diff --git a/seed/questions/sex_and_desire.json b/seed/questions/sex_and_desire.json index 1767d367..c29663b4 100644 --- a/seed/questions/sex_and_desire.json +++ b/seed/questions/sex_and_desire.json @@ -2,7 +2,7 @@ "category": { "id": "sex_and_desire", "display_name": "Sex & Desire", - "description": "Fun, warm, consent-first questions that help couples talk about desire, flirting, initiation, pressure, mismatched moods, and keeping intimacy playful.", + "description": "Warm, playful, consent-first questions about attraction, flirting, initiation, desire rhythms, mismatched moods, confidence, privacy, and keeping long-term chemistry alive.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "favorite", "schema_version": "question_v2", @@ -16,7 +16,21 @@ "multi_choice": 24, "scale": 29, "this_or_that": 23 - } + }, + "depth_counts": { + "1": 34, + "2": 104, + "3": 137, + "4": 46, + "5": 23 + }, + "light_depth_questions": 138, + "light_depth_percentage": 40.1, + "content_version": "sex_and_desire_guide_reviewed_v2", + "batch_size": 25, + "review_policy": "13 batches of 25 plus a final batch of 19, with 50-question checkpoints and 100-question context refreshes.", + "mass_rewrite_exception": "Approved replacement because repeated stems, spark/flirt/kiss variants, and overlap with related intimacy packs affected more than 60% of the source experience.", + "related_pack_boundary": "Focuses on desire dynamics and couple communication; specific sexual preferences and activities belong in sexual_preferences." } }, "questions": [ @@ -24,13 +38,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_001", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel wanted before anything physical happens?", + "text": "What makes you feel deliberately chosen, not merely available?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "wanted", - "anticipation", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -39,30 +54,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_002", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of flirting makes you smile even on a busy day?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "When your confidence is low, what helps most?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "fun", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "patient_affection_without_attention_on_my_body", + "text": "Patient affection without attention on my body" + }, + { + "id": "a_sincere_reminder_of_what_you_adore", + "text": "A sincere reminder of what you adore" + }, + { + "id": "privacy_and_time_to_settle_in", + "text": "Privacy and time to settle in" + }, + { + "id": "being_allowed_to_lead_the_pace", + "text": "Being allowed to lead the pace" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_003", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you switch from everyday stress into a more playful mood?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "Which flirting style fits naturally into a busy day?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "stress", - "transition", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -71,30 +104,34 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_004", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a kiss feel like it might turn into something more?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it to say you are not in the mood?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "kissing", - "anticipation", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very difficult", + "max_label": "Completely comfortable" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_005", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one small way I can make you feel desired this week?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What makes an invitation to be close feel easy to answer honestly?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "desired", - "small_actions", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -104,13 +141,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_006", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "When do you feel most attractive around me?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What helps your mind leave the day behind before closeness?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "confidence", - "attraction", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -119,30 +156,55 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_007", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of attention makes you feel like I really see you?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which things help you feel wanted before anything physical begins?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "attention", - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "focused_attention_that_is_not_rushed", + "text": "Focused attention that is not rushed" + }, + { + "id": "a_specific_compliment_meant_privately", + "text": "A specific compliment meant privately" + }, + { + "id": "playful_interest_during_the_day", + "text": "Playful interest during the day" + }, + { + "id": "help_clearing_mental_distractions", + "text": "Help clearing mental distractions" + }, + { + "id": "affection_with_no_automatic_next_step", + "text": "Affection with no automatic next step" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_008", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel easy instead of complicated?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "Which form of anticipation feels exciting without becoming pressure?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "desire", - "ease", - "sex_and_desire" + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -151,30 +213,40 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_009", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a flirty thing you wish we did more often?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which makes being wanted feel more believable?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "play", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "consistent_everyday_attention", + "text": "Consistent everyday attention" + }, + { + "id": "a_bold_unmistakable_moment", + "text": "A bold unmistakable moment" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_010", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel comfortable saying you are in the mood?", + "text": "What do you wish I understood about the way desire arrives for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "communication", - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -183,30 +255,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_011", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel comfortable saying you are not in the mood?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which conversation style feels least awkward?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "consent", - "no", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "talking_while_taking_a_walk", + "text": "Talking while taking a walk" + }, + { + "id": "answering_one_clear_question_at_a_time", + "text": "Answering one clear question at a time" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_thoughts_by_message_first", + "text": "Sharing thoughts by message first" + }, + { + "id": "using_humor_before_getting_sincere", + "text": "Using humor before getting sincere" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_012", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of compliment makes you feel most wanted?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "When only one of us is interested, what helps us still feel like a team?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "compliments", - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -216,13 +306,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_013", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we could make ordinary nights feel a little sexier?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What makes it easiest for you to say yes, no, or not yet?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fun", - "date_night", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -231,30 +322,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_014", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What does being pursued in a good way feel like to you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "After 'not tonight' is fully accepted, which response feels most caring?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "pursuit", "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "warm_affection_that_clearly_stays_pressure_free", + "text": "Warm affection that clearly stays pressure-free" + }, + { + "id": "kind_space_now_and_normal_warmth_tomorrow", + "text": "Kind space now and normal warmth tomorrow" + }, + { + "id": "a_gentle_offer_of_another_shared_activity", + "text": "A gentle offer of another shared activity" + }, + { + "id": "a_simple_reminder_that_we_are_still_close", + "text": "A simple reminder that we are still close" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_015", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes being close feel playful instead of pressured?", + "text": "What makes talking about desire feel less formal for you?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "play", - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -264,13 +373,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_016", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one touch that feels sweet before it feels sexy?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "On low-confidence days, what makes you feel attractive?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "affection", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -279,30 +388,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_017", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you want to move closer to me?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How quickly can you shift from daily responsibilities into couple time?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "closeness", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very slowly", + "max_label": "Quite easily" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_018", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of privacy helps you relax into desire?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What familiar part of our chemistry is worth bringing back?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "relaxation", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -312,13 +426,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_019", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What turns a normal hug into something with sparks?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "Where or when do you feel most able to relax into privacy?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "sparks", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -327,30 +441,55 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_020", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way I can flirt with you without making it awkward?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps a vulnerable preference feel safe to share?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "ease", - "sex_and_desire" + "vulnerability", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_joking_at_the_persons_expense", + "text": "No joking at the person's expense" + }, + { + "id": "no_pressure_to_explain_every_detail", + "text": "No pressure to explain every detail" + }, + { + "id": "privacy_after_the_conversation", + "text": "Privacy after the conversation" + }, + { + "id": "curious_questions_instead_of_assumptions", + "text": "Curious questions instead of assumptions" + }, + { + "id": "acceptance_that_the_answer_may_change", + "text": "Acceptance that the answer may change" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_021", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel safe being a little bolder with me?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "Which closeness feels complete even when it stays nonsexual?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "boldness", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -359,30 +498,47 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_022", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel mutual between us?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What helps you stay present instead of self-conscious?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "mutual", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "low_light_and_less_visual_focus", + "text": "Low light and less visual focus" + }, + { + "id": "encouraging_words_without_overdoing_them", + "text": "Encouraging words without overdoing them" + }, + { + "id": "a_slower_pace_with_frequent_pauses", + "text": "A slower pace with frequent pauses" + }, + { + "id": "attention_on_connection_rather_than_appearance", + "text": "Attention on connection rather than appearance" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_023", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing we do that still gives you butterflies?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "When a romantic moment gets awkward, what helps you laugh kindly?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "butterflies", - "memory", - "sex_and_desire" + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -391,30 +547,41 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_024", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of mood makes you most open to being touched?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which helps you shift into couple mode faster?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "mood", - "touch", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "music_and_dimmer_lights", + "text": "Music and dimmer lights" + }, + { + "id": "conversation_and_close_attention", + "text": "Conversation and close attention" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_025", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a night feel like it belongs only to us?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "After a close moment, what helps you feel cared for?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -424,13 +591,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_026", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel relaxed enough to enjoy being wanted?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "Which early moment between us first carried real chemistry?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "relaxation", - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -439,30 +607,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_027", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing that quietly kills your mood?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which way of saying 'I want you' feels best?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "turn_offs", - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "warm_and_unmistakably_direct", + "text": "Warm and unmistakably direct" + }, + { + "id": "playful_with_room_to_laugh", + "text": "Playful with room to laugh" + }, + { + "id": "softly_spoken_during_affection", + "text": "Softly spoken during affection" + }, + { + "id": "written_in_a_private_message", + "text": "Written in a private message" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_028", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you recover if the moment gets awkward?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What tiny romantic plan would make next week more exciting?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "awkwardness", - "repair", - "sex_and_desire" + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -472,13 +658,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_029", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes talking about desire feel less embarrassing?", + "text": "What does a satisfying sense of desire between us mean to you?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "communication", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -487,30 +673,34 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_030", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one playful signal that means you want more attention?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much does stress interfere with your interest in closeness?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "signals", - "play", - "sex_and_desire" + "stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Hardly at all", + "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_031", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you know I am interested without feeling pressured?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "When do you notice my attraction to you most clearly?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "interest", - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -520,13 +710,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_032", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we can make desire feel fun again when life gets busy?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What signal could show interest without interrupting everything else?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "busy_life", - "fun", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -535,30 +726,47 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_033", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is something small that makes you feel hard to resist?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes planned private time feel romantic?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "confidence", - "desired", - "sex_and_desire" + "planning", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_personal_detail_chosen_for_me", + "text": "A personal detail chosen for me" + }, + { + "id": "no_chores_waiting_in_the_background", + "text": "No chores waiting in the background" + }, + { + "id": "a_flexible_plan_instead_of_a_script", + "text": "A flexible plan instead of a script" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_we_protected_the_time_together", + "text": "Knowing we protected the time together" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_034", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we can keep flirting alive outside the bedroom?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "How do you like interest to be shown when the timing is uncertain?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "daily_life", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -567,30 +775,55 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_035", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel comfortable letting me know what you like?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "With an easy stop guaranteed, what makes playful teasing work between us?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "communication", - "comfort", - "sex_and_desire" + "teasing", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_avoids_real_insecurities", + "text": "It avoids real insecurities" + }, + { + "id": "both_people_can_tease_back", + "text": "Both people can tease back" + }, + { + "id": "it_happens_in_the_right_setting", + "text": "It happens in the right setting" + }, + { + "id": "affection_is_obvious_underneath_it", + "text": "Affection is obvious underneath it" + }, + { + "id": "it_never_relies_on_embarrassment", + "text": "It never relies on embarrassment" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_036", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of slow build-up do you enjoy most?", + "text": "Which small reset makes you more available for playful attention?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "slow_burn", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -600,13 +833,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_037", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel chosen, not just available?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "How early in the day can a flirty mood begin for you?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -615,30 +849,39 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_038", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of attention makes you smirk later?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "After a stressful day, which closeness feels better?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "smirk", - "attention", - "sex_and_desire" + "stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "quiet_affection_first", + "text": "Quiet affection first" + }, + { + "id": "playful_distraction_first", + "text": "Playful distraction first" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_039", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one sexy-but-simple thing we could try this week?", + "text": "How does your interest change when life feels calm versus crowded?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "play", - "simple", - "sex_and_desire" + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -647,30 +890,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_040", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a private moment feel exciting without needing to be perfect?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes closeness feel unhurried?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "privacy", - "excitement", - "sex_and_desire" + "pace", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "starting_before_we_are_exhausted", + "text": "Starting before we are exhausted" + }, + { + "id": "leaving_the_next_hour_unscheduled", + "text": "Leaving the next hour unscheduled" + }, + { + "id": "putting_away_devices_and_distractions", + "text": "Putting away devices and distractions" + }, + { + "id": "agreeing_there_is_no_goal_to_reach", + "text": "Agreeing there is no goal to reach" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_041", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel close when sex is not on the table?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "text": "What response to 'not tonight' feels loving without reopening the question?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "closeness", - "no_pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -680,13 +942,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_042", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way I can make you feel attractive on an ordinary day?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "How should either of us pause a moment without needing a long explanation?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "confidence", - "daily_life", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -695,30 +958,33 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_043", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel emotionally close enough to want physical closeness?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How fresh does our romantic energy feel right now?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "emotional_closeness", - "physical_closeness", - "sex_and_desire" + "routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very routine", + "max_label": "Fresh and alive" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_044", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of reassurance helps if desire feels uneven between us?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", + "text": "When is the easiest time to discuss something you would like differently?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "mismatched_desire", - "reassurance", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -728,13 +994,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_045", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing you want us to be able to laugh about in this area?", + "text": "How can I compliment you without making you feel examined?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "humor", - "comfort", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -743,30 +1009,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_046", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of flirting makes you feel like I am still trying to win you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "With consent and an easy stop clear, what makes a new idea easier to consider?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "pursuit", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "knowing_discussion_does_not_equal_agreement", + "text": "Knowing discussion does not equal agreement" + }, + { + "id": "starting_with_the_mildest_version", + "text": "Starting with the mildest version" + }, + { + "id": "having_plenty_of_time_to_decide", + "text": "Having plenty of time to decide" + }, + { + "id": "planning_a_calm_check_in_afterward", + "text": "Planning a calm check-in afterward" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_047", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes being wanted feel exciting instead of expected?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What could add novelty without making the night feel like a test?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "wanted", - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -775,30 +1060,53 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_048", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "When your desire is low, what helps you feel loved without feeling pushed?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "After a stressful stretch, which conditions reopen the door to desire?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "low_desire", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "more_rest_and_fewer_deadlines", + "text": "More rest and fewer deadlines" + }, + { + "id": "feeling_emotionally_reconnected", + "text": "Feeling emotionally reconnected" + }, + { + "id": "small_affectionate_moments", + "text": "Small affectionate moments" + }, + { + "id": "protected_time_without_a_goal", + "text": "Protected time without a goal" + }, + { + "id": "playfulness_outside_private_moments", + "text": "Playfulness outside private moments" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_049", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "When your desire is high, what helps you handle it kindly if I am not there too?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How much does a tidy or comfortable space affect your mood?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "high_desire", - "kindness", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -808,13 +1116,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_050", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What do you wish I understood about how your desire works?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "How can affection communicate desire without asking for anything more?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "desire", - "understanding", - "sex_and_desire" + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -823,30 +1132,39 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_051", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of initiation feels like an invitation instead of a request?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which protects privacy better for you?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "initiation", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "planning_uninterrupted_time", + "text": "Planning uninterrupted time" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_flirtation_discreet_all_day", + "text": "Keeping flirtation discreet all day" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_052", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of initiation makes you feel most wanted?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "How should we recover when timing suddenly feels wrong?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "initiation", - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -855,30 +1173,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_053", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes saying yes feel easy and honest?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which invitation style leaves the most room for an honest answer?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "consent", - "yes", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "clear_words_with_no_pressure", + "text": "Clear words with no pressure" + }, + { + "id": "a_gentle_question_in_private", + "text": "A gentle question in private" + }, + { + "id": "a_playful_hint_plus_a_check_in", + "text": "A playful hint plus a check-in" + }, + { + "id": "a_plan_that_welcomes_changing_minds", + "text": "A plan that welcomes changing minds" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_054", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes saying no feel safe and not like rejection?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How much quiet time do you usually want afterward?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "consent", - "no", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -888,13 +1225,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_055", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What should I remember when you say not tonight?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What old flirtation of ours still makes you smile?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "no", - "reassurance", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -903,30 +1241,34 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_056", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What should you remember when I say not tonight?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How private does our couple time feel in daily life?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "no", - "reassurance", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Often interrupted", + "max_label": "Protected and private" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_057", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps us stay connected when only one of us is in the mood?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which low-effort date could leave us wanting more time together?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "mismatched_desire", - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -936,13 +1278,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_058", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of nonsexual closeness still helps you feel desired?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "How do you want our sexual connection to feel emotionally?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "closeness", - "nonsexual", - "sex_and_desire" + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -951,30 +1293,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_059", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a compliment feel sexy instead of generic?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which everyday gesture feels most flirtatious?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "compliments", - "specificity", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_lingering_look_across_the_room", + "text": "A lingering look across the room" + }, + { + "id": "a_private_joke_whispered_nearby", + "text": "A private joke whispered nearby" + }, + { + "id": "a_warm_hand_at_my_waist", + "text": "A warm hand at my waist" + }, + { + "id": "a_message_that_hints_at_later", + "text": "A message that hints at later" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_060", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of compliment do you want to hear more often?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which everyday moment makes you feel unexpectedly desirable?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "compliments", - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -984,13 +1345,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_061", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you believe me when I say I want you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which shared joke brings out our flirtiest side?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "trust", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -999,30 +1361,54 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_062", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel emotionally safe between us?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which small moments can carry real chemistry?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "safety", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "small_moments", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_hello_that_lasts_longer_than_usual", + "text": "A hello that lasts longer than usual" + }, + { + "id": "a_look_held_for_one_extra_second", + "text": "A look held for one extra second" + }, + { + "id": "a_private_compliment_in_public", + "text": "A private compliment in public" + }, + { + "id": "a_hand_reaching_for_mine_first", + "text": "A hand reaching for mine first" + }, + { + "id": "a_shared_joke_with_romantic_history", + "text": "A shared joke with romantic history" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_063", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing we could do before bed that would create more spark?", + "text": "What is the gentlest way to check whether you are open to more?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "bedtime", - "spark", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1031,30 +1417,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_064", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes morning affection feel welcome?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "After pausing to clarify an uncertain signal, what should guide the next step?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "morning", - "affection", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_unsure_person_chooses_the_pace", + "text": "The unsure person chooses the pace" + }, + { + "id": "return_to_nonsexual_affection", + "text": "Return to nonsexual affection" + }, + { + "id": "offer_clearly_named_choices", + "text": "Offer clearly named choices" + }, + { + "id": "end_the_moment_without_tension", + "text": "End the moment without tension" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_065", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes nighttime affection feel welcome?", + "text": "On an exhausting day, what keeps us romantically connected?", "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "night", - "affection", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1063,30 +1468,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_066", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of teasing would make you lean in instead of pull away?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How satisfying does our current pace of intimacy feel?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "teasing", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "pace", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not satisfying", + "max_label": "Very satisfying" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_067", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of teasing crosses the line for you?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What small promise could make later time together feel special?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "teasing", - "boundaries", - "sex_and_desire" + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1096,13 +1506,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_068", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a sexy text feel fun instead of too much?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "When does desire tend to surprise you?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sexting", - "boundaries", - "sex_and_desire" + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1111,30 +1521,41 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_069", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of message would make your day harder to focus on?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which pace suits a low-energy evening better?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "sexting", - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" + "pace", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "slow_and_affectionate", + "text": "Slow and affectionate" + }, + { + "id": "brief_and_playful", + "text": "Brief and playful" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_070", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one texting boundary that helps desire stay private and safe?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How can the interested partner share desire without creating guilt?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sexting", - "privacy", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1143,30 +1564,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_071", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel comfortable talking about fantasies without pressure?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What kind of confidence from me feels attractive?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fantasy", - "communication", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "calmly_saying_what_i_hope_for", + "text": "Calmly saying what I hope for" + }, + { + "id": "taking_initiative_while_welcoming_direction", + "text": "Taking initiative while welcoming direction" + }, + { + "id": "being_playful_when_plans_change", + "text": "Being playful when plans change" + }, + { + "id": "accepting_a_no_without_losing_warmth", + "text": "Accepting a no without losing warmth" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_072", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What should always be true before we talk about trying something new?", + "text": "What response makes a changed mind feel completely accepted?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "novelty", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1176,13 +1615,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_073", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a new idea feel exciting instead of intimidating?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What lets us ask curious questions without turning answers into promises?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "novelty", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1191,30 +1630,34 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_074", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing you are curious about but would want to ask about gently?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How comfortable are you suggesting a new shared experience?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "curiosity", - "gentleness", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "I usually hold back", + "max_label": "I suggest it easily" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_075", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of yes/no/maybe conversation would feel useful for us?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which reassurance feels believable when you are self-conscious?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "yes_no_maybe", - "communication", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1224,13 +1667,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_076", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel unjudged when you share a preference?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What small change could make a usual evening feel different?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "preferences", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1239,30 +1683,47 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_077", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you stay open when my preference is different from yours?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes it easier to ask for something you want?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "differences", - "respect", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "knowing_curiosity_will_not_be_mocked", + "text": "Knowing curiosity will not be mocked" + }, + { + "id": "being_able_to_phrase_it_as_an_option", + "text": "Being able to phrase it as an option" + }, + { + "id": "having_time_to_explain_without_urgency", + "text": "Having time to explain without urgency" + }, + { + "id": "hearing_that_uncertainty_is_acceptable", + "text": "Hearing that uncertainty is acceptable" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_078", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one desire difference we could approach with curiosity instead of worry?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "Which distractions are hardest for you to ignore during private time?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "differences", - "curiosity", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1271,30 +1732,54 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_079", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel like teamwork?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps us recover from an awkward moment?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_gentle_laugh_without_making_fun", + "text": "A gentle laugh without making fun" + }, + { + "id": "saying_plainly_that_nothing_is_wrong", + "text": "Saying plainly that nothing is wrong" + }, + { + "id": "switching_to_a_simpler_kind_of_closeness", + "text": "Switching to a simpler kind of closeness" + }, + { + "id": "taking_a_short_pause_together", + "text": "Taking a short pause together" + }, + { + "id": "letting_the_moment_end_gracefully", + "text": "Letting the moment end gracefully" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_080", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes sex feel like connection instead of a task?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What everyday touch makes you feel connected rather than distracted?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "connection", - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1304,13 +1789,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_081", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps us avoid turning desire into a scorecard?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What makes it safe to admit that something is not working?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "pressure", - "expectations", - "sex_and_desire" + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1319,30 +1804,41 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_082", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What should never be used as proof that someone is loved?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "What style of novelty sounds more inviting?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "love", - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_familiar_idea_with_a_twist", + "text": "A familiar idea with a twist" + }, + { + "id": "a_completely_new_shared_plan", + "text": "A completely new shared plan" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_083", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes affection feel more like choice than obligation?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "After the intensity passes, what conversation feels good?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "affection", - "choice", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1351,30 +1847,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_084", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel free to want what you want?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What kind of buildup sounds most appealing tonight?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "freedom", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "slow_teasing_through_conversation", + "text": "Slow teasing through conversation" + }, + { + "id": "sweet_affection_that_gradually_deepens", + "text": "Sweet affection that gradually deepens" + }, + { + "id": "a_direct_invitation_after_privacy", + "text": "A direct invitation after privacy" + }, + { + "id": "spontaneous_chemistry_with_check_ins", + "text": "Spontaneous chemistry with check-ins" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_085", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel free to not want what you do not want?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "When did you first realize I was strongly attracted to you?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "freedom", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1384,13 +1899,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_086", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of physical closeness helps you feel emotionally safe?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What playful tradition should our future selves keep?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "physical_closeness", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1399,30 +1915,34 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_087", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of emotional closeness makes physical closeness easier?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much nonsexual affection helps you feel desired?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "emotional_closeness", - "physical_closeness", - "sex_and_desire" + "nonsexual_affection", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very little", + "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_088", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one romantic thing that makes desire feel more natural?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What helps desire add joy to our relationship instead of pressure?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "romance", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1432,13 +1952,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_089", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one playful thing that makes desire feel more natural?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What tells you that I am still genuinely captivated by you?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "play", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1447,30 +1968,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_090", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one practical thing that makes desire feel more possible?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which aftercare sounds most comforting?", "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "practical", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "quiet_cuddling_with_no_conversation", + "text": "Quiet cuddling with no conversation" + }, + { + "id": "a_drink_and_a_gentle_check_in", + "text": "A drink and a gentle check-in" + }, + { + "id": "reassuring_words_before_some_space", + "text": "Reassuring words before some space" + }, + { + "id": "light_conversation_while_staying_close", + "text": "Light conversation while staying close" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_091", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What gets in the way of desire that has nothing to do with attraction?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What is a harmless way we could tease each other more?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "stress", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1480,13 +2019,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_092", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel desired when you are stressed?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "When does a direct invitation feel better than a subtle hint?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "stress", - "desired", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1495,30 +2034,53 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_093", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel desired when you are tired?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which things make you feel pursued in a good way?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "tired", - "desired", - "sex_and_desire" + "pursuit", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "interest_that_notices_your_actual_mood", + "text": "Interest that notices your actual mood" + }, + { + "id": "effort_tailored_to_what_you_enjoy", + "text": "Effort tailored to what you enjoy" + }, + { + "id": "invitations_that_remain_easy_to_decline", + "text": "Invitations that remain easy to decline" + }, + { + "id": "warmth_that_continues_after_any_answer", + "text": "Warmth that continues after any answer" + }, + { + "id": "a_sense_that_the_person_chose_you_specifically", + "text": "A sense that the person chose you specifically" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_094", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel desired when you do not feel confident?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which transition helps you stop feeling rushed?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "confidence", - "desired", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1527,30 +2089,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_095", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of body compliment feels best to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which small gesture makes you feel deliberately chosen?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "body", - "compliments", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "saving_a_private_moment_for_me", + "text": "Saving a private moment for me" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_something_i_said_i_liked", + "text": "Remembering something I said I liked" + }, + { + "id": "looking_for_me_first_in_a_room", + "text": "Looking for me first in a room" + }, + { + "id": "planning_around_what_helps_me_relax", + "text": "Planning around what helps me relax" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_096", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of body talk should we avoid?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which buildup makes you more curious than impatient?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "body", - "boundaries", - "sex_and_desire" + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1560,13 +2141,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_097", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel comfortable being looked at with desire?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which signals help you notice interest before it becomes obvious?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "being_seen", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1575,30 +2156,41 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_098", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes eye contact feel intimate instead of intense?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which makes desire feel more mutual?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "eye_contact", - "comfort", - "sex_and_desire" + "mutual_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "taking_turns_initiating", + "text": "Taking turns initiating" + }, + { + "id": "building_the_mood_together", + "text": "Building the mood together" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_099", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one private signal that could mean kiss me?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What helps the less-interested partner stay affectionate without sending a false signal?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "signals", - "kissing", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1607,30 +2199,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_100", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one private signal that could mean slow down?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much freedom do you feel to want closeness without promising more?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "signals", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "no_pressure", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very little freedom", + "max_label": "Complete freedom" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_101", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one private signal that could mean keep going?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which check-in words sound natural enough for us to actually use?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "signals", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1640,13 +2237,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_102", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you trust that I will listen to your signals?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "Which wording helps you share a preference honestly?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "signals", - "trust", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1655,30 +2252,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_103", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a pause feel caring instead of awkward?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which reset helps you leave stress behind fastest?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "pause", - "care", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_quiet_shower_and_fresh_clothes", + "text": "A quiet shower and fresh clothes" + }, + { + "id": "ten_minutes_alone_to_decompress", + "text": "Ten minutes alone to decompress" + }, + { + "id": "music_while_we_tidy_the_mood", + "text": "Music while we tidy the mood" + }, + { + "id": "a_cuddle_with_no_next_step", + "text": "A cuddle with no next step" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_104", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What should we do if one of us misreads the moment?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "What brings you back to the moment when appearance worries show up?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "misread", - "repair", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1688,13 +2303,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_105", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes repairing an awkward moment easier?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which surprise stays fun because it is easy to decline?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "awkwardness", - "repair", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1703,30 +2319,53 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_106", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel safe giving feedback after intimacy?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which details can make private time feel protected?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "feedback", - "aftercare", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "devices_silenced_and_put_away", + "text": "Devices silenced and put away" + }, + { + "id": "a_door_that_will_not_be_interrupted", + "text": "A door that will not be interrupted" + }, + { + "id": "enough_time_without_watching_the_clock", + "text": "Enough time without watching the clock" + }, + { + "id": "a_space_that_feels_comfortable", + "text": "A space that feels comfortable" + }, + { + "id": "responsibilities_handled_or_intentionally_postponed", + "text": "Responsibilities handled or intentionally postponed" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_107", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you hear feedback after intimacy without feeling hurt?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What helps a shared space feel temporarily like it belongs only to us?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "feedback", - "care", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1735,30 +2374,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_108", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of aftercare helps you feel closest?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "With an immediate stop always available, what makes teasing feel welcome?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "closeness", - "sex_and_desire" + "teasing", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_stays_affectionate_rather_than_critical", + "text": "It stays affectionate rather than critical" + }, + { + "id": "it_is_private_and_personally_understood", + "text": "It is private and personally understood" + }, + { + "id": "it_leaves_room_for_an_easy_comeback", + "text": "It leaves room for an easy comeback" + }, + { + "id": "it_matches_the_mood_we_are_actually_in", + "text": "It matches the mood we are actually in" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_109", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of aftercare helps you feel playful again?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which part of the day makes quiet holding feel most welcome?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "play", - "sex_and_desire" + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1768,13 +2426,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_110", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What would make a private night together feel less rushed?", + "text": "What would help us reset without treating the moment like a failure?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "private_time", - "pace", - "sex_and_desire" + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1783,30 +2441,41 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_111", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What would make a private night together feel more exciting?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which response feels kinder when one of us is not interested?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "private_time", - "excitement", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "warm_reassurance_and_space", + "text": "Warm reassurance and space" + }, + { + "id": "a_different_kind_of_closeness", + "text": "A different kind of closeness" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_112", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What would make a private night together feel more connected?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What keeps a check-in from making the moment feel analyzed?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "private_time", - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1815,30 +2484,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_113", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of setting helps you feel most open to desire?", - "depth": 3, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it to hear 'not tonight' without taking it personally?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "setting", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Still difficult", + "max_label": "Completely manageable" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_114", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of lighting or mood helps you relax?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which date made us feel most like co-conspirators?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "setting", - "relaxation", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1847,30 +2521,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_115", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of music would match your favorite kind of desire?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "With no penalty for declining, what makes a surprise feel genuinely welcome?", "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "music", - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" + "surprise", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_builds_on_something_i_already_mentioned", + "text": "It builds on something I already mentioned" + }, + { + "id": "it_begins_with_a_playful_invitation", + "text": "It begins with a playful invitation" + }, + { + "id": "it_stays_small_enough_to_change_course", + "text": "It stays small enough to change course" + }, + { + "id": "the_timing_leaves_room_to_relax", + "text": "The timing leaves room to relax" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_116", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes a shower or bath feel romantic instead of rushed?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "text": "How could we make an anniversary feel intimate without making it elaborate?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "shower", - "romance", - "sex_and_desire" + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1880,13 +2573,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_117", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of date usually leads to the most spark?", + "text": "Which part of our chemistry feels most uniquely ours?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "date_night", - "spark", - "sex_and_desire" + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1895,30 +2588,55 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_118", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of date makes you feel most pursued?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What could make our desire feel more playful this month?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "date_night", - "pursuit", - "sex_and_desire" + "play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_tiny_romantic_challenge", + "text": "A tiny romantic challenge" + }, + { + "id": "a_new_version_of_a_favorite_date", + "text": "A new version of a favorite date" + }, + { + "id": "more_private_jokes_and_teasing", + "text": "More private jokes and teasing" + }, + { + "id": "a_planned_low_pressure_evening", + "text": "A planned low-pressure evening" + }, + { + "id": "a_shared_playlist_for_flirty_moods", + "text": "A shared playlist for flirty moods" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_119", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one low-effort way to make tonight feel less routine?", + "text": "How can I show attraction without turning it into an expectation?", "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "routine", - "play", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1928,13 +2646,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_120", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing we could bring back from when desire felt easier?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "When does flirting between us feel easiest and most genuine?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "memory", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1943,30 +2662,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_121", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one old habit that used to make us feel more magnetic?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which signal would be easiest for us to use?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "memory", - "spark", - "sex_and_desire" + "signals", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_direct_phrase_we_both_recognize", + "text": "A direct phrase we both recognize" + }, + { + "id": "a_playful_code_word_in_a_message", + "text": "A playful code word in a message" + }, + { + "id": "a_question_that_offers_several_answers", + "text": "A question that offers several answers" + }, + { + "id": "a_gesture_followed_by_a_verbal_check", + "text": "A gesture followed by a verbal check" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_122", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What memory of us still feels a little electric?", + "text": "What helps initiation feel shared rather than one-sided?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "memory", - "chemistry", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1976,13 +2713,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_123", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you feel proud to be wanted by me?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "When stress is high, what form of closeness still feels easy?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "pride", - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -1991,30 +2728,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_124", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes you want me in a way that is hard to explain?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How often do our shared memories still create sparks?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "attraction", - "mystery", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Almost never", + "max_label": "Very often" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_125", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing about me that still pulls you in?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "text": "How can anticipation stay fun when plans are delayed?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "attraction", - "partner", - "sex_and_desire" + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2023,30 +2765,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_126", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What do you hope still feels sexy between us years from now?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which environment makes interruptions easiest to forget?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "future", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "soft_lighting_and_a_locked_door", + "text": "Soft lighting and a locked door" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_room_with_no_interruptions", + "text": "A familiar room with no interruptions" + }, + { + "id": "music_low_enough_to_still_talk", + "text": "Music low enough to still talk" + }, + { + "id": "a_clean_space_and_plenty_of_time", + "text": "A clean space and plenty of time" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_127", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of desire do you want us to protect as life changes?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How much does emotional closeness affect your physical interest?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "future", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2056,13 +2816,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_128", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one promise that would make our sex life feel safer?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "When our moods differ, which reassurance matters most?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "promise", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2071,30 +2832,41 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_129", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one promise that would make our desire feel more playful?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which memory creates more romantic energy?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "promise", - "play", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "our_earliest_butterflies", + "text": "Our earliest butterflies" + }, + { + "id": "a_recent_unexpected_spark", + "text": "A recent unexpected spark" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_130", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What would make you feel brave enough to ask for more?", + "text": "What would make stopping feel ordinary rather than dramatic?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "asking", - "courage", - "sex_and_desire" + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2104,13 +2876,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_131", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What would make you feel safe enough to ask for less?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Would you rather discuss delicate topics face-to-face or side-by-side?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "asking", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2119,30 +2891,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_132", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you know I want all of you, not just your body?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which version of romance brings out your desire?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "whole_person", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "romance", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "thoughtful_and_softly_planned", + "text": "Thoughtful and softly planned" + }, + { + "id": "spontaneous_and_a_little_daring", + "text": "Spontaneous and a little daring" + }, + { + "id": "cozy_with_lots_of_affectionate_buildup", + "text": "Cozy with lots of affectionate buildup" + }, + { + "id": "playful_with_shared_laughter", + "text": "Playful with shared laughter" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_133", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel loving to you?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "How could we make private time kinder to changing bodies?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "love", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2151,30 +2941,54 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_134", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel fun to you?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make a planned romantic night feel personal?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fun", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "planning", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_detail_chosen_from_something_i_mentioned", + "text": "A detail chosen from something I mentioned" + }, + { + "id": "food_or_music_tied_to_our_history", + "text": "Food or music tied to our history" + }, + { + "id": "a_flexible_plan_built_around_our_energy", + "text": "A flexible plan built around our energy" + }, + { + "id": "a_private_note_about_why_you_chose_it", + "text": "A private note about why you chose it" + }, + { + "id": "time_protected_from_routine_interruptions", + "text": "Time protected from routine interruptions" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_135", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What makes desire feel respectful to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What helps a new idea feel collaborative instead of performative?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "respect", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2184,13 +2998,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_136", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one boundary that would actually make desire easier?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "Where can we find privacy when time or space is limited?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2199,30 +3013,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_137", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of yes feels most honest from you?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How supported do you feel when your desire is low?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "yes", - "honesty", - "sex_and_desire" + "low_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not very supported", + "max_label": "Deeply supported" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_138", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of no feels easiest to say to me?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which goodbye affection stays with you during the day?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "no", - "ease", - "sex_and_desire" + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2231,30 +3050,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_139", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What helps us stay warm with each other after a no?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which tiny ritual could protect our spark?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "no", - "warmth", - "sex_and_desire" + "ritual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_longer_hello_at_the_end_of_the_day", + "text": "A longer hello at the end of the day" + }, + { + "id": "one_private_compliment_before_bed", + "text": "One private compliment before bed" + }, + { + "id": "a_weekly_no_phone_cuddle", + "text": "A weekly no-phone cuddle" + }, + { + "id": "a_playful_message_during_the_afternoon", + "text": "A playful message during the afternoon" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_140", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way to make desire feel less serious and more playful?", + "text": "What response helps embarrassment pass quickly?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "play", - "lightness", - "sex_and_desire" + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2264,13 +3101,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_141", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What would make talking about sex feel like flirting instead of a meeting?", + "text": "What small gesture helps you feel emotionally settled afterward?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "communication", - "fun", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2279,30 +3117,40 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_142", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one intimate topic we could make easier by laughing a little?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "For long-term romance, which matters more to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "humor", - "intimacy", - "sex_and_desire" + "long_term_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "keeping_familiar_rituals_meaningful", + "text": "Keeping familiar rituals meaningful" + }, + { + "id": "continuing_to_surprise_each_other", + "text": "Continuing to surprise each other" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_143", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What helps you feel like we are on the same team in this area?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What memory proves that our chemistry can survive an awkward moment?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2312,13 +3160,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_144", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing I do that makes you feel safe to be honest?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which getaway would bring out our most flirtatious side?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "honesty", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2327,30 +3176,47 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_145", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing I do that makes you feel wanted without asking for anything?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What helps an awkward moment recover fastest?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "wanted", - "no_pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_kind_laugh_that_includes_both_of_us", + "text": "A kind laugh that includes both of us" + }, + { + "id": "a_calm_pause_with_no_blame", + "text": "A calm pause with no blame" + }, + { + "id": "switching_to_simple_affection", + "text": "Switching to simple affection" + }, + { + "id": "admitting_it_feels_awkward_and_resetting", + "text": "Admitting it feels awkward and resetting" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_146", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What would help us make room for desire during stressful seasons?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What do you hope becomes easier for us to discuss over time?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "stress", - "seasons", - "sex_and_desire" + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2359,30 +3225,34 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_147", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What should we protect from becoming automatic or routine?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How hopeful do you feel about our desire growing with us?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "routine", - "protection", - "sex_and_desire" + "long_term_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not very hopeful", + "max_label": "Very hopeful" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_148", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of surprise would feel welcome, not risky?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "text": "Which everyday attention makes you feel magnetic?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2392,13 +3262,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_149", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What should never be a surprise in our sex life?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What tiny habit could keep our playful chemistry visible?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "boundaries", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -2407,1336 +3278,36 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_150", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way to make anticipation last longer?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Beyond clear consent and an easy stop, what keeps a new idea pressure-free?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "slow_burn", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_151", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of flirting feels most like you?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sweet", - "text": "Sweet" - }, - { - "id": "playful", - "text": "Playful" - }, - { - "id": "bold", - "text": "Bold" - }, - { - "id": "quiet", - "text": "Quiet" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_152", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What gets you into a romantic mood fastest?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "kissing", - "text": "Kissing" - }, - { - "id": "compliments", - "text": "Compliments" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_time", - "text": "Quiet time" - }, - { - "id": "flirty_text", - "text": "A flirty text" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_153", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of initiation feels best?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "initiation", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "direct", - "text": "Direct" - }, - { - "id": "playful", - "text": "Playful" - }, - { - "id": "slow", - "text": "Slow" - }, - { - "id": "asked_first", - "text": "Asked first" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_154", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should come before anything sexual most often?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "foreplay", - "comfort", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "kissing", - "text": "Kissing" - }, - { - "id": "talking", - "text": "Talking" - }, - { - "id": "cuddling", - "text": "Cuddling" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_155", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What is the easiest way to say not tonight?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "no", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "not_tonight", - "text": "Not tonight" - }, - { - "id": "can_we_cuddle", - "text": "Can we cuddle?" - }, - { - "id": "i_need_rest", - "text": "I need rest" - }, - { - "id": "maybe_later", - "text": "Maybe later" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_156", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of compliment makes you feel most desired?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "compliments", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "body", - "text": "Body" - }, - { - "id": "personality", - "text": "Personality" - }, - { - "id": "energy", - "text": "Energy" - }, - { - "id": "specific_detail", - "text": "A specific detail" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_157", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which spark do you miss most when life is busy?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "busy_life", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "flirting", - "text": "Flirting" - }, - { - "id": "kissing", - "text": "Kissing" - }, - { - "id": "touching", - "text": "Touching" - }, - { - "id": "private_time", - "text": "Private time" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_158", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes desire feel most natural?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "relaxation", - "text": "Relaxation" - }, - { - "id": "connection", - "text": "Connection" - }, - { - "id": "playfulness", - "text": "Playfulness" - }, - { - "id": "being_pursued", - "text": "Being pursued" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_159", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which private signal sounds easiest?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "signals", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "kiss_me", - "text": "Kiss me" - }, - { - "id": "come_closer", - "text": "Come closer" - }, - { - "id": "not_tonight", - "text": "Not tonight" - }, - { - "id": "slow_down", - "text": "Slow down" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_160", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps awkward moments pass quickly?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "awkwardness", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "laughing", - "text": "Laughing" - }, - { - "id": "cuddling", - "text": "Cuddling" - }, - { - "id": "talking", - "text": "Talking" - }, - { - "id": "moving_on", - "text": "Moving on" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_161", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which mood sounds best tonight?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sweet", - "text": "Sweet" - }, - { - "id": "spicy", - "text": "Spicy" - }, - { - "id": "playful", - "text": "Playful" - }, - { - "id": "restful", - "text": "Restful" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_162", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps desire survive a long day?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "less_pressure", - "text": "Less pressure" - }, - { - "id": "more_affection", - "text": "More affection" - }, - { - "id": "help_with_tasks", - "text": "Help with tasks" - }, - { - "id": "flirting", - "text": "Flirting" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_163", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of touch feels most inviting?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "touch", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "hand_on_waist", - "text": "Hand on waist" - }, - { - "id": "slow_kiss", - "text": "Slow kiss" - }, - { - "id": "back_rub", - "text": "Back rub" - }, - { - "id": "cuddling", - "text": "Cuddling" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_164", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes being wanted feel safest?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "wanted", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "easy_no", - "text": "An easy no" - }, - { - "id": "good_timing", - "text": "Good timing" - }, - { - "id": "trust", - "text": "Trust" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_165", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of private time sounds best?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "private_time", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "slow_night", - "text": "Slow night" - }, - { - "id": "playful_night", - "text": "Playful night" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_cuddles", - "text": "Quiet cuddles" - }, - { - "id": "surprise_me", - "text": "Surprise me" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_166", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of desire talk feels least awkward?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "communication", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "playful", - "text": "Playful" - }, - { - "id": "direct", - "text": "Direct" - }, - { - "id": "written_first", - "text": "Written first" - }, - { - "id": "after_flirting", - "text": "After flirting" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_167", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes a sexy text feel welcome?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sexting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "right_timing", - "text": "Right timing" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "playful_tone", - "text": "Playful tone" - }, - { - "id": "asked_first", - "text": "Asked first" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_168", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which desire difference needs the most kindness?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "mismatched_desire", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "frequency", - "text": "Frequency" - }, - { - "id": "timing", - "text": "Timing" - }, - { - "id": "pace", - "text": "Pace" - }, - { - "id": "initiation", - "text": "Initiation" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_169", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes a no easiest to receive?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "no", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "reassurance", - "text": "Reassurance" - }, - { - "id": "kind_tone", - "text": "Kind tone" - }, - { - "id": "cuddle_option", - "text": "Another closeness option" - }, - { - "id": "space", - "text": "Space" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_170", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes a yes feel most exciting?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "yes", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "clear_desire", - "text": "Clear desire" - }, - { - "id": "playful_energy", - "text": "Playful energy" - }, - { - "id": "slow_build", - "text": "Slow build" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_171", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of aftercare feels best?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cuddles", - "text": "Cuddles" - }, - { - "id": "sweet_words", - "text": "Sweet words" - }, - { - "id": "quiet", - "text": "Quiet" - }, - { - "id": "laughing", - "text": "Laughing" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_172", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should we protect most in our sex life?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "protection", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "consent", - "text": "Consent" - }, - { - "id": "playfulness", - "text": "Playfulness" - }, - { - "id": "honesty", - "text": "Honesty" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_173", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of anticipation works best for you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "texts", - "text": "Texts" - }, - { - "id": "looks", - "text": "Looks" - }, - { - "id": "touches", - "text": "Touches" - }, - { - "id": "plans", - "text": "Plans" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_174", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of fantasy talk feels safest?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "fantasy", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes_no_maybe", - "text": "Yes / no / maybe" - }, - { - "id": "one_at_a_time", - "text": "One at a time" - }, - { - "id": "written", - "text": "Written" - }, - { - "id": "not_ready", - "text": "Not ready" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_175", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes trying something new feel safer?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", - "sex_and_desire" + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "talk_first", - "text": "Talk first" + "id": "discussing_it_away_from_the_moment", + "text": "Discussing it away from the moment" }, { - "id": "start_small", - "text": "Start small" + "id": "treating_curiosity_as_an_invitation_to_talk", + "text": "Treating curiosity as an invitation to talk" }, { - "id": "easy_stop", - "text": "Easy stop" + "id": "naming_firm_limits_before_making_plans", + "text": "Naming firm limits before making plans" }, { - "id": "aftercare", - "text": "Aftercare" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_176", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which setting helps you relax most?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "setting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "clean_room", - "text": "Clean room" + "id": "starting_smaller_than_the_full_idea", + "text": "Starting smaller than the full idea" }, { - "id": "low_lights", - "text": "Low lights" - }, - { - "id": "music", - "text": "Music" - }, - { - "id": "locked_door", - "text": "Locked door" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_177", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of flirting should we bring back?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "inside_jokes", - "text": "Inside jokes" - }, - { - "id": "long_kisses", - "text": "Long kisses" - }, - { - "id": "teasing_texts", - "text": "Teasing texts" - }, - { - "id": "slow_dancing", - "text": "Slow dancing" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_178", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes you feel most chosen?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "chosen", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "planned_time", - "text": "Planned time" - }, - { - "id": "focused_attention", - "text": "Focused attention" - }, - { - "id": "being_pursued", - "text": "Being pursued" - }, - { - "id": "specific_words", - "text": "Specific words" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_179", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of pressure ruins the mood fastest?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "rushing", - "text": "Rushing" - }, - { - "id": "expectation", - "text": "Expectation" - }, - { - "id": "guilt", - "text": "Guilt" - }, - { - "id": "bad_timing", - "text": "Bad timing" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_180", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps us reconnect after distance?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "distance", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "soft_start", - "text": "Soft start" - }, - { - "id": "honest_talk", - "text": "Honest talk" - }, - { - "id": "date_night", - "text": "Date night" - }, - { - "id": "slow_affection", - "text": "Slow affection" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_181", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes sex feel most like connection?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "eye_contact", - "text": "Eye contact" - }, - { - "id": "trust", - "text": "Trust" - }, - { - "id": "laughter", - "text": "Laughter" - }, - { - "id": "feeling_known", - "text": "Feeling known" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_182", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes desire feel most playful?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "play", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "teasing", - "text": "Teasing" - }, - { - "id": "games", - "text": "Games" - }, - { - "id": "surprises", - "text": "Surprises" - }, - { - "id": "flirty_dares", - "text": "Flirty dares" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_183", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of feedback feels easiest after intimacy?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "feedback", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "what_i_liked", - "text": "What I liked" - }, - { - "id": "one_small_request", - "text": "One small request" - }, - { - "id": "later_not_now", - "text": "Later, not now" - }, - { - "id": "written", - "text": "Written" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_184", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which boundary makes desire easier?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "boundaries", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "easy_no", - "text": "Easy no" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "no_judgment", - "text": "No judgment" - }, - { - "id": "good_timing", - "text": "Good timing" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_185", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you feel attractive when confidence is low?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "confidence", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "specific_compliments", - "text": "Specific compliments" - }, - { - "id": "soft_touch", - "text": "Soft touch" - }, - { - "id": "patience", - "text": "Patience" - }, - { - "id": "no_pressure", - "text": "No pressure" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_186", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of surprise would feel welcome?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "surprise", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "flirty_note", - "text": "Flirty note" - }, - { - "id": "planned_privacy", - "text": "Planned privacy" - }, - { - "id": "romantic_touch", - "text": "Romantic touch" - }, - { - "id": "ask_first", - "text": "Ask first" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_187", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes desire feel respectful?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "respect", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "listening", - "text": "Listening" - }, - { - "id": "checking_in", - "text": "Checking in" - }, - { - "id": "remembering_preferences", - "text": "Remembering preferences" - }, - { - "id": "no_pressure", - "text": "No pressure" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_188", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which ordinary moment could use more spark?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "daily_life", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "morning", - "text": "Morning" - }, - { - "id": "goodbye", - "text": "Goodbye" - }, - { - "id": "coming_home", - "text": "Coming home" - }, - { - "id": "bedtime", - "text": "Bedtime" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_189", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes a private night feel less rushed?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "private_time", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "earlier_start", - "text": "Earlier start" - }, - { - "id": "less_phone", - "text": "Less phone" - }, - { - "id": "clean_space", - "text": "Clean space" - }, - { - "id": "no_big_plan", - "text": "No big plan" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_190", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of desire do you want more of?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sweet", - "text": "Sweet" - }, - { - "id": "spontaneous", - "text": "Spontaneous" - }, - { - "id": "playful", - "text": "Playful" - }, - { - "id": "deep", - "text": "Deep" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_191", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you feel wanted before sex is even mentioned?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "compliments", - "text": "Compliments" - }, - { - "id": "kissing", - "text": "Kissing" - }, - { - "id": "help_with_stress", - "text": "Help with stress" - }, - { - "id": "focused_attention", - "text": "Focused attention" - }, - { - "id": "flirting", - "text": "Flirting" + "id": "checking_in_afterward_without_judgment", + "text": "Checking in afterward without judgment" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -3744,37 +3315,918 @@ } }, { - "id": "sex_and_desire_192", + "id": "sex_and_desire_151", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes desire feel fun for you?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "How can either of us begin without making the other feel responsible for the outcome?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fun", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_152", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which way of reconnecting after distance feels best?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "reconnection", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "teasing", - "text": "Teasing" + "id": "start_with_a_relaxed_date_and_no_agenda", + "text": "Start with a relaxed date and no agenda" }, { - "id": "laughter", - "text": "Laughter" + "id": "talk_honestly_before_adding_affection", + "text": "Talk honestly before adding affection" }, { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" + "id": "return_through_small_everyday_touches", + "text": "Return through small everyday touches" }, { - "id": "spontaneity", - "text": "Spontaneity" + "id": "share_a_memory_that_reminds_us_of_us", + "text": "Share a memory that reminds us of us" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_153", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What usually needs to happen before you can relax into affection?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_154", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How could we stretch a romantic moment without overplanning it?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_155", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which invitation feels more appealing when you are receptive?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_clearly_planned_evening", + "text": "A clearly planned evening" }, { - "id": "slow_build", - "text": "Slow build" + "id": "a_spontaneous_private_moment", + "text": "A spontaneous private moment" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_156", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What tends to make desire grow slowly for you?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_157", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes pursuit feel flattering rather than pressuring?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "pursuit", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "attention_continues_to_respect_my_pace", + "text": "Attention continues to respect my pace" + }, + { + "id": "interest_is_specific_rather_than_generic", + "text": "Interest is specific rather than generic" + }, + { + "id": "the_invitation_can_be_declined_gracefully", + "text": "The invitation can be declined gracefully" + }, + { + "id": "affection_remains_warm_either_way", + "text": "Affection remains warm either way" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_158", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How should we reconnect after one of us feels disappointed?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_159", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What reassures you that affection will not automatically lead further?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_160", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How balanced does initiation feel between us?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "initiation_balance", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very one-sided", + "max_label": "Naturally shared" + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_161", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What helps feedback sound caring instead of corrective?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_162", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes you feel admired without feeling put on display?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_163", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which form of privacy matters most to you?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "privacy", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_chance_of_being_overheard", + "text": "No chance of being overheard" + }, + { + "id": "phones_silenced_and_out_of_reach", + "text": "Phones silenced and out of reach" + }, + { + "id": "enough_time_without_a_deadline", + "text": "Enough time without a deadline" + }, + { + "id": "a_space_that_feels_comfortable_and_secure", + "text": "A space that feels comfortable and secure" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_164", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How do we know when routine feels comforting rather than stale?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_165", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which kinds of nonsexual closeness still feel intimate?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "holding_each_other_quietly", + "text": "Holding each other quietly" + }, + { + "id": "sharing_honest_conversation_in_bed", + "text": "Sharing honest conversation in bed" + }, + { + "id": "slow_dancing_without_a_plan", + "text": "Slow dancing without a plan" + }, + { + "id": "resting_with_your_head_on_me", + "text": "Resting with your head on me" + }, + { + "id": "a_long_kiss_that_ends_there", + "text": "A long kiss that ends there" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_166", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How does the room's lighting change your comfort with being seen?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_167", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What keeps cuddling from feeling like a hidden request?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_168", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which playful energy suits us best?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sweet_and_slightly_mischievous", + "text": "Sweet and slightly mischievous" + }, + { + "id": "bold_but_easy_to_redirect", + "text": "Bold but easy to redirect" + }, + { + "id": "silly_enough_to_break_tension", + "text": "Silly enough to break tension" + }, + { + "id": "quiet_with_lots_of_eye_contact", + "text": "Quiet with lots of eye contact" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_169", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "When plans fall apart, what keeps the connection intact?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_170", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "When would space feel better than cuddling?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_171", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which future plan feels more exciting?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "future", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_private_weekend_escape", + "text": "A private weekend escape" + }, + { + "id": "a_playful_night_at_home", + "text": "A playful night at home" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_172", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which compliment from our history do you still remember?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_173", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How comfortable are you initiating when the mood feels right?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "I rarely initiate", + "max_label": "I initiate comfortably" + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_174", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which monthly ritual could protect our chemistry from busy schedules?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_175", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How can our differences make our connection more interesting rather than harder?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_176", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which small plan would create the most anticipation?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_no_phone_hour_later_tonight", + "text": "A no-phone hour later tonight" + }, + { + "id": "a_private_dessert_after_everything_is_done", + "text": "A private dessert after everything is done" + }, + { + "id": "a_walk_that_ends_with_time_alone", + "text": "A walk that ends with time alone" + }, + { + "id": "a_note_naming_one_thing_i_look_forward_to", + "text": "A note naming one thing I look forward to" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_177", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "When has a small look from me made you feel especially wanted?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_178", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How could I flirt with you when words would feel awkward?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_179", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "With no blame or scorekeeping, what helps mismatched desire feel less personal?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "mismatch", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "remembering_that_moods_naturally_change", + "text": "Remembering that moods naturally change" + }, + { + "id": "talking_outside_the_immediate_moment", + "text": "Talking outside the immediate moment" + }, + { + "id": "naming_affection_that_still_feels_welcome", + "text": "Naming affection that still feels welcome" + }, + { + "id": "reassuring_each_other_without_making_promises", + "text": "Reassuring each other without making promises" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_one_moment_does_not_define_our_chemistry", + "text": "Remembering one moment does not define our chemistry" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_180", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which first move feels warm even if it goes no further?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_181", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What pace helps you stay most connected to the moment?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "pace", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "slow_enough_to_notice_every_change", + "text": "Slow enough to notice every change" + }, + { + "id": "natural_and_guided_by_both_people", + "text": "Natural and guided by both people" + }, + { + "id": "playful_with_frequent_verbal_check_ins", + "text": "Playful with frequent verbal check-ins" + }, + { + "id": "flexible_depending_on_the_day", + "text": "Flexible depending on the day" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_182", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How could we signal that tonight is for unwinding, not performing?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_183", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What detail makes you look forward to private time most?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "anticipation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_184", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How freely can you express strong desire without creating pressure?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "high_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not freely yet", + "max_label": "Very freely" + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_185", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "When interest is quiet, what helps you stay connected to it?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_186", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "What flirt would brighten an ordinary afternoon?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_mischievous_message", + "text": "A mischievous message" + }, + { + "id": "a_lingering_in_person_look", + "text": "A lingering in-person look" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_187", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What keeps a difference in desire from feeling personal?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_188", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How should we clarify an unclear signal instead of guessing?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_189", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Once stopping is guaranteed, which first step makes a new idea approachable?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "novelty", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "talk_about_what_interests_each_of_us", + "text": "Talk about what interests each of us" + }, + { + "id": "name_any_firm_limits", + "text": "Name any firm limits" + }, + { + "id": "choose_the_simplest_possible_version", + "text": "Choose the simplest possible version" + }, + { + "id": "decide_when_to_check_in", + "text": "Decide when to check in" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_190", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What would make post-moment feedback feel caring instead of graded?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_191", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "When do you feel most at ease in your own skin around me?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_192", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which things keep long-term chemistry alive?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "long_term", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "continuing_to_notice_each_other", + "text": "Continuing to notice each other" + }, + { + "id": "making_time_for_unhurried_affection", + "text": "Making time for unhurried affection" + }, + { + "id": "trying_small_changes_without_pressure", + "text": "Trying small changes without pressure" + }, + { + "id": "remembering_what_already_works", + "text": "Remembering what already works" + }, + { + "id": "talking_kindly_when_desire_shifts", + "text": "Talking kindly when desire shifts" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -3784,647 +4236,370 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_193", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you say what you want?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "written", + "text": "What would refresh our connection without requiring a big plan?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "communication", - "sex_and_desire" + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "no_judgment", - "text": "No judgment" - }, - { - "id": "playful_mood", - "text": "Playful mood" - }, - { - "id": "clear_questions", - "text": "Clear questions" - }, - { - "id": "trust", - "text": "Trust" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_194", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What lowers your desire when life is busy?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What helps desire feel mutual in the moment?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "stress", - "sex_and_desire" + "mutuality", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "exhaustion", - "text": "Exhaustion" + "id": "both_people_actively_choosing_to_move_closer", + "text": "Both people actively choosing to move closer" }, { - "id": "chores", - "text": "Chores" + "id": "clear_words_plus_active_participation", + "text": "Clear words plus active participation" }, { - "id": "stress", - "text": "Stress" + "id": "taking_turns_showing_interest", + "text": "Taking turns showing interest" }, { - "id": "no_privacy", - "text": "No privacy" - }, - { - "id": "feeling_disconnected", - "text": "Feeling disconnected" + "id": "pausing_whenever_either_person_hesitates", + "text": "Pausing whenever either person hesitates" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_195", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps closeness feel good even without sex?", + "type": "written", + "text": "Does music help you settle in, or does quiet feel better?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "closeness", - "sex_and_desire" + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cuddling", - "text": "Cuddling" - }, - { - "id": "talking", - "text": "Talking" - }, - { - "id": "kissing", - "text": "Kissing" - }, - { - "id": "laughing", - "text": "Laughing" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_time", - "text": "Quiet time" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_196", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What should always be true before trying something new?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes a long hug feel especially grounding?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "novelty", - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "both_want_it", - "text": "Both want it" - }, - { - "id": "clear_limits", - "text": "Clear limits" - }, - { - "id": "easy_stop", - "text": "Easy stop" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "aftercare", - "text": "Aftercare" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_197", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes a sexy conversation feel safe?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How excited are you about making new romantic memories together?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "communication", - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" + "future", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "no_mocking", - "text": "No mocking" - }, - { - "id": "easy_no", - "text": "Easy no" - }, - { - "id": "curiosity", - "text": "Curiosity" - }, - { - "id": "good_timing", - "text": "Good timing" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not very excited", + "max_label": "Extremely excited" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_198", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps with mismatched desire?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "written", + "text": "How would you like feedback handled when something misses the mark?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "mismatched_desire", - "sex_and_desire" + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "kind_no", - "text": "Kind no" - }, - { - "id": "no_guilt", - "text": "No guilt" - }, - { - "id": "other_closeness", - "text": "Other closeness" - }, - { - "id": "honest_talk", - "text": "Honest talk" - }, - { - "id": "patience", - "text": "Patience" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_199", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which forms of anticipation do you like?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What usually protects your mood best?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "sex_and_desire" + "mood", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "texts", - "text": "Texts" + "id": "enough_time_that_nothing_feels_rushed", + "text": "Enough time that nothing feels rushed" }, { - "id": "looks", - "text": "Looks" + "id": "privacy_from_likely_interruptions", + "text": "Privacy from likely interruptions" }, { - "id": "touches", - "text": "Touches" + "id": "a_gentle_transition_out_of_responsibilities", + "text": "A gentle transition out of responsibilities" }, { - "id": "plans", - "text": "Plans" - }, - { - "id": "outfits", - "text": "Outfits" + "id": "knowing_affection_can_stop_anywhere", + "text": "Knowing affection can stop anywhere" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_200", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps you feel physically confident?", + "type": "written", + "text": "How do you know closeness mattered beyond the physical moment?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "confidence", - "sex_and_desire" + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "compliments", - "text": "Compliments" - }, - { - "id": "low_lights", - "text": "Low lights" - }, - { - "id": "being_pursued", - "text": "Being pursued" - }, - { - "id": "no_pressure", - "text": "No pressure" - }, - { - "id": "feeling_connected", - "text": "Feeling connected" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_201", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What should never be used as pressure?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "written", + "text": "What was our most unexpectedly romantic ordinary day?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "guilt", - "text": "Guilt" - }, - { - "id": "past_yes", - "text": "A past yes" - }, - { - "id": "relationship_status", - "text": "Relationship status" - }, - { - "id": "comparison", - "text": "Comparison" - }, - { - "id": "mood", - "text": "Someone's mood" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_202", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes intimacy feel connected afterward?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which makes honest feedback easier?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "sex_and_desire" + "feedback", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "cuddling", - "text": "Cuddling" + "id": "talking_outside_the_moment", + "text": "Talking outside the moment" }, { - "id": "sweet_words", - "text": "Sweet words" - }, - { - "id": "laughter", - "text": "Laughter" - }, - { - "id": "water_or_snack", - "text": "Water or snack" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_rest", - "text": "Quiet rest" + "id": "gentle_guidance_in_the_moment", + "text": "Gentle guidance in the moment" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_203", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes flirting outside the bedroom work?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "written", + "text": "What would a perfect slow evening together include?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "good_timing", - "text": "Good timing" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "inside_jokes", - "text": "Inside jokes" - }, - { - "id": "confidence", - "text": "Confidence" - }, - { - "id": "playfulness", - "text": "Playfulness" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_204", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which topics need extra kindness between us?", - "depth": 5, + "type": "written", + "text": "What does feeling sexually understood look like in everyday life?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sensitive_topics", - "sex_and_desire" + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "frequency", - "text": "Frequency" - }, - { - "id": "rejection", - "text": "Rejection" - }, - { - "id": "body_confidence", - "text": "Body confidence" - }, - { - "id": "fantasy", - "text": "Fantasy" - }, - { - "id": "past_experiences", - "text": "Past experiences" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_205", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps a no still feel loving?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "With no debt or scorekeeping, which reassurance helps most after a mismatch?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "consent", - "no", - "sex_and_desire" + "mismatch", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "reassurance", - "text": "Reassurance" + "id": "we_are_still_close_even_without_sex", + "text": "We are still close even without sex" }, { - "id": "cuddling", - "text": "Cuddling" + "id": "your_honest_answer_did_not_hurt_us", + "text": "Your honest answer did not hurt us" }, { - "id": "kind_words", - "text": "Kind words" + "id": "our_attraction_is_still_real", + "text": "Our attraction is still real" }, { - "id": "no_pouting", - "text": "No pouting" - }, - { - "id": "try_later", - "text": "Try later" + "id": "we_can_reconnect_in_another_way", + "text": "We can reconnect in another way" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_206", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps a yes feel fully chosen?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes praise about your appearance feel sincere rather than automatic?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "consent", - "yes", - "sex_and_desire" + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "no_pressure", - "text": "No pressure" - }, - { - "id": "clear_desire", - "text": "Clear desire" - }, - { - "id": "trust", - "text": "Trust" - }, - { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" - }, - { - "id": "good_timing", - "text": "Good timing" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_207", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What kind of spark do you want more often?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How playful has our flirting felt this week?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "spark", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "kissing", - "text": "Kissing" - }, - { - "id": "teasing", - "text": "Teasing" - }, - { - "id": "spontaneity", - "text": "Spontaneity" - }, - { - "id": "deep_connection", - "text": "Deep connection" - }, - { - "id": "playful_touch", - "text": "Playful touch" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Barely playful", + "max_label": "Very playful" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_208", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps us keep desire from becoming routine?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which message would brighten your day without demanding a response?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "routine", - "sex_and_desire" + "flirting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "surprise", - "text": "Surprise" - }, - { - "id": "flirting", - "text": "Flirting" - }, - { - "id": "new_settings", - "text": "New settings" - }, - { - "id": "talking_more", - "text": "Talking more" - }, - { - "id": "slowing_down", - "text": "Slowing down" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_209", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What makes you feel safe sharing a fantasy?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "With every answer treated warmly, which conditions make initiation feel inviting?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fantasy", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "no_judgment", - "text": "No judgment" + "id": "clear_interest_without_urgency", + "text": "Clear interest without urgency" }, { - "id": "privacy", - "text": "Privacy" + "id": "enough_time_to_answer_honestly", + "text": "Enough time to answer honestly" }, { - "id": "no_pressure_to_do_it", - "text": "No pressure to do it" + "id": "a_private_setting_with_dependable_quiet", + "text": "A private setting with dependable quiet" }, { - "id": "gentle_questions", - "text": "Gentle questions" + "id": "attention_to_the_mood_we_are_actually_in", + "text": "Attention to the mood we are actually in" }, { - "id": "after_reassurance", - "text": "Reassurance after" + "id": "an_invitation_that_fits_our_shared_style", + "text": "An invitation that fits our shared style" } ], "min_selections": 1, @@ -4434,862 +4609,79 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_210", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "What helps our desire feel like something we build together?", - "depth": 4, + "type": "written", + "text": "How should we handle a missed signal without embarrassment?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "teamwork", - "sex_and_desire" + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "both_initiate", - "text": "Both initiate" - }, - { - "id": "both_can_say_no", - "text": "Both can say no" - }, - { - "id": "talking_kindly", - "text": "Talking kindly" - }, - { - "id": "noticing_stress", - "text": "Noticing stress" - }, - { - "id": "making_time", - "text": "Making time" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_211", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How playful does our desire feel lately?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "When your mind is busy, what helps you become present?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "play", - "sex_and_desire" + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not playful", - "max_label": "Very playful" + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_212", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to say what you want?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which type of private message feels most exciting?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "communication", - "sex_and_desire" + "messages", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_memory_that_hints_at_our_chemistry", + "text": "A memory that hints at our chemistry" + }, + { + "id": "a_compliment_too_personal_for_public", + "text": "A compliment too personal for public" + }, + { + "id": "a_playful_invitation_for_later", + "text": "A playful invitation for later" + }, + { + "id": "a_simple_statement_that_you_miss_me", + "text": "A simple statement that you miss me" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_213", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to say not tonight?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_214", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How wanted do you feel this week?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "wanted", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very", - "max_label": "Very wanted" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_215", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much would more flirting help us right now?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_216", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much does stress affect your desire lately?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "stress", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_217", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable does this topic feel between us?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "comfort", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not comfortable", - "max_label": "Very comfortable" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_218", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How safe does it feel to talk about desire honestly?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "safety", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not safe", - "max_label": "Very safe" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_219", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much pressure do you feel around sex?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "pressure", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "None", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_220", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How connected do you feel before physical intimacy?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not connected", - "max_label": "Very connected" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_221", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How connected do you feel after physical intimacy?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not connected", - "max_label": "Very connected" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_222", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How well do we handle mismatched desire?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "mismatched_desire", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Needs work", - "max_label": "Very well" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_223", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable are you initiating?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "initiation", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not comfortable", - "max_label": "Very comfortable" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_224", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How comfortable are you being pursued?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "pursuit", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not comfortable", - "max_label": "Very comfortable" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_225", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much privacy do you need to relax into desire?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "privacy", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "A little", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_226", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How often does flirting happen outside the bedroom?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Rarely", - "max_label": "Often" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_227", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How exciting does anticipation feel to you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not exciting", - "max_label": "Very exciting" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_228", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to give feedback about intimacy?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "feedback", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_229", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How easy is it to hear feedback about intimacy?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "feedback", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Hard", - "max_label": "Easy" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_230", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do you want more slow build-up?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "slow_burn", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_231", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much do you want more spontaneous spark?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "spontaneity", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_232", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How cared for do you feel after intimacy?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not cared for", - "max_label": "Very cared for" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_233", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much does confidence affect your desire?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "confidence", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_234", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How safe does it feel to ask for something new?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "novelty", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not safe", - "max_label": "Very safe" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_235", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much would one private night help us reconnect?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "private_time", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_236", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Sweet or spicy?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sweet", - "text": "Sweet" - }, - { - "id": "spicy", - "text": "Spicy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_237", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Slow build-up or sudden spark?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "slow_build", - "text": "Slow build-up" - }, - { - "id": "sudden_spark", - "text": "Sudden spark" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_238", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Flirty text or flirty touch?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "flirting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "flirty_text", - "text": "Flirty text" - }, - { - "id": "flirty_touch", - "text": "Flirty touch" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_239", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Ask first or surprise me gently?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "ask_first", - "text": "Ask first" - }, - { - "id": "gentle_surprise", - "text": "Surprise me gently" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_240", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "More kissing or more touching?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "touch", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "more_kissing", - "text": "More kissing" - }, - { - "id": "more_touching", - "text": "More touching" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_241", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Private talk or private game?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "play", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "private_talk", - "text": "Private talk" - }, - { - "id": "private_game", - "text": "Private game" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_242", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Planned night or spontaneous moment?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "planning", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "planned_night", - "text": "Planned night" - }, - { - "id": "spontaneous_moment", - "text": "Spontaneous moment" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_243", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Compliments or eye contact?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "connection", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "compliments", - "text": "Compliments" - }, - { - "id": "eye_contact", - "text": "Eye contact" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_244", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Bold invitation or soft invitation?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "initiation", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "bold_invitation", - "text": "Bold invitation" - }, - { - "id": "soft_invitation", - "text": "Soft invitation" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_245", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Cuddles after or talking after?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cuddles_after", - "text": "Cuddles after" - }, - { - "id": "talking_after", - "text": "Talking after" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_246", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "More romance or more play?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "mood", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "more_romance", - "text": "More romance" - }, - { - "id": "more_play", - "text": "More play" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_247", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "New idea or favorite old spark?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "novelty", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "new_idea", - "text": "New idea" - }, - { - "id": "old_spark", - "text": "Favorite old spark" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_248", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Say it directly or hint playfully?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "communication", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "say_directly", - "text": "Say it directly" - }, - { - "id": "hint_playfully", - "text": "Hint playfully" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_249", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Privacy first or mood first?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "setting", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "privacy_first", - "text": "Privacy first" - }, - { - "id": "mood_first", - "text": "Mood first" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_250", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "More anticipation or more aftercare?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "desire", - "sex_and_desire" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "more_anticipation", - "text": "More anticipation" - }, - { - "id": "more_aftercare", - "text": "More aftercare" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sex_and_desire_251", - "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one small thing I do that makes you feel quietly desired?", + "text": "When does suspense add spark, and when does it become distracting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "desired", - "small_moments", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5297,16 +4689,855 @@ } }, { - "id": "sex_and_desire_252", + "id": "sex_and_desire_214", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a flirty look that always lands for you?", + "text": "What helps us respect different desire schedules?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_215", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which spoken check-in feels most natural?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_direct_yes_or_no_question", + "text": "A direct yes-or-no question" + }, + { + "id": "a_pause_followed_by_still_good", + "text": "A pause followed by 'Still good?'" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_216", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "When would trying again later feel welcome, and when would it not?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_217", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes a boundary feel respected in the moment, not only afterward?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_218", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which old spark would be most fun to revive?", + "depth": 1, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "memory", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "the_way_we_flirted_on_early_dates", + "text": "The way we flirted on early dates" + }, + { + "id": "a_favorite_slow_dance_song", + "text": "A favorite slow-dance song" + }, + { + "id": "our_habit_of_lingering_goodnight_kisses", + "text": "Our habit of lingering goodnight kisses" + }, + { + "id": "a_private_joke_with_romantic_history", + "text": "A private joke with romantic history" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_219", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes a vulnerable answer feel protected after it is shared?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_220", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How connected do you feel to your own desire lately?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "desire_awareness", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Disconnected from it", + "max_label": "Strongly connected" + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_221", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What would help you receive a compliment instead of dismissing it?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_222", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which old spark deserves a modern version?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_223", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps conversations about frequency stay respectful?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "frequency", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "talking_about_feelings_rather_than_quotas", + "text": "Talking about feelings rather than quotas" + }, + { + "id": "recognizing_stress_health_and_energy_changes", + "text": "Recognizing stress, health, and energy changes" + }, + { + "id": "keeping_affection_separate_from_obligation", + "text": "Keeping affection separate from obligation" + }, + { + "id": "looking_for_shared_possibilities_not_blame", + "text": "Looking for shared possibilities, not blame" + }, + { + "id": "allowing_the_conversation_to_continue_later", + "text": "Allowing the conversation to continue later" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_224", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes a planned private evening feel protected from interruptions?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "privacy_setting", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_225", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which low-energy option still feels romantic?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "low_energy", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sharing_a_blanket_and_holding_hands", + "text": "Sharing a blanket and holding hands" + }, + { + "id": "a_slow_kiss_before_going_to_sleep", + "text": "A slow kiss before going to sleep" + }, + { + "id": "a_back_rub_with_no_expectations", + "text": "A back rub with no expectations" + }, + { + "id": "listening_to_one_song_while_close", + "text": "Listening to one song while close" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_226", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which quiet form of affection helps after a difficult day?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "affection_nonsexual", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_227", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What helps us avoid taking an awkward pause personally?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "awkward_repair", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_228", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which helps confidence more on an ordinary day?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "an_unexpected_compliment", + "text": "An unexpected compliment" + }, + { + "id": "undivided_admiring_attention", + "text": "Undivided admiring attention" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_229", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How should we handle different aftercare needs without either person feeling rejected?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "aftercare", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_230", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which version of our younger selves would be proud of our closeness now?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "memories_lore", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_231", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "When affection is guaranteed to stay optional, which support matters most on a low-desire day?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "low_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_can_ask_for_less_without_explaining", + "text": "I can ask for less without explaining" + }, + { + "id": "you_follow_my_pace_instead_of_guessing", + "text": "You follow my pace instead of guessing" + }, + { + "id": "we_choose_a_kind_of_touch_i_name", + "text": "We choose a kind of touch I name" + }, + { + "id": "the_moment_can_stay_brief_and_simple", + "text": "The moment can stay brief and simple" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_232", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What could give future private time something to look forward to?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "future_play", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_233", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How safe does it feel to change your mind during a private moment?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not safe enough", + "max_label": "Completely safe" + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_234", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What would make this part of our relationship feel more playful this year?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "broader_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_235", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which part of being desired matters most beyond physical attraction?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "wanted_attraction", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_236", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which things make feedback easier to share?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "feedback", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "choosing_a_calm_time_afterward", + "text": "Choosing a calm time afterward" + }, + { + "id": "beginning_with_what_felt_good", + "text": "Beginning with what felt good" + }, + { + "id": "making_one_clear_request_at_a_time", + "text": "Making one clear request at a time" + }, + { + "id": "listening_without_defending_immediately", + "text": "Listening without defending immediately" + }, + { + "id": "allowing_some_thoughts_to_wait", + "text": "Allowing some thoughts to wait" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_237", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Where does our best flirting usually begin?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", - "looks", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_238", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which part of initiation should feel most shared?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "who_starts_the_conversation", + "text": "Who starts the conversation" + }, + { + "id": "who_sets_the_pace", + "text": "Who sets the pace" + }, + { + "id": "who_suggests_the_next_step", + "text": "Who suggests the next step" + }, + { + "id": "who_can_comfortably_pause_it", + "text": "Who can comfortably pause it" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_239", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What protects your freedom to change your answer after closeness begins?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_240", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which part of the evening most affects your openness to desire?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "transition_stress", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_241", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How confident do you feel receiving genuine compliments from me?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "I deflect them", + "max_label": "I fully receive them" + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_242", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What is a subtle way to say, 'I am 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+ "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What does a healthy rhythm of closeness look like to you?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "desire_rhythms", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_245", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What keeps recurring mismatch talks from turning into scorekeeping?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "mismatched_desire", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_246", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which compliment lands more deeply?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "compliments", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "something_about_my_appearance", + "text": "Something about my appearance" + }, + { + "id": "something_about_my_energy", + "text": "Something about my energy" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_247", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "How can curiosity stay welcome without becoming persuasion?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent_boundaries", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_248", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "Which topics are easier to discuss before a romantic moment?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "communication", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_249", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which future plan sounds most chemistry-friendly?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "future", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "fun_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_cozy_overnight_with_no_schedule", + "text": "A cozy overnight with no schedule" + }, + { + "id": "a_playful_date_in_a_new_place", + "text": "A playful date in a new place" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_favorite_with_extra_privacy", + "text": "A familiar favorite with extra privacy" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_weekend_built_around_rest", + "text": "A quiet weekend built around rest" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_250", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes insecurity talks supportive without making insecurity the focus?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "confidence", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "max_length": 500 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_251", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "After an honest no is fully accepted, which gestures help us stay connected?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "pressure_free_affection_if_welcome", + "text": "Pressure-free affection if welcome" + }, + { + "id": "a_warm_change_of_subject", + "text": "A warm change of subject" + }, + { + "id": "some_space_without_coldness", + "text": "Some space without coldness" + }, + { + "id": "a_different_shared_activity", + "text": "A different shared activity" + }, + { + "id": "trusting_we_can_reconnect_later", + "text": "Trusting we can reconnect later" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 + } + }, + { + "id": "sex_and_desire_252", + "category_id": "sex_and_desire", + "type": "written", + "text": "What keeps curiosity alive while honoring different comfort levels?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "novelty_routine", + "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5317,14 +5548,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_253", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What kind of small touch still gives you a little jolt?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "How much does knowing we have enough time affect your openness?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "sparked", + "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5333,31 +5563,33 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_254", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing I could wear that you would notice all night?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How comfortable are you naming what would feel good emotionally?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "visual", - "notice", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Hard to put into words", + "max_label": "Easy to name clearly" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_255", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a smell that makes you want to be close to me?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "What physical closeness works when one of us needs low stimulation?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "scent", - "senses", + "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5367,32 +5599,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_256", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a song that always makes you want to dance with me?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What helps frequency talks stay kind?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "music", - "dance", + "frequency", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "speaking_about_patterns_instead_of_blame", + "text": "Speaking about patterns instead of blame" + }, + { + "id": "naming_closeness_we_already_value", + "text": "Naming closeness we already value" + }, + { + "id": "making_no_promises_in_the_moment", + "text": "Making no promises in the moment" + }, + { + "id": "choosing_a_calm_time_outside_the_bedroom", + "text": "Choosing a calm time outside the bedroom" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_257", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one flirty text you would smile at on a random Tuesday?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "How can humor help without making either person feel mocked?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "text", + "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5402,14 +5650,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_258", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a small surprise that would feel sweet before bed?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "After vulnerability, what reassurance feels natural?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "bedtime", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5418,31 +5666,40 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_259", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way to make our next hug last a little longer?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which conversation opener feels safer?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "hug", - "closeness", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "can_i_share_something_i_want", + "text": "Can I share something I want?" + }, + { + "id": "would_you_like_to_hear_an_idea", + "text": "Would you like to hear an idea?" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_260", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a small voice-note that would make your whole day?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "What private joke became part of our romantic language?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "voice_note", - "small_gesture", + "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5453,13 +5710,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_261", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing I do that makes you feel a little extra attractive?", + "text": "What playful agreement could make spontaneous affection easier?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "attractive", - "noticed", + "future_play", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5469,31 +5726,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_262", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the most playful way I could ask for a kiss?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which busy-day gesture keeps romantic energy alive?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "kiss", - "playful", + "flirting", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_quick_mischievous_text", + "text": "A quick mischievous text" + }, + { + "id": "a_meaningful_look_while_passing", + "text": "A meaningful look while passing" + }, + { + "id": "a_tiny_favor_with_playful_energy", + "text": "A tiny favor with playful energy" + }, + { + "id": "a_planned_moment_to_reconnect_later", + "text": "A planned moment to reconnect later" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_263", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny moment from this week that felt quietly romantic?", + "text": "What makes my interest feel personal rather than situational?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "romance", - "small_moments", + "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5504,13 +5778,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_264", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one ordinary thing we already do that flirts with me?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "What makes a compliment feel flirtatious rather than simply nice?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", - "ordinary", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5520,31 +5794,53 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_265", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the easiest way to make you laugh and feel close at once?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which signs tell you that we are emotionally connected?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "laughter", - "closeness", + "connection", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "conversation_feels_easy_and_attentive", + "text": "Conversation feels easy and attentive" + }, + { + "id": "affection_does_not_carry_an_agenda", + "text": "Affection does not carry an agenda" + }, + { + "id": "we_can_laugh_without_avoiding_real_feelings", + "text": "We can laugh without avoiding real feelings" + }, + { + "id": "differences_do_not_threaten_warmth", + "text": "Differences do not threaten warmth" + }, + { + "id": "we_both_feel_free_to_be_honest", + "text": "We both feel free to be honest" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_266", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one kind of playful challenge we could try this month?", + "text": "Which part of initiation deserves more playfulness between us?", "depth": 2, - "access": "premium", + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "playful", - "challenge", + "initiation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5554,32 +5850,33 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_267", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one kind of kiss that always makes you melt a little?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How attractive do you feel in our everyday life together?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "kiss", - "melt", + "body_confidence", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Rarely attractive", + "max_label": "Frequently attractive" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_268", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny moment before a kiss that makes it feel electric?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What is a low-effort way to shift from task mode into us mode?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "kiss", - "anticipation", + "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5588,31 +5885,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_269", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the slowest, sweetest kiss we should try this week?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What kind of feedback is easiest to receive?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "kiss", - "slow", + "feedback", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "one_thing_you_especially_enjoyed", + "text": "One thing you especially enjoyed" + }, + { + "id": "a_gentle_request_for_next_time", + "text": "A gentle request for next time" + }, + { + "id": "a_question_about_how_it_felt", + "text": "A question about how it felt" + }, + { + "id": "a_later_conversation_when_relaxed", + "text": "A later conversation when relaxed" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_270", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a hand-on-neck kind of touch that makes you feel chosen?", + "text": "What builds anticipation while keeping every next step optional?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "touch", - "chosen", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5623,14 +5937,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_271", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way to touch your back that instantly relaxes you?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "Which changes in routine affect your interest more than expected?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "back", + "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5639,32 +5952,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_272", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a hand-hold moment that feels more than just holding hands?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes emotional closeness turn into desire?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "touch", - "hand", + "emotional_closeness", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "feeling_deeply_listened_to", + "text": "Feeling deeply listened to" + }, + { + "id": "laughing_until_the_day_feels_lighter", + "text": "Laughing until the day feels lighter" + }, + { + "id": "being_appreciated_in_a_specific_way", + "text": "Being appreciated in a specific way" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_we_have_protected_private_time", + "text": "Knowing we have protected private time" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_273", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one small touch in public that secretly thrills you?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "What does kindness look like when one person wants more closeness?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "public", + "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5674,14 +6003,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_274", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is the best part of a slow build-up before anything happens?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What should always remain true when we try something unfamiliar?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "build_up", - "anticipation", + "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5690,32 +6019,39 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_275", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one thing that always gets your heart beating faster?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which helps desire survive a busy season?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "heart", - "sparked", + "busy_life", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "protecting_small_couple_rituals", + "text": "Protecting small couple rituals" + }, + { + "id": "planning_occasional_bigger_moments", + "text": "Planning occasional bigger moments" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_276", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is the cutest way to start a flirty moment at home?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "How should we revisit a conversation that felt unfinished?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirting", - "at_home", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5725,14 +6061,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_277", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a sleepy kind of affection that still feels romantic?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "Which attention helps confidence grow naturally?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sleepy", - "affection", + "confidence", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5741,31 +6076,33 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_278", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the most comforting way to be held after a long day?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easily can we laugh when a romantic moment gets awkward?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "comfort", - "held", + "awkwardness", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not easily", + "max_label": "Very easily" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_279", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one word I could whisper that always makes you smile?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", + "text": "What makes experimenting feel playful rather than goal-oriented?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "whisper", - "smile", + "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5775,32 +6112,47 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_280", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny morning gesture that makes you feel loved all day?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which desire difference is easiest to navigate?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "morning", - "gesture", + "differences", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "different_preferred_times_of_day", + "text": "Different preferred times of day" + }, + { + "id": "different_speeds_of_getting_interested", + "text": "Different speeds of getting interested" + }, + { + "id": "different_amounts_of_advance_planning", + "text": "Different amounts of advance planning" + }, + { + "id": "different_needs_for_affection_afterward", + "text": "Different needs for affection afterward" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_281", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we can end a date with a spark still glowing?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What small environmental detail changes the mood fastest for you?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "date_end", - "spark", + "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5809,31 +6161,53 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_282", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a small wink or smile that always means I want you close?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "With pausing always welcome, what supports confidence during closeness?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "signal", - "want_close", + "confidence", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "attention_that_is_not_evaluative", + "text": "Attention that is not evaluative" + }, + { + "id": "lighting_or_clothing_that_feels_comfortable", + "text": "Lighting or clothing that feels comfortable" + }, + { + "id": "permission_to_guide_the_pace", + "text": "Permission to guide the pace" + }, + { + "id": "compliments_that_sound_specific_and_true", + "text": "Compliments that sound specific and true" + }, + { + "id": "careful_attention_without_staring", + "text": "Careful attention without staring" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_283", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a playful dare we could try on a lazy Sunday?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "Which playful touch also feels clearly pressure-free?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "playful", - "dare", + "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5844,14 +6218,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_284", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny game we could play that flirts without words?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "What would make trying again later feel natural?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "game", - "flirting", + "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5860,32 +6233,49 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_285", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the funniest flirty thing you have ever done?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which ordinary moment has the best spark potential?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirty", - "funny", + "daily_life", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "reuniting_at_the_end_of_the_day", + "text": "Reuniting at the end of the day" + }, + { + "id": "cooking_together_after_everyone_settles", + "text": "Cooking together after everyone settles" + }, + { + "id": "a_quiet_goodbye_before_leaving", + "text": "A quiet goodbye before leaving" + }, + { + "id": "getting_ready_side_by_side", + "text": "Getting ready side by side" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_286", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one inside joke that always makes us a little closer?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "What makes the ending of private time feel unhurried?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "inside_joke", - "closeness", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -5895,13 +6285,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_287", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a small role-play idea that would make us both laugh?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "premium", + "text": "When have we handled a difference in desire especially well?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", "tags": [ - "role_play", - "playful", + "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5911,31 +6301,33 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_288", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a song we should slow-dance to in the kitchen?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How easy is it to notice when I am attracted to you?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "music", - "kitchen_dance", + "attraction", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Hard to notice", + "max_label": "Very easy to notice" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_289", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a silly compliment that always makes me smile back?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "Which season brings out the most romantic version of us?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "compliment", - "silly", + "future_play", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5946,13 +6338,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_290", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a sweet nickname you would like to hear more often?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "How would you like me to show that I am excited to be close?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "nickname", - "sweet", + "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5962,31 +6354,39 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_291", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we could bring back our first-date energy?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "When chemistry gets interrupted, which reset feels better?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "first_date", - "spark", + "awkwardness", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "laugh_and_reset_together", + "text": "Laugh and reset together" + }, + { + "id": "pause_and_talk_softly", + "text": "Pause and talk softly" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_292", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny adventure that flirts and thrills at the same time?", + "text": "Which version of us is the most naturally playful together?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "adventure", - "flirt", + "flirting", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -5996,32 +6396,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_293", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is one small way we can flirt over dinner this week?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which private ritual best captures our particular chemistry?", + "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "dinner", - "flirt", + "couple_lore", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_private_phrase_nobody_else_understands", + "text": "A private phrase nobody else understands" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_song_with_shared_history", + "text": "A familiar song with shared history" + }, + { + "id": "a_ritual_we_invented_together", + "text": "A ritual we invented together" + }, + { + "id": "a_look_that_carries_an_entire_conversation", + "text": "A look that carries an entire conversation" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_294", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is the cutest secret we have shared about our spark?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "What makes being approached feel thoughtful rather than assumed?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "secret", - "spark", + "initiation", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6030,135 +6446,105 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_295", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of playful line would make you laugh the most?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What helps a flirty conversation stay comfortable?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "playful", - "humor", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "sweet_silly", - "text": "A sweet and silly line" + "id": "privacy_from_other_people", + "text": "Privacy from other people" }, { - "id": "mock_dramatic", - "text": "A mock-dramatic confession" + "id": "room_to_laugh_or_change_the_subject", + "text": "Room to laugh or change the subject" }, { - "id": "callback_joke", - "text": "A callback to an old inside joke" + "id": "questions_that_do_not_demand_disclosure", + "text": "Questions that do not demand disclosure" }, { - "id": "movie_quote", - "text": "A ridiculous movie quote" + "id": "no_assumption_that_talk_becomes_action", + "text": "No assumption that talk becomes action" + }, + { + "id": "kindness_if_our_answers_differ", + "text": "Kindness if our answers differ" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_296", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which sweet nickname would you wear with a smile?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "How can I help without making relaxation feel like a transaction?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "nickname", - "sweet", + "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "soft_classic", - "text": "A soft classic like honey" - }, - { - "id": "playful_silly", - "text": "A playful silly one" - }, - { - "id": "tiny_pet", - "text": "A tiny pet name only we use" - }, - { - "id": "inside_joke_nick", - "text": "An inside-joke nickname" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_297", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which tiny adventure would spark our flirty side fastest?", + "type": "written", + "text": "What countdown would feel playful rather than serious?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "adventure", - "flirty", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "dessert_run", - "text": "A late-night dessert run" - }, - { - "id": "scenic_drive", - "text": "A scenic drive with music" - }, - { - "id": "kitchen_dance", - "text": "A two-song kitchen dance" - }, - { - "id": "silly_photo", - "text": "A silly photo session at home" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_298", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which tiny gesture would feel the most flirtatious today?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "text": "Once a no is fully safe, what helps a yes feel genuinely chosen?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "gesture", - "flirt", + "consent", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "love_note", - "text": "A love note in my bag" + "id": "the_invitation_reflects_my_actual_mood", + "text": "The invitation reflects my actual mood" }, { - "id": "long_hug", - "text": "A long hug at the door" + "id": "time_to_notice_what_i_really_want", + "text": "Time to notice what I really want" }, { - "id": "flirty_text", - "text": "A flirty text out of nowhere" + "id": "a_question_that_is_clear_and_specific", + "text": "A question that is clear and specific" }, { - "id": "wink_smirk", - "text": "A wink across the room" + "id": "freedom_to_change_my_mind_later", + "text": "Freedom to change my mind later" } ] } @@ -6167,14 +6553,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_299", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one flirty line that always lands in a text?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "How do you know when you want affection but not anything further?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirty", - "text", + "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6184,14 +6569,14 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_300", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a sweet way to flirt while you cook me dinner?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "How could we celebrate an honest no as part of trust?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirt", - "cooking", + "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6200,32 +6585,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_301", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the easiest flirty thing to do on a grocery run?", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How much anticipation do you enjoy before private time?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirt", - "everyday", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Very little", + "max_label": "A long slow build" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_302", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one slow dance we should still do in the living room?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "How would you like me to respond when you need more time?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dance", - "slow", + "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6235,14 +6623,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_303", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny surprise that says I am thinking about you?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "What makes clarification easier than pretending to understand?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "thinking", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6251,32 +6638,47 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_304", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a small gesture that makes you feel pursued?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which attention feels flattering without becoming intense?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "pursued", - "gesture", + "confidence", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_private_glance_that_does_not_linger_too_long", + "text": "A private glance that does not linger too long" + }, + { + "id": "specific_words_about_your_presence", + "text": "Specific words about your presence" + }, + { + "id": "affection_focused_on_comfort", + "text": "Affection focused on comfort" + }, + { + "id": "being_asked_what_kind_of_attention_feels_good", + "text": "Being asked what kind of attention feels good" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_305", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one way we can make a regular night feel more romantic?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "What helps desire feel possible when you do not feel your best?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "romance", - "ordinary_night", + "confidence", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6285,31 +6687,40 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_306", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a little ritual we could start before bedtime?", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which creates more anticipation for you?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "ritual", - "bedtime", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "hints_spread_through_the_day", + "text": "Hints spread through the day" + }, + { + "id": "one_bold_surprise_later", + "text": "One bold surprise later" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_307", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny morning ritual that flirts without trying?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "When would planning something new feel more exciting than spontaneity?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "morning", - "ritual", + "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -6320,14 +6731,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_308", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one easy way to make eye contact feel electric?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "What makes privacy feel secure without making the plan feel secretive?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "eye_contact", - "electric", + "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -6336,31 +6746,53 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_309", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a small thing you do that I find secretly attractive?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "What can make desire harder to access?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "attractive", - "secret", + "barriers", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "exhaustion_that_has_not_eased", + "text": "Exhaustion that has not eased" + }, + { + "id": "feeling_rushed_or_observed", + "text": "Feeling rushed or observed" + }, + { + "id": "unfinished_conflict_between_us", + "text": "Unfinished conflict between us" + }, + { + "id": "pressure_to_respond_a_certain_way", + "text": "Pressure to respond a certain way" + }, + { + "id": "too_many_distractions_nearby", + "text": "Too many distractions nearby" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_310", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one flirty habit we should bring back?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "When does sitting close say more than a conversation?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "flirty_habit", - "bring_back", + "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -6371,32 +6803,32 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_311", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which small surprise would make you feel most pursued?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "Which compliment feels most believable to you?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "pursued", + "compliments", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "love_note", - "text": "A love note tucked somewhere I will find it" + "id": "something_specific_i_noticed_today", + "text": "Something specific I noticed today" }, { - "id": "song_link", - "text": "A song sent with one word" + "id": "praise_for_how_you_carry_yourself", + "text": "Praise for how you carry yourself" }, { - "id": "favorite_snack", - "text": "My favorite snack waiting at home" + "id": "words_about_the_effect_you_have_on_me", + "text": "Words about the effect you have on me" }, { - "id": "midday_text", - "text": "A midday text that says I miss you" + "id": "a_quiet_comment_meant_only_for_you", + "text": "A quiet comment meant only for you" } ] } @@ -6404,179 +6836,120 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_312", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which flirty text would make you smile all afternoon?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "How should we end a moment that no longer feels right?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirty_text", - "smile", + "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "thinking_you", - "text": "Just thinking about you" - }, - { - "id": "lunch_mention", - "text": "Cannot stop thinking about lunch with you" - }, - { - "id": "plan_suggest", - "text": "I have an idea for tonight" - }, - { - "id": "callback_flirt", - "text": "Remember when we did that thing? do it again" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_313", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which tiny adventure would make tonight feel less ordinary?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "What carries warmth into the rest of the day?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "adventure", - "tonight", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "ice_cream", - "text": "An ice cream run at 9pm" - }, - { - "id": "porch_sit", - "text": "A long sit on the porch" - }, - { - "id": "favorite_song", - "text": "Play our favorite song loud" - }, - { - "id": "silly_video", - "text": "Watch a silly video and laugh together" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_314", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which small touch would feel most wanted today?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How cared for do you feel after an emotionally intense private moment?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "wanted", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "long_hug", - "text": "A long hug that says I choose you" - }, - { - "id": "hair_touch", - "text": "A soft touch through the hair" - }, - { - "id": "shoulder_squeeze", - "text": "A shoulder squeeze as I pass by" - }, - { - "id": "back_rub", - "text": "A slow back rub for two minutes" - } - ] + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not cared for enough", + "max_label": "Very cared for" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_315", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Surprise note or surprise kiss?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "What moment made you feel safely bold with me?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "fun", + "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "note", - "text": "A surprise note" - }, - { - "id": "kiss", - "text": "A surprise kiss" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_316", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Eye contact across the room or a flirty text?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "What would make a planned night feel personal rather than scheduled?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "eye_contact", - "text", + "future_play", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "eye_contact", - "text": "Eye contact across the room" - }, - { - "id": "flirty_text", - "text": "A flirty text" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_317", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Slow song or playful song first?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What should a good desire conversation leave behind?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "music", - "mood", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "slow_song", - "text": "A slow song first" + "id": "more_understanding_without_new_pressure", + "text": "More understanding without new pressure" }, { - "id": "playful_song", - "text": "A playful song first" + "id": "a_practical_idea_we_both_like", + "text": "A practical idea we both like" + }, + { + "id": "permission_to_think_and_revisit_later", + "text": "Permission to think and revisit later" + }, + { + "id": "warmth_even_when_answers_differ", + "text": "Warmth even when answers differ" } ] } @@ -6584,93 +6957,59 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_318", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Long hug or a slow kiss?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes feeling wanted playful instead of emotionally heavy?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "hug", - "kiss", + "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "long_hug", - "text": "A long hug" - }, - { - "id": "slow_kiss", - "text": "A slow kiss" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_319", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which little gesture would feel most like I am thinking of you?", + "type": "written", + "text": "What would make flirting feel fresh without making it feel forced?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "gesture", - "thinking", + "flirting", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "send_meme", - "text": "Send a meme that reminded me of you" - }, - { - "id": "favorite_food", - "text": "Bring home your favorite snack" - }, - { - "id": "save_song", - "text": "Save a song for you to find" - }, - { - "id": "quick_call", - "text": "Call just to hear your voice" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_320", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which small word would make you feel most chosen?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", + "type": "this_or_that", + "text": "Which aftercare helps you settle more?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "word", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "stay", - "text": "Stay" + "id": "close_quiet_contact", + "text": "Close quiet contact" }, { - "id": "closer", - "text": "Come closer" - }, - { - "id": "mine", - "text": "Mine" - }, - { - "id": "wanted", - "text": "You are wanted" + "id": "gentle_conversation_afterward", + "text": "Gentle conversation afterward" } ] } @@ -6678,135 +7017,105 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_321", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which tiny ritual would brighten an ordinary morning?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "How could we make room for both spontaneous and planned initiation?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "ritual", - "morning", + "initiation", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "first_coffee", - "text": "Coffee together before phones" - }, - { - "id": "morning_kiss", - "text": "A slow good-morning kiss" - }, - { - "id": "two_minute_hug", - "text": "A two-minute hug in the kitchen" - }, - { - "id": "love_note", - "text": "A love note on the mirror" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_322", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which small line would make the kids-bedtime race end cuter?", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which forms of anticipation sound enjoyable?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "after_kids", - "flirty", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "high_five", - "text": "A flirty high-five" + "id": "a_playful_message_earlier_in_the_day", + "text": "A playful message earlier in the day" }, { - "id": "long_hug", - "text": "A long hug in the hallway" + "id": "a_private_plan_with_flexible_timing", + "text": "A private plan with flexible timing" }, { - "id": "whisper_plan", - "text": "A whisper about a plan" + "id": "a_compliment_that_lingers_in_your_mind", + "text": "A compliment that lingers in your mind" }, { - "id": "slow_walk", - "text": "A slow walk to our room" + "id": "a_shared_joke_about_later", + "text": "A shared joke about later" + }, + { + "id": "a_slow_affectionate_buildup", + "text": "A slow affectionate buildup" } - ] + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_323", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which sweet plan would feel most romantic this month?", - "depth": 2, + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes a tired night feel connected even if nothing physical follows?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "plan", - "romance", + "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sunset_drive", - "text": "A sunset drive with music" - }, - { - "id": "fancy_dinner", - "text": "A fancy dinner at a new place" - }, - { - "id": "cook_together", - "text": "Cook a new recipe together" - }, - { - "id": "stargazing", - "text": "Stargazing with hot drinks" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_324", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which silly prompt would you pick for a flirty game tonight?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "During body changes, what helps you feel attractive?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "game", - "silly", + "body_changes", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "would_you_rather", - "text": "A flirty would-you-rather" + "id": "consistent_affection_that_does_not_compare", + "text": "Consistent affection that does not compare" }, { - "id": "two_truths_lie", - "text": "Two truths and a lie about us" + "id": "compliments_about_more_than_appearance", + "text": "Compliments about more than appearance" }, { - "id": "secret_word", - "text": "A secret word only we know tonight" + "id": "patience_with_changing_comfort_levels", + "text": "Patience with changing comfort levels" }, { - "id": "silly_dare", - "text": "A tiny silly dare" + "id": "being_invited_to_say_what_feels_good_now", + "text": "Being invited to say what feels good now" } ] } @@ -6814,263 +7123,162 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_325", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which bedtime cue would feel most welcomed tonight?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "Which ordinary moment could become the beginning of a slow build?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "bedtime", - "cue", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "back_scratch", - "text": "A slow back scratch" - }, - { - "id": "hair_stroke", - "text": "Soft hair stroking" - }, - { - "id": "low_voice", - "text": "A low voice asking about my day" - }, - { - "id": "long_hug", - "text": "A long full-body hug" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_326", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which sweet line would you want to hear right now?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "What would make conversations about frequency feel kinder?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sweet", - "line", + "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "you_glow", - "text": "You are glowing today" - }, - { - "id": "love_look", - "text": "I love the way you look right now" - }, - { - "id": "missing_you", - "text": "I missed you more than I expected" - }, - { - "id": "stay_close", - "text": "Stay close to me" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_327", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which tiny things make you feel noticed?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "scale", + "text": "How clearly do we separate affection from expectation?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "noticed", - "tiny", + "affection_expectation", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "saved_snack", - "text": "My favorite snack saved for me" - }, - { - "id": "remembered_thing", - "text": "You remembered something small I mentioned" - }, - { - "id": "warm_look", - "text": "A warm look across a crowded room" - }, - { - "id": "soft_text", - "text": "A soft text checking in on me" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Not clearly", + "max_label": "Very clearly" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_328", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which small things make you feel romanced at home?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "What helps both people feel respected when plans change?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "romanced", - "at_home", + "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "love_note", - "text": "A love note tucked somewhere I will find it" - }, - { - "id": "kitchen_dance", - "text": "A two-song dance in the kitchen" - }, - { - "id": "favorite_dish", - "text": "Cooking my favorite meal" - }, - { - "id": "candles_set", - "text": "Candles set up when I get home" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_329", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which sounds make our space feel romantic?", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which anticipation would brighten your day?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "sounds", - "romantic", + "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "soft_music", - "text": "Soft music in the background" + "id": "a_note_about_a_private_plan", + "text": "A note about a private plan" }, { - "id": "low_laugh", - "text": "Our low laugh together" + "id": "a_time_set_aside_just_for_us", + "text": "A time set aside just for us" }, { - "id": "rain_window", - "text": "Rain on the window" + "id": "a_playful_clue_with_no_obligation", + "text": "A playful clue with no obligation" }, { - "id": "low_voice", - "text": "A low voice saying something sweet" + "id": "a_promise_of_uninterrupted_affection", + "text": "A promise of uninterrupted affection" } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_330", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "multi_choice", - "text": "Which small touches feel flirtatious during the day?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "What helps consent feel like an ongoing conversation rather than one question?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "touch", - "flirty", + "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "low_back_hand", - "text": "A hand on the low back walking past" - }, - { - "id": "shoulder_squeeze", - "text": "A shoulder squeeze as I pass" - }, - { - "id": "hair_touch", - "text": "A quick touch through the hair" - }, - { - "id": "wrist_squeeze", - "text": "A wrist squeeze in the kitchen" - } - ], - "min_selections": 1, - "max_selections": 3 + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_331", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Slow dance or silly dance first?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "What makes 'I do not know yet' feel like a complete answer?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "dance", - "mood", + "communication", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "slow_dance", - "text": "A slow dance first" - }, - { - "id": "silly_dance", - "text": "A silly dance first" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_332", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Sweet whisper or playful tease?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "Which affection feels more charged?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "whisper", - "tease", + "affection", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "sweet_whisper", - "text": "A sweet whisper" + "id": "a_long_unhurried_hug", + "text": "A long unhurried hug" }, { - "id": "playful_tease", - "text": "A playful tease" + "id": "a_quick_meaningful_touch", + "text": "A quick meaningful touch" } ] } @@ -7078,147 +7286,153 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_333", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Romantic movie or silly rom-com tonight?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "How can I show attraction while respecting days when attention feels uncomfortable?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "movie", - "mood", + "confidence", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "romantic", - "text": "A romantic movie" - }, - { - "id": "silly_romcom", - "text": "A silly rom-com" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_334", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "this_or_that", - "text": "Cuddle on the couch or cozy on the porch?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "What tiny ritual could keep desire from disappearing into routine?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "cozy", - "cuddle", + "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "couch", - "text": "Cuddle on the couch" - }, - { - "id": "porch", - "text": "Cozy on the porch" - } - ] + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_335", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How sparky do we feel today?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "After closeness, which connection matters most?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sparky", - "today", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Pretty calm", - "max_label": "Electric" + "options": [ + { + "id": "feeling_emotionally_reassured", + "text": "Feeling emotionally reassured" + }, + { + "id": "staying_physically_near_for_a_while", + "text": "Staying physically near for a while" + }, + { + "id": "being_able_to_talk_or_laugh_normally", + "text": "Being able to talk or laugh normally" + }, + { + "id": "knowing_any_feedback_can_wait", + "text": "Knowing any feedback can wait" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_336", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How flirty do you want tonight to feel?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "written", + "text": "What setting helps conversation about desire feel easiest?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "flirty", - "tonight", + "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very flirty", - "max_label": "Very flirty" + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_337", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How much would a tiny surprise brighten your day?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "type": "multi_choice", + "text": "Which forms of aftercare might feel good depending on the day?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "surprise", - "brighten", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not much", - "max_label": "A lot" + "options": [ + { + "id": "quiet_physical_closeness", + "text": "Quiet physical closeness" + }, + { + "id": "water_a_snack_or_practical_comfort", + "text": "Water, a snack, or practical comfort" + }, + { + "id": "warm_reassurance_in_a_few_words", + "text": "Warm reassurance in a few words" + }, + { + "id": "light_conversation_or_shared_humor", + "text": "Light conversation or shared humor" + }, + { + "id": "some_peaceful_space_with_no_offense_taken", + "text": "Some peaceful space with no offense taken" + } + ], + "min_selections": 1, + "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_338", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "scale", - "text": "How cute would a slow song in the kitchen feel?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "written", + "text": "What affectionate habit would make our home feel warmer?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "cute", - "slow_song", + "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "min": 1, - "max": 5, - "min_label": "Not very cute", - "max_label": "Super cute" + "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_339", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny favor that feels secretly romantic?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "What turns an imperfect experience into a good memory anyway?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "favor", - "romantic", + "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -7227,32 +7441,35 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_340", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is the cutest thing you have caught me doing recently?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "scale", + "text": "How welcome does spontaneous affection feel lately?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "caught", - "cute", + "affection", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "min": 1, + "max": 5, + "min_label": "Usually not welcome", + "max_label": "Usually very welcome" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_341", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one easy way to make our weekend feel romantic?", - "depth": 1, - "access": "free", + "text": "What would make post-intimacy feedback easier to hear?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "weekend", - "romantic", + "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", - "fun_first" + "consent_first", + "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 @@ -7261,31 +7478,48 @@ { "id": "sex_and_desire_342", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", - "type": "written", - "text": "What is a sweet moment from this week you want to remember?", - "depth": 1, + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which type of affection feels complete on its own?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "remember", - "sweet", + "affection", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { - "max_length": 500 + "options": [ + { + "id": "being_held_close_without_a_hurry", + "text": "Being held close without a hurry" + }, + { + "id": "holding_hands_under_a_blanket", + "text": "Holding hands under a blanket" + }, + { + "id": "a_forehead_kiss_before_sleep", + "text": "A forehead kiss before sleep" + }, + { + "id": "sitting_close_with_legs_touching", + "text": "Sitting close with legs touching" + } + ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_343", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is a tiny thing that makes you feel chosen today?", + "text": "Which shared memory would you gladly recreate with one small change?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "chosen", - "today", + "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { @@ -7296,13 +7530,13 @@ "id": "sex_and_desire_344", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", - "text": "What is one little ritual that would feel like our own kind of closeness?", - "depth": 1, + "text": "What small promise about closeness would feel realistic and exciting?", + "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "ritual", - "love", + "future_play", "sex_and_desire", + "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { diff --git a/seed/questions/sexual_preferences.json b/seed/questions/sexual_preferences.json index 568c4e85..da7c0dd3 100644 --- a/seed/questions/sexual_preferences.json +++ b/seed/questions/sexual_preferences.json @@ -19,10 +19,8 @@ "male": 20 }, "desire_sync_pairs": 20, - "content_version": "sexual_preferences_revised_v3", - "batch_size": 25, - "special_pack_exception": "150 single-choice questions retained for current Desire Sync compatibility; female/male keys form 20 paired yes/no entries.", - "targeting_note": "Neutral questions work for all couples. Female/male values are retained only as current Desire Sync pairing keys; paired wording is role-based and non-stereotyped." + "content_version": "sexual_preferences_revised_v2", + "targeting_note": "The female/male values are retained as Desire Sync pairing keys. Paired wording is inclusive and role-based because the current game UI presents Partner A and Partner B." } }, "questions": [ @@ -31,7 +29,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which flirting style gets your attention fastest?", + "text": "Which kind of flirting gets your attention fastest?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -88,8 +86,8 @@ "text": "Deep and focused" }, { - "id": "mischievous_and_lingering", - "text": "Mischievous and lingering" + "id": "playful_and_teasing", + "text": "Playful and teasing" } ] } @@ -114,8 +112,8 @@ "text": "Pull me closer" }, { - "id": "whisper_what_you_want", - "text": "Whisper what you want" + "id": "whisper_to_me", + "text": "Whisper to me" }, { "id": "kiss_me_first", @@ -167,7 +165,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How much teasing feels good before things become more direct?", + "text": "How do you feel about being teased before things get more direct?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -201,7 +199,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What mood brings out your most playful desire?", + "text": "What mood turns you on most?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -216,8 +214,8 @@ "text": "Soft and romantic" }, { - "id": "mischievous_and_flirty", - "text": "Mischievous and flirty" + "id": "playful_with_a_smirk", + "text": "Playful with a smirk" }, { "id": "bold_and_confident", @@ -288,8 +286,8 @@ "text": "Only when they are specific" }, { - "id": "it_depends_on_my_mood", - "text": "It depends on my mood" + "id": "depends_on_my_mood", + "text": "Depends on my mood" }, { "id": "i_prefer_other_compliments", @@ -303,7 +301,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of praise makes you feel most wanted?", + "text": "What kind of compliment makes you feel most wanted?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -318,16 +316,16 @@ "text": "Something about my body" }, { - "id": "hearing_how_much_i_am_wanted", - "text": "Hearing how much I am wanted" + "id": "hearing_that_you_want_me", + "text": "Hearing that you want me" }, { - "id": "a_very_specific_detail", - "text": "A very specific detail" + "id": "something_very_specific", + "text": "Something very specific" }, { - "id": "how_i_make_you_feel", - "text": "How I make you feel" + "id": "praise_for_how_i_make_you_feel", + "text": "Praise for how I make you feel" } ] } @@ -337,7 +335,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which pace feels best when intimacy is just beginning?", + "text": "Which pace usually feels best at the beginning?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -360,8 +358,8 @@ "text": "Follow the chemistry" }, { - "id": "direct_after_a_clear_yes", - "text": "Direct after a clear yes" + "id": "direct_once_we_both_agree", + "text": "Direct once we both agree" } ] } @@ -371,7 +369,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you say exactly what you want?", + "text": "What helps you feel comfortable saying exactly what you want?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -409,7 +407,7 @@ "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "feedback", + "communication", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -439,11 +437,11 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What style of sexy talk feels most natural to you?", + "text": "Which kind of sexy talk sounds most like your style?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "sexy_talk", + "dirty_talk", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -477,7 +475,7 @@ "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "messages", + "sexting", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -526,8 +524,8 @@ "text": "Long eye contact" }, { - "id": "small_welcome_touches", - "text": "Small welcome touches" + "id": "small_touches", + "text": "Small touches" }, { "id": "a_clear_invitation", @@ -575,7 +573,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which privacy condition helps you stay present?", + "text": "What kind of privacy helps you stay present?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -594,8 +592,8 @@ "text": "Phones put away" }, { - "id": "plenty_of_unhurried_time", - "text": "Plenty of unhurried time" + "id": "plenty_of_time", + "text": "Plenty of time" }, { "id": "a_quiet_house", @@ -643,11 +641,11 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which desire style feels most like you lately?", + "text": "Which desire style feels most like you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "desire_style", + "style", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -677,7 +675,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes your partner's desire feel unmistakable?", + "text": "What makes desire from your partner feel unmistakable?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -711,31 +709,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When do you most enjoy letting your partner lead?", + "text": "How do you feel when your partner takes the lead?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "roles", + "leading", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "after_a_clear_invitation", - "text": "After a clear invitation" + "id": "i_love_it", + "text": "I love it" }, { - "id": "when_i_feel_fully_relaxed", - "text": "When I feel fully relaxed" + "id": "i_like_taking_turns", + "text": "I like taking turns" }, { - "id": "during_playful_moments", - "text": "During playful moments" + "id": "only_after_a_clear_check_in", + "text": "Only after a clear check-in" }, { - "id": "i_prefer_sharing_the_lead", - "text": "I prefer sharing the lead" + "id": "i_usually_prefer_to_lead", + "text": "I usually prefer to lead" } ] } @@ -745,31 +743,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of confidence feels sexy instead of pushy?", + "text": "Which leading style feels best?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "confidence", + "leading", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "attentive_and_responsive", - "text": "Attentive and responsive" + "id": "gentle_and_patient", + "text": "Gentle and patient" }, { - "id": "decisive_after_checking_in", - "text": "Decisive after checking in" + "id": "confident_and_clear", + "text": "Confident and clear" }, { - "id": "playful_and_warm", - "text": "Playful and warm" + "id": "playful_and_responsive", + "text": "Playful and responsive" }, { - "id": "clear_about_wanting_me", - "text": "Clear about wanting me" + "id": "taking_turns_naturally", + "text": "Taking turns naturally" } ] } @@ -784,7 +782,6 @@ "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", - "initiation", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -803,8 +800,8 @@ "text": "Good timing" }, { - "id": "interest_without_expectation", - "text": "Interest without expectation" + "id": "clear_interest_without_expectation", + "text": "Clear interest without expectation" } ] } @@ -819,7 +816,6 @@ "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", - "pause", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -849,12 +845,11 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What response should always follow a pause signal?", + "text": "What should a pause always mean between us?", "depth": 5, "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", - "pause", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -869,8 +864,8 @@ "text": "Slow down and check in" }, { - "id": "create_some_breathing_room", - "text": "Create some breathing room" + "id": "give_me_space", + "text": "Give me space" }, { "id": "switch_to_nonsexual_closeness", @@ -957,7 +952,6 @@ "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", - "reassurance", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -992,7 +986,6 @@ "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", - "boundaries", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -1027,7 +1020,6 @@ "access": "free", "tags": [ "spontaneity", - "boundaries", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -1046,8 +1038,8 @@ "text": "Only when I am relaxed" }, { - "id": "keep_surprises_nonsexual", - "text": "Keep surprises nonsexual" + "id": "keep_surprise_affection_nonsexual", + "text": "Keep surprise affection nonsexual" } ] } @@ -1057,7 +1049,7 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of build-up deserves more time?", + "text": "Which kind of touch deserves more time before sex?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -1193,31 +1185,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you feel free to be a little silly?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What helps you feel safe enough to be more playful?", + "depth": 4, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "playfulness", + "safety", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "trusting_i_will_not_be_judged", - "text": "Trusting I will not be judged" + "id": "trust", + "text": "Trust" }, { - "id": "knowing_laughter_is_welcome", - "text": "Knowing laughter is welcome" + "id": "privacy", + "text": "Privacy" }, { - "id": "having_plenty_of_privacy", - "text": "Having plenty of privacy" + "id": "no_judgment", + "text": "No judgment" }, { - "id": "starting_with_something_familiar", - "text": "Starting with something familiar" + "id": "easy_laughter", + "text": "Easy laughter" } ] } @@ -1227,31 +1219,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How would you like to be invited tonight?", + "text": "How would you like to be asked what you want tonight?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "invitation", + "communication", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_direct_question", - "text": "A direct question" + "id": "sweetly", + "text": "Sweetly" }, { - "id": "a_lingering_kiss_then_ask", - "text": "A lingering kiss, then ask" + "id": "playfully", + "text": "Playfully" }, { - "id": "a_playful_message_first", - "text": "A playful message first" + "id": "directly", + "text": "Directly" }, { - "id": "let_me_make_the_first_move", - "text": "Let me make the first move" + "id": "let_me_volunteer_it", + "text": "Let me volunteer it" } ] } @@ -1261,32 +1253,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which phrase best communicates that you are unsure?", + "text": "Which phrase would make sharing a desire easier?", "depth": 4, "access": "free", "tags": [ "communication", - "consent", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "i_need_a_minute", - "text": "I need a minute" + "id": "you_can_say_anything", + "text": "You can say anything" }, { - "id": "maybe_but_go_slowly", - "text": "Maybe, but go slowly" + "id": "no_pressure_either_way", + "text": "No pressure either way" }, { - "id": "can_we_check_in_first", - "text": "Can we check in first?" + "id": "we_can_stop_anytime", + "text": "We can stop anytime" }, { - "id": "i_am_not_ready_to_decide", - "text": "I am not ready to decide" + "id": "i_am_curious_not_expecting", + "text": "I am curious, not expecting" } ] } @@ -1296,31 +1287,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What role should laughter play during intimacy?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "What kind of bedroom energy feels most like you?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "humor", + "mood", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_lot_it_keeps_things_fun", - "text": "A lot—it keeps things fun" + "id": "tender", + "text": "Tender" }, { - "id": "a_little_when_it_happens", - "text": "A little, when it happens" + "id": "hungry", + "text": "Hungry" }, { - "id": "only_after_awkward_moments", - "text": "Only after awkward moments" + "id": "playful", + "text": "Playful" }, { - "id": "i_prefer_a_more_serious_mood", - "text": "I prefer a more serious mood" + "id": "slow_and_focused", + "text": "Slow and focused" } ] } @@ -1330,7 +1321,41 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes a private moment feel most like us?", + "text": "How much laughter belongs in intimate moments?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "fun", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_lot", + "text": "A lot" + }, + { + "id": "a_little", + "text": "A little" + }, + { + "id": "only_when_something_is_funny", + "text": "Only when something is funny" + }, + { + "id": "i_prefer_a_serious_mood", + "text": "I prefer a serious mood" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_040", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes intimacy feel most like us?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ @@ -1341,54 +1366,20 @@ "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "our_inside_jokes", - "text": "Our inside jokes" + "id": "laughing_together", + "text": "Laughing together" }, { - "id": "a_familiar_ritual", - "text": "A familiar ritual" + "id": "strong_eye_contact", + "text": "Strong eye contact" }, { - "id": "trying_something_we_chose_together", - "text": "Trying something we chose together" + "id": "our_private_language", + "text": "Our private language" }, { - "id": "being_completely_unhurried", - "text": "Being completely unhurried" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_040", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of pursuit feels most flattering?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "pursuit", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "clear_and_direct", - "text": "Clear and direct" - }, - { - "id": "slow_and_patient", - "text": "Slow and patient" - }, - { - "id": "playfully_persistent_after_encouragement", - "text": "Playfully persistent after encouragement" - }, - { - "id": "waiting_for_me_to_initiate", - "text": "Waiting for me to initiate" + "id": "being_fully_present", + "text": "Being fully present" } ] } @@ -1398,31 +1389,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How should intimate plans usually happen?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "Which gesture would make you feel most desired?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "planning", + "feeling_wanted", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "planned_in_advance", - "text": "Planned in advance" + "id": "a_planned_private_night", + "text": "A planned private night" }, { - "id": "spontaneous_when_the_mood_hits", - "text": "Spontaneous when the mood hits" + "id": "a_spontaneous_kiss", + "text": "A spontaneous kiss" }, { - "id": "a_loose_plan_with_room_to_change", - "text": "A loose plan with room to change" + "id": "a_flirty_message", + "text": "A flirty message" }, { - "id": "a_mix_depending_on_the_week", - "text": "A mix depending on the week" + "id": "slow_focused_attention", + "text": "Slow focused attention" } ] } @@ -1432,8 +1423,42 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When are you naturally most open to intimacy?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "How do you prefer intimacy to happen?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "planning", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "mostly_planned", + "text": "Mostly planned" + }, + { + "id": "mostly_spontaneous", + "text": "Mostly spontaneous" + }, + { + "id": "a_mix_of_both", + "text": "A mix of both" + }, + { + "id": "it_depends_on_my_energy", + "text": "It depends on my energy" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_043", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "When are you most open to intimacy?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "timing", @@ -1455,43 +1480,8 @@ "text": "Evening" }, { - "id": "it_varies_completely", - "text": "It varies completely" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_043", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you switch from daily stress into desire?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "transition", - "stress", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_shower", - "text": "A shower" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_time_alone", - "text": "Quiet time alone" - }, - { - "id": "affection_without_expectation", - "text": "Affection without expectation" - }, - { - "id": "flirting_that_starts_slowly", - "text": "Flirting that starts slowly" + "id": "it_varies", + "text": "It varies" } ] } @@ -1501,31 +1491,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which nonsexual affection makes the best beginning?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "What helps you move from daily stress into desire?", + "depth": 4, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "affection", + "transition", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_long_hug", - "text": "A long hug" + "id": "quiet_time_first", + "text": "Quiet time first" }, { - "id": "cuddling_close", - "text": "Cuddling close" + "id": "a_shower", + "text": "A shower" }, { - "id": "a_shoulder_massage", - "text": "A shoulder massage" + "id": "affection_without_pressure", + "text": "Affection without pressure" }, { - "id": "holding_hands_and_talking", - "text": "Holding hands and talking" + "id": "flirting_that_starts_slowly", + "text": "Flirting that starts slowly" } ] } @@ -1535,31 +1525,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do quick intimate moments usually sound to you?", + "text": "How much build-up usually feels right?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "quick_intimacy", + "build_up", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "exciting_when_spontaneous", - "text": "Exciting when spontaneous" + "id": "a_long_slow_build", + "text": "A long slow build" }, { - "id": "good_only_when_planned", - "text": "Good only when planned" + "id": "enough_to_feel_connected", + "text": "Enough to feel connected" }, { - "id": "fine_if_we_still_connect", - "text": "Fine if we still connect" + "id": "follow_the_moment", + "text": "Follow the moment" }, { - "id": "usually_not_my_preference", - "text": "Usually not my preference" + "id": "i_usually_prefer_directness", + "text": "I usually prefer directness" } ] } @@ -1569,31 +1559,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What would make a short private moment actually work?", + "text": "Which part of the build-up would you linger on?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "quick_intimacy", + "build_up", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "guaranteed_privacy", - "text": "Guaranteed privacy" + "id": "kissing", + "text": "Kissing" }, { - "id": "a_clear_mutual_yes", - "text": "A clear mutual yes" + "id": "talking_and_teasing", + "text": "Talking and teasing" }, { - "id": "no_pressure_to_perform", - "text": "No pressure to perform" + "id": "massage", + "text": "Massage" }, { - "id": "time_to_reconnect_afterward", - "text": "Time to reconnect afterward" + "id": "slow_undressing", + "text": "Slow undressing" } ] } @@ -1603,31 +1593,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What protects your desire after an exhausting day?", + "text": "How do you feel about undressing each other slowly?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "energy", + "anticipation", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_little_recovery_time", - "text": "A little recovery time" + "id": "very_into_it", + "text": "Very into it" }, { - "id": "help_clearing_mental_clutter", - "text": "Help clearing mental clutter" + "id": "sometimes", + "text": "Sometimes" }, { - "id": "gentle_affection_first", - "text": "Gentle affection first" + "id": "only_in_a_playful_mood", + "text": "Only in a playful mood" }, { - "id": "knowing_there_is_no_expectation", - "text": "Knowing there is no expectation" + "id": "i_prefer_less_focus_on_it", + "text": "I prefer less focus on it" } ] } @@ -1637,31 +1627,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What most helps desire return after a quiet stretch?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which kissing pace feels best once things heat up?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "desire_changes", + "kissing", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "low_pressure_closeness", - "text": "Low-pressure closeness" + "id": "slow_and_deep", + "text": "Slow and deep" }, { - "id": "feeling_pursued_again", - "text": "Feeling pursued again" + "id": "changing_pace", + "text": "Changing pace" }, { - "id": "honest_conversation_outside_the_moment", - "text": "Honest conversation outside the moment" + "id": "playful_and_quick", + "text": "Playful and quick" }, { - "id": "a_fresh_shared_experience", - "text": "A fresh shared experience" + "id": "let_the_moment_decide", + "text": "Let the moment decide" } ] } @@ -1671,31 +1661,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you feel attractive before intimacy starts?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What amount of touch pressure feels best?", + "depth": 4, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "body_confidence", + "touch", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_sincere_compliment", - "text": "A sincere compliment" + "id": "very_gentle", + "text": "Very gentle" }, { - "id": "seeing_my_partners_reaction", - "text": "Seeing my partner's reaction" + "id": "steady_and_firm", + "text": "Steady and firm" }, { - "id": "wearing_something_i_love", - "text": "Wearing something I love" + "id": "a_changing_mix", + "text": "A changing mix" }, { - "id": "feeling_relaxed_in_my_body", - "text": "Feeling relaxed in my body" + "id": "ask_me_in_the_moment", + "text": "Ask me in the moment" } ] } @@ -1705,32 +1695,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which look from your partner would catch your eye fastest?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "Where does affectionate touch feel most welcome at first?", + "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "appearance", - "flirting", + "touch", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "dressed_up_and_polished", - "text": "Dressed up and polished" + "id": "hair_and_face", + "text": "Hair and face" }, { - "id": "casual_and_confident", - "text": "Casual and confident" + "id": "neck_and_shoulders", + "text": "Neck and shoulders" }, { - "id": "fresh_from_the_shower", - "text": "Fresh from the shower" + "id": "back_and_waist", + "text": "Back and waist" }, { - "id": "something_chosen_just_for_me", - "text": "Something chosen just for me" + "id": "hands_and_arms", + "text": "Hands and arms" } ] } @@ -1740,11 +1729,351 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of music best fits a private night?", - "depth": 2, + "text": "Which check-in would feel natural in the moment?", + "depth": 4, "access": "free", "tags": [ - "music", + "feedback", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "still_good", + "text": "Still good?" + }, + { + "id": "more_or_less", + "text": "More or less?" + }, + { + "id": "want_me_to_keep_going", + "text": "Want me to keep going?" + }, + { + "id": "tell_me_what_you_want", + "text": "Tell me what you want" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_052", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which phrase feels easiest when you want to stop?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "stop", + "text": "Stop" + }, + { + "id": "pause", + "text": "Pause" + }, + { + "id": "not_tonight", + "text": "Not tonight" + }, + { + "id": "i_need_space", + "text": "I need space" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_053", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How should your partner respond when you say no?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "accept_it_warmly", + "text": "Accept it warmly" + }, + { + "id": "offer_nonsexual_closeness", + "text": "Offer nonsexual closeness" + }, + { + "id": "change_the_subject_kindly", + "text": "Change the subject kindly" + }, + { + "id": "give_me_space", + "text": "Give me space" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_054", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What should always be easy to say during intimacy?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "free", + "tags": [ + "consent", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + }, + { + "id": "slower", + "text": "Slower" + }, + { + "id": "i_changed_my_mind", + "text": "I changed my mind" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_055", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which invitation would feel most exciting tonight?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "come_closer", + "text": "Come closer" + }, + { + "id": "i_have_been_thinking_about_you", + "text": "I have been thinking about you" + }, + { + "id": "want_some_private_time", + "text": "Want some private time?" + }, + { + "id": "can_i_kiss_you", + "text": "Can I kiss you?" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_056", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes being pursued feel sexy instead of stressful?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "pursuit", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "room_to_say_no", + "text": "Room to say no" + }, + { + "id": "good_timing", + "text": "Good timing" + }, + { + "id": "warm_confidence", + "text": "Warm confidence" + }, + { + "id": "attention_to_my_response", + "text": "Attention to my response" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_057", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How does a firm, close embrace feel when you have said yes?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "touch", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "very_exciting", + "text": "Very exciting" + }, + { + "id": "good_in_the_right_mood", + "text": "Good in the right mood" + }, + { + "id": "only_briefly", + "text": "Only briefly" + }, + { + "id": "not_for_me", + "text": "Not for me" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_058", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How often would you like the usual initiator to change?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "initiation", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "often", + "text": "Often" + }, + { + "id": "sometimes", + "text": "Sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "only_when_it_feels_natural", + "text": "Only when it feels natural" + }, + { + "id": "i_like_our_current_pattern", + "text": "I like our current pattern" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_059", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How do you prefer your partner to reveal their interest?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "desire", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "say_it_directly", + "text": "Say it directly" + }, + { + "id": "show_it_through_touch", + "text": "Show it through touch" + }, + { + "id": "build_anticipation", + "text": "Build anticipation" + }, + { + "id": "ask_what_i_want", + "text": "Ask what I want" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_060", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What makes confident touch feel good rather than presumptive?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "touch", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_clear_yes_first", + "text": "A clear yes first" + }, + { + "id": "starting_gently", + "text": "Starting gently" + }, + { + "id": "watching_my_response", + "text": "Watching my response" + }, + { + "id": "easy_stopping", + "text": "Easy stopping" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_061", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What kind of music fits private time best?", + "depth": 2, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "setting", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -1755,30 +2084,30 @@ "text": "Slow and moody" }, { - "id": "playful_and_upbeat", - "text": "Playful and upbeat" + "id": "soft_and_romantic", + "text": "Soft and romantic" }, { - "id": "a_familiar_favorite", - "text": "A familiar favorite" + "id": "something_familiar", + "text": "Something familiar" }, { - "id": "no_music_at_all", - "text": "No music at all" + "id": "no_music", + "text": "No music" } ] } }, { - "id": "sexual_preferences_052", + "id": "sexual_preferences_062", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which lighting helps you feel most comfortable?", "depth": 3, - "access": "free", + "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "lighting", + "setting", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -1803,378 +2132,36 @@ ] } }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_053", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which scent would add the most to the mood?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "scent", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "fresh_clean_sheets", - "text": "Fresh clean sheets" - }, - { - "id": "a_favorite_candle", - "text": "A favorite candle" - }, - { - "id": "my_partners_usual_scent", - "text": "My partner's usual scent" - }, - { - "id": "no_added_scent", - "text": "No added scent" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_054", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What room temperature feels best for getting close?", - "depth": 2, - "access": "free", - "tags": [ - "comfort", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "cool_with_blankets", - "text": "Cool with blankets" - }, - { - "id": "comfortably_warm", - "text": "Comfortably warm" - }, - { - "id": "a_little_cooler_than_usual", - "text": "A little cooler than usual" - }, - { - "id": "i_barely_notice_temperature", - "text": "I barely notice temperature" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_055", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which planned evening would feel genuinely sexy?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "date_setup", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "dinner_followed_by_private_time", - "text": "Dinner followed by private time" - }, - { - "id": "a_stay_at_home_date", - "text": "A stay-at-home date" - }, - { - "id": "a_night_away", - "text": "A night away" - }, - { - "id": "a_surprise_with_an_easy_opt_out", - "text": "A surprise with an easy opt-out" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_056", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What change of scenery would feel most exciting?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "novelty", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_hotel_room", - "text": "A hotel room" - }, - { - "id": "a_cozy_cabin", - "text": "A cozy cabin" - }, - { - "id": "a_different_room_at_home", - "text": "A different room at home" - }, - { - "id": "i_prefer_our_usual_space", - "text": "I prefer our usual space" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_057", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When does making time for intimacy feel easiest?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "scheduling", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_weekend_morning", - "text": "A weekend morning" - }, - { - "id": "an_unhurried_evening", - "text": "An unhurried evening" - }, - { - "id": "after_a_date", - "text": "After a date" - }, - { - "id": "whenever_we_unexpectedly_get_privacy", - "text": "Whenever we unexpectedly get privacy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_058", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What would make the next morning feel especially good?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "next_morning", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "sleeping_in_together", - "text": "Sleeping in together" - }, - { - "id": "breakfast_and_teasing", - "text": "Breakfast and teasing" - }, - { - "id": "a_warm_check_in", - "text": "A warm check-in" - }, - { - "id": "returning_to_our_day_without_fuss", - "text": "Returning to our day without fuss" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_059", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which playful warm-up sounds the most fun?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "games", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_flirty_question_game", - "text": "A flirty question game" - }, - { - "id": "choosing_a_song_for_each_other", - "text": "Choosing a song for each other" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_bet", - "text": "A playful bet" - }, - { - "id": "trading_three_bold_compliments", - "text": "Trading three bold compliments" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_060", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which private dare sounds genuinely fun?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "dare", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "hold_eye_contact_longer", - "text": "Hold eye contact longer" - }, - { - "id": "say_what_you_want_out_loud", - "text": "Say what you want out loud" - }, - { - "id": "let_your_partner_choose_the_music", - "text": "Let your partner choose the music" - }, - { - "id": "share_one_curious_idea", - "text": "Share one curious idea" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_061", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How does role-play sound when both people choose it?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "role_play", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "exciting_and_playful", - "text": "Exciting and playful" - }, - { - "id": "interesting_with_clear_boundaries", - "text": "Interesting with clear boundaries" - }, - { - "id": "only_in_a_very_light_version", - "text": "Only in a very light version" - }, - { - "id": "not_appealing_to_me", - "text": "Not appealing to me" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_062", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What would make role-play feel comfortable enough to try?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "role_play", - "boundaries", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "agreeing_on_the_scene_first", - "text": "Agreeing on the scene first" - }, - { - "id": "keeping_it_humorous", - "text": "Keeping it humorous" - }, - { - "id": "having_a_stop_phrase", - "text": "Having a stop phrase" - }, - { - "id": "knowing_we_can_drop_it_anytime", - "text": "Knowing we can drop it anytime" - } - ] - } - }, { "id": "sexual_preferences_063", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What conversation style would make fantasy-sharing easiest?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What preparation makes private time easier to enjoy?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fantasy", - "communication", + "planning", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "as_a_playful_hypothetical", - "text": "As a playful hypothetical" + "id": "a_tidy_space", + "text": "A tidy space" }, { - "id": "in_a_private_message", - "text": "In a private message" + "id": "fresh_sheets", + "text": "Fresh sheets" }, { - "id": "during_a_calm_conversation", - "text": "During a calm conversation" + "id": "no_time_pressure", + "text": "No time pressure" }, { - "id": "i_would_rather_keep_fantasies_private", - "text": "I would rather keep fantasies private" + "id": "knowing_we_will_not_be_interrupted", + "text": "Knowing we will not be interrupted" } ] } @@ -2184,32 +2171,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes sharing a fantasy feel low-pressure?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What kind of planned night would feel genuinely sexy?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fantasy", - "safety", + "planning", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "no_promise_to_act_on_it", - "text": "No promise to act on it" + "id": "dinner_then_private_time", + "text": "Dinner then private time" }, { - "id": "no_judgment", - "text": "No judgment" + "id": "a_stay_at_home_date", + "text": "A stay-at-home date" }, { - "id": "permission_to_stay_vague", - "text": "Permission to stay vague" + "id": "a_hotel_night", + "text": "A hotel night" }, { - "id": "taking_turns_sharing", - "text": "Taking turns sharing" + "id": "a_surprise_with_an_easy_opt_out", + "text": "A surprise with an easy opt-out" } ] } @@ -2219,31 +2205,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do you feel about bringing toys into intimacy?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which rhythm sounds most satisfying lately?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "toys", + "pace", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "curious_and_open", - "text": "Curious and open" + "id": "quick_and_spontaneous", + "text": "Quick and spontaneous" }, { - "id": "only_if_we_choose_together", - "text": "Only if we choose together" + "id": "long_and_unhurried", + "text": "Long and unhurried" }, { - "id": "maybe_after_talking_first", - "text": "Maybe after talking first" + "id": "a_mix", + "text": "A mix" }, { - "id": "not_something_i_want", - "text": "Not something I want" + "id": "whatever_fits_our_energy", + "text": "Whatever fits our energy" } ] } @@ -2253,32 +2239,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How should a new toy first enter the conversation?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which whispering style would get your attention?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "toys", - "consent", + "words", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "shop_for_it_together", - "text": "Shop for it together" + "id": "sweet", + "text": "Sweet" }, { - "id": "mention_it_outside_the_moment", - "text": "Mention it outside the moment" + "id": "teasing", + "text": "Teasing" }, { - "id": "start_with_a_simple_option", - "text": "Start with a simple option" + "id": "direct", + "text": "Direct" }, { - "id": "let_me_bring_up_the_idea", - "text": "Let me bring up the idea" + "id": "quiet_praise", + "text": "Quiet praise" } ] } @@ -2288,31 +2273,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which sensory experiment sounds most appealing?", + "text": "What kind of praise feels best during intimate moments?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sensory_play", + "praise", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_soft_blindfold", - "text": "A soft blindfold" + "id": "how_good_i_look", + "text": "How good I look" }, { - "id": "different_textures", - "text": "Different textures" + "id": "how_desired_i_am", + "text": "How desired I am" }, { - "id": "temperature_changes_kept_gentle", - "text": "Temperature changes kept gentle" + "id": "what_i_am_doing_well", + "text": "What I am doing well" }, { - "id": "i_prefer_no_sensory_play", - "text": "I prefer no sensory play" + "id": "how_connected_we_feel", + "text": "How connected we feel" } ] } @@ -2322,32 +2307,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which reassurance matters most before trying a blindfold?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How do you prefer to receive a sexy compliment?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "sensory_play", - "trust", + "compliments", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "agreeing_on_every_boundary_first", - "text": "Agreeing on every boundary first" + "id": "whispered_privately", + "text": "Whispered privately" }, { - "id": "keeping_one_hand_connected", - "text": "Keeping one hand connected" + "id": "sent_in_a_message", + "text": "Sent in a message" }, { - "id": "frequent_verbal_check_ins", - "text": "Frequent verbal check-ins" + "id": "said_while_holding_me", + "text": "Said while holding me" }, { - "id": "being_able_to_remove_it_myself", - "text": "Being able to remove it myself" + "id": "kept_playful_and_light", + "text": "Kept playful and light" } ] } @@ -2357,31 +2341,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which power dynamic sounds most natural to you?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Which playful challenge sounds most fun?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "power", + "play", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "one_person_leads_gently", - "text": "One person leads gently" + "id": "no_kissing_for_one_minute", + "text": "No kissing for one minute" }, { - "id": "one_person_leads_confidently", - "text": "One person leads confidently" + "id": "one_person_chooses_the_music", + "text": "One person chooses the music" }, { - "id": "we_switch_back_and_forth", - "text": "We switch back and forth" + "id": "take_turns_giving_compliments", + "text": "Take turns giving compliments" }, { - "id": "neither_person_takes_control", - "text": "Neither person takes control" + "id": "skip_challenges_entirely", + "text": "Skip challenges entirely" } ] } @@ -2391,32 +2375,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How would you like leadership to change during intimacy?", + "text": "How long should teasing last before it stops being fun?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "power", - "roles", + "teasing", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "switch_when_the_mood_shifts", - "text": "Switch when the mood shifts" + "id": "just_a_moment", + "text": "Just a moment" }, { - "id": "take_turns_by_agreement", - "text": "Take turns by agreement" + "id": "a_few_minutes", + "text": "A few minutes" }, { - "id": "let_one_person_lead_throughout", - "text": "Let one person lead throughout" + "id": "until_i_ask_for_more", + "text": "Until I ask for more" }, { - "id": "keep_everything_fully_shared", - "text": "Keep everything fully shared" + "id": "i_do_not_enjoy_prolonged_teasing", + "text": "I do not enjoy prolonged teasing" } ] } @@ -2426,31 +2409,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do you feel about consensual roughness?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "Which kind of teasing do you enjoy most?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "roughness", + "teasing", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "interested_within_clear_limits", - "text": "Interested within clear limits" + "id": "playful_words", + "text": "Playful words" }, { - "id": "only_mildly_and_occasionally", - "text": "Only mildly and occasionally" + "id": "almost_kisses", + "text": "Almost-kisses" }, { - "id": "curious_after_a_detailed_talk", - "text": "Curious after a detailed talk" + "id": "slow_touches", + "text": "Slow touches" }, { - "id": "i_would_rather_skip_it", - "text": "I would rather skip it" + "id": "knowing_looks", + "text": "Knowing looks" } ] } @@ -2460,32 +2443,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which check-in makes intensity easiest to adjust?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "Which private rule could make things more playful?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "intensity", - "feedback", + "play", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "ask_for_a_number_from_one_to_five", - "text": "Ask for a number from one to five" + "id": "take_turns_leading", + "text": "Take turns leading" }, { - "id": "use_softer_or_stronger", - "text": "Use softer or stronger" + "id": "ask_before_changing_pace", + "text": "Ask before changing pace" }, { - "id": "pause_and_ask_directly", - "text": "Pause and ask directly" + "id": "one_person_plans_the_mood", + "text": "One person plans the mood" }, { - "id": "let_me_guide_with_my_hands", - "text": "Let me guide with my hands" + "id": "no_rules_tonight", + "text": "No rules tonight" } ] } @@ -2495,31 +2477,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What is your reaction to pet names in private?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What cue tells you flirting is welcome?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "pet_names", + "consent", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "very_sexy", - "text": "Very sexy" + "id": "a_clear_smile", + "text": "A clear smile" }, { - "id": "sweet_more_than_sexy", - "text": "Sweet more than sexy" + "id": "flirting_back", + "text": "Flirting back" }, { - "id": "only_certain_names_work", - "text": "Only certain names work" + "id": "moving_closer", + "text": "Moving closer" }, { - "id": "i_prefer_my_actual_name", - "text": "I prefer my actual name" + "id": "a_direct_yes", + "text": "A direct yes" } ] } @@ -2529,31 +2511,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of name sounds best in the moment?", + "text": "Which private location sounds most tempting?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "names", + "location", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "my_usual_nickname", - "text": "My usual nickname" + "id": "bedroom", + "text": "Bedroom" }, { - "id": "a_private_pet_name", - "text": "A private pet name" + "id": "shower", + "text": "Shower" }, { - "id": "my_full_first_name", - "text": "My full first name" + "id": "couch", + "text": "Couch" }, { - "id": "no_name_at_all", - "text": "No name at all" + "id": "a_private_getaway", + "text": "A private getaway" } ] } @@ -2563,7 +2545,41 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which discreet public flirt would make you smirk?", + "text": "How do you feel about discreet flirting in public?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "public_flirting", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "fun_when_very_subtle", + "text": "Fun when very subtle" + }, + { + "id": "only_through_words_or_looks", + "text": "Only through words or looks" + }, + { + "id": "only_if_we_agreed_first", + "text": "Only if we agreed first" + }, + { + "id": "not_for_me", + "text": "Not for me" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_076", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which public flirt stays comfortably private?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -2578,51 +2594,16 @@ "text": "A knowing look" }, { - "id": "a_hand_at_my_lower_back", - "text": "A hand at my lower back" + "id": "a_hand_on_my_back", + "text": "A hand on my back" }, { - "id": "a_private_whisper", - "text": "A private whisper" + "id": "a_quiet_compliment", + "text": "A quiet compliment" }, { - "id": "a_message_only_i_can_see", - "text": "A message only I can see" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_076", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which public-flirting limit would help you relax most?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "public_flirting", - "boundaries", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "keep_it_invisible_to_others", - "text": "Keep it invisible to others" - }, - { - "id": "no_sexual_touching", - "text": "No sexual touching" - }, - { - "id": "no_private_details_aloud", - "text": "No private details aloud" - }, - { - "id": "ask_before_trying_anything_new", - "text": "Ask before trying anything new" + "id": "none_while_others_are_around", + "text": "None while others are around" } ] } @@ -2632,31 +2613,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What keeps flirty messages feeling private and fun?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What would make public flirting cross the line for you?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "digital_privacy", + "boundaries", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "no_messages_on_shared_screens", - "text": "No messages on shared screens" + "id": "sexual_touching", + "text": "Sexual touching" }, { - "id": "use_harmless_code_words", - "text": "Use harmless code words" + "id": "comments_others_can_hear", + "text": "Comments others can hear" }, { - "id": "ask_before_sending_anything_bold", - "text": "Ask before sending anything bold" + "id": "ignoring_my_discomfort", + "text": "Ignoring my discomfort" }, { - "id": "agree_what_gets_saved", - "text": "Agree what gets saved" + "id": "anything_we_did_not_agree_on", + "text": "Anything we did not agree on" } ] } @@ -2666,11 +2647,10 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do intimate photos fit into your comfort zone?", + "text": "What boundary matters most with intimate messages or photos?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "photos", "privacy", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" @@ -2678,20 +2658,20 @@ "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "comfortable_when_we_both_agree", - "text": "Comfortable when we both agree" + "id": "ask_before_sending", + "text": "Ask before sending" }, { - "id": "only_non_explicit_photos", - "text": "Only non-explicit photos" + "id": "never_save_without_permission", + "text": "Never save without permission" }, { - "id": "only_photos_kept_on_one_device", - "text": "Only photos kept on one device" + "id": "keep_them_off_shared_devices", + "text": "Keep them off shared devices" }, { - "id": "they_do_not_fit_my_comfort_zone", - "text": "They do not fit my comfort zone" + "id": "delete_them_when_requested", + "text": "Delete them when requested" } ] } @@ -2701,32 +2681,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What would make sharing a private photo feel safest?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "How do you feel about trying a new private idea?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "photos", - "consent", + "novelty", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "asking_before_every_photo", - "text": "Asking before every photo" + "id": "excited_to_explore", + "text": "Excited to explore" }, { - "id": "agreeing_where_it_is_stored", - "text": "Agreeing where it is stored" + "id": "interested_with_discussion_first", + "text": "Interested with discussion first" }, { - "id": "never_showing_anyone_else", - "text": "Never showing anyone else" + "id": "only_something_small", + "text": "Only something small" }, { - "id": "deleting_it_whenever_requested", - "text": "Deleting it whenever requested" + "id": "i_prefer_familiar_favorites", + "text": "I prefer familiar favorites" } ] } @@ -2736,32 +2715,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which new idea would need the most advance discussion for you?", - "depth": 5, + "text": "Who should choose a new idea?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "consent", - "new_experiences", + "novelty", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "trying_a_new_role", - "text": "Trying a new role" + "id": "take_turns", + "text": "Take turns" }, { - "id": "adding_a_toy", - "text": "Adding a toy" + "id": "choose_together", + "text": "Choose together" }, { - "id": "increasing_intensity", - "text": "Increasing intensity" + "id": "the_more_curious_partner_suggests", + "text": "The more curious partner suggests" }, { - "id": "recording_anything", - "text": "Recording anything" + "id": "no_surprises", + "text": "No surprises" } ] } @@ -2771,7 +2749,687 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which feedback phrase would be easiest to say aloud?", + "text": "What makes fantasy talk feel comfortable?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "fantasy", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "no_assumption_we_will_do_it", + "text": "No assumption we will do it" + }, + { + "id": "no_judgment", + "text": "No judgment" + }, + { + "id": "starting_with_mild_ideas", + "text": "Starting with mild ideas" + }, + { + "id": "stopping_whenever_it_feels_awkward", + "text": "Stopping whenever it feels awkward" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_082", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which fantasy-conversation tone feels safest?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "fantasy", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "playful", + "text": "Playful" + }, + { + "id": "curious", + "text": "Curious" + }, + { + "id": "direct", + "text": "Direct" + }, + { + "id": "very_gentle", + "text": "Very gentle" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_083", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How do you feel about light role-play between us?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "role_play", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "sounds_fun", + "text": "Sounds fun" + }, + { + "id": "maybe_with_a_simple_idea", + "text": "Maybe with a simple idea" + }, + { + "id": "only_after_talking_first", + "text": "Only after talking first" + }, + { + "id": "not_for_me", + "text": "Not for me" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_084", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which role-play style would feel least awkward?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "role_play", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_playful_character", + "text": "A playful character" + }, + { + "id": "pretending_it_is_a_first_date", + "text": "Pretending it is a first date" + }, + { + "id": "a_confident_invitation", + "text": "A confident invitation" + }, + { + "id": "i_would_rather_skip_role_play", + "text": "I would rather skip role-play" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_085", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How would you want to discuss bringing a toy into private time?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "toys", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "talk_before_buying_anything", + "text": "Talk before buying anything" + }, + { + "id": "browse_together", + "text": "Browse together" + }, + { + "id": "start_with_something_simple", + "text": "Start with something simple" + }, + { + "id": "i_am_not_interested", + "text": "I am not interested" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_086", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which toy boundary matters most?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "toys", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "both_agree_first", + "text": "Both agree first" + }, + { + "id": "either_person_can_stop", + "text": "Either person can stop" + }, + { + "id": "clean_and_store_privately", + "text": "Clean and store privately" + }, + { + "id": "no_surprise_use", + "text": "No surprise use" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_087", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How do you feel about sensory play such as music or a blindfold?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory_play", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "curious_about_both", + "text": "Curious about both" + }, + { + "id": "music_only", + "text": "Music only" + }, + { + "id": "maybe_a_blindfold_after_discussing_it", + "text": "Maybe a blindfold after discussing it" + }, + { + "id": "neither_interests_me", + "text": "Neither interests me" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_088", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What would make a blindfold feel safe enough to consider?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory_play", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_clear_yes_beforehand", + "text": "A clear yes beforehand" + }, + { + "id": "a_stop_signal", + "text": "A stop signal" + }, + { + "id": "starting_briefly", + "text": "Starting briefly" + }, + { + "id": "i_would_not_want_one", + "text": "I would not want one" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_089", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would dressing up add something fun to private time?", + "depth": 3, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "clothing", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "definitely", + "text": "Definitely" + }, + { + "id": "sometimes", + "text": "Sometimes" + }, + { + "id": "only_if_we_choose_together", + "text": "Only if we choose together" + }, + { + "id": "not_really_my_thing", + "text": "Not really my thing" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_090", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What would make a new private setting feel comfortable?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "location", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "guaranteed_privacy", + "text": "Guaranteed privacy" + }, + { + "id": "a_familiar_place", + "text": "A familiar place" + }, + { + "id": "a_clear_plan", + "text": "A clear plan" + }, + { + "id": "staying_home_instead", + "text": "Staying home instead" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_091", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which power dynamic sounds most appealing with clear consent?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "power", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "i_lead", + "text": "I lead" + }, + { + "id": "my_partner_leads", + "text": "My partner leads" + }, + { + "id": "we_switch", + "text": "We switch" + }, + { + "id": "no_power_play", + "text": "No power play" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_092", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How should taking the lead work between us?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "power", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_first_each_time", + "text": "Ask first each time" + }, + { + "id": "use_an_agreed_signal", + "text": "Use an agreed signal" + }, + { + "id": "take_turns", + "text": "Take turns" + }, + { + "id": "keep_things_equal", + "text": "Keep things equal" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_093", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How do you feel about rougher touch after an explicit yes?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "roughness", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "interested", + "text": "Interested" + }, + { + "id": "only_mild_pressure", + "text": "Only mild pressure" + }, + { + "id": "only_in_certain_moods", + "text": "Only in certain moods" + }, + { + "id": "not_for_me", + "text": "Not for me" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_094", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which firmer touch interests you, if any?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "roughness", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_firm_grip", + "text": "A firm grip" + }, + { + "id": "a_stronger_embrace", + "text": "A stronger embrace" + }, + { + "id": "light_hair_pulling", + "text": "Light hair pulling" + }, + { + "id": "none", + "text": "None" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_095", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which rule matters most with firmer play?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "roughness", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "ask_first", + "text": "Ask first" + }, + { + "id": "start_gently", + "text": "Start gently" + }, + { + "id": "stop_immediately", + "text": "Stop immediately" + }, + { + "id": "check_in_afterward", + "text": "Check in afterward" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_096", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How does intimate praise usually affect you?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "praise", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "it_makes_me_glow", + "text": "It makes me glow" + }, + { + "id": "it_helps_me_relax", + "text": "It helps me relax" + }, + { + "id": "only_certain_words_work", + "text": "Only certain words work" + }, + { + "id": "i_prefer_less_talking", + "text": "I prefer less talking" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_097", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which intimate compliment would land best?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "praise", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "you_look_incredible", + "text": "You look incredible" + }, + { + "id": "i_love_how_you_respond_to_me", + "text": "I love how you respond to me" + }, + { + "id": "i_have_wanted_you_all_day", + "text": "I have wanted you all day" + }, + { + "id": "i_love_being_close_to_you", + "text": "I love being close to you" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_098", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which guidance style feels sexiest?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "guidance", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "move_my_hand_gently", + "text": "Move my hand gently" + }, + { + "id": "say_it_softly", + "text": "Say it softly" + }, + { + "id": "say_it_directly", + "text": "Say it directly" + }, + { + "id": "show_me_another_time", + "text": "Show me another time" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_099", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "What would make showing your partner what you like easier?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "guidance", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "a_playful_mood", + "text": "A playful mood" + }, + { + "id": "no_embarrassment", + "text": "No embarrassment" + }, + { + "id": "their_eager_attention", + "text": "Their eager attention" + }, + { + "id": "low_light_and_privacy", + "text": "Low light and privacy" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_100", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "How often should your partner ask about pressure or pace?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "feedback", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "often", + "text": "Often" + }, + { + "id": "when_changing_something", + "text": "When changing something" + }, + { + "id": "only_if_i_seem_unsure", + "text": "Only if I seem unsure" + }, + { + "id": "let_me_speak_up", + "text": "Let me speak up" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_101", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "neutral", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Which feedback phrase would be easiest to say?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -2801,84 +3459,15 @@ } }, { - "id": "sexual_preferences_082", + "id": "sexual_preferences_102", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which physical cue should your partner learn to read?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_cues", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "pulling_closer", - "text": "Pulling closer" - }, - { - "id": "becoming_still", - "text": "Becoming still" - }, - { - "id": "changing_my_breathing", - "text": "Changing my breathing" - }, - { - "id": "guiding_their_hand", - "text": "Guiding their hand" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_083", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When should your partner check in about pace?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "check_ins", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "whenever_something_changes", - "text": "Whenever something changes" - }, - { - "id": "when_my_body_language_shifts", - "text": "When my body language shifts" - }, - { - "id": "at_a_few_natural_pauses", - "text": "At a few natural pauses" - }, - { - "id": "only_when_i_ask", - "text": "Only when I ask" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_084", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What should happen if you change your mind midway?", + "text": "What should happen when you change your mind midway?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", - "changing_mind", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], @@ -2889,8 +3478,8 @@ "text": "Stop without debate" }, { - "id": "ask_what_i_want_now", - "text": "Ask what I want now" + "id": "check_what_i_want_now", + "text": "Check what I want now" }, { "id": "switch_to_nonsexual_touch", @@ -2903,651 +3492,36 @@ ] } }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_085", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What response makes a clear stop feel fully respected?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "consent", - "stop", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "immediate_stillness", - "text": "Immediate stillness" - }, - { - "id": "a_calm_verbal_acknowledgment", - "text": "A calm verbal acknowledgment" - }, - { - "id": "no_questions_until_later", - "text": "No questions until later" - }, - { - "id": "reassurance_without_pressure", - "text": "Reassurance without pressure" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_086", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps most when an intimate moment turns awkward?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "awkward_moments", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "laugh_together", - "text": "Laugh together" - }, - { - "id": "pause_and_reset", - "text": "Pause and reset" - }, - { - "id": "talk_about_it_gently", - "text": "Talk about it gently" - }, - { - "id": "cuddle_and_move_on", - "text": "Cuddle and move on" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_087", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you stay confident in your body during intimacy?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "body_confidence", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "warm_lighting", - "text": "Warm lighting" - }, - { - "id": "enthusiastic_attention", - "text": "Enthusiastic attention" - }, - { - "id": "no_critical_comments", - "text": "No critical comments" - }, - { - "id": "freedom_to_choose_what_stays_covered", - "text": "Freedom to choose what stays covered" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_088", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do you like your partner to admire you?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "admiration", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "say_exactly_what_they_notice", - "text": "Say exactly what they notice" - }, - { - "id": "look_without_saying_much", - "text": "Look without saying much" - }, - { - "id": "touch_me_while_complimenting_me", - "text": "Touch me while complimenting me" - }, - { - "id": "save_the_praise_for_afterward", - "text": "Save the praise for afterward" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_089", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which way of guiding your partner feels most natural?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "guidance", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "move_their_hand_gently", - "text": "Move their hand gently" - }, - { - "id": "say_what_i_want_softly", - "text": "Say what I want softly" - }, - { - "id": "give_clear_directions", - "text": "Give clear directions" - }, - { - "id": "show_them_another_time", - "text": "Show them another time" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_090", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do you prefer receiving guidance from your partner?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "guidance", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_quiet_suggestion", - "text": "A quiet suggestion" - }, - { - "id": "a_direct_request", - "text": "A direct request" - }, - { - "id": "their_hand_guiding_mine", - "text": "Their hand guiding mine" - }, - { - "id": "a_conversation_before_intimacy", - "text": "A conversation before intimacy" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_091", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What removes the most pressure around orgasm?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "orgasm_pressure", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "not_treating_it_as_the_goal", - "text": "Not treating it as the goal" - }, - { - "id": "no_pretending", - "text": "No pretending" - }, - { - "id": "freedom_to_stop_trying", - "text": "Freedom to stop trying" - }, - { - "id": "focusing_on_pleasure_instead", - "text": "Focusing on pleasure instead" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_092", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What can make intimacy satisfying without a big finish?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "satisfaction", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "feeling_deeply_connected", - "text": "Feeling deeply connected" - }, - { - "id": "lots_of_affectionate_touch", - "text": "Lots of affectionate touch" - }, - { - "id": "playful_exploration", - "text": "Playful exploration" - }, - { - "id": "ending_whenever_it_feels_right", - "text": "Ending whenever it feels right" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_093", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How should we handle nights when our desire levels differ?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "desire_mismatch", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "choose_nonsexual_closeness", - "text": "Choose nonsexual closeness" - }, - { - "id": "let_the_interested_partner_ask_once", - "text": "Let the interested partner ask once" - }, - { - "id": "make_a_plan_for_another_time", - "text": "Make a plan for another time" - }, - { - "id": "give_each_other_space_kindly", - "text": "Give each other space kindly" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_094", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What helps you recover after an interruption?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "interruptions", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_few_quiet_minutes", - "text": "A few quiet minutes" - }, - { - "id": "start_over_with_kissing", - "text": "Start over with kissing" - }, - { - "id": "laugh_and_reset", - "text": "Laugh and reset" - }, - { - "id": "save_the_mood_for_later", - "text": "Save the mood for later" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_095", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which emotional tone makes intimacy feel richest?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "emotional_tone", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "tender_and_connected", - "text": "Tender and connected" - }, - { - "id": "playful_and_carefree", - "text": "Playful and carefree" - }, - { - "id": "intense_and_focused", - "text": "Intense and focused" - }, - { - "id": "calm_and_reassuring", - "text": "Calm and reassuring" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_096", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How would you most like a private moment to wind down?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "ending", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "slow_affectionate_touch", - "text": "Slow affectionate touch" - }, - { - "id": "a_final_playful_kiss", - "text": "A final playful kiss" - }, - { - "id": "quiet_closeness", - "text": "Quiet closeness" - }, - { - "id": "a_clear_goodnight_and_rest", - "text": "A clear goodnight and rest" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_097", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What do you usually need before falling asleep afterward?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sleep_after", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "close_cuddling", - "text": "Close cuddling" - }, - { - "id": "a_little_conversation", - "text": "A little conversation" - }, - { - "id": "water_and_a_bathroom_break", - "text": "Water and a bathroom break" - }, - { - "id": "some_personal_space", - "text": "Some personal space" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_098", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of next-day check-in feels best?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "next_day", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_sweet_message", - "text": "A sweet message" - }, - { - "id": "a_quick_was_that_good_question", - "text": "A quick was-that-good question" - }, - { - "id": "a_playful_callback", - "text": "A playful callback" - }, - { - "id": "no_formal_check_in_unless_needed", - "text": "No formal check-in unless needed" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_099", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "When should conversations about sexual frequency happen?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "frequency", - "communication", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "during_a_calm_private_talk", - "text": "During a calm private talk" - }, - { - "id": "as_part_of_regular_check_ins", - "text": "As part of regular check-ins" - }, - { - "id": "only_when_one_of_us_is_unhappy", - "text": "Only when one of us is unhappy" - }, - { - "id": "by_focusing_on_quality_not_numbers", - "text": "By focusing on quality, not numbers" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_100", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Before trying something unfamiliar, what would give you the most confidence?", - "depth": 5, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "new_experiences", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "both_people_sound_genuinely_interested", - "text": "Both people sound genuinely interested" - }, - { - "id": "clear_limits_are_agreed", - "text": "Clear limits are agreed" - }, - { - "id": "there_is_an_easy_stop_option", - "text": "There is an easy stop option" - }, - { - "id": "no_one_feels_rushed", - "text": "No one feels rushed" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_101", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which voice tone makes a simple invitation feel irresistible?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "voice", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "low_and_quiet", - "text": "Low and quiet" - }, - { - "id": "warm_and_affectionate", - "text": "Warm and affectionate" - }, - { - "id": "playful_and_mischievous", - "text": "Playful and mischievous" - }, - { - "id": "direct_and_confident", - "text": "Direct and confident" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_102", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "neutral", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What signal from across the room feels most exciting?", - "depth": 3, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "signals", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "a_long_look", - "text": "A long look" - }, - { - "id": "a_private_smile", - "text": "A private smile" - }, - { - "id": "a_subtle_gesture", - "text": "A subtle gesture" - }, - { - "id": "a_message_sent_from_nearby", - "text": "A message sent from nearby" - } - ] - } - }, { "id": "sexual_preferences_103", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which anticipation game would you happily play?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "Which body cue do you most want your partner to notice?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "games", - "anticipation", + "feedback", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "choose_a_secret_time", - "text": "Choose a secret time" + "id": "moving_closer", + "text": "Moving closer" }, { - "id": "trade_one_tempting_clue", - "text": "Trade one tempting clue" + "id": "pulling_away", + "text": "Pulling away" }, { - "id": "pick_each_others_first_move", - "text": "Pick each other's first move" + "id": "tension_in_my_body", + "text": "Tension in my body" }, { - "id": "make_a_playful_promise_for_later", - "text": "Make a playful promise for later" + "id": "changes_in_my_breathing", + "text": "Changes in my breathing" } ] } @@ -3557,32 +3531,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How much clothing usually helps you feel most confident?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What kind of vocal feedback feels most natural for you?", + "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "clothing", - "body_confidence", + "sounds", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "dressed_up_at_first", - "text": "Dressed up at first" + "id": "quiet_sounds", + "text": "Quiet sounds" }, { - "id": "something_comfortable_and_flattering", - "text": "Something comfortable and flattering" + "id": "clear_words", + "text": "Clear words" }, { - "id": "as_little_as_feels_natural", - "text": "As little as feels natural" + "id": "laughter", + "text": "Laughter" }, { - "id": "it_depends_entirely_on_the_day", - "text": "It depends entirely on the day" + "id": "very_little", + "text": "Very little" } ] } @@ -3592,11 +3565,10 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How do mirrors affect your comfort during intimacy?", + "text": "What helps you feel confident about your body during intimacy?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "mirrors", "body_confidence", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" @@ -3604,20 +3576,20 @@ "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "they_can_feel_exciting", - "text": "They can feel exciting" + "id": "specific_compliments", + "text": "Specific compliments" }, { - "id": "only_in_low_light", - "text": "Only in low light" + "id": "soft_lighting", + "text": "Soft lighting" }, { - "id": "i_usually_ignore_them", - "text": "I usually ignore them" + "id": "patient_attention", + "text": "Patient attention" }, { - "id": "i_prefer_not_to_have_one_visible", - "text": "I prefer not to have one visible" + "id": "no_focus_on_appearance", + "text": "No focus on appearance" } ] } @@ -3627,31 +3599,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "How talkative do you like intimate moments to be?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "How do you prefer to be looked at during private moments?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "talking", + "body_confidence", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "a_lot_of_honest_feedback", - "text": "A lot of honest feedback" + "id": "with_obvious_desire", + "text": "With obvious desire" }, { - "id": "a_few_clear_words", - "text": "A few clear words" + "id": "with_warmth", + "text": "With warmth" }, { - "id": "mostly_playful_sounds_and_reactions", - "text": "Mostly playful sounds and reactions" + "id": "with_playful_admiration", + "text": "With playful admiration" }, { - "id": "very_little_talking", - "text": "Very little talking" + "id": "without_too_much_focus", + "text": "Without too much focus" } ] } @@ -3661,31 +3633,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What kind of silence feels sexy rather than uncertain?", + "text": "What kind of aftercare do you need most often?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "silence", + "aftercare", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "focused_eye_contact", - "text": "Focused eye contact" + "id": "physical_closeness", + "text": "Physical closeness" }, { - "id": "relaxed_breathing_together", - "text": "Relaxed breathing together" + "id": "reassuring_words", + "text": "Reassuring words" }, { - "id": "a_reassuring_touch", - "text": "A reassuring touch" + "id": "practical_care", + "text": "Practical care" }, { - "id": "silence_after_a_clear_check_in", - "text": "Silence after a clear check-in" + "id": "quiet_space", + "text": "Quiet space" } ] } @@ -3695,31 +3667,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "What makes a familiar routine feel fresh again?", - "depth": 3, + "text": "What helps if an intimate moment becomes awkward?", + "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "variety", + "repair", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "changing_the_pace", - "text": "Changing the pace" + "id": "laugh_gently", + "text": "Laugh gently" }, { - "id": "starting_somewhere_unexpected", - "text": "Starting somewhere unexpected" + "id": "pause_and_check_in", + "text": "Pause and check in" }, { - "id": "taking_turns_choosing", - "text": "Taking turns choosing" + "id": "say_what_happened", + "text": "Say what happened" }, { - "id": "adding_one_jointly_chosen_detail", - "text": "Adding one jointly chosen detail" + "id": "stop_without_making_it_a_problem", + "text": "Stop without making it a problem" } ] } @@ -3729,31 +3701,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which kind of adventure stays inside your comfort zone?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "What helps you reconnect if you suddenly feel far away?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "adventure", + "connection", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "trying_a_new_mood", - "text": "Trying a new mood" + "id": "slow_everything_down", + "text": "Slow everything down" }, { - "id": "changing_the_setting", - "text": "Changing the setting" + "id": "hold_me_without_expectation", + "text": "Hold me without expectation" }, { - "id": "exploring_a_shared_curiosity", - "text": "Exploring a shared curiosity" + "id": "ask_what_i_need", + "text": "Ask what I need" }, { - "id": "making_the_usual_feel_more_playful", - "text": "Making the usual feel more playful" + "id": "stop_and_give_me_space", + "text": "Stop and give me space" } ] } @@ -3763,31 +3735,31 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "neutral", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Which answer would you most hope your partner notices?", + "text": "What makes an intimate memory worth keeping?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "reveal", + "connection", "sexual_preferences", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { - "id": "how_i_like_to_be_approached", - "text": "How I like to be approached" + "id": "feeling_deeply_wanted", + "text": "Feeling deeply wanted" }, { - "id": "what_makes_me_feel_wanted", - "text": "What makes me feel wanted" + "id": "laughing_together", + "text": "Laughing together" }, { - "id": "where_my_boundaries_are", - "text": "Where my boundaries are" + "id": "trying_something_new_safely", + "text": "Trying something new safely" }, { - "id": "what_i_secretly_want_more_of", - "text": "What I secretly want more of" + "id": "feeling_completely_at_ease", + "text": "Feeling completely at ease" } ] } @@ -3797,543 +3769,11 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "female", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would receiving a boldly flirty message during the day excite you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy your partner starting with a long, slow kiss?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "messages", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_002", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy being pulled closer after giving a clear yes?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "initiation", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_003", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would letting your partner choose the music for a private night appeal to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "music", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_004", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Does hearing unmistakable desire in your partner's words excite you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "words", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_005", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would a gentle morning invitation appeal to you once you are fully awake?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "morning", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_006", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy letting your partner plan the whole private evening?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "planning", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_007", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would being guided with clear, welcome direction feel exciting to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "guidance", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_008", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy your partner taking the lead after checking in?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "power", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_009", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would being teased slowly over several hours appeal to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "anticipation", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_010", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you be open to your partner suggesting a toy to choose together?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "toys", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_011", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would wearing a blindfold feel exciting after clear agreement and boundaries?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "sensory_play", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_012", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would a long, unhurried massage help awaken your desire?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "massage", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_013", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy your partner choosing a playful role for themselves?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "role_play", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_014", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would detailed praise about your effect on your partner turn you on?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "praise", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_015", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Does a thoughtfully planned date with a no-pressure exit sound exciting?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "surprise_date", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_016", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy giving your partner the kind of aftercare they request?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "aftercare", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_017", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would inviting your partner to share a fantasy first feel comfortable?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "fantasy", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_018", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you feel good slowing down when your partner's cues change?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "responsiveness", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_019", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would offering your partner the lead partway through appeal to you?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "power", - "desire_sync", - "paired_preference", - "sexual_preferences", - "consent_first" - ], - "answer_config": { - "options": [ - { - "id": "yes", - "text": "Yes" - }, - { - "id": "no", - "text": "No" - } - ] - } - }, - { - "id": "sexual_preferences_female_020", - "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "female", - "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy explaining afterward what made you feel most wanted?", - "depth": 4, - "access": "premium", - "tags": [ - "feedback", + "kissing", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4357,11 +3797,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would sending a boldly flirty daytime message feel exciting to you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy starting with a long, slow kiss when your partner is interested?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "messages", + "kissing", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_002", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would receiving a flirty message during the day build anticipation for you?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sexting", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4385,7 +3853,35 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would pulling your partner closer feel sexy after they clearly agree?", + "text": "Would you enjoy sending a flirty message to build anticipation during the day?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sexting", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_003", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy being pulled closer after giving a clear invitation?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -4413,11 +3909,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would choosing the soundtrack for a private evening appeal to you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy pulling your partner closer after they clearly invite it?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "music", + "initiation", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_004", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would playful teasing before private time excite you?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "teasing", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4441,11 +3965,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would putting your desire into direct words feel exciting?", + "text": "Would you enjoy playfully teasing your partner before private time?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "words", + "teasing", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_005", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would slow neck kisses make you want more?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "kissing", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4469,11 +4021,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy offering a gentle invitation after your partner is fully awake?", + "text": "Would you enjoy giving slow neck kisses when your partner wants them?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "morning", + "kissing", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_006", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy your partner confidently taking the lead after a clear yes?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "leading", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4497,11 +4077,11 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would planning every detail of a private evening feel exciting to you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy confidently taking the lead after your partner clearly says yes?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "planning", + "leading", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4521,11 +4101,11 @@ } }, { - "id": "sexual_preferences_male_007", + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_007", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", - "sex": "male", + "sex": "female", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would giving clear, welcome direction during intimacy appeal to you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy gently guiding your partner toward what feels good?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -4548,16 +4128,100 @@ ] } }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_male_007", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "male", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy your partner gently guiding you toward what feels good?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "guidance", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_008", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would a longer, slower build-up make private time better for you?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "build_up", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, { "id": "sexual_preferences_male_008", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would taking the lead feel good after your partner welcomes it?", + "text": "Would you enjoy giving your partner a longer, slower build-up?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "power", + "build_up", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_009", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would hearing specific praise during intimacy turn you on?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "praise", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4581,11 +4245,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would building anticipation for your partner over several hours excite you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy giving your partner specific praise during intimacy?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "anticipation", + "praise", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_010", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy your partner planning a private night for the two of you?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "planning", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4609,11 +4301,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would suggesting a toy for both of you to choose feel comfortable?", + "text": "Would you enjoy planning a private night designed around your partner?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "toys", + "planning", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_011", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would a playful blindfold interest you with clear rules and a stop signal?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "sensory_play", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4637,8 +4357,8 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would using a blindfold with your partner feel exciting after setting clear limits?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Would you enjoy using a playful blindfold after agreeing on rules and a stop signal?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sensory_play", @@ -4660,16 +4380,72 @@ ] } }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_012", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy firmer touch after explicitly asking for it?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "roughness", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, { "id": "sexual_preferences_male_012", "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Does giving your partner a slow massage help build your own desire?", + "text": "Would you enjoy giving firmer touch after your partner explicitly asks for it?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "roughness", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_013", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy sharing a fantasy with no expectation to act on it?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "massage", + "fantasy", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4693,7 +4469,35 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would choosing a playful role for yourself make intimacy more fun?", + "text": "Would you enjoy listening to a fantasy without assuming it must happen?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "fantasy", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_014", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy trying a simple role-play idea chosen together?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ @@ -4721,11 +4525,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would giving detailed praise about your partner's effect on you feel sexy?", + "text": "Would you enjoy helping choose and try a simple role-play idea together?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "praise", + "role_play", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_015", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy a spontaneous quick moment when you both clearly want it?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "spontaneity", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4749,11 +4581,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would you enjoy secretly organizing a date your partner can easily decline?", + "text": "Would you enjoy initiating a quick spontaneous moment after confirming mutual interest?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "surprise_date", + "spontaneity", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_016", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy a long, unhurried private night with no schedule?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "slow_burn", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4777,11 +4637,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would receiving the aftercare you ask for help you feel closer?", + "text": "Would you like to set aside an unhurried private night with no schedule?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "aftercare", + "slow_burn", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_017", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would a massage that might become more sound appealing?", + "depth": 4, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "massage", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4805,11 +4693,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would sharing a fantasy first feel comfortable when your partner invites you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy giving a massage that may become more if your partner wants it?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "fantasy", + "massage", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_018", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy bringing a mutually chosen toy into private time?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "toys", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4833,11 +4749,39 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would it help if your partner slowed down when your body cues changed?", + "text": "Would you enjoy discussing and choosing a toy together for private time?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "toys", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_019", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would cuddling and reassuring words afterward feel good to you?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "responsiveness", + "aftercare", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences", @@ -4861,9 +4805,37 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would accepting the lead partway through an intimate moment appeal to you?", + "text": "Would you enjoy giving cuddles and reassuring words afterward?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", + "tags": [ + "aftercare", + "desire_sync", + "paired_preference", + "sexual_preferences", + "consent_first" + ], + "answer_config": { + "options": [ + { + "id": "yes", + "text": "Yes" + }, + { + "id": "no", + "text": "No" + } + ] + } + }, + { + "id": "sexual_preferences_female_020", + "category_id": "sexual_preferences", + "sex": "female", + "type": "single_choice", + "text": "Would you enjoy taking turns leading during the same intimate moment?", + "depth": 5, + "access": "premium", "tags": [ "power", "desire_sync", @@ -4889,11 +4861,11 @@ "category_id": "sexual_preferences", "sex": "male", "type": "single_choice", - "text": "Would hearing what made your partner feel most wanted afterward appeal to you?", - "depth": 4, + "text": "Would taking turns leading during the same intimate moment appeal to you?", + "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ - "feedback", + "power", "desire_sync", "paired_preference", "sexual_preferences",