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}
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
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}
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
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}
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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}
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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] ,
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"id" : "check_back_another_day" ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "scale" ,
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"depth" : 2 ,
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"personal_space" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"id" : "an_easy_shared_snack" ,
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}
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"home_space" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"id" : "a_favorite_chair_or_desk" ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"permission" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"boundary_requests" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"id" : "a_kind_tone" ,
"text" : "A kind tone"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_short_honest_reason" ,
"text" : "A short honest reason"
} ,
{
"id" : "saying_what_is_still_okay" ,
"text" : "Saying what is still okay"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_015" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which request for space would be easiest to hear?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"alone_time" ,
"wording" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "i_need_an_hour_to_myself" ,
"text" : "I need an hour to myself"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_am_overloaded_and_need_quiet" ,
"text" : "I am overloaded and need quiet"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_want_to_finish_this_alone" ,
"text" : "I want to finish this alone"
} ,
{
"id" : "can_we_reconnect_after_i_clear_my_head" ,
"text" : "Can we reconnect after I clear my head?"
}
]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_016" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What should never require a long defense?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"autonomy" ,
"saying_no" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "needing_sleep" ,
"text" : "Needing sleep"
} ,
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"id" : "declining_a_social_plan" ,
"text" : "Declining a social plan"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_a_conversation_private" ,
"text" : "Keeping a conversation private"
} ,
{
"id" : "taking_time_to_think" ,
"text" : "Taking time to think"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_017" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How much room do we give each other to change our minds?" ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"changing_limits" ,
"autonomy" ,
"boundaries"
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] ,
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"min" : 1 ,
"max" : 5 ,
"min_label" : "Not enough room" ,
"max_label" : "Plenty of room"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_018" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "How can a no stay free of guilt?" ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"saying_no" ,
"pressure" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "the_answer_is_accepted_once" ,
"text" : "The answer is accepted once"
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"id" : "affection_stays_normal" ,
"text" : "Affection stays normal"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_scorekeeping_later" ,
"text" : "No scorekeeping later"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_need_for_a_long_explanation" ,
"text" : "No need for a long explanation"
}
] ,
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_019" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What boundaries are easiest for you to say out loud?" ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"self_awareness" ,
"boundary_requests" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "i_need_some_space" ,
"text" : "I need some space"
} ,
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"id" : "i_cannot_fit_that_into_my_schedule" ,
"text" : "I cannot fit that into my schedule"
} ,
{
"id" : "please_ask_before_borrowing_that" ,
"text" : "Please ask before borrowing that"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_am_not_up_for_that_plan" ,
"text" : "I am not up for that plan"
}
] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_020" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "What is your first sign that a limit has been reached?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"self_awareness" ,
"limits" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "i_need_quiet" ,
"text" : "I need quiet"
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{
"id" : "i_get_irritated" ,
"text" : "I get irritated"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_start_pulling_away" ,
"text" : "I start pulling away"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_say_it_directly" ,
"text" : "I say it directly"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_021" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "written" ,
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"text" : "What is one small boundary that would make daily life easier?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"daily_life" ,
"written" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"max_length" : 500
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_022" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes a limit easy to remember?" ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"clarity" ,
"boundary_requests" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "the_wording_is_simple" ,
"text" : "The wording is simple"
} ,
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"id" : "they_connect_to_a_specific_place" ,
"text" : "They connect to a specific place"
} ,
{
"id" : "they_have_a_clear_trigger" ,
"text" : "They have a clear trigger"
} ,
{
"id" : "they_fit_an_existing_routine" ,
"text" : "They fit an existing routine"
}
] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_023" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Where does healthy privacy matter most to you?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"privacy" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "thoughts_i_am_not_ready_to_share" ,
"text" : "Thoughts I am not ready to share"
} ,
{
"id" : "private_messages" ,
"text" : "Private messages"
} ,
{
"id" : "solo_hobbies" ,
"text" : "Solo hobbies"
} ,
{
"id" : "something_a_friend_told_me_in_confidence" ,
"text" : "Something a friend told me in confidence"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_024" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "After one of us asks for space, what feels right?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"alone_time" ,
"respect" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "accepting_it_without_offense" ,
"text" : "Accepting it without offense"
} ,
{
"id" : "agreeing_when_to_reconnect" ,
"text" : "Agreeing when to reconnect"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_necessary_plans_clear" ,
"text" : "Keeping necessary plans clear"
} ,
{
"id" : "letting_silence_be_okay" ,
"text" : "Letting silence be okay"
}
] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_025" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes independence feel healthy between us?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"independence" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "cheering_each_other_on" ,
"text" : "Cheering each other on"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_separate_friendships" ,
"text" : "Keeping separate friendships"
} ,
{
"id" : "having_solo_interests" ,
"text" : "Having solo interests"
} ,
{
"id" : "not_needing_constant_updates" ,
"text" : "Not needing constant updates"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_026" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which phone boundary matters most at bedtime?" ,
"depth" : 1 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"phones" ,
"sleep" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "no_phones_in_bed" ,
"text" : "No phones in bed"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_quick_check_then_phones_away" ,
"text" : "A quick check, then phones away"
} ,
{
"id" : "silent_mode_for_both_phones" ,
"text" : "Silent mode for both phones"
} ,
{
"id" : "charging_phones_away_from_us" ,
"text" : "Charging phones away from us"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_027" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What phone habits feel respectful when we are together?" ,
"depth" : 1 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
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"phones" ,
"daily_life" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "turning_the_screen_down" ,
"text" : "Turning the screen down"
} ,
{
"id" : "mentioning_when_a_reply_is_urgent" ,
"text" : "Mentioning when a reply is urgent"
} ,
{
"id" : "not_reading_over_each_other_s_shoulder" ,
"text" : "Not reading over each other’ s shoulder"
} ,
{
"id" : "asking_before_sharing_a_photo" ,
"text" : "Asking before sharing a photo"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_028" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What should stay private unless we both agree?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"privacy" ,
"private_information" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "our_disagreements" ,
"text" : "Our disagreements"
} ,
{
"id" : "our_sex_life" ,
"text" : "Our sex life"
} ,
{
"id" : "our_financial_details" ,
"text" : "Our financial details"
} ,
{
"id" : "family_problems_told_in_confidence" ,
"text" : "Family problems told in confidence"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_029" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How comfortable are you with us using each other’ s phones?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"phones" ,
"privacy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"min" : 1 ,
"max" : 5 ,
"min_label" : "I prefer them separate" ,
"max_label" : "I am fully comfortable"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_030" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes social media sharing feel considerate?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"social_media" ,
"public_sharing" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "checking_before_relationship_news" ,
"text" : "Checking before relationship news"
} ,
{
"id" : "letting_me_approve_photos_of_myself" ,
"text" : "Letting me approve photos of myself"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_private_jokes_private" ,
"text" : "Keeping private jokes private"
} ,
{
"id" : "respecting_days_i_do_not_want_to_post" ,
"text" : "Respecting days I do not want to post"
}
] ,
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_031" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
"text" : "Post it or keep it between us?" ,
"depth" : 1 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"social_media" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "post_it" ,
"text" : "Post it"
} ,
{
"id" : "keep_it_between_us" ,
"text" : "Keep it between us"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_032" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "What kind of online sharing needs a check-in first?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"social_media" ,
"public_sharing" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "an_unflattering_photo" ,
"text" : "An unflattering photo"
} ,
{
"id" : "relationship_news" ,
"text" : "Relationship news"
} ,
{
"id" : "our_live_location" ,
"text" : "Our live location"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_personal_story_about_me" ,
"text" : "A personal story about me"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_033" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Where should privacy be the default online?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"digital_privacy" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "email" ,
"text" : "Email"
} ,
{
"id" : "notes_and_drafts" ,
"text" : "Notes and drafts"
} ,
{
"id" : "private_chats" ,
"text" : "Private chats"
} ,
{
"id" : "search_history" ,
"text" : "Search history"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_034" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What keeps location sharing practical without becoming controlling?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"location_sharing" ,
"safety" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "it_stays_optional" ,
"text" : "It stays optional"
} ,
{
"id" : "there_is_a_clear_reason_for_it" ,
"text" : "There is a clear reason for it"
} ,
{
"id" : "either_person_can_pause_it" ,
"text" : "Either person can pause it"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_never_becomes_an_interrogation" ,
"text" : "It never becomes an interrogation"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_035" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How clear are our expectations about online privacy?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "free" ,
"tags" : [
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"digital_privacy" ,
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}
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}
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}
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
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"passwords" ,
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] ,
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}
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] ,
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}
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"text" : "What is one thing you want kept just between us?" ,
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"private_information" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"max_length" : 500
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"privacy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"visitors" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"id" : "it_depends_who_is_coming" ,
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}
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"family" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"id" : "relationship_news" ,
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}
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"family" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"outside_opinions" ,
"family" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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}
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"visitors" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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}
} ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"tags" : [
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"friends" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "being_out_late" ,
"text" : "Being out late"
} ,
{
"id" : "an_overnight_trip" ,
"text" : "An overnight trip"
} ,
{
"id" : "hosting_at_home" ,
"text" : "Hosting at home"
} ,
{
"id" : "changing_plans_we_already_made" ,
"text" : "Changing plans we already made"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_057" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "When a friend needs a lot, which limit matters most?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"friends" ,
"emotional_bandwidth" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "protecting_plans_we_already_made" ,
"text" : "Protecting plans we already made"
} ,
{
"id" : "being_honest_about_available_time" ,
"text" : "Being honest about available time"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_our_private_life_private" ,
"text" : "Keeping our private life private"
} ,
{
"id" : "not_becoming_the_only_support_person" ,
"text" : "Not becoming the only support person"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_058" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Which habits help friendships and our relationship fit together?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"friends" ,
"independence" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "independent_friend_time" ,
"text" : "Independent friend time"
} ,
{
"id" : "social_time_we_both_enjoy" ,
"text" : "Social time we both enjoy"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_jealousy_games" ,
"text" : "No jealousy games"
} ,
{
"id" : "protecting_plans_already_made" ,
"text" : "Protecting plans already made"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_059" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What is hardest to turn down when someone asks?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"outside_obligations" ,
"teamwork" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "last_minute_favors" ,
"text" : "Last-minute favors"
} ,
{
"id" : "surprise_visits" ,
"text" : "Surprise visits"
} ,
{
"id" : "requests_to_lend_money" ,
"text" : "Requests to lend money"
} ,
{
"id" : "holiday_pressure" ,
"text" : "Holiday pressure"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_060" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How easy is it for us to decline plans without guilt?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"social_plans" ,
"saying_no" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"min" : 1 ,
"max" : 5 ,
"min_label" : "It often feels hard" ,
"max_label" : "It usually feels easy"
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_061" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Which parts of our life should stay ours to decide?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"family" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "our_home_rules" ,
"text" : "Our home rules"
} ,
{
"id" : "our_schedule" ,
"text" : "Our schedule"
} ,
{
"id" : "private_disagreements" ,
"text" : "Private disagreements"
} ,
{
"id" : "major_couple_decisions" ,
"text" : "Major couple decisions"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_062" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "What kind of family involvement feels best?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"family" ,
"preferences" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "mostly_separate" ,
"text" : "Mostly separate"
} ,
{
"id" : "regular_visits_with_clear_limits" ,
"text" : "Regular visits with clear limits"
} ,
{
"id" : "very_involved_but_they_ask_first" ,
"text" : "Very involved, but they ask first"
} ,
{
"id" : "different_limits_for_different_relatives" ,
"text" : "Different limits for different relatives"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_063" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "For hosting, what rules feel fair to both of us?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"visitors" ,
"home_space" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "checking_before_inviting" ,
"text" : "Checking before inviting"
} ,
{
"id" : "agreeing_on_the_timing" ,
"text" : "Agreeing on the timing"
} ,
{
"id" : "room_to_say_not_tonight" ,
"text" : "Room to say not tonight"
} ,
{
"id" : "private_areas_stay_private" ,
"text" : "Private areas stay private"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_064" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Once made, what plans deserve protection?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"scheduling" ,
"commitments" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "date_time" ,
"text" : "Date time"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_planned_rest_night" ,
"text" : "A planned rest night"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_family_commitment" ,
"text" : "A family commitment"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_personal_appointment" ,
"text" : "A personal appointment"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_065" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How often do outside obligations crowd out our time?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"outside_obligations" ,
"couple_time" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"min" : 1 ,
"max" : 5 ,
"min_label" : "Rarely" ,
"max_label" : "Very often"
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_066" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Which habits make saying no to family easier as a team?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"family" ,
"teamwork" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "using_the_same_message" ,
"text" : "Using the same message"
} ,
{
"id" : "not_blaming_the_other_partner" ,
"text" : "Not blaming the other partner"
} ,
{
"id" : "deciding_privately_first" ,
"text" : "Deciding privately first"
} ,
{
"id" : "supporting_each_other_afterward" ,
"text" : "Supporting each other afterward"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_067" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which boundary is hardest with people you love?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"family" ,
"friends" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "time" ,
"text" : "Time"
} ,
{
"id" : "money" ,
"text" : "Money"
} ,
{
"id" : "unwanted_advice" ,
"text" : "Unwanted advice"
} ,
{
"id" : "privacy" ,
"text" : "Privacy"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_068" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What drains your social energy fastest?" ,
"depth" : 1 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"social_energy" ,
"self_awareness" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "large_groups" ,
"text" : "Large groups"
} ,
{
"id" : "long_visits" ,
"text" : "Long visits"
} ,
{
"id" : "surprise_plans" ,
"text" : "Surprise plans"
} ,
{
"id" : "being_expected_to_stay_late" ,
"text" : "Being expected to stay late"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_069" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Which options help you enjoy social plans without feeling trapped?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"social_energy" ,
"social_plans" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "having_our_own_ride" ,
"text" : "Having our own ride"
} ,
{
"id" : "knowing_the_end_time" ,
"text" : "Knowing the end time"
} ,
{
"id" : "being_free_to_leave_early" ,
"text" : "Being free to leave early"
} ,
{
"id" : "quiet_time_before_or_after" ,
"text" : "Quiet time before or after"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_070" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What can we comfortably share with close friends?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"friends" ,
"private_information" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "harmless_funny_stories" ,
"text" : "Harmless funny stories"
} ,
{
"id" : "plans_that_are_already_public" ,
"text" : "Plans that are already public"
} ,
{
"id" : "things_we_agreed_were_shareable" ,
"text" : "Things we agreed were shareable"
} ,
{
"id" : "general_advice_without_identifying_details" ,
"text" : "General advice without identifying details"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_071" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "If one of us wants to leave early, what works best?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"social_plans" ,
"signals" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "say_it_directly" ,
"text" : "Say it directly"
} ,
{
"id" : "use_a_private_signal" ,
"text" : "Use a private signal"
} ,
{
"id" : "agree_on_a_time_beforehand" ,
"text" : "Agree on a time beforehand"
} ,
{
"id" : "leave_separately_if_needed" ,
"text" : "Leave separately if needed"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_072" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What should stay ours during holidays?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"holidays" ,
"family" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "some_private_time" ,
"text" : "Some private time"
} ,
{
"id" : "our_spending_limit" ,
"text" : "Our spending limit"
} ,
{
"id" : "traditions_we_choose_together" ,
"text" : "Traditions we choose together"
} ,
{
"id" : "the_right_to_decline_extras" ,
"text" : "The right to decline extras"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_073" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Before saying yes, what outside commitments need a conversation?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"outside_obligations" ,
"couple_decisions" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "overnight_guests" ,
"text" : "Overnight guests"
} ,
{
"id" : "lending_shared_money" ,
"text" : "Lending shared money"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_long_trip" ,
"text" : "A long trip"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_recurring_weekly_commitment" ,
"text" : "A recurring weekly commitment"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_074" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "written" ,
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"text" : "What is one outside pressure you want us to handle as a team?" ,
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"depth" : 4 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"outside_pressure" ,
"written" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"max_length" : 500
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_075" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What protects our time without shutting others out?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"couple_time" ,
"outside_obligations" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "making_plans_early" ,
"text" : "Making plans early"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_some_flexible_time" ,
"text" : "Keeping some flexible time"
} ,
{
"id" : "explaining_limits_kindly" ,
"text" : "Explaining limits kindly"
} ,
{
"id" : "choosing_priorities_together" ,
"text" : "Choosing priorities together"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_076" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "When work follows us home, which limit matters most?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"work" ,
"home_space" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"text" : "A firm end time"
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"id" : "no_work_during_meals" ,
"text" : "No work during meals"
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"id" : "no_work_during_planned_couple_time" ,
"text" : "No work during planned couple time"
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"id" : "a_separate_work_area" ,
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_077" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"work" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "a_true_emergency" ,
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"id" : "a_deadline_that_affects_tomorrow" ,
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"id" : "a_scheduled_on_call_issue" ,
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"id" : "a_message_only_one_person_can_answer" ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_078" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What helps work time feel respected at home?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"work" ,
"personal_space" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "clear_start_and_end_times" ,
"text" : "Clear start and end times"
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"id" : "a_visible_do_not_disturb_signal" ,
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"id" : "asking_before_interrupting" ,
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"id" : "real_breaks_during_long_stretches" ,
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_079" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How well do we protect rest from work demands?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"work" ,
"rest" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"min" : 1 ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_080" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
"text" : "Work talk now or after dinner?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"work" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "talk_about_it_now" ,
"text" : "Talk about it now"
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"id" : "wait_until_after_dinner" ,
"text" : "Wait until after dinner"
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_081" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When does a schedule change need a heads-up?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"scheduling" ,
"consideration" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "running_late" ,
"text" : "Running late"
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"id" : "adding_guests" ,
"text" : "Adding guests"
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{
"id" : "changing_shared_plans" ,
"text" : "Changing shared plans"
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{
"id" : "becoming_unavailable" ,
"text" : "Becoming unavailable"
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_082" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "How much planning feels best for weekends?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"scheduling" ,
"weekends" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "a_loose_idea" ,
"text" : "A loose idea"
} ,
{
"id" : "one_anchor_plan" ,
"text" : "One anchor plan"
} ,
{
"id" : "most_of_it_planned" ,
"text" : "Most of it planned"
} ,
{
"id" : "decide_as_we_go" ,
"text" : "Decide as we go"
}
]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_083" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes a last-minute change easier to take?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"scheduling" ,
"changes" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "saying_it_as_early_as_possible" ,
"text" : "Saying it as early as possible"
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"id" : "explaining_how_it_affects_us" ,
"text" : "Explaining how it affects us"
} ,
{
"id" : "asking_instead_of_announcing" ,
"text" : "Asking instead of announcing"
} ,
{
"id" : "helping_make_a_new_plan" ,
"text" : "Helping make a new plan"
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_084" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What expenses make sense to keep individual?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"money" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "hobbies" ,
"text" : "Hobbies"
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{
"id" : "gifts" ,
"text" : "Gifts"
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{
"id" : "personal_care" ,
"text" : "Personal care"
} ,
{
"id" : "solo_meals_or_treats" ,
"text" : "Solo meals or treats"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_085" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How clear are our ask-first rules for shared money?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"money" ,
"clarity" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"min" : 1 ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_086" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Before spending shared money, what needs a conversation?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"money" ,
"couple_decisions" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "lending_money_to_someone" ,
"text" : "Lending money to someone"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_major_purchase" ,
"text" : "A major purchase"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_new_recurring_payment" ,
"text" : "A new recurring payment"
} ,
{
"id" : "using_savings" ,
"text" : "Using savings"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_087" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which kind of financial independence feels reasonable?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"money" ,
"privacy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "separate_personal_spending_money" ,
"text" : "Separate personal spending money"
} ,
{
"id" : "private_gift_purchases" ,
"text" : "Private gift purchases"
} ,
{
"id" : "an_individual_account_with_agreed_transparency" ,
"text" : "An individual account with agreed transparency"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_set_amount_that_needs_no_check_in" ,
"text" : "A set amount that needs no check-in"
}
]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_088" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "How can money rules preserve freedom for both of us?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"money" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "the_rules_are_fair_to_both_people" ,
"text" : "The rules are fair to both people"
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"id" : "we_agree_on_the_thresholds" ,
"text" : "We agree on the thresholds"
} ,
{
"id" : "each_person_has_personal_spending_room" ,
"text" : "Each person has personal spending room"
} ,
{
"id" : "questions_do_not_become_interrogations" ,
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_089" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Where at home should an ask-first rule apply?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"home_space" ,
"personal_space" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "a_work_area" ,
"text" : "A work area"
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{
"id" : "the_bedroom_when_someone_is_resting" ,
"text" : "The bedroom when someone is resting"
} ,
{
"id" : "personal_storage" ,
"text" : "Personal storage"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_hobby_area" ,
"text" : "A hobby area"
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] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_090" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How much control do you feel over your own time?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"time" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"min" : 1 ,
"max" : 5 ,
"min_label" : "Not enough" ,
"max_label" : "Plenty"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_091" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What keeps shared plans from feeling like orders?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"scheduling" ,
"autonomy" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "being_asked_first" ,
"text" : "Being asked first"
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{
"id" : "getting_real_options" ,
"text" : "Getting real options"
} ,
{
"id" : "having_room_to_decline" ,
"text" : "Having room to decline"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_guilt_if_the_answer_is_no" ,
"text" : "No guilt if the answer is no"
}
] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_092" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "When you are emotionally drained, which limit helps most?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"emotional_bandwidth" ,
"rest" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "postpone_serious_talks" ,
"text" : "Postpone serious talks"
} ,
{
"id" : "sit_together_quietly" ,
"text" : "Sit together quietly"
} ,
{
"id" : "give_me_time_alone" ,
"text" : "Give me time alone"
} ,
{
"id" : "stick_to_urgent_details_only" ,
"text" : "Stick to urgent details only"
}
]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_093" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When do you have the least energy for a serious topic?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"emotional_bandwidth" ,
"self_awareness" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "i_am_exhausted" ,
"text" : "I am exhausted"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_cannot_focus" ,
"text" : "I cannot focus"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_am_already_upset" ,
"text" : "I am already upset"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_need_to_leave_soon" ,
"text" : "I need to leave soon"
}
] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_094" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "How should we respond to “not right now”?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
"emotional_bandwidth" ,
"pausing" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "agreeing_when_to_revisit" ,
"text" : "Agreeing when to revisit"
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{
"id" : "accepting_the_pause" ,
"text" : "Accepting the pause"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_normal_warmth" ,
"text" : "Keeping normal warmth"
} ,
{
"id" : "checking_whether_it_is_urgent" ,
"text" : "Checking whether it is urgent"
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_095" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Which kinds of help should be offered before taking over?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"autonomy" ,
"help" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
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"id" : "fixing_a_task" ,
"text" : "Fixing a task"
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{
"id" : "answering_for_me" ,
"text" : "Answering for me"
} ,
{
"id" : "making_a_decision_for_me" ,
"text" : "Making a decision for me"
} ,
{
"id" : "changing_my_plans" ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_096" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "How should unsolicited advice work between us?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"advice" ,
"permission" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "ask_before_giving_it" ,
"text" : "Ask before giving it"
} ,
{
"id" : "offer_it_once" ,
"text" : "Offer it once"
} ,
{
"id" : "wait_until_it_is_requested" ,
"text" : "Wait until it is requested"
} ,
{
"id" : "handle_it_differently_by_topic" ,
"text" : "Handle it differently by topic"
}
]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_097" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What should each person be free to decide alone?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"autonomy" ,
"personal_choices" ,
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"boundaries"
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"options" : [
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"id" : "what_to_wear" ,
"text" : "What to wear"
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"id" : "a_personal_routine" ,
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"id" : "harmless_hobbies" ,
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"id" : "how_to_spend_solo_time" ,
"text" : "How to spend solo time"
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}
} ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"routines" ,
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "exceptions_are_allowed" ,
"text" : "Exceptions are allowed"
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"id" : "either_person_can_suggest_changes" ,
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"id" : "no_scorekeeping" ,
"text" : "No scorekeeping"
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"id" : "we_can_drop_it_when_it_stops_helping" ,
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}
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"text" : "What is one area where you want more say over your own time?" ,
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"depth" : 4 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"time" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"max_length" : 500
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}
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"busy_life" ,
"maintenance" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"text" : "Keeping agreements simple"
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"id" : "giving_brief_reminders" ,
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"id" : "protecting_the_most_important_limits" ,
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"id" : "asking_before_assuming" ,
"text" : "Asking before assuming"
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}
} ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"affection" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "accept_it_easily" ,
"text" : "Accept it easily"
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"id" : "switch_to_kind_words" ,
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"id" : "ask_what_would_feel_okay" ,
"text" : "Ask what would feel okay"
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"id" : "give_me_some_space" ,
"text" : "Give me some space"
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_102" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What helps physical affection feel welcome?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"affection" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "being_asked_first" ,
"text" : "Being asked first"
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"id" : "good_timing" ,
"text" : "Good timing"
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{
"id" : "no_expectation_attached" ,
"text" : "No expectation attached"
} ,
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"id" : "knowing_i_can_change_my_mind" ,
"text" : "Knowing I can change my mind"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_103" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When you need space, what closeness still feels good?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"affection" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "sitting_nearby" ,
"text" : "Sitting nearby"
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"id" : "kind_words" ,
"text" : "Kind words"
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"id" : "doing_something_together" ,
"text" : "Doing something together"
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"id" : "a_brief_hug_if_i_want_one" ,
"text" : "A brief hug if I want one"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_104" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How easy is it to change your mind about physical closeness?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"affection" ,
"changing_limits" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"min" : 1 ,
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"max_label" : "It feels completely okay"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_105" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
"text" : "Ask out loud or offer a hand and wait?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"affection" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "ask_out_loud" ,
"text" : "Ask out loud"
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"id" : "offer_a_hand_and_wait" ,
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_106" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What kinds of physical help should be ask-first?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"consent" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "moving_my_body_or_position" ,
"text" : "Moving my body or position"
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"id" : "touching_an_injury" ,
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} ,
{
"id" : "fixing_my_clothes_or_hair" ,
"text" : "Fixing my clothes or hair"
} ,
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"id" : "guiding_me_through_a_crowd" ,
"text" : "Guiding me through a crowd"
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_107" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which way of declining touch feels easiest for you?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"consent" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "say_no_directly" ,
"text" : "Say no directly"
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"id" : "ask_for_some_space" ,
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{
"id" : "offer_a_different_kind_of_closeness" ,
"text" : "Offer a different kind of closeness"
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{
"id" : "use_a_private_cue" ,
"text" : "Use a private cue"
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_108" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "How can an affection boundary feel normal?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"affection" ,
"respect" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "warm_acceptance" ,
"text" : "Warm acceptance"
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"id" : "other_affection_if_it_is_wanted" ,
"text" : "Other affection if it is wanted"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_need_for_a_long_explanation" ,
"text" : "No need for a long explanation"
} ,
{
"id" : "an_easy_chance_to_revisit_later" ,
"text" : "An easy chance to revisit later"
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_109" ,
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
"text" : "Cuddle nearby or give full space?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"affection" ,
"personal_space" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_110" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What should never become a couple vote?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"body_autonomy" ,
"personal_choices" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "clothing" ,
"text" : "Clothing"
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{
"id" : "hairstyle" ,
"text" : "Hairstyle"
} ,
{
"id" : "body_changes" ,
"text" : "Body changes"
} ,
{
"id" : "medical_care" ,
"text" : "Medical care"
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_111" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which appearance comments feel best?" ,
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"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"appearance" ,
"respect" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "simple_compliments" ,
"text" : "Simple compliments"
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"id" : "honest_feedback_when_i_ask" ,
"text" : "Honest feedback when I ask"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_practical_heads_up" ,
"text" : "A practical heads-up"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_comments_unless_i_bring_it_up" ,
"text" : "No comments unless I bring it up"
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_112" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What keeps body-related advice from crossing a line?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"body_autonomy" ,
"advice" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "asking_permission_first" ,
"text" : "Asking permission first"
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"id" : "focusing_on_care_not_criticism" ,
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{
"id" : "keeping_comments_private" ,
"text" : "Keeping comments private"
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{
"id" : "accepting_no" ,
"text" : "Accepting no"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_113" ,
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"type" : "scale" ,
"text" : "How confident are you that I will respect a changed answer?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"changing_limits" ,
"consent" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"min" : 1 ,
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"min_label" : "I am not sure yet" ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_114" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When is it hardest to state a boundary clearly?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"boundary_requests" ,
"pressure" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "when_i_am_tired" ,
"text" : "When I am tired"
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"id" : "when_other_people_are_present" ,
"text" : "When other people are present"
} ,
{
"id" : "when_i_expect_disappointment" ,
"text" : "When I expect disappointment"
} ,
{
"id" : "when_something_has_already_started" ,
"text" : "When something has already started"
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_115" ,
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"boundary_requests" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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]
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_116" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes an old agreement easier to revise?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"changing_limits" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "acknowledging_that_our_needs_changed" ,
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"id" : "leaving_blame_out_of_it" ,
"text" : "Leaving blame out of it"
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{
"id" : "talking_through_one_specific_part" ,
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{
"id" : "trying_the_new_version_for_a_while" ,
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] ,
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}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_117" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "When a boundary changes, what matters most?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"changing_limits" ,
"clarity" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
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"id" : "clear_words" ,
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"id" : "reasonable_notice" ,
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"id" : "an_honest_reason" ,
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{
"id" : "room_for_questions" ,
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]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_118" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When should life changes trigger a fresh boundary conversation?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"changing_limits" ,
"life_changes" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "a_new_work_schedule" ,
"text" : "A new work schedule"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_health_change" ,
"text" : "A health change"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_different_living_arrangement" ,
"text" : "A different living arrangement"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_new_caregiving_responsibility" ,
"text" : "A new caregiving responsibility"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_119" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When does a request start to feel like pressure?" ,
"depth" : 4 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"requests" ,
"pressure" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "asking_again_and_again" ,
"text" : "Asking again and again"
} ,
{
"id" : "withholding_affection" ,
"text" : "Withholding affection"
} ,
{
"id" : "using_guilt" ,
"text" : "Using guilt"
} ,
{
"id" : "demanding_an_immediate_answer" ,
"text" : "Demanding an immediate answer"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_120" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What keeps a request genuinely optional?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"requests" ,
"consent" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "a_no_that_is_accepted" ,
"text" : "A no that is accepted"
} ,
{
"id" : "no_punishment_afterward" ,
"text" : "No punishment afterward"
} ,
{
"id" : "time_to_think" ,
"text" : "Time to think"
} ,
{
"id" : "more_than_one_acceptable_choice" ,
"text" : "More than one acceptable choice"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_121" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When a request needs more time, which options help?" ,
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"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"requests" ,
"decision_time" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "sleeping_on_it" ,
"text" : "Sleeping on it"
} ,
{
"id" : "setting_a_time_to_revisit" ,
"text" : "Setting a time to revisit"
} ,
{
"id" : "getting_more_information" ,
"text" : "Getting more information"
} ,
{
"id" : "talking_when_we_are_rested" ,
"text" : "Talking when we are rested"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_122" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When do you want me to ask before touch?" ,
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"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"affection" ,
"consent" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "when_i_just_woke_up" ,
"text" : "When I just woke up"
} ,
{
"id" : "when_i_am_stressed" ,
"text" : "When I am stressed"
} ,
{
"id" : "when_we_are_in_public" ,
"text" : "When we are in public"
} ,
{
"id" : "when_i_am_concentrating" ,
"text" : "When I am concentrating"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_123" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "Which public affection boundary fits you best?" ,
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"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"public_affection" ,
"preferences" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "affection_is_fine_almost_anywhere" ,
"text" : "Affection is fine almost anywhere"
} ,
{
"id" : "small_gestures_only" ,
"text" : "Small gestures only"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_depends_on_the_place" ,
"text" : "It depends on the place"
} ,
{
"id" : "i_prefer_affection_in_private" ,
"text" : "I prefer affection in private"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_124" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes public affection feel respectful?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"public_affection" ,
"consent" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "checking_my_mood" ,
"text" : "Checking my mood"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_it_subtle" ,
"text" : "Keeping it subtle"
} ,
{
"id" : "accepting_a_no_immediately" ,
"text" : "Accepting a no immediately"
} ,
{
"id" : "following_what_we_already_agreed" ,
"text" : "Following what we already agreed"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
"id" : "boundaries_125" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What changes may need extra patience from both of us?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"changing_limits" ,
"patience" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "lower_energy" ,
"text" : "Lower energy"
} ,
{
"id" : "different_social_needs" ,
"text" : "Different social needs"
} ,
{
"id" : "new_privacy_needs" ,
"text" : "New privacy needs"
} ,
{
"id" : "changed_affection_preferences" ,
"text" : "Changed affection preferences"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_126" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "During busy weeks, what boundary is easiest to forget?" ,
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"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"busy_life" ,
"maintenance" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "alone_time" ,
"text" : "Alone time"
} ,
{
"id" : "phone_privacy" ,
"text" : "Phone privacy"
} ,
{
"id" : "shared_plans" ,
"text" : "Shared plans"
} ,
{
"id" : "personal_belongings" ,
"text" : "Personal belongings"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_127" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "How can you tell a boundary is working well?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"maintenance" ,
"success" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "there_is_less_tension" ,
"text" : "There is less tension"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_needs_fewer_reminders" ,
"text" : "It needs fewer reminders"
} ,
{
"id" : "both_people_can_still_say_no" ,
"text" : "Both people can still say no"
} ,
{
"id" : "closeness_still_feels_natural" ,
"text" : "Closeness still feels natural"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_128" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "How can we tell an old agreement needs updating?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"changing_limits" ,
"agreements" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "resentment_keeps_showing_up" ,
"text" : "Resentment keeps showing up"
} ,
{
"id" : "life_has_changed" ,
"text" : "Life has changed"
} ,
{
"id" : "exceptions_happen_constantly" ,
"text" : "Exceptions happen constantly"
} ,
{
"id" : "someone_avoids_the_topic" ,
"text" : "Someone avoids the topic"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_129" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "scale" ,
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"text" : "How confident are you that our boundaries can change without making us feel less close?" ,
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"depth" : 4 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"changing_limits" ,
"security" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"min" : 1 ,
"max" : 5 ,
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"min_label" : "Not confident yet" ,
"max_label" : "Very confident"
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_130" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "this_or_that" ,
"text" : "Clear rule or case-by-case?" ,
"depth" : 1 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"agreements" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "a_clear_rule" ,
"text" : "A clear rule"
} ,
{
"id" : "case_by_case" ,
"text" : "Case-by-case"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_131" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes a boundary fair to both people?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"fairness" ,
"agreements" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "it_feels_fair_in_practice" ,
"text" : "It feels fair in practice"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_respects_real_differences" ,
"text" : "It respects real differences"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_is_realistic_to_follow" ,
"text" : "It is realistic to follow"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_can_be_revisited" ,
"text" : "It can be revisited"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_132" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "If a boundary is forgotten once, what response feels right?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"reminders" ,
"maintenance" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "a_gentle_reminder" ,
"text" : "A gentle reminder"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_quick_apology" ,
"text" : "A quick apology"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_calm_talk_later" ,
"text" : "A calm talk later"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_depends_on_the_impact" ,
"text" : "It depends on the impact"
}
]
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_133" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What kind of reminders are easiest to receive?" ,
"depth" : 2 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"reminders" ,
"respect" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "brief_and_direct" ,
"text" : "Brief and direct"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_private_cue" ,
"text" : "A private cue"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_calm_spoken_reminder" ,
"text" : "A calm spoken reminder"
} ,
{
"id" : "a_text_for_practical_rules" ,
"text" : "A text for practical rules"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_134" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What should we check in on occasionally?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"maintenance" ,
"agreements" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
"answer_config" : {
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"options" : [
{
"id" : "phones_and_privacy" ,
"text" : "Phones and privacy"
} ,
{
"id" : "family_involvement" ,
"text" : "Family involvement"
} ,
{
"id" : "shared_money_thresholds" ,
"text" : "Shared-money thresholds"
} ,
{
"id" : "affection_and_space" ,
"text" : "Affection and space"
}
] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_135" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "this_or_that" ,
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"text" : "Private cue or direct words?" ,
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"depth" : 1 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"signals" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "a_private_cue" ,
"text" : "A private cue"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "direct_words" ,
"text" : "Direct words"
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}
]
}
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} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_136" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What can make a reasonable boundary hard to follow?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"agreements" ,
"clarity" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "it_is_too_vague" ,
"text" : "It is too vague"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "it_is_unrealistic" ,
"text" : "It is unrealistic"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_changes_without_notice" ,
"text" : "It changes without notice"
} ,
{
"id" : "it_conflicts_with_another_commitment" ,
"text" : "It conflicts with another commitment"
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}
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] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_137" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "When two boundaries clash, what should guide the decision?" ,
"depth" : 4 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
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"tags" : [
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"balancing_needs" ,
"decisions" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "urgency" ,
"text" : "Urgency"
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"id" : "the_size_of_the_impact" ,
"text" : "The size of the impact"
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{
"id" : "what_we_agreed_before" ,
"text" : "What we agreed before"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "the_best_available_compromise" ,
"text" : "The best available compromise"
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}
]
}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_138" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When both needs are valid but different, what helps?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"balancing_needs" ,
"fairness" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"answer_config" : {
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{
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"id" : "being_clear_about_what_cannot_bend" ,
"text" : "Being clear about what cannot bend"
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"id" : "looking_for_a_third_option" ,
"text" : "Looking for a third option"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "taking_turns_when_possible" ,
"text" : "Taking turns when possible"
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"id" : "revisiting_it_later" ,
"text" : "Revisiting it later"
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}
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] ,
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_139" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What limits protect us without controlling either person?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"healthy_boundaries" ,
"safety" ,
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"boundaries"
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "no_public_humiliation" ,
"text" : "No public humiliation"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "no_sharing_private_information" ,
"text" : "No sharing private information"
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{
"id" : "no_volunteering_the_other_person" ,
"text" : "No volunteering the other person"
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{
"id" : "no_pressure_after_a_no" ,
"text" : "No pressure after a no"
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}
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] ,
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_140" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "this_or_that" ,
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"text" : "One firm boundary or a flexible guideline?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"agreements" ,
"fun_first" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
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"id" : "one_firm_boundary" ,
"text" : "One firm boundary"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "a_flexible_guideline" ,
"text" : "A flexible guideline"
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}
]
}
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} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_141" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes a boundary worth revisiting?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"changing_limits" ,
"agreements" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "one_person_is_unhappy_with_it" ,
"text" : "One person is unhappy with it"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "life_has_changed" ,
"text" : "Life has changed"
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{
"id" : "the_rule_never_works_in_practice" ,
"text" : "The rule never works in practice"
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{
"id" : "new_information_matters" ,
"text" : "New information matters"
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}
]
}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_142" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Which boundaries make it easier to relax in a relationship?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"healthy_boundaries" ,
"security" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
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{
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"id" : "private_details_stay_private" ,
"text" : "Private details stay private"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "a_no_is_not_punished" ,
"text" : "A no is not punished"
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{
"id" : "alone_time_is_normal" ,
"text" : "Alone time is normal"
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{
"id" : "personal_belongings_are_respected" ,
"text" : "Personal belongings are respected"
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}
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] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_143" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What information makes a boundary easier to follow?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"clarity" ,
"agreements" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "what_it_protects" ,
"text" : "What it protects"
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"id" : "what_counts_as_crossing_it" ,
"text" : "What counts as crossing it"
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{
"id" : "what_is_still_okay" ,
"text" : "What is still okay"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "when_we_will_review_it" ,
"text" : "When we will review it"
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}
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] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_144" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "Where should we state expectations instead of assuming them?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"clarity" ,
"agreements" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
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{
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"id" : "rules_for_guests" ,
"text" : "Rules for guests"
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{
"id" : "a_spending_threshold" ,
"text" : "A spending threshold"
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{
"id" : "what_can_be_shared_publicly" ,
"text" : "What can be shared publicly"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "when_interruptions_are_okay" ,
"text" : "When interruptions are okay"
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}
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] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_145" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "single_choice" ,
"text" : "What kind of boundary brings you the most relief?" ,
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"depth" : 3 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"preferences" ,
"healthy_boundaries" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
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"id" : "one_that_protects_rest" ,
"text" : "One that protects rest"
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{
"id" : "one_that_protects_privacy" ,
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{
"id" : "one_that_protects_independence" ,
"text" : "One that protects independence"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "one_that_protects_our_time" ,
"text" : "One that protects our time"
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}
]
}
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} ,
{
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"id" : "boundaries_146" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What helps us respect differences without needing identical rules?" ,
"depth" : 4 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"fairness" ,
"differences" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
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{
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"id" : "accepting_different_comfort_levels" ,
"text" : "Accepting different comfort levels"
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{
"id" : "not_keeping_score" ,
"text" : "Not keeping score"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "focusing_on_what_affects_both_of_us" ,
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"id" : "staying_curious" ,
"text" : "Staying curious"
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}
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] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_147" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "When should a boundary request get extra gentleness?" ,
"depth" : 4 ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"boundary_requests" ,
"gentleness" ,
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"boundaries"
] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "family_limits" ,
"text" : "Family limits"
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{
"id" : "body_or_affection_limits" ,
"text" : "Body or affection limits"
} ,
{
"id" : "privacy_limits" ,
"text" : "Privacy limits"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "health_and_energy_limits" ,
"text" : "Health and energy limits"
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}
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] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_148" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What makes boundaries feel like care rather than rules?" ,
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"access" : "premium" ,
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"healthy_boundaries" ,
"care" ,
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"boundaries"
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] ,
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "a_clear_purpose" ,
"text" : "A clear purpose"
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"id" : "kind_words" ,
"text" : "Kind words"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "mutual_respect" ,
"text" : "Mutual respect"
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{
"id" : "freedom_to_revisit" ,
"text" : "Freedom to revisit"
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}
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] ,
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"max_selections" : 3
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}
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} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_149" ,
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"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
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"type" : "written" ,
"text" : "What is one boundary you hope we always protect?" ,
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"depth" : 4 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
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"healthy_boundaries" ,
"written" ,
"boundaries"
] ,
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"max_length" : 500
}
} ,
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"id" : "boundaries_150" ,
"category_id" : "boundaries" ,
"type" : "multi_choice" ,
"text" : "What habits protect boundaries over time?" ,
"depth" : 3 ,
"access" : "premium" ,
"tags" : [
"maintenance" ,
"healthy_boundaries" ,
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"boundaries"
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"answer_config" : {
"options" : [
{
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"id" : "believing_the_first_no" ,
"text" : "Believing the first no"
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} ,
{
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"id" : "asking_before_assuming" ,
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{
"id" : "updating_old_agreements" ,
"text" : "Updating old agreements"
} ,
{
"id" : "keeping_private_things_private" ,
"text" : "Keeping private things private"
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}
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] ,
"min_selections" : 1 ,
"max_selections" : 3
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}
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}
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