diff --git a/seed/questions/difficult_conversations.json b/seed/questions/difficult_conversations.json index 5109cc35..f53f7453 100644 --- a/seed/questions/difficult_conversations.json +++ b/seed/questions/difficult_conversations.json @@ -7,7 +7,7 @@ "icon_name": "forum", "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { - "content_version": "difficult_conversations_v3_final_reviewed", + "content_version": "difficult_conversations_v3_final_reviewed_2", "total_questions": 150, "free_questions": 45, "premium_questions": 105, @@ -24,7 +24,7 @@ "3": 28 }, "pack_boundary": "How to start, frame, receive, and continue a hard conversation before it becomes active conflict or later repair.", - "final_review": "Current guide, read-aloud, option-parallelism, cross-pack, consent, privacy, safety, repetition, and importer review completed." + "final_review": "Additional read-aloud, natural-language, option-parallelism, privacy, outside-support, duplication, related-pack, and schema review completed." } }, "questions": [ @@ -3275,7 +3275,7 @@ "id": "difficult_conversations_071", "category_id": "difficult_conversations", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which signs make an admission feel responsible on its own?", + "text": "Which details make an admission feel responsible rather than evasive?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -3423,7 +3423,7 @@ }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_074_4_decide_together_who_else_truly_needs_to_know", - "text": "Decide together who else truly needs to know" + "text": "Clarify who owns the information and who truly needs to know" } ], "answer_config": { @@ -3442,7 +3442,7 @@ }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_074_4_decide_together_who_else_truly_needs_to_know", - "text": "Decide together who else truly needs to know" + "text": "Clarify who owns the information and who truly needs to know" } ] } @@ -4819,7 +4819,7 @@ "id": "difficult_conversations_104", "category_id": "difficult_conversations", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which habits help prevent a serious talk from becoming a performance?", + "text": "Which habits keep a serious talk focused on the two people involved?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -4834,7 +4834,7 @@ }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_104_2_keeping_imaginary_audiences_out", - "text": "Keeping imaginary audiences out" + "text": "Not arguing for an imaginary audience" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_104_3_avoiding_dramatic_threats", @@ -4842,7 +4842,7 @@ }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_104_4_refusing_to_share_the_exchange_for_public_judgment", - "text": "Refusing to share the exchange for public judgment" + "text": "Keeping the exchange off social media" } ], "answer_config": { @@ -4853,7 +4853,7 @@ }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_104_2_keeping_imaginary_audiences_out", - "text": "Keeping imaginary audiences out" + "text": "Not arguing for an imaginary audience" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_104_3_avoiding_dramatic_threats", @@ -4861,7 +4861,7 @@ }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_104_4_refusing_to_share_the_exchange_for_public_judgment", - "text": "Refusing to share the exchange for public judgment" + "text": "Keeping the exchange off social media" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -4872,7 +4872,7 @@ "id": "difficult_conversations_105", "category_id": "difficult_conversations", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you stay honest when the other person becomes emotional?", + "text": "What helps you stay truthful when the conversation becomes emotional?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -5799,7 +5799,7 @@ "id": "difficult_conversations_125", "category_id": "difficult_conversations", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps two people make a decision without pretending they control every part equally?", + "text": "What helps when one person owns the choice but both people feel the effects?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -6169,7 +6169,7 @@ "id": "difficult_conversations_133", "category_id": "difficult_conversations", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which details make a follow-up plan specific enough to trust?", + "text": "What makes a follow-up plan clear enough to rely on?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -6467,7 +6467,7 @@ "id": "difficult_conversations_139", "category_id": "difficult_conversations", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes the end of a serious talk feel complete enough for now?", + "text": "What helps a serious talk reach a good stopping point for now?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -6707,38 +6707,38 @@ "options": [ { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_1_identify_the_point_where_it_became_unworkable", - "text": "Identify the point where it became unworkable" + "text": "Identifying the point where it became unworkable" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_2_choose_a_smaller_question_for_the_next_attempt", - "text": "Choose a smaller question for the next attempt" + "text": "Choosing a smaller question for the next attempt" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_3_change_the_timing_or_setting", - "text": "Change the timing or setting" + "text": "Changing the timing or setting" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_4_ask_whether_another_form_of_support_would_help", - "text": "Ask whether another form of support would help" + "text": "Asking whether another form of support would help" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_1_identify_the_point_where_it_became_unworkable", - "text": "Identify the point where it became unworkable" + "text": "Identifying the point where it became unworkable" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_2_choose_a_smaller_question_for_the_next_attempt", - "text": "Choose a smaller question for the next attempt" + "text": "Choosing a smaller question for the next attempt" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_3_change_the_timing_or_setting", - "text": "Change the timing or setting" + "text": "Changing the timing or setting" }, { "id": "difficult_conversations_144_4_ask_whether_another_form_of_support_would_help", - "text": "Ask whether another form of support would help" + "text": "Asking whether another form of support would help" } ], "min_selections": 1, diff --git a/seed/questions/parenting.json b/seed/questions/parenting.json index abe1752b..15dbe8f7 100644 --- a/seed/questions/parenting.json +++ b/seed/questions/parenting.json @@ -2,914 +2,2390 @@ "category": { "id": "parenting", "display_name": "Parenting", - "description": "Warm, Closer-style questions that help couples feel like a parenting tag-team through tiny wins, backup signals, bedtime goblins, snack saves, family rituals, shared values, kid-chaos humor, and real-life grace.", + "description": "Questions about parenting as a team, sharing responsibility, guiding children with respect, and protecting the couple relationship through changing family seasons.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "family_restroom", - "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { - "total_questions": 250, - "free_questions": 75, - "premium_questions": 175, + "pack_id": "parenting_v3", + "content_version": "parenting_v3_final_reviewed_2", + "total_questions": 150, + "free_questions": 45, + "premium_questions": 105, "type_counts": { - "written": 150, - "single_choice": 40, - "multi_choice": 20, - "scale": 25, - "this_or_that": 15 - } + "multi_choice": 90, + "single_choice": 30, + "scale": 15, + "this_or_that": 10, + "written": 5 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 23, + "2": 79, + "3": 48 + }, + "review_notes": "Rebuilt from the legacy 250-question template-heavy pack using the importer-aligned human-voice guide.", + "final_review": "Additional read-aloud, option-answer, child-privacy, co-parent fairness, safety, natural-language, duplication, and importer-schema review completed." } }, "questions": [ { "id": "parenting_001", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes us feel most like a parenting tag-team?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which parts of parenting make us feel most like a team?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "teamwork", - "support", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" + "strengths", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_001_o1_backing_each_other_up_calmly", + "text": "Backing each other up calmly" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_001_o2_sharing_the_unglamorous_jobs", + "text": "Sharing the unglamorous jobs" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_001_o3_laughing_after_a_long_day", + "text": "Laughing after a long day" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_001_o4_making_decisions_together", + "text": "Making decisions together" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_001_o1_backing_each_other_up_calmly", + "text": "Backing each other up calmly" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_001_o2_sharing_the_unglamorous_jobs", + "text": "Sharing the unglamorous jobs" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_001_o3_laughing_after_a_long_day", + "text": "Laughing after a long day" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_001_o4_making_decisions_together", + "text": "Making decisions together" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { "id": "parenting_002", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one tiny parenting win we should celebrate?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is our strongest parenting habit right now?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "tiny_wins", - "celebration", + "strengths", + "habits", "parenting" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_002_o1_keeping_each_other_informed", + "text": "Keeping each other informed" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_002_o2_following_through_on_routines", + "text": "Following through on routines" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_002_o3_staying_patient_under_pressure", + "text": "Staying patient under pressure" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_002_o4_making_room_for_family_fun", + "text": "Making room for family fun" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_002_o1_keeping_each_other_informed", + "text": "Keeping each other informed" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_002_o2_following_through_on_routines", + "text": "Following through on routines" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_002_o3_staying_patient_under_pressure", + "text": "Staying patient under pressure" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_002_o4_making_room_for_family_fun", + "text": "Making room for family fun" + } + ] } }, { "id": "parenting_003", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one kid-chaos moment we handled better than we realized?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What do you most appreciate about the way I parent?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "chaos", - "resilience", + "appreciation", + "partner_support", "parenting" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_003_o1_the_comfort_i_offer", + "text": "The comfort I offer" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_003_o2_the_structure_i_bring", + "text": "The structure I bring" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_003_o3_the_playfulness_i_add", + "text": "The playfulness I add" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_003_o4_the_way_i_notice_details", + "text": "The way I notice details" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_003_o1_the_comfort_i_offer", + "text": "The comfort I offer" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_003_o2_the_structure_i_bring", + "text": "The structure I bring" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_003_o3_the_playfulness_i_add", + "text": "The playfulness I add" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_003_o4_the_way_i_notice_details", + "text": "The way I notice details" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { "id": "parenting_004", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What parenting moment recently made you smile?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which moments show our children that we respect each other?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "joy", - "recent", + "modeling", + "respect", "parenting" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_004_o1_speaking_well_of_each_other", + "text": "Speaking well of each other" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_004_o2_handling_disagreements_away_from_an_audience", + "text": "Disagreeing without putting the children in the middle" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_004_o3_thanking_each_other_for_help", + "text": "Thanking each other for help" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_004_o4_keeping_promises_we_make_together", + "text": "Keeping promises we make together" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_004_o1_speaking_well_of_each_other", + "text": "Speaking well of each other" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_004_o2_handling_disagreements_away_from_an_audience", + "text": "Disagreeing without putting the children in the middle" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_004_o3_thanking_each_other_for_help", + "text": "Thanking each other for help" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_004_o4_keeping_promises_we_make_together", + "text": "Keeping promises we make together" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { "id": "parenting_005", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What recent parenting moment deserves a little team high-five?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much do you feel that we are on the same parenting team?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "pride", "teamwork", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" + "alignment", + "parenting" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not much", + "max_label": "Very much" } }, { "id": "parenting_006", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing you do as a parent or caregiver that I admire?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Where do our different parenting strengths work well together?", + 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feelings while the other spots logistics" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_006_o3_one_brings_calm_while_the_other_brings_energy", + "text": "One brings calm while the other brings energy" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_006_o4_one_starts_the_task_while_the_other_finishes_det", + "text": "One starts the task while the other finishes details" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { "id": "parenting_007", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing I do as a parent or caregiver that you appreciate?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Would you rather celebrate a parenting win privately or make a small family event of it?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "appreciation", - "recognition", + "celebration", + "quick_choice", "parenting" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_007_o1_celebrate_privately", + "text": "Celebrate privately" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_007_o2_make_a_small_family_event_of_it", + "text": 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"parenting_009_o1_asking_for_your_view_before_deciding", + "text": "Asking for your view before deciding" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_009_o2_not_correcting_you_in_front_of_the_children", + "text": "Not correcting you in front of the children" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_009_o3_noticing_the_work_nobody_sees", + "text": "Noticing the work nobody sees" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_009_o4_making_room_for_your_way_of_doing_things", + "text": "Making room for your way of doing things" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { "id": "parenting_010", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps us reset after the kids/family chaos tornado passes?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What kind of parenting compliment means the most to you?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "reset", - "family_life", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" + "appreciation", + "recognition", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_010_o1_you_stayed_patient", + "text": "You stayed patient" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_010_o2_you_noticed_what_was_needed", + "text": "You noticed what was needed" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_010_o3_you_made_that_easier", + "text": "You made that easier" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_010_o4_you_handled_that_with_care", + "text": "You handled that with care" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_010_o1_you_stayed_patient", + "text": "You stayed patient" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_010_o2_you_noticed_what_was_needed", + "text": "You noticed what was needed" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_010_o3_you_made_that_easier", + "text": "You made that easier" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_010_o4_you_handled_that_with_care", + "text": "You handled that with care" + } + ] } }, { "id": "parenting_011", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "written", - "text": "What family routine deserves credit for actually working?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What would make weekday mornings run more smoothly?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ + "mornings", "routines", - "family_life", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_011_o1_preparing_a_few_things_the_night_before", + "text": "Preparing a few things the night before" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_011_o2_giving_each_person_one_clear_job", + "text": "Giving each person one clear job" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_011_o3_building_in_ten_extra_minutes", + "text": "Building in ten extra minutes" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_011_o4_dropping_one_nonessential_expectation", + "text": "Dropping one nonessential expectation" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_011_o1_preparing_a_few_things_the_night_before", + "text": "Preparing a few things the night before" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_011_o2_giving_each_person_one_clear_job", + 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- "text": "Snack breaks" - }, - { - "id": "music", - "text": "Music" - }, - { - "id": "tiny_adventures", - "text": "Tiny adventures" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_157", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes family life feel peaceful?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "peace", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "routines", - "text": "Routines" - }, - { - "id": "soft_tone", - "text": "Soft tone" - }, - { - "id": "rest", - "text": "Rest" - }, - { - "id": "less_rushing", - "text": "Less rushing" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_158", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of backup feels best?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "backup", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "step_in", - "text": "Step in" - }, - { - "id": "take_over", - "text": "Take over" - }, - { - "id": "encourage_me", - "text": 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"parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What rule talk needs more softness?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "rules", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "screens", - "text": "Screens" - }, - { - "id": "schedules", - "text": "Schedules" - }, - { - "id": "chores", - "text": "Chores" - }, - { - "id": "bedtime", - "text": "Bedtime" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_164", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of parenting win deserves a fake trophy?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "fun_first", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "best_patience", - "text": "Best patience" - }, - { - "id": "best_snack_save", - "text": "Best snack save" - }, - { - "id": "best_bedtime_survival", - "text": "Best bedtime survival" - }, - { - "id": "best_chaos_rescue", - "text": "Best chaos rescue" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_165", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should parenting feel like this week?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "weekly", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "steady", - "text": "Steady" - }, - { - "id": "playful", - "text": "Playful" - }, - { - "id": "gentle", - "text": "Gentle" - }, - { - "id": "simpler", - "text": "Simpler" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_166", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which parenting area needs more teamwork?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "routines", - "text": "Routines" - }, - { - "id": "rules", - "text": "Rules" - }, - { - "id": "rest", - "text": "Rest" - }, - { - "id": "emotional_support", - "text": "Emotional support" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_167", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which parenting 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"single_choice", - "text": "What helps when parenting opinions are not wearing matching shoes?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "disagreement", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "pause", - "text": "Pause" - }, - { - "id": "talk_privately", - "text": "Talk privately" - }, - { - "id": "find_shared_goal", - "text": "Find shared goal" - }, - { - "id": "revisit_later", - "text": "Revisit later" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_172", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps when one of us is one snack away from losing it?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "overwhelmed", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "step_in", - "text": "Step in" - }, - { - "id": "simplify", - "text": "Simplify" - }, - { - "id": "reassure", - "text": "Reassure" - }, - { - "id": "protect_rest", - "text": "Protect rest" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_173", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps one of us take a break without guilt sneaking in?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "rest", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "no_guilt", - "text": "No guilt" - }, - { - "id": "clear_timing", - "text": "Clear timing" - }, - { - "id": "take_over", - "text": "Take over" - }, - { - "id": "check_back_later", - "text": "Check back later" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_174", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps us stay consistent without becoming boring rule robots?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consistency", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "simple_rules", - "text": "Simple rules" - }, 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- "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "calm_tone", - "text": "Calm tone" - }, - { - "id": "clear_reason", - "text": "Clear reason" - }, - { - "id": "repair", - "text": "Repair" - }, - { - "id": "consistency", - "text": "Consistency" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_177", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes discipline feel like the room got too tight?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "discipline", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "rushing", - "text": "Rushing" - }, - { - "id": "different_approaches", - "text": "Different approaches" - }, - { - "id": "exhaustion", - "text": "Exhaustion" - }, - { - "id": "public_pressure", - "text": "Public pressure" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_178", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps screen-time talks not turn into tiny courtroom drama?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "screen_time", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "simple_plan", - "text": "Simple plan" - }, - { - "id": "same_rules", - "text": "Same rules" - }, - { - "id": "no_shame", - "text": "No shame" - }, - { - "id": "review_later", - "text": "Review later" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_179", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps school mornings feel less like a three-ring circus?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "mornings", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "prep_ahead", - "text": "Prep ahead" - }, - { - "id": "simple_choices", - "text": "Simple choices" - }, - { - "id": "team_roles", - "text": "Team roles" - }, - { - "id": "humor", - "text": "Humor" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_180", - 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"multi_choice", - "text": "What parenting work deserves more spotlight?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "invisible_work", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "planning", - "text": "Planning" - }, - { - "id": "emotional_support", - "text": "Emotional support" - }, - { - "id": "routines", - "text": "Routines" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_calm", - "text": "Keeping calm" - }, - { - "id": "remembering_details", - "text": "Remembering details" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_197", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps when family volume hits concert level?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "lower_voices", - "text": "Lower voices" - }, - { - "id": "tag_team", - "text": 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"What helps protect rest?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "rest", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "take_turns", - "text": "Take turns" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_time", - "text": "Quiet time" - }, - { - "id": "no_guilt", - "text": "No guilt" - }, - { - "id": "simpler_days", - "text": "Simpler days" - }, - { - "id": "ask_for_backup", - "text": "Ask for backup" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_203", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What family rituals sound doable?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "movie_night", - "text": "Movie night" - }, - { - "id": "pancake_morning", - "text": "Pancake morning" - }, - { - "id": "walks", - "text": "Walks" - }, - { - "id": "tiny_toast", - "text": "Tiny toast" - }, - { - "id": "bedtime_song", - "text": "Bedtime song" - 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], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "grace", - "text": "Grace" - }, - { - "id": "backup_plan", - "text": "Backup plan" - }, - { - "id": "humor", - "text": "Humor" - }, - { - "id": "simple_choices", - "text": "Simple choices" - }, - { - "id": "no_blame", - "text": "No blame" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_208", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes parenting feel too much like running a tiny chaotic office?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "management", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "only_logistics", - "text": "Only logistics" - }, - { - "id": "no_fun", - "text": "No fun" - }, - { - "id": "no_rest", - "text": "No rest" - }, - { - "id": "no_appreciation", - "text": "No appreciation" - }, - { - "id": "too_many_decisions", - "text": "Too many decisions" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_209", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What brings the joy back when parenting feels like logistics?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "joy", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "little_rituals", - "text": "Little rituals" - }, - { - "id": "shared_laughter", - "text": "Shared laughter" - }, - { - "id": "tiny_wins", - "text": "Tiny wins" - }, - { - "id": "family_adventures", - "text": "Family adventures" - }, - { - "id": "more_grace", - "text": "More grace" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_210", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What deserves a parenting fake award?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "fun_first", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "snack_hero", - "text": "Snack hero" - }, - { - "id": "bedtime_warrior", - "text": "Bedtime warrior" - }, - { - "id": "calm_voice_champion", - "text": "Calm voice champion" - }, - { - "id": "errand_survivor", - "text": "Errand survivor" - }, - { - "id": "chaos_translator", - "text": "Chaos translator" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_211", - "category_id": "parenting", "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do we feel like a parenting tag-team lately?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_212", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How fun does family life feel lately?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "fun_first", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not fun", - "max_label": "Very fun" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_213", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we celebrate tiny parenting wins?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "tiny_wins", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Needs work", - "max_label": "Very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_214", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How supported do you feel in parenting or caregiving?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", + "text": "How supported do you feel with the children’s health needs?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ + "health", "support", "parenting" ], @@ -4878,50 +4502,2312 @@ } }, { - "id": "parenting_215", + "id": "parenting_096", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we reset after kid chaos?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes an appointment handoff useful to the parent who was not there?", "depth": 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"parenting_104", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs show a child may be ready for more independence?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "independence", + "readiness", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_104_o1_they_follow_through_without_repeated_reminders", + "text": "They follow through without repeated reminders" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_104_o2_they_ask_for_help_when_a_situation_changes", + "text": "They ask for help when a situation changes" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_104_o3_they_handle_small_mistakes_honestly", + "text": "They handle small mistakes honestly" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_104_o4_they_respect_reasonable_limits_most_of_the_time", + "text": "They respect reasonable limits most of the time" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_104_o1_they_follow_through_without_repeated_reminders", + "text": "They follow through without repeated reminders" + }, + { + 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"premium", + "tags": [ + "rules", + "transitions", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_138_o1_explain_the_reason_in_plain_language", + "text": "Explain the reason in plain language" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_138_o2_give_a_short_adjustment_period", + "text": "Give a short adjustment period" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_138_o3_show_what_the_rule_looks_like", + "text": "Show what the rule looks like" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_138_o4_review_it_after_everyone_has_tried_it", + "text": "Review it after everyone has tried it" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_138_o1_explain_the_reason_in_plain_language", + "text": "Explain the reason in plain language" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_138_o2_give_a_short_adjustment_period", + "text": "Give a short adjustment period" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_138_o3_show_what_the_rule_looks_like", + "text": "Show what the rule looks like" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_138_o4_review_it_after_everyone_has_tried_it", + "text": "Review it after everyone has tried it" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs show a family transition needs more support?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "transitions", + "support", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_139_o1_a_child_s_daily_functioning_changes_for_weeks", + "text": "A child stays unusually withdrawn or distressed" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139_o2_adults_cannot_discuss_logistics_without_escalati", + "text": "Adults cannot discuss logistics without escalation" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139_o3_school_or_sleep_problems_keep_growing", + "text": "School or sleep problems keep growing" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139_o4_nobody_knows_what_information_the_child_has_been", + "text": "Nobody knows what information the child has been given" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_139_o1_a_child_s_daily_functioning_changes_for_weeks", + "text": "A child stays unusually withdrawn or distressed" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139_o2_adults_cannot_discuss_logistics_without_escalati", + "text": "Adults cannot discuss logistics without escalation" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139_o3_school_or_sleep_problems_keep_growing", + "text": "School or sleep problems keep growing" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_139_o4_nobody_knows_what_information_the_child_has_been", + "text": "Nobody knows what information the child has been given" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_140", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "written", + "text": "What is one family change you want us to handle with extra care?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "transitions", + "reflection", + "parenting" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps us repair with a child after we handled a moment poorly?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "repair", + "accountability", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_141_o1_name_what_we_did_without_excuses", + "text": "Name what we did without excuses" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141_o2_apologize_in_age_appropriate_language", + "text": "Apologize in age-appropriate language" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141_o3_restate_the_limit_without_defending_the_tone", + "text": "Restate the limit without defending the tone" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141_o4_show_the_change_the_next_time", + "text": "Show the change the next time" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_141_o1_name_what_we_did_without_excuses", + "text": "Name what we did without excuses" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141_o2_apologize_in_age_appropriate_language", + "text": "Apologize in age-appropriate language" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141_o3_restate_the_limit_without_defending_the_tone", + "text": "Restate the limit without defending the tone" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_141_o4_show_the_change_the_next_time", + "text": "Show the change the next time" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which sign most clearly shows that a parenting plan needs to change?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "adaptation", + "planning", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_142_o1_it_repeatedly_harms_connection_or_safety", + "text": "It repeatedly harms connection or safety" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142_o2_nobody_can_follow_it_consistently", + "text": "Nobody can follow it consistently" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142_o3_the_child_has_clearly_outgrown_it", + "text": "The child has clearly outgrown it" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142_o4_reliable_new_information_changes_the_decision", + "text": "Reliable new information changes the decision" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_142_o1_it_repeatedly_harms_connection_or_safety", + "text": "It repeatedly harms connection or safety" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142_o2_nobody_can_follow_it_consistently", + "text": "Nobody can follow it consistently" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142_o3_the_child_has_clearly_outgrown_it", + "text": "The child has clearly outgrown it" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_142_o4_reliable_new_information_changes_the_decision", + "text": "Reliable new information changes the decision" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which parenting lessons do we want to carry into the next stage?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "growth", + "future", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_143_o1_connection_matters_during_limits", + "text": "Connection matters during limits" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143_o2_clear_routines_reduce_unnecessary_conflict", + "text": "Clear routines reduce unnecessary conflict" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143_o3_children_need_growing_independence", + "text": "Children need growing independence" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143_o4_parents_are_allowed_to_learn_and_change", + "text": "Parents are allowed to learn and change" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_143_o1_connection_matters_during_limits", + "text": "Connection matters during limits" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143_o2_clear_routines_reduce_unnecessary_conflict", + "text": "Clear routines reduce unnecessary conflict" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143_o3_children_need_growing_independence", + "text": "Children need growing independence" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_143_o4_parents_are_allowed_to_learn_and_change", + "text": "Parents are allowed to learn and change" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What would help us prepare for a parenting stage we have not reached yet?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "future", + "preparation", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_144_o1_learn_what_development_usually_looks_like", + "text": "Learn what development usually looks like" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144_o2_talk_with_families_we_trust", + "text": "Talk with families we trust" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144_o3_discuss_our_nonnegotiable_safety_values", + "text": "Discuss our nonnegotiable safety values" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144_o4_leave_room_to_revise_the_plan_later", + "text": "Leave room to revise the plan later" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_144_o1_learn_what_development_usually_looks_like", + "text": "Learn what development usually looks like" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144_o2_talk_with_families_we_trust", + "text": "Talk with families we trust" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144_o3_discuss_our_nonnegotiable_safety_values", + "text": "Discuss our nonnegotiable safety values" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_144_o4_leave_room_to_revise_the_plan_later", + "text": "Leave room to revise the plan later" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 + } + }, + { + "id": "parenting_145", + "category_id": "parenting", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How hopeful are you that we can become a stronger parenting team?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ "hope", + "teamwork", "parenting" ], "answer_config": { @@ -4932,735 +6818,229 @@ } }, { - "id": "parenting_218", + "id": "parenting_146", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to talk about parenting stress without it getting heavy?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_219", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to talk about discipline without summoning storm clouds?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "discipline", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_220", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do our family values feel like the same compass?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "values", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not aligned", - "max_label": "Very aligned" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_221", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How fair does the parenting load feel right now?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "fairness", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not fair", - "max_label": "Very fair" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_222", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we notice the invisible parenting magic?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "invisible_work", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Needs work", - "max_label": "Very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_223", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we protect couple time from the logistics monster?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "couple_time", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Needs work", - "max_label": "Very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_224", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we protect rest from the to-do monster?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "rest", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Needs work", - "max_label": "Very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_225", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How playful do family routines feel?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "routines", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not playful", - "max_label": "Very playful" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_226", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do family routines support us?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What would show that our parenting approach is working better?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "routines", + "growth", + "healthy_patterns", "parenting" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_146_o1_we_correct_course_without_hiding_mistakes", + "text": "We correct course without hiding mistakes" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_146_o2_the_children_can_ask_questions_safely", + "text": "The children can ask questions safely" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_146_o3_rules_become_clearer_rather_than_harsher", + "text": "Rules become clearer rather than harsher" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_146_o4_both_parents_have_room_to_rest_and_contribute", + "text": "Both parents have room to rest and contribute" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_146_o1_we_correct_course_without_hiding_mistakes", + "text": "We correct course without hiding mistakes" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_146_o2_the_children_can_ask_questions_safely", + "text": "The children can ask questions safely" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_146_o3_rules_become_clearer_rather_than_harsher", + "text": "Rules become clearer rather than harsher" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_146_o4_both_parents_have_room_to_rest_and_contribute", + "text": "Both parents have room to rest and contribute" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { - "id": "parenting_227", + "id": "parenting_147", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How chaotic do school mornings feel?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What should we remember when our child makes a choice we would not make?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "mornings", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" + "autonomy", + "perspective", + "parenting" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_147_o1_guidance_is_not_ownership", + "text": "Guidance is not ownership" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_147_o2_age_and_safety_still_matter", + "text": "Age and safety still matter" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_147_o3_disappointment_does_not_require_rejection", + "text": "Disappointment does not require rejection" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_147_o4_a_child_can_learn_without_agreeing_with_us", + "text": "A child can learn without agreeing with us" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not stressful", - "max_label": "Very stressful" + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_147_o1_guidance_is_not_ownership", + "text": "Guidance is not ownership" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_147_o2_age_and_safety_still_matter", + "text": "Age and safety still matter" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_147_o3_disappointment_does_not_require_rejection", + "text": "Disappointment does not require rejection" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_147_o4_a_child_can_learn_without_agreeing_with_us", + "text": "A child can learn without agreeing with us" + } + ] } }, { - "id": "parenting_228", + "id": "parenting_148", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How goblin-hour does bedtime feel?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we keep fear from making every future decision for us?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "bedtime", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not stressful", - "max_label": "Very stressful" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_229", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we tag-team when one of us is overwhelmed?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "overwhelmed", + "fear", + "future_decisions", "parenting" ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Needs work", - "max_label": "Very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_230", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to ask for backup?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "backup", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_231", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do we model kindness well?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "modeling", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_232", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do we model repair well?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "repair", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_233", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much perfect-parent pressure is trying to sneak in?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "pressure", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_234", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much grace do we give each other in parenting?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "grace", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_235", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How proud are you of the parenting tag-team we are becoming?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "pride", - "parenting", - "closer_style", - "fun_first", - "warm" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not proud", - "max_label": "Very proud" - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_236", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Tag-team or take turns?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "parenting" + "options": [ + { + "id": "parenting_148_o1_separate_likely_risks_from_imagined_ones", + "text": "Separate likely risks from imagined ones" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_148_o2_use_reliable_information", + "text": "Use reliable information" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_148_o3_choose_safeguards_that_preserve_some_freedom", + "text": "Choose safeguards that preserve some freedom" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_148_o4_review_decisions_as_the_child_grows", + "text": "Review decisions as the child grows" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "tag_team", - "text": "Tag-team" + "id": "parenting_148_o1_separate_likely_risks_from_imagined_ones", + "text": "Separate likely risks from imagined ones" }, { - "id": "take_turns", - "text": "Take turns" + "id": "parenting_148_o2_use_reliable_information", + "text": "Use reliable information" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_148_o3_choose_safeguards_that_preserve_some_freedom", + "text": "Choose safeguards that preserve some freedom" + }, + { + "id": "parenting_148_o4_review_decisions_as_the_child_grows", + "text": "Review decisions as the child grows" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 2 } }, { - "id": "parenting_237", + "id": "parenting_149", "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Snack break or quiet reset?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "reset", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "snack_break", - "text": "Snack break" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_reset", - "text": "Quiet reset" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_238", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Tiny win or fake parenting award?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "fun_first", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "tiny_win", - "text": "Tiny win" - }, - { - "id": "fake_award", - "text": "Fake parenting award" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_239", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Routine magic or flexible chaos?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "routines", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "routine_magic", - "text": "Routine magic" - }, - { - "id": "flexible_chaos", - "text": "Flexible chaos" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_240", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Bedtime warrior or morning hero?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "fun_first", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "bedtime_warrior", - "text": "Bedtime warrior" - }, - { - "id": "morning_hero", - "text": "Morning hero" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "parenting_241", - "category_id": "parenting", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Family adventure or couch recovery?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "family_life", - "parenting" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "family_adventure", - "text": 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{ - "id": "huddle", - "text": "Parenting huddle" - }, - { - "id": "high_five", - "text": "Parenting high-five" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } } ] diff --git a/seed/questions/physical_intimacy.json b/seed/questions/physical_intimacy.json index 912a331a..527257d7 100644 --- a/seed/questions/physical_intimacy.json +++ b/seed/questions/physical_intimacy.json @@ -2,249 +2,762 @@ "category": { "id": "physical_intimacy", "display_name": "Physical Intimacy", - "description": "Warm, playful, consent-first questions about everyday affection, hugs, kissing, cuddling, touch comfort, sensory preferences, physical boundaries, and nonsexual closeness.", + "description": "Warm, playful, consent-first questions about nonsexual affection, hugs, kissing, cuddling, hand-holding, touch comfort, sensory preferences, accessibility, public affection, and everyday physical boundaries.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "volunteer_activism", "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { - "total_questions": 250, 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"type": "written", - "text": "What is a time laughter turned a cuddle into one of your favorite moments?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How naturally does affection show up in our daily life?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" + "current_state", + "everyday_affection", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Rarely", + "max_label": "Very naturally" } }, { "id": "physical_intimacy_009", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which affectionate habit from our early days is still worth keeping?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which moments deserve a quick affectionate pause?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "relationship_history", - "physical_intimacy" + "daily_life", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "when_one_of_us_gets_home", + "text": "When one of us gets home" + }, + { + "id": "before_a_hard_task", + "text": "Before a hard task" + }, + { + "id": "after_good_news", + "text": "After good news" + }, + { + "id": "when_the_day_finally_slows_down", + "text": "When the day finally slows down" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "when_one_of_us_gets_home", + "text": "When one of us gets home" + }, + { + "id": "before_a_hard_task", + "text": "Before a hard task" + }, + { + "id": "after_good_news", + "text": "After good news" + }, + { + "id": "when_the_day_finally_slows_down", + "text": "When the day finally slows down" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "physical_intimacy_010", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What small touch from me has felt unexpectedly romantic?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which household location has become our unofficial affection department?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "romance", - "physical_intimacy" + "humor", + "home", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_kitchen_doorway", + "text": "The kitchen doorway" + }, + { + "id": "the_couch", + "text": "The couch" + }, + { + "id": "the_bathroom_sink", + "text": "The bathroom sink" + }, + { + "id": "wherever_one_person_is_blocking_the_other", + "text": "Wherever one person is blocking the other" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_kitchen_doorway", + "text": "The kitchen doorway" + }, + { + "id": "the_couch", + "text": "The couch" + }, + { + "id": "the_bathroom_sink", + "text": "The bathroom sink" + }, + { + "id": "wherever_one_person_is_blocking_the_other", + "text": "Wherever one person is blocking the other" + } + ] } }, { "id": "physical_intimacy_011", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When has being held by me helped you feel protected without feeling crowded?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps a quick touch still feel connecting?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "comfort", - "physical_intimacy" + "presence", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "eye_contact", + "text": "Eye contact" + }, + { + "id": "a_warm_expression", + "text": "A warm expression" + }, + { + "id": "not_being_distracted", + "text": "Not being distracted" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_it_can_stay_brief", + "text": "Knowing it can stay brief" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "eye_contact", + "text": "Eye contact" + }, + { + "id": "a_warm_expression", + "text": "A warm expression" + }, + { + "id": "not_being_distracted", + "text": "Not being distracted" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_it_can_stay_brief", + "text": "Knowing it can stay brief" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "physical_intimacy_012", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What physical gesture do I do in a way that feels uniquely mine?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which nonverbal signals could mean I am here with you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "couple_identity", - "physical_intimacy" + "signals", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A hand squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "touching_knees", + "text": "Touching knees" + }, + { + "id": "an_arm_around_you", + "text": "An arm around you" + }, + { + "id": "resting_my_head_near_yours", + "text": "Resting my head near yours" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A hand squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "touching_knees", + "text": "Touching knees" + }, + { + "id": "an_arm_around_you", + "text": "An arm around you" + }, + { + "id": "resting_my_head_near_yours", + "text": "Resting my head near yours" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "physical_intimacy_013", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which affectionate moment during a busy day made you stop and notice us?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which affectionate routines would be easiest to start this week?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" + "rituals", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_real_hello_hug", + "text": "A real hello hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_before_sleep", + "text": "A kiss before sleep" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_on_one_walk", + "text": "Holding hands on one walk" + }, + { + "id": "five_minutes_close_together_after_dinner", + "text": "Five minutes close together after dinner" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_real_hello_hug", + "text": "A real hello hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_before_sleep", + "text": "A kiss before sleep" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_on_one_walk", + "text": "Holding hands on one walk" + }, + { + "id": "five_minutes_close_together_after_dinner", + "text": "Five minutes close together after dinner" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "physical_intimacy_014", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "written", - "text": "Paint me a quick picture of the coziest scene that feels unmistakably like us.", + "text": "What is one small touch from me that has stayed in your memory?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "cozy_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" + "memory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -253,4017 +766,32 @@ { "id": "physical_intimacy_015", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "If you could replay one sweet physical moment between us, which would you choose?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "memories", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_016", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How can I make a comfort hug feel different from a celebration hug?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_017", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Imagine we have been apart all day. What would make our reunion feel especially warm?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "reunions", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_018", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What detail makes holding hands on a walk feel connected instead of automatic?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hand_holding", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_019", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How do you like me to reach for your hand when we are sitting together?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hand_holding", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_020", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a goodbye kiss feel warm without making the goodbye harder?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "kissing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_021", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Tell me about a quick kiss that made an ordinary moment unexpectedly sweet.", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "kissing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_022", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What does a forehead kiss mean to you when it comes from me?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "kissing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_023", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How would you like a long hug to end so it never feels abrupt or awkward?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_024", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of hug feels right when you are proud of me?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_025", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "After a disappointment, what would help a hug feel comforting rather than overwhelming?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_026", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What secret hand squeeze or small signal could mean “I’ve got you”?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "signals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_027", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Where does an arm around you feel most natural—walking, sitting, or somewhere else?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "everyday_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_028", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What sitting position makes side-by-side closeness feel easiest for you?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_029", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When words are unnecessary, what greeting touch would you enjoy from me?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "greetings", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_030", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps public hand-holding feel easy instead of performative?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "public_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_031", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What morning affection ritual could make even a rushed day start sweeter?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "morning", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_032", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What bedtime touch ritual would feel comforting without getting in the way of sleep?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "bedtime", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_033", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How would you arrange our ideal couch cuddle so both of us stay comfortable?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "cuddling", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_034", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "While we cook together, what small affectionate moment would make the kitchen feel romantic?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "home", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_035", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When we are passengers on a long ride, what kind of closeness feels natural?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "travel", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_036", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What tiny touch could turn waiting for coffee or tea into a sweet moment?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_037", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would a perfect ten-minute phone-free closeness break look like at home?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_038", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "On a rainy day, what kind of physical closeness sounds genuinely cozy to you?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "weather", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_039", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What outdoor affection feels especially good when the air is cold?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "weather", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_040", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When it is too hot to cuddle, how could we still feel physically connected?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_041", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What sleepy form of affection feels good without asking you to fully wake up?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "sleep", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_042", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What should I know about your touch preferences right after you wake up?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "morning", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_043", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How would you design a slow weekend morning that includes closeness but no pressure?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "weekends", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_044", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What after-work affection ritual would help you shift from busy mode to home mode?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "transitions", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_045", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What one-week affection experiment would be fun for us to try?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_046", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What playful touch from me almost always gets a real smile out of you?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_047", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "If we danced without music for one minute, what would make it feel charming instead of awkward?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "play", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_048", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Invent a harmless affection challenge we could complete before bedtime.", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "play", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_049", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What private physical signal could we use to flirt across a crowded room?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "signals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_050", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which affectionate joke or bit between us deserves to become a recurring tradition?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "couple_identity", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_051", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes an ordinary touch feel romantic to you—timing, attention, or something else?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "romance", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_052", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What spontaneous affectionate gesture would feel delightful when you are clearly open to it?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "spontaneity", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_053", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "During a slow dance, what makes the closeness feel genuine rather than staged?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "romance", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_054", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What movie-scene kind of affection could actually work in our real life?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "romance", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_055", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of affectionate surprise is better with a little warning?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_056", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What harmless competition would make a mutual celebration feel extra fun?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_057", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of cheek, forehead, or hand kiss feels the most playful to you?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "kissing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_058", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "If we built a blanket fort tonight, what kind of closeness would fit the mood?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "cozy_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_059", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What gentle hand movement—tracing, squeezing, or resting—feels especially affectionate?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "hands", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_060", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which song brings back a physical memory of us, and what do you remember?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "memories", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_061", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What exact words would make asking you for a hug feel natural and welcome?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "communication", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_062", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How can I invite you beside me without making closeness feel expected?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_063", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What simple phrase should always mean “pause the touch” between us?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_064", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the clearest, easiest way for you to decline affection in the moment?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_065", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What response from me helps a declined touch feel like a normal moment, not a problem?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_066", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When touch might or might not be welcome, what kind of question feels easiest to answer?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_067", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When you want company but not touch, where should I sit so it still feels companionable?", - 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"signals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_074", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How would you like to ask for space while still letting me know we are okay?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "signals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_075", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which body areas or situations should always require asking before touch?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_076", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Of pressure, pace, placement, and duration, which matters most to your comfort during a hug—and why?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_077", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How do fabrics and clothing affect whether cuddling feels comfortable to you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_078", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How does room temperature change the kind of affection you enjoy?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_079", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When your body is sore, what is the easiest way for me to ask where touch is welcome?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_080", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What should I know before touching your hair or face affectionately?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_081", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which shoulder or back touches feel caring, and which ones distract or irritate you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_082", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What detail would make a hand massage feel like affection rather than a favor?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "massage", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_083", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How should we handle ticklish spots so playful touch stays fun?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_084", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When you are concentrating, what is the least disruptive way to show affection?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_085", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "In a crowd, what contact helps you feel steady without limiting your movement?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "public_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_086", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When your senses feel overloaded, what should physical support from me look like?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_needs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_087", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps touch feel kind on a day when you feel self-conscious about your appearance?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_confidence", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_088", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Are there positions or movements that would make cuddling easier on your body?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "accessibility", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - 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"max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_098", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "After hard news, what question should I ask before offering physical comfort?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "support", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_099", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "After conflict is genuinely repaired, what touch—if any—helps closeness return naturally?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "repair", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_100", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "After returning from a trip, what first affectionate moment would make home feel like home again?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "reconnection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_101", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When we are sitting in silence, what touch makes the quiet feel companionable?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "quiet_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_102", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "If you need reassurance, what physical gesture from me feels believable rather than automatic?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "reassurance", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_103", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When words are hard, what kind of silent company feels supportive to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "quiet_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_104", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When you are upset, how can touch support you without trying to change your mood?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "support", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_105", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What affectionate reset could help us feel like a couple again after a hectic week?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "reconnection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_106", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Picture a public place where affection feels comfortable. 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"physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_128", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What separates comforting touch from romantic touch for you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "meaning", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_129", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When we want different amounts of touch, what helps both answers feel equally respected?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "mismatch", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_130", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "If one of us wants closeness and the other does not, what non-touch response helps us stay connected?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "mismatch", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_131", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What new, gentle form of affection are you curious to try once, with an easy opt-out?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "experiments", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_132", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "After an apology, what tells you whether physical closeness would help or should wait?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "repair", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_133", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "After one of us feels let down, what makes affection feel sincere again?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "repair", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_134", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What sign tells you that a once-comfortable touch no longer fits?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "change", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_135", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What should we never assume about each other’s comfort with physical affection?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_136", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What physical ritual could become our signature as a couple?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "couple_identity", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_137", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would show you that I take changing touch preferences seriously?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "commitment", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_138", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How could we protect one small pocket of physical closeness each week?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "weekly_rituals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_139", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What affectionate travel ritual should follow us on every trip?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "travel", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_140", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "On an anniversary, what kind of physical affection would feel meaningful without needing a grand gesture?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "anniversary", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_141", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "If we moved somewhere new, which spot would you want to claim first for quiet closeness?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "home", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_142", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Picture us much older. What kind of everyday affection do you hope we still share?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "future", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_143", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "During a stressful season, what check-in would keep affection gentle and optional?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_144", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "Which everyday activity would you rather keep mostly touch-free so you can enjoy it?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_145", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "How do height or reach differences change which hugs and cuddles work best for us?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "accessibility", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_146", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "When we host people, what small affection helps us feel connected without putting on a show?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "social_settings", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_147", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "While waiting somewhere together, what small touch makes the time feel shared?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_148", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of closeness feels best after we have both been staring at screens too long?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_149", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What scents, if any, make physical closeness feel more comforting to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_150", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you think our body language shows when we feel completely at ease together?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "couple_identity", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_151", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "After we finish separate tasks at home, which small reconnection sounds best?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "reconnection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "meet_in_the_kitchen_for_a_real_hug", - "text": "Meet in the kitchen for a real hug" - }, - { - "id": "sit_together_and_link_hands", - "text": "Sit together and link hands" - }, - { - "id": "trade_a_cheek_kiss_and_a_smile", - "text": "Trade a cheek kiss and a smile" - }, - { - "id": "take_a_minute_alone_then_reconnect", - "text": "Take a minute alone, then reconnect" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_152", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "During a shared show, which level of contact feels easiest?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "cuddling", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "light_shoulder_contact", - "text": "Light shoulder contact" - }, - { - "id": "one_hand_held_loosely", - "text": "One hand held loosely" - }, - { - "id": "feet_meeting_now_and_then", - "text": "Feet meeting now and then" - }, - { - "id": "nearby_with_no_steady_contact", - "text": "Nearby with no steady contact" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_153", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which hand-holding style feels most natural on a walk?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hand_holding", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "fingers_loosely_intertwined", - "text": "Fingers loosely intertwined" - }, - { - "id": "palms_together_with_an_easy_grip", - "text": "Palms together with an easy grip" - }, - { - "id": "linked_pinkies_for_something_light", - "text": "Linked pinkies for something light" - }, - { - "id": "arms_linked_instead_of_hands", - "text": "Arms linked instead of hands" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_154", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which quality matters most in a longer hug?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "time_to_settle_into_it", - "text": "Time to settle into it" - }, - { - "id": "comfortable_steady_pressure", - "text": "Comfortable, steady pressure" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_attention_from_both_of_us", - "text": "Quiet attention from both of us" - }, - { - "id": "an_easy_natural_ending", - "text": "An easy, natural ending" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_155", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When our hands are full, which no-hands greeting feels sweetest?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "greetings", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quick_shoulder_to_shoulder_lean", - "text": "A quick shoulder-to-shoulder lean" - }, - { - "id": "a_cheek_kiss_after_a_clear_invitation", - "text": "A cheek kiss after a clear invitation" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_hip_bump_when_expected", - "text": "A playful hip bump when expected" - }, - { - "id": "a_warm_smile_and_spoken_hello", - "text": "A warm smile and spoken hello" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_156", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When sleep matters most, which goodnight gesture fits best?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "bedtime", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_brief_kiss_then_separate_space", - "text": "A brief kiss, then separate space" - }, - { - "id": "hands_held_for_one_quiet_minute", - "text": "Hands held for one quiet minute" - }, - { - "id": "a_gentle_shoulder_squeeze", - "text": "A gentle shoulder squeeze" - }, - { - "id": "a_warm_goodnight_with_no_touch", - "text": "A warm goodnight with no touch" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_157", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which public-affection approach feels most natural at a casual outing?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "public_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "hands_linked_while_walking", - "text": "Hands linked while walking" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_cheek_kiss", - "text": "A brief cheek kiss" - }, - { - "id": "an_arm_around_each_other_briefly", - "text": "An arm around each other briefly" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_physical_affection_private", - "text": "Keeping physical affection private" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_158", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When you need comfort, which touch is most likely to help?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_steady_hug_with_no_talking", - "text": "A steady hug with no talking" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_resting_on_your_back", - "text": "A hand resting on your back" - }, - { - "id": "your_hand_held_without_squeezing", - "text": "Your hand held without squeezing" - }, - { - "id": "space_first_then_an_invitation", - "text": "Space first, then an invitation" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_159", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How should we mark a small shared joke?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quiet_double_high_five", - "text": "A quiet double high-five" - }, - { - "id": "a_light_elbow_tap", - "text": "A light elbow tap" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_wrist_tap", - "text": "A quick wrist tap" - }, - { - "id": "a_grin_with_no_touch_needed", - "text": "A grin with no touch needed" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_160", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When both of us are already in a playful mood, which affection sounds most like us?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_playful_shoulder_bump_and_grin", - "text": "A playful shoulder bump and grin" - }, - { - "id": "a_shared_wink_and_tiny_bow", - "text": "A shared wink and tiny bow" - }, - { - "id": "a_mock_formal_handshake", - "text": "A mock-formal handshake" - }, - { - "id": "a_one_song_kitchen_sway", - "text": "A one-song kitchen sway" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_161", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "At a crowded event, how should we stay connected?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "social_settings", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "brief_hand_contact_while_moving", - "text": "Brief hand contact while moving" - }, - { - "id": "a_private_signal_across_the_room", - "text": "A private signal across the room" - }, - { - "id": "standing_close_during_conversations", - "text": "Standing close during conversations" - }, - { - "id": "checking_in_verbally_instead", - "text": "Checking in verbally instead" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_162", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "During a quiet conversation, which contact helps you stay present?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "quiet_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_light_hand_resting_on_my_forearm", - "text": "A light hand resting on my forearm" - }, - { - "id": "knees_resting_together", - "text": "Knees resting together" - }, - { - "id": "a_shoulder_resting_against_yours", - "text": "A shoulder resting against yours" - }, - { - "id": "no_touch_until_afterward", - "text": "No touch until afterward" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_163", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which invitation to sit close feels most natural?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "communication", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "want_to_sit_with_me", - "text": "“Want to sit with me?”" - }, - { - "id": "making_room_and_asking_plainly", - "text": "Making room and asking plainly" - }, - { - "id": "offering_my_hand_and_waiting", - "text": "Offering my hand and waiting" - }, - { - "id": "using_a_signal_we_already_chose", - "text": "Using a signal we already chose" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_164", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should our clearest pause signal be?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_word_pause_said_plainly", - "text": "The word “pause” said plainly" - }, - { - "id": "two_gentle_taps_on_my_arm", - "text": "Two gentle taps on my arm" - }, - { - "id": "moving_apart_and_naming_it", - "text": "Moving apart and naming it" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_raised_between_us", - "text": "A hand raised between us" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_165", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When you seem busy, how should I offer affection?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "timing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "ask_whether_now_is_a_good_time", - "text": "Ask whether now is a good time" - }, - { - "id": "wait_for_a_natural_break", - "text": "Wait for a natural break" - }, - { - "id": "offer_my_hand_without_interrupting", - "text": "Offer my hand without interrupting" - }, - { - "id": "save_the_affection_for_later", - "text": "Save the affection for later" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_166", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which gentle kiss feels most affectionate during a calm moment?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "kissing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_forehead_kiss_while_resting", - "text": "A forehead kiss while resting" - }, - { - "id": "a_cheek_kiss_in_passing", - "text": "A cheek kiss in passing" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_kiss_during_a_joke", - "text": "A hand kiss during a joke" - }, - { - "id": "a_temple_kiss_before_parting", - "text": "A temple kiss before parting" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_167", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "During a standing embrace, where do your hands feel most comfortable?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "resting_on_my_upper_back", - "text": "Resting on my upper back" - }, - { - "id": "settling_on_my_shoulders", - "text": "Settling on my shoulders" - }, - { - "id": "holding_one_of_my_hands", - "text": "Holding one of my hands" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_my_hands_relaxed_at_my_sides", - "text": "Keeping my hands relaxed at my sides" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_168", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which setup best keeps a cuddle comfortable for more than a few minutes?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "cuddling", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "separate_supportive_pillows", - "text": "Separate supportive pillows" - }, - { - "id": "one_adjustable_blanket", - "text": "One adjustable blanket" - }, - { - "id": "legs_supported_instead_of_tangled", - "text": "Legs supported instead of tangled" - }, - { - "id": "side_by_side_with_room_to_shift", - "text": "Side by side with room to shift" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_169", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "On uneven ground, which offered support would feel useful without taking over?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "accessibility", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "an_open_forearm_to_hold", - "text": "An open forearm to hold" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_offered_before_each_tricky_step", - "text": "A hand offered before each tricky step" - }, - { - "id": "walking_close_enough_to_help_if_asked", - "text": "Walking close enough to help if asked" - }, - { - "id": "no_contact_unless_i_request_it", - "text": "No contact unless I request it" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_170", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When steady touch feels too warm, which alternative sounds best?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "weather", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_fingertip_tap_on_the_back_of_your_hand", - "text": "A fingertip tap on the back of your hand" - }, - { - "id": "feet_touching_for_a_moment", - "text": "Feet touching for a moment" - }, - { - "id": "a_short_cheek_kiss", - "text": "A short cheek kiss" - }, - { - "id": "a_shared_smile_from_a_little_distance", - "text": "A shared smile from a little distance" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_171", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which cold-weather moment makes affection especially appealing?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "weather", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "right_before_stepping_outside", - "text": "Right before stepping outside" - }, - { - "id": "just_after_coming_back_in", - "text": "Just after coming back in" - }, - { - "id": "while_waiting_outdoors_together", - "text": "While waiting outdoors together" - }, - { - "id": "while_sharing_a_warm_drink", - "text": "While sharing a warm drink" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_172", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "While doing something side by side, which gesture feels affectionate without getting in the way?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "home", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_brief_touch_at_the_elbow", - "text": "A brief touch at the elbow" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_shoulder_lean_during_a_pause", - "text": "A brief shoulder lean during a pause" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_palm_to_palm_tap", - "text": "A quick palm-to-palm tap" - }, - { - "id": "a_tiny_sway_when_there_is_room", - "text": "A tiny sway when there is room" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_173", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which in-passing gesture would brighten an ordinary day?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_shoulder_squeeze_at_the_doorway", - "text": "A shoulder squeeze at the doorway" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_brushed_along_your_arm", - "text": "A hand brushed along your arm" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_forehead_touch_and_smile", - "text": "A quick forehead touch and smile" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_kiss_blown_from_across_the_room", - "text": "A playful kiss blown from across the room" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_174", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "After a disagreement is resolved, which approach to touch feels safest?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "repair", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "ask_directly_before_moving_closer", - "text": "Ask directly before moving closer" - }, - { - "id": "sit_nearby_and_let_the_moment_settle", - "text": "Sit nearby and let the moment settle" - }, - { - "id": "offer_one_hand_without_assuming", - "text": "Offer one hand without assuming" - }, - { - "id": "wait_for_the_other_person_to_initiate", - "text": "Wait for the other person to initiate" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_175", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "On an insecure body day, what affection feels kindest?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_confidence", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "being_held_without_appearance_comments", - "text": "Being held without appearance comments" - }, - { - "id": "a_gentle_hand_offered_to_yours", - "text": "A gentle hand offered to yours" - }, - { - "id": "a_kiss_paired_with_kind_reassurance", - "text": "A kiss paired with kind reassurance" - }, - { - "id": "closeness_that_lets_you_choose_distance", - "text": "Closeness that lets you choose distance" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_176", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When your body is sore or tired, what support is most useful?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_light_hand_massage", - "text": "A light hand massage" - }, - { - "id": "a_carefully_placed_back_rub", - "text": "A carefully placed back rub" - }, - { - "id": "a_still_hand_resting_nearby", - "text": "A still hand resting nearby" - }, - { - "id": "no_touch_unless_you_request_it", - "text": "No touch unless you request it" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_177", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When casual touch is welcome in the moment, how should playful surprise affection happen?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "spontaneity", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "something_i_can_see_coming", - "text": "Something I can see coming" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_gesture_in_a_relaxed_moment", - "text": "A small gesture in a relaxed moment" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_surprise_with_an_easy_out", - "text": "A playful surprise with an easy out" - }, - { - "id": "a_clear_heads_up_before_any_touch", - "text": "A clear heads-up before any touch" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_178", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which hug length usually feels best?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quick_squeeze_and_release", - "text": "A quick squeeze and release" - }, - { - "id": "long_enough_for_one_deep_breath", - "text": "Long enough for one deep breath" - }, - { - "id": "several_breaths_without_rushing", - "text": "Several breaths without rushing" - }, - { - "id": "different_every_time_ask_me", - "text": "Different every time—ask me" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_179", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What hug pressure feels most comfortable?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "light_contact_with_room_to_move", - "text": "Light contact with room to move" - }, - { - "id": "a_warm_medium_squeeze", - "text": "A warm medium squeeze" - }, - { - "id": "firm_pressure_when_i_invite_it", - "text": "Firm pressure when I invite it" - }, - { - "id": "pressure_that_changes_with_my_cue", - "text": "Pressure that changes with my cue" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_180", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which pace makes affectionate touch feel best?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "brief_and_playful", - "text": "Brief and playful" - }, - { - "id": "slow_and_predictable", - "text": "Slow and predictable" - }, - { - "id": "still_and_steady", - "text": "Still and steady" - }, - { - "id": "varied_after_a_quick_check_in", - "text": "Varied after a quick check-in" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_181", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which nonverbal hug invitation is easiest to understand?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "opening_both_arms_and_waiting", - "text": "Opening both arms and waiting" - }, - { - "id": "holding_one_hand_out_first", - "text": "Holding one hand out first" - }, - { - "id": "moving_closer_then_pausing", - "text": "Moving closer, then pausing" - }, - { - "id": "using_our_agreed_hug_signal", - "text": "Using our agreed hug signal" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_182", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "After “not right now,” which response feels most reassuring?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "of_course_thanks_for_telling_me", - "text": "“Of course—thanks for telling me.”" - }, - { - "id": "a_warm_smile_and_immediate_space", - "text": "A warm smile and immediate space" - }, - { - "id": "an_offer_of_nonphysical_company", - "text": "An offer of nonphysical company" - }, - { - "id": "a_check_in_later_without_guilt", - "text": "A check-in later without guilt" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_183", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which tiny habit would be easiest to keep during a very busy month?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_real_hug_after_getting_home", - "text": "A real hug after getting home" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_forehead_touch_before_leaving", - "text": "A quick forehead touch before leaving" - }, - { - "id": "hands_linked_on_one_short_walk", - "text": "Hands linked on one short walk" - }, - { - "id": "a_quiet_cuddle_once_each_weekend", - "text": "A quiet cuddle once each weekend" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_184", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Across a room, which gesture should mean “check in with me when you can”?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "support_signals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_hand_briefly_over_the_heart", - "text": "A hand briefly over the heart" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_two_finger_wave", - "text": "A small two-finger wave" - }, - { - "id": "a_steady_look_with_one_nod", - "text": "A steady look with one nod" - }, - { - "id": "a_signal_we_choose_together", - "text": "A signal we choose together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_185", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which hand-focused gesture feels most soothing?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "massage", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "slow_circles_across_your_palm", - "text": "Slow circles across your palm" - }, - { - "id": "a_gentle_stretch_through_each_finger", - "text": "A gentle stretch through each finger" - }, - { - "id": "warm_lotion_rubbed_in_slowly", - "text": "Warm lotion rubbed in slowly" - }, - { - "id": "your_hands_resting_still_in_mine", - "text": "Your hands resting still in mine" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_186", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which pairing would make affection feel most personal?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "appreciation", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_specific_compliment_with_a_warm_side_hug", - "text": "A specific compliment with a warm side hug" - }, - { - "id": "an_inside_joke_with_a_cheek_kiss", - "text": "An inside joke with a cheek kiss" - }, - { - "id": "a_thank_you_with_a_long_hug", - "text": "A thank-you with a long hug" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_nickname_with_linked_hands", - "text": "A favorite nickname with linked hands" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_187", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Before a stressful appointment, which kind of support would feel best?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "support", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_calm_shoulder_to_shoulder_pause_in_the_car", - "text": "A calm shoulder-to-shoulder pause in the car" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_hug_before_walking_in", - "text": "A brief hug before walking in" - }, - { - "id": "a_light_touch_to_my_upper_arm_before_we_enter", - "text": "A light touch to my upper arm before we enter" - }, - { - "id": "nearby_company_without_touch", - "text": "Nearby company without touch" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_188", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which tiny coordination game sounds fun for two minutes?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "play", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "mirror_one_slow_stretch", - "text": "Mirror one slow stretch" - }, - { - "id": "invent_a_two_step_handshake", - "text": "Invent a two-step handshake" - }, - { - "id": "copy_each_other_s_hand_motions", - "text": "Copy each other’s hand motions" - }, - { - "id": "match_one_simple_dance_move", - "text": "Match one simple dance move" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_189", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "For a couple photo, which pose would feel most natural?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "photos", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "foreheads_together_and_laughing", - "text": "Foreheads together and laughing" - }, - { - "id": "back_to_back_with_matching_grins", - "text": "Back to back with matching grins" - }, - { - "id": "one_relaxed_hug_from_the_side", - "text": "One relaxed hug from the side" - }, - { - "id": "standing_close_with_hands_connected", - "text": "Standing close with hands connected" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_190", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which familiar physical moment feels comforting because we have done it so many times?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "couple_identity", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "our_usual_hello_embrace", - "text": "Our usual hello embrace" - }, - { - "id": "the_way_we_settle_beside_each_other", - "text": "The way we settle beside each other" - }, - { - "id": "the_way_our_knees_tap_under_a_table", - "text": "The way our knees tap under a table" - }, - { - "id": "the_goodnight_gesture_we_repeat", - "text": "The goodnight gesture we repeat" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_191", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which practical details affect where you prefer me to sit or walk beside you? Select any.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "accessibility", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "which_hand_you_like_to_keep_free", - "text": "Which hand you like to keep free" - }, - { - "id": "any_sore_side_or_sensitive_shoulder", - "text": "Any sore side or sensitive shoulder" - }, - { - "id": "which_side_makes_conversation_easier", - "text": "Which side makes conversation easier" - }, - { - "id": "bags_or_other_things_you_are_carrying", - "text": "Bags or other things you are carrying" - }, - { - "id": "how_much_space_the_setting_gives_us", - "text": "How much space the setting gives us" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_192", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "With no expectation and an easy stop, what else makes a cuddle comfortable? Choose all that matter.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "cuddling", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "enough_room_to_change_position", - "text": "Enough room to change position" - }, - { - "id": "a_temperature_that_feels_comfortable", - "text": "A temperature that feels comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "supportive_pillows_or_blankets", - "text": "Supportive pillows or blankets" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_without_competing_distractions", - "text": "Quiet without competing distractions" - }, - { - "id": "a_position_we_can_adjust_easily", - "text": "A position we can adjust easily" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_193", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which tiny affection habits fit naturally into everyday transitions? Pick any you would enjoy.", + "text": "What would help everyday affection feel more mutual?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_hug_after_walking_through_the_door", - "text": "A hug after walking through the door" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_cheek_to_cheek_goodbye", - "text": "A quick cheek-to-cheek goodbye" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_touch_after_finishing_a_meal", - "text": "A brief touch after finishing a meal" - }, - { - "id": "linked_arms_at_the_start_of_a_walk", - "text": "Linked arms at the start of a walk" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_when_the_day_finally_slows", - "text": "Sitting close when the day finally slows" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_194", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "On a low-touch day, what could still help you feel close? Select any that fit.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "low_touch_days", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sitting_nearby_without_contact", - "text": "Sitting nearby without contact" - }, - { - "id": "a_kind_text_from_another_room", - "text": "A kind text from another room" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_a_quiet_activity", - "text": "Sharing a quiet activity" - }, - { - "id": "an_affectionate_word_or_nickname", - "text": "An affectionate word or nickname" - }, - { - "id": "checking_again_at_a_later_time", - "text": "Checking again at a later time" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_195", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What can make physical affection feel playful? Choose every answer that sounds fun.", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_one_song_kitchen_dance", - "text": "A one-song kitchen dance" - }, - { - "id": "a_made_up_secret_handshake", - "text": "A made-up secret handshake" - }, - { - "id": "a_dramatic_celebration_hug", - "text": "A dramatic celebration hug" - }, - { - "id": "a_gentle_game_of_footsie", - "text": "A gentle game of footsie" - }, - { - "id": "a_silly_pose_for_a_photo", - "text": "A silly pose for a photo" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_196", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which public-contact choices feel comfortable when you are open to them? Pick any, including none.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "public_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "hands_connected_while_walking", - "text": "Hands connected while walking" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_cheek_kiss", - "text": "A quick cheek kiss" - }, - { - "id": "an_arm_lightly_around_you", - "text": "An arm lightly around you" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_greeting_hug", - "text": "A brief greeting hug" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_touch_private_until_later", - "text": "Keeping touch private until later" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_197", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "With either answer accepted, how could I invite physical closeness? Select every approach you like.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "ask_one_clear_question", - "text": "Ask one clear question" - }, - { - "id": "offer_an_open_hand_and_wait", - "text": "Offer an open hand and wait" - }, - { - "id": "make_space_and_ask_you_to_join_me", - "text": "Make space and ask you to join me" - }, - { - "id": "name_a_specific_gentle_gesture", - "text": "Name a specific gentle gesture" - }, - { - "id": "use_a_signal_we_agreed_on", - "text": "Use a signal we agreed on" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_198", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which ways of saying “not right now” would feel natural to you? Pick any.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "say_it_directly_and_kindly", - "text": "Say it directly and kindly" - }, - { - "id": "use_our_pause_word", - "text": "Use our pause word" - }, - { - "id": "ask_for_more_space", - "text": "Ask for more space" - }, - { - "id": "move_away_and_name_it_clearly", - "text": "Move away and name it clearly" - }, - { - "id": "suggest_another_connection_only_if_you_want", - "text": "Suggest another connection only if you want" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_199", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "After touch stops immediately, what else helps the moment stay supportive? Choose all that fit.", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "thank_them_for_being_clear", - "text": "Thank them for being clear" - }, - { - "id": "give_physical_room_right_away", - "text": "Give physical room right away" - }, - { - "id": "keep_the_mood_warm_and_ordinary", - "text": "Keep the mood warm and ordinary" - }, - { - "id": "switch_to_a_neutral_shared_activity", - "text": "Switch to a neutral shared activity" - }, - { - "id": "let_the_person_who_stopped_choose_any_later_closeness", - "text": "Let the person who stopped choose any later closeness" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_200", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which conditions help touch feel sensory-friendly? Select any that matter to you.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_needs", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "predictable_movements", - "text": "Predictable movements" - }, - { - "id": "comfortable_pressure", - "text": "Comfortable pressure" - }, - { - "id": "low_noise_and_fewer_distractions", - "text": "Low noise and fewer distractions" - }, - { - "id": "room_to_reposition_easily", - "text": "Room to reposition easily" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_warning_before_contact", - "text": "A quick warning before contact" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_201", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "When stress is high, which physical support might help after a check-in? Pick any.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_steady_hand_held_quietly", - "text": "A steady hand held quietly" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_grounding_hug", - "text": "A brief grounding hug" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_resting_on_your_shoulder", - "text": "A hand resting on your shoulder" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_without_contact", - "text": "Sitting close without contact" - }, - { - "id": "space_now_with_an_offer_later", - "text": "Space now with an offer later" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_202", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which gestures help you feel connected while exploring somewhere new? Select any.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "travel", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "my_hand_offered_in_a_crowd", - "text": "My hand offered in a crowd" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_hug_before_we_set_out", - "text": "A brief hug before we set out" - }, - { - "id": "shoulders_touching_while_we_pause", - "text": "Shoulders touching while we pause" - }, - { - "id": "our_private_check_in_gesture", - "text": "Our private check-in gesture" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_during_a_quiet_moment_at_day_s_end", - "text": "Sitting close during a quiet moment at day’s end" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_203", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "After physical activity, what would help affection feel comfortable? Choose any.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_comfort", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quick_celebratory_high_five", - "text": "A quick celebratory high-five" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_side_hug_after_cooling_down", - "text": "A brief side hug after cooling down" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_nearby_while_we_catch_our_breath", - "text": "Sitting nearby while we catch our breath" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_a_drink_shoulder_to_shoulder", - "text": "Sharing a drink shoulder to shoulder" - }, - { - "id": "waiting_until_after_a_shower", - "text": "Waiting until after a shower" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_204", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "After several days with little time together, which first moments help physical closeness feel natural again?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "reconnection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "share_a_slow_drink_side_by_side", - "text": "Share a slow drink side by side" - }, - { - "id": "take_a_short_hand_holding_walk", - "text": "Take a short hand-holding walk" - }, - { - "id": "return_to_a_familiar_sitting_spot", - "text": "Return to a familiar sitting spot" - }, - { - "id": "exchange_one_unhurried_hug", - "text": "Exchange one unhurried hug" - }, - { - "id": "choose_a_brief_phone_free_closeness_break", - "text": "Choose a brief phone-free closeness break" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_205", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Where could small affectionate moments fit into a busy day? Select any you would notice.", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "while_coffee_is_brewing", - "text": "While coffee is brewing" - }, - { - "id": "at_the_doorway_between_errands", - "text": "At the doorway between errands" - }, - { - "id": "during_a_short_stretch_break", - "text": "During a short stretch break" - }, - { - "id": "before_one_of_us_starts_a_call", - "text": "Before one of us starts a call" - }, - { - "id": "when_we_finally_sit_down", - "text": "When we finally sit down" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_206", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which gestures feel romantic while staying clearly nonsexual? Choose any that appeal.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "nonsexual_romance", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_slow_dance_in_ordinary_clothes", - "text": "A slow dance in ordinary clothes" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_kissed_during_a_joke", - "text": "A hand kissed during a joke" - }, - { - "id": "foreheads_resting_together_briefly", - "text": "Foreheads resting together briefly" - }, - { - "id": "a_note_delivered_with_a_hug", - "text": "A note delivered with a hug" - }, - { - "id": "hands_linked_under_the_table", - "text": "Hands linked under the table" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_207", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which changes might affect your touch preferences over time? Select any that apply.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "change", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "stress_or_sleep_levels", - "text": "Stress or sleep levels" - }, - { - "id": "pain_illness_or_recovery", - "text": "Pain, illness, or recovery" - }, - { - "id": "temperature_and_surroundings", - "text": "Temperature and surroundings" - }, - { - "id": "confidence_in_your_body", - "text": "Confidence in your body" - }, - { - "id": "how_emotionally_connected_you_feel", - "text": "How emotionally connected you feel" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_208", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What adjustments can make closeness more accessible and comfortable? Pick any.", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "accessibility", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "different_pillows_or_support", - "text": "Different pillows or support" - }, - { - "id": "positions_with_less_strain", - "text": "Positions with less strain" - }, - { - "id": "shorter_periods_of_contact", - "text": "Shorter periods of contact" - }, - { - "id": "clear_help_changing_position", - "text": "Clear help changing position" - }, - { - "id": "more_space_around_sensitive_areas", - "text": "More space around sensitive areas" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_209", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "With pausing easy and no gesture creating obligation, what else keeps affection mutual? Choose all that fit.", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mutuality", - "physical_intimacy" + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "both_people_initiate_sometimes", + "text": "Both people initiate sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_ask_directly", + "text": "Either person can ask directly" + }, + { + "id": "no_one_keeps_score", + "text": "No one keeps score" + }, + { + "id": "a_no_is_easy_to_accept", + "text": "A no is easy to accept" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ @@ -4272,20 +800,16 @@ "text": "Both people initiate sometimes" }, { - "id": "both_can_suggest_a_different_gesture", - "text": "Both can suggest a different gesture" + "id": "either_person_can_ask_directly", + "text": "Either person can ask directly" }, { - "id": "preferences_get_updated_openly", - "text": "Preferences get updated openly" + "id": "no_one_keeps_score", + "text": "No one keeps score" }, { - "id": "feedback_is_welcomed_kindly", - "text": "Feedback is welcomed kindly" - }, - { - "id": "each_persons_favorite_touches_matter", - "text": "Each person’s favorite touches matter" + "id": "a_no_is_easy_to_accept", + "text": "A no is easy to accept" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -4293,37 +817,52 @@ } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_210", + "id": "physical_intimacy_016", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which affectionate rituals would you genuinely want to repeat? Pick any.", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which kinds of hugs usually feel best?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "rituals", - "physical_intimacy" + "hugs", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_full_body_hug", + "text": "A full-body hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_side_hug", + "text": "A side hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_from_behind_after_asking", + "text": "A hug from behind after asking" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_tight_squeeze", + "text": "A short tight squeeze" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_daily_twenty_second_hug", - "text": "A daily twenty-second hug" + "id": "a_full_body_hug", + "text": "A full-body hug" }, { - "id": "a_weekly_slow_song_together", - "text": "A weekly slow song together" + "id": "a_side_hug", + "text": "A side hug" }, { - "id": "a_doorway_forehead_touch_ritual", - "text": "A doorway forehead-touch ritual" + "id": "a_hug_from_behind_after_asking", + "text": "A hug from behind after asking" }, { - "id": "a_sunday_morning_couch_cuddle", - "text": "A Sunday-morning couch cuddle" - }, - { - "id": "a_seasonal_cozy_night_ritual", - "text": "A seasonal cozy-night ritual" + "id": "a_short_tight_squeeze", + "text": "A short tight squeeze" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -4331,33 +870,321 @@ } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_211", + "id": "physical_intimacy_017", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How effortless does everyday affection feel between us lately?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Feels effortful", - "max_label": "Feels effortless" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_212", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy does it feel to ask me for a hug?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a hug feel especially comforting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "hugs", - "physical_intimacy" + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "enough_time_to_settle", + "text": "Enough time to settle" + }, + { + "id": "the_right_pressure", + "text": "The right pressure" + }, + { + "id": "quiet", + "text": "Quiet" + }, + { + "id": "being_asked_first_when_needed", + "text": "Being asked first when needed" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "enough_time_to_settle", + "text": "Enough time to settle" + }, + { + "id": "the_right_pressure", + "text": "The right pressure" + }, + { + "id": "quiet", + "text": "Quiet" + }, + { + "id": "being_asked_first_when_needed", + "text": "Being asked first when needed" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_018", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "A tight squeeze or a soft lingering hug?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hugs", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_tight_squeeze", + "text": "A tight squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "a_soft_lingering_hug", + "text": "A soft lingering hug" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_tight_squeeze", + "text": "A tight squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "a_soft_lingering_hug", + "text": "A soft lingering hug" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_019", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which moments make you most likely to want a hug?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hugs", + "timing", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "after_a_long_day", + "text": "After a long day" + }, + { + "id": "when_saying_hello", + "text": "When saying hello" + }, + { + "id": "after_good_news", + "text": "After good news" + }, + { + "id": "when_words_are_not_helping", + "text": "When words are not helping" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "after_a_long_day", + "text": "After a long day" + }, + { + "id": "when_saying_hello", + "text": "When saying hello" + }, + { + "id": "after_good_news", + "text": "After good news" + }, + { + "id": "when_words_are_not_helping", + "text": "When words are not helping" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_020", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should a good comfort hug communicate?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hugs", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "you_are_not_alone", + "text": "You are not alone" + }, + { + "id": "there_is_no_rush", + "text": "There is no rush" + }, + { + "id": "i_am_listening", + "text": "I am listening" + }, + { + "id": "you_can_pull_away_anytime", + "text": "You can pull away anytime" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "you_are_not_alone", + "text": "You are not alone" + }, + { + "id": "there_is_no_rush", + "text": "There is no rush" + }, + { + "id": "i_am_listening", + "text": "I am listening" + }, + { + "id": "you_can_pull_away_anytime", + "text": "You can pull away anytime" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_021", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which cuddle position has the best comfort-to-numb-arm ratio?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "cuddling", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "side_by_side", + "text": "Side by side" + }, + { + "id": "one_head_on_a_shoulder", + "text": "One head on a shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "spooning", + "text": "Spooning" + }, + { + "id": "separate_pillows_with_strategic_contact", + "text": "Separate pillows with strategic contact" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "side_by_side", + "text": "Side by side" + }, + { + "id": "one_head_on_a_shoulder", + "text": "One head on a shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "spooning", + "text": "Spooning" + }, + { + "id": "separate_pillows_with_strategic_contact", + "text": "Separate pillows with strategic contact" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_022", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can a celebration hug feel different from a comfort hug?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hugs", + "playfulness", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "more_energy", + "text": "More energy" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_lift_if_welcomed", + "text": "A quick lift if welcomed" + }, + { + "id": "laughter", + "text": "Laughter" + }, + { + "id": "a_bigger_squeeze", + "text": "A bigger squeeze" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "more_energy", + "text": "More energy" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_lift_if_welcomed", + "text": "A quick lift if welcomed" + }, + { + "id": "laughter", + "text": "Laughter" + }, + { + "id": "a_bigger_squeeze", + "text": "A bigger squeeze" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_023", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it to ask me for a hug when you need one?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hugs", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, @@ -4367,141 +1194,2611 @@ } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_213", + "id": "physical_intimacy_024", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to adjust public affection to the setting we are in?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which ways of being held feel most secure?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "holding", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "an_arm_around_your_shoulders", + "text": "An arm around your shoulders" + }, + { + "id": "both_arms_around_you", + "text": "Both arms around you" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_held_firmly", + "text": "A hand held firmly" + }, + { + "id": "leaning_chest_to_back", + "text": "Leaning chest to back" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "an_arm_around_your_shoulders", + "text": "An arm around your shoulders" + }, + { + "id": "both_arms_around_you", + "text": "Both arms around you" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_held_firmly", + "text": "A hand held firmly" + }, + { + "id": "leaning_chest_to_back", + "text": "Leaning chest to back" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_025", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "When should a hug be allowed to end without an official closing ceremony?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "whenever_either_person_loosens_their_arms", + "text": "Whenever either person loosens their arms" + }, + { + "id": "after_one_deep_breath", + "text": "After one deep breath" + }, + { + "id": "when_somebody_starts_swaying_awkwardly", + "text": "When somebody starts swaying awkwardly" + }, + { + "id": "before_a_phone_gets_crushed", + "text": "Before a phone gets crushed" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "whenever_either_person_loosens_their_arms", + "text": "Whenever either person loosens their arms" + }, + { + "id": "after_one_deep_breath", + "text": "After one deep breath" + }, + { + "id": "when_somebody_starts_swaying_awkwardly", + "text": "When somebody starts swaying awkwardly" + }, + { + "id": "before_a_phone_gets_crushed", + "text": "Before a phone gets crushed" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_026", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make a hug feel like too much?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hugs", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "too_much_pressure", + "text": "Too much pressure" + }, + { + "id": "being_held_when_you_need_space", + "text": "Being held when you need space" + }, + { + "id": "not_being_able_to_pull_away_easily", + "text": "Not being able to pull away easily" + }, + { + "id": "touch_arriving_without_warning", + "text": "Touch arriving without warning" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "too_much_pressure", + "text": "Too much pressure" + }, + { + "id": "being_held_when_you_need_space", + "text": "Being held when you need space" + }, + { + "id": "not_being_able_to_pull_away_easily", + "text": "Not being able to pull away easily" + }, + { + "id": "touch_arriving_without_warning", + "text": "Touch arriving without warning" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_027", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which reunion touches feel warm without being overwhelming?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "reunions", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_long_hug", + "text": "A long hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_kiss_and_hand_hold", + "text": "A quick kiss and hand hold" + }, + { + "id": "a_shoulder_squeeze", + "text": "A shoulder squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_for_you_to_reach_first", + "text": "Waiting for you to reach first" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_long_hug", + "text": "A long hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_kiss_and_hand_hold", + "text": "A quick kiss and hand hold" + }, + { + "id": "a_shoulder_squeeze", + "text": "A shoulder squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_for_you_to_reach_first", + "text": "Waiting for you to reach first" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_028", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which hand-holding styles feel most comfortable?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "hand_holding", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "fingers_interlaced", + "text": "Fingers interlaced" + }, + { + "id": "hands_loosely_linked", + "text": "Hands loosely linked" + }, + { + "id": "holding_one_finger", + "text": "Holding one finger" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_resting_over_yours", + "text": "A hand resting over yours" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "fingers_interlaced", + "text": "Fingers interlaced" + }, + { + "id": "hands_loosely_linked", + "text": "Hands loosely linked" + }, + { + "id": "holding_one_finger", + "text": "Holding one finger" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_resting_over_yours", + "text": "A hand resting over yours" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_029", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "written", 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"asking_before_moving_closer", + "text": "Asking before moving closer" + }, + { + "id": "letting_silence_be_enough", + "text": "Letting silence be enough" + }, + { + "id": "not_holding_on_if_you_pull_away", + "text": "Not holding on if you pull away" + }, + { + "id": "offering_another_kind_of_support", + "text": "Offering another kind of support" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_031", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which everyday kisses feel sweetest?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "kissing", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss", + "text": "A forehead kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_lip_kiss", + "text": "A quick lip kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_cheek_kiss", + "text": "A cheek kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_on_the_top_of_your_head", + "text": "A kiss on the top of your head" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss", + "text": "A forehead kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_lip_kiss", + "text": "A quick lip kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_cheek_kiss", + "text": "A cheek kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_on_the_top_of_your_head", + "text": "A kiss on the top of your head" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_032", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which moments make a simple kiss feel especially meaningful?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "kissing", + "timing", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "before_leaving", + "text": "Before leaving" + }, + { + "id": "after_reconnecting", + "text": "After reconnecting" + }, + { + "id": "during_a_quiet_pause", + "text": "During a quiet pause" + }, + { + "id": "after_one_of_us_did_something_thoughtful", + "text": "After one of us did something thoughtful" + } + ], + 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"Asking when the mood is unclear" + }, + { + "id": "no_assumption_that_it_leads_anywhere", + "text": "No assumption that it leads anywhere" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_035", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of kisses communicate comfort best?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "kissing", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss", + "text": "A forehead kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_on_the_temple", + "text": "A kiss on the temple" + }, + { + "id": "a_slow_cheek_kiss", + "text": "A slow cheek kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_gentle_lip_kiss", + "text": "A gentle lip kiss" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss", + "text": "A forehead kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_on_the_temple", + "text": "A kiss on the temple" + }, + { + "id": "a_slow_cheek_kiss", + "text": "A slow 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+ "text": "The airport reunion kiss" + }, + { + "id": "the_kitchen_kiss_while_holding_a_spatula", + "text": "The kitchen kiss while holding a spatula" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_037", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a kiss feel personal to you?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "kissing", + "meaning", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_timing", + "text": "The timing" + }, + { + "id": "the_way_i_hold_your_face", + "text": "The way I hold your face" + }, + { + "id": "the_softness", + "text": "The softness" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_i_noticed_your_mood", + "text": "Knowing I noticed your mood" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_timing", + "text": "The timing" + }, + { + "id": "the_way_i_hold_your_face", + "text": "The way I hold your face" + }, + { + "id": "the_softness", + "text": "The softness" + }, + { + "id": 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"type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Full-body cuddling or one small point of contact?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "full_body_cuddling", + "text": "Full-body cuddling" + }, + { + "id": "one_small_point_of_contact", + "text": "One small point of contact" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "full_body_cuddling", + "text": "Full-body cuddling" + }, + { + "id": "one_small_point_of_contact", + "text": "One small point of contact" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_049", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which points of contact feel cozy without trapping either person?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "shoulders_touching", + "text": "Shoulders touching" + }, + { + "id": 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"pillows_placed_before_anyone_commits", + "text": "Pillows placed before anyone commits" + }, + { + "id": "permission_to_rearrange_halfway_through", + "text": "Permission to rearrange halfway through" + }, + { + "id": "the_remote_within_neutral_territory", + "text": "The remote within neutral territory" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_blanket_large_enough_for_diplomacy", + "text": "A blanket large enough for diplomacy" + }, + { + "id": "pillows_placed_before_anyone_commits", + "text": "Pillows placed before anyone commits" + }, + { + "id": "permission_to_rearrange_halfway_through", + "text": "Permission to rearrange halfway through" + }, + { + "id": "the_remote_within_neutral_territory", + "text": "The remote within neutral territory" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_051", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which body part most deserves hazard pay during cuddling?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "cuddling", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_lower_arm", + "text": "The lower arm" + }, + { + "id": "the_neck", + "text": "The neck" + }, + { + "id": "the_hip_against_the_couch_edge", + "text": "The hip against the couch edge" + }, + { + "id": "the_leg_under_both_blankets", + "text": "The leg under both blankets" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_lower_arm", + "text": "The lower arm" + }, + { + "id": "the_neck", + "text": "The neck" + }, + { + "id": "the_hip_against_the_couch_edge", + "text": "The hip against the couch edge" + }, + { + "id": "the_leg_under_both_blankets", + "text": "The leg under both blankets" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_052", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "When is spooning most comfortable?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "positions", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "for_a_short_while", + "text": "For a short while" + }, + { + "id": "before_falling_asleep", + "text": "Before falling asleep" + }, + { + "id": "on_a_cold_morning", + "text": "On a cold morning" + }, + { + "id": "when_either_person_can_switch_sides", + "text": "When either person can switch sides" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "for_a_short_while", + "text": "For a short while" + }, + { + "id": "before_falling_asleep", + "text": "Before falling asleep" + }, + { + "id": "on_a_cold_morning", + "text": "On a cold morning" + }, + { + "id": "when_either_person_can_switch_sides", + "text": "When either person can switch sides" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_053", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it for us to get physically comfortable together?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Usually awkward", + "max_label": "Very easy" + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_054", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should happen when one person gets too warm while cuddling?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "shift_to_lighter_contact", + "text": "Shift to lighter contact" + }, + { + "id": "remove_the_blanket", + "text": "Remove the blanket" + }, + { + "id": "take_a_short_break", + "text": "Take a short break" + }, + { + "id": "keep_only_hands_or_feet_touching", + "text": "Keep only hands or feet touching" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "shift_to_lighter_contact", + "text": "Shift to lighter contact" + }, + { + "id": "remove_the_blanket", + "text": "Remove the blanket" + }, + { + "id": "take_a_short_break", + "text": "Take a short break" + }, + { + "id": "keep_only_hands_or_feet_touching", + "text": "Keep only hands or feet touching" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_055", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which bedtime compromise sounds fairest?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sleep", + "cuddling", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "cuddle_first_then_separate", + "text": "Cuddle first, then separate" + }, + { + "id": "hold_hands_until_sleepy", + "text": "Hold hands until sleepy" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_leans_in_briefly", + "text": "One person leans in briefly" + }, + { + "id": "skip_cuddling_when_sleep_matters_more", + "text": "Skip cuddling when sleep matters more" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cuddle_first_then_separate", + "text": "Cuddle first, then separate" + }, + { + "id": "hold_hands_until_sleepy", + "text": "Hold hands until sleepy" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_leans_in_briefly", + "text": "One person leans in briefly" + }, + { + "id": "skip_cuddling_when_sleep_matters_more", + "text": "Skip cuddling when sleep matters more" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_056", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which cuddle adjustments should feel normal to ask for?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "communication", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "less_pressure", + "text": "Less pressure" + }, + { + "id": "a_different_angle", + "text": "A different angle" + }, + { + "id": "more_room", + "text": "More room" + }, + { + "id": "a_complete_position_change", + "text": "A complete position change" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "less_pressure", + "text": "Less pressure" + }, + { + "id": "a_different_angle", + "text": "A different angle" + }, + { + "id": "more_room", + "text": "More room" + }, + { + "id": "a_complete_position_change", + "text": "A complete position change" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_057", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make cuddling feel emotionally comfortable too?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "emotional_comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_need_to_talk", + "text": "No need to talk" + }, + { + "id": "no_expectation_of_sex", + "text": "No expectation of sex" + }, + { + "id": "freedom_to_move", + "text": "Freedom to move" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_affection_will_not_become_a_test", + "text": "Knowing affection will not become a test" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_need_to_talk", + "text": "No need to talk" + }, + { + "id": "no_expectation_of_sex", + "text": "No expectation of sex" + }, + { + "id": "freedom_to_move", + "text": "Freedom to move" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_affection_will_not_become_a_test", + "text": "Knowing affection will not become a test" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_058", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which travel cuddle is actually possible without violating basic physics?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "travel", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "shoulders_touching", + "text": "Shoulders touching" + }, + { + "id": "one_head_briefly_on_a_shoulder", + "text": "One head briefly on a shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_until_the_vehicle_stops", + "text": "Waiting until the vehicle stops" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "shoulders_touching", + "text": "Shoulders touching" + }, + { + "id": "one_head_briefly_on_a_shoulder", + "text": "One head briefly on a shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_until_the_vehicle_stops", + "text": "Waiting until the vehicle stops" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_059", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "written", + "text": "What is the most comfortable way for us to fit together physically?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "preferences", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_060", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs tell you cuddling is no longer comfortable?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "cuddling", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "your_body_goes_tense", + "text": "Your body goes tense" + }, + { + "id": "you_keep_adjusting", + "text": "You keep adjusting" + }, + { + "id": "you_feel_overheated", + "text": "You feel overheated" + }, + { + "id": "you_want_space_but_hesitate_to_say_it", + "text": "You want space but hesitate to say it" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "your_body_goes_tense", + "text": "Your body goes tense" + }, + { + "id": "you_keep_adjusting", + "text": "You keep adjusting" + }, + { + "id": "you_feel_overheated", + "text": "You feel overheated" + }, + { + "id": "you_want_space_but_hesitate_to_say_it", + "text": "You want space but hesitate to say it" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_061", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which touch pressures feel best most often?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "pressure", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "very_light", + "text": "Very light" + }, + { + "id": "gentle_and_steady", + "text": "Gentle and steady" + }, + { + "id": "firm", + "text": "Firm" + }, + { + "id": "it_depends_on_the_area", + "text": "It depends on the area" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "very_light", + "text": "Very light" + }, + { + "id": "gentle_and_steady", + "text": "Gentle and steady" + }, + { + "id": "firm", + "text": "Firm" + }, + { + "id": "it_depends_on_the_area", + "text": "It depends on the area" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_062", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which textures make physical closeness more comfortable?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "textures", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "soft_clothing", + "text": "Soft clothing" + }, + { + "id": "smooth_sheets", + "text": "Smooth sheets" + }, + { + "id": "a_fluffy_blanket", + "text": "A fluffy blanket" + }, + { + "id": "bare_skin_when_comfortable", + "text": "Bare skin when comfortable" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "soft_clothing", + "text": "Soft clothing" + }, + { + "id": "smooth_sheets", + "text": "Smooth sheets" + }, + { + "id": "a_fluffy_blanket", + "text": "A fluffy blanket" + }, + { + "id": "bare_skin_when_comfortable", + "text": "Bare skin when comfortable" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_063", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Light fingertips or a steady full hand?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "light_fingertips", + "text": "Light fingertips" + }, + { + "id": "a_steady_full_hand", + "text": "A steady full hand" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "light_fingertips", + "text": "Light fingertips" + }, + { + "id": "a_steady_full_hand", + "text": "A steady full hand" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_064", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of touch can become irritating faster than expected?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "limits", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "repeated_light_tapping", + "text": "Repeated light tapping" + }, + { + "id": "tickling", + "text": "Tickling" + }, + { + "id": "hair_being_moved", + "text": "Hair being moved" + }, + { + "id": "touch_in_the_same_spot_too_long", + "text": "Touch in the same spot too long" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "repeated_light_tapping", + "text": "Repeated light tapping" + }, + { + "id": "tickling", + "text": "Tickling" + }, + { + "id": "hair_being_moved", + "text": "Hair being moved" + }, + { + "id": "touch_in_the_same_spot_too_long", + "text": "Touch in the same spot too long" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_065", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps your body relax into affectionate touch?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "knowing_where_the_touch_is_coming", + "text": "Knowing where the touch is coming" + }, + { + "id": "steady_pressure", + "text": "Steady pressure" + }, + { + "id": "a_calm_environment", + "text": "A calm environment" + }, + { + "id": "being_able_to_guide_it", + "text": "Being able to guide it" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "knowing_where_the_touch_is_coming", + "text": "Knowing where the touch is coming" + }, 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"One freezing foot" + }, + { + "id": "a_scratchy_fabric", + "text": "A scratchy fabric" + }, + { + "id": "hair_in_somebody_s_face", + "text": "Hair in somebody's face" + }, + { + "id": "the_room_being_set_to_tropical_greenhouse", + "text": "The room being set to tropical greenhouse" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_067", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which areas are usually safest for casual affection?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "body_preferences", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "hands", + "text": "Hands" + }, + { + "id": "shoulders", + "text": "Shoulders" + }, + { + "id": "upper_back", + "text": "Upper back" + }, + { + "id": "wherever_i_have_already_said_is_comfortable", + "text": "Wherever I have already said is comfortable" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "hands", + "text": "Hands" + }, + { + "id": "shoulders", + "text": "Shoulders" + }, + { + "id": "upper_back", + "text": "Upper back" + }, + { + "id": "wherever_i_have_already_said_is_comfortable", + "text": "Wherever I have already said is comfortable" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_068", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How well do I understand your touch preferences?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not well enough", + "max_label": "Very well" + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_069", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes tickling enjoyable rather than irritating?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "tickling", + "playfulness", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_stays_brief", + "text": "It stays brief" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_can_stop_it_immediately", + "text": "The person can stop it immediately" + }, + { + "id": "it_happens_only_in_certain_moods", + "text": "It happens only in certain moods" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_are_laughing", + "text": "Both people are laughing" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_stays_brief", + "text": "It stays brief" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_can_stop_it_immediately", + "text": "The person can stop it immediately" + }, + { + "id": "it_happens_only_in_certain_moods", + "text": "It happens only in certain moods" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_are_laughing", + "text": "Both people are laughing" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_070", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which temperature makes close contact easiest?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "temperature", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "cool_room_warm_blanket", + "text": "Cool room, warm blanket" + }, + { + "id": "warm_room_light_contact", + "text": "Warm room, light contact" + }, + { + "id": "cold_weather", + "text": "Cold weather" + }, + { + "id": "temperature_matters_less_than_comfort", + "text": "Temperature matters less than comfort" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cool_room_warm_blanket", + "text": "Cool room, warm blanket" + }, + { + "id": "warm_room_light_contact", + "text": "Warm room, light contact" + }, + { + "id": "cold_weather", + "text": "Cold weather" + }, + { + "id": "temperature_matters_less_than_comfort", + "text": "Temperature matters less than comfort" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_071", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signals help when touch needs to change?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "communication", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "saying_softer", + "text": "Saying softer" + }, + { + "id": "moving_the_hand_gently", + "text": "Moving the hand gently" + }, + { + "id": "asking_for_a_pause", + "text": "Asking for a pause" + }, + { + "id": "changing_position", + "text": "Changing position" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "saying_softer", + "text": "Saying softer" + }, + { + "id": "moving_the_hand_gently", + "text": "Moving the hand gently" + }, + { + "id": "asking_for_a_pause", + "text": "Asking for a pause" + }, + { + "id": "changing_position", + "text": "Changing position" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_072", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make hair touching feel good?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "hair_touch", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "slow_strokes", + "text": "Slow strokes" + }, + { + "id": "a_light_scalp_rub", + "text": "A light scalp rub" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_hair_away_from_the_face", + "text": "Keeping hair away from the face" + }, + { + "id": "asking_before_touching_styled_hair", + "text": "Asking before touching styled hair" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "slow_strokes", + "text": "Slow strokes" + }, + { + "id": "a_light_scalp_rub", + "text": "A light scalp rub" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_hair_away_from_the_face", + "text": "Keeping hair away from the face" + }, + { + "id": "asking_before_touching_styled_hair", + "text": "Asking before touching styled hair" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_073", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which option should be protected from unexpected cold hands?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "your_back", + "text": "Your back" + }, + { + "id": "your_stomach", + "text": "Your stomach" + }, + { + "id": "your_neck", + "text": "Your neck" + }, + { + "id": "every_available_inch_of_skin", + "text": "Every available inch of skin" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "your_back", + "text": "Your back" + }, + { + "id": "your_stomach", + "text": "Your stomach" + }, + { + "id": "your_neck", + "text": "Your neck" + }, + { + "id": "every_available_inch_of_skin", + "text": "Every available inch of skin" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_074", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How comfortable are you correcting touch in the moment?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "communication", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not comfortable yet", + "max_label": "Very comfortable" + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_075", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should I remember about sensory preferences?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "respect", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "they_can_change_by_the_day", + "text": "They can change by the day" + }, + { + "id": "a_favorite_touch_can_still_be_wrong_sometimes", + "text": "A favorite touch can still be wrong sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "comfort_matters_more_than_habit", + "text": "Comfort matters more than habit" + }, + { + "id": "you_do_not_owe_a_reason_for_changing_your_mind", + "text": "You do not owe a reason for changing your mind" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "they_can_change_by_the_day", + "text": "They can change by the day" + }, + { + "id": "a_favorite_touch_can_still_be_wrong_sometimes", + "text": "A favorite touch can still be wrong sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "comfort_matters_more_than_habit", + "text": "Comfort matters more than habit" + }, + { + "id": "you_do_not_owe_a_reason_for_changing_your_mind", + "text": "You do not owe a reason for changing your mind" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_076", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of public affection feel comfortable?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ "public_affection", - "physical_intimacy" + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_hug", + "text": "A quick hug" + }, + { + "id": "an_arm_around_you", + "text": "An arm around you" + }, + { + "id": "i_prefer_affection_in_private", + "text": "I prefer affection in private" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not easy yet", - "max_label": "Very easy" + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_hug", + "text": "A quick hug" + }, + { + "id": "an_arm_around_you", + "text": "An arm around you" + }, + { + "id": "i_prefer_affection_in_private", + "text": "I prefer affection in private" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_214", + "id": "physical_intimacy_077", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do I understand your everyday touch preferences?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which settings make public affection feel easiest?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "understanding", - "physical_intimacy" + "public_affection", + "setting", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_quiet_walk", + "text": "A quiet walk" + }, + { + "id": "a_casual_gathering", + "text": "A casual gathering" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_place", + "text": "A familiar place" + }, + { + "id": "somewhere_we_are_unlikely_to_be_watched_closely", + "text": "Somewhere we are unlikely to be watched closely" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Still learning", - "max_label": "Understand them well" + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_quiet_walk", + "text": "A quiet walk" + }, + { + "id": "a_casual_gathering", + "text": "A casual gathering" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_place", + "text": "A familiar place" + }, + { + "id": "somewhere_we_are_unlikely_to_be_watched_closely", + "text": "Somewhere we are unlikely to be watched closely" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_215", + "id": "physical_intimacy_078", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to say “not right now” to physical affection?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not easy yet", - "max_label": "Very easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_216", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How often does affection between us include a moment of genuine fun?", + "text": "How does affection around other people feel to you?", "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Rarely", - "max_label": "Very often" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_217", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do our current affection rituals add warmth to your day?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Very little warmth", - "max_label": "A lot of warmth" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_218", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How pressure-free does physical closeness feel between us?", - "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "pressure", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not fully pressure-free", - "max_label": "Completely pressure-free" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_219", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How confident are you that a pause or stop will be respected immediately?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not fully confident", - "max_label": "Completely confident" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_220", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable are you with spontaneous everyday touch from me?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "spontaneity", - "physical_intimacy" + "public_affection", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, @@ -4511,105 +3808,982 @@ } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_221", + "id": "physical_intimacy_079", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Hold hands in public or save touch for private?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "hold_hands_in_public", + "text": "Hold hands in public" + }, + { + "id": "save_touch_for_private", + "text": "Save touch for private" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "hold_hands_in_public", + "text": "Hold hands in public" + }, + { + "id": "save_touch_for_private", + "text": "Save touch for private" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_080", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which public gestures feel affectionate without feeling performative?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_on_your_back", + "text": "A hand on your back" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_naturally", + "text": "Holding hands naturally" + }, + { + "id": "a_brief_kiss", + "text": "A brief kiss" + }, + { + "id": "standing_close", + "text": "Standing close" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_on_your_back", + "text": "A hand on your back" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_naturally", + "text": "Holding hands naturally" + }, + { + "id": "a_brief_kiss", + "text": "A brief kiss" + }, + { + "id": "standing_close", + "text": "Standing close" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_081", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which situations can make public affection uncomfortable?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "feeling_watched", + "text": "Feeling watched" + }, + { + "id": "cultural_or_family_concerns", + "text": "Cultural or family concerns" + }, + { + "id": "a_crowded_setting", + "text": "A crowded setting" + }, + { + "id": "the_gesture_feeling_bigger_than_the_moment", + "text": "The gesture feeling bigger than the moment" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "feeling_watched", + "text": "Feeling watched" + }, + { + "id": "cultural_or_family_concerns", + "text": "Cultural or family concerns" + }, + { + "id": "a_crowded_setting", + "text": "A crowded setting" + }, + { + "id": "the_gesture_feeling_bigger_than_the_moment", + "text": "The gesture feeling bigger than the moment" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_082", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which public touch has the lowest chance of becoming a full committee discussion?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "public_affection", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_shoulder_touch", + "text": "A quick shoulder touch" + }, + { + "id": "a_brief_hug", + "text": "A brief hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_secret_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A secret hand squeeze" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_quick_shoulder_touch", + "text": "A quick shoulder touch" + }, + { + "id": "a_brief_hug", + "text": "A brief hug" + }, + { + "id": "a_secret_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A secret hand squeeze" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_083", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we check public-affection comfort without making it awkward?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "communication", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_beforehand", + "text": "Ask beforehand" + }, + { + "id": "use_a_familiar_signal", + "text": "Use a familiar signal" + }, + { + "id": "start_small", + "text": "Start small" + }, + { + "id": "accept_a_no_immediately", + "text": "Accept a no immediately" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_beforehand", + "text": "Ask beforehand" + }, + { + "id": "use_a_familiar_signal", + "text": "Use a familiar signal" + }, + { + "id": "start_small", + "text": "Start small" + }, + { + "id": "accept_a_no_immediately", + "text": "Accept a no immediately" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_084", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do our usual cuddle positions fit your physical comfort?", + "text": "How well do our public-affection preferences match?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "alignment", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very different", + "max_label": "Very similar" + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_085", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which family or social settings may call for less affection?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "context", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "formal_events", + "text": "Formal events" + }, + { + "id": "work_gatherings", + "text": "Work gatherings" + }, + { + "id": "places_where_one_person_feels_exposed", + "text": "Places where one person feels exposed" + }, + { + "id": "any_setting_we_have_discussed_in_advance", + "text": "Any setting we have discussed in advance" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "formal_events", + "text": "Formal events" + }, + { + "id": "work_gatherings", + "text": "Work gatherings" + }, + { + "id": "places_where_one_person_feels_exposed", + "text": "Places where one person feels exposed" + }, + { + "id": "any_setting_we_have_discussed_in_advance", + "text": "Any setting we have discussed in advance" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_086", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the best quiet signal that public affection is welcome?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "signals", + "public_affection", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "reaching_for_your_hand", + "text": "Reaching for your hand" + }, + { + "id": "leaning_closer", + "text": "Leaning closer" + }, + { + "id": "touching_your_arm", + "text": "Touching your arm" + }, + { + "id": "asking_softly", + "text": "Asking softly" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "reaching_for_your_hand", + "text": "Reaching for your hand" + }, + { + "id": "leaning_closer", + "text": "Leaning closer" + }, + { + "id": "touching_your_arm", + "text": "Touching your arm" + }, + { + "id": "asking_softly", + "text": "Asking softly" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_087", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps different public-affection preferences coexist?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "differences", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_teasing_either_preference", + "text": "No teasing either preference" + }, + { + "id": "agreeing_on_a_few_easy_gestures", + "text": "Agreeing on a few easy gestures" + }, + { + "id": "private_affection_still_gets_protected", + "text": "Private affection still gets protected" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_change_their_mind", + "text": "Either person can change their mind" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_teasing_either_preference", + "text": "No teasing either preference" + }, + { + "id": "agreeing_on_a_few_easy_gestures", + "text": "Agreeing on a few easy gestures" + }, + { + "id": "private_affection_still_gets_protected", + "text": "Private affection still gets protected" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_change_their_mind", + "text": "Either person can change their mind" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_088", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of public closeness can feel supportive during stress?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "support", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "standing_shoulder_to_shoulder", + "text": "Standing shoulder to shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "a_brief_hug", + "text": "A brief hug" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_close_without_touching", + "text": "Keeping close without touching" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "standing_shoulder_to_shoulder", + "text": "Standing shoulder to shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "a_brief_hug", + "text": "A brief hug" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_close_without_touching", + "text": "Keeping close without touching" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_089", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which gesture can say we came together without announcing it to the county?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "public_affection", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "walking_side_by_side", + "text": "Walking side by side" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_at_the_elbow", + "text": "A hand at the elbow" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close", + "text": "Sitting close" + }, + { + "id": "the_highly_classified_hand_squeeze", + "text": "The highly classified hand squeeze" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "walking_side_by_side", + "text": "Walking side by side" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_at_the_elbow", + "text": "A hand at the elbow" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close", + "text": "Sitting close" + }, + { + "id": "the_highly_classified_hand_squeeze", + "text": "The highly classified hand squeeze" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_090", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should never be assumed about public affection?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_affection", + "consent", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "comfort_is_the_same_everywhere", + "text": "Comfort is the same everywhere" + }, + { + "id": "a_past_yes_applies_today", + "text": "A past yes applies today" + }, + { + "id": "one_partner_owes_a_public_display", + "text": "One partner owes a public display" + }, + { + "id": "declining_means_embarrassment_about_the_relationship", + "text": "Declining means embarrassment about the relationship" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "comfort_is_the_same_everywhere", + "text": "Comfort is the same everywhere" + }, + { + "id": "a_past_yes_applies_today", + "text": "A past yes applies today" + }, + { + "id": "one_partner_owes_a_public_display", + "text": "One partner owes a public display" + }, + { + "id": "declining_means_embarrassment_about_the_relationship", + "text": "Declining means embarrassment about the relationship" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_091", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "When you are stressed, which kind of closeness helps most?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "stress", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_firm_hug", + "text": "A firm hug" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_quietly_together", + "text": "Sitting quietly together" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "space_first_touch_later", + "text": "Space first, touch later" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_firm_hug", + "text": "A firm hug" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_quietly_together", + "text": "Sitting quietly together" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "space_first_touch_later", + "text": "Space first, touch later" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_092", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which touches can communicate support without requiring conversation?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "support", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_on_your_shoulder", + "text": "A hand on your shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_after_asking", + "text": "A hug after asking" + }, + { + "id": "holding_your_hand", + "text": "Holding your hand" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_with_knees_touching", + "text": "Sitting with knees touching" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_on_your_shoulder", + "text": "A hand on your shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_after_asking", + "text": "A hug after asking" + }, + { + "id": "holding_your_hand", + "text": "Holding your hand" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_with_knees_touching", + "text": "Sitting with knees touching" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_093", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How safe does comforting touch feel when you are upset?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "comfort", - "physical_intimacy" + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, - "min_label": "Could fit better", - "max_label": "Fit very well" + "min_label": "Not safe enough", + "max_label": "Very safe" } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_222", + "id": "physical_intimacy_094", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How accepted do low-touch days feel in our relationship?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Comforting touch first or quiet space first?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "low_touch_days", - "physical_intimacy" + "comfort", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "comforting_touch_first", + "text": "Comforting touch first" + }, + { + "id": "quiet_space_first", + "text": "Quiet space first" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not fully accepted", - "max_label": "Completely accepted" + "options": [ + { + "id": "comforting_touch_first", + "text": "Comforting touch first" + }, + { + "id": "quiet_space_first", + "text": "Quiet space first" + } + ] } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_223", + "id": "physical_intimacy_095", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable do you feel initiating nonsexual affection?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should happen before touch during a tense moment?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "initiation", - "physical_intimacy" + "stress", + "consent", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_what_would_help", + "text": "Ask what would help" + }, + { + "id": "notice_whether_the_other_person_is_tense", + "text": "Notice whether the other person is tense" + }, + { + "id": "keep_the_approach_slow", + "text": "Keep the approach slow" + }, + { + "id": "accept_space_without_offense", + "text": "Accept space without offense" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not comfortable yet", - "max_label": "Very comfortable" + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_what_would_help", + "text": "Ask what would help" + }, + { + "id": "notice_whether_the_other_person_is_tense", + "text": "Notice whether the other person is tense" + }, + { + "id": "keep_the_approach_slow", + "text": "Keep the approach slow" + }, + { + "id": "accept_space_without_offense", + "text": "Accept space without offense" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_224", + "id": "physical_intimacy_096", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How often does our affection feel intentional instead of automatic?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which touch feels least demanding on a rough day?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "routine", - "physical_intimacy" + "stress", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_brief_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A brief hand squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss", + "text": "A forehead kiss" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_nearby", + "text": "Sitting nearby" + }, + { + "id": "no_touch_until_i_ask", + "text": "No touch until I ask" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Rarely intentional", - "max_label": "Almost always intentional" + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_brief_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A brief hand squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss", + "text": "A forehead kiss" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_nearby", + "text": "Sitting nearby" + }, + { + "id": "no_touch_until_i_ask", + "text": "No touch until I ask" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_225", + "id": "physical_intimacy_097", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we adapt touch when one of us is tired or sore?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which comfort plan works when words have officially resigned for the evening?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "body_comfort", - "physical_intimacy" + "humor", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_blanket_and_shoulder_contact", + "text": "A blanket and shoulder contact" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_hug", + "text": "A quiet hug" + }, + { + "id": "tea_and_separate_couch_corners", + "text": "Tea and separate couch corners" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_nearby_without_fixing_anything", + "text": "Sitting nearby without fixing anything" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very well", - "max_label": "Very well" + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_blanket_and_shoulder_contact", + "text": "A blanket and shoulder contact" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_hug", + "text": "A quiet hug" + }, + { + "id": "tea_and_separate_couch_corners", + "text": "Tea and separate couch corners" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_nearby_without_fixing_anything", + "text": "Sitting nearby without fixing anything" + } + ] } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_226", + "id": "physical_intimacy_098", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to give me feedback about pressure, pace, or placement?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make comforting touch miss the mark?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "feedback", - "physical_intimacy" + "comfort", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "touching_before_listening", + "text": "Touching before listening" + }, + { + "id": "holding_too_tightly", + "text": "Holding too tightly" + }, + { + "id": "assuming_touch_will_solve_the_feeling", + "text": "Assuming touch will solve the feeling" + }, + { + "id": "taking_a_request_for_space_personally", + "text": "Taking a request for space personally" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "touching_before_listening", + "text": "Touching before listening" + }, + { + "id": "holding_too_tightly", + "text": "Holding too tightly" + }, + { + "id": "assuming_touch_will_solve_the_feeling", + "text": "Assuming touch will solve the feeling" + }, + { + "id": "taking_a_request_for_space_personally", + "text": "Taking a request for space personally" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_099", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it for us to adjust when comfort needs differ?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "comfort", + "adaptability", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, @@ -4619,33 +4793,1159 @@ } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_227", + "id": "physical_intimacy_100", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How connected do you feel during quiet, nonsexual closeness?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps touch feel supportive after disappointment?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "quiet_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" + "comfort", + "support", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_calm_approach", + "text": "A calm approach" + }, + { + "id": "no_demand_to_cheer_up", + "text": "No demand to cheer up" + }, + { + "id": "asking_where_touch_feels_okay", + "text": "Asking where touch feels okay" + }, + { + "id": "letting_the_moment_stay_quiet", + "text": "Letting the moment stay quiet" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_calm_approach", + "text": "A calm approach" + }, + { + "id": "no_demand_to_cheer_up", + "text": "No demand to cheer up" + }, + { + "id": "asking_where_touch_feels_okay", + "text": "Asking where touch feels okay" + }, + { + "id": "letting_the_moment_stay_quiet", + "text": "Letting the moment stay quiet" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_101", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the gentlest way to reconnect after a hard conversation?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "repair", + "comfort", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "hold_hands", + "text": "Hold hands" + }, + { + "id": "sit_close_without_touching", + "text": "Sit close without touching" + }, + { + "id": "offer_a_brief_hug", + "text": "Offer a brief hug" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_feels_okay", + "text": "Ask what feels okay" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "hold_hands", + "text": "Hold hands" + }, + { + "id": "sit_close_without_touching", + "text": "Sit close without touching" + }, + { + "id": "offer_a_brief_hug", + "text": "Offer a brief hug" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_feels_okay", + "text": "Ask what feels okay" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_102", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which forms of physical reassurance avoid making promises with touch?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "reassurance", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A hand squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_with_honest_words", + "text": "A hug with honest words" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_nearby", + "text": "Sitting nearby" + }, + { + "id": "touch_that_does_not_replace_the_needed_conversation", + "text": "Touch that does not replace the needed conversation" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hand_squeeze", + "text": "A hand squeeze" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_with_honest_words", + "text": "A hug with honest words" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_nearby", + "text": "Sitting nearby" + }, + { + "id": "touch_that_does_not_replace_the_needed_conversation", + "text": "Touch that does not replace the needed conversation" + } + ], + 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"return_to_closeness_only_if_invited", + "text": "Return to closeness only if invited" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_104", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which quiet touch could say I am on your side?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "support", + "signals", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_your_hand", + "text": "Holding your hand" + }, + { + "id": "a_palm_between_your_shoulders", + "text": "A palm between your shoulders" + }, + { + "id": "touching_knees", + "text": "Touching knees" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_for_you_to_reach_first", + "text": "Waiting for you to reach first" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_your_hand", + "text": "Holding your hand" + }, + { + "id": "a_palm_between_your_shoulders", + "text": "A palm between your shoulders" + }, + { + "id": "touching_knees", + "text": "Touching knees" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_for_you_to_reach_first", + "text": "Waiting for you to reach first" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_105", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should remain true about comfort touch during conflict?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "conflict", + "consent", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_never_used_to_stop_the_conversation", + "text": "It is never used to stop the conversation" + }, + { + "id": "a_no_is_respected", + "text": "A no is respected" + }, + { + "id": "touch_is_not_proof_that_the_issue_is_solved", + "text": "Touch is not proof that the issue is solved" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_can_choose_space", + "text": "Both people can choose space" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_never_used_to_stop_the_conversation", + "text": "It is never used to stop the conversation" + }, + { + "id": "a_no_is_respected", + "text": "A no is respected" + }, + { + "id": "touch_is_not_proof_that_the_issue_is_solved", + "text": "Touch is not proof that the issue is solved" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_can_choose_space", + "text": "Both people can choose space" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_106", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which way of asking for touch feels most natural?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "communication", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "can_i_hold_you", + "text": "Can I hold you?" + }, + { + "id": "would_a_hug_help", + "text": "Would a hug help?" + }, + { + "id": "do_you_want_closeness_or_space", + "text": "Do you want closeness or space?" + }, + { + "id": "reaching_out_and_waiting_for_your_response", + "text": "Reaching out and waiting for your response" + } + ], + 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"answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "not_right_now", + "text": "Not right now" + }, + { + "id": "softer", + "text": "Softer" + }, + { + "id": "please_stop", + "text": "Please stop" + }, + { + "id": "i_would_rather_have_a_different_kind_of_touch", + "text": "I would rather have a different kind of touch" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_108", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How safe does it feel to decline affection with me?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very connected", - "max_label": "Deeply connected" + "min_label": "Not safe enough", + "max_label": "Completely safe" } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_228", + "id": "physical_intimacy_109", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable are you asking for more personal space while staying emotionally close?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Ask with words or offer a hand and wait?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "personal_space", - "physical_intimacy" + "consent", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_with_words", + "text": "Ask with words" + }, + { + "id": "offer_a_hand_and_wait", + "text": "Offer a hand and wait" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_with_words", + "text": "Ask with words" + }, + { + "id": "offer_a_hand_and_wait", + "text": "Offer a hand and wait" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_110", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs mean touch should pause immediately?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "signals", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_body_becomes_tense", + "text": "The body becomes tense" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_pulls_away", + "text": "The person pulls away" + }, + { + "id": "the_response_becomes_uncertain", + "text": "The response becomes uncertain" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_says_stop_or_not_now", + "text": "The person says stop or not now" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_body_becomes_tense", + "text": "The body becomes tense" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_pulls_away", + "text": "The person pulls away" + }, + { + "id": "the_response_becomes_uncertain", + "text": "The response becomes uncertain" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_says_stop_or_not_now", + "text": "The person says stop or not now" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_111", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a no to affection easier to trust?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "respect", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_sulking", + "text": "No sulking" + }, + { + "id": "no_repeated_asking", + "text": "No repeated asking" + }, + { + "id": "no_treating_it_as_rejection_of_the_relationship", + "text": "No treating it as rejection of the relationship" + }, + { + "id": "warmth_can_continue_without_touch", + "text": "Warmth can continue without touch" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_sulking", + "text": "No sulking" + }, + { + "id": "no_repeated_asking", + "text": "No repeated asking" + }, + { + "id": "no_treating_it_as_rejection_of_the_relationship", + "text": "No treating it as rejection of the relationship" + }, + { + "id": "warmth_can_continue_without_touch", + "text": "Warmth can continue without touch" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_112", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which changing affection preference would you most want accepted without explanation?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "whether_a_hug_sounds_good", + "text": "Whether a hug sounds good" + }, + { + "id": "how_long_cuddling_lasts", + "text": "How long cuddling lasts" + }, + { + "id": "whether_public_touch_feels_okay", + "text": "Whether public touch feels okay" + }, + { + "id": "where_touch_feels_comfortable", + "text": "Where touch feels comfortable" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "whether_a_hug_sounds_good", + "text": "Whether a hug sounds good" + }, + { + "id": "how_long_cuddling_lasts", + "text": "How long cuddling lasts" + }, + { + "id": "whether_public_touch_feels_okay", + "text": "Whether public touch feels okay" + }, + { + "id": "where_touch_feels_comfortable", + "text": "Where touch feels comfortable" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_113", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which situations can be mistaken for permission to touch?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_in_a_relationship", + "text": "Being in a relationship" + }, + { + "id": "enjoying_it_yesterday", + "text": "Enjoying it yesterday" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close", + "text": "Sitting close" + }, + { + "id": "not_verbally_objecting", + "text": "Not verbally objecting" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_in_a_relationship", + "text": "Being in a relationship" + }, + { + "id": "enjoying_it_yesterday", + "text": "Enjoying it yesterday" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close", + "text": "Sitting close" + }, + { + "id": "not_verbally_objecting", + "text": "Not verbally objecting" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_114", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How confident are you that I will notice when touch stops feeling good?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "trust", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not confident enough", + "max_label": "Very confident" + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_115", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we make changing a touch preference feel normal?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "communication", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_it_plainly", + "text": "Say it plainly" + }, + { + "id": "thank_the_person_for_telling_you", + "text": "Thank the person for telling you" + }, + { + "id": "adjust_without_debate", + "text": "Adjust without debate" + }, + { + "id": "remember_preferences_are_not_contracts", + "text": "Remember preferences are not contracts" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_it_plainly", + "text": "Say it plainly" + }, + { + "id": "thank_the_person_for_telling_you", + "text": "Thank the person for telling you" + }, + { + "id": "adjust_without_debate", + "text": "Adjust without debate" + }, + { + "id": "remember_preferences_are_not_contracts", + "text": "Remember preferences are not contracts" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_116", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which first response best respects a declined offer of affection?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "respect", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "okay_thank_you_for_telling_me", + "text": "Okay, thank you for telling me" + }, + { + "id": "no_problem", + "text": "No problem" + }, + { + "id": "would_space_help", + "text": "Would space help?" + }, + { + "id": "would_another_kind_of_support_help", + "text": "Would another kind of support help?" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "okay_thank_you_for_telling_me", + "text": "Okay, thank you for telling me" + }, + { + "id": "no_problem", + "text": "No problem" + }, + { + "id": "would_space_help", + "text": "Would space help?" + }, + { + "id": "would_another_kind_of_support_help", + "text": "Would another kind of support help?" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_117", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which boundaries protect affectionate touch from becoming pressure?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "affection_does_not_owe_sex", + "text": "Affection does not owe sex" + }, + { + "id": "comfort_touch_stays_comfort_touch", + "text": "Comfort touch stays comfort touch" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_stop", + "text": "Either person can stop" + }, + { + "id": "no_scorekeeping", + "text": "No scorekeeping" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "affection_does_not_owe_sex", + "text": "Affection does not owe sex" + }, + { + "id": "comfort_touch_stays_comfort_touch", + "text": "Comfort touch stays comfort touch" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_stop", + "text": "Either person can stop" + }, + { + "id": "no_scorekeeping", + "text": "No scorekeeping" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_118", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps touch after a boundary conversation feel safe again?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "repair", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "let_the_person_who_set_the_boundary_lead", + "text": "Let the person who set the boundary lead" + }, + { + "id": "start_with_something_familiar", + "text": "Start with something familiar" + }, + { + "id": "ask_clearly", + "text": "Ask clearly" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_closeness_may_take_time", + "text": "Accept that closeness may take time" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "let_the_person_who_set_the_boundary_lead", + "text": "Let the person who set the boundary lead" + }, + { + "id": "start_with_something_familiar", + "text": "Start with something familiar" + }, + { + "id": "ask_clearly", + "text": "Ask clearly" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_closeness_may_take_time", + "text": "Accept that closeness may take time" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_119", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which phrase should end a touch debate instantly?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "consent", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "not_right_now", + "text": "Not right now" + }, + { + "id": "please_stop", + "text": "Please stop" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_space", + "text": "I need space" + }, + { + "id": "any_sentence_containing_no", + "text": "Any sentence containing no" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "not_right_now", + "text": "Not right now" + }, + { + "id": "please_stop", + "text": "Please stop" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_space", + "text": "I need space" + }, + { + "id": "any_sentence_containing_no", + "text": "Any sentence containing no" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_120", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes physical consent feel warm rather than formal?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "communication", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_caring_tone", + "text": "A caring tone" + }, + { + "id": "simple_language", + "text": "Simple language" + }, + { + "id": "respecting_the_answer", + "text": "Respecting the answer" + }, + { + "id": "still_being_affectionate_in_other_welcome_ways", + "text": "Still being affectionate in other welcome ways" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_caring_tone", + "text": "A caring tone" + }, + { + "id": "simple_language", + "text": "Simple language" + }, + { + "id": "respecting_the_answer", + "text": "Respecting the answer" + }, + { + "id": "still_being_affectionate_in_other_welcome_ways", + "text": "Still being affectionate in other welcome ways" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_121", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which adjustment makes closeness easiest when your body hurts?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "pain", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "more_pillows", + "text": "More pillows" + }, + { + "id": "lighter_pressure", + "text": "Lighter pressure" + }, + { + "id": "a_shorter_cuddle", + "text": "A shorter cuddle" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close_without_leaning", + "text": "Sitting close without leaning" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "more_pillows", + "text": "More pillows" + }, + { + "id": "lighter_pressure", + "text": "Lighter pressure" + }, + { + "id": "a_shorter_cuddle", + "text": "A shorter cuddle" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close_without_leaning", + "text": "Sitting close without leaning" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_122", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should we consider when pain or illness changes touch?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "health", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "where_touch_feels_safe_today", + "text": "Where touch feels safe today" + }, + { + "id": "how_long_contact_is_comfortable", + "text": "How long contact is comfortable" + }, + { + "id": "whether_support_is_needed", + "text": "Whether support is needed" + }, + { + "id": "that_preferences_may_change_quickly", + "text": "That preferences may change quickly" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "where_touch_feels_safe_today", + "text": "Where touch feels safe today" + }, + { + "id": "how_long_contact_is_comfortable", + "text": "How long contact is comfortable" + }, + { + "id": "whether_support_is_needed", + "text": "Whether support is needed" + }, + { + "id": "that_preferences_may_change_quickly", + "text": "That preferences may change quickly" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_123", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How comfortable are you telling me when touch causes discomfort?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, @@ -4655,490 +5955,1305 @@ } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_229", + "id": "physical_intimacy_124", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do our usual reunion gestures fit what you enjoy?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Adjust the position or switch to a different kind of closeness?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "adjust_the_position", + "text": "Adjust the position" + }, + { + "id": "switch_to_a_different_kind_of_closeness", + "text": "Switch to a different kind of closeness" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "adjust_the_position", + "text": "Adjust the position" + }, + { + "id": "switch_to_a_different_kind_of_closeness", + "text": "Switch to a different kind of closeness" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_125", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which forms of closeness work on low-energy days?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "low_energy", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_shoulder_to_shoulder", + "text": "Sitting shoulder to shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_hug", + "text": "A short hug" + }, + { + "id": "resting_nearby_without_touching", + "text": "Resting nearby without touching" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_shoulder_to_shoulder", + "text": "Sitting shoulder to shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_hug", + "text": "A short hug" + }, + { + "id": "resting_nearby_without_touching", + "text": "Resting nearby without touching" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_126", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can help when one person's mobility is limited?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "greetings", - "physical_intimacy" + "accessibility", + "mobility", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "bring_closeness_to_a_comfortable_position", + "text": "Bring closeness to a comfortable position" + }, + { + "id": "let_the_person_direct_movement", + "text": "Let the person direct movement" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_surprise_pulling_or_lifting", + "text": "Avoid surprise pulling or lifting" + }, + { + "id": "use_supports_without_making_a_production_of_it", + "text": "Use supports without making a production of it" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Could fit better", - "max_label": "Fit perfectly" + "options": [ + { + "id": "bring_closeness_to_a_comfortable_position", + "text": "Bring closeness to a comfortable position" + }, + { + "id": "let_the_person_direct_movement", + "text": "Let the person direct movement" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_surprise_pulling_or_lifting", + "text": "Avoid surprise pulling or lifting" + }, + { + "id": "use_supports_without_making_a_production_of_it", + "text": "Use supports without making a production of it" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_230", + "id": "physical_intimacy_127", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How relaxed does affection feel when other people are nearby?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which accessibility tool deserves honorary membership in the relationship?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "social_settings", - "physical_intimacy" + "humor", + "accessibility", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_extra_pillow", + "text": "The extra pillow" + }, + { + "id": "the_heating_pad", + "text": "The heating pad" + }, + { + "id": "the_supportive_chair", + "text": "The supportive chair" + }, + { + "id": "the_blanket_rolled_into_a_strangely_specific_shape", + "text": "The blanket rolled into a strangely specific shape" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not relaxed", - "max_label": "Very relaxed" + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_extra_pillow", + "text": "The extra pillow" + }, + { + "id": "the_heating_pad", + "text": "The heating pad" + }, + { + "id": "the_supportive_chair", + "text": "The supportive chair" + }, + { + "id": "the_blanket_rolled_into_a_strangely_specific_shape", + "text": "The blanket rolled into a strangely specific shape" + } + ] } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_231", + "id": "physical_intimacy_128", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do you feel our physical affection reflects both people’s preferences?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can affection adapt during recovery from an injury or procedure?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "mutuality", - "physical_intimacy" + "accessibility", + "recovery", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_before_touching_sensitive_areas", + "text": "Ask before touching sensitive areas" + }, + { + "id": "use_shorter_contact", + "text": "Use shorter contact" + }, + { + "id": "choose_a_safer_position", + "text": "Choose a safer position" + }, + { + "id": "let_healing_take_priority", + "text": "Let healing take priority" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very balanced", - "max_label": "Very balanced" + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_before_touching_sensitive_areas", + "text": "Ask before touching sensitive areas" + }, + { + "id": "use_shorter_contact", + "text": "Use shorter contact" + }, + { + "id": "choose_a_safer_position", + "text": "Choose a safer position" + }, + { + "id": "let_healing_take_priority", + "text": "Let healing take priority" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_232", + "id": "physical_intimacy_129", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable are you changing your mind after affection has started?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How well does our physical affection adapt to body changes?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "consent", - "physical_intimacy" + "accessibility", + "adaptability", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not comfortable yet", - "max_label": "Completely comfortable" + "min_label": "Not well enough", + "max_label": "Very well" } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_233", + "id": "physical_intimacy_130", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which changes may affect how touch feels from one day to another?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "body_changes", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "pain", + "text": "Pain" + }, + { + "id": "fatigue", + "text": "Fatigue" + }, + { + "id": "temperature_sensitivity", + "text": "Temperature sensitivity" + }, + { + "id": "medication_or_illness", + "text": "Medication or illness" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "pain", + "text": "Pain" + }, + { + "id": "fatigue", + "text": "Fatigue" + }, + { + "id": "temperature_sensitivity", + "text": "Temperature sensitivity" + }, + { + "id": "medication_or_illness", + "text": "Medication or illness" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_131", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What should happen when a familiar cuddle suddenly hurts?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "pain", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "stop_and_reposition", + "text": "Stop and reposition" + }, + { + "id": "switch_to_lighter_contact", + "text": "Switch to lighter contact" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_changed", + "text": "Ask what changed" + }, + { + "id": "choose_another_form_of_closeness", + "text": "Choose another form of closeness" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "stop_and_reposition", + "text": "Stop and reposition" + }, + { + "id": "switch_to_lighter_contact", + "text": "Switch to lighter contact" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_changed", + "text": "Ask what changed" + }, + { + "id": "choose_another_form_of_closeness", + "text": "Choose another form of closeness" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_132", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps body changes feel less embarrassing during affection?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "body_image", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_teasing", + "text": "No teasing" + }, + { + "id": "no_pressure_to_explain_everything", + "text": "No pressure to explain everything" + }, + { + "id": "practical_adjustments_without_drama", + "text": "Practical adjustments without drama" + }, + { + "id": "continuing_to_show_genuine_affection", + "text": "Continuing to show genuine affection" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_teasing", + "text": "No teasing" + }, + { + "id": "no_pressure_to_explain_everything", + "text": "No pressure to explain everything" + }, + { + "id": "practical_adjustments_without_drama", + "text": "Practical adjustments without drama" + }, + { + "id": "continuing_to_show_genuine_affection", + "text": "Continuing to show genuine affection" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_133", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of touch may be easiest during sensory overload?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "sensory", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "firm_steady_pressure", + "text": "Firm steady pressure" + }, + { + "id": "one_predictable_point_of_contact", + "text": "One predictable point of contact" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_offered_but_not_placed", + "text": "A hand offered but not placed" + }, + { + "id": "no_touch_until_the_overload_settles", + "text": "No touch until the overload settles" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "firm_steady_pressure", + "text": "Firm steady pressure" + }, + { + "id": "one_predictable_point_of_contact", + "text": "One predictable point of contact" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_offered_but_not_placed", + "text": "A hand offered but not placed" + }, + { + "id": "no_touch_until_the_overload_settles", + "text": "No touch until the overload settles" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_134", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which phrase best protects comfort without killing the mood?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "communication", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "that_angle_hurts", + "text": "That angle hurts" + }, + { + "id": "lighter_please", + "text": "Lighter, please" + }, + { + "id": "can_we_move", + "text": "Can we move?" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_a_break", + "text": "I need a break" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "that_angle_hurts", + "text": "That angle hurts" + }, + { + "id": "lighter_please", + "text": "Lighter, please" + }, + { + "id": "can_we_move", + "text": "Can we move?" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_a_break", + "text": "I need a break" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_135", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should guide affection when bodies change over time?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "long_term", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "current_comfort", + "text": "Current comfort" + }, + { + "id": "honest_feedback", + "text": "Honest feedback" + }, + { + "id": "creativity_without_pressure", + "text": "Creativity without pressure" + }, + { + "id": "affection_that_does_not_depend_on_physical_ability", + "text": "Affection that does not depend on physical ability" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "current_comfort", + "text": "Current comfort" + }, + { + "id": "honest_feedback", + "text": "Honest feedback" + }, + { + "id": "creativity_without_pressure", + "text": "Creativity without pressure" + }, + { + "id": "affection_that_does_not_depend_on_physical_ability", + "text": "Affection that does not depend on physical ability" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_136", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which playful affection would make you smile fastest?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "playfulness", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_surprise_dance_in_the_kitchen", + "text": "A surprise dance in the kitchen" + }, + { + "id": "a_dramatic_dip_after_asking", + "text": "A dramatic dip after asking" + }, + { + "id": "a_nose_kiss", + "text": "A nose kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_ridiculous_formal_handshake", + "text": "A ridiculous formal handshake" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_surprise_dance_in_the_kitchen", + "text": "A surprise dance in the kitchen" + }, + { + "id": "a_dramatic_dip_after_asking", + "text": "A dramatic dip after asking" + }, + { + "id": "a_nose_kiss", + "text": "A nose kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_ridiculous_formal_handshake", + "text": "A ridiculous formal handshake" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_137", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which affectionate traditions could still be fun years from now?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "long_term", + "traditions", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_goodbye_kiss", + "text": "A goodbye kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_reunion_hug", + "text": "A reunion hug" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_on_walks", + "text": "Holding hands on walks" + }, + { + "id": "a_secret_signal_in_public", + "text": "A secret signal in public" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_goodbye_kiss", + "text": "A goodbye kiss" + }, + { + "id": "a_reunion_hug", + "text": "A reunion hug" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_on_walks", + "text": "Holding hands on walks" + }, + { + "id": "a_secret_signal_in_public", + "text": "A secret signal in public" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_138", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to return to affection after one of us has needed extra space?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "How playful does our physical affection feel lately?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "playfulness", + "current_state", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not very playful", + "max_label": "Very playful" + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_139", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Bring back an old affectionate habit or invent a new one?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "long_term", + "quick_choice", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "bring_back_an_old_habit", + "text": "Bring back an old habit" + }, + { + "id": "invent_a_new_one", + "text": "Invent a new one" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "bring_back_an_old_habit", + "text": "Bring back an old habit" + }, + { + "id": "invent_a_new_one", + "text": "Invent a new one" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_140", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What keeps affection from becoming background noise?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "long_term", + "attention", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "changing_the_timing", + "text": "Changing the timing" + }, + { + "id": "making_eye_contact", + "text": "Making eye contact" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_touch_instead_of_doing_it_automatically", + "text": "Choosing touch instead of doing it automatically" + }, + { + "id": "still_asking_what_feels_good", + "text": "Still asking what feels good" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "changing_the_timing", + "text": "Changing the timing" + }, + { + "id": "making_eye_contact", + "text": "Making eye contact" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_touch_instead_of_doing_it_automatically", + "text": "Choosing touch instead of doing it automatically" + }, + { + "id": "still_asking_what_feels_good", + "text": "Still asking what feels good" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_141", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which forms of affection age especially well?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "long_term", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "forehead_kisses", + "text": "Forehead kisses" + }, + { + "id": "leaning_together", + "text": "Leaning together" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_that_lasts_long_enough", + "text": "A hug that lasts long enough" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands", + "text": "Holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "forehead_kisses", + "text": "Forehead kisses" + }, + { + "id": "leaning_together", + "text": "Leaning together" + }, + { + "id": "a_hug_that_lasts_long_enough", + "text": "A hug that lasts long enough" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_142", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which future-us affection habit sounds most realistic?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "long_term", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands_while_complaining_about_the_weather", + "text": "Holding hands while complaining about the weather" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_one_blanket_badly", + "text": "Sharing one blanket badly" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_before_discussing_prescriptions", + "text": "A kiss before discussing prescriptions" + }, + { + "id": "still_fighting_over_the_comfortable_chair", + "text": "Still fighting over the comfortable chair" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_hands_while_complaining_about_the_weather", + "text": "Holding hands while complaining about the weather" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_one_blanket_badly", + "text": "Sharing one blanket badly" + }, + { + "id": "a_kiss_before_discussing_prescriptions", + "text": "A kiss before discussing prescriptions" + }, + { + "id": "still_fighting_over_the_comfortable_chair", + "text": "Still fighting over the comfortable chair" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_143", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make affection return after a distant season?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reconnection", - "physical_intimacy" + "long_term", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "start_small", + "text": "Start small" + }, + { + "id": "name_what_has_felt_missing", + "text": "Name what has felt missing" + }, + { + "id": "let_either_person_set_the_pace", + "text": "Let either person set the pace" + }, + { + "id": "choose_familiar_touch_without_forcing_emotion", + "text": "Choose familiar touch without forcing emotion" + } ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very easy", - "max_label": "Very easy" + "options": [ + { + "id": "start_small", + "text": "Start small" + }, + { + "id": "name_what_has_felt_missing", + "text": "Name what has felt missing" + }, + { + "id": "let_either_person_set_the_pace", + "text": "Let either person set the pace" + }, + { + "id": "choose_familiar_touch_without_forcing_emotion", + "text": "Choose familiar touch without forcing emotion" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_234", + "id": "physical_intimacy_144", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much room is there for humor in our physical affection?", + "type": "written", + "text": "What is one way you hope our physical closeness grows over time?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "long_term", + "hope", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_145", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which changes could refresh nonsexual closeness?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "novelty", + "long_term", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_new_greeting_ritual", + "text": "A new greeting ritual" + }, + { + "id": "more_walks_holding_hands", + "text": "More walks holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_regular_cuddle_break", + "text": "A regular cuddle break" + }, + { + "id": "learning_each_other_s_current_preferences", + "text": "Learning each other's current preferences" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_new_greeting_ritual", + "text": "A new greeting ritual" + }, + { + "id": "more_walks_holding_hands", + "text": "More walks holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_regular_cuddle_break", + "text": "A regular cuddle break" + }, + { + "id": "learning_each_other_s_current_preferences", + "text": "Learning each other's current preferences" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_146", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which affectionate milestone deserves a completely unnecessary certificate?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "milestones", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_perfect_couch_arrangement", + "text": "The perfect couch arrangement" + }, + { + "id": "a_week_of_real_hello_hugs", + "text": "A week of real hello hugs" + }, + { + "id": "successfully_sharing_a_blanket", + "text": "Successfully sharing a blanket" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_which_shoulder_is_the_comfortable_one", + "text": "Remembering which shoulder is the comfortable one" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_perfect_couch_arrangement", + "text": "The perfect couch arrangement" + }, + { + "id": "a_week_of_real_hello_hugs", + "text": "A week of real hello hugs" + }, + { + "id": "successfully_sharing_a_blanket", + "text": "Successfully sharing a blanket" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_which_shoulder_is_the_comfortable_one", + "text": "Remembering which shoulder is the comfortable one" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "physical_intimacy_147", + "category_id": "physical_intimacy", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should future affection never become?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "play", - "physical_intimacy" + "long_term", + "boundaries", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Very little", - "max_label": "Plenty of room" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_235", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How confident are you that we can adapt affection as our bodies change?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "adaptability", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not confident yet", - "max_label": "Very confident" - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_236", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Read with our shoulders touching or listen to music with our feet touching?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "cuddling", - "physical_intimacy" + "options": [ + { + "id": "an_obligation", + "text": "An obligation" + }, + { + "id": "a_test_of_love", + "text": "A test of love" + }, + { + "id": "a_substitute_for_talking", + "text": "A substitute for talking" + }, + { + "id": "a_guaranteed_path_to_sex", + "text": "A guaranteed path to sex" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "shoulders_touching_while_we_read", - "text": "Shoulders touching while we read" + "id": "an_obligation", + "text": "An obligation" }, { - "id": "feet_touching_while_music_plays", - "text": "Feet touching while music plays" + "id": "a_test_of_love", + "text": "A test of love" + }, + { + "id": "a_substitute_for_talking", + "text": "A substitute for talking" + }, + { + "id": "a_guaranteed_path_to_sex", + "text": "A guaranteed path to sex" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_237", + "id": "physical_intimacy_148", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "A playful nose bump or a quiet forehead touch?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_playful_nose_bump", - "text": "A playful nose bump" - }, - { - "id": "a_quiet_forehead_touch", - "text": "A quiet forehead touch" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_238", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Warm hands or cool hands?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "sensory_preferences", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "warm_hands", - "text": "Warm hands" - }, - { - "id": "cool_hands", - "text": "Cool hands" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_239", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "An open hand offered or open arms waiting?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "invitations", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "an_open_hand_offered", - "text": "An open hand offered" - }, - { - "id": "open_arms_waiting", - "text": "Open arms waiting" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_240", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "A morning cheek-to-cheek hello or an evening shoulder-to-shoulder pause?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "greetings", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_morning_cheek_to_cheek_hello", - "text": "A morning cheek-to-cheek hello" - }, - { - "id": "an_evening_shoulder_to_shoulder_pause", - "text": "An evening shoulder-to-shoulder pause" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_241", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Indoor cozy closeness or fresh-air closeness?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs would show our physical closeness is healthy?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "cozy_closeness", - "physical_intimacy" + "long_term", + "wellbeing", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "both_people_initiate", + "text": "Both people initiate" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_can_decline", + "text": "Both people can decline" + }, + { + "id": "touch_changes_with_comfort", + "text": "Touch changes with comfort" + }, + { + "id": "affection_still_feels_warm", + "text": "Affection still feels warm" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "indoor_cozy_closeness", - "text": "Indoor cozy closeness" + "id": "both_people_initiate", + "text": "Both people initiate" }, { - "id": "fresh_air_closeness", - "text": "Fresh-air closeness" + "id": "both_people_can_decline", + "text": "Both people can decline" + }, + { + "id": "touch_changes_with_comfort", + "text": "Touch changes with comfort" + }, + { + "id": "affection_still_feels_warm", + "text": "Affection still feels warm" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_242", + "id": "physical_intimacy_149", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Slow swaying or a still embrace?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "dance", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "slow_swaying", - "text": "Slow swaying" - }, - { - "id": "a_still_embrace", - "text": "A still embrace" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_243", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Arm around your shoulders or hand resting on your upper back?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the main reason to keep learning each other's touch preferences?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "affection", - "physical_intimacy" + "long_term", + "growth", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "bodies_change", + "text": "Bodies change" + }, + { + "id": "moods_change", + "text": "Moods change" + }, + { + "id": "comfort_changes", + "text": "Comfort changes" + }, + { + "id": "we_are_not_mind_readers", + "text": "We are not mind readers" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "arm_around_my_shoulders", - "text": "An arm around my shoulders" + "id": "bodies_change", + "text": "Bodies change" }, { - "id": "hand_on_my_upper_back", - "text": "A hand on my upper back" + "id": "moods_change", + "text": "Moods change" + }, + { + "id": "comfort_changes", + "text": "Comfort changes" + }, + { + "id": "we_are_not_mind_readers", + "text": "We are not mind readers" } ] } }, { - "id": "physical_intimacy_244", + "id": "physical_intimacy_150", "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Secret high-five or private fingertip tap?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What would make physical intimacy feel like something we keep choosing?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "playful_affection", - "physical_intimacy" + "long_term", + "mutuality", + "physical_intimacy", + "consent_first" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "curiosity", + "text": "Curiosity" + }, + { + "id": "easy_consent", + "text": "Easy consent" + }, + { + "id": "regular_small_affection", + "text": "Regular small affection" + }, + { + "id": "respect_when_either_person_wants_space", + "text": "Respect when either person wants space" + } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_secret_high_five", - "text": "A secret high-five" + "id": "curiosity", + "text": "Curiosity" }, { - "id": "a_private_fingertip_tap", - "text": "A private fingertip tap" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_245", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Talk during closeness or enjoy the quiet?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "talk_while_we_are_close", - "text": "Talk while we are close" + "id": "easy_consent", + "text": "Easy consent" }, { - "id": "enjoy_the_quiet_together", - "text": "Enjoy the quiet together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_246", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Upright cuddle or reclined cuddle?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "cuddling", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "an_upright_cuddle", - "text": "An upright cuddle" + "id": "regular_small_affection", + "text": "Regular small affection" }, { - "id": "a_reclined_cuddle", - "text": "A reclined cuddle" + "id": "respect_when_either_person_wants_space", + "text": "Respect when either person wants space" } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_247", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Doorway hug or blown kiss from across the room?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "greetings", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_doorway_hug", - "text": "A doorway hug" - }, - { - "id": "a_blown_kiss_across_the_room", - "text": "A blown kiss across the room" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_248", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Knees touching or leaning back to back?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "closeness", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "knees_touching_lightly", - "text": "Knees touching lightly" - }, - { - "id": "leaning_back_to_back", - "text": "Leaning back to back" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_249", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "One unhurried affectionate moment or several quick ones?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "timing", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "one_unhurried_moment", - "text": "One unhurried moment" - }, - { - "id": "several_quick_moments", - "text": "Several quick moments" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "physical_intimacy_250", - "category_id": "physical_intimacy", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Revive an old affection ritual or create a completely new one?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "future", - "physical_intimacy" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "revive_an_old_ritual", - "text": "Revive an old ritual" - }, - { - "id": "create_a_completely_new_one", - "text": "Create a completely new one" - } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } } ] -} \ No newline at end of file +} diff --git a/seed/questions/quality_time.json b/seed/questions/quality_time.json index 67b57109..e2922d3b 100644 --- a/seed/questions/quality_time.json +++ b/seed/questions/quality_time.json @@ -2,46 +2,118 @@ "category": { "id": "quality_time", "display_name": "Quality Time", - "description": "Warm, easy-to-answer questions that help couples feel present, known, relaxed, and intentionally together through ordinary routines, quiet closeness, meaningful conversation, affection, and realistic plans.", + "description": "Warm, playful questions about how couples spend time together through ordinary routines, quiet company, shared activities, attention, conversation, flirting, realistic invitations, traditions, and accessible plans.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "schedule_heart", "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { - "content_version": "quality_time_v11_150_max_second_editorial_pass", - "guide_version": "QUESTION_CONTENT_GUIDE v10 + QUESTION_SCHEMA v7 + QUESTION_QUALITY_CHECKLIST v10", - "review_policy": "Rebuilt in six 25-question batches with full-pack checks for spoken voice, option fit, pacing, repetition, premium value, inclusivity, prediction, low-energy play, flirting, and invitations.", - "mass_rewrite_reason": "The prior pack contained 250 questions and 150 written responses, so more than 60% shared structural failures under the current 150-question and written-question limits.", - "compatibility_note": "Numeric depth and answer_config are retained for the active importer. Choice questions mirror options at the top level.", "total_questions": 150, "free_questions": 45, "premium_questions": 105, "type_counts": { - "written": 5, - "single_choice": 30, "multi_choice": 90, + "single_choice": 30, "scale": 15, - "this_or_that": 10 + "this_or_that": 10, + "written": 5 }, - "second_pass_summary": "Reordered the full pack so every 10-question window mixes light connection, practical preferences, couple lore, prediction, flirting, and an actionable invitation; then completed a read-aloud and answer-fit review.", - "coverage_targets": { - "flirty_questions": 15, - "invitation_or_action_questions": 24, - "prediction_and_reveal_questions": 15, - "couple_lore_questions": 25, - "low_energy_questions": 38, - "adult_humor_questions": 14 + "depth_counts": { + "1": 90, + "2": 45, + "3": 15 }, - "second_editorial_pass": { - "corrections": 18, - "focus": [ - "natural adult spoken voice", - "prompt-option fit", - "near-duplicate mechanics", - "category distinction", - "free and premium value" - ], - "result": "Preserved the 150-question structure while removing awkward jargon, one duplicated invitation mechanic, one overlapping settings question, and several worksheet-like phrases." - } + "depth_percentages": { + "light": 60.0, + "medium": 30.0, + "deep": 10.0 + }, + "content_version": "quality_time_150_final_v14", + "rewrite_reason": "Rebuilt as a complete 150-question production pack with a clearer boundary around how couples spend time together. The pack avoids duplicating emotional vulnerability, date-specific planning, physical affection preferences, or household task management.", + "related_pack_boundary": "Quality Time owns the shape of shared time: routines, presence, shared activities, quiet company, conversation settings, playfulness, invitations, traditions, low-energy connection, and accessible plans. Specific date ideas belong in date_night. Emotional vulnerability and feeling deeply known belong in emotional_intimacy. Touch preferences belong in physical_intimacy. General fun prompts without a together-time focus belong in fun.", + "safety_boundary": "Time together must not be framed as proof of love, an obligation, or a reason to remove healthy alone time. Either person may decline, shorten, adapt, or reschedule a plan without punishment.", + "coverage_sections": [ + "at_home_time", + "routines_transitions", + "attention_presence", + "low_energy_busy_life", + "shared_activities", + "conversation_quiet", + "play_flirting", + "invitations_planning", + "couple_lore_traditions", + "accessibility_social_energy_future" + ], + "review_workflow": "Six 25-question production batches and three 50-question checkpoints with schema, option-fit, voice, repetition, access, depth, accessibility, and related-pack boundary checks.", + "final_validation": "pass", + "batch_review": [ + { + "batch": 1, + "first_id": "quality_time_001", + "last_id": "quality_time_025", + "count": 25, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 2, + "first_id": "quality_time_026", + "last_id": "quality_time_050", + "count": 25, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 3, + "first_id": "quality_time_051", + "last_id": "quality_time_075", + "count": 25, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 4, + "first_id": "quality_time_076", + "last_id": "quality_time_100", + "count": 25, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 5, + "first_id": "quality_time_101", + "last_id": "quality_time_125", + "count": 25, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 6, + "first_id": "quality_time_126", + "last_id": "quality_time_150", + "count": 25, + "status": "PASS" + } + ], + "fifty_question_checkpoints": [ + { + "checkpoint": 1, + "first_id": "quality_time_001", + "last_id": "quality_time_050", + "count": 50, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "checkpoint": 2, + "first_id": "quality_time_051", + "last_id": "quality_time_100", + "count": 50, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "checkpoint": 3, + "first_id": "quality_time_101", + "last_id": "quality_time_150", + "count": 50, + "status": "PASS" + } + ], + "final_editorial_patches": 3, + "final_review": "Final editorial and production pass completed. Tightened three prompts for clarity and stronger category boundaries, then revalidated schema, counts, depth balance, option fit, option mirroring, voice, repetition, accessibility, cross-pack uniqueness, six 25-question batches, and three 50-question checkpoints." } }, "questions": [ @@ -49,59 +121,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_001", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes staying home feel intentional instead of automatic?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "What makes staying home together feel intentional instead of automatic?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ "home_time", "intentionality", - "low_energy", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "we_choose_a_start_time", - "text": "We choose a start time" + "id": "choosing_what_we_will_do", + "text": "Choosing what we will do" }, { - "id": "we_change_the_usual_setup", - "text": "We change the usual setup" + "id": "changing_the_usual_setup", + "text": "Changing the usual setup" }, { - "id": "we_pick_something_both_of_us_want", - "text": "We pick something both of us want" + "id": "putting_distracting_tasks_away", + "text": "Putting distracting tasks away" }, { - "id": "we_put_away_the_most_distracting_tasks", - "text": "We put away the most distracting tasks" - }, - { - "id": "we_include_one_detail_that_feels_special", - "text": "We include one detail that feels special" + "id": "adding_one_small_treat", + "text": "Adding one small treat" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "we_choose_a_start_time", - "text": "We choose a start time" + "id": "choosing_what_we_will_do", + "text": "Choosing what we will do" }, { - "id": "we_change_the_usual_setup", - "text": "We change the usual setup" + "id": "changing_the_usual_setup", + "text": "Changing the usual setup" }, { - "id": "we_pick_something_both_of_us_want", - "text": "We pick something both of us want" + "id": "putting_distracting_tasks_away", + "text": "Putting distracting tasks away" }, { - "id": "we_put_away_the_most_distracting_tasks", - "text": "We put away the most distracting tasks" - }, - { - "id": "we_include_one_detail_that_feels_special", - "text": "We include one detail that feels special" + "id": "adding_one_small_treat", + "text": "Adding one small treat" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -112,16 +175,4308 @@ "id": "quality_time_002", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which low-key flirting move gets my attention fastest—your guess?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "Which low-effort evening sounds best tonight?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "prediction", - "flirty", - "partner_preferences", + "home_time", + "low_energy", "quality_time" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_show_and_a_snack", + "text": "A show and a snack" + }, + { + "id": "music_while_we_do_separate_things", + "text": "Music while we do separate things" + }, + { + "id": "a_card_game", + "text": "A card game" + }, + { + "id": "talking_on_the_porch", + "text": "Talking on the porch" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_show_and_a_snack", + "text": "A show and a snack" + }, + { + "id": "music_while_we_do_separate_things", + "text": "Music while we do separate things" + }, + { + "id": "a_card_game", + "text": "A card game" + }, + { + "id": "talking_on_the_porch", + "text": "Talking on the porch" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_003", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "One shared activity or separate hobbies in the same room?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "quick_choice", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_shared_activity", + "text": "One shared activity" + }, + { + "id": "separate_hobbies_in_the_same_room", + "text": "Separate hobbies in the same room" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_shared_activity", + "text": "One shared activity" + }, + { + "id": "separate_hobbies_in_the_same_room", + "text": "Separate hobbies in the same room" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_004", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which details can make an ordinary night feel more like ours?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "couple_identity", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_favorite_meal", + "text": "A favorite meal" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_playlist", + "text": "A familiar playlist" + }, + { + "id": "one_phone_free_hour", + "text": "One phone-free hour" + }, + { + "id": "an_inside_joke_returning", + "text": "An inside joke returning" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_favorite_meal", + "text": "A favorite meal" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_playlist", + "text": "A familiar playlist" + }, + { + "id": "one_phone_free_hour", + "text": "One phone-free hour" + }, + { + "id": "an_inside_joke_returning", + "text": "An inside joke returning" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_005", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What could make the couch feel like a plan instead of a default?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "humor", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "picking_the_show_before_sitting_down", + "text": "Picking the show before sitting down" + }, + { + "id": "bringing_the_good_snacks", + "text": "Bringing the good snacks" + }, + { + "id": "using_the_blanket_without_starting_a_border_dispute", + "text": "Using the blanket without starting a border dispute" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_an_actual_start_time", + "text": "Choosing an actual start time" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "picking_the_show_before_sitting_down", + "text": "Picking the show before sitting down" + }, + { + "id": "bringing_the_good_snacks", + "text": "Bringing the good snacks" + }, + { + "id": "using_the_blanket_without_starting_a_border_dispute", + "text": "Using the blanket without starting a border dispute" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_an_actual_start_time", + "text": "Choosing an actual start time" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_006", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which home activity has the best fun-to-effort ratio?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking_something_easy", + "text": "Cooking something easy" + }, + { + "id": "watching_a_movie", + "text": "Watching a movie" + }, + { + "id": "playing_a_simple_game", + "text": "Playing a simple game" + }, + { + "id": "listening_to_music", + "text": "Listening to music" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking_something_easy", + "text": "Cooking something easy" + }, + { + "id": "watching_a_movie", + "text": "Watching a movie" + }, + { + "id": "playing_a_simple_game", + "text": "Playing a simple game" + }, + { + "id": "listening_to_music", + "text": "Listening to music" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_007", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which at-home moments are easiest to look forward to?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "anticipation", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "breakfast_together", + "text": "Breakfast together" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_evening", + "text": "A quiet evening" + }, + { + "id": "a_lazy_weekend_morning", + "text": "A lazy weekend morning" + }, + { + "id": "a_small_project_we_both_enjoy", + "text": "A small project we both enjoy" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "breakfast_together", + "text": "Breakfast together" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_evening", + "text": "A quiet evening" + }, + { + "id": "a_lazy_weekend_morning", + "text": "A lazy weekend morning" + }, + { + "id": "a_small_project_we_both_enjoy", + "text": "A small project we both enjoy" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_008", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How enjoyable does our time at home feel lately?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "current_state", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Mostly routine", + "max_label": "Genuinely enjoyable" + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_009", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a shared meal count as quality time?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "meals", + "presence", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "sitting_down_together", + "text": "Sitting down together" + }, + { + "id": "not_rushing", + "text": "Not rushing" + }, + { + "id": "talking_about_more_than_logistics", + "text": "Talking about more than logistics" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_food_we_both_like", + "text": "Choosing food we both like" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sitting_down_together", + "text": "Sitting down together" + }, + { + "id": "not_rushing", + "text": "Not rushing" + }, + { + "id": "talking_about_more_than_logistics", + "text": "Talking about more than logistics" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_food_we_both_like", + "text": "Choosing food we both like" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_010", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which kitchen role sounds most like you during shared time?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "meals", + "humor", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "helping", + "text": "Helping" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_the_music", + "text": "Choosing the music" + }, + { + "id": "providing_commentary_and_quality_control", + "text": "Providing commentary and quality control" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "helping", + "text": "Helping" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_the_music", + "text": "Choosing the music" + }, + { + "id": "providing_commentary_and_quality_control", + "text": "Providing commentary and quality control" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_011", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps an at-home plan survive a tiring day?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "low_energy", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "keeping_it_short", + "text": "Keeping it short" + }, + { + "id": "letting_the_tired_person_choose", + "text": "Letting the tired person choose" + }, + { + "id": "dropping_unnecessary_preparation", + "text": "Dropping unnecessary preparation" + }, + { + "id": "counting_quiet_company_as_enough", + "text": "Counting quiet company as enough" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "keeping_it_short", + "text": "Keeping it short" + }, + { + "id": "letting_the_tired_person_choose", + "text": "Letting the tired person choose" + }, + { + "id": "dropping_unnecessary_preparation", + "text": "Dropping unnecessary preparation" + }, + { + "id": "counting_quiet_company_as_enough", + "text": "Counting quiet company as enough" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_012", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which small changes could refresh a familiar evening?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "novelty", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "eat_somewhere_different", + "text": "Eat somewhere different" + }, + { + "id": "try_a_new_game", + "text": "Try a new game" + }, + { + "id": "choose_a_theme", + "text": "Choose a theme" + }, + { + "id": "take_the_activity_outside", + "text": "Take the activity outside" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "eat_somewhere_different", + "text": "Eat somewhere different" + }, + { + "id": "try_a_new_game", + "text": "Try a new game" + }, + { + "id": "choose_a_theme", + "text": "Choose a theme" + }, + { + "id": "take_the_activity_outside", + "text": "Take the activity outside" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_013", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "written", + "text": "What is one ordinary night together you remember being unexpectedly good?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "memory", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_014", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should stay optional during a night at home together?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "autonomy", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "talking_the_whole_time", + "text": "Talking the whole time" + }, + { + "id": "doing_the_same_activity", + "text": "Doing the same activity" + }, + { + "id": "staying_up_late", + "text": "Staying up late" + }, + { + "id": "turning_the_night_into_something_special", + "text": "Turning the night into something special" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "talking_the_whole_time", + "text": "Talking the whole time" + }, + { + "id": "doing_the_same_activity", + "text": "Doing the same activity" + }, + { + "id": "staying_up_late", + "text": "Staying up late" + }, + { + "id": "turning_the_night_into_something_special", + "text": "Turning the night into something special" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_015", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which patterns can make being home together feel lonely?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "home_time", + "warning_signs", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "never_looking_up_from_separate_screens", + "text": "Never looking up from separate screens" + }, + { + "id": "only_discussing_tasks", + "text": "Only discussing tasks" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_choosing_everything", + "text": "One person choosing everything" + }, + { + "id": "being_together_only_because_plans_fell_through", + "text": "Being together only because plans fell through" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "never_looking_up_from_separate_screens", + "text": "Never looking up from separate screens" + }, + { + "id": "only_discussing_tasks", + "text": "Only discussing tasks" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_choosing_everything", + "text": "One person choosing everything" + }, + { + "id": "being_together_only_because_plans_fell_through", + "text": "Being together only because plans fell through" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_016", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which daily transitions could become good time for us?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "transitions", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_first_minutes_after_work", + "text": "The first minutes after work" + }, + { + "id": "the_drive_home", + "text": "The drive home" + }, + { + "id": "the_pause_before_dinner", + "text": "The pause before dinner" + }, + { + "id": "the_last_few_minutes_before_sleep", + "text": "The last few minutes before sleep" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_first_minutes_after_work", + "text": "The first minutes after work" + }, + { + "id": "the_drive_home", + "text": "The drive home" + }, + { + "id": "the_pause_before_dinner", + "text": "The pause before dinner" + }, + { + "id": "the_last_few_minutes_before_sleep", + "text": "The last few minutes before sleep" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_017", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which morning connection sounds most realistic?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "mornings", + "routines", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "coffee_together", + "text": "Coffee together" + }, + { + "id": "a_real_goodbye", + "text": "A real goodbye" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_the_day_s_plan", + "text": "Sharing the day's plan" + }, + { + "id": "one_thoughtful_message_later", + "text": "One thoughtful message later" + } + ], + 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+ }, + { + "id": "quality_time_019", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What could make mornings feel more like shared time?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "mornings", + "presence", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "sit_together_for_the_first_drink", + "text": "Sit together for the first drink" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_starting_with_chores", + "text": "Avoid starting with chores" + }, + { + "id": "share_one_thing_about_the_day", + "text": "Share one thing about the day" + }, + { + "id": "leave_with_a_real_goodbye", + "text": "Leave with a real goodbye" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sit_together_for_the_first_drink", + "text": "Sit together for the first drink" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_starting_with_chores", + "text": "Avoid starting with chores" + }, + { + "id": "share_one_thing_about_the_day", + "text": "Share one thing about the day" + }, + { + "id": "leave_with_a_real_goodbye", + "text": "Leave with a real goodbye" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_020", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which routines create connection without adding another obligation?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "low_pressure", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_short_evening_walk", + "text": "A short evening walk" + }, + { + "id": "one_meal_together", + "text": "One meal together" + }, + { + "id": "a_weekly_coffee", + "text": "A weekly coffee" + }, + { + "id": "checking_in_during_a_regular_drive", + "text": "Checking in during a regular drive" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_short_evening_walk", + "text": "A short evening walk" + }, + { + "id": "one_meal_together", + "text": "One meal together" + }, + { + "id": "a_weekly_coffee", + "text": "A weekly coffee" + }, + { + "id": "checking_in_during_a_regular_drive", + "text": "Checking in during a regular drive" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_021", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which recurring moment is easiest to rescue from autopilot?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "humor", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_grocery_trip", + "text": "The grocery trip" + }, + { + "id": "the_drive_somewhere", + "text": "The drive somewhere" + }, + { + "id": "the_first_coffee", + "text": "The first coffee" + }, + { + "id": "the_nightly_search_for_the_remote", + "text": "The nightly search for the remote" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_grocery_trip", + "text": "The grocery trip" + }, + { + "id": "the_drive_somewhere", + "text": "The drive somewhere" + }, + { + "id": "the_first_coffee", + "text": "The first coffee" + }, + { + "id": "the_nightly_search_for_the_remote", + "text": "The nightly search for the remote" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_022", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps a routine stay warm instead of becoming mandatory?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "flexibility", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_can_be_skipped_without_guilt", + "text": "It can be skipped without guilt" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_shape_it", + "text": "Both people shape it" + }, + { + "id": "it_stays_simple", + "text": "It stays simple" + }, + { + "id": "it_changes_when_life_changes", + "text": "It changes when life changes" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_can_be_skipped_without_guilt", + "text": "It can be skipped without guilt" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_shape_it", + "text": "Both people shape it" + }, + { + "id": "it_stays_simple", + "text": "It stays simple" + }, + { + "id": "it_changes_when_life_changes", + "text": "It changes when life changes" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_023", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How connected do our daily routines make you feel?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "current_state", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Hardly connected", + "max_label": "Very connected" + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_024", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which end-of-day habits could help us reconnect?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "evenings", + "routines", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "sit_together_before_starting_tasks", + "text": "Sit together before starting tasks" + }, + { + "id": "share_the_best_or_strangest_moment", + "text": "Share the 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"sit_quietly", + "text": "Sit quietly" + }, + { + "id": "share_something_funny", + "text": "Share something funny" + }, + { + "id": "decide_together_in_the_moment", + "text": "Decide together in the moment" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "talk", + "text": "Talk" + }, + { + "id": "sit_quietly", + "text": "Sit quietly" + }, + { + "id": "share_something_funny", + "text": "Share something funny" + }, + { + "id": "decide_together_in_the_moment", + "text": "Decide together in the moment" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_026", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a weekly ritual worth keeping?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "rituals", + "meaning", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "we_both_enjoy_it", + "text": "We both enjoy it" + }, + { + "id": "it_fits_real_life", + "text": "It fits real life" + }, + { + "id": "it_gives_us_something_to_anticipate", + "text": "It gives us something to anticipate" + }, + { + "id": "it_still_feels_chosen", + "text": "It still feels chosen" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "we_both_enjoy_it", + "text": "We both enjoy it" + }, + { + "id": "it_fits_real_life", + "text": "It fits real life" + }, + { + "id": "it_gives_us_something_to_anticipate", + "text": "It gives us something to anticipate" + }, + { + "id": "it_still_feels_chosen", + "text": "It still feels chosen" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_027", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which routines could work even when our schedules barely overlap?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "schedules", + "routines", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_voice_message", + "text": "A voice message" + }, + { + "id": "a_shared_breakfast", + "text": "A shared breakfast" + }, + { + "id": "a_note_left_behind", + "text": "A note left behind" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_call_during_a_regular_break", + "text": "A short call during a regular break" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_voice_message", + "text": "A voice message" + }, + { + "id": "a_shared_breakfast", + "text": "A shared breakfast" + }, + { + "id": "a_note_left_behind", + "text": "A note left behind" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_call_during_a_regular_break", + "text": "A short call during a regular break" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_028", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "written", + "text": "What daily moment would you most like us to reclaim as ours?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "shared_time", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_029", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps us notice when a routine no longer fits?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "adaptability", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_person_keeps_avoiding_it", + "text": "One person keeps avoiding it" + }, + { + "id": "it_creates_more_stress_than_warmth", + "text": "It creates more stress than warmth" + }, + { + "id": "our_schedule_has_changed", + "text": "Our schedule has changed" + }, + { + "id": "a_different_habit_sounds_easier", + "text": "A different habit sounds easier" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_person_keeps_avoiding_it", + "text": "One person keeps avoiding it" + }, + { + "id": "it_creates_more_stress_than_warmth", + "text": "It creates more stress than warmth" + }, + { + "id": "our_schedule_has_changed", + "text": "Our schedule has changed" + }, + { + "id": "a_different_habit_sounds_easier", + "text": "A different habit sounds easier" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_030", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "When routines disappear, what helps connection survive the disruption?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "routines", + "change", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "choosing_one_temporary_anchor", + "text": "Choosing one temporary anchor" + }, + { + "id": "saying_what_we_miss", + "text": "Saying what we miss" + }, + { + "id": "lowering_expectations", + "text": "Lowering expectations" + }, + { + "id": "making_a_new_plan_together", + "text": "Making a new plan together" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "choosing_one_temporary_anchor", + "text": "Choosing one temporary anchor" + }, + { + "id": "saying_what_we_miss", + "text": "Saying what we miss" + }, + { + "id": "lowering_expectations", + "text": "Lowering expectations" + }, + { + "id": "making_a_new_plan_together", + "text": "Making a new plan together" + } 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"i_stop_doing_another_task", + "text": "I stop doing another task" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_032", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "When do you most want my full attention?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "attention", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "when_telling_a_story", + "text": "When telling a story" + }, + { + "id": "when_sharing_something_difficult", + "text": "When sharing something difficult" + }, + { + "id": "when_making_a_plan", + "text": "When making a plan" + }, + { + "id": "when_we_first_reconnect", + "text": "When we first reconnect" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "when_telling_a_story", + "text": "When telling a story" + }, + { + "id": "when_sharing_something_difficult", + "text": "When sharing something difficult" + }, + { + "id": "when_making_a_plan", + "text": "When making a plan" + }, + { + "id": "when_we_first_reconnect", + "text": "When we first reconnect" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_033", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Phones out of sight or simply face down?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "phones", + "quick_choice", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "phones_out_of_sight", + "text": "Phones out of sight" + }, + { + "id": "phones_face_down", + "text": "Phones face down" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "phones_out_of_sight", + "text": "Phones out of sight" + }, + { + "id": "phones_face_down", + "text": "Phones face down" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_034", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which distractions most often steal good time from us?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "distractions", + "awareness", + "quality_time" + ], + 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"text": "Not checking the time repeatedly" + }, + { + "id": "letting_one_topic_finish", + "text": "Letting one topic finish" + }, + { + "id": "avoiding_a_task_at_the_same_time", + "text": "Avoiding a task at the same time" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sitting_down", + "text": "Sitting down" + }, + { + "id": "not_checking_the_time_repeatedly", + "text": "Not checking the time repeatedly" + }, + { + "id": "letting_one_topic_finish", + "text": "Letting one topic finish" + }, + { + "id": "avoiding_a_task_at_the_same_time", + "text": "Avoiding a task at the same time" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_036", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which device is most likely to become the uninvited third person?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "phones", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_phone", + "text": "A 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"quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs show that one of us needs more attention right now?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "signals", + "attention", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "repeating_a_story", + "text": "Repeating a story" + }, + { + "id": "putting_the_phone_away_first", + "text": "Putting the phone away first" + }, + { + "id": "asking_to_sit_together", + "text": "Asking to sit together" + }, + { + "id": "saying_the_day_was_hard", + "text": "Saying the day was hard" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "repeating_a_story", + "text": "Repeating a story" + }, + { + "id": "putting_the_phone_away_first", + "text": "Putting the phone away first" + }, + { + "id": "asking_to_sit_together", + "text": "Asking to sit together" + }, + { + "id": "saying_the_day_was_hard", + "text": "Saying the day was hard" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_040", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which phone rule sounds least likely to start a constitutional crisis?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "phones", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_phones_during_one_meal", + "text": "No phones during one meal" + }, + { + "id": "phones_away_for_twenty_minutes", + "text": "Phones away for twenty minutes" + }, + { + "id": "only_urgent_messages", + "text": "Only urgent messages" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_controls_the_emergency_snack_timer", + "text": "One person controls the emergency snack timer" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_phones_during_one_meal", + "text": "No phones during one meal" + }, + { + "id": "phones_away_for_twenty_minutes", + "text": "Phones away for twenty minutes" + }, + { + "id": "only_urgent_messages", + "text": "Only urgent messages" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_controls_the_emergency_snack_timer", + "text": "One person controls the emergency snack timer" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_041", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes divided attention feel less frustrating?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "attention", + "real_life", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "saying_when_you_can_listen_fully", + "text": "Saying when you can listen fully" + }, + { + "id": "finishing_the_task_quickly", + "text": "Finishing the task quickly" + }, + { + "id": "returning_to_the_conversation", + "text": "Returning to the conversation" + }, + { + "id": "being_honest_that_now_is_not_a_good_moment", + "text": "Being honest that now is not a good moment" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "saying_when_you_can_listen_fully", + "text": "Saying when you can listen fully" + }, + { + "id": "finishing_the_task_quickly", + "text": "Finishing the task quickly" + }, + { + "id": "returning_to_the_conversation", + "text": "Returning to the conversation" + }, + { + "id": "being_honest_that_now_is_not_a_good_moment", + "text": "Being honest that now is not a good moment" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_042", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which moments deserve protection from multitasking?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "presence", + "priorities", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "important_news", + "text": "Important news" + }, + { + "id": "a_planned_activity", + "text": "A planned activity" + }, + { + "id": "a_difficult_conversation", + "text": "A difficult conversation" + }, + { + "id": "the_first_minutes_after_time_apart", + "text": "The first minutes after time apart" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "important_news", + "text": "Important 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"quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What should we cancel first when the week becomes ridiculous?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "busy_life", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "unnecessary_errands", + "text": "Unnecessary errands" + }, + { + "id": "a_complicated_plan", + "text": "A complicated plan" + }, + { + "id": "the_idea_that_everything_must_be_productive", + "text": "The idea that everything must be productive" + }, + { + "id": "nothing_until_we_inspect_the_snack_situation", + "text": "Nothing until we inspect the snack situation" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "unnecessary_errands", + "text": "Unnecessary errands" + }, + { + "id": "a_complicated_plan", + "text": "A complicated plan" + }, + { + "id": "the_idea_that_everything_must_be_productive", + "text": "The idea that everything must be productive" + }, + { + "id": "nothing_until_we_inspect_the_snack_situation", + 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"id": "following_through_later", + "text": "Following through later" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_057", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which forms of quality time can work during a stressful season?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "stress", + "low_energy", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "doing_a_simple_task_together", + "text": "Doing a simple task together" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_meal", + "text": "A quiet meal" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_bedtime_check_in", + "text": "A short bedtime check-in" + }, + { + "id": "one_low_pressure_outing", + "text": "One low-pressure outing" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "doing_a_simple_task_together", + "text": "Doing a simple task together" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_meal", + "text": "A quiet meal" + }, + { + "id": "a_short_bedtime_check_in", + "text": "A short bedtime 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"avoid_filling_every_free_hour", + "text": "Avoid filling every free hour" + }, + { + "id": "count_recovery_as_part_of_the_plan", + "text": "Count recovery as part of the plan" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "choose_restful_plans", + "text": "Choose restful plans" + }, + { + "id": "let_either_person_shorten_them", + "text": "Let either person shorten them" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_filling_every_free_hour", + "text": "Avoid filling every free hour" + }, + { + "id": "count_recovery_as_part_of_the_plan", + "text": "Count recovery as part of the plan" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_060", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which expectations become unfair during a hard season?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "busy_life", + "fairness", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ignoring_different_energy_levels", + "text": "Ignoring different energy levels" + }, + { + "id": "expecting_one_person_to_plan_everything", + "text": "Expecting one person to plan everything" + }, + { + "id": "treating_exhaustion_as_lack_of_love", + "text": "Treating exhaustion as lack of love" + }, + { + "id": "comparing_this_season_with_easier_years", + "text": "Comparing this season with easier years" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "ignoring_different_energy_levels", + "text": "Ignoring different energy levels" + }, + { + "id": "expecting_one_person_to_plan_everything", + "text": "Expecting one person to plan everything" + }, + { + "id": "treating_exhaustion_as_lack_of_love", + "text": "Treating exhaustion as lack of love" + }, + { + "id": "comparing_this_season_with_easier_years", + "text": "Comparing this season with easier years" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_061", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of activities make conversation happen naturally?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "conversation", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "walking", + "text": "Walking" + }, + { + "id": "driving", + "text": "Driving" + }, + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "working_on_something_with_our_hands", + "text": "Working on something with our hands" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "walking", + "text": "Walking" + }, + { + "id": "driving", + "text": "Driving" + }, + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "working_on_something_with_our_hands", + "text": "Working on something with our hands" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_062", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which shared activity sounds easiest to repeat?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_weekly_walk", + "text": "A weekly walk" + }, + { + "id": "cooking_one_meal", + "text": "Cooking one meal" + }, + { + "id": "a_game_night", + "text": "A game night" + }, + { + "id": "watching_a_series_together", + "text": "Watching a series together" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_weekly_walk", + "text": "A weekly walk" + }, + { + "id": "cooking_one_meal", + "text": "Cooking one meal" + }, + { + "id": "a_game_night", + "text": "A game night" + }, + { + "id": "watching_a_series_together", + "text": "Watching a series together" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_063", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Learn something together or teach each other something?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "learning", + "quick_choice", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "learn_something_together", + "text": "Learn something together" + }, + { + "id": "teach_each_other_something", + "text": "Teach each other something" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "learn_something_together", + "text": "Learn something together" + }, + { + "id": "teach_each_other_something", + "text": "Teach each other something" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_064", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes trying a shared hobby feel low pressure?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "hobbies", + "novelty", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "starting_cheaply", + "text": "Starting cheaply" + }, + { + "id": "being_beginners_together", + "text": "Being beginners together" + }, + { + "id": "no_demand_to_continue", + "text": "No demand to continue" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_something_easy_to_stop", + "text": "Choosing something easy to stop" + } + ], + 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"answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cards", + "text": "Cards" + }, + { + "id": "mini_golf", + "text": "Mini golf" + }, + { + "id": "trivia", + "text": "Trivia" + }, + { + "id": "assembling_furniture_without_instructions", + "text": "Assembling furniture without instructions" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_067", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps different activity preferences work together?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "differences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "take_turns_choosing", + "text": "Take turns choosing" + }, + { + "id": "find_the_shared_part", + "text": "Find the shared part" + }, + { + "id": "let_one_person_watch_sometimes", + "text": "Let one person watch sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "keep_separate_interests_too", + "text": "Keep separate interests too" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "take_turns_choosing", + "text": "Take turns choosing" + }, + { + "id": "find_the_shared_part", + "text": "Find the shared part" + }, + { + "id": "let_one_person_watch_sometimes", + "text": "Let one person watch sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "keep_separate_interests_too", + "text": "Keep separate interests too" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_068", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How satisfied are you with the variety in our shared activities?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "current_state", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "I want more variety", + "max_label": "It feels varied enough" + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_069", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which activities can feel good even if we are not equally skilled?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "fairness", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "dancing_at_home", + "text": "Dancing at home" + }, + { + "id": "a_creative_project", + "text": "A creative project" + }, + { + "id": "learning_something_new", + "text": "Learning something new" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "dancing_at_home", + "text": "Dancing at home" + }, + { + "id": "a_creative_project", + "text": "A creative project" + }, + { + "id": "learning_something_new", + "text": "Learning something new" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_070", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which project should require a written promise not to become a lifestyle?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "projects", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_renovation", + "text": "A renovation" + }, + { + "id": "a_collecting_hobby", + "text": "A collecting hobby" + }, + { + "id": "a_giant_puzzle", + "text": "A giant puzzle" + }, + { + "id": "anything_introduced_with_this_will_be_simple", + "text": "Anything introduced with this will be simple" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_renovation", + "text": "A renovation" + }, + { + "id": "a_collecting_hobby", + "text": "A collecting hobby" + }, + { + "id": "a_giant_puzzle", + "text": "A giant puzzle" + }, + { + "id": "anything_introduced_with_this_will_be_simple", + "text": "Anything introduced with this will be simple" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_071", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a shared activity feel connecting rather than performative?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "connection", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "we_both_chose_it", + "text": "We both chose it" + }, + { + "id": "nobody_must_be_impressive", + "text": "Nobody must be impressive" + }, + { + "id": "we_can_talk_naturally", + "text": "We can talk naturally" + }, + { + "id": "the_activity_leaves_room_for_laughter", + "text": "The activity leaves room for laughter" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "we_both_chose_it", + "text": "We both chose it" + }, + { + "id": "nobody_must_be_impressive", + "text": "Nobody must be impressive" + }, + { + "id": "we_can_talk_naturally", + "text": "We can talk naturally" + }, + { + "id": "the_activity_leaves_room_for_laughter", + "text": "The activity leaves room for laughter" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_072", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which activities are good when conversation needs a little help?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "activities", + "conversation", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "looking_through_old_photos", + "text": "Looking through old photos" + }, + { + "id": "a_question_game", + "text": "A question game" + }, + { + "id": "a_scenic_drive", + "text": "A scenic drive" + }, + { + "id": "cooking_from_a_new_recipe", + "text": "Cooking from a new recipe" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "looking_through_old_photos", + "text": "Looking through old photos" + }, + { + "id": "a_question_game", + "text": "A question game" + }, + { + "id": "a_scenic_drive", + "text": "A scenic drive" + }, + { + "id": "cooking_from_a_new_recipe", + "text": "Cooking from a new recipe" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_073", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "written", + "text": "What is one activity we tried together that surprised you?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + 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"talk_about_the_day", + "text": "Talk about the day" + }, + { + "id": "escape_into_something_different", + "text": "Escape into something different" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_080", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes quiet time feel connected instead of awkward?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "quiet_time", + "presence", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "sitting_close", + "text": "Sitting close" + }, + { + "id": "doing_compatible_activities", + "text": "Doing compatible activities" + }, + { + "id": "no_pressure_to_fill_silence", + "text": "No pressure to fill silence" + }, + { + "id": "occasional_small_comments", + "text": "Occasional small comments" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sitting_close", + "text": "Sitting close" + }, + { + "id": "doing_compatible_activities", + "text": "Doing compatible activities" + }, + { + "id": 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"what_we_would_do_with_a_free_week", + "text": "What we would do with a free week" + }, + { + "id": "old_stories", + "text": "Old stories" + }, + { + "id": "ridiculous_opinions", + "text": "Ridiculous opinions" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_082", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which topic could carry an entire porch conversation?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "conversation", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "neighborhood_mysteries", + "text": "Neighborhood mysteries" + }, + { + "id": "foods_with_undeserved_confidence", + "text": "Foods with undeserved confidence" + }, + { + "id": "our_worst_fashion_eras", + "text": "Our worst fashion eras" + }, + { + "id": "a_completely_unnecessary_future_invention", + "text": "A completely unnecessary future invention" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "neighborhood_mysteries", + "text": "Neighborhood mysteries" + }, + { + "id": "foods_with_undeserved_confidence", + "text": "Foods with undeserved confidence" + }, + { + "id": "our_worst_fashion_eras", + "text": "Our worst fashion eras" + }, + { + "id": "a_completely_unnecessary_future_invention", + "text": "A completely unnecessary future invention" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_083", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps a deeper conversation happen naturally during quality time?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "conversation", + "meaningful", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "enough_time", + "text": "Enough time" + }, + { + "id": "a_relaxed_setting", + "text": "A relaxed setting" + }, + { + "id": "one_honest_question", + "text": "One honest question" + }, + { + "id": "no_demand_to_finish_the_topic", + "text": "No demand to finish the topic" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "enough_time", + "text": "Enough time" + }, + { + "id": "a_relaxed_setting", + "text": "A relaxed setting" + }, + { + "id": "one_honest_question", + "text": "One honest question" + }, + { + "id": "no_demand_to_finish_the_topic", + "text": "No demand to finish the topic" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_084", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How balanced does our talking and quiet time feel?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "conversation", + "balance", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Out of balance", + "max_label": "Very balanced" + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_085", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs show that tonight should stay light?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "conversation", + "energy", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_person_is_exhausted", + "text": "One person is exhausted" + }, + { + "id": "jokes_are_landing_better_than_questions", + "text": "Jokes are landing better than questions" + }, + { + "id": "a_serious_topic_feels_forced", + "text": "A serious topic feels forced" + }, + { + "id": "we_mostly_need_comfort", + "text": "We mostly need comfort" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_person_is_exhausted", + "text": "One person is exhausted" + }, + { + "id": "jokes_are_landing_better_than_questions", + "text": "Jokes are landing better than questions" + }, + { + "id": "a_serious_topic_feels_forced", + "text": "A serious topic feels forced" + }, + { + "id": "we_mostly_need_comfort", + "text": "We mostly need comfort" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_086", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the best response when neither of us has anything interesting to report?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "conversation", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "invent_a_ridiculous_question", + "text": "Invent a ridiculous question" + }, + { + "id": "put_on_music", + "text": "Put on music" + }, + { + "id": "sit_quietly", + "text": "Sit quietly" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_we_are_not_a_nightly_news_program", + "text": "Accept that we are not a nightly news program" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "invent_a_ridiculous_question", + "text": "Invent a ridiculous question" + }, + { + "id": "put_on_music", + "text": "Put on music" + }, + { + "id": "sit_quietly", + "text": "Sit quietly" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_we_are_not_a_nightly_news_program", + "text": "Accept that we are not a nightly news program" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_087", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we keep conversation from becoming only household administration?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "conversation", + "logistics", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "set_logistics_aside_after_a_few_minutes", + "text": "Set logistics aside after a few minutes" + }, + { + "id": "ask_about_something_enjoyable", + "text": "Ask about something enjoyable" + }, + { + "id": "share_a_memory", + "text": "Share a memory" + }, + { + "id": "plan_one_thing_we_want", + "text": "Plan one thing we want" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "set_logistics_aside_after_a_few_minutes", + "text": "Set logistics aside after a few minutes" + }, + { + "id": "ask_about_something_enjoyable", + "text": "Ask about something enjoyable" + }, + { + "id": "share_a_memory", + "text": "Share a memory" + }, + { + "id": "plan_one_thing_we_want", + "text": "Plan one thing we want" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_088", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which questions tend to create a good couple conversation?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "conversation", + "discovery", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_surprised_you_today", + "text": "What surprised you today?" + }, + { + "id": "what_are_you_looking_forward_to", + "text": "What are you looking forward to?" + }, + { + "id": "what_made_you_laugh", + "text": "What made you laugh?" + }, + { + "id": "what_should_we_do_more_often", + "text": "What should we do more often?" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_surprised_you_today", + "text": "What surprised you today?" + }, + { + "id": "what_are_you_looking_forward_to", + "text": "What are you looking forward to?" + }, + { + "id": "what_made_you_laugh", + "text": "What made you laugh?" + }, + { + "id": "what_should_we_do_more_often", + "text": "What should we do more often?" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_089", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which topics can turn an ordinary evening into a good conversation?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "quiet_time", + "warning_signs", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "unspoken_tension", + "text": "Unspoken tension" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_trying_to_connect_repeatedly", + "text": "One person trying to connect repeatedly" + }, + { + "id": "silence_being_used_as_punishment", + "text": "Silence being used as punishment" + }, + { + "id": "never_returning_to_conversation", + "text": "Never returning to conversation" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "unspoken_tension", + "text": "Unspoken tension" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_trying_to_connect_repeatedly", + "text": "One person trying to connect repeatedly" + }, + { + "id": "silence_being_used_as_punishment", + "text": "Silence being used as punishment" + }, + { + "id": "never_returning_to_conversation", + "text": "Never returning to conversation" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_090", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps us tell the difference between peaceful quiet and avoidance?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "quiet_time", + "clarity", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "either_person_can_start_talking", + "text": "Either person can start talking" + }, + { + "id": "the_mood_still_feels_warm", + "text": "The mood still feels warm" + }, + { + "id": "important_topics_are_revisited", + "text": "Important topics are revisited" + }, + { + "id": "silence_is_not_used_to_control_the_room", + "text": "Silence is not used to control the room" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "either_person_can_start_talking", + "text": "Either person can start talking" + }, + { + "id": "the_mood_still_feels_warm", + "text": "The mood still feels warm" + }, + { + "id": "important_topics_are_revisited", + "text": "Important topics are revisited" + }, + { + "id": "silence_is_not_used_to_control_the_room", + "text": "Silence is not used to control the room" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_091", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which playful moments make time together feel most like us?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "playfulness", + "couple_identity", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "inside_jokes", + "text": "Inside jokes" + }, + { + "id": "friendly_teasing", + "text": "Friendly teasing" + }, + { + "id": "making_up_stories", + "text": "Making up stories" + }, + { + "id": "turning_a_boring_task_into_a_game", + "text": "Turning a boring task into a game" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "inside_jokes", + "text": "Inside jokes" + }, + { + "id": "friendly_teasing", + "text": "Friendly teasing" + }, + { + "id": "making_up_stories", + "text": "Making up stories" + }, + { + "id": "turning_a_boring_task_into_a_game", + "text": "Turning a boring task into a game" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_092", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which low-key flirting move gets your attention fastest?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { "id": "a_quiet_compliment", @@ -132,12 +4487,12 @@ "text": "A meaningful look" }, { - "id": "a_playful_touch", - "text": "A playful touch" + "id": "a_playful_message", + "text": "A playful message" }, { - "id": "a_message_that_makes_me_smile", - "text": "A message that makes me smile" + "id": "an_invitation_to_sit_closer", + "text": "An invitation to sit closer" } ], "answer_config": { @@ -151,93 +4506,120 @@ "text": "A meaningful look" }, { - "id": "a_playful_touch", - "text": "A playful touch" + "id": "a_playful_message", + "text": "A playful message" }, { - "id": "a_message_that_makes_me_smile", - "text": "A message that makes me smile" + "id": "an_invitation_to_sit_closer", + "text": "An invitation to sit closer" } ] } }, { - "id": "quality_time_003", + "id": "quality_time_093", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "scale", - "text": "How much would a little uninterrupted time together help today?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "How playful does our time together feel lately?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "current_need", - "invitation", + "playfulness", + "current_state", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" + "min_label": "Not very playful", + "max_label": "Very playful" } }, { - "id": "quality_time_004", + "id": "quality_time_094", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What could make mornings feel more like shared time?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Bring back an old inside joke or create a new one?", "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "mornings", - "routines", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "couple_lore", + "quick_choice", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "sitting_together_for_the_first_drink_of_the_day", - "text": "Sitting together for the first drink of the day" + "id": "bring_back_an_old_inside_joke", + "text": "Bring back an old inside joke" }, { - "id": "giving_each_other_a_real_goodbye", - "text": "Giving each other a real goodbye" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_the_plan_before_things_get_busy", - "text": "Sharing the plan before things get busy" - }, - { - "id": "sending_one_thoughtful_message_later", - "text": "Sending one thoughtful message later" - }, - { - "id": "protecting_a_few_quiet_minutes", - "text": "Protecting a few quiet minutes" + "id": "create_a_new_one", + "text": "Create a new one" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "sitting_together_for_the_first_drink_of_the_day", - "text": "Sitting together for the first drink of the day" + "id": "bring_back_an_old_inside_joke", + "text": "Bring back an old inside joke" }, { - "id": "giving_each_other_a_real_goodbye", - "text": "Giving each other a real goodbye" + "id": "create_a_new_one", + "text": "Create a new one" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_095", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes flirting fit naturally into quality time?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "low_pressure", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_stays_playful", + "text": "It stays playful" + }, + { + "id": "it_does_not_demand_a_response", + "text": "It does not demand a response" + }, + { + "id": "it_fits_the_setting", + "text": "It fits the setting" + }, + { + "id": "it_sounds_like_us", + "text": "It sounds like us" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_stays_playful", + "text": "It stays playful" }, { - "id": "sharing_the_plan_before_things_get_busy", - "text": "Sharing the plan before things get busy" + "id": "it_does_not_demand_a_response", + "text": "It does not demand a response" }, { - "id": "sending_one_thoughtful_message_later", - "text": "Sending one thoughtful message later" + "id": "it_fits_the_setting", + "text": "It fits the setting" }, { - "id": "protecting_a_few_quiet_minutes", - "text": "Protecting a few quiet minutes" + "id": "it_sounds_like_us", + "text": "It sounds like us" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -245,18 +4627,646 @@ } }, { - "id": "quality_time_005", + "id": "quality_time_096", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which ordinary activities become better with a little flirting?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "daily_life", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "running_errands", + "text": "Running errands" + }, + { + "id": "taking_a_walk", + "text": "Taking a walk" + }, + { + "id": "cleaning_up_together", + "text": "Cleaning up together" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "cooking", + "text": "Cooking" + }, + { + "id": "running_errands", + "text": "Running errands" + }, + { + "id": "taking_a_walk", + "text": "Taking a walk" + }, + { + "id": "cleaning_up_together", + "text": "Cleaning up together" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_097", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which boring task has the greatest untapped romantic potential?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "flirting", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "folding_laundry", + "text": "Folding laundry" + }, + { + "id": "grocery_shopping", + "text": "Grocery shopping" + }, + { + "id": "washing_dishes", + "text": "Washing dishes" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_for_the_internet_to_restart", + "text": "Waiting for the internet to restart" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "folding_laundry", + "text": "Folding laundry" + }, + { + "id": "grocery_shopping", + "text": "Grocery shopping" + }, + { + "id": "washing_dishes", + "text": "Washing dishes" + }, + { + "id": "waiting_for_the_internet_to_restart", + "text": "Waiting for the internet to restart" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_098", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps playfulness return after a serious week?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "playfulness", + "reconnection", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "doing_something_familiar", + "text": "Doing something familiar" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_something_funny", + "text": "Sharing something funny" + }, + { + "id": "leaving_one_evening_unscheduled", + "text": "Leaving one evening unscheduled" + }, + { + "id": "not_forcing_a_big_mood_change", + "text": "Not forcing a big mood change" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "doing_something_familiar", + "text": "Doing something familiar" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_something_funny", + "text": "Sharing something funny" + }, + { + "id": "leaving_one_evening_unscheduled", + "text": "Leaving one evening unscheduled" + }, + { + "id": "not_forcing_a_big_mood_change", + "text": "Not forcing a big mood change" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_099", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much would a little more flirting improve our time together?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "current_need", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not much", + "max_label": "A great deal" + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_100", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which playful challenges could be fun for one evening?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "games", + "playfulness", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "choose_each_other_s_snack", + "text": "Choose each other's snack" + }, + { + "id": "make_the_worst_movie_pitch", + "text": "Make the worst movie pitch" + }, + { + "id": "guess_old_answers", + "text": "Guess old answers" + }, + { + "id": "create_a_ridiculous_house_award", + "text": "Create a ridiculous house award" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "choose_each_other_s_snack", + "text": "Choose each other's snack" + }, + { + "id": "make_the_worst_movie_pitch", + "text": "Make the worst movie pitch" + }, + { + "id": "guess_old_answers", + "text": "Guess old answers" + }, + { + "id": "create_a_ridiculous_house_award", + "text": "Create a ridiculous house award" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_101", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which couple competition needs the least official oversight?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "games", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "best_snack_choice", + "text": "Best snack choice" + }, + { + "id": "worst_joke", + "text": "Worst joke" + }, + { + "id": "fastest_puzzle", + "text": "Fastest puzzle" + }, + { + "id": "who_can_avoid_changing_the_rules", + "text": "Who can avoid changing the rules" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "best_snack_choice", + "text": "Best snack choice" + }, + { + "id": "worst_joke", + "text": "Worst joke" + }, + { + "id": "fastest_puzzle", + "text": "Fastest puzzle" + }, + { + "id": "who_can_avoid_changing_the_rules", + "text": "Who can avoid changing the rules" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_102", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes teasing affectionate rather than irritating?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "teasing", + "boundaries", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_topic_is_safe", + "text": "The topic is safe" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_laugh", + "text": "Both people laugh" + }, + { + "id": "it_stops_immediately_when_asked", + "text": "It stops immediately when asked" + }, + { + "id": "it_never_targets_a_real_insecurity", + "text": "It never targets a real insecurity" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_topic_is_safe", + "text": "The topic is safe" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_laugh", + "text": "Both people laugh" + }, + { + "id": "it_stops_immediately_when_asked", + "text": "It stops immediately when asked" + }, + { + "id": "it_never_targets_a_real_insecurity", + "text": "It never targets a real insecurity" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_103", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of compliments improve shared time without changing the subject?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "appreciation", + "flirting", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "something_about_your_company", + "text": "Something about your company" + }, + { + "id": "something_you_handled_well", + "text": "Something you handled well" + }, + { + "id": "something_attractive_i_noticed", + "text": "Something attractive I noticed" + }, + { + "id": "something_uniquely_you", + "text": "Something uniquely you" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "something_about_your_company", + "text": "Something about your company" + }, + { + "id": "something_you_handled_well", + "text": "Something you handled well" + }, + { + "id": "something_attractive_i_noticed", + "text": "Something attractive I noticed" + }, + { + "id": "something_uniquely_you", + "text": "Something uniquely you" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_104", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make playfulness feel unsafe or one-sided?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "playfulness", + "boundaries", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "jokes_target_a_sore_spot", + "text": "Jokes target a sore spot" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_must_perform", + "text": "One person must perform" + }, + { + "id": "teasing_continues_after_discomfort", + "text": "Teasing continues after discomfort" + }, + { + "id": "laughter_is_used_to_dismiss_a_concern", + "text": "Laughter is used to dismiss a concern" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "jokes_target_a_sore_spot", + "text": "Jokes target a sore spot" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_must_perform", + "text": "One person must perform" + }, + { + "id": "teasing_continues_after_discomfort", + "text": "Teasing continues after discomfort" + }, + { + "id": "laughter_is_used_to_dismiss_a_concern", + "text": "Laughter is used to dismiss a concern" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_105", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can flirting stay welcome when one person is not in a flirty mood?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "consent", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "accept_the_response", + "text": "Accept the response" + }, + { + "id": "switch_to_ordinary_warmth", + "text": "Switch to ordinary warmth" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_keep_escalating", + "text": "Do not keep escalating" + }, + { + "id": "try_again_another_day_without_resentment", + "text": "Try again another day without resentment" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "accept_the_response", + "text": "Accept the response" + }, + { + "id": "switch_to_ordinary_warmth", + "text": "Switch to ordinary warmth" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_keep_escalating", + "text": "Do not keep escalating" + }, + { + "id": "try_again_another_day_without_resentment", + "text": "Try again another day without resentment" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_106", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes an invitation to spend time together appealing?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "invitations", + "planning", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_specific", + "text": "It is specific" + }, + { + "id": "it_fits_our_energy", + "text": "It fits our energy" + }, + { + "id": "it_sounds_genuinely_wanted", + "text": "It sounds genuinely wanted" + }, + { + "id": "it_leaves_room_for_another_idea", + "text": "It leaves room for another idea" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_specific", + "text": "It is specific" + }, + { + "id": "it_fits_our_energy", + "text": "It fits our energy" + }, + { + "id": "it_sounds_genuinely_wanted", + "text": "It sounds genuinely wanted" + }, + { + "id": "it_leaves_room_for_another_idea", + "text": "It leaves room for another idea" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_107", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which invitation would be easiest to accept on a normal weekday?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "invitations", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "want_to_take_a_walk", + "text": "Want to take a walk?" + }, + { + "id": "want_to_eat_together", + "text": "Want to eat together?" + }, + { + "id": "can_we_sit_outside", + "text": "Can we sit outside?" + }, + { + "id": "want_twenty_minutes_with_no_phones", + "text": "Want twenty minutes with no phones?" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "want_to_take_a_walk", + "text": "Want to take a walk?" + }, + { + "id": "want_to_eat_together", + "text": "Want to eat together?" + }, + { + "id": "can_we_sit_outside", + "text": "Can we sit outside?" + }, + { + "id": "want_twenty_minutes_with_no_phones", + "text": "Want twenty minutes with no phones?" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_108", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it for us to make plans that actually happen?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "current_state", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not easy", + "max_label": "Very easy" + } + }, + { + "id": "quality_time_109", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Put it on the calendar or decide the day of?", "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "planning_style", + "planning", "quick_choice", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "put_it_on_the_calendar", @@ -280,5653 +5290,54 @@ ] } }, - { - "id": "quality_time_006", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What would make a new tradition feel natural for us?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "traditions", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_grows_from_something_we_already_enjoy", - "text": "It grows from something we already enjoy" - }, - { - "id": "it_does_not_require_a_perfect_schedule", - "text": "It does not require a perfect schedule" - }, - { - "id": "both_of_us_help_shape_it", - "text": "Both of us help shape it" - }, - { - "id": "it_has_a_small_recognizable_detail", - "text": "It has a small recognizable detail" - }, - { - "id": "we_can_skip_it_without_guilt_when_life_gets_messy", - "text": "We can skip it without guilt when life gets messy" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_grows_from_something_we_already_enjoy", - "text": "It grows from something we already enjoy" - }, - { - "id": "it_does_not_require_a_perfect_schedule", - "text": "It does not require a perfect schedule" - }, - { - "id": "both_of_us_help_shape_it", - "text": "Both of us help shape it" - }, - { - "id": "it_has_a_small_recognizable_detail", - "text": "It has a small recognizable detail" - }, - { - "id": "we_can_skip_it_without_guilt_when_life_gets_messy", - "text": "We can skip it without guilt when life gets messy" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_007", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When we are both overloaded, what kind of connection is realistic?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "busy_life", - "low_energy", - "invitation", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_ten_minute_check_in", - "text": "A ten-minute check-in" - }, - { - "id": "eating_one_meal_without_multitasking", - "text": "Eating one meal without multitasking" - }, - { - "id": "a_quiet_hug_and_an_early_night", - "text": "A quiet hug and an early night" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_one_easy_thing_for_the_weekend", - "text": "Choosing one easy thing for the weekend" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_ten_minute_check_in", - "text": "A ten-minute check-in" - }, - { - "id": "eating_one_meal_without_multitasking", - "text": "Eating one meal without multitasking" - }, - { - "id": "a_quiet_hug_and_an_early_night", - "text": "A quiet hug and an early night" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_one_easy_thing_for_the_weekend", - "text": "Choosing one easy thing for the weekend" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_008", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps quality time work when one of us is tired?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "low_energy", - "accessibility", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_lower_energy_person_chooses_the_pace", - "text": "The lower-energy person chooses the pace" - }, - { - "id": "the_plan_can_be_shortened_without_disappointment", - "text": "The plan can be shortened without disappointment" - }, - { - "id": "comfort_matters_more_than_novelty", - "text": "Comfort matters more than novelty" - }, - { - "id": "we_count_quiet_closeness_as_enough", - "text": "We count quiet closeness as enough" - }, - { - "id": "we_save_serious_topics_for_a_better_moment", - "text": "We save serious topics for a better moment" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_lower_energy_person_chooses_the_pace", - "text": "The lower-energy person chooses the pace" - }, - { - "id": "the_plan_can_be_shortened_without_disappointment", - "text": "The plan can be shortened without disappointment" - }, - { - "id": "comfort_matters_more_than_novelty", - "text": "Comfort matters more than novelty" - }, - { - "id": "we_count_quiet_closeness_as_enough", - "text": "We count quiet closeness as enough" - }, - { - "id": "we_save_serious_topics_for_a_better_moment", - "text": "We save serious topics for a better moment" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_009", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kinds of appreciation make time together feel better?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "appreciation", - "feeling_seen", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "naming_something_you_handled_well", - "text": "Naming something you handled well" - }, - { - "id": "saying_what_i_enjoy_about_your_company", - "text": "Saying what I enjoy about your company" - }, - { - "id": "remembering_a_thoughtful_thing_you_did", - "text": "Remembering a thoughtful thing you did" - }, - { - "id": "noticing_how_you_have_grown", - "text": "Noticing how you have grown" - }, - { - "id": "telling_you_what_feels_uniquely_ours", - "text": "Telling you what feels uniquely ours" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "naming_something_you_handled_well", - "text": "Naming something you handled well" - }, - { - "id": "saying_what_i_enjoy_about_your_company", - "text": "Saying what I enjoy about your company" - }, - { - "id": "remembering_a_thoughtful_thing_you_did", - "text": "Remembering a thoughtful thing you did" - }, - { - "id": "noticing_how_you_have_grown", - "text": "Noticing how you have grown" - }, - { - "id": "telling_you_what_feels_uniquely_ours", - "text": "Telling you what feels uniquely ours" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_010", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What do we want quality time to feel like more often?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "pack_landing", - "shared_vision", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "easy_enough_to_happen_regularly", - "text": "Easy enough to happen regularly" - }, - { - "id": "warm_enough_to_help_us_reconnect", - "text": "Warm enough to help us reconnect" - }, - { - "id": "playful_enough_to_break_the_routine", - "text": "Playful enough to break the routine" - }, - { - "id": "honest_enough_to_keep_us_close", - "text": "Honest enough to keep us close" - }, - { - "id": "flexible_enough_to_fit_real_life", - "text": "Flexible enough to fit real life" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "easy_enough_to_happen_regularly", - "text": "Easy enough to happen regularly" - }, - { - "id": "warm_enough_to_help_us_reconnect", - "text": "Warm enough to help us reconnect" - }, - { - "id": "playful_enough_to_break_the_routine", - "text": "Playful enough to break the routine" - }, - { - "id": "honest_enough_to_keep_us_close", - "text": "Honest enough to keep us close" - }, - { - "id": "flexible_enough_to_fit_real_life", - "text": "Flexible enough to fit real life" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_011", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When do you most want my full attention?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "attention", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "when_i_first_get_home_or_call", - "text": "When I first get home or call" - }, - { - "id": "when_i_am_telling_a_story", - "text": "When I am telling a story" - }, - { - "id": "when_i_am_sharing_something_difficult", - "text": "When I am sharing something difficult" - }, - { - "id": "when_we_are_making_a_plan_together", - "text": "When we are making a plan together" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "when_i_first_get_home_or_call", - "text": "When I first get home or call" - }, - { - "id": "when_i_am_telling_a_story", - "text": "When I am telling a story" - }, - { - "id": "when_i_am_sharing_something_difficult", - "text": "When I am sharing something difficult" - }, - { - "id": "when_we_are_making_a_plan_together", - "text": "When we are making a plan together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_012", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which daily transitions could become good time for us?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "routines", - "transitions", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_first_few_minutes_after_work", - "text": "The first few minutes after work" - }, - { - "id": "the_ride_or_call_on_the_way_home", - "text": "The ride or call on the way home" - }, - { - "id": "the_pause_before_dinner", - "text": "The pause before dinner" - }, - { - "id": "the_last_half_hour_before_sleep", - "text": "The last half hour before sleep" - }, - { - "id": "the_start_of_a_weekend_morning", - "text": "The start of a weekend morning" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_first_few_minutes_after_work", - "text": "The first few minutes after work" - }, - { - "id": "the_ride_or_call_on_the_way_home", - "text": "The ride or call on the way home" - }, - { - "id": "the_pause_before_dinner", - "text": "The pause before dinner" - }, - { - "id": "the_last_half_hour_before_sleep", - "text": "The last half hour before sleep" - }, - { - "id": "the_start_of_a_weekend_morning", - "text": "The start of a weekend morning" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_013", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps a meaningful question feel welcome?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "meaningful", - "conversation", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_fits_the_moment", - "text": "It fits the moment" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_no_pressure_for_a_perfect_answer", - "text": "There is no pressure for a perfect answer" - }, - { - "id": "it_is_clear_and_not_too_broad", - "text": "It is clear and not too broad" - }, - { - "id": "we_both_answer_it", - "text": "We both answer it" - }, - { - "id": "we_can_shift_back_to_something_lighter", - "text": "We can shift back to something lighter" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_fits_the_moment", - "text": "It fits the moment" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_no_pressure_for_a_perfect_answer", - "text": "There is no pressure for a 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{ - "options": [ - { - "id": "tell_me_the_whole_plan", - "text": "Tell me the whole plan" - }, - { - "id": "give_me_the_basic_idea", - "text": "Give me the basic idea" - }, - { - "id": "offer_two_choices", - "text": "Offer two choices" - }, - { - "id": "surprise_me_within_clear_limits", - "text": "Surprise me within clear limits" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_015", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which low-effort moments make you feel closest to me?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "low_energy", - "closeness", - "routines", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "drinking_something_together_before_the_day_starts", - "text": "Drinking something together before the day starts" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_near_each_other_after_dinner", - "text": "Sitting near each other after dinner" - }, - { - "id": "taking_a_slow_lap_around_the_block", - "text": "Taking a slow lap around the block" - }, - { - "id": "talking_in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "Talking in bed before sleep" - }, - { - "id": "listening_to_the_same_music", - "text": "Listening to the same music" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "drinking_something_together_before_the_day_starts", - "text": "Drinking something together before the day starts" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_near_each_other_after_dinner", - "text": "Sitting near each other after dinner" - }, - { - "id": "taking_a_slow_lap_around_the_block", - "text": "Taking a slow lap around the block" - }, - { - "id": "talking_in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "Talking in bed before sleep" - }, - { - "id": "listening_to_the_same_music", - "text": "Listening to the same music" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_016", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "written", - "text": "Describe a quiet moment together that still feels warm when you remember it.", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - 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me attention that is not divided" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "you_choose_to_sit_near_me", - "text": "You choose to sit near me" - }, - { - "id": "you_notice_something_you_like_about_me", - "text": "You notice something you like about me" - }, - { - "id": "you_reach_for_my_hand", - "text": "You reach for my hand" - }, - { - "id": "you_make_the_plan_feel_like_it_is_for_us", - "text": "You make the plan feel like it is for us" - }, - { - "id": "you_give_me_attention_that_is_not_divided", - "text": "You give me attention that is not divided" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_018", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps us notice a good moment while we are still in it?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "presence", - "memory_making", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "one_of_us_says_it_out_loud", - "text": "One of us says it out loud" - }, - { - "id": "we_take_a_photo_without_making_it_a_production", - "text": "We take a photo without making it a production" - }, - { - "id": "we_pause_instead_of_rushing_ahead", - "text": "We pause instead of rushing ahead" - }, - { - "id": "we_make_a_small_toast_or_joke", - "text": "We make a small toast or joke" - }, - { - "id": "we_stay_a_little_longer_than_planned", - "text": "We stay a little longer than planned" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "one_of_us_says_it_out_loud", - "text": "One of us says it out loud" - }, - { - "id": "we_take_a_photo_without_making_it_a_production", - "text": "We take a photo without making it a production" - }, - { - "id": "we_pause_instead_of_rushing_ahead", - "text": "We pause instead of rushing ahead" - }, - { - "id": "we_make_a_small_toast_or_joke", - "text": "We make a small toast or joke" - }, - { - "id": "we_stay_a_little_longer_than_planned", - "text": "We stay a little longer than planned" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_019", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes us laugh like people who know each other too well?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "adult_humor", - "couple_lore", - "connection", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_can_predict_the_exact_reaction", - "text": "We can predict the exact reaction" - }, - { - "id": "we_remember_the_missing_context", - "text": "We remember the missing context" - }, - { - "id": "one_look_finishes_the_joke", - "text": "One look finishes the joke" - }, - { - "id": "we_know_which_detail_makes_the_story", - "text": "We know which detail makes the story" - }, - { - "id": "we_both_notice_the_same_absurd_thing", - "text": "We both notice the same absurd thing" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_can_predict_the_exact_reaction", - "text": "We can 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feel connected rather than just adjacent?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "screens", - "presence", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "picking_something_we_both_want_to_watch", - "text": "Picking something we both want to watch" - }, - { - "id": "reacting_and_talking_as_we_go", - "text": "Reacting and talking as we go" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_our_phones_from_taking_over", - "text": "Keeping our phones from taking over" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_enough_to_feel_together", - "text": "Sitting close enough to feel together" - }, - { - "id": "pausing_for_a_real_conversation", - "text": "Pausing for a real conversation" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "picking_something_we_both_want_to_watch", - "text": "Picking something we both want to watch" - }, - { - "id": "reacting_and_talking_as_we_go", - "text": "Reacting and talking as we go" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_our_phones_from_taking_over", - "text": "Keeping our phones from taking over" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_enough_to_feel_together", - "text": "Sitting close enough to feel together" - }, - { - "id": "pausing_for_a_real_conversation", - "text": "Pausing for a real conversation" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_022", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps us laugh and talk at the same time?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "adult_humor", - "conversation", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "retelling_a_story_we_both_know", - "text": "Retelling a story we both know" - }, - { - "id": "making_observations_nobody_else_would_understand", - "text": "Making observations nobody else would understand" - }, - { - "id": "admitting_the_embarrassing_part", - "text": "Admitting the embarrassing part" - }, - { - "id": "doing_impressions_we_both_recognize", - "text": "Doing impressions we both recognize" - }, - { - "id": "letting_one_topic_lead_somewhere_completely_different", - "text": "Letting one topic lead somewhere completely different" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "retelling_a_story_we_both_know", - "text": "Retelling a story we both know" - }, - { - "id": "making_observations_nobody_else_would_understand", - "text": "Making observations nobody else would understand" - }, - { - "id": "admitting_the_embarrassing_part", - "text": "Admitting the embarrassing part" - }, - { - "id": "doing_impressions_we_both_recognize", - "text": "Doing impressions we both recognize" - }, - { - "id": "letting_one_topic_lead_somewhere_completely_different", - "text": "Letting one topic lead somewhere completely different" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_023", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of support do you most appreciate during quiet time?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "support", - "quiet", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "just_staying_close", - "text": "Just staying close" - }, - { - "id": "letting_me_talk_at_my_own_pace", - "text": "Letting me talk at my own pace" - }, - { - "id": "doing_one_thoughtful_practical_thing", - "text": "Doing one thoughtful practical thing" - }, - { - "id": "helping_the_mood_feel_lighter", - "text": "Helping the mood feel lighter" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "just_staying_close", - "text": "Just staying close" - }, - { - "id": "letting_me_talk_at_my_own_pace", - "text": "Letting me talk at my own pace" - }, - { - "id": "doing_one_thoughtful_practical_thing", - "text": "Doing one thoughtful practical thing" - }, - { - "id": "helping_the_mood_feel_lighter", - "text": "Helping the mood feel lighter" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_024", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Protect one weeknight or one weekend hour?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "action", - "planning", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "protect_one_weeknight", - "text": "Protect one weeknight" - }, - { - "id": "protect_one_weekend_hour", - "text": "Protect one weekend hour" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "protect_one_weeknight", - "text": "Protect one weeknight" - }, - { - "id": "protect_one_weekend_hour", - "text": "Protect one weekend hour" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_025", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which low-energy plan would you never get tired of?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "low_energy", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quiet_meal_together", - "text": "A quiet meal together" - }, - { - "id": "a_familiar_show_with_commentary", - "text": "A familiar show with commentary" - }, - { - "id": "a_slow_drive_or_ride", - "text": "A slow drive or ride" - }, - { - "id": "a_late_night_talk_before_sleep", - "text": "A late-night talk before sleep" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quiet_meal_together", - "text": "A quiet meal together" - }, - { - "id": "a_familiar_show_with_commentary", - "text": "A familiar show with commentary" - }, - { - "id": "a_slow_drive_or_ride", - "text": "A slow drive or ride" - }, - { - "id": "a_late_night_talk_before_sleep", - "text": "A late-night talk before sleep" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_026", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which small changes would make time together easier to find?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "barriers", - "small_changes", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "deciding_meals_earlier", - "text": "Deciding meals earlier" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_the_mental_load_more_clearly", - "text": "Sharing the mental load more clearly" - }, - { - "id": "ending_work_or_chores_at_a_chosen_time", - "text": "Ending work or chores at a chosen time" - }, - { - "id": "using_short_openings_instead_of_waiting_for_hours", - "text": "Using short openings instead of waiting for hours" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_one_simple_idea_ready", - "text": "Keeping one simple idea ready" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "deciding_meals_earlier", - "text": "Deciding meals earlier" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_the_mental_load_more_clearly", - "text": "Sharing the mental load more clearly" - }, - { - "id": "ending_work_or_chores_at_a_chosen_time", - "text": "Ending work or chores at a chosen time" - }, - { - "id": "using_short_openings_instead_of_waiting_for_hours", - "text": "Using short openings instead of waiting for hours" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_one_simple_idea_ready", - "text": "Keeping one simple idea ready" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_027", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much structure helps you enjoy time together?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "planning_style", - "preferences", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Very little structure", - "max_label": "A clear plan" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_028", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kind of quality time would you guess I value more than I say?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "quiet_time_with_no_pressure_to_talk", - "text": "Quiet time with no pressure to talk" - }, - { - "id": "a_plan_that_shows_you_remembered_me", - "text": "A plan that shows you remembered me" - }, - { - "id": "laughing_together_after_a_hard_day", - "text": "Laughing together after a hard day" - }, - { - "id": "a_conversation_that_goes_below_the_surface", - "text": "A conversation that goes below the surface" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_ordinary_as_a_team", - "text": "Doing something ordinary as a team" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "quiet_time_with_no_pressure_to_talk", - "text": "Quiet time with no pressure to talk" - }, - { - "id": "a_plan_that_shows_you_remembered_me", - "text": "A plan that shows you remembered me" - }, - { - "id": "laughing_together_after_a_hard_day", - "text": "Laughing together after a hard day" - }, - { - "id": "a_conversation_that_goes_below_the_surface", - "text": "A conversation that goes below the surface" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_ordinary_as_a_team", - "text": "Doing something ordinary as a team" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_029", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which sounds help a quiet room feel good?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "quiet", - "sensory_preferences", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_familiar_playlist_at_low_volume", - "text": "A familiar playlist at low volume" - }, - { - "id": "rain_or_weather_outside", - "text": "Rain or weather outside" - }, - { - "id": "a_fan_and_the_normal_sounds_of_home", - "text": "A fan and the normal sounds of home" - }, - { - "id": "a_show_neither_of_us_has_to_follow_closely", - "text": "A show neither of us has to follow closely" - }, - { - "id": "actual_silence_with_no_need_to_fill_it", - "text": "Actual silence with no need to fill it" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_familiar_playlist_at_low_volume", - "text": "A familiar playlist at low volume" - }, - { - "id": "rain_or_weather_outside", - "text": "Rain or weather outside" - }, - { - "id": "a_fan_and_the_normal_sounds_of_home", - "text": "A fan and the normal sounds of home" - }, - { - "id": "a_show_neither_of_us_has_to_follow_closely", - "text": "A show neither of us has to follow closely" - }, - { - "id": "actual_silence_with_no_need_to_fill_it", - "text": "Actual silence with no need to fill it" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_030", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps us shift out of work mode and into couple mode?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "transitions", - "reconnection", - "affection", - "quality_time", - "flirty" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "changing_clothes_and_getting_comfortable", - "text": "Changing clothes and getting comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "taking_ten_minutes_before_discussing_logistics", - "text": "Taking ten minutes before discussing logistics" - }, - { - "id": "greeting_each_other_with_a_kiss_or_real_affection", - "text": "Greeting each other with a kiss or real affection" - }, - { - "id": "putting_on_music_that_changes_the_mood", - "text": "Putting on music that changes the mood" - }, - { - "id": "doing_one_small_thing_side_by_side", - "text": "Doing one small thing side by side" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "changing_clothes_and_getting_comfortable", - "text": "Changing clothes and getting comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "taking_ten_minutes_before_discussing_logistics", - "text": "Taking ten minutes before discussing logistics" - }, - { - "id": "greeting_each_other_with_a_kiss_or_real_affection", - "text": "Greeting each other with a kiss or real affection" - }, - { - "id": "putting_on_music_that_changes_the_mood", - "text": "Putting on music that changes the mood" - }, - { - "id": "doing_one_small_thing_side_by_side", - "text": "Doing one small thing side 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"showing_each_other_something_interesting", - "text": "Showing each other something interesting" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_interruptions_gentle", - "text": "Keeping interruptions gentle" - }, - { - "id": "ending_with_a_little_conversation", - "text": "Ending with a little conversation" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sharing_a_comfortable_setup", - "text": "Sharing a comfortable setup" - }, - { - "id": "taking_small_breaks_together", - "text": "Taking small breaks together" - }, - { - "id": "showing_each_other_something_interesting", - "text": "Showing each other something interesting" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_interruptions_gentle", - "text": "Keeping interruptions gentle" - }, - { - "id": "ending_with_a_little_conversation", - "text": "Ending with a little conversation" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_033", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "If I could relive one shared memory for an hour, which would I pick?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "memories", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "an_early_moment_in_our_relationship", - "text": "An early moment in our relationship" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_trip_or_day_out", - "text": "A favorite trip or day out" - }, - { - "id": "a_night_when_we_laughed_nonstop", - "text": "A night when we laughed nonstop" - }, - { - "id": "a_peaceful_ordinary_day_together", - "text": "A peaceful ordinary day together" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "an_early_moment_in_our_relationship", - "text": "An early moment in our relationship" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_trip_or_day_out", - "text": "A favorite trip or day out" - }, - { - "id": "a_night_when_we_laughed_nonstop", - "text": "A night when we laughed nonstop" - }, - { - "id": "a_peaceful_ordinary_day_together", - "text": "A peaceful ordinary day together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_034", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes a plan easy for you to enjoy?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "accessibility", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time", - "low_energy" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_realistic_amount_of_time", - "text": "A realistic amount of time" - }, - { - "id": "a_place_where_i_can_be_comfortable", - "text": "A place where I can be comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_what_the_plan_actually_involves", - "text": "Knowing what the plan actually involves" - }, - { - "id": "an_easy_way_to_take_a_break", - "text": "An easy way to take a break" - }, - { - "id": "little_or_no_money_required", - "text": "Little or no money required" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_realistic_amount_of_time", - "text": "A realistic amount of time" - }, - { - "id": "a_place_where_i_can_be_comfortable", - "text": "A place where I can be comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_what_the_plan_actually_involves", - "text": "Knowing what the plan actually involves" - }, - { - "id": "an_easy_way_to_take_a_break", - "text": "An easy way to take a break" - }, - { - "id": "little_or_no_money_required", - "text": "Little or no money required" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_035", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What would you guess I want more of in our time together right now?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "current_need", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "more_ease", - "text": "More ease" - }, - { - "id": "more_laughter", - "text": "More laughter" - }, - { - "id": "more_affection", - "text": "More affection" - }, - { - "id": "more_meaningful_conversation", - "text": "More meaningful conversation" - }, - { - "id": "more_small_plans_that_actually_happen", - "text": "More small plans that actually happen" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "more_ease", - "text": "More ease" - }, - { - "id": "more_laughter", - "text": "More laughter" - }, - { - "id": "more_affection", - "text": "More affection" - }, - { - "id": "more_meaningful_conversation", - "text": "More meaningful conversation" - }, - { - "id": "more_small_plans_that_actually_happen", - "text": "More small plans that actually happen" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_036", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps when one of us has more energy than the other?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "energy_mismatch", - "low_pressure", - "accessibility", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "choosing_an_option_with_an_easy_exit", - "text": "Choosing an option with an easy exit" - }, - { - "id": "letting_the_lower_energy_person_set_the_pace", - "text": "Letting the lower-energy person set the pace" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_partly_together", - "text": "Doing something partly together" - }, - { - "id": "saving_the_bigger_idea_for_another_day", - "text": "Saving the bigger idea for another day" - }, - { - "id": "not_taking_the_mismatch_personally", - "text": "Not taking the mismatch personally" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "choosing_an_option_with_an_easy_exit", - "text": "Choosing an option with an easy exit" - }, - { - "id": "letting_the_lower_energy_person_set_the_pace", - "text": "Letting the lower-energy person set the pace" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_partly_together", - "text": "Doing something partly together" - }, - { - "id": "saving_the_bigger_idea_for_another_day", - "text": "Saving the bigger idea for another day" - }, - { - "id": "not_taking_the_mismatch_personally", - "text": "Not taking the mismatch personally" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_037", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Where could we go for an hour without turning it into a big expense?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "low_cost", - "short_outing", - "invitation", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_park_or_walking_path", - "text": "A park or walking path" - }, - { - "id": "a_bookstore_or_library", - "text": "A bookstore or library" - }, - { - "id": "a_familiar_caf_for_one_drink", - "text": "A familiar café for one drink" - }, - { - "id": "a_local_place_we_have_never_explored", - "text": "A local place we have never explored" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_park_or_walking_path", - "text": "A park or walking path" - }, - { - "id": "a_bookstore_or_library", - "text": "A bookstore or library" - }, - { - "id": "a_familiar_caf_for_one_drink", - "text": "A familiar café for one drink" - }, - { - "id": "a_local_place_we_have_never_explored", - "text": "A local place we have never explored" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_038", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps a conversation feel easy instead of like an interview?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "conversation", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time", - "adult_humor" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "letting_the_topic_wander", - "text": "Letting the topic wander" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_our_own_answer_too", - "text": "Sharing our own answer too" - }, - { - "id": "not_forcing_every_silence", - "text": "Not forcing every silence" - }, - { - "id": "asking_because_we_are_genuinely_curious", - "text": "Asking because we are genuinely curious" - }, - { - "id": "stopping_before_the_talk_gets_draining", - "text": "Stopping before the talk gets draining" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "letting_the_topic_wander", - "text": "Letting the topic wander" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_our_own_answer_too", - "text": "Sharing our own answer too" - }, - { - "id": "not_forcing_every_silence", - "text": "Not forcing every silence" - }, - { - "id": "asking_because_we_are_genuinely_curious", - "text": "Asking because we are genuinely curious" - }, - { - "id": "stopping_before_the_talk_gets_draining", - "text": "Stopping before the talk gets draining" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_039", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Talk through something real or simply enjoy being together?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "current_need", - "meaningful", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "talk_through_something_real", - "text": "Talk through something real" - }, - { - "id": "simply_enjoy_being_together", - "text": "Simply enjoy being together" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "talk_through_something_real", - "text": "Talk through something real" - }, - { - "id": "simply_enjoy_being_together", - "text": "Simply enjoy being together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_040", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kinds of affection make ordinary time feel more special?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "affection", - "flirty", - "ordinary_time", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_real_hello_kiss", - "text": "A real hello kiss" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_without_being_asked", - "text": "Sitting close without being asked" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_on_my_back_as_you_pass", - "text": "A hand on my back as you pass" - }, - { - "id": "holding_hands_during_a_walk", - "text": "Holding hands during a walk" - }, - { - "id": "a_long_hug_before_we_move_on", - "text": "A long hug before we move on" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_real_hello_kiss", - "text": "A real hello kiss" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_close_without_being_asked", - "text": "Sitting close without being asked" - }, - { - "id": "a_hand_on_my_back_as_you_pass", - "text": "A hand on my back as you pass" - }, - { - "id": "holding_hands_during_a_walk", - "text": "Holding hands during a walk" - }, - { - "id": "a_long_hug_before_we_move_on", - "text": "A long hug before we move on" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_041", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of plan fits us best this week?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "planning", - "invitation", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "one_easy_evening_at_home", - "text": "One easy evening at home" - }, - { - "id": "a_short_outing_with_no_big_agenda", - "text": "A short outing with no big agenda" - }, - { - "id": "a_protected_hour_for_talking_and_relaxing", - "text": "A protected hour for talking and relaxing" - }, - { - "id": "a_spontaneous_choice_when_we_both_have_energy", - "text": "A spontaneous choice when we both have energy" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "one_easy_evening_at_home", - "text": "One easy evening at home" - }, - { - "id": "a_short_outing_with_no_big_agenda", - "text": "A short outing with no big agenda" - }, - { - "id": "a_protected_hour_for_talking_and_relaxing", - "text": "A protected hour for talking and relaxing" - }, - { - "id": "a_spontaneous_choice_when_we_both_have_energy", - "text": "A spontaneous choice when we both have energy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_042", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which small gestures would you bet I remember longest?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "thoughtfulness", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "you_saving_me_a_comfortable_spot", - "text": "You saving me a comfortable spot" - }, - { - "id": "you_sending_a_message_tied_to_our_conversation", - "text": "You sending a message tied to our conversation" - }, - { - "id": "you_making_time_before_i_have_to_ask", - "text": "You making time before I have to ask" - }, - { - "id": "you_noticing_when_i_need_a_slower_plan", - "text": "You noticing when I need a slower plan" - }, - { - "id": "you_reaching_for_me_during_an_ordinary_moment", - "text": "You reaching for me during an ordinary moment" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "you_saving_me_a_comfortable_spot", - "text": "You saving me a comfortable spot" - }, - { - "id": "you_sending_a_message_tied_to_our_conversation", - "text": "You sending a message tied to our conversation" - }, - { - "id": "you_making_time_before_i_have_to_ask", - "text": "You making time before I have to ask" - }, - { - "id": "you_noticing_when_i_need_a_slower_plan", - "text": "You noticing when I need a slower plan" - }, - { - "id": "you_reaching_for_me_during_an_ordinary_moment", - "text": "You reaching for me during an ordinary moment" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_043", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What kind of physical closeness fits a quiet evening?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "affection", - "quiet", - "consent_aware", - "quality_time", - "flirty" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "holding_hands_for_a_while", - "text": "Holding hands for a while" - }, - { - "id": "leaning_against_each_other", - "text": "Leaning against each other" - }, - { - "id": "resting_our_feet_together", - "text": "Resting our feet together" - }, - { - "id": "a_few_slow_hugs_throughout_the_night", - "text": "A few slow hugs throughout the night" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_nearby_with_comfortable_space", - "text": "Sitting nearby with comfortable space" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "holding_hands_for_a_while", - "text": "Holding hands for a while" - }, - { - "id": "leaning_against_each_other", - "text": "Leaning against each other" - }, - { - "id": "resting_our_feet_together", - "text": "Resting our feet together" - }, - { - "id": "a_few_slow_hugs_throughout_the_night", - "text": "A few slow hugs throughout the night" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_nearby_with_comfortable_space", - "text": "Sitting nearby with comfortable space" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_044", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes watching something together feel like shared time?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "screens", - "shared_experience", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "choosing_it_as_a_team", - "text": "Choosing it as a team" - }, - { - "id": "saving_an_episode_for_each_other", - "text": "Saving an episode for each other" - }, - { - "id": "trading_reactions_during_the_good_parts", - "text": "Trading reactions during the good parts" - }, - { - "id": "making_the_setup_comfortable", - "text": "Making the setup comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "talking_about_it_when_it_ends", - "text": "Talking about it when it ends" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "choosing_it_as_a_team", - "text": "Choosing it as a team" - }, - { - "id": "saving_an_episode_for_each_other", - "text": "Saving an episode for each other" - }, - { - "id": "trading_reactions_during_the_good_parts", - "text": "Trading reactions during the good parts" - }, - { - "id": "making_the_setup_comfortable", - "text": "Making the setup comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "talking_about_it_when_it_ends", - "text": "Talking about it when it ends" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_045", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Cuddled up close or sitting nearby with room to breathe?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "affection_style", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "cuddled_up_close", - "text": "Cuddled up close" - }, - { - "id": "nearby_with_room_to_breathe", - "text": "Nearby with room to breathe" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cuddled_up_close", - "text": "Cuddled up close" - }, - { - "id": "nearby_with_room_to_breathe", - "text": "Nearby with room to breathe" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_046", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you switch gears and be present with me?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "transitions", - "presence", - "comfort", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "finishing_the_one_thing_still_pulling_at_my_attention", - "text": "Finishing the one thing still pulling at my attention" - }, - { - "id": "a_few_quiet_minutes_to_shift_gears", - "text": "A few quiet minutes to shift gears" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_roughly_what_we_are_doing", - "text": "Knowing roughly what we are doing" - }, - { - "id": "getting_comfortable_first", - "text": "Getting comfortable first" - }, - { - "id": "a_little_affection_or_humor_at_the_start", - "text": "A little affection or humor at the start" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "finishing_the_one_thing_still_pulling_at_my_attention", - "text": "Finishing the one thing still pulling at my attention" - }, - { - "id": "a_few_quiet_minutes_to_shift_gears", - "text": "A few quiet minutes to shift gears" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_roughly_what_we_are_doing", - "text": "Knowing roughly what we are doing" - }, - { - "id": "getting_comfortable_first", - "text": "Getting comfortable first" - }, - { - "id": "a_little_affection_or_humor_at_the_start", - "text": "A little affection or humor at the start" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_047", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What gets in the way of enjoying time together fastest?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "barriers", - "partner_awareness", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "too_many_decisions", - "text": "Too many decisions" - }, - { - "id": "not_enough_energy", - "text": "Not enough energy" - }, - { - "id": "constant_interruptions", - "text": "Constant interruptions" - }, - { - "id": "feeling_like_the_plan_is_another_obligation", - "text": "Feeling like the plan is another obligation" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "too_many_decisions", - "text": "Too many decisions" - }, - { - "id": "not_enough_energy", - "text": "Not enough energy" - }, - { - "id": "constant_interruptions", - "text": "Constant interruptions" - }, - { - "id": "feeling_like_the_plan_is_another_obligation", - "text": "Feeling like the plan is another obligation" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_048", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How connected do you feel to the routines and traditions we have now?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "traditions", - "connection", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very connected", - "max_label": "Deeply connected" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_049", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "When privacy is limited, what still helps us connect?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "privacy_limits", - "practical_reality", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_walk_where_we_can_talk_quietly", - "text": "A walk where we can talk quietly" - }, - { - "id": "headphones_and_a_shared_show", - "text": "Headphones and a shared show" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_check_in_after_others_settle_down", - "text": "A brief check-in after others settle down" - }, - { - "id": "a_message_that_starts_a_later_conversation", - "text": "A message that starts a later conversation" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_ritual_that_does_not_need_much_space", - "text": "A small ritual that does not need much space" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_walk_where_we_can_talk_quietly", - "text": "A walk where we can talk quietly" - }, - { - "id": "headphones_and_a_shared_show", - "text": "Headphones and a shared show" - }, - { - "id": "a_brief_check_in_after_others_settle_down", - "text": "A brief check-in after others settle down" - }, - { - "id": "a_message_that_starts_a_later_conversation", - "text": "A message that starts a later conversation" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_ritual_that_does_not_need_much_space", - "text": "A small ritual that does not need much space" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_050", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which ordinary things become more fun because we do them together?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "playfulness", - "ordinary_time", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "trying_to_choose_what_to_eat", - "text": "Trying to choose what to eat" - }, - { - "id": "commenting_through_a_familiar_show", - "text": "Commenting through a familiar show" - }, - { - "id": "taking_the_long_way_home", - "text": "Taking the long way home" - }, - { - "id": "waiting_somewhere_with_nothing_to_do", - "text": "Waiting somewhere with nothing to do" - }, - { - "id": "turning_a_small_mistake_into_a_story", - "text": "Turning a small mistake into a story" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "trying_to_choose_what_to_eat", - "text": "Trying to choose what to eat" - }, - { - "id": "commenting_through_a_familiar_show", - "text": "Commenting through a familiar show" - }, - { - "id": "taking_the_long_way_home", - "text": "Taking the long way home" - }, - { - "id": "waiting_somewhere_with_nothing_to_do", - "text": "Waiting somewhere with nothing to do" - }, - { - "id": "turning_a_small_mistake_into_a_story", - "text": "Turning a small mistake into a story" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_051", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which invitations would feel easiest to say yes to tonight?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "invitation", - "flirty", - "consent_aware", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "come_sit_with_me_for_a_while", - "text": "Come sit with me for a while" - }, - { - "id": "want_to_take_a_short_walk_together", - "text": "Want to take a short walk together?" - }, - { - "id": "can_i_kiss_you", - "text": "Can I kiss you?" - }, - { - "id": "should_we_put_on_our_song", - "text": "Should we put on our song?" - }, - { - "id": "want_some_quiet_company", - "text": "Want some quiet company?" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "come_sit_with_me_for_a_while", - "text": "Come sit with me for a while" - }, - { - "id": "want_to_take_a_short_walk_together", - "text": "Want to take a short walk together?" - }, - { - "id": "can_i_kiss_you", - "text": "Can I kiss you?" - }, - { - "id": "should_we_put_on_our_song", - "text": "Should we put on our song?" - }, - { - "id": "want_some_quiet_company", - "text": "Want some quiet company?" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_052", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "written", - "text": "What conversation with me made you feel especially known or understood?", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "memory", - "conversation", - "meaningful", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min_length": 1, - "max_length": 500, - "placeholder": "Write your answer..." - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_053", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What would make a boring wait more enjoyable together?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "waiting", - "low_energy", - "adult_humor", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "people_watching_without_being_cruel", - "text": "People-watching without being cruel" - }, - { - "id": "making_up_harmless_backstories", - "text": "Making up harmless backstories" - }, - { - "id": "looking_through_old_photos", - "text": "Looking through old photos" - }, - { - "id": "planning_one_thing_we_want_to_do_soon", - "text": "Planning one thing we want to do soon" - }, - { - "id": "playing_a_quiet_question_game", - "text": "Playing a quiet question game" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "people_watching_without_being_cruel", - "text": "People-watching without being cruel" - }, - { - "id": "making_up_harmless_backstories", - "text": "Making up harmless backstories" - }, - { - "id": "looking_through_old_photos", - "text": "Looking through old photos" - }, - { - "id": "planning_one_thing_we_want_to_do_soon", - "text": "Planning one thing we want to do soon" - }, - { - "id": "playing_a_quiet_question_game", - "text": "Playing a quiet question game" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_054", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable are you with silence when we are together?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "silence", - "comfort", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "I prefer more interaction", - "max_label": "Very comfortable" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_055", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which ordinary tasks can still feel like quality time?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "ordinary_time", - "shared_tasks", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "cooking_something_side_by_side", - "text": "Cooking something side by side" - }, - { - "id": "running_one_easy_errand_together", - "text": "Running one easy errand together" - }, - { - "id": "tidying_up_with_music_playing", - "text": "Tidying up with music playing" - }, - { - "id": "planning_the_week_over_coffee", - "text": "Planning the week over coffee" - }, - { - "id": "taking_care_of_a_small_project_as_a_team", - "text": "Taking care of a small project as a team" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cooking_something_side_by_side", - "text": "Cooking something side by side" - }, - { - "id": "running_one_easy_errand_together", - "text": "Running one easy errand together" - }, - { - "id": "tidying_up_with_music_playing", - "text": "Tidying up with music playing" - }, - { - "id": "planning_the_week_over_coffee", - "text": "Planning the week over coffee" - }, - { - "id": "taking_care_of_a_small_project_as_a_team", - "text": "Taking care of a small project as a team" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_056", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What would make our next free evening feel well spent?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "action", - "free_evening", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_choose_based_on_our_actual_energy", - "text": "We choose based on our actual energy" - }, - { - "id": "we_include_both_connection_and_rest", - "text": "We include both connection and rest" - }, - { - "id": "we_do_not_spend_the_whole_time_deciding", - "text": "We do not spend the whole time deciding" - }, - { - "id": "we_make_room_for_some_affection", - "text": "We make room for some affection" - }, - { - "id": "we_end_feeling_glad_we_protected_the_time", - "text": "We end feeling glad we protected the time" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_choose_based_on_our_actual_energy", - "text": "We choose based on our actual energy" - }, - { - "id": "we_include_both_connection_and_rest", - "text": "We include both connection and rest" - }, - { - "id": "we_do_not_spend_the_whole_time_deciding", - "text": "We do not spend the whole time deciding" - }, - { - "id": "we_make_room_for_some_affection", - "text": "We make room for some affection" - }, - { - "id": "we_end_feeling_glad_we_protected_the_time", - "text": "We end feeling glad we protected the time" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_057", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you feel that I am fully with you?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "attention", - "presence", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "i_look_up_and_stay_engaged", - "text": "I look up and stay engaged" - }, - { - "id": "i_remember_the_small_details", - "text": "I remember the small details" - }, - { - "id": "i_ask_a_follow_up_because_i_am_curious", - "text": "I ask a follow-up because I am curious" - }, - { - "id": "i_put_down_what_i_was_doing", - "text": "I put down what I was doing" - }, - { - "id": "i_respond_instead_of_just_nodding", - "text": "I respond instead of just nodding" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "i_look_up_and_stay_engaged", - "text": "I look up and stay engaged" - }, - { - "id": "i_remember_the_small_details", - "text": "I remember the small details" - }, - { - "id": "i_ask_a_follow_up_because_i_am_curious", - "text": "I ask a follow-up because I am curious" - }, - { - "id": "i_put_down_what_i_was_doing", - "text": "I put down what I was doing" - }, - { - "id": "i_respond_instead_of_just_nodding", - "text": "I respond instead of just nodding" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_058", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What old tradition should we bring back first?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "traditions", - "invitation", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_regular_walk_or_drive", - "text": "A regular walk or drive" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_meal_on_a_certain_day", - "text": "A favorite meal on a certain day" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_celebration_for_ordinary_wins", - "text": "A small celebration for ordinary wins" - }, - { - "id": "a_screen_free_hour_we_used_to_enjoy", - "text": "A screen-free hour we used to enjoy" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_regular_walk_or_drive", - "text": "A regular walk or drive" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_meal_on_a_certain_day", - "text": "A favorite meal on a certain day" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_celebration_for_ordinary_wins", - "text": "A small celebration for ordinary wins" - }, - { - "id": "a_screen_free_hour_we_used_to_enjoy", - "text": "A screen-free hour we used to enjoy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_059", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "An unexpected free hour appears. What do you think I would choose?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "free_time", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "stay_home_and_make_it_cozy", - "text": "Stay home and make it cozy" - }, - { - "id": "go_somewhere_nearby", - "text": "Go somewhere nearby" - }, - { - "id": "talk_over_food_or_drinks", - "text": "Talk over food or drinks" - }, - { - "id": "do_our_own_things_close_together", - "text": "Do our own things close together" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "stay_home_and_make_it_cozy", - "text": "Stay home and make it cozy" - }, - { - "id": "go_somewhere_nearby", - "text": "Go somewhere nearby" - }, - { - "id": "talk_over_food_or_drinks", - "text": "Talk over food or drinks" - }, - { - "id": "do_our_own_things_close_together", - "text": "Do our own things close together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_060", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which at-home moments feel genuinely worth protecting?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "home_time", - "routines", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_first_quiet_minutes_after_the_day", - "text": "The first quiet minutes after the day" - }, - { - "id": "a_meal_we_are_not_rushing_through", - "text": "A meal we are not rushing through" - }, - { - "id": "a_show_or_game_we_choose_together", - "text": "A show or game we choose together" - }, - { - "id": "time_in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "Time in bed before sleep" - }, - { - "id": "a_weekend_morning_with_nowhere_immediate_to_be", - "text": "A weekend morning with nowhere immediate to be" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "the_first_quiet_minutes_after_the_day", - "text": "The first quiet minutes after the day" - }, - { - "id": "a_meal_we_are_not_rushing_through", - "text": "A meal we are not rushing through" - }, - { - "id": "a_show_or_game_we_choose_together", - "text": "A show or game we choose together" - }, - { - "id": "time_in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "Time in bed before sleep" - }, - { - "id": "a_weekend_morning_with_nowhere_immediate_to_be", - "text": "A weekend morning with nowhere immediate to be" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_061", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "We have fifteen minutes before the next thing. What should we do with them?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "quick_connection", - "invitation", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "catch_up_without_our_phones", - "text": "Catch up without our phones" - }, - { - "id": "step_outside_for_fresh_air", - "text": "Step outside for fresh air" - }, - { - "id": "put_on_one_song_and_stay_put", - "text": "Put on one song and stay put" - }, - { - "id": "make_a_drink_and_sit_together", - "text": "Make a drink and sit together" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "catch_up_without_our_phones", - "text": "Catch up without our phones" - }, - { - "id": "step_outside_for_fresh_air", - "text": "Step outside for fresh air" - }, - { - "id": "put_on_one_song_and_stay_put", - "text": "Put on one song and stay put" - }, - { - "id": "make_a_drink_and_sit_together", - "text": "Make a drink and sit together" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_062", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "written", - "text": "Tell me about a time when you felt I was completely present with you.", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "memory", - "attention", - "meaningful", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min_length": 1, - "max_length": 500, - "placeholder": "Write your answer..." - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_063", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kinds of touch are welcome during relaxed time together?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "affection", - "consent_aware", - "quiet", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "holding_hands", - "text": "Holding hands" - }, - { - "id": "resting_against_each_other", - "text": "Resting against each other" - }, - { - "id": "a_shoulder_or_foot_rub_when_offered", - "text": "A shoulder or foot rub when offered" - }, - { - "id": "cuddling_for_a_while", - "text": "Cuddling for a while" - }, - { - "id": "being_close_without_needing_touch", - "text": "Being close without needing touch" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "holding_hands", - "text": "Holding hands" - }, - { - "id": "resting_against_each_other", - "text": "Resting against each other" - }, - { - "id": "a_shoulder_or_foot_rub_when_offered", - "text": "A shoulder or foot rub when offered" - }, - { - "id": "cuddling_for_a_while", - "text": "Cuddling for a while" - }, - { - "id": "being_close_without_needing_touch", - "text": "Being close without needing touch" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_064", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What do you think helps me relax and be present?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "relaxation", - "partner_awareness", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "knowing_we_do_not_have_to_accomplish_anything", - "text": "Knowing we do not have to accomplish anything" - }, - { - "id": "having_enough_time_to_settle_in", - "text": "Having enough time to settle in" - }, - { - "id": "starting_with_a_little_humor", - "text": "Starting with a little humor" - }, - { - "id": "being_physically_comfortable", - "text": "Being physically comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_we_can_change_the_plan", - "text": "Knowing we can change the plan" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "knowing_we_do_not_have_to_accomplish_anything", - "text": "Knowing we do not have to accomplish anything" - }, - { - "id": "having_enough_time_to_settle_in", - "text": "Having enough time to settle in" - }, - { - "id": "starting_with_a_little_humor", - "text": "Starting with a little humor" - }, - { - "id": "being_physically_comfortable", - "text": "Being physically comfortable" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_we_can_change_the_plan", - "text": "Knowing we can change the plan" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_065", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What kinds of conversations leave you feeling close to me?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "conversation", - "feeling_known", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "stories_from_before_we_met", - "text": "Stories from before we met" - }, - { - "id": "thoughts_we_do_not_share_with_everyone", - "text": "Thoughts we do not share with everyone" - }, - { - "id": "plans_we_are_excited_about", - "text": "Plans we are excited about" - }, - { - "id": "ridiculous_observations_about_daily_life", - "text": "Ridiculous observations about daily life" - }, - { - "id": "honest_talk_about_what_we_need", - "text": "Honest talk about what we need" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "stories_from_before_we_met", - "text": "Stories from before we met" - }, - { - "id": "thoughts_we_do_not_share_with_everyone", - "text": "Thoughts we do not share with everyone" - }, - { - "id": "plans_we_are_excited_about", - "text": "Plans we are excited about" - }, - { - "id": "ridiculous_observations_about_daily_life", - "text": "Ridiculous observations about daily life" - }, - { - "id": "honest_talk_about_what_we_need", - "text": "Honest talk about what we need" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_066", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well does our time together match your current energy?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "energy", - "accessibility", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "It rarely matches", - "max_label": "It matches very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_067", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What can make a short outing feel meaningful?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "short_outing", - "presence", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time", - "flirty" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_are_not_squeezing_it_between_stressful_tasks", - "text": "We are not squeezing it between stressful tasks" - }, - { - "id": "we_choose_one_place_we_both_enjoy", - "text": "We choose one place we both enjoy" - }, - { - "id": "we_talk_without_checking_the_clock", - "text": "We talk without checking the clock" - }, - { - "id": "we_include_one_small_treat_or_a_little_flirting", - "text": "We include one small treat or a little flirting" - }, - { - "id": "we_end_before_either_of_us_is_worn_out", - "text": "We end before either of us is worn out" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_are_not_squeezing_it_between_stressful_tasks", - "text": "We are not squeezing it between stressful tasks" - }, - { - "id": "we_choose_one_place_we_both_enjoy", - "text": "We choose one place we both enjoy" - }, - { - "id": "we_talk_without_checking_the_clock", - "text": "We talk without checking the clock" - }, - { - "id": "we_include_one_small_treat_or_a_little_flirting", - "text": "We include one small treat or a little flirting" - }, - { - "id": "we_end_before_either_of_us_is_worn_out", - "text": "We end before either of us is worn out" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_068", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which signs tell you our time together really mattered?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "meaningful", - "connection_signals", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "i_feel_calmer_afterward", - "text": "I feel calmer afterward" - }, - { - "id": "i_learned_something_new_about_you", - "text": "I learned something new about you" - }, - { - "id": "we_made_a_plan_we_both_want", - "text": "We made a plan we both want" - }, - { - "id": "i_keep_thinking_about_something_you_said", - "text": "I keep thinking about something you said" - }, - { - "id": "we_leave_feeling_more_like_a_team", - "text": "We leave feeling more like a team" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "i_feel_calmer_afterward", - "text": "I feel calmer afterward" - }, - { - "id": "i_learned_something_new_about_you", - "text": "I learned something new about you" - }, - { - "id": "we_made_a_plan_we_both_want", - "text": "We made a plan we both want" - }, - { - "id": "i_keep_thinking_about_something_you_said", - "text": "I keep thinking about something you said" - }, - { - "id": "we_leave_feeling_more_like_a_team", - "text": "We leave feeling more like a team" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_069", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which small plan should we actually put on the calendar?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "action", - "invitation", - "planning", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_weekday_hour_with_no_chores", - "text": "A weekday hour with no chores" - }, - { - "id": "a_low_cost_outing_close_to_home", - "text": "A low-cost outing close to home" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_meal_and_a_real_catch_up", - "text": "A favorite meal and a real catch-up" - }, - { - "id": "a_weekend_morning_with_no_agenda", - "text": "A weekend morning with no agenda" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_weekday_hour_with_no_chores", - "text": "A weekday hour with no chores" - }, - { - "id": "a_low_cost_outing_close_to_home", - "text": "A low-cost outing close to home" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_meal_and_a_real_catch_up", - "text": "A favorite meal and a real catch-up" - }, - { - "id": "a_weekend_morning_with_no_agenda", - "text": "A weekend morning with no agenda" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_070", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kinds of separate-but-together time still count for you?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "parallel_time", - "quiet", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "reading_different_things_on_the_same_couch", - "text": "Reading different things on the same couch" - }, - { - "id": "working_on_separate_hobbies_nearby", - "text": "Working on separate hobbies nearby" - }, - { - "id": "doing_computer_tasks_at_the_same_table", - "text": "Doing computer tasks at the same table" - }, - { - "id": "listening_to_our_own_audio_while_sitting_close", - "text": "Listening to our own audio while sitting close" - }, - { - "id": "taking_turns_choosing_background_music", - "text": "Taking turns choosing background music" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "reading_different_things_on_the_same_couch", - "text": "Reading different things on the same couch" - }, - { - "id": "working_on_separate_hobbies_nearby", - "text": "Working on separate hobbies nearby" - }, - { - "id": "doing_computer_tasks_at_the_same_table", - "text": "Doing computer tasks at the same table" - }, - { - "id": "listening_to_our_own_audio_while_sitting_close", - "text": "Listening to our own audio while sitting close" - }, - { - "id": "taking_turns_choosing_background_music", - "text": "Taking turns choosing background music" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_071", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which parts of our couple lore make time together better?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "couple_lore", - "shared_history", - "quality_time", - "adult_humor" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "nicknames_with_a_whole_history_behind_them", - "text": "Nicknames with a whole history behind them" - }, - { - "id": "stories_we_tell_differently_every_time", - "text": "Stories we tell differently every time" - }, - { - "id": "places_that_have_become_ours", - "text": "Places that have become ours" - }, - { - "id": "running_jokes_that_need_no_explanation", - "text": "Running jokes that need no explanation" - }, - { - "id": "songs_tied_to_very_specific_memories", - "text": "Songs tied to very specific memories" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "nicknames_with_a_whole_history_behind_them", - "text": "Nicknames with a whole history behind them" - }, - { - "id": "stories_we_tell_differently_every_time", - "text": "Stories we tell differently every time" - }, - { - "id": "places_that_have_become_ours", - "text": "Places that have become ours" - }, - { - "id": "running_jokes_that_need_no_explanation", - "text": "Running jokes that need no explanation" - }, - { - "id": "songs_tied_to_very_specific_memories", - "text": "Songs tied to very specific memories" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_072", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which flirty moments fit naturally into quality time for you?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "flirty", - "romance", - "consent_aware", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_compliment_that_is_specific_and_believable", - "text": "A compliment that is specific and believable" - }, - { - "id": "a_look_that_clearly_means_something", - "text": "A look that clearly means something" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_message_from_the_next_room", - "text": "A playful message from the next room" - }, - { - "id": "a_kiss_that_interrupts_an_ordinary_moment", - "text": "A kiss that interrupts an ordinary moment" - }, - { - "id": "a_little_teasing_that_we_both_enjoy", - "text": "A little teasing that we both enjoy" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_compliment_that_is_specific_and_believable", - "text": "A compliment that is specific and believable" - }, - { - "id": "a_look_that_clearly_means_something", - "text": "A look that clearly means something" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_message_from_the_next_room", - "text": "A playful message from the next room" - }, - { - "id": "a_kiss_that_interrupts_an_ordinary_moment", - "text": "A kiss that interrupts an ordinary moment" - }, - { - "id": "a_little_teasing_that_we_both_enjoy", - "text": "A little teasing that we both enjoy" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_073", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of question do you most enjoy hearing from me?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "conversation", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "what_made_you_laugh_today", - "text": "What made you laugh today?" - }, - { - "id": "what_are_you_looking_forward_to", - "text": "What are you looking forward to?" - }, - { - "id": "what_do_you_really_think_about_that", - "text": "What do you really think about that?" - }, - { - "id": "what_would_make_tonight_better", - "text": "What would make tonight better?" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "what_made_you_laugh_today", - "text": "What made you laugh today?" - }, - { - "id": "what_are_you_looking_forward_to", - "text": "What are you looking forward to?" - }, - { - "id": "what_do_you_really_think_about_that", - "text": "What do you really think about that?" - }, - { - "id": "what_would_make_tonight_better", - "text": "What would make tonight better?" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_074", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Repeat a favorite or make a brand-new memory?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "memories", - "variety", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "repeat_a_favorite", - "text": "Repeat a favorite" - }, - { - "id": "make_a_brand_new_memory", - "text": "Make a brand-new memory" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "repeat_a_favorite", - "text": "Repeat a favorite" - }, - { - "id": "make_a_brand_new_memory", - "text": "Make a brand-new memory" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_075", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What could we do in the next seven days that would feel like us?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "action", - "invitation", - "couple_identity", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "revisit_a_place_or_activity_we_already_love", - "text": "Revisit a place or activity we already love" - }, - { - "id": "make_one_ordinary_night_more_intentional", - "text": "Make one ordinary night more intentional" - }, - { - "id": "try_a_small_idea_we_have_mentioned_before", - "text": "Try a small idea we have mentioned before" - }, - { - "id": "protect_a_quiet_hour_with_no_agenda", - "text": "Protect a quiet hour with no agenda" - }, - { - "id": "create_a_new_inside_joke_or_memory", - "text": "Create a new inside joke or memory" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "revisit_a_place_or_activity_we_already_love", - "text": "Revisit a place or activity we already love" - }, - { - "id": "make_one_ordinary_night_more_intentional", - "text": "Make one ordinary night more intentional" - }, - { - "id": "try_a_small_idea_we_have_mentioned_before", - "text": "Try a small idea we have mentioned before" - }, - { - "id": "protect_a_quiet_hour_with_no_agenda", - "text": "Protect a quiet hour with no agenda" - }, - { - "id": "create_a_new_inside_joke_or_memory", - "text": "Create a new inside joke or memory" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_076", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What gets in the way of quality time even when we mean well?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "barriers", - "busy_life", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_wait_for_a_perfect_opening", - "text": "We wait for a perfect opening" - }, - { - "id": "we_are_both_mentally_somewhere_else", - "text": "We are both mentally somewhere else" - }, - { - "id": "logistics_take_over_every_conversation", - "text": "Logistics take over every conversation" - }, - { - "id": "one_of_us_is_too_tired_to_decide", - "text": "One of us is too tired to decide" - }, - { - "id": "we_assume_being_in_the_same_room_is_enough", - "text": "We assume being in the same room is enough" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_wait_for_a_perfect_opening", - "text": "We wait for a perfect opening" - }, - { - "id": "we_are_both_mentally_somewhere_else", - "text": "We are both mentally somewhere else" - }, - { - "id": "logistics_take_over_every_conversation", - "text": "Logistics take over every conversation" - }, - { - "id": "one_of_us_is_too_tired_to_decide", - "text": "One of us is too tired to decide" - }, - { - "id": "we_assume_being_in_the_same_room_is_enough", - "text": "We assume being in the same room is enough" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_077", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which home plan would I pick first?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "home_time", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "cook_something_easy_together", - "text": "Cook something easy together" - }, - { - "id": "watch_an_old_favorite", - "text": "Watch an old favorite" - }, - { - "id": "play_a_game_at_the_table", - "text": "Play a game at the table" - }, - { - "id": "sit_outside_and_talk", - "text": "Sit outside and talk" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cook_something_easy_together", - "text": "Cook something easy together" - }, - { - "id": "watch_an_old_favorite", - "text": "Watch an old favorite" - }, - { - "id": "play_a_game_at_the_table", - "text": "Play a game at the table" - }, - { - "id": "sit_outside_and_talk", - "text": "Sit outside and talk" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_078", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What kind of attention feels warmest when it comes from me?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "attention", - "feeling_known", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "listening_without_trying_to_fix_anything", - "text": "Listening without trying to fix anything" - }, - { - "id": "noticing_a_change_in_my_mood", - "text": "Noticing a change in my mood" - }, - { - "id": "making_eye_contact_when_i_answer", - "text": "Making eye contact when I answer" - }, - { - "id": "remembering_something_i_mentioned_earlier", - "text": "Remembering something I mentioned earlier" - }, - { - "id": "giving_me_your_full_focus_for_a_few_minutes", - "text": "Giving me your full focus for a few minutes" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "listening_without_trying_to_fix_anything", - "text": "Listening without trying to fix anything" - }, - { - "id": "noticing_a_change_in_my_mood", - "text": "Noticing a change in my mood" - }, - { - "id": "making_eye_contact_when_i_answer", - "text": "Making eye contact when I answer" - }, - { - "id": "remembering_something_i_mentioned_earlier", - "text": "Remembering something I mentioned earlier" - }, - { - "id": "giving_me_your_full_focus_for_a_few_minutes", - "text": "Giving me your full focus for a few minutes" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_079", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps us end a serious conversation feeling close?", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "emotional_landing", - "conversation", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "saying_what_we_heard_each_other_say", - "text": "Saying what we heard each other say" - }, - { - "id": "saying_what_we_appreciate_about_the_honesty", - "text": "Saying what we appreciate about the honesty" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_one_small_next_step", - "text": "Choosing one small next step" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_affection_if_it_feels_welcome", - "text": "Sharing affection if it feels welcome" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_calming_together_afterward", - "text": "Doing something calming together afterward" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "saying_what_we_heard_each_other_say", - "text": "Saying what we heard each other say" - }, - { - "id": "saying_what_we_appreciate_about_the_honesty", - "text": "Saying what we appreciate about the honesty" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_one_small_next_step", - "text": "Choosing one small next step" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_affection_if_it_feels_welcome", - "text": "Sharing affection if it feels welcome" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_calming_together_afterward", - "text": "Doing something calming together afterward" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_080", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do our current routines help us feel connected?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "routines", - "connection", - "quality_time", - "low_energy" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Very little", - "max_label": "A great deal" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_081", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which settings make conversation easiest for you?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "conversation_settings", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time", - "low_energy" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "walking_side_by_side", - "text": "Walking side by side" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_in_the_car_after_arriving", - "text": "Sitting in the car after arriving" - }, - { - "id": "talking_in_bed_with_the_lights_low", - "text": "Talking in bed with the lights low" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_a_meal_without_a_deadline", - "text": "Sharing a meal without a deadline" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_with_our_hands", - "text": "Doing something with our hands" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "walking_side_by_side", - "text": "Walking side by side" - }, - { - "id": "sitting_in_the_car_after_arriving", - "text": "Sitting in the car after arriving" - }, - { - "id": "talking_in_bed_with_the_lights_low", - "text": "Talking in bed with the lights low" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_a_meal_without_a_deadline", - "text": "Sharing a meal without a deadline" - }, - { - "id": "doing_something_with_our_hands", - "text": "Doing something with our hands" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_082", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps time in public still feel private enough to connect?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "public_time", - "presence", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "sitting_side_by_side_instead_of_across_a_loud_room", - "text": "Sitting side by side instead of across a loud room" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_place_where_we_can_actually_hear_each_other", - "text": "Choosing a place where we can actually hear each other" - }, - { - "id": "having_a_shared_joke_or_small_ritual", - "text": "Having a shared joke or small ritual" - }, - { - "id": "taking_a_walk_away_from_the_crowd", - "text": "Taking a walk away from the crowd" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_the_plan_simple_enough_to_stay_present", - "text": "Keeping the plan simple enough to stay present" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sitting_side_by_side_instead_of_across_a_loud_room", - "text": "Sitting side by side instead of across a loud room" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_place_where_we_can_actually_hear_each_other", - "text": "Choosing a place where we can actually hear each other" - }, - { - "id": "having_a_shared_joke_or_small_ritual", - "text": "Having a shared joke or small ritual" - }, - { - "id": "taking_a_walk_away_from_the_crowd", - "text": "Taking a walk away from the crowd" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_the_plan_simple_enough_to_stay_present", - "text": "Keeping the plan simple enough to stay present" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_083", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "How can we protect time together without making the calendar feel stricter?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "busy_life", - "planning", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "keeping_the_plan_small", - "text": "Keeping the plan small" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_regular_window_instead_of_a_rigid_event", - "text": "Choosing a regular window instead of a rigid event" - }, - { - "id": "treating_rescheduling_as_normal", - "text": "Treating rescheduling as normal" - }, - { - "id": "saying_no_to_one_lower_priority_commitment", - "text": "Saying no to one lower-priority commitment" - }, - { - "id": "making_the_setup_as_easy_as_possible", - "text": "Making the setup as easy as possible" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "keeping_the_plan_small", - "text": "Keeping the plan small" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_regular_window_instead_of_a_rigid_event", - "text": "Choosing a regular window instead of a rigid event" - }, - { - "id": "treating_rescheduling_as_normal", - "text": "Treating rescheduling as normal" - }, - { - "id": "saying_no_to_one_lower_priority_commitment", - "text": "Saying no to one lower-priority commitment" - }, - { - "id": "making_the_setup_as_easy_as_possible", - "text": "Making the setup as easy as possible" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_084", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should be our easiest weekday ritual?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "invitation", - "weekday", - "quality_time", - "low_energy" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_ten_minute_couch_check_in", - "text": "A ten-minute couch check-in" - }, - { - "id": "a_drink_together_after_work", - "text": "A drink together after work" - }, - { - "id": "one_song_before_we_start_dinner", - "text": "One song before we start dinner" - }, - { - "id": "a_short_goodnight_conversation", - "text": "A short goodnight conversation" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_ten_minute_couch_check_in", - "text": "A ten-minute couch check-in" - }, - { - "id": "a_drink_together_after_work", - "text": "A drink together after work" - }, - { - "id": "one_song_before_we_start_dinner", - "text": "One song before we start dinner" - }, - { - "id": "a_short_goodnight_conversation", - "text": "A short goodnight conversation" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_085", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which details make a simple plan feel thoughtful?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "thoughtfulness", - "planning", - "feeling_known", - "quality_time", - "couple_lore" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "remembering_what_i_have_been_craving", - "text": "Remembering what I have been craving" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_time_that_works_for_both_of_us", - "text": "Choosing a time that works for both of us" - }, - { - "id": "adding_music_or_a_small_comfort", - "text": "Adding music or a small comfort" - }, - { - "id": "taking_care_of_one_annoying_detail", - "text": "Taking care of one annoying detail" - }, - { - "id": "leaving_room_for_what_we_feel_like_doing", - "text": "Leaving room for what we feel like doing" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "remembering_what_i_have_been_craving", - "text": "Remembering what I have been craving" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_time_that_works_for_both_of_us", - "text": "Choosing a time that works for both of us" - }, - { - "id": "adding_music_or_a_small_comfort", - "text": "Adding music or a small comfort" - }, - { - "id": "taking_care_of_one_annoying_detail", - "text": "Taking care of one annoying detail" - }, - { - "id": "leaving_room_for_what_we_feel_like_doing", - "text": "Leaving room for what we feel like doing" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_086", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which tiny signs tell you we are actually enjoying the same moment?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "connection_signals", - "couple_awareness", - "quality_time", - "couple_lore" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_stop_checking_the_time", - "text": "We stop checking the time" - }, - { - "id": "the_conversation_keeps_wandering", - "text": "The conversation keeps wandering" - }, - { - "id": "we_both_get_more_relaxed", - "text": "We both get more relaxed" - }, - { - "id": "one_of_us_says_we_should_do_this_again", - "text": "One of us says we should do this again" - }, - { - "id": "neither_of_us_reaches_for_a_distraction", - "text": "Neither of us reaches for a distraction" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_stop_checking_the_time", - "text": "We stop checking the time" - }, - { - "id": "the_conversation_keeps_wandering", - "text": "The conversation keeps wandering" - }, - { - "id": "we_both_get_more_relaxed", - "text": "We both get more relaxed" - }, - { - "id": "one_of_us_says_we_should_do_this_again", - "text": "One of us says we should do this again" - }, - { - "id": "neither_of_us_reaches_for_a_distraction", - "text": "Neither of us reaches for a distraction" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_087", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How close have you felt during our recent time together?", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "emotional_connection", - "current_state", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very connected", - "max_label": "Very connected" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_088", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Would I pick a long conversation or comfortable silence?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "conversation_style", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_long_conversation", - "text": "A long conversation" - }, - { - "id": "comfortable_silence", - "text": "Comfortable silence" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_long_conversation", - "text": "A long conversation" - }, - { - "id": "comfortable_silence", - "text": "Comfortable silence" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_089", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which habits could help us stay connected over time?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "long_term", - "habits", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_reliable_weekly_check_in", - "text": "A reliable weekly check-in" - }, - { - "id": "small_plans_before_we_feel_disconnected", - "text": "Small plans before we feel disconnected" - }, - { - "id": "protecting_a_few_phone_free_moments", - "text": "Protecting a few phone-free moments" - }, - { - "id": "updating_each_other_when_our_needs_change", - "text": "Updating each other when our needs change" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_one_playful_ritual_alive", - "text": "Keeping one playful ritual alive" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_reliable_weekly_check_in", - "text": "A reliable weekly check-in" - }, - { - "id": "small_plans_before_we_feel_disconnected", - "text": "Small plans before we feel disconnected" - }, - { - "id": "protecting_a_few_phone_free_moments", - "text": "Protecting a few phone-free moments" - }, - { - "id": "updating_each_other_when_our_needs_change", - "text": "Updating each other when our needs change" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_one_playful_ritual_alive", - "text": "Keeping one playful ritual alive" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_090", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "If we put our phones away for twenty minutes, what should fill the space?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "phones", - "invitation", - "flirty", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_real_catch_up", - "text": "A real catch-up" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_card_game", - "text": "A quick card game" - }, - { - "id": "a_back_porch_break", - "text": "A back-porch break" - }, - { - "id": "a_slow_kiss_and_some_conversation", - "text": "A slow kiss and some conversation" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_real_catch_up", - "text": "A real catch-up" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_card_game", - "text": "A quick card game" - }, - { - "id": "a_back_porch_break", - "text": "A back-porch break" - }, - { - "id": "a_slow_kiss_and_some_conversation", - "text": "A slow kiss and some conversation" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_091", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What turns an errand into time together instead of just another task?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "errands", - "ordinary_time", - "low_cost", - "quality_time", - "adult_humor" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_are_not_rushing", - "text": "We are not rushing" - }, - { - "id": "we_choose_one_enjoyable_stop", - "text": "We choose one enjoyable stop" - }, - { - "id": "we_talk_about_something_besides_the_list", - "text": "We talk about something besides the list" - }, - { - "id": "we_split_the_annoying_parts_fairly", - "text": "We split the annoying parts fairly" - }, - { - "id": "we_let_ourselves_take_the_scenic_route", - "text": "We let ourselves take the scenic route" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_are_not_rushing", - "text": "We are not rushing" - }, - { - "id": "we_choose_one_enjoyable_stop", - "text": "We choose one enjoyable stop" - }, - { - "id": "we_talk_about_something_besides_the_list", - "text": "We talk about something besides the list" - }, - { - "id": "we_split_the_annoying_parts_fairly", - "text": "We split the annoying parts fairly" - }, - { - "id": "we_let_ourselves_take_the_scenic_route", - "text": "We let ourselves take the scenic route" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_092", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kinds of memories make you feel closest when we revisit them?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "memories", - "couple_lore", - "shared_history", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_trip_or_outing_that_surprised_us", - "text": "A trip or outing that surprised us" - }, - { - "id": "a_hard_season_we_handled_as_a_team", - "text": "A hard season we handled as a team" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_ordinary_day_that_became_important", - "text": "A small ordinary day that became important" - }, - { - "id": "a_moment_when_one_of_us_felt_truly_seen", - "text": "A moment when one of us felt truly seen" - }, - { - "id": "something_that_still_makes_us_laugh_immediately", - "text": "Something that still makes us laugh immediately" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_trip_or_outing_that_surprised_us", - "text": "A trip or outing that surprised us" - }, - { - "id": "a_hard_season_we_handled_as_a_team", - "text": "A hard season we handled as a team" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_ordinary_day_that_became_important", - "text": "A small ordinary day that became important" - }, - { - "id": "a_moment_when_one_of_us_felt_truly_seen", - "text": "A moment when one of us felt truly seen" - }, - { - "id": "something_that_still_makes_us_laugh_immediately", - "text": "Something that still makes us laugh immediately" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_093", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much flirty energy sounds good lately?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "flirty", - "current_preference", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Very little", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_094", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What kind of humor makes a slow evening better?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "adult_humor", - "partner_humor", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "dry_comments_about_ordinary_life", - "text": "Dry comments about ordinary life" - }, - { - "id": "accurate_impressions_of_people_we_know", - "text": "Accurate impressions of people we know" - }, - { - "id": "callbacks_to_something_funny_from_years_ago", - "text": "Callbacks to something funny from years ago" - }, - { - "id": "mock_serious_debates_over_harmless_topics", - "text": "Mock-serious debates over harmless topics" - }, - { - "id": "laughing_at_ourselves_without_being_mean", - "text": "Laughing at ourselves without being mean" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "dry_comments_about_ordinary_life", - "text": "Dry comments about ordinary life" - }, - { - "id": "accurate_impressions_of_people_we_know", - "text": "Accurate impressions of people we know" - }, - { - "id": "callbacks_to_something_funny_from_years_ago", - "text": "Callbacks to something funny from years ago" - }, - { - "id": "mock_serious_debates_over_harmless_topics", - "text": "Mock-serious debates over harmless topics" - }, - { - "id": "laughing_at_ourselves_without_being_mean", - "text": "Laughing at ourselves without being mean" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_095", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps a plan feel worth looking forward to?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "planning", - "anticipation", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_fits_the_energy_we_are_likely_to_have", - "text": "It fits the energy we are likely to have" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_one_detail_chosen_just_for_us", - "text": "There is one detail chosen just for us" - }, - { - "id": "we_know_roughly_how_long_it_will_take", - "text": "We know roughly how long it will take" - }, - { - "id": "it_leaves_room_to_change_our_minds", - "text": "It leaves room to change our minds" - }, - { - "id": "it_is_about_the_time_together_not_impressing_anyone", - "text": "It is about the time together, not impressing anyone" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_fits_the_energy_we_are_likely_to_have", - "text": "It fits the energy we are likely to have" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_one_detail_chosen_just_for_us", - "text": "There is one detail chosen just for us" - }, - { - "id": "we_know_roughly_how_long_it_will_take", - "text": "We know roughly how long it will take" - }, - { - "id": "it_leaves_room_to_change_our_minds", - "text": "It leaves room to change our minds" - }, - { - "id": "it_is_about_the_time_together_not_impressing_anyone", - "text": "It is about the time together, not impressing anyone" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_096", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which of these makes me feel most listened to—your guess?", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "listening", - "feeling_known", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "you_remember_the_details_later", - "text": "You remember the details later" - }, - { - "id": "you_ask_a_question_that_moves_the_story_forward", - "text": "You ask a question that moves the story forward" - }, - { - "id": "you_do_not_rush_to_solve_it", - "text": "You do not rush to solve it" - }, - { - "id": "you_notice_the_feeling_behind_the_words", - "text": "You notice the feeling behind the words" - }, - { - "id": "you_give_me_room_to_finish_my_thought", - "text": "You give me room to finish my thought" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "you_remember_the_details_later", - "text": "You remember the details later" - }, - { - "id": "you_ask_a_question_that_moves_the_story_forward", - "text": "You ask a question that moves the story forward" - }, - { - "id": "you_do_not_rush_to_solve_it", - "text": "You do not rush to solve it" - }, - { - "id": "you_notice_the_feeling_behind_the_words", - "text": "You notice the feeling behind the words" - }, - { - "id": "you_give_me_room_to_finish_my_thought", - "text": "You give me room to finish my thought" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_097", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which new ritual would I be most excited to try?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "rituals", - "future_plans", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_weekly_walk_and_catch_up", - "text": "A weekly walk and catch-up" - }, - { - "id": "a_monthly_at_home_date", - "text": "A monthly at-home date" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_celebration_at_the_end_of_hard_weeks", - "text": "A small celebration at the end of hard weeks" - }, - { - "id": "a_shared_playlist_we_keep_adding_to", - "text": "A shared playlist we keep adding to" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_weekly_walk_and_catch_up", - "text": "A weekly walk and catch-up" - }, - { - "id": "a_monthly_at_home_date", - "text": "A monthly at-home date" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_celebration_at_the_end_of_hard_weeks", - "text": "A small celebration at the end of hard weeks" - }, - { - "id": "a_shared_playlist_we_keep_adding_to", - "text": "A shared playlist we keep adding to" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_098", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which topics make time together fly for you?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "conversation_topics", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "people_and_stories_from_our_past", - "text": "People and stories from our past" - }, - 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"category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which quiet plan sounds best right now?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "quiet", - "invitation", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "read_beside_each_other", - "text": "Read beside each other" - }, - { - "id": "sit_outside_with_something_to_drink", - "text": "Sit outside with something to drink" - }, - { - "id": "listen_to_an_album_without_multitasking", - "text": "Listen to an album without multitasking" - }, - { - "id": "lie_down_and_talk_only_if_we_feel_like_it", - "text": "Lie down and talk only if we feel like it" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "read_beside_each_other", - "text": "Read beside each other" - }, - { - "id": "sit_outside_with_something_to_drink", - "text": "Sit outside with something to drink" - }, - { - "id": "listen_to_an_album_without_multitasking", - "text": "Listen to an album without multitasking" - }, - { - "id": "lie_down_and_talk_only_if_we_feel_like_it", - "text": "Lie down and talk only if we feel like it" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_100", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "A short daily ritual or a longer weekly plan?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "time_style", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_short_daily_ritual", - "text": "A short daily ritual" - }, - { - "id": "a_longer_weekly_plan", - "text": "A longer weekly plan" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_short_daily_ritual", - "text": "A short daily ritual" - }, - { - "id": "a_longer_weekly_plan", - "text": "A longer weekly plan" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_101", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Where should we steal ten minutes together this week?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "short_time", - "invitation", - "action", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "in_the_kitchen_while_something_cooks", - "text": "In the kitchen while something cooks" - }, - { - "id": "in_the_car_before_we_go_inside", - "text": "In the car before we go inside" - }, - { - "id": "outside_after_dark", - "text": "Outside after dark" - }, - { - "id": "on_the_couch_before_the_next_task", - "text": "On the couch before the next task" - }, - { - "id": "in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "In bed before sleep" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "in_the_kitchen_while_something_cooks", - "text": "In the kitchen while something cooks" - }, - { - "id": "in_the_car_before_we_go_inside", - "text": "In the car before we go inside" - }, - { - "id": "outside_after_dark", - "text": "Outside after dark" - }, - { - "id": "on_the_couch_before_the_next_task", - "text": "On the couch before the next task" - }, - { - "id": "in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "In bed before sleep" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_102", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes it easier to enjoy time together without pressure?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "low_pressure", - "accessibility", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "knowing_we_can_leave_early", - "text": "Knowing we can leave early" - }, - { - "id": "having_a_backup_plan_at_home", - "text": "Having a backup plan at home" - }, - { - "id": "not_needing_to_dress_up", - "text": "Not needing to dress up" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_something_familiar", - "text": "Choosing something familiar" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_conversation_optional", - "text": "Keeping conversation optional" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "knowing_we_can_leave_early", - "text": "Knowing we can leave early" - }, - { - "id": "having_a_backup_plan_at_home", - "text": "Having a backup plan at home" - }, - { - "id": "not_needing_to_dress_up", - "text": "Not needing to dress up" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_something_familiar", - "text": "Choosing something familiar" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_conversation_optional", - "text": "Keeping conversation optional" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_103", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Revisit an old favorite or try something neither of us knows?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "variety", - "shared_experience", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "revisit_an_old_favorite", - "text": "Revisit an old favorite" - }, - { - "id": "try_something_new_to_both_of_us", - "text": "Try something new to both of us" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "revisit_an_old_favorite", - "text": "Revisit an old favorite" - }, - { - "id": "try_something_new_to_both_of_us", - "text": "Try something new to both of us" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_104", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes spontaneous time feel good instead of disruptive?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "spontaneity", - "low_pressure", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quick_check_of_each_others_energy", - "text": "A quick check of each other's energy" - }, - { - "id": "no_pressure_if_one_of_us_is_not_up_for_it", - "text": "No pressure if one of us is not up for it" - }, - { - "id": "enough_notice_to_finish_what_we_are_doing", - "text": "Enough notice to finish what we are doing" - }, - { - "id": "a_simple_plan_with_little_preparation", - "text": "A simple plan with little preparation" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_it_will_not_take_the_whole_day", - "text": "Knowing it will not take the whole day" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quick_check_of_each_others_energy", - "text": "A quick check of each other's energy" - }, - { - "id": "no_pressure_if_one_of_us_is_not_up_for_it", - "text": "No pressure if one of us is not up for it" - }, - { - "id": "enough_notice_to_finish_what_we_are_doing", - "text": "Enough notice to finish what we are doing" - }, - { - "id": "a_simple_plan_with_little_preparation", - "text": "A simple plan with little preparation" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_it_will_not_take_the_whole_day", - "text": "Knowing it will not take the whole day" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_105", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which quiet moment do you enjoy most?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "quiet", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "morning_coffee_before_the_day_starts", - "text": "Morning coffee before the day starts" - }, - { - "id": "a_peaceful_ride_together", - "text": "A peaceful ride together" - }, - { - "id": "reading_near_each_other", - "text": "Reading near each other" - }, - { - "id": "lying_in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "Lying in bed before sleep" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "morning_coffee_before_the_day_starts", - "text": "Morning coffee before the day starts" - }, - { - "id": "a_peaceful_ride_together", - "text": "A peaceful ride together" - }, - { - "id": "reading_near_each_other", - "text": "Reading near each other" - }, - { - "id": "lying_in_bed_before_sleep", - "text": "Lying in bed before sleep" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_106", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes a check-in feel natural instead of formal?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "check_ins", - "conversation", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time", - "couple_lore", - "adult_humor" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_happens_during_something_ordinary", - "text": "It happens during something ordinary" - }, - { - "id": "the_question_is_specific", - "text": "The question is specific" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_no_pressure_to_have_a_big_answer", - "text": "There is no pressure to have a big answer" - }, - { - "id": "we_both_get_a_turn", - "text": "We both get a turn" - }, - { - "id": "it_includes_warmth_or_humor", - "text": "It includes warmth or humor" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_happens_during_something_ordinary", - "text": "It happens during something ordinary" - }, - { - "id": "the_question_is_specific", - "text": "The question is specific" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_no_pressure_to_have_a_big_answer", - "text": "There is no pressure to have a big answer" - }, - { - "id": "we_both_get_a_turn", - "text": "We both get a turn" - }, - { - "id": "it_includes_warmth_or_humor", - "text": "It includes warmth or humor" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_107", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which routine would you most want us to protect?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "our_morning_start", - "text": "Our morning start" - }, - { - "id": "our_evening_wind_down", - "text": "Our evening wind-down" - }, - { - "id": "our_weekend_reset", - "text": "Our weekend reset" - }, - { - "id": "our_spontaneous_check_ins", - "text": "Our spontaneous check-ins" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "our_morning_start", - "text": "Our morning start" - }, - { - "id": "our_evening_wind_down", - "text": "Our evening wind-down" - }, - { - "id": "our_weekend_reset", - "text": "Our weekend reset" - }, - { - "id": "our_spontaneous_check_ins", - "text": "Our spontaneous check-ins" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_108", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which ways of reconnecting after we have both been scrolling feel natural?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "phones", - "reconnection", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "putting_the_phones_down_at_the_same_time", - "text": "Putting the phones down at the same time" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_the_funniest_thing_we_saw", - "text": "Sharing the funniest thing we saw" - }, - { - "id": "moving_to_a_different_room_together", - "text": "Moving to a different room together" - }, - { - "id": "starting_with_a_small_affectionate_touch", - "text": "Starting with a small affectionate touch" - }, - { - "id": "asking_one_question_that_is_not_about_chores", - "text": "Asking one question that is not about chores" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "putting_the_phones_down_at_the_same_time", - "text": "Putting the phones down at the same time" - }, - { - "id": "sharing_the_funniest_thing_we_saw", - "text": "Sharing the funniest thing we saw" - }, - { - "id": "moving_to_a_different_room_together", - "text": "Moving to a different room together" - }, - { - "id": "starting_with_a_small_affectionate_touch", - "text": "Starting with a small affectionate touch" - }, - { - "id": "asking_one_question_that_is_not_about_chores", - "text": "Asking one question that is not about chores" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_109", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How stretched thin have we felt lately?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "busy_life", - "current_state", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "We have breathing room", - "max_label": "Extremely stretched" - } - }, { "id": "quality_time_110", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes an ordinary evening feel like real time together?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "ordinary_time", - "presence", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "Which plans benefit most from being decided ahead of time?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "timing", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "we_are_not_rushing_to_the_next_task", - "text": "We are not rushing to the next task" + "id": "a_longer_outing", + "text": "A longer outing" }, { - "id": "we_both_choose_what_we_are_doing", - "text": "We both choose what we are doing" + "id": "time_requiring_childcare", + "text": "Time requiring childcare" }, { - "id": "there_is_room_for_affection", - "text": "There is room for affection" + "id": "a_shared_project", + "text": "A shared project" }, { - "id": "we_talk_about_more_than_logistics", - "text": "We talk about more than logistics" - }, - { - "id": "we_laugh_at_something_small", - "text": "We laugh at something small" + "id": "a_night_protected_from_other_commitments", + "text": "A night protected from other commitments" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "we_are_not_rushing_to_the_next_task", - "text": "We are not rushing to the next task" + "id": "a_longer_outing", + "text": "A longer outing" }, { - "id": "we_both_choose_what_we_are_doing", - "text": "We both choose what we are doing" + "id": "time_requiring_childcare", + "text": "Time requiring childcare" }, { - "id": "there_is_room_for_affection", - "text": "There is room for affection" + "id": "a_shared_project", + "text": "A shared project" }, { - "id": "we_talk_about_more_than_logistics", - "text": "We talk about more than logistics" - }, - { - "id": "we_laugh_at_something_small", - "text": "We laugh at something small" + "id": "a_night_protected_from_other_commitments", + "text": "A night protected from other commitments" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -5937,61 +5348,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_111", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What could make bedtime feel like connection instead of collapse?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "bedtime", - "reconnection", - "low_energy", - "quality_time", - "flirty", - "adult_humor" - ], + "text": "What keeps scheduled quality time from feeling like another appointment?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "intentionality", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "finishing_phone_time_a_little_earlier", - "text": "Finishing phone time a little earlier" + "id": "the_activity_still_feels_optional", + "text": "The activity still feels optional" }, { - "id": "talking_about_one_thing_that_mattered", - "text": "Talking about one thing that mattered" + "id": "we_choose_something_enjoyable", + "text": "We choose something enjoyable" }, { - "id": "making_time_for_a_real_goodnight_kiss", - "text": "Making time for a real goodnight kiss" + "id": "the_plan_has_breathing_room", + "text": "The plan has breathing room" }, { - "id": "reading_or_listening_to_something_nearby", - "text": "Reading or listening to something nearby" - }, - { - "id": "making_tomorrows_plan_brief_and_simple", - "text": "Making tomorrow's plan brief and simple" + "id": "we_do_not_overplan_every_minute", + "text": "We do not overplan every minute" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "finishing_phone_time_a_little_earlier", - "text": "Finishing phone time a little earlier" + "id": "the_activity_still_feels_optional", + "text": "The activity still feels optional" }, { - "id": "talking_about_one_thing_that_mattered", - "text": "Talking about one thing that mattered" + "id": "we_choose_something_enjoyable", + "text": "We choose something enjoyable" }, { - "id": "making_time_for_a_real_goodnight_kiss", - "text": "Making time for a real goodnight kiss" + "id": "the_plan_has_breathing_room", + "text": "The plan has breathing room" }, { - "id": "reading_or_listening_to_something_nearby", - "text": "Reading or listening to something nearby" - }, - { - "id": "making_tomorrows_plan_brief_and_simple", - "text": "Making tomorrow's plan brief and simple" + "id": "we_do_not_overplan_every_minute", + "text": "We do not overplan every minute" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6001,35 +5401,51 @@ { "id": "quality_time_112", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "A familiar place or somewhere new nearby?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Who should choose when neither of us has a useful opinion?", "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "place_preference", - "short_outing", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "decision_making", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "a_familiar_place", - "text": "A familiar place" + "id": "take_turns", + "text": "Take turns" }, { - "id": "somewhere_new_nearby", - "text": "Somewhere new nearby" + "id": "flip_a_coin", + "text": "Flip a coin" + }, + { + "id": "use_the_shortest_option", + "text": "Use the shortest option" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_who_rejects_the_first_three_ideas", + "text": "The person who rejects the first three ideas" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_familiar_place", - "text": "A familiar place" + "id": "take_turns", + "text": "Take turns" }, { - "id": "somewhere_new_nearby", - "text": "Somewhere new nearby" + "id": "flip_a_coin", + "text": "Flip a coin" + }, + { + "id": "use_the_shortest_option", + "text": "Use the shortest option" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_who_rejects_the_first_three_ideas", + "text": "The person who rejects the first three ideas" } ] } @@ -6038,59 +5454,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_113", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you share more during time together?", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "meaningful", - "conversation", - "emotional_safety", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "How can we make invitations easier when one person fears rejection?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "invitations", + "reassurance", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "we_start_with_something_light", - "text": "We start with something light" + "id": "keep_the_invitation_low_pressure", + "text": "Keep the invitation low pressure" }, { - "id": "you_listen_without_interrupting", - "text": "You listen without interrupting" + "id": "offer_more_than_one_time", + "text": "Offer more than one time" }, { - "id": "there_is_enough_privacy", - "text": "There is enough privacy" + "id": "accept_no_warmly", + "text": "Accept no warmly" }, { - "id": "i_know_we_are_not_in_a_rush", - "text": "I know we are not in a rush" - }, - { - "id": "you_share_something_honest_too", - "text": "You share something honest too" + "id": "let_the_other_person_invite_next", + "text": "Let the other person invite next" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "we_start_with_something_light", - "text": "We start with something light" + "id": "keep_the_invitation_low_pressure", + "text": "Keep the invitation low pressure" }, { - "id": "you_listen_without_interrupting", - "text": "You listen without interrupting" + "id": "offer_more_than_one_time", + "text": "Offer more than one time" }, { - "id": "there_is_enough_privacy", - "text": "There is enough privacy" + "id": "accept_no_warmly", + "text": "Accept no warmly" }, { - "id": "i_know_we_are_not_in_a_rush", - "text": "I know we are not in a rush" - }, - { - "id": "you_share_something_honest_too", - "text": "You share something honest too" + "id": "let_the_other_person_invite_next", + "text": "Let the other person invite next" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6100,123 +5507,71 @@ { "id": "quality_time_114", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What can turn a normal meal into quality time for you?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How wanted do you feel when I invite you to spend time together?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "shared_meals", - "ordinary_time", - "low_energy", + "invitations", + "feeling_wanted", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "eating_without_hurrying", - "text": "Eating without hurrying" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_the_food_together", - "text": "Choosing the food together" - }, - { - "id": "talking_about_the_best_part_of_the_day", - "text": "Talking about the best part of the day" - }, - { - "id": "playing_music_we_both_like", - "text": "Playing music we both like" - }, - { - "id": "staying_at_the_table_a_little_longer", - "text": "Staying at the table a little longer" - } - ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "eating_without_hurrying", - "text": "Eating without hurrying" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_the_food_together", - "text": "Choosing the food together" - }, - { - "id": "talking_about_the_best_part_of_the_day", - "text": "Talking about the best part of the day" - }, - { - "id": "playing_music_we_both_like", - "text": "Playing music we both like" - }, - { - "id": "staying_at_the_table_a_little_longer", - "text": "Staying at the table a little longer" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not very wanted", + "max_label": "Clearly wanted" } }, { "id": "quality_time_115", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which phone habits make time together feel better?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "phones", - "boundaries", - "presence", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "Which planning habits create unnecessary friction?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "humor", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "silencing_alerts_for_a_while", - "text": "Silencing alerts for a while" + "id": "asking_what_do_you_want_repeatedly", + "text": "Asking what do you want repeatedly" }, { - "id": "showing_each_other_something_worth_seeing", - "text": "Showing each other something worth seeing" + "id": "offering_ideas_nobody_likes", + "text": "Offering ideas nobody likes" }, { - "id": "saying_when_a_message_really_needs_attention", - "text": "Saying when a message really needs attention" + "id": "waiting_until_both_people_are_hungry", + "text": "Waiting until both people are hungry" }, { - "id": "keeping_meals_mostly_screen_free", - "text": "Keeping meals mostly screen-free" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_stopping_point_before_scrolling", - "text": "Choosing a stopping point before scrolling" + "id": "treating_a_two_hour_plan_like_a_summit", + "text": "Treating a two-hour plan like a summit" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "silencing_alerts_for_a_while", - "text": "Silencing alerts for a while" + "id": "asking_what_do_you_want_repeatedly", + "text": "Asking what do you want repeatedly" }, { - "id": "showing_each_other_something_worth_seeing", - "text": "Showing each other something worth seeing" + "id": "offering_ideas_nobody_likes", + "text": "Offering ideas nobody likes" }, { - "id": "saying_when_a_message_really_needs_attention", - "text": "Saying when a message really needs attention" + "id": "waiting_until_both_people_are_hungry", + "text": "Waiting until both people are hungry" }, { - "id": "keeping_meals_mostly_screen_free", - "text": "Keeping meals mostly screen-free" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_stopping_point_before_scrolling", - "text": "Choosing a stopping point before scrolling" + "id": "treating_a_two_hour_plan_like_a_summit", + "text": "Treating a two-hour plan like a summit" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6226,79 +5581,103 @@ { "id": "quality_time_116", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy has it felt to talk without rushing lately?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "conversation", - "pace", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the best backup plan when our first idea falls apart?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "flexibility", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "stay_home_intentionally", + "text": "Stay home intentionally" + }, + { + "id": "pick_the_easiest_alternative", + "text": "Pick the easiest alternative" + }, + { + "id": "reschedule_without_drama", + "text": "Reschedule without drama" + }, + { + "id": "choose_food_and_reassess", + "text": "Choose food and reassess" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very easy", - "max_label": "Very easy" + "options": [ + { + "id": "stay_home_intentionally", + "text": "Stay home intentionally" + }, + { + "id": "pick_the_easiest_alternative", + "text": "Pick the easiest alternative" + }, + { + "id": "reschedule_without_drama", + "text": "Reschedule without drama" + }, + { + "id": "choose_food_and_reassess", + "text": "Choose food and reassess" + } + ] } }, { "id": "quality_time_117", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps when we want different things from our time together?", + "text": "What helps shared plans feel fair when our preferences differ?", "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "different_preferences", - "compromise", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "fairness", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "saying_what_we_each_feel_like_doing_without_making_it_a_problem", - "text": "Saying what we each feel like doing without making it a problem" + "id": "alternate_choices", + "text": "Alternate choices" }, { - "id": "finding_one_part_we_can_share", - "text": "Finding one part we can share" + "id": "find_the_part_both_enjoy", + "text": "Find the part both enjoy" }, { - "id": "taking_turns_choosing", - "text": "Taking turns choosing" + "id": "keep_some_plans_separate", + "text": "Keep some plans separate" }, { - "id": "doing_parallel_activities_nearby", - "text": "Doing parallel activities nearby" - }, - { - "id": "saving_one_persons_idea_for_a_better_day", - "text": "Saving one person's idea for a better day" + "id": "notice_who_has_compromised_recently", + "text": "Notice who has compromised recently" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "saying_what_we_each_feel_like_doing_without_making_it_a_problem", - "text": "Saying what we each feel like doing without making it a problem" + "id": "alternate_choices", + "text": "Alternate choices" }, { - "id": "finding_one_part_we_can_share", - "text": "Finding one part we can share" + "id": "find_the_part_both_enjoy", + "text": "Find the part both enjoy" }, { - "id": "taking_turns_choosing", - "text": "Taking turns choosing" + "id": "keep_some_plans_separate", + "text": "Keep some plans separate" }, { - "id": "doing_parallel_activities_nearby", - "text": "Doing parallel activities nearby" - }, - { - "id": "saving_one_persons_idea_for_a_better_day", - "text": "Saving one person's idea for a better day" + "id": "notice_who_has_compromised_recently", + "text": "Notice who has compromised recently" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6308,165 +5687,159 @@ { "id": "quality_time_118", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should we turn into a tiny competition?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which invitations can create connection without requiring a whole evening?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "adult_humor", - "playful_competition", - "invitation", + "invitations", + "low_energy", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "who_can_build_the_better_three_song_playlist", - "text": "Who can build the better three-song playlist" + "id": "a_short_walk", + "text": "A short walk" }, { - "id": "who_remembers_the_funniest_detail_from_the_week", - "text": "Who remembers the funniest detail from the week" + "id": "coffee_together", + "text": "Coffee together" }, { - "id": "who_can_find_the_best_photo_in_five_minutes", - "text": "Who can find the best photo in five minutes" + "id": "one_episode", + "text": "One episode" }, { - "id": "who_can_make_the_other_laugh_first", - "text": "Who can make the other laugh first" + "id": "a_drive_with_no_errands", + "text": "A drive with no errands" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "who_can_build_the_better_three_song_playlist", - "text": "Who can build the better three-song playlist" + "id": "a_short_walk", + "text": "A short walk" }, { - "id": "who_remembers_the_funniest_detail_from_the_week", - "text": "Who remembers the funniest detail from the week" + "id": "coffee_together", + "text": "Coffee together" }, { - "id": "who_can_find_the_best_photo_in_five_minutes", - "text": "Who can find the best photo in five minutes" + "id": "one_episode", + "text": "One episode" }, { - "id": "who_can_make_the_other_laugh_first", - "text": "Who can make the other laugh first" + "id": "a_drive_with_no_errands", + "text": "A drive with no errands" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_119", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What do I notice first when we are having a good night?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "connection_signals", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make repeated declined invitations feel difficult?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "invitations", + "disconnection", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "how_relaxed_we_both_seem", - "text": "How relaxed we both seem" + "id": "no_alternative_is_suggested", + "text": "No alternative is suggested" }, { - "id": "how_easily_the_conversation_flows", - "text": "How easily the conversation flows" + "id": "the_reason_is_never_discussed", + "text": "The reason is never discussed" }, { - "id": "how_much_we_are_laughing", - "text": "How much we are laughing" + "id": "one_person_stops_asking", + "text": "One person stops asking" }, { - "id": "how_little_we_are_checking_the_time", - "text": "How little we are checking the time" + "id": "the_rejection_becomes_a_running_joke", + "text": "The rejection becomes a running joke" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "how_relaxed_we_both_seem", - "text": "How relaxed we both seem" + "id": "no_alternative_is_suggested", + "text": "No alternative is suggested" }, { - "id": "how_easily_the_conversation_flows", - "text": "How easily the conversation flows" + "id": "the_reason_is_never_discussed", + "text": "The reason is never discussed" }, { - "id": "how_much_we_are_laughing", - "text": "How much we are laughing" + "id": "one_person_stops_asking", + "text": "One person stops asking" }, { - "id": "how_little_we_are_checking_the_time", - "text": "How little we are checking the time" + "id": "the_rejection_becomes_a_running_joke", + "text": "The rejection becomes a running joke" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_120", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which milestones deserve their own small ritual?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "milestones", - "rituals", - "quality_time", - "couple_lore" - ], - "access": "free", + "text": "What would help us repair a pattern where one person plans everything?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "fairness", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "finishing_a_difficult_week", - "text": "Finishing a difficult week" + "id": "name_the_imbalance", + "text": "Name the imbalance" }, { - "id": "starting_something_new", - "text": "Starting something new" + "id": "share_a_short_list_of_ideas", + "text": "Share a short list of ideas" }, { - "id": "reaching_a_shared_goal", - "text": "Reaching a shared goal" + "id": "take_turns_initiating", + "text": "Take turns initiating" }, { - "id": "getting_through_an_ordinary_month", - "text": "Getting through an ordinary month" - }, - { - "id": "making_a_decision_we_feel_good_about", - "text": "Making a decision we feel good about" + "id": "value_simple_plans_as_real_effort", + "text": "Value simple plans as real effort" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "finishing_a_difficult_week", - "text": "Finishing a difficult week" + "id": "name_the_imbalance", + "text": "Name the imbalance" }, { - "id": "starting_something_new", - "text": "Starting something new" + "id": "share_a_short_list_of_ideas", + "text": "Share a short list of ideas" }, { - "id": "reaching_a_shared_goal", - "text": "Reaching a shared goal" + "id": "take_turns_initiating", + "text": "Take turns initiating" }, { - "id": "getting_through_an_ordinary_month", - "text": "Getting through an ordinary month" - }, - { - "id": "making_a_decision_we_feel_good_about", - "text": "Making a decision we feel good about" + "id": "value_simple_plans_as_real_effort", + "text": "Value simple plans as real effort" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6476,278 +5849,267 @@ { "id": "quality_time_121", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What would make tonight feel a little more like a date without leaving home?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which parts of our history are most fun to revisit?", "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "romance", - "flirty", - "invitation", - "home_time", + "couple_lore", + "memory", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "put_on_music_and_eat_somewhere_other_than_the_usual_spot", - "text": "Put on music and eat somewhere other than the usual spot" + "id": "how_we_first_met", + "text": "How we first met" }, { - "id": "dress_a_little_nicer_for_no_practical_reason", - "text": "Dress a little nicer for no practical reason" + "id": "early_misunderstandings", + "text": "Early misunderstandings" }, { - "id": "share_dessert_after_the_day_is_done", - "text": "Share dessert after the day is done" + "id": "trips_that_went_sideways", + "text": "Trips that went sideways" }, { - "id": "turn_the_lights_down_and_talk_without_screens", - "text": "Turn the lights down and talk without screens" + "id": "small_moments_nobody_else_remembers", + "text": "Small moments nobody else remembers" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "put_on_music_and_eat_somewhere_other_than_the_usual_spot", - "text": "Put on music and eat somewhere other than the usual spot" + "id": "how_we_first_met", + "text": "How we first met" }, { - "id": "dress_a_little_nicer_for_no_practical_reason", - "text": "Dress a little nicer for no practical reason" + "id": "early_misunderstandings", + "text": "Early misunderstandings" }, { - "id": "share_dessert_after_the_day_is_done", - "text": "Share dessert after the day is done" + "id": "trips_that_went_sideways", + "text": "Trips that went sideways" }, { - "id": "turn_the_lights_down_and_talk_without_screens", - "text": "Turn the lights down and talk without screens" + "id": "small_moments_nobody_else_remembers", + "text": "Small moments nobody else remembers" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_122", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "written", - "text": "What ordinary moment with me has felt more meaningful than it probably looked from the outside?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "memory", - "couple_lore", - "meaningful", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which memory category deserves its own unofficial archive?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "couple_lore", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "funny_mistakes", + "text": "Funny mistakes" + }, + { + "id": "favorite_trips", + "text": "Favorite trips" + }, + { + "id": "ordinary_good_days", + "text": "Ordinary good days" + }, + { + "id": "messages_we_still_quote", + "text": "Messages we still quote" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "min_length": 1, - "max_length": 500, - "placeholder": "Write your answer..." + "options": [ + { + "id": "funny_mistakes", + "text": "Funny mistakes" + }, + { + "id": "favorite_trips", + "text": "Favorite trips" + }, + { + "id": "ordinary_good_days", + "text": "Ordinary good days" + }, + { + "id": "messages_we_still_quote", + "text": "Messages we still quote" + } + ] } }, { "id": "quality_time_123", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes a routine feel like ours instead of another task?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How connected do you feel to the story we have built together?", "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "couple_identity", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_both_look_forward_to_it", - "text": "We both look forward to it" - }, - { - "id": "it_has_a_small_personal_touch", - "text": "It has a small personal touch" - }, - { - "id": "it_can_bend_when_life_changes", - "text": "It can bend when life changes" - }, - { - "id": "it_gives_us_something_to_talk_about", - "text": "It gives us something to talk about" - }, - { - "id": "it_reflects_how_we_actually_live", - "text": "It reflects how we actually live" - } + "tags": [ + "couple_lore", + "current_state", + "quality_time" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "we_both_look_forward_to_it", - "text": "We both look forward to it" - }, - { - "id": "it_has_a_small_personal_touch", - "text": "It has a small personal touch" - }, - { - "id": "it_can_bend_when_life_changes", - "text": "It can bend when life changes" - }, - { - "id": "it_gives_us_something_to_talk_about", - "text": "It gives us something to talk about" - }, - { - "id": "it_reflects_how_we_actually_live", - "text": "It reflects how we actually live" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not very connected", + "max_label": "Deeply connected" } }, { "id": "quality_time_124", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which time limits make a plan feel manageable?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Recreate an old favorite day or invent a new tradition?", "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "time_limits", - "accessibility", + "traditions", + "quick_choice", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "ten_focused_minutes", - "text": "Ten focused minutes" + "id": "recreate_an_old_favorite_day", + "text": "Recreate an old favorite day" }, { - "id": "about_half_an_hour", - "text": "About half an hour" - }, - { - "id": "one_unhurried_hour", - "text": "One unhurried hour" - }, - { - "id": "until_one_of_us_starts_fading", - "text": "Until one of us starts fading" - }, - { - "id": "a_clear_ending_tied_to_the_next_responsibility", - "text": "A clear ending tied to the next responsibility" + "id": "invent_a_new_tradition", + "text": "Invent a new tradition" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "ten_focused_minutes", - "text": "Ten focused minutes" + "id": "recreate_an_old_favorite_day", + "text": "Recreate an old favorite day" }, { - "id": "about_half_an_hour", - "text": "About half an hour" - }, - { - "id": "one_unhurried_hour", - "text": "One unhurried hour" - }, - { - "id": "until_one_of_us_starts_fading", - "text": "Until one of us starts fading" - }, - { - "id": "a_clear_ending_tied_to_the_next_responsibility", - "text": "A clear ending tied to the next responsibility" + "id": "invent_a_new_tradition", + "text": "Invent a new tradition" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "quality_time_125", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How distracted have our evenings felt lately?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "distraction", - "current_state", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a tradition feel like ours?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "traditions", + "identity", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_detail_only_we_care_about", + "text": "A detail only we care about" + }, + { + "id": "it_began_naturally", + "text": "It began naturally" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_enjoy_it", + "text": "Both people enjoy it" + }, + { + "id": "it_carries_a_story", + "text": "It carries a story" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hardly at all", - "max_label": "Very distracted" + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_detail_only_we_care_about", + "text": "A detail only we care about" + }, + { + "id": "it_began_naturally", + "text": "It began naturally" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_enjoy_it", + "text": "Both people enjoy it" + }, + { + "id": "it_carries_a_story", + "text": "It carries a story" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_126", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which free or inexpensive plans can still feel special?", + "text": "Which traditions could be small enough to keep for years?", "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "low_cost", - "accessible_plans", + "traditions", + "sustainability", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "a_sunset_or_evening_walk", - "text": "A sunset or evening walk" + "id": "an_annual_meal", + "text": "An annual meal" }, { - "id": "a_picnic_made_from_food_we_already_have", - "text": "A picnic made from food we already have" + "id": "a_seasonal_walk", + "text": "A seasonal walk" }, { - "id": "a_drive_with_a_shared_playlist", - "text": "A drive with a shared playlist" + "id": "a_monthly_breakfast", + "text": "A monthly breakfast" }, { - "id": "a_free_local_event", - "text": "A free local event" - }, - { - "id": "a_photo_walk_with_one_small_challenge", - "text": "A photo walk with one small challenge" + "id": "a_private_celebration_of_a_small_date", + "text": "A private celebration of a small date" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_sunset_or_evening_walk", - "text": "A sunset or evening walk" + "id": "an_annual_meal", + "text": "An annual meal" }, { - "id": "a_picnic_made_from_food_we_already_have", - "text": "A picnic made from food we already have" + "id": "a_seasonal_walk", + "text": "A seasonal walk" }, { - "id": "a_drive_with_a_shared_playlist", - "text": "A drive with a shared playlist" + "id": "a_monthly_breakfast", + "text": "A monthly breakfast" }, { - "id": "a_free_local_event", - "text": "A free local event" - }, - { - "id": "a_photo_walk_with_one_small_challenge", - "text": "A photo walk with one small challenge" + "id": "a_private_celebration_of_a_small_date", + "text": "A private celebration of a small date" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6757,237 +6119,177 @@ { "id": "quality_time_127", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What should we make more room for next month?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "future_plans", - "invitation", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which piece of couple history becomes funnier every year?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "unhurried_meals", - "text": "Unhurried meals" - }, - { - "id": "short_walks_or_drives", - "text": "Short walks or drives" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_time_at_home", - "text": "Quiet time at home" - }, - { - "id": "playful_plans_that_break_the_routine", - "text": "Playful plans that break the routine" - }, - { - "id": "conversations_with_no_phones_nearby", - "text": "Conversations with no phones nearby" - } - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "unhurried_meals", - "text": "Unhurried meals" - }, - { - "id": "short_walks_or_drives", - "text": "Short walks or drives" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_time_at_home", - "text": "Quiet time at home" - }, - { - "id": "playful_plans_that_break_the_routine", - "text": "Playful plans that break the routine" - }, - { - "id": "conversations_with_no_phones_nearby", - "text": "Conversations with no phones nearby" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_128", - "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which moment makes you feel most known by me?", - "depth": 2, "tags": [ - "feeling_known", + "humor", "couple_lore", "quality_time" ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "i_remember_a_detail_you_forgot_you_told_me", - "text": "I remember a detail you forgot you told me" + "id": "a_terrible_first_impression", + "text": "A terrible first impression" }, { - "id": "i_notice_when_your_energy_changes", - "text": "I notice when your energy changes" + "id": "a_travel_disaster", + "text": "A travel disaster" }, { - "id": "i_choose_something_that_fits_your_real_taste", - "text": "I choose something that fits your real taste" + "id": "a_failed_project", + "text": "A failed project" }, { - "id": "i_understand_the_joke_before_you_explain_it", - "text": "I understand the joke before you explain it" + "id": "the_argument_neither_person_can_now_explain", + "text": "The argument neither person can now explain" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "i_remember_a_detail_you_forgot_you_told_me", - "text": "I remember a detail you forgot you told me" + "id": "a_terrible_first_impression", + "text": "A terrible first impression" }, { - "id": "i_notice_when_your_energy_changes", - "text": "I notice when your energy changes" + "id": "a_travel_disaster", + "text": "A travel disaster" }, { - "id": "i_choose_something_that_fits_your_real_taste", - "text": "I choose something that fits your real taste" + "id": "a_failed_project", + "text": "A failed project" }, { - "id": "i_understand_the_joke_before_you_explain_it", - "text": "I understand the joke before you explain it" + "id": "the_argument_neither_person_can_now_explain", + "text": "The argument neither person can now explain" } ] } }, { - "id": "quality_time_129", + "id": "quality_time_128", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes a five-minute reconnect actually work?", + "text": "What helps old memories create connection instead of comparison?", "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "quick_connection", - "presence", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "memory", + "long_term", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "we_stop_doing_other_things_for_those_minutes", - "text": "We stop doing other things for those minutes" + "id": "enjoy_them_without_demanding_life_feel_the_same", + "text": "Enjoy them without demanding life feel the same" }, { - "id": "the_question_is_specific_and_easy_to_answer", - "text": "The question is specific and easy to answer" + "id": "notice_what_has_improved", + "text": "Notice what has improved" }, { - "id": "there_is_some_affection_or_warmth", - "text": "There is some affection or warmth" + "id": "let_each_person_remember_differently", + "text": "Let each person remember differently" }, { - "id": "we_do_not_use_the_time_only_for_logistics", - "text": "We do not use the time only for logistics" - }, - { - "id": "we_leave_knowing_when_we_will_connect_again", - "text": "We leave knowing when we will connect again" + "id": "use_them_as_inspiration_not_a_standard", + "text": "Use them as inspiration, not a standard" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "we_stop_doing_other_things_for_those_minutes", - "text": "We stop doing other things for those minutes" + "id": "enjoy_them_without_demanding_life_feel_the_same", + "text": "Enjoy them without demanding life feel the same" }, { - "id": "the_question_is_specific_and_easy_to_answer", - "text": "The question is specific and easy to answer" + "id": "notice_what_has_improved", + "text": "Notice what has improved" }, { - "id": "there_is_some_affection_or_warmth", - "text": "There is some affection or warmth" + "id": "let_each_person_remember_differently", + "text": "Let each person remember differently" }, { - "id": "we_do_not_use_the_time_only_for_logistics", - "text": "We do not use the time only for logistics" - }, - { - "id": "we_leave_knowing_when_we_will_connect_again", - "text": "We leave knowing when we will connect again" + "id": "use_them_as_inspiration_not_a_standard", + "text": "Use them as inspiration, not a standard" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, + { + "id": "quality_time_129", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much do shared traditions matter to your idea of us?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "traditions", + "meaning", + "quality_time" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not much", + "max_label": "A great deal" + } + }, { "id": "quality_time_130", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes quiet time together feel connected?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "quiet", - "presence", - "low_energy", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "Which objects can turn into good quality-time conversation?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "memory", + "conversation", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "knowing_we_both_chose_to_be_there", - "text": "Knowing we both chose to be there" + "id": "old_photos", + "text": "Old photos" }, { - "id": "a_little_physical_contact", - "text": "A little physical contact" + "id": "a_saved_ticket", + "text": "A saved ticket" }, { - "id": "occasional_comments_or_smiles", - "text": "Occasional comments or smiles" + "id": "a_familiar_recipe", + "text": "A familiar recipe" }, { - "id": "a_calm_room_without_pressure", - "text": "A calm room without pressure" - }, - { - "id": "checking_in_before_we_drift_into_separate_worlds", - "text": "Checking in before we drift into separate worlds" + "id": "something_from_our_first_home", + "text": "Something from our first home" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "knowing_we_both_chose_to_be_there", - "text": "Knowing we both chose to be there" + "id": "old_photos", + "text": "Old photos" }, { - "id": "a_little_physical_contact", - "text": "A little physical contact" + "id": "a_saved_ticket", + "text": "A saved ticket" }, { - "id": "occasional_comments_or_smiles", - "text": "Occasional comments or smiles" + "id": "a_familiar_recipe", + "text": "A familiar recipe" }, { - "id": "a_calm_room_without_pressure", - "text": "A calm room without pressure" - }, - { - "id": "checking_in_before_we_drift_into_separate_worlds", - "text": "Checking in before we drift into separate worlds" + "id": "something_from_our_first_home", + "text": "Something from our first home" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -6998,52 +6300,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_131", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which easy plan feels most worth it?", + "text": "Which tradition should be allowed to retire without an investigation?", "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "low_energy", - "invitation", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time", - "adult_humor" - ], - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "traditions", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "a_favorite_meal_and_one_episode", - "text": "A favorite meal and one episode" + "id": "the_one_everyone_dreads", + "text": "The one everyone dreads" }, { - "id": "a_short_drive_with_music", - "text": "A short drive with music" + "id": "the_one_requiring_three_days_of_work", + "text": "The one requiring three days of work" }, { - "id": "a_couch_picnic_and_conversation", - "text": "A couch picnic and conversation" + "id": "the_one_kept_only_from_guilt", + "text": "The one kept only from guilt" }, { - "id": "a_slow_walk_close_to_home", - "text": "A slow walk close to home" + "id": "the_one_nobody_remembers_starting", + "text": "The one nobody remembers starting" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_favorite_meal_and_one_episode", - "text": "A favorite meal and one episode" + "id": "the_one_everyone_dreads", + "text": "The one everyone dreads" }, { - "id": "a_short_drive_with_music", - "text": "A short drive with music" + "id": "the_one_requiring_three_days_of_work", + "text": "The one requiring three days of work" }, { - "id": "a_couch_picnic_and_conversation", - "text": "A couch picnic and conversation" + "id": "the_one_kept_only_from_guilt", + "text": "The one kept only from guilt" }, { - "id": "a_slow_walk_close_to_home", - "text": "A slow walk close to home" + "id": "the_one_nobody_remembers_starting", + "text": "The one nobody remembers starting" } ] } @@ -7051,134 +6351,159 @@ { "id": "quality_time_132", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What sounds best after a long day?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "low_energy", - "partner_preferences", - "quality_time", - "preferences" - ], + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What could make a new tradition feel natural?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "traditions", + "low_pressure", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "quiet_closeness", - "text": "Quiet closeness" + "id": "it_grows_from_something_we_already_enjoy", + "text": "It grows from something we already enjoy" }, { - "id": "a_funny_conversation", - "text": "A funny conversation" + "id": "it_fits_our_schedule", + "text": "It fits our schedule" }, { - "id": "a_simple_shared_meal", - "text": "A simple shared meal" + "id": "it_can_change", + "text": "It can change" }, { - "id": "a_little_affectionate_attention", - "text": "A little affectionate attention" + "id": "missing_it_once_is_not_a_crisis", + "text": "Missing it once is not a crisis" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "quiet_closeness", - "text": "Quiet closeness" + "id": "it_grows_from_something_we_already_enjoy", + "text": "It grows from something we already enjoy" }, { - "id": "a_funny_conversation", - "text": "A funny conversation" + "id": "it_fits_our_schedule", + "text": "It fits our schedule" }, { - "id": "a_simple_shared_meal", - "text": "A simple shared meal" + "id": "it_can_change", + "text": "It can change" }, { - "id": "a_little_affectionate_attention", - "text": "A little affectionate attention" + "id": "missing_it_once_is_not_a_crisis", + "text": "Missing it once is not a crisis" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_133", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "written", - "text": "What small ritual of ours would you genuinely miss if it disappeared?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which stories would you want us to keep telling?", "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "rituals", - "appreciation", "couple_lore", + "legacy", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", + "options": [ + { + "id": "how_we_handled_a_hard_year", + "text": "How we handled a hard year" + }, + { + "id": "something_ridiculous_we_did", + "text": "Something ridiculous we did" + }, + { + "id": "a_risk_that_worked_out", + "text": "A risk that worked out" + }, + { + "id": "an_ordinary_moment_that_became_important", + "text": "An ordinary moment that became important" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "min_length": 1, - "max_length": 500, - "placeholder": "Write your answer..." + "options": [ + { + "id": "how_we_handled_a_hard_year", + "text": "How we handled a hard year" + }, + { + "id": "something_ridiculous_we_did", + "text": "Something ridiculous we did" + }, + { + "id": "a_risk_that_worked_out", + "text": "A risk that worked out" + }, + { + "id": "an_ordinary_moment_that_became_important", + "text": "An ordinary moment that became important" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_134", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which plans would you guess make me feel most chosen?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "feeling_chosen", - "planning", - "quality_time", - "couple_lore" - ], + "text": "Which declined-invitation patterns can quietly create distance?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "memory", + "grief", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "something_based_on_a_detail_i_mentioned", - "text": "Something based on a detail I mentioned" + "id": "using_the_past_to_criticize_the_present", + "text": "Using the past to criticize the present" }, { - "id": "time_protected_before_the_calendar_fills", - "text": "Time protected before the calendar fills" + "id": "ignoring_what_has_changed", + "text": "Ignoring what has changed" }, { - "id": "an_easy_favorite_with_no_big_production", - "text": "An easy favorite with no big production" + "id": "one_person_feeling_pressured_to_perform_an_old_version", + "text": "One person feeling pressured to perform an old version" }, { - "id": "a_new_idea_that_fits_my_actual_energy", - "text": "A new idea that fits my actual energy" - }, - { - "id": "a_plan_where_you_handle_one_stressful_detail", - "text": "A plan where you handle one stressful detail" + "id": "only_remembering_what_was_lost", + "text": "Only remembering what was lost" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "something_based_on_a_detail_i_mentioned", - "text": "Something based on a detail I mentioned" + "id": "using_the_past_to_criticize_the_present", + "text": "Using the past to criticize the present" }, { - "id": "time_protected_before_the_calendar_fills", - "text": "Time protected before the calendar fills" + "id": "ignoring_what_has_changed", + "text": "Ignoring what has changed" }, { - "id": "an_easy_favorite_with_no_big_production", - "text": "An easy favorite with no big production" + "id": "one_person_feeling_pressured_to_perform_an_old_version", + "text": "One person feeling pressured to perform an old version" }, { - "id": "a_new_idea_that_fits_my_actual_energy", - "text": "A new idea that fits my actual energy" - }, - { - "id": "a_plan_where_you_handle_one_stressful_detail", - "text": "A plan where you handle one stressful detail" + "id": "only_remembering_what_was_lost", + "text": "Only remembering what was lost" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -7189,60 +6514,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_135", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What would help canceled plans still feel like time together?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "canceled_plans", - "repair", - "low_pressure", - "quality_time", - "adult_humor" - ], + "text": "How can our traditions leave room for who we are becoming?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "traditions", + "change", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "switching_to_an_easier_version_at_home", - "text": "Switching to an easier version at home" + "id": "keep_the_meaning_and_change_the_details", + "text": "Keep the meaning and change the details" }, { - "id": "ordering_something_and_talking_for_a_while", - "text": "Ordering something and talking for a while" + "id": "retire_what_no_longer_fits", + "text": "Retire what no longer fits" }, { - "id": "saving_one_part_of_the_original_idea", - "text": "Saving one part of the original idea" + "id": "let_both_people_suggest_updates", + "text": "Let both people suggest updates" }, { - "id": "choosing_a_new_date_before_we_move_on", - "text": "Choosing a new date before we move on" - }, - { - "id": "saying_we_are_disappointed_without_turning_on_each_other", - "text": "Saying we are disappointed without turning on each other" + "id": "create_new_traditions_without_replacing_every_old_one", + "text": "Create new traditions without replacing every old one" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "switching_to_an_easier_version_at_home", - "text": "Switching to an easier version at home" + "id": "keep_the_meaning_and_change_the_details", + "text": "Keep the meaning and change the details" }, { - "id": "ordering_something_and_talking_for_a_while", - "text": "Ordering something and talking for a while" + "id": "retire_what_no_longer_fits", + "text": "Retire what no longer fits" }, { - "id": "saving_one_part_of_the_original_idea", - "text": "Saving one part of the original idea" + "id": "let_both_people_suggest_updates", + "text": "Let both people suggest updates" }, { - "id": "choosing_a_new_date_before_we_move_on", - "text": "Choosing a new date before we move on" - }, - { - "id": "saying_we_are_disappointed_without_turning_on_each_other", - "text": "Saying we are disappointed without turning on each other" + "id": "create_new_traditions_without_replacing_every_old_one", + "text": "Create new traditions without replacing every old one" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -7253,60 +6568,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_136", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which low-stakes games actually feel like quality time?", + "text": "Which quality-time plans work well when mobility or pain is a factor?", "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "games", - "shared_activity", - "low_energy", - "quality_time", - "adult_humor" - ], - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "comfort", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "a_cooperative_card_game", - "text": "A cooperative card game" + "id": "a_comfortable_meal_at_home", + "text": "A comfortable meal at home" }, { - "id": "trivia_where_we_can_work_as_a_team", - "text": "Trivia where we can work as a team" + "id": "a_scenic_drive", + "text": "A scenic drive" }, { - "id": "a_puzzle_we_can_leave_unfinished", - "text": "A puzzle we can leave unfinished" + "id": "a_seated_activity", + "text": "A seated activity" }, { - "id": "a_guessing_game_based_on_our_preferences", - "text": "A guessing game based on our preferences" - }, - { - "id": "a_word_game_that_takes_ten_minutes", - "text": "A word game that takes ten minutes" + "id": "a_short_outing_with_an_easy_exit", + "text": "A short outing with an easy exit" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_cooperative_card_game", - "text": "A cooperative card game" + "id": "a_comfortable_meal_at_home", + "text": "A comfortable meal at home" }, { - "id": "trivia_where_we_can_work_as_a_team", - "text": "Trivia where we can work as a team" + "id": "a_scenic_drive", + "text": "A scenic drive" }, { - "id": "a_puzzle_we_can_leave_unfinished", - "text": "A puzzle we can leave unfinished" + "id": "a_seated_activity", + "text": "A seated activity" }, { - "id": "a_guessing_game_based_on_our_preferences", - "text": "A guessing game based on our preferences" - }, - { - "id": "a_word_game_that_takes_ten_minutes", - "text": "A word game that takes ten minutes" + "id": "a_short_outing_with_an_easy_exit", + "text": "A short outing with an easy exit" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -7316,208 +6621,159 @@ { "id": "quality_time_137", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How satisfied are you with the low-key time we make at home?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "home_time", - "satisfaction", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which plan is easiest when social energy is low?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "social_energy", + "preferences", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "stay_home_together", + "text": "Stay home together" + }, + { + "id": "go_somewhere_quiet", + "text": "Go somewhere quiet" + }, + { + "id": "see_one_trusted_person", + "text": "See one trusted person" + }, + { + "id": "keep_separate_plans_and_reconnect_later", + "text": "Keep separate plans and reconnect later" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very satisfied", - "max_label": "Very satisfied" + "options": [ + { + "id": "stay_home_together", + "text": "Stay home together" + }, + { + "id": "go_somewhere_quiet", + "text": "Go somewhere quiet" + }, + { + "id": "see_one_trusted_person", + "text": "See one trusted person" + }, + { + "id": "keep_separate_plans_and_reconnect_later", + "text": "Keep separate plans and reconnect later" + } + ] } }, { "id": "quality_time_138", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes a tradition worth keeping?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How well do our plans respect each person's energy and comfort?", "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "traditions", - "couple_identity", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_still_feels_like_us", - "text": "It still feels like us" - }, - { - "id": "it_is_easy_enough_to_repeat", - "text": "It is easy enough to repeat" - }, - { - "id": "it_gives_us_something_to_anticipate", - "text": "It gives us something to anticipate" - }, - { - "id": "it_carries_a_story_we_care_about", - "text": "It carries a story we care about" - }, - { - "id": "it_can_change_as_our_life_changes", - "text": "It can change as our life changes" - } + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "current_state", + "quality_time" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "it_still_feels_like_us", - "text": "It still feels like us" - }, - { - "id": "it_is_easy_enough_to_repeat", - "text": "It is easy enough to repeat" - }, - { - "id": "it_gives_us_something_to_anticipate", - "text": "It gives us something to anticipate" - }, - { - "id": "it_carries_a_story_we_care_about", - "text": "It carries a story we care about" - }, - { - "id": "it_can_change_as_our_life_changes", - "text": "It can change as our life changes" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not well enough", + "max_label": "Very well" } }, { "id": "quality_time_139", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps silence feel peaceful instead of distant?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "quiet", - "emotional_safety", - "presence", - "quality_time", - "flirty", - "low_energy" - ], + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Choose the more accessible plan or adapt the original idea?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "quick_choice", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "a_warm_greeting_before_we_settle_in", - "text": "A warm greeting before we settle in" + "id": "choose_the_more_accessible_plan", + "text": "Choose the more accessible plan" }, { - "id": "knowing_we_can_talk_whenever_we_want", - "text": "Knowing we can talk whenever we want" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_touch_or_affectionate_look", - "text": "A small touch or affectionate look" - }, - { - "id": "a_shared_plan_for_the_time", - "text": "A shared plan for the time" - }, - { - "id": "checking_in_if_the_mood_changes", - "text": "Checking in if the mood changes" + "id": "adapt_the_original_idea", + "text": "Adapt the original idea" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_warm_greeting_before_we_settle_in", - "text": "A warm greeting before we settle in" + "id": "choose_the_more_accessible_plan", + "text": "Choose the more accessible plan" }, { - "id": "knowing_we_can_talk_whenever_we_want", - "text": "Knowing we can talk whenever we want" - }, - { - "id": "a_small_touch_or_affectionate_look", - "text": "A small touch or affectionate look" - }, - { - "id": "a_shared_plan_for_the_time", - "text": "A shared plan for the time" - }, - { - "id": "checking_in_if_the_mood_changes", - "text": "Checking in if the mood changes" + "id": "adapt_the_original_idea", + "text": "Adapt the original idea" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "quality_time_140", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps a no-phone plan feel inviting instead of like a rule?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "phones", - "low_pressure", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time", - "low_energy" - ], + "text": "What helps an outing feel accessible without becoming a medical operation?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "planning", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "keeping_it_short_and_realistic", - "text": "Keeping it short and realistic" + "id": "know_where_we_can_sit", + "text": "Know where we can sit" }, { - "id": "having_something_enjoyable_ready", - "text": "Having something enjoyable ready" + "id": "keep_the_schedule_loose", + "text": "Keep the schedule loose" }, { - "id": "agreeing_on_it_together", - "text": "Agreeing on it together" + "id": "plan_an_easy_exit", + "text": "Plan an easy exit" }, { - "id": "making_exceptions_for_anything_urgent", - "text": "Making exceptions for anything urgent" - }, - { - "id": "ending_it_before_it_feels_forced", - "text": "Ending it before it feels forced" + "id": "bring_only_what_actually_helps", + "text": "Bring only what actually helps" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "keeping_it_short_and_realistic", - "text": "Keeping it short and realistic" + "id": "know_where_we_can_sit", + "text": "Know where we can sit" }, { - "id": "having_something_enjoyable_ready", - "text": "Having something enjoyable ready" + "id": "keep_the_schedule_loose", + "text": "Keep the schedule loose" }, { - "id": "agreeing_on_it_together", - "text": "Agreeing on it together" + "id": "plan_an_easy_exit", + "text": "Plan an easy exit" }, { - "id": "making_exceptions_for_anything_urgent", - "text": "Making exceptions for anything urgent" - }, - { - "id": "ending_it_before_it_feels_forced", - "text": "Ending it before it feels forced" + "id": "bring_only_what_actually_helps", + "text": "Bring only what actually helps" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -7527,295 +6783,231 @@ { "id": "quality_time_141", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which ridiculous memory would I retell first?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which shared-time options work when one person needs sensory calm?", "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "adult_humor", - "couple_lore", - "quality_time" - ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "sensory", + "accessibility", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "a_plan_that_went_completely_sideways", - "text": "A plan that went completely sideways" + "id": "a_quiet_room", + "text": "A quiet room" }, { - "id": "something_one_of_us_said_at_the_worst_time", - "text": "Something one of us said at the worst time" + "id": "low_volume_music", + "text": "Low-volume music" }, { - "id": "an_awkward_public_moment", - "text": "An awkward public moment" + "id": "a_familiar_activity", + "text": "A familiar activity" }, { - "id": "a_tiny_disagreement_that_is_funny_now", - "text": "A tiny disagreement that is funny now" + "id": "time_together_without_conversation", + "text": "Time together without conversation" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_plan_that_went_completely_sideways", - "text": "A plan that went completely sideways" + "id": "a_quiet_room", + "text": "A quiet room" }, { - "id": "something_one_of_us_said_at_the_worst_time", - "text": "Something one of us said at the worst time" + "id": "low_volume_music", + "text": "Low-volume music" }, { - "id": "an_awkward_public_moment", - "text": "An awkward public moment" + "id": "a_familiar_activity", + "text": "A familiar activity" }, { - "id": "a_tiny_disagreement_that_is_funny_now", - "text": "A tiny disagreement that is funny now" + "id": "time_together_without_conversation", + "text": "Time together without conversation" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_142", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which kinds of plans are easiest for you to say yes to?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which preparation earns the biggest return on a comfortable outing?", "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ + "humor", "accessibility", - "planning", - "low_energy", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "free_or_inexpensive", - "text": "Free or inexpensive" + "id": "checking_the_seating", + "text": "Checking the seating" }, { - "id": "close_to_home", - "text": "Close to home" + "id": "bringing_water", + "text": "Bringing water" }, { - "id": "short_enough_to_fit_a_busy_day", - "text": "Short enough to fit a busy day" + "id": "avoiding_the_busiest_hour", + "text": "Avoiding the busiest hour" }, { - "id": "comfortable_and_low_energy", - "text": "Comfortable and low-energy" - }, - { - "id": "flexible_if_the_mood_changes", - "text": "Flexible if the mood changes" + "id": "knowing_where_the_nearest_acceptable_bathroom_is", + "text": "Knowing where the nearest acceptable bathroom is" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "free_or_inexpensive", - "text": "Free or inexpensive" + "id": "checking_the_seating", + "text": "Checking the seating" }, { - "id": "close_to_home", - "text": "Close to home" + "id": "bringing_water", + "text": "Bringing water" }, { - "id": "short_enough_to_fit_a_busy_day", - "text": "Short enough to fit a busy day" + "id": "avoiding_the_busiest_hour", + "text": "Avoiding the busiest hour" }, { - "id": "comfortable_and_low_energy", - "text": "Comfortable and low-energy" - }, - { - "id": "flexible_if_the_mood_changes", - "text": "Flexible if the mood changes" + "id": "knowing_where_the_nearest_acceptable_bathroom_is", + "text": "Knowing where the nearest acceptable bathroom is" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "quality_time_143", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "One shared activity or separate things in the same room?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "parallel_time", - "preference", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we handle different social batteries respectfully?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "social_energy", + "differences", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "one_shared_activity", - "text": "One shared activity" + "id": "agree_on_an_exit_time", + "text": "Agree on an exit time" }, { - "id": "separate_things_in_the_same_room", - "text": "Separate things in the same room" + "id": "let_one_person_leave_earlier", + "text": "Let one person leave earlier" + }, + { + "id": "choose_smaller_gatherings", + "text": "Choose smaller gatherings" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_shame_the_need_for_recovery", + "text": "Do not shame the need for recovery" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "one_shared_activity", - "text": "One shared activity" + "id": "agree_on_an_exit_time", + "text": "Agree on an exit time" }, { - "id": "separate_things_in_the_same_room", - "text": "Separate things in the same room" + "id": "let_one_person_leave_earlier", + "text": "Let one person leave earlier" + }, + { + "id": "choose_smaller_gatherings", + "text": "Choose smaller gatherings" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_shame_the_need_for_recovery", + "text": "Do not shame the need for recovery" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "quality_time_144", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What keeps time together possible during a busy week?", - "depth": 1, - "tags": [ - "busy_life", - "low_energy", - "practical_reality", - "quality_time" - ], + "type": "scale", + "text": "How hopeful do you feel about making more good time for us?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", - "options": [ - { - "id": "making_use_of_small_gaps", - "text": "Making use of small gaps" - }, - { - "id": "protecting_one_meal_or_break", - "text": "Protecting one meal or break" - }, - { - "id": "sending_a_message_that_leads_to_a_later_conversation", - "text": "Sending a message that leads to a later conversation" - }, - { - "id": "turning_a_necessary_trip_into_shared_time", - "text": "Turning a necessary trip into shared time" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_rest_together_instead_of_forcing_an_activity", - "text": "Choosing rest together instead of forcing an activity" - } + "tags": [ + "future", + "hope", + "quality_time" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "making_use_of_small_gaps", - "text": "Making use of small gaps" - }, - { - "id": "protecting_one_meal_or_break", - "text": "Protecting one meal or break" - }, - { - "id": "sending_a_message_that_leads_to_a_later_conversation", - "text": "Sending a message that leads to a later conversation" - }, - { - "id": "turning_a_necessary_trip_into_shared_time", - "text": "Turning a necessary trip into shared time" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_rest_together_instead_of_forcing_an_activity", - "text": "Choosing rest together instead of forcing an activity" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not hopeful yet", + "max_label": "Very hopeful" } }, { "id": "quality_time_145", "category_id": "quality_time", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How confident are you that you know what kind of time together I want lately?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "prediction", - "partner_knowledge", - "quality_time" - ], - "access": "premium", - "sex": "neutral", - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "I would be guessing", - "max_label": "Very confident" - } - }, - { - "id": "quality_time_146", - "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which small moments are most likely to become favorite memories?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "memories", - "couple_lore", - "ordinary_time", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "Which future changes could improve our quality time?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "future", + "small_changes", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "a_conversation_that_runs_much_longer_than_planned", - "text": "A conversation that runs much longer than planned" + "id": "a_simpler_schedule", + "text": "A simpler schedule" }, { - "id": "a_simple_plan_that_unexpectedly_works", - "text": "A simple plan that unexpectedly works" + "id": "more_shared_routines", + "text": "More shared routines" }, { - "id": "a_shared_laugh_during_a_stressful_day", - "text": "A shared laugh during a stressful day" + "id": "better_boundaries_around_work", + "text": "Better boundaries around work" }, { - "id": "trying_something_new_without_pressure", - "text": "Trying something new without pressure" - }, - { - "id": "a_quiet_moment_when_everything_feels_settled", - "text": "A quiet moment when everything feels settled" + "id": "a_habit_of_inviting_each_other", + "text": "A habit of inviting each other" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_conversation_that_runs_much_longer_than_planned", - "text": "A conversation that runs much longer than planned" + "id": "a_simpler_schedule", + "text": "A simpler schedule" }, { - "id": "a_simple_plan_that_unexpectedly_works", - "text": "A simple plan that unexpectedly works" + "id": "more_shared_routines", + "text": "More shared routines" }, { - "id": "a_shared_laugh_during_a_stressful_day", - "text": "A shared laugh during a stressful day" + "id": "better_boundaries_around_work", + "text": "Better boundaries around work" }, { - "id": "trying_something_new_without_pressure", - "text": "Trying something new without pressure" - }, - { - "id": "a_quiet_moment_when_everything_feels_settled", - "text": "A quiet moment when everything feels settled" + "id": "a_habit_of_inviting_each_other", + "text": "A habit of inviting each other" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -7823,114 +7015,159 @@ } }, { - "id": "quality_time_147", + "id": "quality_time_146", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of talk sounds best tonight?", + "text": "Which future-us plan sounds most believable?", "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "conversation", - "invitation", - "current_mood", + "future", + "humor", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "a_light_catch_up", - "text": "A light catch-up" + "id": "still_taking_walks", + "text": "Still taking walks" }, { - "id": "a_funny_memory", - "text": "A funny memory" + "id": "still_sharing_snacks", + "text": "Still sharing snacks" }, { - "id": "a_future_plan", - "text": "A future plan" + "id": "still_arguing_about_what_to_watch", + "text": "Still arguing about what to watch" }, { - "id": "something_real_that_has_been_on_my_mind", - "text": "Something real that has been on my mind" + "id": "still_protecting_one_quiet_hour", + "text": "Still protecting one quiet hour" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_light_catch_up", - "text": "A light catch-up" + "id": "still_taking_walks", + "text": "Still taking walks" }, { - "id": "a_funny_memory", - "text": "A funny memory" + "id": "still_sharing_snacks", + "text": "Still sharing snacks" }, { - "id": "a_future_plan", - "text": "A future plan" + "id": "still_arguing_about_what_to_watch", + "text": "Still arguing about what to watch" }, { - "id": "something_real_that_has_been_on_my_mind", - "text": "Something real that has been on my mind" + "id": "still_protecting_one_quiet_hour", + "text": "Still protecting one quiet hour" } ] } }, + { + "id": "quality_time_147", + "category_id": "quality_time", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps plans adapt when health or energy changes long term?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "accessibility", + "change", + "quality_time" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "focus_on_the_purpose_not_the_exact_activity", + "text": "Focus on the purpose, not the exact activity" + }, + { + "id": "let_comfort_lead", + "text": "Let comfort lead" + }, + { + "id": "keep_several_easy_options", + "text": "Keep several easy options" + }, + { + "id": "review_what_still_feels_enjoyable", + "text": "Review what still feels enjoyable" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "focus_on_the_purpose_not_the_exact_activity", + "text": "Focus on the purpose, not the exact activity" + }, + { + "id": "let_comfort_lead", + "text": "Let comfort lead" + }, + { + "id": "keep_several_easy_options", + "text": "Keep several easy options" + }, + { + "id": "review_what_still_feels_enjoyable", + "text": "Review what still feels enjoyable" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, { "id": "quality_time_148", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes time together feel emotionally safe?", - "depth": 3, - "tags": [ - "emotional_safety", - "meaningful", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "Which signs show our quality time is healthy?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "wellbeing", + "quality_time", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "i_can_be_honest_without_feeling_judged", - "text": "I can be honest without feeling judged" + "id": "both_people_initiate", + "text": "Both people initiate" }, { - "id": "we_can_want_different_things_without_it_becoming_a_problem", - "text": "We can want different things without it becoming a problem" + "id": "plans_fit_real_life", + "text": "Plans fit real life" }, { - "id": "we_can_pause_if_the_conversation_gets_heavy", - "text": "We can pause if the conversation gets heavy" + "id": "separate_time_is_also_respected", + "text": "Separate time is also respected" }, { - "id": "affection_never_feels_like_a_requirement", - "text": "Affection never feels like a requirement" - }, - { - "id": "we_are_trying_to_understand_not_win", - "text": "We are trying to understand, not win" + "id": "being_together_usually_restores_more_than_it_drains", + "text": "Being together usually restores more than it drains" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "i_can_be_honest_without_feeling_judged", - "text": "I can be honest without feeling judged" + "id": "both_people_initiate", + "text": "Both people initiate" }, { - "id": "we_can_want_different_things_without_it_becoming_a_problem", - "text": "We can want different things without it becoming a problem" + "id": "plans_fit_real_life", + "text": "Plans fit real life" }, { - "id": "we_can_pause_if_the_conversation_gets_heavy", - "text": "We can pause if the conversation gets heavy" + "id": "separate_time_is_also_respected", + "text": "Separate time is also respected" }, { - "id": "affection_never_feels_like_a_requirement", - "text": "Affection never feels like a requirement" - }, - { - "id": "we_are_trying_to_understand_not_win", - "text": "We are trying to understand, not win" + "id": "being_together_usually_restores_more_than_it_drains", + "text": "Being together usually restores more than it drains" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -7941,59 +7178,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_149", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "When the day has taken everything out of us, what still counts as good time together?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "What can make accessibility needs feel invisible during planning?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "sex": "neutral", "tags": [ - "low_energy", - "presence", - "ordinary_time", + "accessibility", + "warning_signs", "quality_time" ], - "access": "free", - "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { - "id": "sitting_close_with_a_comfort_show", - "text": "Sitting close with a comfort show" + "id": "assuming_the_old_plan_still_works", + "text": "Assuming the old plan still works" }, { - "id": "sharing_a_snack_and_talking_for_ten_minutes", - "text": "Sharing a snack and talking for ten minutes" + "id": "treating_adjustments_as_inconvenience", + "text": "Treating adjustments as inconvenience" }, { - "id": "taking_a_short_walk_with_no_destination", - "text": "Taking a short walk with no destination" + "id": "expecting_one_person_to_explain_repeatedly", + "text": "Expecting one person to explain repeatedly" }, { - "id": "lying_down_with_music_on", - "text": "Lying down with music on" - }, - { - "id": "doing_separate_quiet_things_in_the_same_room", - "text": "Doing separate quiet things in the same room" + "id": "choosing_appearance_over_comfort", + "text": "Choosing appearance over comfort" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "sitting_close_with_a_comfort_show", - "text": "Sitting close with a comfort show" + "id": "assuming_the_old_plan_still_works", + "text": "Assuming the old plan still works" }, { - "id": "sharing_a_snack_and_talking_for_ten_minutes", - "text": "Sharing a snack and talking for ten minutes" + "id": "treating_adjustments_as_inconvenience", + "text": "Treating adjustments as inconvenience" }, { - "id": "taking_a_short_walk_with_no_destination", - "text": "Taking a short walk with no destination" + "id": "expecting_one_person_to_explain_repeatedly", + "text": "Expecting one person to explain repeatedly" }, { - "id": "lying_down_with_music_on", - "text": "Lying down with music on" - }, - { - "id": "doing_separate_quiet_things_in_the_same_room", - "text": "Doing separate quiet things in the same room" + "id": "choosing_appearance_over_comfort", + "text": "Choosing appearance over comfort" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -8004,59 +7232,50 @@ "id": "quality_time_150", "category_id": "quality_time", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What could make a normal evening feel quietly romantic?", - "depth": 2, - "tags": [ - "romance", - "flirty", - "ordinary_time", - "quality_time" - ], + "text": "What would make quality time remain meaningful as our lives change?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", + "tags": [ + "future", + "long_term", + "quality_time" + ], "options": [ { - "id": "taking_our_time_over_a_meal", - "text": "Taking our time over a meal" + "id": "keep_learning_what_each_person_enjoys", + "text": "Keep learning what each person enjoys" }, { - "id": "putting_on_music_tied_to_us", - "text": "Putting on music tied to us" + "id": "protect_simple_connection", + "text": "Protect simple connection" }, { - "id": "sharing_a_longer_kiss_if_we_both_want_one", - "text": "Sharing a longer kiss if we both want one" + "id": "let_traditions_evolve", + "text": "Let traditions evolve" }, { - "id": "talking_somewhere_more_comfortable_than_usual", - "text": "Talking somewhere more comfortable than usual" - }, - { - "id": "giving_each_other_one_thoughtful_compliment", - "text": "Giving each other one thoughtful compliment" + "id": "choose_each_other_without_making_time_together_compulsory", + "text": "Choose each other without making time together compulsory" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "taking_our_time_over_a_meal", - "text": "Taking our time over a meal" + "id": "keep_learning_what_each_person_enjoys", + "text": "Keep learning what each person enjoys" }, { - "id": "putting_on_music_tied_to_us", - "text": "Putting on music tied to us" + "id": "protect_simple_connection", + "text": "Protect simple connection" }, { - "id": "sharing_a_longer_kiss_if_we_both_want_one", - "text": "Sharing a longer kiss if we both want one" + "id": "let_traditions_evolve", + "text": "Let traditions evolve" }, { - "id": "talking_somewhere_more_comfortable_than_usual", - "text": "Talking somewhere more comfortable than usual" - }, - { - "id": "giving_each_other_one_thoughtful_compliment", - "text": "Giving each other one thoughtful compliment" + "id": "choose_each_other_without_making_time_together_compulsory", + "text": "Choose each other without making time together compulsory" } ], "min_selections": 1, diff --git a/seed/questions/trust.json b/seed/questions/trust.json index 5efa4d61..57273a7c 100644 --- a/seed/questions/trust.json +++ b/seed/questions/trust.json @@ -2,157 +2,573 @@ "category": { "id": "trust", "display_name": "Trust", - "description": "Warm, Closer-style questions that help couples notice everyday trust, feel secure, keep small promises, respect privacy, share honestly, and choose each other in sweet, simple ways.", + "description": "Careful, warm questions about everyday reliability, honesty, privacy, good judgment, keeping promises, respecting independence, and feeling secure with each other when no major rupture is being repaired.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "favorite_border", "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { - "total_questions": 250, - "free_questions": 75, - "premium_questions": 175, + "legacy_question_count": 250, + "legacy_free_questions": 75, + "legacy_premium_questions": 175, + "catalog_change": -100, + "content_version": "trust_150_final_v2", + "mass_rewrite_reason": "The legacy pack contained 250 questions, including 150 written responses and production-invalid depth values up to 5. More than 60 percent failed the current interaction and schema standards, so targeted correction would create more inconsistency than replacement.", + "related_pack_boundary": "Trust owns everyday dependability, honesty, privacy, independence, sound judgment, reassurance, keeping ordinary promises, and feeling secure when no major breach is being repaired. Rebuilding Trust owns accountability and recovery after an actual rupture. Emotional Intimacy owns vulnerability and feeling deeply known. Boundaries owns general limits that are not specifically about trust.", + "safety_boundary": "Trust must never be framed as surveillance, surrendered privacy, location proof, device access, control over friendships, isolation, forced disclosure, or a requirement to forgive or remain in the relationship.", + "review_workflow": "Six separately written batches of 25 questions, with a 50-question cross-check after every two batches and a final full-pack audit.", + "final_validation": "pass", + "last_completed_batch": 6, + "total_questions": 150, + "free_questions": 45, + "premium_questions": 105, "type_counts": { - "written": 150, - "single_choice": 40, - "multi_choice": 20, - "scale": 25, - "this_or_that": 15 - } + "multi_choice": 90, + "single_choice": 30, + "scale": 15, + "this_or_that": 10, + "written": 5 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 45, + "2": 65, + "3": 40 + }, + "depth_percentages": { + "light": 30.0, + "medium": 43.3, + "deep": 26.7 + }, + "batch_review": [ + { + "batch": 1, + "first_id": "trust_001", + "last_id": "trust_025", + "count": 25, + "type_counts": { + "multi_choice": 14, + "single_choice": 6, + "this_or_that": 2, + "scale": 2, + "written": 1 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 10, + "2": 12, + "3": 3 + }, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 2, + "first_id": "trust_026", + "last_id": "trust_050", + "count": 25, + "type_counts": { + "multi_choice": 16, + "single_choice": 4, + "scale": 3, + "this_or_that": 1, + "written": 1 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 9, + "2": 11, + "3": 5 + }, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 3, + "first_id": "trust_051", + "last_id": "trust_075", + "count": 25, + "type_counts": { + "multi_choice": 15, + "single_choice": 5, + "scale": 2, + "this_or_that": 2, + "written": 1 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 8, + "2": 11, + "3": 6 + }, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 4, + "first_id": "trust_076", + "last_id": "trust_100", + "count": 25, + "type_counts": { + "multi_choice": 15, + "single_choice": 5, + "scale": 3, + "this_or_that": 1, + "written": 1 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 7, + "2": 10, + "3": 8 + }, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 5, + "first_id": "trust_101", + "last_id": "trust_125", + "count": 25, + "type_counts": { + "multi_choice": 15, + "single_choice": 5, + "scale": 2, + "this_or_that": 2, + "written": 1 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 6, + "2": 10, + "3": 9 + }, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "batch": 6, + "first_id": "trust_126", + "last_id": "trust_150", + "count": 25, + "type_counts": { + "multi_choice": 15, + "single_choice": 5, + "scale": 3, + "this_or_that": 2 + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 5, + "2": 11, + "3": 9 + }, + "status": "PASS" + } + ], + "fifty_question_checkpoints": [ + { + "checkpoint": 1, + "first_id": "trust_001", + "last_id": "trust_050", + "count": 50, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "checkpoint": 2, + "first_id": "trust_051", + "last_id": "trust_100", + "count": 50, + "status": "PASS" + }, + { + "checkpoint": 3, + "first_id": "trust_101", + "last_id": "trust_150", + "count": 50, + "status": "PASS" + } + ], + "final_editorial_patches": 3, + "catalog_impact": { + "old_question_count": 250, + "new_question_count": 150, + "net_change": -100, + "old_free_questions": 75, + "new_free_questions": 45, + "old_premium_questions": 175, + "new_premium_questions": 105, + "intentional": true + }, + "final_review": "Complete guide-driven rebuild and final production audit. Replaced the 250-question legacy pack with 150 varied questions, reduced written responses from 150 to 5, converted all depths to integers 1–3, separated everyday trust from rupture repair, rejected surveillance and control as trust practices, and validated schema, option fit, uniqueness, repetition, six 25-question batches, and three 50-question checkpoints." } }, "questions": [ { "id": "trust_001", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one small thing I do that helps you trust me more?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which small actions make me feel dependable to you?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "small_actions", + "reliability", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "doing_what_i_said", + "text": "Doing what I said" + }, + { + "id": "updating_you_when_plans_change", + "text": "Updating you when plans change" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_important_details", + "text": "Remembering important details" + }, + { + "id": "handling_my_share_without_reminders", + "text": "Handling my share without reminders" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "doing_what_i_said", + "text": "Doing what I said" + }, + { + "id": "updating_you_when_plans_change", + "text": "Updating you when plans change" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_important_details", + "text": "Remembering important details" + }, + { + "id": "handling_my_share_without_reminders", + "text": "Handling my share without reminders" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_002", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel safe being yourself with me?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the clearest everyday sign that I am on your side?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "safety", + "teamwork", + "security", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_defend_our_shared_decisions", + "text": "I defend our shared decisions" + }, + { + "id": "i_listen_before_reacting", + "text": "I listen before reacting" + }, + { + "id": "i_help_when_life_gets_heavy", + "text": "I help when life gets heavy" + }, + { + "id": "i_speak_about_you_with_respect", + "text": "I speak about you with respect" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_defend_our_shared_decisions", + "text": "I defend our shared decisions" + }, + { + "id": "i_listen_before_reacting", + "text": "I listen before reacting" + }, + { + "id": "i_help_when_life_gets_heavy", + "text": "I help when life gets heavy" + }, + { + "id": "i_speak_about_you_with_respect", + "text": "I speak about you with respect" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_003", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you believe I am on your side?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "A clear update or a thoughtful surprise?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "teamwork", + "communication", + "quick_choice", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_clear_update", + "text": "A clear update" + }, + { + "id": "a_thoughtful_surprise", + "text": "A thoughtful surprise" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_clear_update", + "text": "A clear update" + }, + { + "id": "a_thoughtful_surprise", + "text": "A thoughtful surprise" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_004", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one promise we keep well?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps an ordinary promise feel worth trusting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "promises", + "follow_through", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_realistic", + "text": "It is realistic" + }, + { + "id": "it_includes_a_clear_time", + "text": "It includes a clear time" + }, + { + "id": "changes_are_mentioned_early", + "text": "Changes are mentioned early" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_follows_through_without_applause", + "text": "The person follows through without applause" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_realistic", + "text": "It is realistic" + }, + { + "id": "it_includes_a_clear_time", + "text": "It includes a clear time" + }, + { + "id": "changes_are_mentioned_early", + "text": "Changes are mentioned early" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_follows_through_without_applause", + "text": "The person follows through without applause" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_005", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes our relationship feel steady to you?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How dependable do our everyday plans feel lately?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "security", + "current_state", + "reliability", "trust" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Often uncertain", + "max_label": "Very dependable" } }, { "id": "trust_006", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of honesty feels easiest between us?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which habits quietly build trust over time?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "honesty", + "habits", + "consistency", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_where_we_said_we_would_be", + "text": "Being where we said we would be" + }, + { + "id": "answering_honestly", + "text": "Answering honestly" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_private_things_private", + "text": "Keeping private things private" + }, + { + "id": "admitting_when_we_forgot", + "text": "Admitting when we forgot" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_where_we_said_we_would_be", + "text": "Being where we said we would be" + }, + { + "id": "answering_honestly", + "text": "Answering honestly" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_private_things_private", + "text": "Keeping private things private" + }, + { + "id": "admitting_when_we_forgot", + "text": "Admitting when we forgot" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_007", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of honesty would feel easier if we kept it gentle?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which tiny promise deserves the strongest enforcement department?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "honesty", - "vulnerability", - "trust", - "closer_style", - "warm", - "fun_first" + "humor", + "promises", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "bringing_the_requested_snack", + "text": "Bringing the requested snack" + }, + { + "id": "charging_the_shared_device", + "text": "Charging the shared device" + }, + { + "id": "replacing_the_empty_roll", + "text": "Replacing the empty roll" + }, + { + "id": "saving_the_last_episode", + "text": "Saving the last episode" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "bringing_the_requested_snack", + "text": "Bringing the requested snack" + }, + { + "id": "charging_the_shared_device", + "text": "Charging the shared device" + }, + { + "id": "replacing_the_empty_roll", + "text": "Replacing the empty roll" + }, + { + "id": "saving_the_last_episode", + "text": "Saving the last episode" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_008", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel emotionally safe with me?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "When plans change, what keeps the change from feeling careless?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "emotional_safety", + "plans", + "consideration", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "telling_you_promptly", + "text": "Telling you promptly" + }, + { + "id": "giving_the_real_reason", + "text": "Giving the real reason" + }, + { + "id": "acknowledging_the_effect_on_you", + "text": "Acknowledging the effect on you" + }, + { + "id": "helping_make_a_new_plan", + "text": "Helping make a new plan" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "telling_you_promptly", + "text": "Telling you promptly" + }, + { + "id": "giving_the_real_reason", + "text": "Giving the real reason" + }, + { + "id": "acknowledging_the_effect_on_you", + "text": "Acknowledging the effect on you" + }, + { + "id": "helping_make_a_new_plan", + "text": "Helping make a new plan" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_009", "category_id": "trust", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel chosen by me?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What is one small thing I do that makes you trust me more?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "chosen", + "small_actions", + "memory", "trust" ], "answer_config": { @@ -162,11 +578,1274 @@ { "id": "trust_010", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel respected by me?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs tell you a person means what they say?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "integrity", + "consistency", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "words_and_actions_match", + "text": "Words and actions match" + }, + { + "id": "they_do_not_overpromise", + "text": "They do not overpromise" + }, + { + "id": "they_admit_uncertainty", + "text": "They admit uncertainty" + }, + { + "id": "they_follow_through_when_nobody_is_watching", + "text": "They follow through when nobody is watching" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "words_and_actions_match", + "text": "Words and actions match" + }, + { + "id": "they_do_not_overpromise", + "text": "They do not overpromise" + }, + { + "id": "they_admit_uncertainty", + "text": "They admit uncertainty" + }, + { + "id": "they_follow_through_when_nobody_is_watching", + "text": "They follow through when nobody is watching" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_011", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes a forgotten task feel like a mistake rather than disrespect?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "mistakes", + "accountability", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "owning_it_quickly", + "text": "Owning it quickly" + }, + { + "id": "fixing_it_without_excuses", + "text": "Fixing it without excuses" + }, + { + "id": "understanding_the_inconvenience", + "text": "Understanding the inconvenience" + }, + { + "id": "changing_the_reminder_system", + "text": "Changing the reminder system" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "owning_it_quickly", + "text": "Owning it quickly" + }, + { + "id": "fixing_it_without_excuses", + "text": "Fixing it without excuses" + }, + { + "id": "understanding_the_inconvenience", + "text": "Understanding the inconvenience" + }, + { + "id": "changing_the_reminder_system", + "text": "Changing the reminder system" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_012", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should happen when one of us cannot keep a commitment?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "commitments", + "communication", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_so_early", + "text": "Say so early" + }, + { + "id": "explain_without_inventing_excuses", + "text": "Explain without inventing excuses" + }, + { + "id": "offer_a_realistic_alternative", + "text": "Offer a realistic alternative" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_the_other_person_may_be_disappointed", + "text": "Accept that the other person may be disappointed" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_so_early", + "text": "Say so early" + }, + { + "id": "explain_without_inventing_excuses", + "text": "Explain without inventing excuses" + }, + { + "id": "offer_a_realistic_alternative", + "text": "Offer a realistic alternative" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_the_other_person_may_be_disappointed", + "text": "Accept that the other person may be disappointed" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_013", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Reliable and predictable or flexible and communicative?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "reliability", + "quick_choice", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "reliable_and_predictable", + "text": "Reliable and predictable" + }, + { + "id": "flexible_and_communicative", + "text": "Flexible and communicative" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "reliable_and_predictable", + "text": "Reliable and predictable" + }, + { + "id": "flexible_and_communicative", + "text": "Flexible and communicative" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_014", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which ordinary responsibilities affect trust more than people realize?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "responsibility", + "daily_life", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "paying_agreed_bills", + "text": "Paying agreed bills" + }, + { + "id": "showing_up_on_time", + "text": "Showing up on time" + }, + { + "id": "following_through_on_errands", + "text": "Following through on errands" + }, + { + "id": "taking_care_of_shared_belongings", + "text": "Taking care of shared belongings" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "paying_agreed_bills", + "text": "Paying agreed bills" + }, + { + "id": "showing_up_on_time", + "text": "Showing up on time" + }, + { + "id": "following_through_on_errands", + "text": "Following through on errands" + }, + { + "id": "taking_care_of_shared_belongings", + "text": "Taking care of shared belongings" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_015", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How confident are you that I will tell you when something changes?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "current_state", + "communication", + "trust" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not confident enough", + "max_label": "Very confident" + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_016", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes consistency feel caring instead of boring?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "consistency", + "care", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_lowers_mental_load", + "text": "It lowers mental load" + }, + { + "id": "it_makes_plans_easier", + "text": "It makes plans easier" + }, + { + "id": "it_shows_attention", + "text": "It shows attention" + }, + { + "id": "it_leaves_room_for_pleasant_surprises", + "text": "It leaves room for pleasant surprises" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_lowers_mental_load", + "text": "It lowers mental load" + }, + { + "id": "it_makes_plans_easier", + "text": "It makes plans easier" + }, + { + "id": "it_shows_attention", + "text": "It shows attention" + }, + { + "id": "it_leaves_room_for_pleasant_surprises", + "text": "It leaves room for pleasant surprises" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_017", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which sign of reliability matters most during a busy week?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "busy_life", + "reliability", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "keeping_one_important_promise", + "text": "Keeping one important promise" + }, + { + "id": "sending_a_useful_update", + "text": "Sending a useful update" + }, + { + "id": "handling_an_agreed_task", + "text": "Handling an agreed task" + }, + { + "id": "being_honest_about_capacity", + "text": "Being honest about capacity" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "keeping_one_important_promise", + "text": "Keeping one important promise" + }, + { + "id": "sending_a_useful_update", + "text": "Sending a useful update" + }, + { + "id": "handling_an_agreed_task", + "text": "Handling an agreed task" + }, + { + "id": "being_honest_about_capacity", + "text": "Being honest about capacity" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_018", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we make shared expectations easier to trust?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "expectations", + "clarity", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_them_out_loud", + "text": "Say them out loud" + }, + { + "id": "make_them_realistic", + "text": "Make them realistic" + }, + { + "id": "decide_who_owns_what", + "text": "Decide who owns what" + }, + { + "id": "review_them_when_life_changes", + "text": "Review them when life changes" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_them_out_loud", + "text": "Say them out loud" + }, + { + "id": "make_them_realistic", + "text": "Make them realistic" + }, + { + "id": "decide_who_owns_what", + "text": "Decide who owns what" + }, + { + "id": "review_them_when_life_changes", + "text": "Review them when life changes" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_019", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which reactions make a small mistake feel safer to admit?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "mistakes", + "safety", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "listening_first", + "text": "Listening first" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_the_response_proportional", + "text": "Keeping the response proportional" + }, + { + "id": "focusing_on_what_happens_next", + "text": "Focusing on what happens next" + }, + { + "id": "not_turning_it_into_a_character_judgment", + "text": "Not turning it into a character judgment" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "listening_first", + "text": "Listening first" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_the_response_proportional", + "text": "Keeping the response proportional" + }, + { + "id": "focusing_on_what_happens_next", + "text": "Focusing on what happens next" + }, + { + "id": "not_turning_it_into_a_character_judgment", + "text": "Not turning it into a character judgment" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_020", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the best proof that a new habit is real?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "habits", + "consistency", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_happens_without_reminders", + "text": "It happens without reminders" + }, + { + "id": "it_survives_a_stressful_week", + "text": "It survives a stressful week" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_acknowledged_when_missed", + "text": "It is acknowledged when missed" + }, + { + "id": "it_becomes_pleasantly_unremarkable", + "text": "It becomes pleasantly unremarkable" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_happens_without_reminders", + "text": "It happens without reminders" + }, + { + "id": "it_survives_a_stressful_week", + "text": "It survives a stressful week" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_acknowledged_when_missed", + "text": "It is acknowledged when missed" + }, + { + "id": "it_becomes_pleasantly_unremarkable", + "text": "It becomes pleasantly unremarkable" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_021", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps you trust my judgment with shared responsibilities?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ + "judgment", + "responsibility", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_consider_the_effect_on_both_of_us", + "text": "I consider the effect on both of us" + }, + { + "id": "i_ask_when_the_decision_is_not_mine_alone", + "text": "I ask when the decision is not mine alone" + }, + { + "id": "i_use_reliable_information", + "text": "I use reliable information" + }, + { + "id": "i_admit_when_i_need_help", + "text": "I admit when I need help" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_consider_the_effect_on_both_of_us", + "text": "I consider the effect on both of us" + }, + { + "id": "i_ask_when_the_decision_is_not_mine_alone", + "text": "I ask when the decision is not mine alone" + }, + { + "id": "i_use_reliable_information", + "text": "I use reliable information" + }, + { + "id": "i_admit_when_i_need_help", + "text": "I admit when I need help" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_022", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which details make an update feel reassuring?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "updates", + "communication", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_changed", + "text": "What changed" + }, + { + "id": "what_is_still_true", + "text": "What is still true" + }, + { + "id": "whether_you_need_anything_from_me", + "text": "Whether you need anything from me" + }, + { + "id": "when_we_will_know_more", + "text": "When we will know more" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_changed", + "text": "What changed" + }, + { + "id": "what_is_still_true", + "text": "What is still true" + }, + { + "id": "whether_you_need_anything_from_me", + "text": "Whether you need anything from me" + }, + { + "id": "when_we_will_know_more", + "text": "When we will know more" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_023", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which household phrase carries the highest legal weight?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "humor", + "follow_through", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_already_handled_it", + "text": "I already handled it" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_on_the_calendar", + "text": "It is on the calendar" + }, + { + "id": "i_wrote_it_down", + "text": "I wrote it down" + }, + { + "id": "i_brought_the_receipt", + "text": "I brought the receipt" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_already_handled_it", + "text": "I already handled it" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_on_the_calendar", + "text": "It is on the calendar" + }, + { + "id": "i_wrote_it_down", + "text": "I wrote it down" + }, + { + "id": "i_brought_the_receipt", + "text": "I brought the receipt" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_024", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make dependable behavior feel one-sided?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "fairness", + "warning_signs", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "only_one_person_remembers_everything", + "text": "Only one person remembers everything" + }, + { + "id": "promises_flow_mostly_one_direction", + "text": "Promises flow mostly one direction" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_s_time_is_treated_as_flexible", + "text": "One person's time is treated as flexible" + }, + { + "id": "reliability_is_expected_but_rarely_appreciated", + "text": "Reliability is expected but rarely appreciated" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "only_one_person_remembers_everything", + "text": "Only one person remembers everything" + }, + { + "id": "promises_flow_mostly_one_direction", + "text": "Promises flow mostly one direction" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_s_time_is_treated_as_flexible", + "text": "One person's time is treated as flexible" + }, + { + "id": "reliability_is_expected_but_rarely_appreciated", + "text": "Reliability is expected but rarely appreciated" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_025", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What keeps everyday trust from becoming a scorecard?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "trust", + "fairness", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "notice_patterns_instead_of_counting_favors", + "text": "Notice patterns instead of counting favors" + }, + { + "id": "bring_up_concerns_before_resentment", + "text": "Bring up concerns before resentment" + }, + { + "id": "allow_ordinary_human_mistakes", + "text": "Allow ordinary human mistakes" + }, + { + "id": "keep_expectations_mutual", + "text": "Keep expectations mutual" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "notice_patterns_instead_of_counting_favors", + "text": "Notice patterns instead of counting favors" + }, + { + "id": "bring_up_concerns_before_resentment", + "text": "Bring up concerns before resentment" + }, + { + "id": "allow_ordinary_human_mistakes", + "text": "Allow ordinary human mistakes" + }, + { + "id": "keep_expectations_mutual", + "text": "Keep expectations mutual" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_026", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of honesty matter most in ordinary life?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "honesty", + "daily_life", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "saying_what_actually_happened", + "text": "Saying what actually happened" + }, + { + "id": "admitting_when_plans_changed", + "text": "Admitting when plans changed" + }, + { + "id": "being_clear_about_money_decisions", + "text": "Being clear about money decisions" + }, + { + "id": "naming_what_you_do_not_know", + "text": "Naming what you do not know" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "saying_what_actually_happened", + "text": "Saying what actually happened" + }, + { + "id": "admitting_when_plans_changed", + "text": "Admitting when plans changed" + }, + { + "id": "being_clear_about_money_decisions", + "text": "Being clear about money decisions" + }, + { + "id": "naming_what_you_do_not_know", + "text": "Naming what you do not know" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_027", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes a difficult truth easier to hear?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "honesty", + "tone", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_calm_tone", + "text": "A calm tone" + }, + { + "id": "enough_context", + "text": "Enough context" + }, + { + "id": "good_timing", + "text": "Good timing" + }, + { + "id": "no_attempt_to_control_my_reaction", + "text": "No attempt to control my reaction" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_calm_tone", + "text": "A calm tone" + }, + { + "id": "enough_context", + "text": "Enough context" + }, + { + "id": "good_timing", + "text": "Good timing" + }, + { + "id": "no_attempt_to_control_my_reaction", + "text": "No attempt to control my reaction" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_028", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps openness feel voluntary instead of demanded?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "openness", + "autonomy", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_asked_rather_than_interrogated", + "text": "Being asked rather than interrogated" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_privacy_is_still_respected", + "text": "Knowing privacy is still respected" + }, + { + "id": "having_time_to_answer", + "text": "Having time to answer" + }, + { + "id": "no_punishment_for_needing_a_pause", + "text": "No punishment for needing a pause" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_asked_rather_than_interrogated", + "text": "Being asked rather than interrogated" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_privacy_is_still_respected", + "text": "Knowing privacy is still respected" + }, + { + "id": "having_time_to_answer", + "text": "Having time to answer" + }, + { + "id": "no_punishment_for_needing_a_pause", + "text": "No punishment for needing a pause" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_029", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How comfortable are you telling me something I may not like?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "current_state", + "honesty", + "trust" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not comfortable yet", + "max_label": "Very comfortable" + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_030", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which details are useful when explaining a change of plans?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "context", + "communication", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_changed", + "text": "What changed" + }, + { + "id": "why_it_matters", + "text": "Why it matters" + }, + { + "id": "what_you_already_handled", + "text": "What you already handled" + }, + { + "id": "what_still_needs_a_decision", + "text": "What still needs a decision" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_changed", + "text": "What changed" + }, + { + "id": "why_it_matters", + "text": "Why it matters" + }, + { + "id": "what_you_already_handled", + "text": "What you already handled" + }, + { + "id": "what_still_needs_a_decision", + "text": "What still needs a decision" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_031", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes an answer feel clear without becoming a full investigation?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "clarity", + "privacy", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_addresses_the_real_question", + "text": "It addresses the real question" + }, + { + "id": "it_includes_relevant_context", + "text": "It includes relevant context" + }, + { + "id": "it_does_not_dodge_obvious_facts", + "text": "It does not dodge obvious facts" + }, + { + "id": "it_stops_before_unnecessary_private_detail", + "text": "It stops before unnecessary private detail" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_addresses_the_real_question", + "text": "It addresses the real question" + }, + { + "id": "it_includes_relevant_context", + "text": "It includes relevant context" + }, + { + "id": "it_does_not_dodge_obvious_facts", + "text": "It does not dodge obvious facts" + }, + { + "id": "it_stops_before_unnecessary_private_detail", + "text": "It stops before unnecessary private detail" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_032", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Tell me early or tell me once you know for sure?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "timing", + "quick_choice", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "tell_me_early", + "text": "Tell me early" + }, + { + "id": "tell_me_once_you_know_for_sure", + "text": "Tell me once you know for sure" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "tell_me_early", + "text": "Tell me early" + }, + { + "id": "tell_me_once_you_know_for_sure", + "text": "Tell me once you know for sure" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_033", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we ask follow-up questions without sounding suspicious?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "questions", + "communication", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "explain_what_is_confusing", + "text": "Explain what is confusing" + }, + { + "id": "ask_one_thing_at_a_time", + "text": "Ask one thing at a time" + }, + { + "id": "keep_the_tone_neutral", + "text": "Keep the tone neutral" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_some_details_may_be_private", + "text": "Accept that some details may be private" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "explain_what_is_confusing", + "text": "Explain what is confusing" + }, + { + "id": "ask_one_thing_at_a_time", + "text": "Ask one thing at a time" + }, + { + "id": "keep_the_tone_neutral", + "text": "Keep the tone neutral" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_some_details_may_be_private", + "text": "Accept that some details may be private" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_034", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which answer sounds most trustworthy when you are unsure?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "uncertainty", + "honesty", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_do_not_know_yet", + "text": "I do not know yet" + }, + { + "id": "here_is_what_i_know", + "text": "Here is what I know" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_to_check", + "text": "I need to check" + }, + { + "id": "i_may_be_remembering_this_wrong", + "text": "I may be remembering this wrong" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_do_not_know_yet", + "text": "I do not know yet" + }, + { + "id": "here_is_what_i_know", + "text": "Here is what I know" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_to_check", + "text": "I need to check" + }, + { + "id": "i_may_be_remembering_this_wrong", + "text": "I may be remembering this wrong" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_035", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should honesty include when a decision affects both of us?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "shared_decisions", + "honesty", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_relevant_facts", + "text": "The relevant facts" + }, + { + "id": "the_likely_tradeoffs", + "text": "The likely tradeoffs" + }, + { + "id": "what_has_already_been_decided", + "text": "What has already been decided" + }, + { + "id": "what_still_needs_both_voices", + "text": "What still needs both voices" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_relevant_facts", + "text": "The relevant facts" + }, + { + "id": "the_likely_tradeoffs", + "text": "The likely tradeoffs" + }, + { + "id": "what_has_already_been_decided", + "text": "What has already been decided" + }, + { + "id": "what_still_needs_both_voices", + "text": "What still needs both voices" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_036", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "written", + "text": "What kind of honesty from me makes you feel especially respected?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "honesty", "respect", "trust" ], @@ -174,787 +1853,1160 @@ "max_length": 500 } }, - { - "id": "trust_011", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you trust my intentions?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "intentions", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_012", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel calm when we see something differently?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "differences", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_013", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing we do that builds trust quietly?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "habits", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_014", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel like you can count on me?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "dependability", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_015", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way I can show up for you this week?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "weekly", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_016", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel secure when life gets stressful?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_017", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of reassurance makes you feel loved?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "reassurance", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_018", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you trust that I will listen?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "listening", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_019", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you trust that I will tell you the truth kindly?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "truth", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_020", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes privacy feel respected between us?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "privacy", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_021", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes transparency feel warm instead of tense?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "transparency", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_022", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one boundary that protects trust between us?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_023", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one habit that makes us feel more secure?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "habits", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_024", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel safe sharing a worry?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "worry", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_025", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel safe sharing good news?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "joy", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_026", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of check-in feels caring to you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "check_in", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_027", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we can make trust feel more fun and natural?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "fun_first", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_028", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one trust-building thing we could turn into a ritual?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "rituals", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_029", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you proud of the trust we already have?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "gratitude", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_030", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing I do that helps you relax around me?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "relaxation", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_031", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you believe we can handle hard things together?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_032", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel like home to me?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "home", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_033", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes me feel like home to you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "home", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_034", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you trust me with your softer feelings?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "vulnerability", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_035", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you trust me with your hopes?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "hopes", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_036", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel safe handing me one of your worries?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "fears", - "trust", - "closer_style", - "warm", - "fun_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, { "id": "trust_037", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we can protect trust during busy seasons?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which habits can make normal questions feel unsafe?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", 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"We say what we need" + }, + { + "id": "the_relationship_still_feels_warm", + "text": "The relationship still feels warm" + }, + { + "id": "plans_are_not_hidden", + "text": "Plans are not hidden" + }, + { + "id": "we_reconnect_naturally_afterward", + "text": "We reconnect naturally afterward" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "we_say_what_we_need", + "text": "We say what we need" + }, + { + "id": "the_relationship_still_feels_warm", + "text": "The relationship still feels warm" + }, + { + "id": "plans_are_not_hidden", + "text": "Plans are not hidden" + }, + { + "id": "we_reconnect_naturally_afterward", + "text": "We reconnect naturally afterward" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_053", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How well do we respect each other's privacy?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "current_state", + "privacy", + "trust" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not well enough", + "max_label": "Very well" + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_054", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What belongs in healthy personal privacy?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "privacy", + "autonomy", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "private_thoughts_before_sharing", + "text": "Private thoughts before sharing" + }, + { + "id": "conversations_entrusted_by_friends", + "text": "Conversations entrusted by friends" + }, + { + "id": "personal_journals", + "text": "Personal journals" + }, + { + "id": "ordinary_time_alone", + "text": "Ordinary time alone" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "private_thoughts_before_sharing", + "text": "Private thoughts before sharing" + }, + { + "id": "conversations_entrusted_by_friends", + "text": "Conversations entrusted by friends" + }, + { + "id": "personal_journals", + "text": "Personal journals" + }, + { + "id": "ordinary_time_alone", + "text": "Ordinary time alone" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_055", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Ask for reassurance or take time to settle first?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "reassurance", + "quick_choice", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_for_reassurance", + "text": "Ask for reassurance" + }, + { + "id": "take_time_to_settle_first", + "text": "Take time to settle first" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_for_reassurance", + "text": "Ask for reassurance" + }, + { + "id": "take_time_to_settle_first", + "text": "Take time to settle first" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_056", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs show that alone time is not a threat?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "alone_time", + "security", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "plans_are_communicated", + "text": "Plans are communicated" + }, + { + "id": "affection_remains_steady", + "text": "Affection remains steady" + }, + { + "id": "the_time_is_not_used_as_punishment", + "text": "The time is not used as punishment" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_may_ask_for_it", + "text": "Both people may ask for it" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "plans_are_communicated", + "text": "Plans are communicated" + }, + { + "id": "affection_remains_steady", + "text": "Affection remains steady" + }, + { + "id": "the_time_is_not_used_as_punishment", + "text": "The time is not used as punishment" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_may_ask_for_it", + "text": "Both people may ask for it" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_057", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps friendships outside the relationship feel trustworthy?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "friendships", + "independence", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "partners_are_spoken_about_respectfully", + "text": "Partners are spoken about respectfully" + }, + { + "id": "relevant_plans_are_shared", + "text": "Relevant plans are shared" + }, + { + "id": "normal_privacy_remains_intact", + "text": "Normal privacy remains intact" + }, + { + "id": "no_friendship_is_used_to_create_jealousy", + "text": "No friendship is used to create jealousy" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "partners_are_spoken_about_respectfully", + "text": "Partners are spoken about respectfully" + }, + { + "id": "relevant_plans_are_shared", + "text": "Relevant plans are shared" + }, + { + "id": "normal_privacy_remains_intact", + "text": "Normal privacy remains intact" + }, + { + "id": "no_friendship_is_used_to_create_jealousy", + "text": "No friendship is used to create jealousy" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_058", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which sentence best supports independence without sounding detached?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "independence", + "language", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "have_a_good_time", + "text": "Have a good time" + }, + { + "id": "i_trust_your_judgment", + "text": "I trust your judgment" + }, + { + "id": "tell_me_what_affects_our_plans", + "text": "Tell me what affects our plans" + }, + { + "id": "we_can_reconnect_later", + "text": "We can reconnect later" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "have_a_good_time", + "text": "Have a good time" + }, + { + "id": "i_trust_your_judgment", + "text": "I trust your judgment" + }, + { + "id": "tell_me_what_affects_our_plans", + "text": "Tell me what affects our plans" + }, + { + "id": "we_can_reconnect_later", + "text": "We can reconnect later" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_059", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can turn requests for transparency into control?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "control", + "warning_signs", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "demanding_constant_proof", + "text": "Demanding constant proof" + }, + { + "id": "treating_privacy_as_guilt", + "text": "Treating privacy as guilt" + }, + { + "id": "requiring_access_to_every_conversation", + "text": "Requiring access to every conversation" + }, + { + "id": "punishing_time_spent_with_others", + "text": "Punishing time spent with others" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "demanding_constant_proof", + "text": "Demanding constant proof" + }, + { + "id": "treating_privacy_as_guilt", + "text": "Treating privacy as guilt" + }, + { + "id": "requiring_access_to_every_conversation", + "text": "Requiring access to every conversation" + }, + { + "id": "punishing_time_spent_with_others", + "text": "Punishing time spent with others" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "trust_060", + "category_id": "trust", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can location sharing stay optional and respectful?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "location", + "privacy", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "use_it_for_practical_convenience", + "text": "Use it for practical convenience" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_turn_it_off", + "text": "Either person can turn it off" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_use_it_to_test_honesty", + "text": "Do not use it to test honesty" + }, + { + "id": "ask_directly_instead_of_silently_checking", + "text": "Ask directly instead of silently checking" + } + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "use_it_for_practical_convenience", + "text": "Use it for practical convenience" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_turn_it_off", + "text": "Either person can turn it off" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_use_it_to_test_honesty", + "text": "Do not use it to test honesty" + }, + { + "id": "ask_directly_instead_of_silently_checking", + "text": "Ask directly instead of silently checking" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_061", "category_id": "trust", "type": "written", - "text": "How could we make privacy feel more like teamwork?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What kind of independence makes you trust our relationship more?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "teamwork", + "independence", + "reflection", "trust" ], "answer_config": { @@ -964,461 +3016,1347 @@ { "id": "trust_062", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What small action would strengthen privacy this week?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which personal boundary is easiest to forget in the age of shared devices?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "weekly", + "digital_privacy", + "humor", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_private_search_history", + "text": "A private search history" + }, + { + "id": "a_message_preview", + "text": "A message preview" + }, + { + "id": "a_personal_note", + "text": "A personal note" + }, + { + "id": "the_sacred_right_to_close_seventeen_tabs_without_explanation", + "text": "The sacred right to close seventeen tabs without explanation" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_private_search_history", + "text": "A private search history" + }, + { + "id": "a_message_preview", + "text": "A message preview" + }, + { + "id": "a_personal_note", + "text": "A personal note" + }, + { + "id": "the_sacred_right_to_close_seventeen_tabs_without_explanation", + "text": "The sacred right to close seventeen tabs without explanation" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_063", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect privacy in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should happen when curiosity about a private conversation appears?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy", - "boundaries", + "curiosity", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_only_what_affects_the_relationship", + "text": "Ask only what affects the relationship" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_another_person_s_confidence_is_involved", + "text": "Accept that another person's confidence is involved" + }, + { + "id": "notice_whether_anxiety_is_driving_the_question", + "text": "Notice whether anxiety is driving the question" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_search_for_the_answer_secretly", + "text": "Do not search for the answer secretly" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_only_what_affects_the_relationship", + "text": "Ask only what affects the relationship" + }, + { + "id": "accept_that_another_person_s_confidence_is_involved", + "text": "Accept that another person's confidence is involved" + }, + { + "id": "notice_whether_anxiety_is_driving_the_question", + "text": "Notice whether anxiety is driving the question" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_search_for_the_answer_secretly", + "text": "Do not search for the answer secretly" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_064", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you wish I understood about privacy?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which shared-device habits protect trust?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "understanding", + "digital_privacy", + "devices", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_before_opening_personal_apps", + "text": "Ask before opening personal apps" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_read_notifications_on_purpose", + "text": "Do not read notifications on purpose" + }, + { + "id": "use_separate_profiles_when_practical", + "text": "Use separate profiles when practical" + }, + { + "id": "close_private_work_or_health_information", + "text": "Close private work or health information" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_before_opening_personal_apps", + "text": "Ask before opening personal apps" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_read_notifications_on_purpose", + "text": "Do not read notifications on purpose" + }, + { + "id": "use_separate_profiles_when_practical", + "text": "Use separate profiles when practical" + }, + { + "id": "close_private_work_or_health_information", + "text": "Close private work or health information" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_065", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes privacy feel warm instead of tense?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How secure do you feel when I spend time independently?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "warmth", + "current_state", + "independence", "trust" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Often uneasy", + "max_label": "Very secure" } }, { "id": "trust_066", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us handle privacy with more care?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a private thought different from a harmful secret?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy", - "care", + "honesty", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_does_not_affect_shared_decisions", + "text": "It does not affect shared decisions" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_not_hiding_harm", + "text": "It is not hiding harm" + }, + { + "id": "it_may_simply_need_time", + "text": "It may simply need time" + }, + { + "id": "it_does_not_require_a_false_story", + "text": "It does not require a false story" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_does_not_affect_shared_decisions", + "text": "It does not affect shared decisions" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_not_hiding_harm", + "text": "It is not hiding harm" + }, + { + "id": "it_may_simply_need_time", + "text": "It may simply need time" + }, + { + "id": "it_does_not_require_a_false_story", + "text": "It does not require a false story" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_067", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes healthy transparency feel safe and easy between us?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Share every detail or share what affects us?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "safety", + "privacy", + "quick_choice", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "share_every_detail", + "text": "Share every detail" + }, + { + "id": "share_what_affects_us", + "text": "Share what affects us" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "share_every_detail", + "text": "Share every detail" + }, + { + "id": "share_what_affects_us", + "text": "Share what affects us" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_068", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "How could we make healthy transparency feel more like teamwork?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which behaviors can make a partner feel watched?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "teamwork", + "monitoring", + "warning_signs", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "repeated_location_checks", + "text": "Repeated location checks" + }, + { + "id": "reading_over_their_shoulder", + "text": "Reading over their shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "tracking_response_times", + "text": "Tracking response times" + }, + { + "id": "questioning_every_change_in_routine", + "text": "Questioning every change in routine" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "repeated_location_checks", + "text": "Repeated location checks" + }, + { + "id": "reading_over_their_shoulder", + "text": "Reading over their shoulder" + }, + { + "id": "tracking_response_times", + "text": "Tracking response times" + }, + { + "id": "questioning_every_change_in_routine", + "text": "Questioning every change in routine" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_069", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What small action would strengthen healthy transparency this week?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the healthiest response to a harmless private interest?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "weekly", + "privacy", + "respect", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "let_it_be_theirs", + "text": "Let it be theirs" + }, + { + "id": "ask_with_genuine_curiosity", + "text": "Ask with genuine curiosity" + }, + { + "id": "join_only_if_invited", + "text": "Join only if invited" + }, + { + "id": "any_of_these_without_making_it_a_loyalty_test", + "text": "Any of these without making it a loyalty test" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "let_it_be_theirs", + "text": "Let it be theirs" + }, + { + "id": "ask_with_genuine_curiosity", + "text": "Ask with genuine curiosity" + }, + { + "id": "join_only_if_invited", + "text": "Join only if invited" + }, + { + "id": "any_of_these_without_making_it_a_loyalty_test", + "text": "Any of these without making it a loyalty test" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_070", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect healthy transparency in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps separate reasonable curiosity from suspicion?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "boundaries", + "curiosity", + "self_awareness", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_what_fact_is_actually_needed", + "text": "Ask what fact is actually needed" + }, + { + "id": "notice_whether_the_answer_would_change_anything", + "text": "Notice whether the answer would change anything" + }, + { + "id": "consider_a_neutral_explanation", + "text": "Consider a neutral explanation" + }, + { + "id": "wait_until_the_nervous_system_settles", + "text": "Wait until the nervous system settles" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_what_fact_is_actually_needed", + "text": "Ask what fact is actually needed" + }, + { + "id": "notice_whether_the_answer_would_change_anything", + "text": "Notice whether the answer would change anything" + }, + { + "id": "consider_a_neutral_explanation", + "text": "Consider a neutral explanation" + }, + { + "id": "wait_until_the_nervous_system_settles", + "text": "Wait until the nervous system settles" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_071", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you wish I understood about healthy transparency?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we discuss digital privacy before a problem appears?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "understanding", + "digital_privacy", + "agreements", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "decide_what_devices_are_shared", + "text": "Decide what devices are shared" + }, + { + "id": "agree_how_notifications_are_handled", + "text": "Agree how notifications are handled" + }, + { + "id": "protect_work_and_third_party_information", + "text": "Protect work and third-party information" + }, + { + "id": "make_access_optional_rather_than_symbolic", + "text": "Make access optional rather than symbolic" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "decide_what_devices_are_shared", + "text": "Decide what devices are shared" + }, + { + "id": "agree_how_notifications_are_handled", + "text": "Agree how notifications are handled" + }, + { + "id": "protect_work_and_third_party_information", + "text": "Protect work and third-party information" + }, + { + "id": "make_access_optional_rather_than_symbolic", + "text": "Make access optional rather than symbolic" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_072", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes healthy transparency feel warm instead of tense?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should never be controlled in the name of trust?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "warmth", + "control", + "safety", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "who_a_partner_may_speak_to", + "text": "Who a partner may speak to" + }, + { + "id": "whether_they_can_leave_the_house", + "text": "Whether they can leave the house" + }, + { + "id": "access_to_their_own_money", + "text": "Access to their own money" + }, + { + "id": "their_ability_to_seek_outside_support", + "text": "Their ability to seek outside support" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "who_a_partner_may_speak_to", + "text": "Who a partner may speak to" + }, + { + "id": "whether_they_can_leave_the_house", + "text": "Whether they can leave the house" + }, + { + "id": "access_to_their_own_money", + "text": "Access to their own money" + }, + { + "id": "their_ability_to_seek_outside_support", + "text": "Their ability to seek outside support" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_073", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us handle healthy transparency with more care?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which agreement makes shared calendars useful without turning them into surveillance?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "transparency", - "care", + "calendars", + "privacy", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "share_events_affecting_both_people", + "text": "Share events affecting both people" + }, + { + "id": "include_expected_return_times_only_when_useful", + "text": "Include expected return times only when useful" + }, + { + "id": "allow_private_personal_blocks", + "text": "Allow private personal blocks" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_treat_missing_details_as_evidence", + "text": "Do not treat missing details as evidence" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "share_events_affecting_both_people", + "text": "Share events affecting both people" + }, + { + "id": "include_expected_return_times_only_when_useful", + "text": "Include expected return times only when useful" + }, + { + "id": "allow_private_personal_blocks", + "text": "Allow private personal blocks" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_treat_missing_details_as_evidence", + "text": "Do not treat missing details as evidence" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_074", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes emotional safety feel safe and easy between us?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What protects trust when one person needs outside advice?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "emotional_safety", - "safety", + "outside_support", + "independence", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "they_can_choose_a_trusted_person", + "text": "They can choose a trusted person" + }, + { + "id": "private_support_not_treated_as_wrongdoing", + "text": "Seeking 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[ + { + "id": "checking_facts_before_reacting", + "text": "Checking facts before reacting" + }, + { + "id": "considering_the_effect_on_both_people", + "text": "Considering the effect on both people" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_when_to_ask", + "text": "Knowing when to ask" + }, + { + "id": "avoiding_promises_made_under_pressure", + "text": "Avoiding promises made under pressure" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_077", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect emotional safety in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes you trust me with a shared decision?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "emotional_safety", - "boundaries", + "shared_decisions", + "judgment", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_include_you_early", + "text": "I include you early" + }, + { + "id": "i_explain_the_tradeoffs", + "text": "I explain the tradeoffs" + }, + { + "id": 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"max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not enough yet", + "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "trust_079", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes emotional safety feel warm instead of tense?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should happen before one person makes a decision affecting both?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "emotional_safety", - "warmth", + "shared_decisions", + "fairness", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "share_the_relevant_facts", + "text": "Share the relevant facts" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_matters_to_the_other_person", + "text": "Ask what matters to the other person" + }, + { + "id": "name_any_deadline", + "text": "Name any deadline" + }, + { + "id": "leave_room_for_disagreement", + "text": "Leave room for disagreement" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "share_the_relevant_facts", + "text": "Share the relevant facts" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_matters_to_the_other_person", + "text": "Ask what matters to the other person" + }, + { + "id": "name_any_deadline", + "text": "Name any deadline" + }, + { + "id": "leave_room_for_disagreement", + "text": "Leave room for disagreement" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_080", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us handle emotional safety with more care?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which patterns can make shared decisions feel unsafe?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "emotional_safety", - "care", + "shared_decisions", + "warning_signs", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "important_facts_arrive_late", + "text": "Important facts arrive late" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_presents_a_finished_decision", + "text": "One person presents a finished decision" + }, + { + "id": "urgency_is_exaggerated", + "text": "Urgency is exaggerated" + }, + { + "id": "disagreement_is_treated_as_disloyalty", + "text": "Disagreement is treated as disloyalty" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "important_facts_arrive_late", + "text": "Important facts arrive late" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_presents_a_finished_decision", + "text": "One person presents a finished decision" + }, + { + "id": "urgency_is_exaggerated", + "text": "Urgency is exaggerated" + }, + { + "id": "disagreement_is_treated_as_disloyalty", + "text": "Disagreement is treated as disloyalty" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_081", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes being dependable feel safe and easy between us?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "A careful plan or a clear backup plan?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "safety", + "planning", + "quick_choice", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_careful_plan", + "text": "A careful plan" + }, + { + "id": "a_clear_backup_plan", + "text": "A clear backup plan" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_careful_plan", + "text": "A careful plan" + }, + { + "id": "a_clear_backup_plan", + "text": "A clear backup plan" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_082", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "How could we make being dependable feel more like teamwork?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What is the best response after making a poor call?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "teamwork", + "mistakes", + "accountability", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "own_it_plainly", + "text": "Own it plainly" + }, + { + "id": "fix_what_can_be_fixed", + "text": "Fix what can be fixed" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_effect_it_had", + "text": "Ask what effect it had" + }, + { + "id": "change_the_decision_process", + "text": "Change the decision process" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "own_it_plainly", + "text": "Own it plainly" + }, + { + "id": "fix_what_can_be_fixed", + "text": "Fix what can be fixed" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_effect_it_had", + "text": "Ask what effect it had" + }, + { + "id": "change_the_decision_process", + "text": "Change the decision process" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_083", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What small action would strengthen being dependable this week?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which habits make ordinary promises easier to keep?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "weekly", + "promises", + "systems", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "write_them_down", + "text": "Write them down" + }, + { + "id": "promise_less", + "text": "Promise less" + }, + { + "id": "set_a_realistic_time", + "text": "Set a realistic time" + }, + { + "id": "mention_problems_early", + "text": "Mention problems early" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "write_them_down", + "text": "Write them down" + }, + { + "id": "promise_less", + "text": "Promise less" + }, + { + "id": "set_a_realistic_time", + "text": "Set a realistic time" + }, + { + "id": "mention_problems_early", + "text": "Mention problems early" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_084", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect being dependable in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we disagree with a decision without attacking judgment?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "boundaries", + "disagreement", + "respect", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "name_the_concern", + "text": "Name the concern" + }, + { + "id": "separate_the_choice_from_the_person", + "text": "Separate the choice from the person" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_information_was_used", + "text": "Ask what information was used" + }, + { + "id": "suggest_another_path", + "text": "Suggest another path" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "name_the_concern", + "text": "Name the concern" + }, + { + "id": "separate_the_choice_from_the_person", + "text": "Separate the choice from the person" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_information_was_used", + "text": "Ask what information was used" + }, + { + "id": "suggest_another_path", + "text": "Suggest another path" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_085", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you wish I understood about being dependable?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How safe does it feel to question one of my decisions?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "understanding", + "current_state", + "shared_decisions", "trust" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not safe enough", + "max_label": "Very safe" } }, { "id": "trust_086", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes being dependable feel warm instead of tense?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes advice feel supportive instead of controlling?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "warmth", + "advice", + "autonomy", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_offered_once", + "text": "It is offered once" + }, + { + "id": "the_final_choice_remains_mine", + "text": "The final choice remains mine" + }, + { + "id": "the_risks_are_explained_honestly", + "text": "The risks are explained honestly" + }, + { + "id": "no_punishment_follows_a_different_decision", + "text": "No punishment follows a different decision" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_offered_once", + "text": "It is offered once" + }, + { + "id": "the_final_choice_remains_mine", + "text": "The final choice remains mine" + }, + { + "id": "the_risks_are_explained_honestly", + "text": "The risks are explained honestly" + }, + { + "id": "no_punishment_follows_a_different_decision", + "text": "No punishment follows a different decision" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_087", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us handle being dependable with more care?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which planning phrase should trigger immediate suspicion?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dependability", - "care", + "humor", + "planning", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "this_will_only_take_five_minutes", + "text": "This will only take five minutes" + }, + { + "id": "we_do_not_need_directions", + "text": "We do not need directions" + }, + { + "id": "i_remember_the_measurements", + "text": "I remember the measurements" + }, + { + "id": "there_is_probably_enough_gas", + "text": "There is probably enough gas" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "this_will_only_take_five_minutes", + "text": "This will only take five minutes" + }, + { + "id": "we_do_not_need_directions", + "text": "We do not need directions" + }, + { + "id": "i_remember_the_measurements", + "text": "I remember the measurements" + }, + { + "id": "there_is_probably_enough_gas", + "text": "There is probably enough gas" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_088", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes feeling chosen feel safe and easy between us?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps us trust each other with money decisions?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "safety", + "money", + "shared_decisions", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "agreed_limits", + "text": "Agreed limits" + }, + { + "id": "no_hidden_shared_debt", + "text": "No hidden shared debt" + }, + { + "id": "discussion_before_major_purchases", + "text": "Discussion before major purchases" + }, + { + "id": "freedom_over_agreed_personal_spending", + "text": "Freedom over agreed personal spending" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "agreed_limits", + "text": "Agreed limits" + }, + { + "id": "no_hidden_shared_debt", + "text": "No hidden shared debt" + }, + { + "id": "discussion_before_major_purchases", + "text": "Discussion before major purchases" + }, + { + "id": "freedom_over_agreed_personal_spending", + "text": "Freedom over agreed personal spending" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_089", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "How could we make feeling chosen feel more like teamwork?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which parts of a commitment should be clear from the beginning?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "teamwork", + "commitments", + "clarity", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_was_promised", + "text": "What was promised" + }, + { + "id": "who_is_responsible", + "text": "Who is responsible" + }, + { + "id": "when_it_matters", + "text": "When it matters" + }, + { + "id": "what_to_do_if_circumstances_change", + "text": "What to do if circumstances change" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "what_was_promised", + "text": "What was promised" + }, + { + "id": "who_is_responsible", + "text": "Who is responsible" + }, + { + "id": "when_it_matters", + "text": "When it matters" + }, + { + "id": "what_to_do_if_circumstances_change", + "text": "What to do if circumstances change" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_090", "category_id": "trust", "type": "written", - "text": "What small action would strengthen feeling chosen this week?", + "text": "What is one decision I handled in a way that earned your trust?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "weekly", + "judgment", + "memory", "trust" ], "answer_config": { @@ -1428,336 +4366,979 @@ { "id": "trust_091", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect feeling chosen in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What makes a backup plan reassuring rather than pessimistic?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "boundaries", + "planning", + "security", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_simple", + "text": "It is simple" + }, + { + "id": "it_protects_the_important_part", + "text": "It protects the important part" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_know_it", + "text": "Both people know it" + }, + { + "id": "it_does_not_assume_disaster", + "text": "It does not assume disaster" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_is_simple", + "text": "It is simple" + }, + { + "id": "it_protects_the_important_part", + "text": "It 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} + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_details_are_vague", + "text": "The details are vague" + }, + { + "id": "the_timing_is_unrealistic", + "text": "The timing is unrealistic" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_is_trying_to_end_the_discussion", + "text": "The person is trying to end the discussion" + }, + { + "id": "the_promise_depends_on_too_many_unknowns", + "text": "The promise depends on too many unknowns" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_093", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes feeling chosen feel warm instead of tense?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which choices should never be made for a partner without consent?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "warmth", + "autonomy", + "safety", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "leaving_a_job", + "text": "Leaving a job" + }, + { + "id": "taking_on_shared_debt", + "text": "Taking on shared debt" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_private_information", + "text": "Sharing private information" + }, + { + "id": "committing_their_time_to_someone_else", + "text": "Committing their time to someone else" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "leaving_a_job", + "text": "Leaving a job" + }, + { + "id": "taking_on_shared_debt", + "text": "Taking on shared debt" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_private_information", + "text": "Sharing private information" + }, + { + "id": "committing_their_time_to_someone_else", + "text": "Committing their time to someone else" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_094", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us handle feeling chosen with more care?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How consistently do we include each other in decisions that matter?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "care", + "current_state", + "shared_decisions", "trust" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not consistently", + "max_label": "Very consistently" } }, { "id": "trust_095", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes hard conversations feel safe and easy between us?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps you trust me during a time-sensitive decision?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "communication", - "safety", + "urgency", + "judgment", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_explain_the_deadline", + "text": "I explain the deadline" + }, + { + "id": "i_separate_facts_from_guesses", + "text": "I separate facts from guesses" + }, + { + "id": "i_protect_your_voice_when_possible", + "text": "I protect your voice when possible" + }, + { + "id": "i_update_you_afterward", + "text": "I update you afterward" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_explain_the_deadline", + "text": "I explain the deadline" + }, + { + "id": 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"trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would make hard conversations feel more like us against the problem?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What protects trust when one person's expertise is stronger?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "communication", - "understanding", - "trust", - "closer_style", - "warm", - "fun_first" + "expertise", + "fairness", + "trust" + ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "explain_without_talking_down", + "text": "Explain without talking down" + }, + { + "id": "keep_shared_decisions_shared", + "text": "Keep shared decisions shared" + }, + { + "id": "welcome_questions", + "text": "Welcome questions" + }, + { + "id": "admit_where_expertise_ends", + "text": "Admit where expertise ends" + } ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "explain_without_talking_down", + "text": "Explain without talking down" + }, + { + "id": "keep_shared_decisions_shared", + "text": "Keep shared decisions shared" + }, + { 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"single_choice", + "text": "Which reassurance feels most believable during a stressful delay?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "safety", + "reassurance", + "stress", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_will_update_you_when_i_know_more", + "text": "I will update you when I know more" + }, + { + "id": "your_concern_makes_sense", + "text": "Your concern makes sense" + }, + { + "id": "here_is_what_i_have_already_done", + "text": "Here is what I have already done" + }, + { + "id": "we_do_not_have_to_solve_every_possibility_tonight", + "text": "We do not have to solve every possibility tonight" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_will_update_you_when_i_know_more", + "text": "I will update you when I know more" + }, + { + "id": "your_concern_makes_sense", + "text": "Your concern makes sense" + }, + { + "id": "here_is_what_i_have_already_done", + "text": "Here is what I have already done" + }, + { + "id": "we_do_not_have_to_solve_every_possibility_tonight", + "text": "We do not have to solve every possibility tonight" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_103", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "How could we make time apart feel more like teamwork?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How reassured do you usually feel after asking me a fair question?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "teamwork", + "current_state", + "reassurance", "trust" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Rarely reassured", + "max_label": "Genuinely reassured" } }, { "id": "trust_104", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What small action would strengthen time apart this week?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "How can we handle uncertainty without treating each other like suspects?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "weekly", + "uncertainty", + "security", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "separate_fear_from_evidence", + "text": "Separate fear from evidence" + }, + { + "id": "ask_direct_questions", + "text": "Ask direct questions" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_repeated_proof_requests", + "text": "Avoid repeated proof requests" + }, + { + "id": "revisit_the_issue_when_more_is_known", + "text": "Revisit the issue when more is known" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "separate_fear_from_evidence", + "text": "Separate fear from evidence" + }, + { + "id": "ask_direct_questions", + "text": "Ask direct questions" + }, + { + "id": "avoid_repeated_proof_requests", + "text": "Avoid repeated proof requests" + }, + { + "id": "revisit_the_issue_when_more_is_known", + "text": "Revisit the issue when more is known" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_105", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect time apart in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which reactions can turn anxiety into a trust problem?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "boundaries", + "anxiety", + "warning_signs", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "checking_repeatedly_after_an_answer", + "text": "Checking repeatedly after an answer" + }, + { + "id": "demanding_certainty_that_does_not_exist", + "text": "Demanding certainty that does not exist" + }, + { + "id": "reading_neutral_behavior_as_guilt", + "text": "Reading neutral behavior as guilt" + }, + { + "id": "punishing_the_other_person_for_feeling_calm", + "text": "Punishing the other person for feeling calm" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "checking_repeatedly_after_an_answer", + "text": "Checking repeatedly after an answer" + }, + { + "id": "demanding_certainty_that_does_not_exist", + "text": "Demanding certainty that does not exist" + }, + { + "id": "reading_neutral_behavior_as_guilt", + "text": "Reading neutral behavior as guilt" + }, + { + "id": "punishing_the_other_person_for_feeling_calm", + "text": "Punishing the other person for feeling calm" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_106", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you wish I understood about time apart?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "A reassuring answer or a clear next step?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "understanding", + "reassurance", + "quick_choice", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_reassuring_answer", + "text": "A reassuring answer" + }, + { + "id": "a_clear_next_step", + "text": "A clear next step" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_reassuring_answer", + "text": "A reassuring answer" + }, + { + "id": "a_clear_next_step", + "text": "A clear next step" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_107", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes time apart feel warm instead of tense?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What helps you believe reassurance is not just meant to end the conversation?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "warmth", + "reassurance", + "follow_through", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_concern_is_summarized_accurately", + "text": "The concern is summarized accurately" + }, + { + "id": "a_next_action_is_named", + "text": "A next action is named" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_checks_back_later", + "text": "The person checks back later" + }, + { + "id": "the_tone_remains_patient", + "text": "The tone remains patient" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_concern_is_summarized_accurately", + "text": "The concern is summarized accurately" + }, + { + "id": "a_next_action_is_named", + "text": "A next action is named" + }, + { + "id": "the_person_checks_back_later", + "text": "The person checks back later" + }, + { + "id": "the_tone_remains_patient", + "text": "The tone remains patient" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_108", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us handle time apart with more care?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which ordinary situations may call for reassurance rather than proof?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "time_away", - "care", + "reassurance", + "daily_life", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_delayed_reply", + "text": "A delayed reply" + }, + { + "id": "a_changed_routine", + "text": "A changed routine" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_mood", + "text": "A quiet mood" + }, + { + "id": "an_uncertain_work_situation", + "text": "An uncertain work situation" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_delayed_reply", + "text": "A delayed reply" + }, + { + "id": "a_changed_routine", + "text": "A changed routine" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_mood", + "text": "A quiet mood" + }, + { + "id": "an_uncertain_work_situation", + "text": "An uncertain work situation" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_109", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes friendships feel safe and easy between us?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make reassurance become an unhealthy cycle?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "friendships", - "safety", + "reassurance", + "patterns", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_same_answer_never_counts", + "text": "The same answer never counts" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_must_constantly_calm_the_other", + "text": "One person must constantly calm the other" + }, + { + "id": "personal_privacy_keeps_shrinking", + "text": "Personal privacy keeps shrinking" + }, + { + "id": "anxiety_is_treated_as_evidence", + "text": "Anxiety is treated as evidence" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_same_answer_never_counts", + "text": "The same answer never counts" + }, + { + "id": "one_person_must_constantly_calm_the_other", + "text": "One person must constantly calm the other" + }, + { + "id": "personal_privacy_keeps_shrinking", + "text": "Personal privacy keeps shrinking" + }, + { + "id": "anxiety_is_treated_as_evidence", + "text": "Anxiety is treated as evidence" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_110", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "How could we make friendships feel more like teamwork?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps us stay trustworthy when other people are involved?", + "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "friendships", - "teamwork", + "social_trust", + "relationships", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "keep_shared_confidences_private", + "text": "Keep shared confidences private" + }, + { + "id": "correct_disrespectful_assumptions", + "text": "Correct disrespectful assumptions" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_recruit_people_into_couple_disagreements", + "text": "Do not recruit people into couple disagreements" + }, + { + "id": "share_plans_that_affect_each_other", + "text": "Share plans that affect each other" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "keep_shared_confidences_private", + "text": "Keep shared confidences private" + }, + { + "id": "correct_disrespectful_assumptions", + "text": "Correct disrespectful assumptions" + }, + { + "id": "do_not_recruit_people_into_couple_disagreements", + "text": "Do not recruit people into couple disagreements" + }, + { + "id": "share_plans_that_affect_each_other", + "text": "Share plans that affect each other" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_111", "category_id": "trust", "type": "written", - "text": "What small action would strengthen friendships this week?", + "text": "When do you feel most confident that I will protect our relationship in a room I am not in?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "friendships", - "weekly", + "social_trust", + "respect", "trust" ], "answer_config": { @@ -1767,3536 +5348,1862 @@ { "id": "trust_112", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What boundary helps protect friendships in a healthy way?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which public behavior builds the most quiet trust?", + "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "friendships", - "boundaries", + "social_trust", + "public_behavior", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "speaking_respectfully_about_you", + "text": "Speaking respectfully about you" + }, + { + "id": "including_you_in_relevant_decisions", + "text": "Including you in relevant decisions" + }, + { + "id": "not_sharing_private_jokes_at_your_expense", + "text": "Not sharing private jokes at your expense" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_the_same_values_with_every_audience", + "text": "Keeping the same values with every audience" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "speaking_respectfully_about_you", + "text": "Speaking respectfully about you" + }, + { + "id": "including_you_in_relevant_decisions", + "text": "Including you in relevant decisions" + }, + { + "id": "not_sharing_private_jokes_at_your_expense", + "text": "Not sharing private jokes at your expense" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_the_same_values_with_every_audience", + "text": "Keeping the same values with every audience" + } + ] } }, { "id": "trust_113", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you wish I understood about friendships?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which social behaviors can make a partner feel exposed?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "friendships", - "understanding", + "social_trust", + "privacy", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "sharing_private_details_for_a_laugh", + "text": "Sharing private details for a laugh" + }, + { + "id": "discussing_disagreements_without_care", + "text": "Discussing disagreements without care" + }, + { + "id": "letting_others_insult_the_relationship", + "text": "Letting others insult the relationship" + }, + { + "id": "posting_before_checking_what_is_private", + "text": "Posting before checking what is private" + } + ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "sharing_private_details_for_a_laugh", + "text": "Sharing private details for a laugh" + }, + { + "id": "discussing_disagreements_without_care", + "text": "Discussing disagreements without care" + }, + { + "id": "letting_others_insult_the_relationship", + "text": "Letting others insult the relationship" + }, + { + "id": "posting_before_checking_what_is_private", + "text": "Posting before checking what is private" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "trust_114", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes friendships feel warm 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"min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_235", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How strong could trust feel next month?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "monthly", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not strong", - "max_label": "Very strong" - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_236", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Tiny promise or sweet surprise?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which future habits would protect everyday trust?", "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fun_first", + "future", + "habits", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "review_shared_plans", + "text": "Review shared plans" + }, + { + "id": "keep_privacy_agreements_current", + "text": "Keep privacy agreements current" + }, + { + "id": "discuss_major_changes_early", + "text": "Discuss major changes early" + }, + { + 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"text": "Concerns can be named" }, { - "id": "big_promise", - "text": "Big promise" + "id": "neither_person_must_pretend_certainty", + "text": "Neither person must pretend certainty" + }, + { + "id": "new_agreements_can_be_tested", + "text": "New agreements can be tested" + }, + { + "id": "progress_matters_more_than_performance", + "text": "Progress matters more than performance" } ] } }, { - "id": "trust_246", + "id": "trust_149", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Words of trust or actions of trust?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What should remain possible even in a deeply trusting relationship?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ + "autonomy", + "safety", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "changing_your_mind", + "text": "Changing your mind" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_personal_privacy", + "text": "Keeping personal privacy" + }, + { + "id": "disagreeing_about_a_decision", + "text": "Disagreeing about a decision" + }, + { + "id": "leaving_any_situation_that_feels_unsafe", + "text": "Leaving any situation that feels unsafe" + } + ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "words", - "text": "Words of trust" + "id": "changing_your_mind", + "text": "Changing your mind" }, { - "id": "actions", - "text": "Actions of trust" + "id": "keeping_personal_privacy", + "text": "Keeping personal privacy" + }, + { + "id": "disagreeing_about_a_decision", + "text": "Disagreeing about a decision" + }, + { + "id": "leaving_any_situation_that_feels_unsafe", + "text": "Leaving any situation that feels unsafe" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { - "id": "trust_247", + "id": "trust_150", "category_id": "trust", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Soft truth or direct truth?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "truth", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "soft_truth", - "text": "Soft truth" - }, - { - "id": "direct_truth", - "text": "Direct truth" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_248", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Ask for reassurance or offer it first?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What would make everyday trust feel healthy years from now?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "reassurance", + "long_term", + "vision", "trust" ], + "options": [ + { + "id": "we_still_speak_plainly", + "text": "We still speak plainly" + }, + { + "id": "independence_remains_welcome", + "text": "Independence remains welcome" + }, + { + "id": "promises_stay_realistic", + "text": "Promises stay realistic" + }, + { + "id": "neither_person_has_to_shrink_to_keep_the_peace", + "text": "Neither person has to shrink to keep the peace" + } + ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "ask_for_it", - "text": "Ask for reassurance" + "id": "we_still_speak_plainly", + "text": "We still speak plainly" }, { - "id": "offer_it", - "text": "Offer it first" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_249", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Stay close or give space?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "space", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "stay_close", - "text": "Stay close" + "id": "independence_remains_welcome", + "text": "Independence remains welcome" }, { - "id": "give_space", - "text": "Give space" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "trust_250", - "category_id": "trust", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Celebrate trust or build more?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "progress", - "trust" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "celebrate", - "text": "Celebrate trust" + "id": "promises_stay_realistic", + "text": "Promises stay realistic" }, { - "id": "build_more", - "text": "Build more" + "id": "neither_person_has_to_shrink_to_keep_the_peace", + "text": "Neither person has to shrink to keep the peace" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } } ]