
          "text": "Feeling overlooked"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_106_outside_stress",
          "text": "Outside stress"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_106_uncertainty_about_what_comes_next",
          "text": "Uncertainty about what comes next"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_106_needing_more_help_than_i_said",
          "text": "Needing more help than I said"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_106_feeling_overlooked",
            "text": "Feeling overlooked"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_106_outside_stress",
            "text": "Outside stress"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_106_uncertainty_about_what_comes_next",
            "text": "Uncertainty about what comes next"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_106_needing_more_help_than_i_said",
            "text": "Needing more help than I said"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_107",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which questions help uncover the real issue?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "underlying_issue",
        "questions",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_107_what_matters_most_here",
          "text": "What matters most here?"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_107_what_are_we_worried_about",
          "text": "What are we worried about?"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_107_what_do_you_need_right_now",
          "text": "What do you need right now?"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_107_is_this_only_about_today",
          "text": "Is this only about today?"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_107_what_matters_most_here",
            "text": "What matters most here?"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_107_what_are_we_worried_about",
            "text": "What are we worried about?"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_107_what_do_you_need_right_now",
            "text": "What do you need right now?"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_107_is_this_only_about_today",
            "text": "Is this only about today?"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_108",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How often does the first complaint turn out to be the whole issue?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "underlying_issue",
        "awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Almost never",
        "max_label": "Almost always"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_109",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes us spend too long debating details?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "details",
        "avoidance",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_109_fear_of_naming_the_bigger_point",
          "text": "Fear of naming the bigger point"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_109_focusing_on_exact_wording",
          "text": "Focusing on exact wording"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_109_remembering_the_event_differently",
          "text": "Remembering the event differently"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_109_avoiding_a_direct_request",
          "text": "Avoiding a direct request"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_109_fear_of_naming_the_bigger_point",
            "text": "Fear of naming the bigger point"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_109_focusing_on_exact_wording",
            "text": "Focusing on exact wording"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_109_remembering_the_event_differently",
            "text": "Remembering the event differently"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_109_avoiding_a_direct_request",
            "text": "Avoiding a direct request"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_110",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "Solve the practical problem or name the feeling first?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "priorities",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_110_solve_the_practical_problem_first",
          "text": "Solve the practical problem first"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_110_name_the_feeling_first",
          "text": "Name the feeling first"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_110_solve_the_practical_problem_first",
            "text": "Solve the practical problem first"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_110_name_the_feeling_first",
            "text": "Name the feeling first"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_111",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps when we remember the same moment differently?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "memory",
        "differences",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_111_accepting_that_both_memories_may_be_sincere",
          "text": "Accepting that both memories may be sincere"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_111_focusing_on_the_impact",
          "text": "Focusing on the impact"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_111_checking_any_facts_we_can_verify",
          "text": "Checking any facts we can verify"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_111_stopping_the_contest_over_who_remembers_best",
          "text": "Stopping the contest over who remembers best"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_111_accepting_that_both_memories_may_be_sincere",
            "text": "Accepting that both memories may be sincere"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_111_focusing_on_the_impact",
            "text": "Focusing on the impact"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_111_checking_any_facts_we_can_verify",
            "text": "Checking any facts we can verify"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_111_stopping_the_contest_over_who_remembers_best",
            "text": "Stopping the contest over who remembers best"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_112",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which differences are hardest to treat as preferences instead of problems?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "differences",
        "preferences",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_112_standards_for_tidiness",
          "text": "Standards for tidiness"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_112_ideas_about_punctuality",
          "text": "Ideas about punctuality"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_112_social_energy",
          "text": "Social energy"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_112_how_much_planning_feels_comfortable",
          "text": "How much planning feels comfortable"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_112_standards_for_tidiness",
            "text": "Standards for tidiness"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_112_ideas_about_punctuality",
            "text": "Ideas about punctuality"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_112_social_energy",
            "text": "Social energy"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_112_how_much_planning_feels_comfortable",
            "text": "How much planning feels comfortable"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_113",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When a disagreement has no perfect answer, what matters most?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "unresolved",
        "priorities",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_113_a_fair_process",
          "text": "A fair process"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_113_a_workable_plan",
          "text": "A workable plan"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_113_both_people_feeling_heard",
          "text": "Both views being understood"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_113_a_date_to_revisit_it",
          "text": "A date to revisit it"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_113_a_fair_process",
            "text": "A fair process"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_113_a_workable_plan",
            "text": "A workable plan"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_113_both_people_feeling_heard",
            "text": "Both views being understood"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_113_a_date_to_revisit_it",
            "text": "A date to revisit it"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_114",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "When can a difference feel like rejection instead of disagreement?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "rejection",
        "differences",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_114_the_preference_is_mocked",
          "text": "The preference is mocked"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_114_there_is_no_willingness_to_explain",
          "text": "The difference is treated like a personal flaw"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_114_contempt_enters_the_conversation",
          "text": "Contempt enters the conversation"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_114_affection_is_withdrawn_as_leverage",
          "text": "Affection is withdrawn as leverage"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_114_the_preference_is_mocked",
            "text": "The preference is mocked"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_114_there_is_no_willingness_to_explain",
            "text": "The difference is treated like a personal flaw"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_114_contempt_enters_the_conversation",
            "text": "Contempt enters the conversation"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_114_affection_is_withdrawn_as_leverage",
            "text": "Affection is withdrawn as leverage"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_115",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How comfortable are you leaving some differences unresolved?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "unresolved",
        "comfort",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Very uncomfortable",
        "max_label": "Very comfortable"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_116",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you tell the difference between a need and a preference?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "needs",
        "preferences",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_116_how_strongly_it_affects_well_being",
          "text": "How strongly it affects well-being"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_116_how_flexible_the_request_can_be",
          "text": "How flexible the request can be"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_116_how_often_the_issue_appears",
          "text": "How often the issue appears"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_116_whether_reasonable_alternatives_exist",
          "text": "Whether reasonable alternatives exist"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_116_how_strongly_it_affects_well_being",
            "text": "How strongly it affects well-being"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_116_how_flexible_the_request_can_be",
            "text": "How flexible the request can be"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_116_how_often_the_issue_appears",
            "text": "How often the issue appears"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_116_whether_reasonable_alternatives_exist",
            "text": "Whether reasonable alternatives exist"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_117",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which questions help us find what we are actually deciding?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "decision",
        "clarity",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_117_what_would_change_after_this",
          "text": "What would change after this?"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_117_who_is_directly_affected",
          "text": "Who is directly affected?"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_117_when_does_a_choice_need_to_be_made",
          "text": "When does a choice need to be made?"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_117_what_part_can_wait",
          "text": "What part can wait?"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_117_what_would_change_after_this",
            "text": "What would change after this?"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_117_who_is_directly_affected",
            "text": "Who is directly affected?"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_117_when_does_a_choice_need_to_be_made",
            "text": "When does a choice need to be made?"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_117_what_part_can_wait",
            "text": "What part can wait?"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_118",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What is the best sign that we have reached the real issue?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "underlying_issue",
        "signals",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_118_we_can_both_name_it",
          "text": "We can both name it"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_118_the_repetition_slows_down",
          "text": "The repetition slows down"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_118_the_request_becomes_clearer",
          "text": "The request becomes clearer"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_118_the_emotion_finally_matches_the_topic",
          "text": "The emotion finally matches the topic"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_118_we_can_both_name_it",
            "text": "We can both name it"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_118_the_repetition_slows_down",
            "text": "The repetition slows down"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_118_the_request_becomes_clearer",
            "text": "The request becomes clearer"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_118_the_emotion_finally_matches_the_topic",
            "text": "The emotion finally matches the topic"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_119",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Why might a practical issue carry more emotional weight than expected?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "emotional_weight",
        "history",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_119_it_connects_to_an_old_promise",
          "text": "It connects to an old promise"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_119_the_burden_has_repeated",
          "text": "The burden has repeated"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_119_someone_feels_unchosen",
          "text": "Someone feels unchosen"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_119_the_issue_involves_a_loss_of_control",
          "text": "The issue involves a loss of control"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_119_it_connects_to_an_old_promise",
            "text": "It connects to an old promise"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_119_the_burden_has_repeated",
            "text": "The burden has repeated"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_119_someone_feels_unchosen",
            "text": "Someone feels unchosen"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_119_the_issue_involves_a_loss_of_control",
            "text": "The issue involves a loss of control"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_120",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps us respect a difference without trying to erase it?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "differences",
        "acceptance",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_120_showing_genuine_curiosity",
          "text": "Showing genuine curiosity"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_120_allowing_separate_choices_when_possible",
          "text": "Allowing separate choices when possible"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_120_making_limits_clear",
          "text": "Making limits clear"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_120_keeping_ridicule_out_of_the_conversation",
          "text": "Keeping ridicule out of the conversation"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_120_showing_genuine_curiosity",
            "text": "Showing genuine curiosity"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_120_allowing_separate_choices_when_possible",
            "text": "Allowing separate choices when possible"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_120_making_limits_clear",
            "text": "Making limits clear"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_120_keeping_ridicule_out_of_the_conversation",
            "text": "Keeping ridicule out of the conversation"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_121",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What matters most before you try a compromise?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "compromise",
        "fairness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_121_both_people_give_something",
          "text": "Both people give something"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_121_the_trial_has_a_clear_length",
          "text": "The trial has a clear length"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_121_the_result_helps_both_of_us",
          "text": "The result helps both of us"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_121_we_agree_to_review_it_later",
          "text": "We agree to review it later"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_121_both_people_give_something",
            "text": "Both people give something"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_121_the_trial_has_a_clear_length",
            "text": "The trial has a clear length"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_121_the_result_helps_both_of_us",
            "text": "The result helps both of us"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_121_we_agree_to_review_it_later",
            "text": "We agree to review it later"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_122",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which compromises are hardest for you to trust?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "compromise",
        "trust",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_122_an_agreement_with_vague_terms",
          "text": "An agreement with vague terms"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_122_a_deal_that_costs_one_person_much_more",
          "text": "A deal that costs one person much more"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_122_a_permanent_answer_chosen_too_quickly",
          "text": "A permanent answer chosen too quickly"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_122_a_plan_with_no_way_to_track_follow_through",
          "text": "A plan with no way to track follow-through"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_122_an_agreement_with_vague_terms",
            "text": "An agreement with vague terms"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_122_a_deal_that_costs_one_person_much_more",
            "text": "A deal that costs one person much more"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_122_a_permanent_answer_chosen_too_quickly",
            "text": "A permanent answer chosen too quickly"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_122_a_plan_with_no_way_to_track_follow_through",
            "text": "A plan with no way to track follow-through"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_123",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps when neither person wants the same outcome?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "compromise",
        "decision",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_123_listing_the_highest_priorities",
          "text": "Listing the highest priorities"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_123_finding_the_smallest_point_of_agreement",
          "text": "Finding the smallest point of agreement"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_123_alternating_when_the_stakes_are_low",
          "text": "Alternating when the stakes are low"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_123_postponing_the_decision_with_a_clear_date",
          "text": "Postponing the decision with a clear date"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_123_listing_the_highest_priorities",
            "text": "Listing the highest priorities"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_123_finding_the_smallest_point_of_agreement",
            "text": "Finding the smallest point of agreement"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_123_alternating_when_the_stakes_are_low",
            "text": "Alternating when the stakes are low"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_123_postponing_the_decision_with_a_clear_date",
            "text": "Postponing the decision with a clear date"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_124",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How easy is it to accept a solution you did not prefer?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "compromise",
        "flexibility",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Usually difficult",
        "max_label": "Usually easy"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_125",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "Alternate turns or split the difference?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "compromise",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_125_alternate_turns",
          "text": "Alternate turns"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_125_split_the_difference",
          "text": "Split the difference"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_125_alternate_turns",
            "text": "Alternate turns"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_125_split_the_difference",
            "text": "Split the difference"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_126",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a temporary solution worth testing?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "temporary_solution",
        "experiment",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_126_a_clear_end_date",
          "text": "A clear end date"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_126_an_easy_way_to_reverse_it",
          "text": "An easy way to reverse it"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_126_one_specific_goal",
          "text": "One specific goal"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_126_low_enough_stakes_for_an_experiment",
          "text": "Low enough stakes to try it once"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_126_a_clear_end_date",
            "text": "A clear end date"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_126_an_easy_way_to_reverse_it",
            "text": "An easy way to reverse it"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_126_one_specific_goal",
            "text": "One specific goal"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_126_low_enough_stakes_for_an_experiment",
            "text": "Low enough stakes to try it once"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_127",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Which result matters most when agreement is not possible?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "unresolved",
        "priorities",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_127_mutual_respect",
          "text": "Mutual respect"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_127_clarity_about_each_position",
          "text": "Clarity about each position"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_127_a_workable_next_step",
          "text": "A workable next step"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_127_no_punishment_for_disagreeing",
          "text": "No punishment for disagreeing"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_127_mutual_respect",
            "text": "Mutual respect"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_127_clarity_about_each_position",
            "text": "Clarity about each position"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_127_a_workable_next_step",
            "text": "A workable next step"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_127_no_punishment_for_disagreeing",
            "text": "No punishment for disagreeing"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_128",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you stop arguing after a decision is made?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "decision",
        "closure",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_128_summarizing_the_agreement",
          "text": "Summarizing the agreement"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_128_naming_what_remains_unresolved",
          "text": "Naming what remains unresolved"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_128_knowing_when_it_will_be_reviewed",
          "text": "Knowing when it will be reviewed"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_128_dropping_the_last_word_contest",
          "text": "Dropping the last-word contest"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_128_summarizing_the_agreement",
            "text": "Summarizing the agreement"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_128_naming_what_remains_unresolved",
            "text": "Naming what remains unresolved"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_128_knowing_when_it_will_be_reviewed",
            "text": "Knowing when it will be reviewed"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_128_dropping_the_last_word_contest",
            "text": "Dropping the last-word contest"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_129",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes compromise feel like giving up too much of yourself?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "compromise",
        "identity",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_129_a_core_value_is_ignored",
          "text": "A core value is ignored"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_129_i_am_always_the_one_adjusting",
          "text": "I am always the one adjusting"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_129_the_choice_is_made_under_pressure",
          "text": "The choice is made under pressure"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_129_my_view_never_affects_the_result",
          "text": "My view never affects the result"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_129_a_core_value_is_ignored",
            "text": "A core value is ignored"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_129_i_am_always_the_one_adjusting",
            "text": "I am always the one adjusting"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_129_the_choice_is_made_under_pressure",
            "text": "The choice is made under pressure"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_129_my_view_never_affects_the_result",
            "text": "My view never affects the result"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_130",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "written",
      "text": "What recurring disagreement might need a different kind of compromise?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_conflict",
        "compromise",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "max_length": 500
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_131",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which habits stop low-stakes choices from becoming arguments?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "low_stakes",
        "decision",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_131_a_short_time_limit",
          "text": "A short time limit"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_131_a_simple_default_choice",
          "text": "A simple default choice"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_131_a_random_pick_when_it_truly_does_not_matter",
          "text": "A random pick when it truly does not matter"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_131_permission_to_decide_later",
          "text": "Permission to decide later"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_131_a_short_time_limit",
            "text": "A short time limit"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_131_a_simple_default_choice",
            "text": "A simple default choice"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_131_a_random_pick_when_it_truly_does_not_matter",
            "text": "A random pick when it truly does not matter"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_131_permission_to_decide_later",
            "text": "Permission to decide later"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_132",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "If we cannot agree tonight, what should we decide before stopping?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "unresolved",
        "next_step",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_132_when_we_will_return_to_it",
          "text": "A return time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_132_a_temporary_plan",
          "text": "A temporary plan"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_132_the_urgent_part_only",
          "text": "What is truly urgent"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_132_what_neither_person_should_do_meanwhile",
          "text": "What is off-limits meanwhile"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_132_when_we_will_return_to_it",
            "text": "A return time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_132_a_temporary_plan",
            "text": "A temporary plan"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_132_the_urgent_part_only",
            "text": "What is truly urgent"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_132_what_neither_person_should_do_meanwhile",
            "text": "What is off-limits meanwhile"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_133",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes an unresolved issue easier to live with for a while?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "unresolved",
        "patience",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_133_no_punishment_in_daily_life",
          "text": "No punishment in daily life"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_133_a_clear_description_of_where_things_stand",
          "text": "A clear description of where things stand"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_133_normal_kindness_between_conversations",
          "text": "Normal kindness between conversations"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_133_a_firm_date_to_revisit_the_issue",
          "text": "A firm date to revisit the issue"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_133_no_punishment_in_daily_life",
            "text": "No punishment in daily life"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_133_a_clear_description_of_where_things_stand",
            "text": "A clear description of where things stand"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_133_normal_kindness_between_conversations",
            "text": "Normal kindness between conversations"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_133_a_firm_date_to_revisit_the_issue",
            "text": "A firm date to revisit the issue"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_134",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which low-stakes choice is easiest to take turns on?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "low_stakes",
        "turn_taking",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_134_choosing_a_restaurant",
          "text": "Choosing a restaurant"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_134_picking_a_movie",
          "text": "Picking a movie"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_134_selecting_the_driving_route",
          "text": "Selecting the driving route"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_134_planning_a_weekend_activity",
          "text": "Planning a weekend activity"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_134_choosing_a_restaurant",
            "text": "Choosing a restaurant"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_134_picking_a_movie",
            "text": "Picking a movie"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_134_selecting_the_driving_route",
            "text": "Selecting the driving route"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_134_planning_a_weekend_activity",
            "text": "Planning a weekend activity"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_135",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What best helps you accept that some disagreements may not have a winner?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "unresolved",
        "acceptance",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_135_remembering_our_shared_values",
          "text": "Remembering our shared values"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_135_allowing_separate_preferences",
          "text": "Allowing separate preferences"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_135_protecting_respect_over_victory",
          "text": "Protecting respect over victory"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_135_looking_at_the_bigger_relationship",
          "text": "Looking at the bigger relationship"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_135_remembering_our_shared_values",
            "text": "Remembering our shared values"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_135_allowing_separate_preferences",
            "text": "Allowing separate preferences"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_135_protecting_respect_over_victory",
            "text": "Protecting respect over victory"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_135_looking_at_the_bigger_relationship",
            "text": "Looking at the bigger relationship"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_136",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What usually tells you we are entering a familiar conflict loop?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_loop",
        "signals",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_136_the_same_phrase_appears",
          "text": "The same phrase appears"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_136_the_topic_shifts_in_the_usual_direction",
          "text": "The topic shifts in the usual direction"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_136_one_person_makes_the_familiar_exit",
          "text": "One of us pulls away in the usual way"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_136_the_argument_starts_at_the_same_bad_time",
          "text": "The argument starts at the same bad time"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_136_the_same_phrase_appears",
            "text": "The same phrase appears"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_136_the_topic_shifts_in_the_usual_direction",
            "text": "The topic shifts in the usual direction"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_136_one_person_makes_the_familiar_exit",
            "text": "One of us pulls away in the usual way"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_136_the_argument_starts_at_the_same_bad_time",
            "text": "The argument starts at the same bad time"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_137",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which changes would improve our disagreements right now?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "growth",
        "priority",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_137_a_calmer_beginning",
          "text": "A calmer beginning"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_137_an_earlier_pause",
          "text": "An earlier pause"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_137_keeping_one_issue_in_view",
          "text": "Keeping one issue in view"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_137_using_briefer_explanations",
          "text": "Using briefer explanations"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_137_a_calmer_beginning",
            "text": "A calmer beginning"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_137_an_earlier_pause",
            "text": "An earlier pause"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_137_keeping_one_issue_in_view",
            "text": "Keeping one issue in view"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_137_using_briefer_explanations",
            "text": "Using briefer explanations"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_138",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How confident are you that we can interrupt a recurring argument sooner?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_loop",
        "confidence",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not confident yet",
        "max_label": "Very confident"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_139",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What keeps the same disagreement coming back?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_loop",
        "causes",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_139_an_agreement_that_stayed_vague",
          "text": "An agreement that stayed vague"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_139_uneven_follow_through",
          "text": "Uneven follow-through"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_139_a_need_that_was_never_named",
          "text": "A need that was never named"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_139_no_later_review_of_the_plan",
          "text": "No later review of the plan"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_139_an_agreement_that_stayed_vague",
            "text": "An agreement that stayed vague"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_139_uneven_follow_through",
            "text": "Uneven follow-through"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_139_a_need_that_was_never_named",
            "text": "A need that was never named"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_139_no_later_review_of_the_plan",
            "text": "No later review of the plan"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_140",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "A private signal or a direct sentence when the loop starts?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "quick_choice",
        "recurring_loop",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_140_a_private_signal",
          "text": "A private signal"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_140_a_direct_sentence",
          "text": "A direct sentence"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_140_a_private_signal",
            "text": "A private signal"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_140_a_direct_sentence",
            "text": "A direct sentence"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_141",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you remember we are on the same team?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "team_mindset",
        "reminders",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_141_naming_the_goal_we_share",
          "text": "Naming the goal we share"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_141_using_each_others_names_gently",
          "text": "Using each other’s names gently"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_141_sitting_near_rather_than_across_the_room",
          "text": "Sitting near rather than across the room"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_141_treating_the_issue_as_the_opponent",
          "text": "Treating the issue as the opponent"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_141_naming_the_goal_we_share",
            "text": "Naming the goal we share"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_141_using_each_others_names_gently",
            "text": "Using each other’s names gently"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_141_sitting_near_rather_than_across_the_room",
            "text": "Sitting near rather than across the room"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_141_treating_the_issue_as_the_opponent",
            "text": "Treating the issue as the opponent"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_142",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which outside pressures most often spill into our disagreements?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "outside_stress",
        "spillover",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_142_work_pressure",
          "text": "Work pressure"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_142_money_worries",
          "text": "Money worries"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_142_family_tension",
          "text": "Family tension"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_142_not_getting_enough_sleep",
          "text": "Not getting enough sleep"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_142_work_pressure",
            "text": "Work pressure"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_142_money_worries",
            "text": "Money worries"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_142_family_tension",
            "text": "Family tension"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_142_not_getting_enough_sleep",
            "text": "Not getting enough sleep"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_143",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What is the best way to name a recurring pattern?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_loop",
        "communication",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_143_give_it_a_neutral_nickname",
          "text": "Give it a neutral nickname"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_143_describe_the_sequence",
          "text": "Describe the sequence"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_143_mention_one_recent_example",
          "text": "Mention one recent example"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_143_ask_whether_the_other_person_sees_it_too",
          "text": "Ask whether the other person sees it too"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_143_give_it_a_neutral_nickname",
            "text": "Give it a neutral nickname"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_143_describe_the_sequence",
            "text": "Describe the sequence"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_143_mention_one_recent_example",
            "text": "Mention one recent example"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_143_ask_whether_the_other_person_sees_it_too",
            "text": "Ask whether the other person sees it too"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_144",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What makes a conflict loop feel hopeless?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_loop",
        "hopelessness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_144_promises_that_keep_repeating",
          "text": "Promises that keep repeating"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_144_no_ownership_from_either_side",
          "text": "No ownership from either side"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_144_contempt_replacing_frustration",
          "text": "Contempt replacing frustration"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_144_refusing_to_revisit_the_pattern",
          "text": "Refusing to revisit the pattern"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_144_promises_that_keep_repeating",
            "text": "Promises that keep repeating"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_144_no_ownership_from_either_side",
            "text": "No ownership from either side"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_144_contempt_replacing_frustration",
            "text": "Contempt replacing frustration"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_144_refusing_to_revisit_the_pattern",
            "text": "Refusing to revisit the pattern"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_145",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How often do we notice outside stress before it becomes conflict?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "outside_stress",
        "awareness",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Almost never",
        "max_label": "Almost always"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_146",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What could help us catch tension earlier this week?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "prevention",
        "this_week",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_146_a_quick_daily_check_in",
          "text": "A quick daily check-in"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_146_naming_stress_before_discussing_the_issue",
          "text": "Naming stress before discussing the issue"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_146_protecting_enough_sleep",
          "text": "Getting enough sleep"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_146_asking_one_caring_question",
          "text": "Asking one caring question"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_146_a_quick_daily_check_in",
            "text": "A quick daily check-in"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_146_naming_stress_before_discussing_the_issue",
            "text": "Naming stress before discussing the issue"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_146_protecting_enough_sleep",
            "text": "Getting enough sleep"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_146_asking_one_caring_question",
            "text": "Asking one caring question"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_147",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which team habit feels easiest to use during a disagreement?",
      "depth": 1,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "team_mindset",
        "easy_habit",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_147_sitting_on_the_same_side",
          "text": "Sitting on the same side"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_147_saying_the_shared_goal_aloud",
          "text": "Saying the shared goal aloud"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_147_taking_equal_turns",
          "text": "Taking equal turns"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_147_lowering_both_voices",
          "text": "Keeping our voices low"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_147_sitting_on_the_same_side",
            "text": "Sitting on the same side"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_147_saying_the_shared_goal_aloud",
            "text": "Saying the shared goal aloud"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_147_taking_equal_turns",
            "text": "Taking equal turns"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_147_lowering_both_voices",
            "text": "Keeping our voices low"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_148",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "Where have our disagreements improved most over time?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "strengths",
        "growth",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_148_how_we_begin",
          "text": "How we begin"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_148_how_soon_we_pause",
          "text": "How soon we pause"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_148_how_well_we_stay_focused",
          "text": "How well we stay focused"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_148_how_kindly_we_speak",
          "text": "How kindly we speak"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_148_how_we_begin",
            "text": "How we begin"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_148_how_soon_we_pause",
            "text": "How soon we pause"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_148_how_well_we_stay_focused",
            "text": "How well we stay focused"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_148_how_kindly_we_speak",
            "text": "How kindly we speak"
          }
        ]
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_149",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What would show that a recurring pattern is genuinely changing?",
      "depth": 3,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "recurring_loop",
        "change",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_149_the_argument_happens_less_often",
          "text": "The argument happens less often"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_149_we_recognize_it_earlier",
          "text": "We notice it earlier"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_149_a_different_choice_appears_in_the_moment",
          "text": "We choose a different response"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_149_the_follow_through_lasts_afterward",
          "text": "The new pattern lasts over time"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_149_the_argument_happens_less_often",
            "text": "The argument happens less often"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_149_we_recognize_it_earlier",
            "text": "We notice it earlier"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_149_a_different_choice_appears_in_the_moment",
            "text": "We choose a different response"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_149_the_follow_through_lasts_afterward",
            "text": "The new pattern lasts over time"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "conflict_150",
      "category_id": "conflict",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which choices would make our next disagreement feel more like teamwork?",
      "depth": 2,
      "access": "premium",
      "tags": [
        "team_mindset",
        "next_time",
        "conflict"
      ],
      "options": [
        {
          "id": "conflict_150_a_clearly_stated_goal",
          "text": "A clearly stated goal"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_150_a_calmer_first_minute",
          "text": "A calmer first minute"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_150_one_issue_at_a_time",
          "text": "One issue at a time"
        },
        {
          "id": "conflict_150_permission_for_either_person_to_pause",
          "text": "Permission for either person to pause"
        }
      ],
      "answer_config": {
        "options": [
          {
            "id": "conflict_150_a_clearly_stated_goal",
            "text": "A clearly stated goal"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_150_a_calmer_first_minute",
            "text": "A calmer first minute"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_150_one_issue_at_a_time",
            "text": "One issue at a time"
          },
          {
            "id": "conflict_150_permission_for_either_person_to_pause",
            "text": "Permission for either person to pause"
          }
        ],
        "min_selections": 1,
        "max_selections": 3
      }
    }
  ]
}