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"neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_remember_a_detail_i_mentioned", "text": "You remember a detail I mentioned" }, { "id": "you_reach_for_me_without_a_reason", "text": "You reach for me without a reason" }, { "id": "you_make_me_laugh_when_i_am_tense", "text": "You make me laugh when I am tense" }, { "id": "you_notice_when_my_mood_changes", "text": "You notice when my mood changes" }, { "id": "you_include_me_in_a_small_decision", "text": "You include me in a small decision" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_remember_a_detail_i_mentioned", "text": "You remember a detail I mentioned" }, { "id": "you_reach_for_me_without_a_reason", "text": "You reach for me without a reason" }, { "id": "you_make_me_laugh_when_i_am_tense", "text": "You make me laugh when I am tense" }, { "id": "you_notice_when_my_mood_changes", "text": "You notice when my mood changes" }, { "id": "you_include_me_in_a_small_decision", "text": "You include me in a small decision" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_002", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After a rough day, what kind of welcome feels best?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "comfort", "rough_days", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_long_hug_before_any_questions", "text": "A long hug before any questions" }, { "id": "a_warm_hello_and_a_little_space", "text": "A warm hello and a little space" }, { "id": "something_funny_to_break_the_tension", "text": "Something funny to break the tension" }, { "id": "a_quiet_drink_or_snack_beside_you", "text": "A quiet drink or snack beside you" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_long_hug_before_any_questions", "text": "A long hug before any questions" }, { "id": "a_warm_hello_and_a_little_space", "text": "A warm hello and a little space" }, { "id": "something_funny_to_break_the_tension", "text": "Something funny to break the tension" }, { "id": "a_quiet_drink_or_snack_beside_you", "text": "A quiet drink or snack beside you" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_003", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to tell me when you need extra tenderness?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "asking_for_closeness", "tenderness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not easy yet", "max_label": "Very easy" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_004", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a compliment from me really land?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "compliments", "feeling_known", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "it_is_specific_to_something_i_did", "text": "It is specific to something I did" }, { "id": "it_sounds_spontaneous_and_unplanned", "text": "It sounds spontaneous and unplanned" }, { "id": "it_notices_more_than_my_appearance", "text": "It notices more than my appearance" }, { "id": "it_comes_with_affectionate_eye_contact", "text": "It comes with affectionate eye contact" }, { "id": "it_reflects_something_you_truly_know_about_me", "text": "It reflects something you truly know about me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_is_specific_to_something_i_did", "text": "It is specific to something I did" }, { "id": "it_sounds_spontaneous_and_unplanned", "text": "It sounds spontaneous and unplanned" }, { "id": "it_notices_more_than_my_appearance", "text": "It notices more than my appearance" }, { "id": "it_comes_with_affectionate_eye_contact", "text": "It comes with affectionate eye contact" }, { "id": "it_reflects_something_you_truly_know_about_me", "text": "It reflects something you truly know about me" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_005", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Quiet understanding or playful reassurance?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "reassurance", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "quiet_understanding", "text": "Quiet understanding" }, { "id": "playful_reassurance", "text": "Playful reassurance" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "quiet_understanding", "text": "Quiet understanding" }, { "id": "playful_reassurance", "text": "Playful reassurance" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_006", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When do you feel most deeply known by me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "being_known", "ordinary_moments", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_predict_what_you_are_about_to_say", "text": "I predict what you are about to say" }, { "id": "i_remember_what_usually_wears_you_out", "text": "I remember what usually wears you out" }, { "id": "i_know_when_you_want_company", "text": "I know when you want company" }, { "id": "i_bring_up_something_you_care_about", "text": "I bring up something you care about" }, { "id": "i_understand_a_joke_nobody_else_would", "text": "I understand a joke nobody else would" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_predict_what_you_are_about_to_say", "text": "I predict what you are about to say" }, { "id": "i_remember_what_usually_wears_you_out", "text": "I remember what usually wears you out" }, { "id": "i_know_when_you_want_company", "text": "I know when you want company" }, { "id": "i_bring_up_something_you_care_about", "text": "I bring up something you care about" }, { "id": "i_understand_a_joke_nobody_else_would", "text": "I understand a joke nobody else would" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_007", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "written", "text": "What is one recent moment when you felt understood by me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "recent_memory", "understanding", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min_length": 1, "max_length": 500, "placeholder": "Write your answer..." } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_008", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When you are quiet, which kinds of closeness still feel good?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "quiet_closeness", "low_pressure", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "sitting_near_each_other_without_talking", "text": "Sitting near each other without talking" }, { "id": "a_hand_resting_on_your_leg", "text": "A hand resting on your leg" }, { "id": "doing_separate_things_in_the_same_room", "text": "Doing separate things in the same room" }, { "id": "a_brief_check_in_with_no_follow_up_pressure", "text": "A brief check-in with no follow-up pressure" }, { "id": "sharing_music_in_comfortable_silence", "text": "Sharing music in comfortable silence" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sitting_near_each_other_without_talking", "text": "Sitting near each other without talking" }, { "id": "a_hand_resting_on_your_leg", "text": "A hand resting on your leg" }, { "id": "doing_separate_things_in_the_same_room", "text": "Doing separate things in the same room" }, { "id": "a_brief_check_in_with_no_follow_up_pressure", "text": "A brief check-in with no follow-up pressure" }, { "id": "sharing_music_in_comfortable_silence", "text": "Sharing music in comfortable silence" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_009", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of check-in feels most natural to you?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "check_ins", "natural_connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "how_are_you_really_doing", "text": "How are you really doing?" }, { "id": "need_anything_from_me_tonight", "text": "Need anything from me tonight?" }, { "id": "what_part_of_your_day_stuck_with_you", "text": "What part of your day stuck with you?" }, { "id": "want_company_or_some_breathing_room", "text": "Want company or some breathing room?" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "how_are_you_really_doing", "text": "How are you really doing?" }, { "id": "need_anything_from_me_tonight", "text": "Need anything from me tonight?" }, { "id": "what_part_of_your_day_stuck_with_you", "text": "What part of your day stuck with you?" }, { "id": "want_company_or_some_breathing_room", "text": "Want company or some breathing room?" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_010", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes affection feel emotionally meaningful to you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "affection", "meaning", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "it_happens_outside_romantic_moments", "text": "It happens outside romantic moments" }, { "id": "it_matches_the_mood_i_am_in", "text": "It matches the mood I am in" }, { "id": "it_is_offered_without_expecting_more", "text": "It is offered without expecting more" }, { "id": "it_feels_personal_rather_than_automatic", "text": "It feels personal rather than automatic" }, { "id": "it_continues_after_a_difficult_day", "text": "It continues after a difficult day" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_happens_outside_romantic_moments", "text": "It happens outside romantic moments" }, { "id": "it_matches_the_mood_i_am_in", "text": "It matches the mood I am in" }, { "id": "it_is_offered_without_expecting_more", "text": "It is offered without expecting more" }, { "id": "it_feels_personal_rather_than_automatic", "text": "It feels personal rather than automatic" }, { "id": "it_continues_after_a_difficult_day", "text": "It continues after a difficult day" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_011", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How connected have you felt to me lately?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "current_closeness", "connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "A little distant", "max_label": "Very connected" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_012", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you I am paying attention to your inner world?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "attention", "inner_world", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_ask_about_something_you_mentioned_earlier", "text": "I ask about something you mentioned earlier" }, { "id": "i_notice_when_your_energy_is_different", "text": "I notice when your energy is different" }, { "id": "i_remember_what_you_were_worried_about", "text": "I remember what you were worried about" }, { "id": "i_celebrate_things_that_matter_to_you", "text": "I celebrate things that matter to you" }, { "id": "i_give_you_room_when_you_are_thinking", "text": "I give you room when you are thinking" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_ask_about_something_you_mentioned_earlier", "text": "I ask about something you mentioned earlier" }, { "id": "i_notice_when_your_energy_is_different", "text": "I notice when your energy is different" }, { "id": "i_remember_what_you_were_worried_about", "text": "I remember what you were worried about" }, { "id": "i_celebrate_things_that_matter_to_you", "text": "I celebrate things that matter to you" }, { "id": "i_give_you_room_when_you_are_thinking", "text": "I give you room when you are thinking" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_013", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you doubt yourself, what kind of reassurance helps most?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "self_doubt", "reassurance", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "remind_me_what_i_have_already_handled", "text": "Remind me what I have already handled" }, { "id": "tell_me_what_you_genuinely_see_in_me", "text": "Tell me what you genuinely see in me" }, { "id": "stay_close_while_i_find_my_footing", "text": "Stay close while I find my footing" }, { "id": "help_me_laugh_at_the_worst_case_story", "text": "Help me laugh at the worst-case story" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "remind_me_what_i_have_already_handled", "text": "Remind me what I have already handled" }, { "id": "tell_me_what_you_genuinely_see_in_me", "text": "Tell me what you genuinely see in me" }, { "id": "stay_close_while_i_find_my_footing", "text": "Stay close while I find my footing" }, { "id": "help_me_laugh_at_the_worst_case_story", "text": "Help me laugh at the worst-case story" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_014", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you receive comfort without feeling crowded?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "receiving_comfort", "personal_space", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_ask_before_giving_advice", "text": "You ask before giving advice" }, { "id": "you_let_me_choose_how_much_to_share", "text": "You let me choose how much to share" }, { "id": "you_keep_your_voice_calm_and_normal", "text": "You keep your voice calm and normal" }, { "id": "you_stay_nearby_without_hovering", "text": "You stay nearby without hovering" }, { "id": "you_do_not_treat_my_mood_like_an_emergency", "text": "You do not treat my mood like an emergency" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_ask_before_giving_advice", "text": "You ask before giving advice" }, { "id": "you_let_me_choose_how_much_to_share", "text": "You let me choose how much to share" }, { "id": "you_keep_your_voice_calm_and_normal", "text": "You keep your voice calm and normal" }, { "id": "you_stay_nearby_without_hovering", "text": "You stay nearby without hovering" }, { "id": "you_do_not_treat_my_mood_like_an_emergency", "text": "You do not treat my mood like an emergency" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_015", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which everyday gestures make you feel chosen?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "feeling_chosen", "daily_life", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_save_you_a_spot_beside_me", "text": "I save you a spot beside me" }, { "id": "i_look_for_you_when_something_funny_happens", "text": "I look for you when something funny happens" }, { "id": "i_bring_you_into_a_conversation", "text": "I bring you into a conversation" }, { "id": "i_check_what_you_would_enjoy_too", "text": "I check what you would enjoy too" }, { "id": "i_greet_you_like_i_am_glad_you_are_here", "text": "I greet you like I am glad you are here" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_save_you_a_spot_beside_me", "text": "I save you a spot beside me" }, { "id": "i_look_for_you_when_something_funny_happens", "text": "I look for you when something funny happens" }, { "id": "i_bring_you_into_a_conversation", "text": "I bring you into a conversation" }, { "id": "i_check_what_you_would_enjoy_too", "text": "I check what you would enjoy too" }, { "id": "i_greet_you_like_i_am_glad_you_are_here", "text": "I greet you like I am glad you are here" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_016", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you being a little vulnerable with me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "vulnerability", "comfort", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Still cautious", "max_label": "Very comfortable" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_017", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps a serious feeling from becoming too heavy between us?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "emotional_weight", "gentleness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "knowing_we_can_pause_whenever_needed", "text": "Knowing we can pause whenever needed" }, { "id": "a_little_warmth_in_the_way_we_speak", "text": "A little warmth in the way we speak" }, { "id": "not_having_to_explain_every_detail", "text": "Not having to explain every detail" }, { "id": "a_touch_of_humor_at_the_right_moment", "text": "A touch of humor at the right moment" }, { "id": "ending_with_affection_instead_of_picking_it_apart", "text": "Ending with affection instead of picking it apart" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_we_can_pause_whenever_needed", "text": "Knowing we can pause whenever needed" }, { "id": "a_little_warmth_in_the_way_we_speak", "text": "A little warmth in the way we speak" }, { "id": "not_having_to_explain_every_detail", "text": "Not having to explain every detail" }, { "id": "a_touch_of_humor_at_the_right_moment", "text": "A touch of humor at the right moment" }, { "id": "ending_with_affection_instead_of_picking_it_apart", "text": "Ending with affection instead of picking it apart" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_018", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "If you want closeness without a big talk, what sounds best?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "low_pressure_closeness", "simple_needs", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "curling_up_together_for_one_episode", "text": "Curling up together for one episode" }, { "id": "taking_a_slow_drive_with_music", "text": "Taking a slow drive with music" }, { "id": "holding_hands_while_we_do_something_ordinary", "text": "Holding hands while we do something ordinary" }, { "id": "lying_together_for_a_few_quiet_minutes", "text": "Lying together for a few quiet minutes" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "curling_up_together_for_one_episode", "text": "Curling up together for one episode" }, { "id": "taking_a_slow_drive_with_music", "text": "Taking a slow drive with music" }, { "id": "holding_hands_while_we_do_something_ordinary", "text": "Holding hands while we do something ordinary" }, { "id": "lying_together_for_a_few_quiet_minutes", "text": "Lying together for a few quiet minutes" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_019", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which actions leave you feeling emotionally appreciated?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "appreciation", "emotional_value", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_thank_you_for_the_invisible_things", "text": "I thank you for the invisible things" }, { "id": "i_notice_the_effort_behind_what_you_do", "text": "I notice the effort behind what you do" }, { "id": "i_tell_other_people_something_i_admire", "text": "I tell other people something I admire" }, { "id": "i_acknowledge_what_a_day_cost_you", "text": "I acknowledge what a day cost you" }, { "id": "i_make_sure_your_feelings_are_not_an_afterthought", "text": "I make sure your feelings are not an afterthought" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_thank_you_for_the_invisible_things", "text": "I thank you for the invisible things" }, { "id": "i_notice_the_effort_behind_what_you_do", "text": "I notice the effort behind what you do" }, { "id": "i_tell_other_people_something_i_admire", "text": "I tell other people something I admire" }, { "id": "i_acknowledge_what_a_day_cost_you", "text": "I acknowledge what a day cost you" }, { "id": "i_make_sure_your_feelings_are_not_an_afterthought", "text": "I make sure your feelings are not an afterthought" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_020", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of your day do you most enjoy sharing with me?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "sharing_daily_life", "curiosity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_funniest_thing_that_happened", "text": "The funniest thing that happened" }, { "id": "the_part_that_drained_me", "text": "The part that drained me" }, { "id": "a_thought_i_could_not_stop_having", "text": "A thought I could not stop having" }, { "id": "something_small_i_am_proud_of", "text": "Something small I am proud of" }, { "id": "the_moment_i_wished_you_were_there", "text": "The moment I wished you were there" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_funniest_thing_that_happened", "text": "The funniest thing that happened" }, { "id": "the_part_that_drained_me", "text": "The part that drained me" }, { "id": "a_thought_i_could_not_stop_having", "text": "A thought I could not stop having" }, { "id": "something_small_i_am_proud_of", "text": "Something small I am proud of" }, { "id": "the_moment_i_wished_you_were_there", "text": "The moment I wished you were there" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_021", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which surprise from me would brighten your day most?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "surprises", "warmth", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_text_about_something_specific_i_love_about_you", "text": "A text about something specific I love about you" }, { "id": "a_memory_that_made_me_think_of_us", "text": "A memory that made me think of us" }, { "id": "a_small_plan_built_around_your_mood", "text": "A small plan built around your mood" }, { "id": "a_voice_note_because_i_missed_you", "text": "A voice note because I missed you" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_text_about_something_specific_i_love_about_you", "text": "A text about something specific I love about you" }, { "id": "a_memory_that_made_me_think_of_us", "text": "A memory that made me think of us" }, { "id": "a_small_plan_built_around_your_mood", "text": "A small plan built around your mood" }, { "id": "a_voice_note_because_i_missed_you", "text": "A voice note because I missed you" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_022", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes our private world feel special to you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "private_world", "couple_identity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_phrases_only_we_use", "text": "The phrases only we use" }, { "id": "the_looks_that_say_a_whole_sentence", "text": "The looks that say a whole sentence" }, { "id": "the_stories_we_tell_differently_than_anyone_else", "text": "The stories we tell differently than anyone else" }, { "id": "the_way_we_can_be_ridiculous_together", "text": "The way we can be ridiculous together" }, { "id": "the_version_of_ourselves_that_comes_out_at_home", "text": "The version of ourselves that comes out at home" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_phrases_only_we_use", "text": "The phrases only we use" }, { "id": "the_looks_that_say_a_whole_sentence", "text": "The looks that say a whole sentence" }, { "id": "the_stories_we_tell_differently_than_anyone_else", "text": "The stories we tell differently than anyone else" }, { "id": "the_way_we_can_be_ridiculous_together", "text": "The way we can be ridiculous together" }, { "id": "the_version_of_ourselves_that_comes_out_at_home", "text": "The version of ourselves that comes out at home" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_023", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When life feels heavy, what helps you feel less alone with me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "hard_times", "companionship", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_sit_with_me_before_trying_to_fix_anything", "text": "You sit with me before trying to fix anything" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_we_can_handle_one_piece_at_a_time", "text": "You remind me we can handle one piece at a time" }, { "id": "you_take_one_small_burden_off_my_plate", "text": "You take one small burden off my plate" }, { "id": "you_stay_affectionate_even_when_i_am_withdrawn", "text": "You stay affectionate even when I am withdrawn" }, { "id": "you_check_back_later_instead_of_assuming_i_am_fine", "text": "You check back later instead of assuming I am fine" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_sit_with_me_before_trying_to_fix_anything", "text": "You sit with me before trying to fix anything" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_we_can_handle_one_piece_at_a_time", "text": "You remind me we can handle one piece at a time" }, { "id": "you_take_one_small_burden_off_my_plate", "text": "You take one small burden off my plate" }, { "id": "you_stay_affectionate_even_when_i_am_withdrawn", "text": "You stay affectionate even when I am withdrawn" }, { "id": "you_check_back_later_instead_of_assuming_i_am_fine", "text": "You check back later instead of assuming I am fine" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_024", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you need encouragement, what do you want first?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "encouragement", "support_preferences", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "confidence_that_i_can_handle_it", "text": "Confidence that I can handle it" }, { "id": "permission_to_be_tired_for_a_minute", "text": "Permission to be tired for a minute" }, { "id": "help_seeing_the_next_small_step", "text": "Help seeing the next small step" }, { "id": "a_reminder_of_why_it_matters_to_me", "text": "A reminder of why it matters to me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "confidence_that_i_can_handle_it", "text": "Confidence that I can handle it" }, { "id": "permission_to_be_tired_for_a_minute", "text": "Permission to be tired for a minute" }, { "id": "help_seeing_the_next_small_step", "text": "Help seeing the next small step" }, { "id": "a_reminder_of_why_it_matters_to_me", "text": "A reminder of why it matters to me" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_025", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a hug feel emotionally comforting to you?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "hugs", "physical_comfort", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "it_lasts_long_enough_for_me_to_settle", "text": "It lasts long enough for me to settle" }, { "id": "it_happens_before_either_of_us_explains", "text": "It happens before either of us explains" }, { "id": "you_hold_me_firmly_but_not_tightly", "text": "You hold me firmly but not tightly" }, { "id": "there_is_a_soft_word_or_kiss_with_it", "text": "There is a soft word or kiss with it" }, { "id": "you_let_me_be_the_first_to_pull_away", "text": "You let me be the first to pull away" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_lasts_long_enough_for_me_to_settle", "text": "It lasts long enough for me to settle" }, { "id": "it_happens_before_either_of_us_explains", "text": "It happens before either of us explains" }, { "id": "you_hold_me_firmly_but_not_tightly", "text": "You hold me firmly but not tightly" }, { "id": "there_is_a_soft_word_or_kiss_with_it", "text": "There is a soft word or kiss with it" }, { "id": "you_let_me_be_the_first_to_pull_away", "text": "You let me be the first to pull away" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_026", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel remembered when we are apart?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "apart", "being_remembered", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_message_tied_to_something_we_talked_about", "text": "A message tied to something we talked about" }, { "id": "a_photo_of_something_that_made_you_think_of_me", "text": "A photo of something that made you think of me" }, { "id": "a_quick_update_from_the_middle_of_your_day", "text": "A quick update from the middle of your day" }, { "id": "a_song_that_reminded_you_of_us", "text": "A song that reminded you of us" }, { "id": "a_plan_for_when_we_are_together_again", "text": "A plan for when we are together again" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_message_tied_to_something_we_talked_about", "text": "A message tied to something we talked about" }, { "id": "a_photo_of_something_that_made_you_think_of_me", "text": "A photo of something that made you think of me" }, { "id": "a_quick_update_from_the_middle_of_your_day", "text": "A quick update from the middle of your day" }, { "id": "a_song_that_reminded_you_of_us", "text": "A song that reminded you of us" }, { "id": "a_plan_for_when_we_are_together_again", "text": "A plan for when we are together again" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_027", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of “I miss you” feels best to receive?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "missing_each_other", "messages", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_simple_text_with_no_extra_explanation", "text": "A simple text with no extra explanation" }, { "id": "a_funny_callback_to_our_last_time_together", "text": "A funny callback to our last time together" }, { "id": "a_voice_note_that_sounds_genuinely_affectionate", "text": "A voice note that sounds genuinely affectionate" }, { "id": "a_specific_thing_you_miss_about_having_me_there", "text": "A specific thing you miss about having me there" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_simple_text_with_no_extra_explanation", "text": "A simple text with no extra explanation" }, { "id": "a_funny_callback_to_our_last_time_together", "text": "A funny callback to our last time together" }, { "id": "a_voice_note_that_sounds_genuinely_affectionate", "text": "A voice note that sounds genuinely affectionate" }, { "id": "a_specific_thing_you_miss_about_having_me_there", "text": "A specific thing you miss about having me there" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_028", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel proud to be with me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "pride", "admiration", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_way_i_treat_people_when_nobody_is_watching", "text": "The way I treat people when nobody is watching" }, { "id": "how_i_keep_going_when_something_is_difficult", "text": "How I keep going when something is difficult" }, { "id": "the_things_i_care_deeply_about", "text": "The things I care deeply about" }, { "id": "the_version_of_myself_i_have_grown_into", "text": "The version of myself I have grown into" }, { "id": "how_openly_i_love_the_people_who_matter_to_me", "text": "How openly I love the people who matter to me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_way_i_treat_people_when_nobody_is_watching", "text": "The way I treat people when nobody is watching" }, { "id": "how_i_keep_going_when_something_is_difficult", "text": "How I keep going when something is difficult" }, { "id": "the_things_i_care_deeply_about", "text": "The things I care deeply about" }, { "id": "the_version_of_myself_i_have_grown_into", "text": "The version of myself I have grown into" }, { "id": "how_openly_i_love_the_people_who_matter_to_me", "text": "How openly I love the people who matter to me" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_029", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to let me celebrate you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "celebration", "receiving_praise", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "A little awkward", "max_label": "Very easy" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_030", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of yourself feel easiest to show me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "authenticity", "being_yourself", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "my_silly_side", "text": "My silly side" }, { "id": "my_ambitious_side", "text": "My ambitious side" }, { "id": "my_sensitive_side", "text": "My sensitive side" }, { "id": "my_uncertain_side", "text": "My uncertain side" }, { "id": "my_completely_unfiltered_side", "text": "My completely unfiltered side" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "my_silly_side", "text": "My silly side" }, { "id": "my_ambitious_side", "text": "My ambitious side" }, { "id": "my_sensitive_side", "text": "My sensitive side" }, { "id": "my_uncertain_side", "text": "My uncertain side" }, { "id": "my_completely_unfiltered_side", "text": "My completely unfiltered side" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_031", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A thoughtful text or a surprise hug?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "affection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_thoughtful_text", "text": "A thoughtful text" }, { "id": "a_surprise_hug", "text": "A surprise hug" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_thoughtful_text", "text": "A thoughtful text" }, { "id": "a_surprise_hug", "text": "A surprise hug" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_032", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When words are not enough, what still helps you feel loved?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "nonverbal_love", "care", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_stay_close_instead_of_filling_the_silence", "text": "You stay close instead of filling the silence" }, { "id": "you_do_one_kind_thing_without_making_a_production_of_it", "text": "You do one kind thing without making a production of it" }, { "id": "you_look_at_me_with_real_softness", "text": "You look at me with real softness" }, { "id": "you_make_the_room_feel_calmer", "text": "You make the room feel calmer" }, { "id": "you_reach_for_my_hand", "text": "You reach for my hand" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_stay_close_instead_of_filling_the_silence", "text": "You stay close instead of filling the silence" }, { "id": "you_do_one_kind_thing_without_making_a_production_of_it", "text": "You do one kind thing without making a production of it" }, { "id": "you_look_at_me_with_real_softness", "text": "You look at me with real softness" }, { "id": "you_make_the_room_feel_calmer", "text": "You make the room feel calmer" }, { "id": "you_reach_for_my_hand", "text": "You reach for my hand" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_033", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which small ritual would make us feel closer?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "rituals", "connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_real_hello_when_we_reunite", "text": "A real hello when we reunite" }, { "id": "one_honest_question_before_bed", "text": "One honest question before bed" }, { "id": "a_weekly_song_picked_for_each_other", "text": "A weekly song picked for each other" }, { "id": "a_quiet_cup_of_something_together", "text": "A quiet cup of something together" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_real_hello_when_we_reunite", "text": "A real hello when we reunite" }, { "id": "one_honest_question_before_bed", "text": "One honest question before bed" }, { "id": "a_weekly_song_picked_for_each_other", "text": "A weekly song picked for each other" }, { "id": "a_quiet_cup_of_something_together", "text": "A quiet cup of something together" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_034", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What tells you I enjoy who you are, not only what you do?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "being_valued", "identity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_want_your_company_when_nothing_needs_doing", "text": "I want your company when nothing needs doing" }, { "id": "i_ask_what_you_think_just_because_i_am_curious", "text": "I ask what you think just because I am curious" }, { "id": "i_laugh_at_the_way_your_mind_works", "text": "I laugh at the way your mind works" }, { "id": "i_notice_your_personality_in_ordinary_moments", "text": "I notice your personality in ordinary moments" }, { "id": "i_make_room_for_the_interests_that_are_yours_alone", "text": "I make room for the interests that are yours alone" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_want_your_company_when_nothing_needs_doing", "text": "I want your company when nothing needs doing" }, { "id": "i_ask_what_you_think_just_because_i_am_curious", "text": "I ask what you think just because I am curious" }, { "id": "i_laugh_at_the_way_your_mind_works", "text": "I laugh at the way your mind works" }, { "id": "i_notice_your_personality_in_ordinary_moments", "text": "I notice your personality in ordinary moments" }, { "id": "i_make_room_for_the_interests_that_are_yours_alone", "text": "I make room for the interests that are yours alone" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_035", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "written", "text": "What is one part of you that you wish I noticed more often?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "being_noticed", "personal_depth", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min_length": 1, "max_length": 500, "placeholder": "Write your answer..." } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_036", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of emotional closeness feel romantic to you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "romance", "emotional_closeness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "being_looked_at_like_you_still_cannot_believe_i_am_yours", "text": "Being looked at like you still cannot believe I am yours" }, { "id": "talking_quietly_after_everyone_else_is_asleep", "text": "Talking quietly after everyone else is asleep" }, { "id": "hearing_what_you_admire_about_my_inner_life", "text": "Hearing what you admire about my inner life" }, { "id": "feeling_wanted_on_an_ordinary_day", "text": "Feeling wanted on an ordinary day" }, { "id": "sharing_a_memory_that_still_has_a_pull_between_us", "text": "Sharing a memory that still has a pull between us" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_looked_at_like_you_still_cannot_believe_i_am_yours", "text": "Being looked at like you still cannot believe I am yours" }, { "id": "talking_quietly_after_everyone_else_is_asleep", "text": "Talking quietly after everyone else is asleep" }, { "id": "hearing_what_you_admire_about_my_inner_life", "text": "Hearing what you admire about my inner life" }, { "id": "feeling_wanted_on_an_ordinary_day", "text": "Feeling wanted on an ordinary day" }, { "id": "sharing_a_memory_that_still_has_a_pull_between_us", "text": "Sharing a memory that still has a pull between us" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_037", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do you feel like I genuinely enjoy who you are?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "delight", "feeling_wanted", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not often lately", "max_label": "Very often" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_038", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a message from me feel like I genuinely missed you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "missing_each_other", "meaningful_messages", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "it_names_something_specific_about_you", "text": "It names something specific about you" }, { "id": "it_arrives_without_needing_a_reply", "text": "It arrives without needing a reply" }, { "id": "it_sounds_like_my_actual_voice", "text": "It sounds like my actual voice" }, { "id": "it_brings_up_a_moment_we_shared", "text": "It brings up a moment we shared" }, { "id": "it_makes_our_next_reunion_feel_closer", "text": "It makes our next reunion feel closer" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_names_something_specific_about_you", "text": "It names something specific about you" }, { "id": "it_arrives_without_needing_a_reply", "text": "It arrives without needing a reply" }, { "id": "it_sounds_like_my_actual_voice", "text": "It sounds like my actual voice" }, { "id": "it_brings_up_a_moment_we_shared", "text": "It brings up a moment we shared" }, { "id": "it_makes_our_next_reunion_feel_closer", "text": "It makes our next reunion feel closer" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_039", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of shared memory feels most emotionally powerful?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "memories", "shared_history", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_time_we_laughed_until_we_could_not_breathe", "text": "A time we laughed until we could not breathe" }, { "id": "a_difficult_season_we_made_it_through", "text": "A difficult season we made it through" }, { "id": "an_ordinary_day_that_became_unforgettable", "text": "An ordinary day that became unforgettable" }, { "id": "a_moment_one_of_us_felt_deeply_cared_for", "text": "A moment one of us felt deeply cared for" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_time_we_laughed_until_we_could_not_breathe", "text": "A time we laughed until we could not breathe" }, { "id": "a_difficult_season_we_made_it_through", "text": "A difficult season we made it through" }, { "id": "an_ordinary_day_that_became_unforgettable", "text": "An ordinary day that became unforgettable" }, { "id": "a_moment_one_of_us_felt_deeply_cared_for", "text": "A moment one of us felt deeply cared for" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_040", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes laughter feel intimate between us?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "laughter", "playful_closeness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_can_laugh_at_ourselves_without_embarrassment", "text": "We can laugh at ourselves without embarrassment" }, { "id": "one_look_can_restart_an_old_joke", "text": "One look can restart an old joke" }, { "id": "we_know_when_humor_will_help_and_when_it_will_not", "text": "We know when humor will help and when it will not" }, { "id": "our_funniest_moments_happen_when_nobody_else_is_around", "text": "Our funniest moments happen when nobody else is around" }, { "id": "laughter_brings_us_back_to_being_ourselves", "text": "Laughter brings us back to being ourselves" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_can_laugh_at_ourselves_without_embarrassment", "text": "We can laugh at ourselves without embarrassment" }, { "id": "one_look_can_restart_an_old_joke", "text": "One look can restart an old joke" }, { "id": "we_know_when_humor_will_help_and_when_it_will_not", "text": "We know when humor will help and when it will not" }, { "id": "our_funniest_moments_happen_when_nobody_else_is_around", "text": "Our funniest moments happen when nobody else is around" }, { "id": "laughter_brings_us_back_to_being_ourselves", "text": "Laughter brings us back to being ourselves" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_041", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Being gently teased or openly adored?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "affection_style", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "being_gently_teased", "text": "Being gently teased" }, { "id": "being_openly_adored", "text": "Being openly adored" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_gently_teased", "text": "Being gently teased" }, { "id": "being_openly_adored", "text": "Being openly adored" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_042", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes home feel warmer when we’re together?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "home_warmth", "belonging", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_way_we_greet_each_other", "text": "The way we greet each other" }, { "id": "our_familiar_background_noises", "text": "Our familiar background noises" }, { "id": "knowing_i_can_fully_exhale_around_you", "text": "Knowing I can fully exhale around you" }, { "id": "small_affection_while_we_pass_each_other", "text": "Small affection while we pass each other" }, { "id": "the_feeling_that_we_are_on_the_same_side", "text": "The feeling that we are on the same side" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_way_we_greet_each_other", "text": "The way we greet each other" }, { "id": "our_familiar_background_noises", "text": "Our familiar background noises" }, { "id": "knowing_i_can_fully_exhale_around_you", "text": "Knowing I can fully exhale around you" }, { "id": "small_affection_while_we_pass_each_other", "text": "Small affection while we pass each other" }, { "id": "the_feeling_that_we_are_on_the_same_side", "text": "The feeling that we are on the same side" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_043", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you share good news, what reaction do you want first?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "good_news", "celebration", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "big_obvious_excitement", "text": "Big obvious excitement" }, { "id": "a_proud_smile_and_a_long_hug", "text": "A proud smile and a long hug" }, { "id": "questions_that_show_real_interest", "text": "Questions that show real interest" }, { "id": "a_playful_plan_to_celebrate", "text": "A playful plan to celebrate" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "big_obvious_excitement", "text": "Big obvious excitement" }, { "id": "a_proud_smile_and_a_long_hug", "text": "A proud smile and a long hug" }, { "id": "questions_that_show_real_interest", "text": "Questions that show real interest" }, { "id": "a_playful_plan_to_celebrate", "text": "A playful plan to celebrate" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_044", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When you are excited, what helps you feel free to show it?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "joy", "emotional_freedom", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_match_my_energy_instead_of_calming_me_down", "text": "You match my energy instead of calming me down" }, { "id": "you_let_me_tell_the_story_in_my_own_order", "text": "You let me tell the story in my own order" }, { "id": "you_ask_about_the_part_that_matters_most_to_me", "text": "You ask about the part that matters most to me" }, { "id": "you_celebrate_before_pointing_out_practical_details", "text": "You celebrate before pointing out practical details" }, { "id": "you_remember_the_news_later", "text": "You remember the news later" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_match_my_energy_instead_of_calming_me_down", "text": "You match my energy instead of calming me down" }, { "id": "you_let_me_tell_the_story_in_my_own_order", "text": "You let me tell the story in my own order" }, { "id": "you_ask_about_the_part_that_matters_most_to_me", "text": "You ask about the part that matters most to me" }, { "id": "you_celebrate_before_pointing_out_practical_details", "text": "You celebrate before pointing out practical details" }, { "id": "you_remember_the_news_later", "text": "You remember the news later" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_045", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When do you feel most emotionally in sync with me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "same_wavelength", "couple_sync", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "free", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_notice_the_same_funny_detail", "text": "We notice the same funny detail" }, { "id": "we_both_know_when_it_is_time_to_leave", "text": "We both know when it is time to leave" }, { "id": "we_say_the_same_thing_at_nearly_the_same_time", "text": "We say the same thing at nearly the same time" }, { "id": "we_understand_what_the_other_needs_without_a_speech", "text": "We understand what the other needs without a speech" }, { "id": "we_turn_toward_each_other_during_a_crowded_moment", "text": "We turn toward each other during a crowded moment" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_notice_the_same_funny_detail", "text": "We notice the same funny detail" }, { "id": "we_both_know_when_it_is_time_to_leave", "text": "We both know when it is time to leave" }, { "id": "we_say_the_same_thing_at_nearly_the_same_time", "text": "We say the same thing at nearly the same time" }, { "id": "we_understand_what_the_other_needs_without_a_speech", "text": "We understand what the other needs without a speech" }, { "id": "we_turn_toward_each_other_during_a_crowded_moment", "text": "We turn toward each other during a crowded moment" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_046", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel loved when neither of us is at our best?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "imperfect_days", "steady_love", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_stay_kind_even_when_we_are_tired", "text": "We stay kind even when we are tired" }, { "id": "we_do_not_demand_the_best_version_of_each_other", "text": "We do not demand the best version of each other" }, { "id": "we_recover_from_small_off_moments_without_making_them_bigger", "text": "We recover from small off moments without making them bigger" }, { "id": "we_still_find_one_moment_of_affection", "text": "We still find one moment of affection" }, { "id": "we_remember_that_a_hard_day_is_not_the_whole_relationship", "text": "We remember that a hard day is not the whole relationship" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_stay_kind_even_when_we_are_tired", "text": "We stay kind even when we are tired" }, { "id": "we_do_not_demand_the_best_version_of_each_other", "text": "We do not demand the best version of each other" }, { "id": "we_recover_from_small_off_moments_without_making_them_bigger", "text": "We recover from small off moments without making them bigger" }, { "id": "we_still_find_one_moment_of_affection", "text": "We still find one moment of affection" }, { "id": "we_remember_that_a_hard_day_is_not_the_whole_relationship", "text": "We remember that a hard day is not the whole relationship" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_047", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which part of emotional closeness do you want more of lately?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "current_needs", "closeness_preferences", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "feeling_more_noticed", "text": "Feeling more noticed" }, { "id": "feeling_more_comforted", "text": "Feeling more comforted" }, { "id": "feeling_more_playful_together", "text": "Feeling more playful together" }, { "id": "feeling_more_emotionally_wanted", "text": "Feeling more emotionally wanted" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_more_noticed", "text": "Feeling more noticed" }, { "id": "feeling_more_comforted", "text": "Feeling more comforted" }, { "id": "feeling_more_playful_together", "text": "Feeling more playful together" }, { "id": "feeling_more_emotionally_wanted", "text": "Feeling more emotionally wanted" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_048", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes it easier to let me see your softer side?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "softness", "vulnerability", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_rush_me_to_explain", "text": "You do not rush me to explain" }, { "id": "you_respond_warmly_rather_than_dramatically", "text": "You respond warmly rather than dramatically" }, { "id": "you_treat_tenderness_like_something_normal", "text": "You treat tenderness like something normal" }, { "id": "you_keep_the_moment_private", "text": "You keep the moment private" }, { "id": "you_stay_the_same_with_me_afterward", "text": "You stay the same with me afterward" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_rush_me_to_explain", "text": "You do not rush me to explain" }, { "id": "you_respond_warmly_rather_than_dramatically", "text": "You respond warmly rather than dramatically" }, { "id": "you_treat_tenderness_like_something_normal", "text": "You treat tenderness like something normal" }, { "id": "you_keep_the_moment_private", "text": "You keep the moment private" }, { "id": "you_stay_the_same_with_me_afterward", "text": "You stay the same with me afterward" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_049", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A quiet “I know” or a detailed “tell me more”?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "understanding_style", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_quiet_i_know", "text": "A quiet “I know”" }, { "id": "a_detailed_tell_me_more", "text": "A detailed “tell me more”" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_quiet_i_know", "text": "A quiet “I know”" }, { "id": "a_detailed_tell_me_more", "text": "A detailed “tell me more”" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_050", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you we have emotionally found our way back to each other?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "reconnection", "emotional_return", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "our_tone_sounds_warm_again", "text": "Our tone sounds warm again" }, { "id": "affection_stops_feeling_careful", "text": "Affection stops feeling careful" }, { "id": "we_start_sharing_small_thoughts_naturally", "text": "We start sharing small thoughts naturally" }, { "id": "humor_returns_without_being_forced", "text": "Humor returns without being forced" }, { "id": "the_room_feels_easier_when_we_are_together", "text": "The room feels easier when we are together" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "our_tone_sounds_warm_again", "text": "Our tone sounds warm again" }, { "id": "affection_stops_feeling_careful", "text": "Affection stops feeling careful" }, { "id": "we_start_sharing_small_thoughts_naturally", "text": "We start sharing small thoughts naturally" }, { "id": "humor_returns_without_being_forced", "text": "Humor returns without being forced" }, { "id": "the_room_feels_easier_when_we_are_together", "text": "The room feels easier when we are together" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_051", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel emotionally wanted instead of merely included?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "belonging", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_seek_me_out_when_you_do_not_need_anything", "text": "You seek me out when you do not need anything" }, { "id": "you_make_room_for_my_reaction_before_deciding", "text": "You make room for my reaction before deciding" }, { "id": "you_look_genuinely_happy_when_i_join_you", "text": "You look genuinely happy when I join you" }, { "id": "you_invite_me_into_the_parts_of_life_you_enjoy", "text": "You invite me into the parts of life you enjoy" }, { "id": "you_choose_closeness_when_convenience_would_be_easier", "text": "You choose closeness when convenience would be easier" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_seek_me_out_when_you_do_not_need_anything", "text": "You seek me out when you do not need anything" }, { "id": "you_make_room_for_my_reaction_before_deciding", "text": "You make room for my reaction before deciding" }, { "id": "you_look_genuinely_happy_when_i_join_you", "text": "You look genuinely happy when I join you" }, { "id": "you_invite_me_into_the_parts_of_life_you_enjoy", "text": "You invite me into the parts of life you enjoy" }, { "id": "you_choose_closeness_when_convenience_would_be_easier", "text": "You choose closeness when convenience would be easier" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_052", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When I can tell something is off, what response feels best?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "mood_awareness", "support_preferences", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "ask_once_and_let_me_decide_how_much_to_say", "text": "Ask once and let me decide how much to say" }, { "id": "offer_comfort_before_asking_what_happened", "text": "Offer comfort before asking what happened" }, { "id": "stay_normal_but_a_little_more_attentive", "text": "Stay normal but a little more attentive" }, { "id": "give_me_space_and_check_back_later", "text": "Give me space and check back later" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_once_and_let_me_decide_how_much_to_say", "text": "Ask once and let me decide how much to say" }, { "id": "offer_comfort_before_asking_what_happened", "text": "Offer comfort before asking what happened" }, { "id": "stay_normal_but_a_little_more_attentive", "text": "Stay normal but a little more attentive" }, { "id": "give_me_space_and_check_back_later", "text": "Give me space and check back later" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_053", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you know your feelings matter to me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "feelings_matter", "care", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_remember_the_feeling_after_the_facts_have_passed", "text": "I remember the feeling after the facts have passed" }, { "id": "i_do_not_argue_with_how_something_affected_you", "text": "I do not argue with how something affected you" }, { "id": "i_adjust_something_small_when_i_can", "text": "I adjust something small when I can" }, { "id": "i_ask_what_part_was_hardest_for_you", "text": "I ask what part was hardest for you" }, { "id": "i_treat_your_reaction_as_worth_understanding", "text": "I treat your reaction as worth understanding" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_remember_the_feeling_after_the_facts_have_passed", "text": "I remember the feeling after the facts have passed" }, { "id": "i_do_not_argue_with_how_something_affected_you", "text": "I do not argue with how something affected you" }, { "id": "i_adjust_something_small_when_i_can", "text": "I adjust something small when I can" }, { "id": "i_ask_what_part_was_hardest_for_you", "text": "I ask what part was hardest for you" }, { "id": "i_treat_your_reaction_as_worth_understanding", "text": "I treat your reaction as worth understanding" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_054", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to accept comfort from me when you are upset?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "accepting_comfort", "openness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Usually difficult", "max_label": "Usually easy" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_055", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of your inner world would you like me to know better?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "inner_world", "curiosity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_ideas_i_keep_returning_to", "text": "The ideas I keep returning to" }, { "id": "the_fears_i_rarely_say_out_loud", "text": "The fears I rarely say out loud" }, { "id": "the_things_i_secretly_hope_for", "text": "The things I secretly hope for" }, { "id": "the_memories_that_shaped_how_i_see_myself", "text": "The memories that shaped how I see myself" }, { "id": "the_small_joys_other_people_overlook", "text": "The small joys other people overlook" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_ideas_i_keep_returning_to", "text": "The ideas I keep returning to" }, { "id": "the_fears_i_rarely_say_out_loud", "text": "The fears I rarely say out loud" }, { "id": "the_things_i_secretly_hope_for", "text": "The things I secretly hope for" }, { "id": "the_memories_that_shaped_how_i_see_myself", "text": "The memories that shaped how I see myself" }, { "id": "the_small_joys_other_people_overlook", "text": "The small joys other people overlook" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_056", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A soft question or a familiar touch?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "tenderness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_soft_question", "text": "A soft question" }, { "id": "a_familiar_touch", "text": "A familiar touch" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_soft_question", "text": "A soft question" }, { "id": "a_familiar_touch", "text": "A familiar touch" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_057", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a tender moment feel natural instead of staged?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "tender_moments", "authenticity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "it_happens_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_life", "text": "It happens in the middle of ordinary life" }, { "id": "nobody_is_trying_to_say_the_perfect_thing", "text": "Nobody is trying to say the perfect thing" }, { "id": "there_is_room_to_laugh_if_it_gets_awkward", "text": "There is room to laugh if it gets awkward" }, { "id": "the_affection_fits_what_we_are_feeling", "text": "The affection fits what we are feeling" }, { "id": "we_let_the_moment_end_without_overexplaining_it", "text": "We let the moment end without overexplaining it" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_happens_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_life", "text": "It happens in the middle of ordinary life" }, { "id": "nobody_is_trying_to_say_the_perfect_thing", "text": "Nobody is trying to say the perfect thing" }, { "id": "there_is_room_to_laugh_if_it_gets_awkward", "text": "There is room to laugh if it gets awkward" }, { "id": "the_affection_fits_what_we_are_feeling", "text": "The affection fits what we are feeling" }, { "id": "we_let_the_moment_end_without_overexplaining_it", "text": "We let the moment end without overexplaining it" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_058", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which compliment feels most emotionally intimate?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "compliments", "intimacy", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_make_me_feel_more_like_myself", "text": "You make me feel more like myself" }, { "id": "i_trust_the_way_you_see_the_world", "text": "I trust the way you see the world" }, { "id": "i_love_who_you_are_when_nobody_is_watching", "text": "I love who you are when nobody is watching" }, { "id": "life_feels_warmer_with_you_in_it", "text": "Life feels warmer with you in it" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_make_me_feel_more_like_myself", "text": "You make me feel more like myself" }, { "id": "i_trust_the_way_you_see_the_world", "text": "I trust the way you see the world" }, { "id": "i_love_who_you_are_when_nobody_is_watching", "text": "I love who you are when nobody is watching" }, { "id": "life_feels_warmer_with_you_in_it", "text": "Life feels warmer with you in it" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_059", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What lets you know I can handle your honest feelings?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "honest_feelings", "emotional_capacity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_do_not_make_your_emotion_about_me", "text": "I do not make your emotion about me" }, { "id": "i_can_stay_calm_without_becoming_distant", "text": "I can stay calm without becoming distant" }, { "id": "i_let_mixed_feelings_exist_at_the_same_time", "text": "I let mixed feelings exist at the same time" }, { "id": "i_do_not_demand_an_immediate_solution", "text": "I do not demand an immediate solution" }, { "id": "i_remain_affectionate_after_hearing_something_difficult", "text": "I remain affectionate after hearing something difficult" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_do_not_make_your_emotion_about_me", "text": "I do not make your emotion about me" }, { "id": "i_can_stay_calm_without_becoming_distant", "text": "I can stay calm without becoming distant" }, { "id": "i_let_mixed_feelings_exist_at_the_same_time", "text": "I let mixed feelings exist at the same time" }, { "id": "i_do_not_demand_an_immediate_solution", "text": "I do not demand an immediate solution" }, { "id": "i_remain_affectionate_after_hearing_something_difficult", "text": "I remain affectionate after hearing something difficult" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_060", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "written", "text": "What is something about you that I understand better than most people do?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "deep_understanding", "personal_story", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min_length": 1, "max_length": 500, "placeholder": "Write your answer..." } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_061", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel connected when our energy levels do not match?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "different_energy", "adaptability", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_choose_something_neither_person_has_to_force", "text": "We choose something neither person has to force" }, { "id": "the_quieter_person_is_not_treated_like_a_problem", "text": "The quieter person is not treated like a problem" }, { "id": "the_more_energetic_person_can_still_be_themselves", "text": "The more energetic person can still be themselves" }, { "id": "we_find_one_small_point_of_connection", "text": "We find one small point of connection" }, { "id": "we_agree_that_closeness_can_look_different_that_day", "text": "We agree that closeness can look different that day" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_choose_something_neither_person_has_to_force", "text": "We choose something neither person has to force" }, { "id": "the_quieter_person_is_not_treated_like_a_problem", "text": "The quieter person is not treated like a problem" }, { "id": "the_more_energetic_person_can_still_be_themselves", "text": "The more energetic person can still be themselves" }, { "id": "we_find_one_small_point_of_connection", "text": "We find one small point of connection" }, { "id": "we_agree_that_closeness_can_look_different_that_day", "text": "We agree that closeness can look different that day" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_062", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How accepted do you feel by me when your feelings are complicated?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_welcome", "belonging", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I still feel guarded", "max_label": "Fully accepted" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_063", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When you feel lonely, which kinds of closeness help most?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "loneliness", "comfort", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_conversation_that_goes_beyond_logistics", "text": "A conversation that goes beyond logistics" }, { "id": "physical_affection_with_no_pressure_attached", "text": "Physical affection with no pressure attached" }, { "id": "being_invited_into_whatever_you_are_doing", "text": "Being invited into whatever you are doing" }, { "id": "hearing_that_my_presence_matters_to_you", "text": "Hearing that my presence matters to you" }, { "id": "making_one_small_plan_to_look_forward_to", "text": "Making one small plan to look forward to" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_conversation_that_goes_beyond_logistics", "text": "A conversation that goes beyond logistics" }, { "id": "physical_affection_with_no_pressure_attached", "text": "Physical affection with no pressure attached" }, { "id": "being_invited_into_whatever_you_are_doing", "text": "Being invited into whatever you are doing" }, { "id": "hearing_that_my_presence_matters_to_you", "text": "Hearing that my presence matters to you" }, { "id": "making_one_small_plan_to_look_forward_to", "text": "Making one small plan to look forward to" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_064", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of attention feels especially personal?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "personal_attention", "being_known", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "remembering_an_exact_detail_from_weeks_ago", "text": "Remembering an exact detail from weeks ago" }, { "id": "noticing_a_change_i_did_not_announce", "text": "Noticing a change I did not announce" }, { "id": "asking_about_something_i_care_about_deeply", "text": "Asking about something I care about deeply" }, { "id": "knowing_what_will_make_me_laugh_today", "text": "Knowing what will make me laugh today" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "remembering_an_exact_detail_from_weeks_ago", "text": "Remembering an exact detail from weeks ago" }, { "id": "noticing_a_change_i_did_not_announce", "text": "Noticing a change I did not announce" }, { "id": "asking_about_something_i_care_about_deeply", "text": "Asking about something I care about deeply" }, { "id": "knowing_what_will_make_me_laugh_today", "text": "Knowing what will make me laugh today" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_065", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes it easier to share joy with me, not only stress?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "sharing_joy", "positive_connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_let_me_be_excited_without_teasing_it_down", "text": "You let me be excited without teasing it down" }, { "id": "you_ask_for_the_full_story", "text": "You ask for the full story" }, { "id": "you_celebrate_before_discussing_the_next_step", "text": "You celebrate before discussing the next step" }, { "id": "you_remember_what_the_win_means_to_me", "text": "You remember what the win means to me" }, { "id": "you_bring_the_good_news_up_again_later", "text": "You bring the good news up again later" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_let_me_be_excited_without_teasing_it_down", "text": "You let me be excited without teasing it down" }, { "id": "you_ask_for_the_full_story", "text": "You ask for the full story" }, { "id": "you_celebrate_before_discussing_the_next_step", "text": "You celebrate before discussing the next step" }, { "id": "you_remember_what_the_win_means_to_me", "text": "You remember what the win means to me" }, { "id": "you_bring_the_good_news_up_again_later", "text": "You bring the good news up again later" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_066", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Being quietly understood or enthusiastically encouraged?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "support_style", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "being_quietly_understood", "text": "Being quietly understood" }, { "id": "being_enthusiastically_encouraged", "text": "Being enthusiastically encouraged" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_quietly_understood", "text": "Being quietly understood" }, { "id": "being_enthusiastically_encouraged", "text": "Being enthusiastically encouraged" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_067", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs make affection feel genuine to you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "genuine_affection", "authenticity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "it_is_not_limited_to_certain_moods", "text": "It is not limited to certain moods" }, { "id": "it_reflects_what_you_know_i_actually_like", "text": "It reflects what you know I actually like" }, { "id": "it_shows_up_when_nobody_else_can_see_it", "text": "It shows up when nobody else can see it" }, { "id": "it_is_not_used_to_avoid_a_real_feeling", "text": "It is not used to avoid a real feeling" }, { "id": "it_feels_freely_given_rather_than_performed", "text": "It feels freely given rather than performed" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_is_not_limited_to_certain_moods", "text": "It is not limited to certain moods" }, { "id": "it_reflects_what_you_know_i_actually_like", "text": "It reflects what you know I actually like" }, { "id": "it_shows_up_when_nobody_else_can_see_it", "text": "It shows up when nobody else can see it" }, { "id": "it_is_not_used_to_avoid_a_real_feeling", "text": "It is not used to avoid a real feeling" }, { "id": "it_feels_freely_given_rather_than_performed", "text": "It feels freely given rather than performed" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_068", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you are emotionally tired, what sounds most restorative?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "emotional_fatigue", "restoration", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "quiet_company_with_very_few_questions", "text": "Quiet company with very few questions" }, { "id": "gentle_affection_and_an_early_night", "text": "Gentle affection and an early night" }, { "id": "a_familiar_activity_that_requires_nothing_from_me", "text": "A familiar activity that requires nothing from me" }, { "id": "a_little_laughter_that_changes_the_atmosphere", "text": "A little laughter that changes the atmosphere" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "quiet_company_with_very_few_questions", "text": "Quiet company with very few questions" }, { "id": "gentle_affection_and_an_early_night", "text": "Gentle affection and an early night" }, { "id": "a_familiar_activity_that_requires_nothing_from_me", "text": "A familiar activity that requires nothing from me" }, { "id": "a_little_laughter_that_changes_the_atmosphere", "text": "A little laughter that changes the atmosphere" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_069", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel like all sides of you are welcome with me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "whole_self", "acceptance", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_welcome_both_my_confidence_and_uncertainty", "text": "You welcome both my confidence and uncertainty" }, { "id": "you_do_not_expect_me_to_stay_in_one_mood", "text": "You do not expect me to stay in one mood" }, { "id": "my_interests_do_not_have_to_become_yours", "text": "My interests do not have to become yours" }, { "id": "i_can_change_my_mind_without_losing_your_respect", "text": "I can change my mind without losing your respect" }, { "id": "i_do_not_have_to_be_useful_to_feel_lovable", "text": "I do not have to be useful to feel lovable" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_welcome_both_my_confidence_and_uncertainty", "text": "You welcome both my confidence and uncertainty" }, { "id": "you_do_not_expect_me_to_stay_in_one_mood", "text": "You do not expect me to stay in one mood" }, { "id": "my_interests_do_not_have_to_become_yours", "text": "My interests do not have to become yours" }, { "id": "i_can_change_my_mind_without_losing_your_respect", "text": "I can change my mind without losing your respect" }, { "id": "i_do_not_have_to_be_useful_to_feel_lovable", "text": "I do not have to be useful to feel lovable" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_070", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make my admiration easiest to feel?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "admiration", "recognition", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_watch_me_do_something_i_am_good_at", "text": "You watch me do something I am good at" }, { "id": "you_ask_for_my_perspective_because_you_value_it", "text": "You ask for my perspective because you value it" }, { "id": "you_name_a_quality_you_hope_never_changes", "text": "You name a quality you hope never changes" }, { "id": "you_look_proud_when_i_talk_about_what_matters", "text": "You look proud when I talk about what matters" }, { "id": "you_notice_the_courage_behind_a_choice_i_made", "text": "You notice the courage behind a choice I made" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_watch_me_do_something_i_am_good_at", "text": "You watch me do something I am good at" }, { "id": "you_ask_for_my_perspective_because_you_value_it", "text": "You ask for my perspective because you value it" }, { "id": "you_name_a_quality_you_hope_never_changes", "text": "You name a quality you hope never changes" }, { "id": "you_look_proud_when_i_talk_about_what_matters", "text": "You look proud when I talk about what matters" }, { "id": "you_notice_the_courage_behind_a_choice_i_made", "text": "You notice the courage behind a choice I made" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_071", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps us stay emotionally close while life is changing?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "change", "continuity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_keep_one_familiar_ritual", "text": "We keep one familiar ritual" }, { "id": "we_say_what_feels_different_instead_of_pretending", "text": "We say what feels different instead of pretending" }, { "id": "we_keep_learning_who_the_other_person_is_becoming", "text": "We keep learning who the other person is becoming" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_grief_and_excitement_together", "text": "We make room for grief and excitement together" }, { "id": "we_protect_affection_even_when_routines_shift", "text": "We protect affection even when routines shift" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_keep_one_familiar_ritual", "text": "We keep one familiar ritual" }, { "id": "we_say_what_feels_different_instead_of_pretending", "text": "We say what feels different instead of pretending" }, { "id": "we_keep_learning_who_the_other_person_is_becoming", "text": "We keep learning who the other person is becoming" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_grief_and_excitement_together", "text": "We make room for grief and excitement together" }, { "id": "we_protect_affection_even_when_routines_shift", "text": "We protect affection even when routines shift" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_072", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of our history make you feel anchored to us?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "shared_history", "emotional_anchor", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_early_moments_when_we_chose_each_other", "text": "The early moments when we chose each other" }, { "id": "the_hard_years_that_proved_our_endurance", "text": "The hard years that proved our endurance" }, { "id": "the_ordinary_traditions_that_became_ours", "text": "The ordinary traditions that became ours" }, { "id": "the_ways_we_have_changed_side_by_side", "text": "The ways we have changed side by side" }, { "id": "the_stories_our_family_and_friends_know_by_heart", "text": "The stories our family and friends know by heart" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_early_moments_when_we_chose_each_other", "text": "The early moments when we chose each other" }, { "id": "the_hard_years_that_proved_our_endurance", "text": "The hard years that proved our endurance" }, { "id": "the_ordinary_traditions_that_became_ours", "text": "The ordinary traditions that became ours" }, { "id": "the_ways_we_have_changed_side_by_side", "text": "The ways we have changed side by side" }, { "id": "the_stories_our_family_and_friends_know_by_heart", "text": "The stories our family and friends know by heart" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_073", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a deeper question from me feel welcome?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "deeper_questions", "readiness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_timing_feels_private_and_unhurried", "text": "The timing feels private and unhurried" }, { "id": "you_sound_curious_rather_than_concerned", "text": "You sound curious rather than concerned" }, { "id": "i_know_a_short_answer_is_acceptable", "text": "I know a short answer is acceptable" }, { "id": "the_question_is_about_knowing_me_not_correcting_me", "text": "The question is about knowing me, not correcting me" }, { "id": "you_are_willing_to_answer_it_too", "text": "You are willing to answer it too" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_timing_feels_private_and_unhurried", "text": "The timing feels private and unhurried" }, { "id": "you_sound_curious_rather_than_concerned", "text": "You sound curious rather than concerned" }, { "id": "i_know_a_short_answer_is_acceptable", "text": "I know a short answer is acceptable" }, { "id": "the_question_is_about_knowing_me_not_correcting_me", "text": "The question is about knowing me, not correcting me" }, { "id": "you_are_willing_to_answer_it_too", "text": "You are willing to answer it too" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_074", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel tender toward me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "tenderness", "fondness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "seeing_a_side_of_you_other_people_rarely_see", "text": "Seeing a side of you other people rarely see" }, { "id": "remembering_how_young_we_both_once_were", "text": "Remembering how young we both once were" }, { "id": "watching_you_care_about_something_deeply", "text": "Watching you care about something deeply" }, { "id": "noticing_the_effort_behind_your_brave_face", "text": "Noticing the effort behind your brave face" }, { "id": "catching_a_familiar_expression_i_have_always_loved", "text": "Catching a familiar expression I have always loved" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "seeing_a_side_of_you_other_people_rarely_see", "text": "Seeing a side of you other people rarely see" }, { "id": "remembering_how_young_we_both_once_were", "text": "Remembering how young we both once were" }, { "id": "watching_you_care_about_something_deeply", "text": "Watching you care about something deeply" }, { "id": "noticing_the_effort_behind_your_brave_face", "text": "Noticing the effort behind your brave face" }, { "id": "catching_a_familiar_expression_i_have_always_loved", "text": "Catching a familiar expression I have always loved" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_075", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of kindness matter most between us?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_generosity", "care", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "giving_each_other_the_benefit_of_the_doubt_on_a_hard_day", "text": "Giving each other the benefit of the doubt on a hard day" }, { "id": "making_room_for_a_feeling_that_arrives_at_a_bad_time", "text": "Making room for a feeling that arrives at a bad time" }, { "id": "offering_warmth_without_waiting_to_be_asked", "text": "Offering warmth without waiting to be asked" }, { "id": "letting_the_other_person_have_the_bigger_moment", "text": "Letting the other person have the bigger moment" }, { "id": "choosing_kindness_when_a_sharper_answer_would_be_easier", "text": "Choosing kindness when a sharper answer would be easier" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "giving_each_other_the_benefit_of_the_doubt_on_a_hard_day", "text": "Giving each other the benefit of the doubt on a hard day" }, { "id": "making_room_for_a_feeling_that_arrives_at_a_bad_time", "text": "Making room for a feeling that arrives at a bad time" }, { "id": "offering_warmth_without_waiting_to_be_asked", "text": "Offering warmth without waiting to be asked" }, { "id": "letting_the_other_person_have_the_bigger_moment", "text": "Letting the other person have the bigger moment" }, { "id": "choosing_kindness_when_a_sharper_answer_would_be_easier", "text": "Choosing kindness when a sharper answer would be easier" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_076", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which subtle signs usually mean you could use more care from me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "subtle_signals", "care", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_get_unusually_quiet", "text": "I get unusually quiet" }, { "id": "i_become_more_practical_than_emotional", "text": "I become more practical than emotional" }, { "id": "i_keep_repeating_that_i_am_fine", "text": "I keep repeating that I am fine" }, { "id": "i_lose_interest_in_things_i_normally_enjoy", "text": "I lose interest in things I normally enjoy" }, { "id": "i_stay_busy_so_i_do_not_have_to_slow_down", "text": "I stay busy so I do not have to slow down" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_get_unusually_quiet", "text": "I get unusually quiet" }, { "id": "i_become_more_practical_than_emotional", "text": "I become more practical than emotional" }, { "id": "i_keep_repeating_that_i_am_fine", "text": "I keep repeating that I am fine" }, { "id": "i_lose_interest_in_things_i_normally_enjoy", "text": "I lose interest in things I normally enjoy" }, { "id": "i_stay_busy_so_i_do_not_have_to_slow_down", "text": "I stay busy so I do not have to slow down" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_077", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After you open up and feel a little exposed, what helps most?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "after_vulnerability", "care", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_warm_response_without_making_it_a_huge_moment", "text": "A warm response without making it a huge moment" }, { "id": "a_little_affection_and_a_change_of_subject", "text": "A little affection and a change of subject" }, { "id": "hearing_that_you_are_glad_i_told_you", "text": "Hearing that you are glad I told you" }, { "id": "being_treated_normally_while_you_stay_close", "text": "Being treated normally while you stay close" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_warm_response_without_making_it_a_huge_moment", "text": "A warm response without making it a huge moment" }, { "id": "a_little_affection_and_a_change_of_subject", "text": "A little affection and a change of subject" }, { "id": "hearing_that_you_are_glad_i_told_you", "text": "Hearing that you are glad I told you" }, { "id": "being_treated_normally_while_you_stay_close", "text": "Being treated normally while you stay close" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_078", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel cared for without feeling managed?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_protection", "autonomy", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_defend_my_dignity_when_i_am_not_present", "text": "You defend my dignity when I am not present" }, { "id": "you_keep_private_moments_private", "text": "You keep private moments private" }, { "id": "you_support_me_without_taking_over", "text": "You support me without taking over" }, { "id": "you_warn_me_gently_when_something_may_hurt", "text": "You warn me gently when something may hurt" }, { "id": "you_respect_that_i_still_make_my_own_choices", "text": "You respect that I still make my own choices" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_defend_my_dignity_when_i_am_not_present", "text": "You defend my dignity when I am not present" }, { "id": "you_keep_private_moments_private", "text": "You keep private moments private" }, { "id": "you_support_me_without_taking_over", "text": "You support me without taking over" }, { "id": "you_warn_me_gently_when_something_may_hurt", "text": "You warn me gently when something may hurt" }, { "id": "you_respect_that_i_still_make_my_own_choices", "text": "You respect that I still make my own choices" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_079", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you letting me see you disappointed?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "disappointment", "vulnerability", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Usually guarded", "max_label": "Very comfortable" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_080", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of being known feel most intimate to you?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "being_known", "intimacy", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_know_what_i_mean_before_i_finish", "text": "You know what I mean before I finish" }, { "id": "you_recognize_when_i_am_covering_hurt_with_humor", "text": "You recognize when I am covering hurt with humor" }, { "id": "you_understand_what_i_need_after_social_time", "text": "You understand what I need after social time" }, { "id": "you_remember_the_younger_version_of_me", "text": "You remember the younger version of me" }, { "id": "you_know_which_dreams_i_have_not_given_up_on", "text": "You know which dreams I have not given up on" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_know_what_i_mean_before_i_finish", "text": "You know what I mean before I finish" }, { "id": "you_recognize_when_i_am_covering_hurt_with_humor", "text": "You recognize when I am covering hurt with humor" }, { "id": "you_understand_what_i_need_after_social_time", "text": "You understand what I need after social time" }, { "id": "you_remember_the_younger_version_of_me", "text": "You remember the younger version of me" }, { "id": "you_know_which_dreams_i_have_not_given_up_on", "text": "You know which dreams I have not given up on" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_081", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A private nickname or a meaningful look?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "private_affection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_private_nickname", "text": "A private nickname" }, { "id": "a_meaningful_look", "text": "A meaningful look" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_private_nickname", "text": "A private nickname" }, { "id": "a_meaningful_look", "text": "A meaningful look" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_082", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel close again after a lot of social time?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "after_socializing", "reconnection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_private_recap_on_the_way_home", "text": "A private recap on the way home" }, { "id": "a_few_minutes_alone_together_before_bed", "text": "A few minutes alone together before bed" }, { "id": "talking_about_the_funniest_moment", "text": "Talking about the funniest moment" }, { "id": "checking_whether_either_of_us_felt_left_out", "text": "Checking whether either of us felt left out" }, { "id": "returning_to_one_familiar_little_routine", "text": "Returning to one familiar little routine" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_private_recap_on_the_way_home", "text": "A private recap on the way home" }, { "id": "a_few_minutes_alone_together_before_bed", "text": "A few minutes alone together before bed" }, { "id": "talking_about_the_funniest_moment", "text": "Talking about the funniest moment" }, { "id": "checking_whether_either_of_us_felt_left_out", "text": "Checking whether either of us felt left out" }, { "id": "returning_to_one_familiar_little_routine", "text": "Returning to one familiar little routine" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_083", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of emotional closeness feels most romantic lately?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "romantic_intimacy", "current_preferences", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "feeling_completely_noticed", "text": "Feeling completely noticed" }, { "id": "being_openly_admired", "text": "Being openly admired" }, { "id": "sharing_something_private", "text": "Sharing something private" }, { "id": "being_cared_for_in_a_quiet_way", "text": "Being cared for in a quiet way" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_completely_noticed", "text": "Feeling completely noticed" }, { "id": "being_openly_admired", "text": "Being openly admired" }, { "id": "sharing_something_private", "text": "Sharing something private" }, { "id": "being_cared_for_in_a_quiet_way", "text": "Being cared for in a quiet way" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_084", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps us keep tenderness when one of us is stressed?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "stress", "tenderness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_do_not_mistake_a_short_mood_for_rejection", "text": "We do not mistake a short mood for rejection" }, { "id": "we_use_affection_that_asks_for_nothing_back", "text": "We use affection that asks for nothing back" }, { "id": "we_keep_our_words_gentler_than_the_day_was", "text": "We keep our words gentler than the day was" }, { "id": "we_notice_effort_even_when_the_result_is_imperfect", "text": "We notice effort even when the result is imperfect" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_a_small_laugh_if_it_fits", "text": "We make room for a small laugh if it fits" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_do_not_mistake_a_short_mood_for_rejection", "text": "We do not mistake a short mood for rejection" }, { "id": "we_use_affection_that_asks_for_nothing_back", "text": "We use affection that asks for nothing back" }, { "id": "we_keep_our_words_gentler_than_the_day_was", "text": "We keep our words gentler than the day was" }, { "id": "we_notice_effort_even_when_the_result_is_imperfect", "text": "We notice effort even when the result is imperfect" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_a_small_laugh_if_it_fits", "text": "We make room for a small laugh if it fits" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_085", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "written", "text": "What is one way you have changed emotionally since we became a couple?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "growth", "shared_journey", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min_length": 1, "max_length": 500, "placeholder": "Write your answer..." } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_086", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you I am emotionally available to you?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_availability", "presence", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_look_up_and_give_you_my_full_attention", "text": "I look up and give you my full attention" }, { "id": "i_do_not_rush_your_answer", "text": "I do not rush your answer" }, { "id": "i_can_hear_a_feeling_without_immediately_fixing_it", "text": "I can hear a feeling without immediately fixing it" }, { "id": "i_follow_up_after_the_moment_has_passed", "text": "I follow up after the moment has passed" }, { "id": "i_make_room_for_your_experience_beside_mine", "text": "I make room for your experience beside mine" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_look_up_and_give_you_my_full_attention", "text": "I look up and give you my full attention" }, { "id": "i_do_not_rush_your_answer", "text": "I do not rush your answer" }, { "id": "i_can_hear_a_feeling_without_immediately_fixing_it", "text": "I can hear a feeling without immediately fixing it" }, { "id": "i_follow_up_after_the_moment_has_passed", "text": "I follow up after the moment has passed" }, { "id": "i_make_room_for_your_experience_beside_mine", "text": "I make room for your experience beside mine" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_087", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do you think I understand what drains you?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "emotional_drain", "understanding", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very well yet", "max_label": "Very well" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_088", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which feelings are easiest for you to let me see?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "visible_feelings", "openness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "excitement_that_makes_me_talk_too_fast", "text": "Excitement that makes me talk too fast" }, { "id": "sadness_that_makes_me_quiet", "text": "Sadness that makes me quiet" }, { "id": "frustration_that_needs_a_little_distance", "text": "Frustration that needs a little distance" }, { "id": "nervousness_before_something_important", "text": "Nervousness before something important" }, { "id": "tenderness_that_catches_me_off_guard", "text": "Tenderness that catches me off guard" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "excitement_that_makes_me_talk_too_fast", "text": "Excitement that makes me talk too fast" }, { "id": "sadness_that_makes_me_quiet", "text": "Sadness that makes me quiet" }, { "id": "frustration_that_needs_a_little_distance", "text": "Frustration that needs a little distance" }, { "id": "nervousness_before_something_important", "text": "Nervousness before something important" }, { "id": "tenderness_that_catches_me_off_guard", "text": "Tenderness that catches me off guard" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_089", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which feeling would you most want me to gently ask about?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_curiosity", "being_noticed", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_worry_behind_my_overthinking", "text": "The worry behind my overthinking" }, { "id": "the_hurt_behind_my_silence", "text": "The hurt behind my silence" }, { "id": "the_loneliness_behind_my_independence", "text": "The loneliness behind my independence" }, { "id": "the_hope_behind_my_hesitation", "text": "The hope behind my hesitation" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_worry_behind_my_overthinking", "text": "The worry behind my overthinking" }, { "id": "the_hurt_behind_my_silence", "text": "The hurt behind my silence" }, { "id": "the_loneliness_behind_my_independence", "text": "The loneliness behind my independence" }, { "id": "the_hope_behind_my_hesitation", "text": "The hope behind my hesitation" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_090", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel emotionally close after a busy week?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "busy_weeks", "reconnection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "catching_up_on_what_actually_mattered", "text": "Catching up on what actually mattered" }, { "id": "a_slow_morning_with_no_urgent_decisions", "text": "A slow morning with no urgent decisions" }, { "id": "one_affectionate_moment_that_is_not_rushed", "text": "One affectionate moment that is not rushed" }, { "id": "hearing_what_you_missed_about_me", "text": "Hearing what you missed about me" }, { "id": "doing_something_familiar_that_feels_like_us", "text": "Doing something familiar that feels like us" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "catching_up_on_what_actually_mattered", "text": "Catching up on what actually mattered" }, { "id": "a_slow_morning_with_no_urgent_decisions", "text": "A slow morning with no urgent decisions" }, { "id": "one_affectionate_moment_that_is_not_rushed", "text": "One affectionate moment that is not rushed" }, { "id": "hearing_what_you_missed_about_me", "text": "Hearing what you missed about me" }, { "id": "doing_something_familiar_that_feels_like_us", "text": "Doing something familiar that feels like us" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_091", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A long hug or a long conversation?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "comfort_style", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_long_hug", "text": "A long hug" }, { "id": "a_long_conversation", "text": "A long conversation" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_long_hug", "text": "A long hug" }, { "id": "a_long_conversation", "text": "A long conversation" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_092", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you enjoy your accomplishments with me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "self_pride", "acceptance", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_turn_the_moment_into_a_competition", "text": "You do not turn the moment into a competition" }, { "id": "you_ask_what_the_accomplishment_meant_to_me", "text": "You ask what the accomplishment meant to me" }, { "id": "you_let_me_enjoy_praise_without_brushing_it_off", "text": "You let me enjoy praise without brushing it off" }, { "id": "you_notice_the_work_behind_the_result", "text": "You notice the work behind the result" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_confidence_looks_good_on_me", "text": "You remind me confidence looks good on me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_turn_the_moment_into_a_competition", "text": "You do not turn the moment into a competition" }, { "id": "you_ask_what_the_accomplishment_meant_to_me", "text": "You ask what the accomplishment meant to me" }, { "id": "you_let_me_enjoy_praise_without_brushing_it_off", "text": "You let me enjoy praise without brushing it off" }, { "id": "you_notice_the_work_behind_the_result", "text": "You notice the work behind the result" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_confidence_looks_good_on_me", "text": "You remind me confidence looks good on me" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_093", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of “I love you” feels most convincing?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "love_expressions", "meaning", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "one_said_in_the_middle_of_an_ordinary_task", "text": "One said in the middle of an ordinary task" }, { "id": "one_connected_to_something_specific_about_me", "text": "One connected to something specific about me" }, { "id": "one_whispered_during_a_quiet_affectionate_moment", "text": "One whispered during a quiet affectionate moment" }, { "id": "one_shown_through_a_thoughtful_follow_through", "text": "One shown through a thoughtful follow-through" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_said_in_the_middle_of_an_ordinary_task", "text": "One said in the middle of an ordinary task" }, { "id": "one_connected_to_something_specific_about_me", "text": "One connected to something specific about me" }, { "id": "one_whispered_during_a_quiet_affectionate_moment", "text": "One whispered during a quiet affectionate moment" }, { "id": "one_shown_through_a_thoughtful_follow_through", "text": "One shown through a thoughtful follow-through" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_094", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps emotional closeness alive during ordinary seasons?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "ordinary_seasons", "sustaining_closeness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_keep_asking_each_other_new_questions", "text": "We keep asking each other new questions" }, { "id": "we_do_not_save_affection_for_special_occasions", "text": "We do not save affection for special occasions" }, { "id": "we_share_small_reactions_throughout_the_day", "text": "We share small reactions throughout the day" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_who_we_are_becoming", "text": "We make room for who we are becoming" }, { "id": "we_still_act_interested_in_each_other", "text": "We still act interested in each other" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_keep_asking_each_other_new_questions", "text": "We keep asking each other new questions" }, { "id": "we_do_not_save_affection_for_special_occasions", "text": "We do not save affection for special occasions" }, { "id": "we_share_small_reactions_throughout_the_day", "text": "We share small reactions throughout the day" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_who_we_are_becoming", "text": "We make room for who we are becoming" }, { "id": "we_still_act_interested_in_each_other", "text": "We still act interested in each other" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_095", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which shared experiences make you feel most bonded to me?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "bonding", "shared_experiences", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "solving_a_problem_side_by_side", "text": "Solving a problem side by side" }, { "id": "laughing_through_something_that_went_wrong", "text": "Laughing through something that went wrong" }, { "id": "seeing_somewhere_new_together", "text": "Seeing somewhere new together" }, { "id": "caring_for_someone_or_something_as_a_team", "text": "Caring for someone or something as a team" }, { "id": "having_a_quiet_moment_in_a_busy_place", "text": "Having a quiet moment in a busy place" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "solving_a_problem_side_by_side", "text": "Solving a problem side by side" }, { "id": "laughing_through_something_that_went_wrong", "text": "Laughing through something that went wrong" }, { "id": "seeing_somewhere_new_together", "text": "Seeing somewhere new together" }, { "id": "caring_for_someone_or_something_as_a_team", "text": "Caring for someone or something as a team" }, { "id": "having_a_quiet_moment_in_a_busy_place", "text": "Having a quiet moment in a busy place" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_096", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you stay open to affection when your mind is elsewhere?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "preoccupation", "receiving_affection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_gentle_touch_that_does_not_interrupt_everything", "text": "A gentle touch that does not interrupt everything" }, { "id": "a_clear_signal_that_nothing_more_is_expected", "text": "A clear signal that nothing more is expected" }, { "id": "a_little_time_to_finish_the_thought_i_am_in", "text": "A little time to finish the thought I am in" }, { "id": "affection_that_feels_familiar_and_grounding", "text": "Affection that feels familiar and grounding" }, { "id": "being_asked_whether_closeness_would_help", "text": "Being asked whether closeness would help" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_gentle_touch_that_does_not_interrupt_everything", "text": "A gentle touch that does not interrupt everything" }, { "id": "a_clear_signal_that_nothing_more_is_expected", "text": "A clear signal that nothing more is expected" }, { "id": "a_little_time_to_finish_the_thought_i_am_in", "text": "A little time to finish the thought I am in" }, { "id": "affection_that_feels_familiar_and_grounding", "text": "Affection that feels familiar and grounding" }, { "id": "being_asked_whether_closeness_would_help", "text": "Being asked whether closeness would help" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_097", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When you are stressed, which kinds of emotional attention feel best?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "stress_support", "attention", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "noticing_without_making_me_explain_immediately", "text": "Noticing without making me explain immediately" }, { "id": "reminding_me_what_can_wait_until_tomorrow", "text": "Reminding me what can wait until tomorrow" }, { "id": "offering_one_concrete_form_of_care", "text": "Offering one concrete form of care" }, { "id": "keeping_me_company_while_i_decompress", "text": "Keeping me company while I decompress" }, { "id": "checking_whether_i_want_comfort_or_distraction", "text": "Checking whether I want comfort or distraction" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "noticing_without_making_me_explain_immediately", "text": "Noticing without making me explain immediately" }, { "id": "reminding_me_what_can_wait_until_tomorrow", "text": "Reminding me what can wait until tomorrow" }, { "id": "offering_one_concrete_form_of_care", "text": "Offering one concrete form of care" }, { "id": "keeping_me_company_while_i_decompress", "text": "Keeping me company while I decompress" }, { "id": "checking_whether_i_want_comfort_or_distraction", "text": "Checking whether I want comfort or distraction" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_098", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel like I know the person behind your mood?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "moods", "deep_understanding", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_remember_that_irritation_may_mean_exhaustion", "text": "I remember that irritation may mean exhaustion" }, { "id": "i_do_not_define_you_by_one_difficult_moment", "text": "I do not define you by one difficult moment" }, { "id": "i_recognize_the_values_underneath_your_reaction", "text": "I recognize the values underneath your reaction" }, { "id": "i_know_what_usually_helps_you_return_to_yourself", "text": "I know what usually helps you return to yourself" }, { "id": "i_can_see_your_good_intentions_even_when_delivery_is_messy", "text": "I can see your good intentions even when delivery is messy" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_remember_that_irritation_may_mean_exhaustion", "text": "I remember that irritation may mean exhaustion" }, { "id": "i_do_not_define_you_by_one_difficult_moment", "text": "I do not define you by one difficult moment" }, { "id": "i_recognize_the_values_underneath_your_reaction", "text": "I recognize the values underneath your reaction" }, { "id": "i_know_what_usually_helps_you_return_to_yourself", "text": "I know what usually helps you return to yourself" }, { "id": "i_can_see_your_good_intentions_even_when_delivery_is_messy", "text": "I can see your good intentions even when delivery is messy" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_099", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes emotional moments with me feel unhurried?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "unhurried_closeness", "ease", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_fill_every_silence", "text": "You do not fill every silence" }, { "id": "there_is_no_hidden_goal_for_the_conversation", "text": "There is no hidden goal for the conversation" }, { "id": "i_can_circle_back_after_thinking", "text": "I can circle back after thinking" }, { "id": "we_are_not_watching_the_clock", "text": "We are not watching the clock" }, { "id": "the_moment_can_be_meaningful_without_becoming_serious", "text": "The moment can be meaningful without becoming serious" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_fill_every_silence", "text": "You do not fill every silence" }, { "id": "there_is_no_hidden_goal_for_the_conversation", "text": "There is no hidden goal for the conversation" }, { "id": "i_can_circle_back_after_thinking", "text": "I can circle back after thinking" }, { "id": "we_are_not_watching_the_clock", "text": "We are not watching the clock" }, { "id": "the_moment_can_be_meaningful_without_becoming_serious", "text": "The moment can be meaningful without becoming serious" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_100", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of care make you feel cherished?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "feeling_cherished", "love", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_care_for_you_when_you_feel_least_impressive", "text": "I care for you when you feel least impressive" }, { "id": "i_remember_a_preference_you_never_had_to_repeat", "text": "I remember a preference you never had to repeat" }, { "id": "i_make_your_comfort_part_of_my_thinking", "text": "I make your comfort part of my thinking" }, { "id": "i_speak_about_you_with_warmth_when_you_are_absent", "text": "I speak about you with warmth when you are absent" }, { "id": "i_treat_your_happiness_like_something_worth_protecting", "text": "I treat your happiness like something worth protecting" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_care_for_you_when_you_feel_least_impressive", "text": "I care for you when you feel least impressive" }, { "id": "i_remember_a_preference_you_never_had_to_repeat", "text": "I remember a preference you never had to repeat" }, { "id": "i_make_your_comfort_part_of_my_thinking", "text": "I make your comfort part of my thinking" }, { "id": "i_speak_about_you_with_warmth_when_you_are_absent", "text": "I speak about you with warmth when you are absent" }, { "id": "i_treat_your_happiness_like_something_worth_protecting", "text": "I treat your happiness like something worth protecting" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_101", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel emotionally pursued in a long-term relationship?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_pursuit", "long_term_love", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_keep_discovering_new_things_about_me", "text": "You keep discovering new things about me" }, { "id": "you_initiate_affection_without_waiting_for_a_signal", "text": "You initiate affection without waiting for a signal" }, { "id": "you_plan_something_around_what_i_would_enjoy", "text": "You plan something around what I would enjoy" }, { "id": "you_tell_me_why_you_still_choose_me", "text": "You tell me why you still choose me" }, { "id": "you_treat_my_attention_like_something_you_want", "text": "You treat my attention like something you want" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_keep_discovering_new_things_about_me", "text": "You keep discovering new things about me" }, { "id": "you_initiate_affection_without_waiting_for_a_signal", "text": "You initiate affection without waiting for a signal" }, { "id": "you_plan_something_around_what_i_would_enjoy", "text": "You plan something around what I would enjoy" }, { "id": "you_tell_me_why_you_still_choose_me", "text": "You tell me why you still choose me" }, { "id": "you_treat_my_attention_like_something_you_want", "text": "You treat my attention like something you want" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_102", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you are having a good day, how do you most want me to join it?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "shared_joy", "good_days", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "match_my_excitement_and_make_it_bigger", "text": "Match my excitement and make it bigger" }, { "id": "ask_what_made_the_day_feel_so_good", "text": "Ask what made the day feel so good" }, { "id": "turn_it_into_a_small_celebration_together", "text": "Turn it into a small celebration together" }, { "id": "simply_enjoy_the_lighter_version_of_me", "text": "Simply enjoy the lighter version of me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "match_my_excitement_and_make_it_bigger", "text": "Match my excitement and make it bigger" }, { "id": "ask_what_made_the_day_feel_so_good", "text": "Ask what made the day feel so good" }, { "id": "turn_it_into_a_small_celebration_together", "text": "Turn it into a small celebration together" }, { "id": "simply_enjoy_the_lighter_version_of_me", "text": "Simply enjoy the lighter version of me" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_103", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do I notice the emotional details that matter to you?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_details", "being_noticed", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very well yet", "max_label": "Very well" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_104", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a reunion after time apart feel emotionally satisfying?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "reunions", "apart", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_pause_for_a_real_greeting", "text": "We pause for a real greeting" }, { "id": "you_tell_me_one_thing_you_missed", "text": "You tell me one thing you missed" }, { "id": "we_share_the_parts_of_the_time_apart_that_mattered", "text": "We share the parts of the time apart that mattered" }, { "id": "there_is_affection_before_we_return_to_routine", "text": "There is affection before we return to routine" }, { "id": "we_make_the_first_hour_feel_like_ours", "text": "We make the first hour feel like ours" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_pause_for_a_real_greeting", "text": "We pause for a real greeting" }, { "id": "you_tell_me_one_thing_you_missed", "text": "You tell me one thing you missed" }, { "id": "we_share_the_parts_of_the_time_apart_that_mattered", "text": "We share the parts of the time apart that mattered" }, { "id": "there_is_affection_before_we_return_to_routine", "text": "There is affection before we return to routine" }, { "id": "we_make_the_first_hour_feel_like_ours", "text": "We make the first hour feel like ours" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_105", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of curiosity from me feels most loving?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "loving_curiosity", "being_known", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "asking_what_has_been_on_my_mind_lately", "text": "Asking what has been on my mind lately" }, { "id": "wanting_the_story_behind_one_of_my_opinions", "text": "Wanting the story behind one of my opinions" }, { "id": "checking_whether_an_old_dream_still_matters", "text": "Checking whether an old dream still matters" }, { "id": "wondering_how_a_recent_experience_changed_me", "text": "Wondering how a recent experience changed me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "asking_what_has_been_on_my_mind_lately", "text": "Asking what has been on my mind lately" }, { "id": "wanting_the_story_behind_one_of_my_opinions", "text": "Wanting the story behind one of my opinions" }, { "id": "checking_whether_an_old_dream_still_matters", "text": "Checking whether an old dream still matters" }, { "id": "wondering_how_a_recent_experience_changed_me", "text": "Wondering how a recent experience changed me" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_106", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which memories best remind you that we understand each other?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "shared_memories", "understanding", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_time_one_of_us_knew_what_the_other_needed", "text": "A time one of us knew what the other needed" }, { "id": "a_joke_that_landed_during_a_difficult_moment", "text": "A joke that landed during a difficult moment" }, { "id": "a_choice_we_made_without_needing_much_discussion", "text": "A choice we made without needing much discussion" }, { "id": "a_night_when_conversation_felt_effortless", "text": "A night when conversation felt effortless" }, { "id": "a_moment_we_protected_each_other_from_embarrassment", "text": "A moment we protected each other from embarrassment" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_time_one_of_us_knew_what_the_other_needed", "text": "A time one of us knew what the other needed" }, { "id": "a_joke_that_landed_during_a_difficult_moment", "text": "A joke that landed during a difficult moment" }, { "id": "a_choice_we_made_without_needing_much_discussion", "text": "A choice we made without needing much discussion" }, { "id": "a_night_when_conversation_felt_effortless", "text": "A night when conversation felt effortless" }, { "id": "a_moment_we_protected_each_other_from_embarrassment", "text": "A moment we protected each other from embarrassment" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_107", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel like your softness is valued?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "softness", "being_valued", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_never_use_it_to_make_me_feel_weak", "text": "You never use it to make me feel weak" }, { "id": "you_respond_with_care_instead_of_surprise", "text": "You respond with care instead of surprise" }, { "id": "you_notice_the_courage_it_takes_to_stay_tender", "text": "You notice the courage it takes to stay tender" }, { "id": "you_protect_the_moment_from_outside_attention", "text": "You protect the moment from outside attention" }, { "id": "you_meet_softness_with_softness_of_your_own", "text": "You meet softness with softness of your own" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_never_use_it_to_make_me_feel_weak", "text": "You never use it to make me feel weak" }, { "id": "you_respond_with_care_instead_of_surprise", "text": "You respond with care instead of surprise" }, { "id": "you_notice_the_courage_it_takes_to_stay_tender", "text": "You notice the courage it takes to stay tender" }, { "id": "you_protect_the_moment_from_outside_attention", "text": "You protect the moment from outside attention" }, { "id": "you_meet_softness_with_softness_of_your_own", "text": "You meet softness with softness of your own" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_108", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you telling me when you feel left out?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "feeling_left_out", "openness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I usually hold it in", "max_label": "I can say it openly" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_109", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When we are physically apart, what keeps emotional closeness alive?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "distance", "ongoing_connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "sharing_one_unfiltered_part_of_the_day", "text": "Sharing one unfiltered part of the day" }, { "id": "keeping_a_familiar_joke_going", "text": "Keeping a familiar joke going" }, { "id": "knowing_when_we_will_talk_next", "text": "Knowing when we will talk next" }, { "id": "sending_affection_that_does_not_require_a_conversation", "text": "Sending affection that does not require a conversation" }, { "id": "making_the_distance_feel_temporary_rather_than_defining", "text": "Making the distance feel temporary rather than defining" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sharing_one_unfiltered_part_of_the_day", "text": "Sharing one unfiltered part of the day" }, { "id": "keeping_a_familiar_joke_going", "text": "Keeping a familiar joke going" }, { "id": "knowing_when_we_will_talk_next", "text": "Knowing when we will talk next" }, { "id": "sending_affection_that_does_not_require_a_conversation", "text": "Sending affection that does not require a conversation" }, { "id": "making_the_distance_feel_temporary_rather_than_defining", "text": "Making the distance feel temporary rather than defining" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_110", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which emotional habit would you most like us to strengthen?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_habits", "growth", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "noticing_each_other_sooner", "text": "Noticing each other sooner" }, { "id": "celebrating_each_other_more_openly", "text": "Celebrating each other more openly" }, { "id": "asking_for_comfort_more_directly", "text": "Asking for comfort more directly" }, { "id": "returning_to_warmth_more_quickly", "text": "Returning to warmth more quickly" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "noticing_each_other_sooner", "text": "Noticing each other sooner" }, { "id": "celebrating_each_other_more_openly", "text": "Celebrating each other more openly" }, { "id": "asking_for_comfort_more_directly", "text": "Asking for comfort more directly" }, { "id": "returning_to_warmth_more_quickly", "text": "Returning to warmth more quickly" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_111", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel like I’m attracted to who you are, not just how you look?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_attraction", "being_wanted", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_are_drawn_to_the_way_i_think", "text": "You are drawn to the way I think" }, { "id": "you_enjoy_the_intensity_of_what_i_care_about", "text": "You enjoy the intensity of what I care about" }, { "id": "you_find_my_tenderness_appealing", "text": "You find my tenderness appealing" }, { "id": "you_want_access_to_my_private_thoughts", "text": "You want access to my private thoughts" }, { "id": "you_seem_captivated_when_i_am_fully_myself", "text": "You seem captivated when I am fully myself" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_are_drawn_to_the_way_i_think", "text": "You are drawn to the way I think" }, { "id": "you_enjoy_the_intensity_of_what_i_care_about", "text": "You enjoy the intensity of what I care about" }, { "id": "you_find_my_tenderness_appealing", "text": "You find my tenderness appealing" }, { "id": "you_want_access_to_my_private_thoughts", "text": "You want access to my private thoughts" }, { "id": "you_seem_captivated_when_i_am_fully_myself", "text": "You seem captivated when I am fully myself" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_112", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Being remembered or having a need anticipated?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "care_style", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "being_remembered", "text": "Being remembered" }, { "id": "having_a_need_anticipated", "text": "Having a need anticipated" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_remembered", "text": "Being remembered" }, { "id": "having_a_need_anticipated", "text": "Having a need anticipated" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_113", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you our emotional chemistry is strong?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_chemistry", "connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "conversation_can_become_meaningful_without_effort", "text": "Conversation can become meaningful without effort" }, { "id": "affection_and_humor_move_easily_together", "text": "Affection and humor move easily together" }, { "id": "we_can_be_intense_without_losing_warmth", "text": "We can be intense without losing warmth" }, { "id": "we_notice_each_other_across_a_room", "text": "We notice each other across a room" }, { "id": "time_alone_together_changes_the_way_we_both_feel", "text": "Time alone together changes the way we both feel" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "conversation_can_become_meaningful_without_effort", "text": "Conversation can become meaningful without effort" }, { "id": "affection_and_humor_move_easily_together", "text": "Affection and humor move easily together" }, { "id": "we_can_be_intense_without_losing_warmth", "text": "We can be intense without losing warmth" }, { "id": "we_notice_each_other_across_a_room", "text": "We notice each other across a room" }, { "id": "time_alone_together_changes_the_way_we_both_feel", "text": "Time alone together changes the way we both feel" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_114", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of quiet moment feels most intimate?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "quiet_intimacy", "stillness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "waking_up_before_the_day_starts", "text": "Waking up before the day starts" }, { "id": "sitting_together_after_everyone_leaves", "text": "Sitting together after everyone leaves" }, { "id": "holding_each_other_without_talking", "text": "Holding each other without talking" }, { "id": "sharing_a_view_neither_of_us_needs_to_describe", "text": "Sharing a view neither of us needs to describe" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "waking_up_before_the_day_starts", "text": "Waking up before the day starts" }, { "id": "sitting_together_after_everyone_leaves", "text": "Sitting together after everyone leaves" }, { "id": "holding_each_other_without_talking", "text": "Holding each other without talking" }, { "id": "sharing_a_view_neither_of_us_needs_to_describe", "text": "Sharing a view neither of us needs to describe" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_115", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which patterns make our connection feel emotionally steady?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "steadiness", "security", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "my_care_does_not_disappear_when_moods_change", "text": "My care does not disappear when moods change" }, { "id": "we_can_have_separate_days_and_still_feel_connected", "text": "We can have separate days and still feel connected" }, { "id": "you_know_affection_is_not_a_reward", "text": "You know affection is not a reward" }, { "id": "we_return_to_familiar_warmth_after_stress", "text": "We return to familiar warmth after stress" }, { "id": "our_closeness_does_not_depend_on_being_impressive", "text": "Our closeness does not depend on being impressive" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "my_care_does_not_disappear_when_moods_change", "text": "My care does not disappear when moods change" }, { "id": "we_can_have_separate_days_and_still_feel_connected", "text": "We can have separate days and still feel connected" }, { "id": "you_know_affection_is_not_a_reward", "text": "You know affection is not a reward" }, { "id": "we_return_to_familiar_warmth_after_stress", "text": "We return to familiar warmth after stress" }, { "id": "our_closeness_does_not_depend_on_being_impressive", "text": "Our closeness does not depend on being impressive" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_116", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to tell me when your need for closeness changes?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "changing_needs", "asking_for_closeness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I tend to hide it", "max_label": "I can say it easily" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_117", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes it easier to receive love on days you do not feel lovable?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "receiving_love", "hard_self_image_days", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_try_to_talk_me_out_of_every_feeling", "text": "You do not try to talk me out of every feeling" }, { "id": "your_affection_stays_simple_and_believable", "text": "Your affection stays simple and believable" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_of_one_quality_you_know_is_real", "text": "You remind me of one quality you know is real" }, { "id": "you_care_for_me_without_needing_a_big_response", "text": "You care for me without needing a big response" }, { "id": "you_let_the_day_be_hard_without_treating_me_as_hard_to_love", "text": "You let the day be hard without treating me as hard to love" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_try_to_talk_me_out_of_every_feeling", "text": "You do not try to talk me out of every feeling" }, { "id": "your_affection_stays_simple_and_believable", "text": "Your affection stays simple and believable" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_of_one_quality_you_know_is_real", "text": "You remind me of one quality you know is real" }, { "id": "you_care_for_me_without_needing_a_big_response", "text": "You care for me without needing a big response" }, { "id": "you_let_the_day_be_hard_without_treating_me_as_hard_to_love", "text": "You let the day be hard without treating me as hard to love" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_118", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which part of your inner world would you most like to share more often?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "inner_world", "sharing_more", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_future_i_imagine_when_i_am_hopeful", "text": "The future I imagine when I am hopeful" }, { "id": "the_thoughts_i_have_when_i_cannot_sleep", "text": "The thoughts I have when I cannot sleep" }, { "id": "the_stories_i_tell_myself_about_who_i_am", "text": "The stories I tell myself about who I am" }, { "id": "the_private_things_that_make_me_feel_alive", "text": "The private things that make me feel alive" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_future_i_imagine_when_i_am_hopeful", "text": "The future I imagine when I am hopeful" }, { "id": "the_thoughts_i_have_when_i_cannot_sleep", "text": "The thoughts I have when I cannot sleep" }, { "id": "the_stories_i_tell_myself_about_who_i_am", "text": "The stories I tell myself about who I am" }, { "id": "the_private_things_that_make_me_feel_alive", "text": "The private things that make me feel alive" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_119", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What tells you I respect your emotional pace?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_pace", "respect", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_do_not_turn_hesitation_into_a_deadline", "text": "I do not turn hesitation into a deadline" }, { "id": "i_am_okay_with_you_sharing_things_a_little_at_a_time", "text": "I am okay with you sharing things a little at a time" }, { "id": "i_accept_that_some_feelings_need_privacy_first", "text": "I accept that some feelings need privacy first" }, { "id": "i_do_not_confuse_slower_sharing_with_less_love", "text": "I do not confuse slower sharing with less love" }, { "id": "i_stay_interested_without_pushing", "text": "I stay interested without pushing" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_do_not_turn_hesitation_into_a_deadline", "text": "I do not turn hesitation into a deadline" }, { "id": "i_am_okay_with_you_sharing_things_a_little_at_a_time", "text": "I am okay with you sharing things a little at a time" }, { "id": "i_accept_that_some_feelings_need_privacy_first", "text": "I accept that some feelings need privacy first" }, { "id": "i_do_not_confuse_slower_sharing_with_less_love", "text": "I do not confuse slower sharing with less love" }, { "id": "i_stay_interested_without_pushing", "text": "I stay interested without pushing" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_120", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which imperfect parts of yourself feel most accepted by me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "imperfection", "acceptance", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_part_that_overthinks", "text": "The part that overthinks" }, { "id": "the_part_that_needs_reassurance_sometimes", "text": "The part that needs reassurance sometimes" }, { "id": "the_part_that_gets_tired_and_withdrawn", "text": "The part that gets tired and withdrawn" }, { "id": "the_part_that_wants_more_than_it_admits", "text": "The part that wants more than it admits" }, { "id": "the_part_that_has_a_hard_time_accepting_love", "text": "The part that has a hard time accepting love" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_part_that_overthinks", "text": "The part that overthinks" }, { "id": "the_part_that_needs_reassurance_sometimes", "text": "The part that needs reassurance sometimes" }, { "id": "the_part_that_gets_tired_and_withdrawn", "text": "The part that gets tired and withdrawn" }, { "id": "the_part_that_wants_more_than_it_admits", "text": "The part that wants more than it admits" }, { "id": "the_part_that_has_a_hard_time_accepting_love", "text": "The part that has a hard time accepting love" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_121", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of shared silence feels best?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "shared_silence", "comfort", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_quiet_after_a_meaningful_conversation", "text": "The quiet after a meaningful conversation" }, { "id": "the_calm_of_doing_separate_things_nearby", "text": "The calm of doing separate things nearby" }, { "id": "the_stillness_during_a_long_embrace", "text": "The stillness during a long embrace" }, { "id": "the_peaceful_ride_home_after_a_good_day", "text": "The peaceful ride home after a good day" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_quiet_after_a_meaningful_conversation", "text": "The quiet after a meaningful conversation" }, { "id": "the_calm_of_doing_separate_things_nearby", "text": "The calm of doing separate things nearby" }, { "id": "the_stillness_during_a_long_embrace", "text": "The stillness during a long embrace" }, { "id": "the_peaceful_ride_home_after_a_good_day", "text": "The peaceful ride home after a good day" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_122", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel like I understand the importance of your past?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "personal_history", "understanding", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_remember_which_experiences_still_affect_you", "text": "I remember which experiences still affect you" }, { "id": "i_respect_the_people_and_places_that_shaped_you", "text": "I respect the people and places that shaped you" }, { "id": "i_notice_when_an_old_memory_enters_a_new_moment", "text": "I notice when an old memory enters a new moment" }, { "id": "i_do_not_reduce_your_past_to_one_simple_lesson", "text": "I do not reduce your past to one simple lesson" }, { "id": "i_understand_that_growth_does_not_erase_history", "text": "I understand that growth does not erase history" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_remember_which_experiences_still_affect_you", "text": "I remember which experiences still affect you" }, { "id": "i_respect_the_people_and_places_that_shaped_you", "text": "I respect the people and places that shaped you" }, { "id": "i_notice_when_an_old_memory_enters_a_new_moment", "text": "I notice when an old memory enters a new moment" }, { "id": "i_do_not_reduce_your_past_to_one_simple_lesson", "text": "I do not reduce your past to one simple lesson" }, { "id": "i_understand_that_growth_does_not_erase_history", "text": "I understand that growth does not erase history" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_123", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which moments help you feel least guarded with me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "less_guarded", "ease", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "when_we_are_laughing_late_at_night", "text": "When we are laughing late at night" }, { "id": "when_you_listen_without_changing_your_expression", "text": "When you listen without changing your expression" }, { "id": "when_affection_feels_completely_ordinary", "text": "When affection feels completely ordinary" }, { "id": "when_i_know_nothing_needs_to_be_decided", "text": "When I know nothing needs to be decided" }, { "id": "when_you_share_something_vulnerable_first", "text": "When you share something vulnerable first" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "when_we_are_laughing_late_at_night", "text": "When we are laughing late at night" }, { "id": "when_you_listen_without_changing_your_expression", "text": "When you listen without changing your expression" }, { "id": "when_affection_feels_completely_ordinary", "text": "When affection feels completely ordinary" }, { "id": "when_i_know_nothing_needs_to_be_decided", "text": "When I know nothing needs to be decided" }, { "id": "when_you_share_something_vulnerable_first", "text": "When you share something vulnerable first" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_124", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel loved when you are not very expressive?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "low_expression", "being_loved", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_notice_the_smaller_ways_i_reach_toward_you", "text": "You notice the smaller ways I reach toward you" }, { "id": "you_do_not_demand_a_matching_level_of_enthusiasm", "text": "You do not demand a matching level of enthusiasm" }, { "id": "you_trust_that_quiet_affection_can_still_be_real", "text": "You trust that quiet affection can still be real" }, { "id": "you_ask_what_would_feel_good_without_taking_it_personally", "text": "You ask what would feel good without taking it personally" }, { "id": "you_leave_room_for_me_to_warm_up_in_my_own_way", "text": "You leave room for me to warm up in my own way" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_notice_the_smaller_ways_i_reach_toward_you", "text": "You notice the smaller ways I reach toward you" }, { "id": "you_do_not_demand_a_matching_level_of_enthusiasm", "text": "You do not demand a matching level of enthusiasm" }, { "id": "you_trust_that_quiet_affection_can_still_be_real", "text": "You trust that quiet affection can still be real" }, { "id": "you_ask_what_would_feel_good_without_taking_it_personally", "text": "You ask what would feel good without taking it personally" }, { "id": "you_leave_room_for_me_to_warm_up_in_my_own_way", "text": "You leave room for me to warm up in my own way" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_125", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes emotional closeness feel playful without becoming shallow?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "playful_intimacy", "depth", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "jokes_that_reveal_how_well_we_know_each_other", "text": "Jokes that reveal how well we know each other" }, { "id": "flirting_that_still_feels_emotionally_personal", "text": "Flirting that still feels emotionally personal" }, { "id": "silly_questions_with_surprisingly_honest_answers", "text": "Silly questions with surprisingly honest answers" }, { "id": "affection_that_makes_serious_days_feel_lighter", "text": "Affection that makes serious days feel lighter" }, { "id": "private_traditions_that_carry_real_meaning", "text": "Private traditions that carry real meaning" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "jokes_that_reveal_how_well_we_know_each_other", "text": "Jokes that reveal how well we know each other" }, { "id": "flirting_that_still_feels_emotionally_personal", "text": "Flirting that still feels emotionally personal" }, { "id": "silly_questions_with_surprisingly_honest_answers", "text": "Silly questions with surprisingly honest answers" }, { "id": "affection_that_makes_serious_days_feel_lighter", "text": "Affection that makes serious days feel lighter" }, { "id": "private_traditions_that_carry_real_meaning", "text": "Private traditions that carry real meaning" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_126", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you let your guard down without regretting it later?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "letting_guard_down", "aftercare", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_respond_without_treating_me_as_fragile", "text": "You respond without treating me as fragile" }, { "id": "you_keep_what_i_share_in_the_right_context", "text": "You keep what I share in the right context" }, { "id": "you_do_not_bring_the_moment_up_carelessly_later", "text": "You do not bring the moment up carelessly later" }, { "id": "you_allow_me_to_keep_some_parts_unfinished", "text": "You allow me to keep some parts unfinished" }, { "id": "you_make_vulnerability_feel_respected_rather_than_examined", "text": "You make vulnerability feel respected rather than examined" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_respond_without_treating_me_as_fragile", "text": "You respond without treating me as fragile" }, { "id": "you_keep_what_i_share_in_the_right_context", "text": "You keep what I share in the right context" }, { "id": "you_do_not_bring_the_moment_up_carelessly_later", "text": "You do not bring the moment up carelessly later" }, { "id": "you_allow_me_to_keep_some_parts_unfinished", "text": "You allow me to keep some parts unfinished" }, { "id": "you_make_vulnerability_feel_respected_rather_than_examined", "text": "You make vulnerability feel respected rather than examined" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_127", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you feel discouraged, which response makes you feel most known?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "discouragement", "being_known", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "remind_me_what_usually_brings_me_back", "text": "Remind me what usually brings me back" }, { "id": "name_the_strength_i_cannot_see_in_myself", "text": "Name the strength I cannot see in myself" }, { "id": "acknowledge_why_this_matters_so_much_to_me", "text": "Acknowledge why this matters so much to me" }, { "id": "stay_beside_me_without_trying_to_improve_my_mood", "text": "Stay beside me without trying to improve my mood" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "remind_me_what_usually_brings_me_back", "text": "Remind me what usually brings me back" }, { "id": "name_the_strength_i_cannot_see_in_myself", "text": "Name the strength I cannot see in myself" }, { "id": "acknowledge_why_this_matters_so_much_to_me", "text": "Acknowledge why this matters so much to me" }, { "id": "stay_beside_me_without_trying_to_improve_my_mood", "text": "Stay beside me without trying to improve my mood" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_128", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident are you that I know when to comfort you and when to give you space?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "comfort_or_space", "partner_knowledge", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Still learning", "max_label": "Usually accurate" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_129", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of our emotional connection have improved over time?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "relationship_growth", "emotional_progress", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_notice_each_other_more_quickly", "text": "We notice each other more quickly" }, { "id": "we_are_less_afraid_of_awkward_tenderness", "text": "We are less afraid of awkward tenderness" }, { "id": "we_recover_our_warmth_more_naturally", "text": "We recover our warmth more naturally" }, { "id": "we_understand_each_others_quiet_moods_better", "text": "We understand each other’s quiet moods better" }, { "id": "we_show_appreciation_with_fewer_reminders", "text": "We show appreciation with fewer reminders" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_notice_each_other_more_quickly", "text": "We notice each other more quickly" }, { "id": "we_are_less_afraid_of_awkward_tenderness", "text": "We are less afraid of awkward tenderness" }, { "id": "we_recover_our_warmth_more_naturally", "text": "We recover our warmth more naturally" }, { "id": "we_understand_each_others_quiet_moods_better", "text": "We understand each other’s quiet moods better" }, { "id": "we_show_appreciation_with_fewer_reminders", "text": "We show appreciation with fewer reminders" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_130", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel loved after you have disappointed yourself?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "self_disappointment", "compassion", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_separate_one_mistake_from_who_i_am", "text": "You separate one mistake from who I am" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_of_progress_i_tend_to_forget", "text": "You remind me of progress I tend to forget" }, { "id": "you_let_me_be_accountable_without_becoming_ashamed", "text": "You let me be accountable without becoming ashamed" }, { "id": "you_do_not_make_me_earn_your_affection_back", "text": "You do not make me earn your affection back" }, { "id": "you_trust_me_to_learn_without_lecturing", "text": "You trust me to learn without lecturing" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_separate_one_mistake_from_who_i_am", "text": "You separate one mistake from who I am" }, { "id": "you_remind_me_of_progress_i_tend_to_forget", "text": "You remind me of progress I tend to forget" }, { "id": "you_let_me_be_accountable_without_becoming_ashamed", "text": "You let me be accountable without becoming ashamed" }, { "id": "you_do_not_make_me_earn_your_affection_back", "text": "You do not make me earn your affection back" }, { "id": "you_trust_me_to_learn_without_lecturing", "text": "You trust me to learn without lecturing" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_131", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which emotional signal from me is easiest for you to recognize?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "partner_signals", "emotional_awareness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_look_that_means_i_need_comfort", "text": "The look that means I need comfort" }, { "id": "the_tone_that_means_i_am_overwhelmed", "text": "The tone that means I am overwhelmed" }, { "id": "the_humor_that_means_i_am_trying_to_reconnect", "text": "The humor that means I am trying to reconnect" }, { "id": "the_quietness_that_means_i_am_still_thinking", "text": "The quietness that means I am still thinking" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_look_that_means_i_need_comfort", "text": "The look that means I need comfort" }, { "id": "the_tone_that_means_i_am_overwhelmed", "text": "The tone that means I am overwhelmed" }, { "id": "the_humor_that_means_i_am_trying_to_reconnect", "text": "The humor that means I am trying to reconnect" }, { "id": "the_quietness_that_means_i_am_still_thinking", "text": "The quietness that means I am still thinking" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_132", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes you feel like we are emotionally on the same team?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "emotional_teamwork", "mutual_care", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_care_without_pretending_we_control_it", "text": "We care about each other’s happiness without pretending we control it" }, { "id": "we_protect_each_others_dignity_during_vulnerable_moments", "text": "We protect each other’s dignity during vulnerable moments" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_two_different_reactions", "text": "We make room for two different reactions" }, { "id": "we_notice_when_one_person_needs_more_care", "text": "We notice when one person needs more care" }, { "id": "we_want_to_understand_before_deciding_what_something_means", "text": "We want to understand before deciding what something means" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_care_without_pretending_we_control_it", "text": "We care about each other’s happiness without pretending we control it" }, { "id": "we_protect_each_others_dignity_during_vulnerable_moments", "text": "We protect each other’s dignity during vulnerable moments" }, { "id": "we_make_room_for_two_different_reactions", "text": "We make room for two different reactions" }, { "id": "we_notice_when_one_person_needs_more_care", "text": "We notice when one person needs more care" }, { "id": "we_want_to_understand_before_deciding_what_something_means", "text": "We want to understand before deciding what something means" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_133", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How free do you feel to change and still be known by me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "change", "being_known", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "A little boxed in", "max_label": "Free to keep growing" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_134", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of tenderness would you like more of?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "tenderness_preferences", "more_closeness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "affection_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_tasks", "text": "Affection in the middle of ordinary tasks" }, { "id": "gentle_words_when_i_am_being_hard_on_myself", "text": "Gentle words when I am being hard on myself" }, { "id": "longer_eye_contact_when_we_reunite", "text": "Longer eye contact when we reunite" }, { "id": "small_messages_that_feel_emotionally_personal", "text": "Small messages that feel emotionally personal" }, { "id": "being_held_for_a_moment_before_sleep", "text": "Being held for a moment before sleep" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "affection_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_tasks", "text": "Affection in the middle of ordinary tasks" }, { "id": "gentle_words_when_i_am_being_hard_on_myself", "text": "Gentle words when I am being hard on myself" }, { "id": "longer_eye_contact_when_we_reunite", "text": "Longer eye contact when we reunite" }, { "id": "small_messages_that_feel_emotionally_personal", "text": "Small messages that feel emotionally personal" }, { "id": "being_held_for_a_moment_before_sleep", "text": "Being held for a moment before sleep" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_135", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A remembered detail or an unexpected compliment?", "depth": 1, "tags": [ "quick_choice", "feeling_seen", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_remembered_detail", "text": "A remembered detail" }, { "id": "an_unexpected_compliment", "text": "An unexpected compliment" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_remembered_detail", "text": "A remembered detail" }, { "id": "an_unexpected_compliment", "text": "An unexpected compliment" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_136", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What shows you that I know who you are now, not only who you used to be?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "current_self", "ongoing_curiosity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_notice_which_priorities_have_changed", "text": "I notice which priorities have changed" }, { "id": "i_ask_about_new_interests_without_comparing_them_to_old_ones", "text": "I ask about new interests without comparing them to old ones" }, { "id": "i_update_the_way_i_support_you", "text": "I update the way I support you" }, { "id": "i_recognize_strengths_you_developed_later", "text": "I recognize strengths you developed later" }, { "id": "i_leave_room_for_opinions_that_have_evolved", "text": "I leave room for opinions that have evolved" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_notice_which_priorities_have_changed", "text": "I notice which priorities have changed" }, { "id": "i_ask_about_new_interests_without_comparing_them_to_old_ones", "text": "I ask about new interests without comparing them to old ones" }, { "id": "i_update_the_way_i_support_you", "text": "I update the way I support you" }, { "id": "i_recognize_strengths_you_developed_later", "text": "I recognize strengths you developed later" }, { "id": "i_leave_room_for_opinions_that_have_evolved", "text": "I leave room for opinions that have evolved" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_137", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "If life became much busier, which kind of closeness would you protect first?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "protecting_closeness", "busy_life", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "a_real_greeting_and_goodbye", "text": "A real greeting and goodbye" }, { "id": "one_honest_daily_check_in", "text": "One honest daily check-in" }, { "id": "regular_affection_without_a_schedule", "text": "Regular affection without a schedule" }, { "id": "a_weekly_moment_that_belongs_only_to_us", "text": "A weekly moment that belongs only to us" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_real_greeting_and_goodbye", "text": "A real greeting and goodbye" }, { "id": "one_honest_daily_check_in", "text": "One honest daily check-in" }, { "id": "regular_affection_without_a_schedule", "text": "Regular affection without a schedule" }, { "id": "a_weekly_moment_that_belongs_only_to_us", "text": "A weekly moment that belongs only to us" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_138", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you let a good moment with me fully sink in?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "savoring", "positive_moments", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "we_pause_instead_of_immediately_moving_on", "text": "We pause instead of immediately moving on" }, { "id": "you_say_out_loud_that_the_moment_matters", "text": "You say out loud that the moment matters" }, { "id": "we_take_a_photo_without_living_through_the_camera", "text": "We take a photo without living through the camera" }, { "id": "we_revisit_the_memory_a_few_days_later", "text": "We revisit the memory a few days later" }, { "id": "we_enjoy_it_without_trying_to_make_it_bigger", "text": "We enjoy it without trying to make it bigger" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_pause_instead_of_immediately_moving_on", "text": "We pause instead of immediately moving on" }, { "id": "you_say_out_loud_that_the_moment_matters", "text": "You say out loud that the moment matters" }, { "id": "we_take_a_photo_without_living_through_the_camera", "text": "We take a photo without living through the camera" }, { "id": "we_revisit_the_memory_a_few_days_later", "text": "We revisit the memory a few days later" }, { "id": "we_enjoy_it_without_trying_to_make_it_bigger", "text": "We enjoy it without trying to make it bigger" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_139", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make our bond feel private and irreplaceable?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "unique_bond", "private_connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "the_exact_history_behind_our_ordinary_phrases", "text": "The exact history behind our ordinary phrases" }, { "id": "the_way_our_humor_has_changed_over_the_years", "text": "The way our humor has changed over the years" }, { "id": "the_parts_of_each_other_few_people_get_to_see", "text": "The parts of each other few people get to see" }, { "id": "the_comfort_built_from_thousands_of_small_moments", "text": "The comfort built from thousands of small moments" }, { "id": "the_particular_way_we_return_to_one_another", "text": "The particular way we return to one another" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_exact_history_behind_our_ordinary_phrases", "text": "The exact history behind our ordinary phrases" }, { "id": "the_way_our_humor_has_changed_over_the_years", "text": "The way our humor has changed over the years" }, { "id": "the_parts_of_each_other_few_people_get_to_see", "text": "The parts of each other few people get to see" }, { "id": "the_comfort_built_from_thousands_of_small_moments", "text": "The comfort built from thousands of small moments" }, { "id": "the_particular_way_we_return_to_one_another", "text": "The particular way we return to one another" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_140", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "scale", "text": "How warm has our emotional connection felt lately?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "current_warmth", "connection", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "A little cool", "max_label": "Very warm" } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_141", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you are carrying something privately, which invitation feels best?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "private_feelings", "invitation", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_am_here_if_you_want_company", "text": "I am here if you want company" }, { "id": "you_do_not_have_to_explain_but_you_do_not_have_to_be_alone", "text": "You do not have to explain, but you do not have to be alone" }, { "id": "would_comfort_distraction_or_space_help_most", "text": "Would comfort, distraction, or space help most?" }, { "id": "tell_me_whenever_the_words_are_ready", "text": "Tell me whenever the words are ready" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_am_here_if_you_want_company", "text": "I am here if you want company" }, { "id": "you_do_not_have_to_explain_but_you_do_not_have_to_be_alone", "text": "You do not have to explain, but you do not have to be alone" }, { "id": "would_comfort_distraction_or_space_help_most", "text": "Would comfort, distraction, or space help most?" }, { "id": "tell_me_whenever_the_words_are_ready", "text": "Tell me whenever the words are ready" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_142", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you say that you need more emotional closeness from me?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "asking_for_more", "emotional_needs", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "knowing_i_can_ask_without_proving_something_is_wrong", "text": "Knowing I can ask without proving something is wrong" }, { "id": "having_simple_words_for_what_i_want", "text": "Having simple words for what I want" }, { "id": "trusting_that_you_will_not_hear_it_as_criticism", "text": "Trusting that you will not hear it as criticism" }, { "id": "being_able_to_request_one_small_change", "text": "Being able to request one small change" }, { "id": "hearing_you_ask_for_closeness_sometimes_too", "text": "Hearing you ask for closeness sometimes too" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_i_can_ask_without_proving_something_is_wrong", "text": "Knowing I can ask without proving something is wrong" }, { "id": "having_simple_words_for_what_i_want", "text": "Having simple words for what I want" }, { "id": "trusting_that_you_will_not_hear_it_as_criticism", "text": "Trusting that you will not hear it as criticism" }, { "id": "being_able_to_request_one_small_change", "text": "Being able to request one small change" }, { "id": "hearing_you_ask_for_closeness_sometimes_too", "text": "Hearing you ask for closeness sometimes too" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_143", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you I am curious about who you are becoming?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "becoming", "curiosity", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "i_ask_what_feels_different_inside_you", "text": "I ask what feels different inside you" }, { "id": "i_notice_new_confidence_or_new_hesitation", "text": "I notice new confidence or new hesitation" }, { "id": "i_want_to_know_what_you_are_outgrowing", "text": "I want to know what you are outgrowing" }, { "id": "i_listen_for_dreams_that_were_not_there_before", "text": "I listen for dreams that were not there before" }, { "id": "i_do_not_assume_your_old_answers_still_fit", "text": "I do not assume your old answers still fit" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_ask_what_feels_different_inside_you", "text": "I ask what feels different inside you" }, { "id": "i_notice_new_confidence_or_new_hesitation", "text": "I notice new confidence or new hesitation" }, { "id": "i_want_to_know_what_you_are_outgrowing", "text": "I want to know what you are outgrowing" }, { "id": "i_listen_for_dreams_that_were_not_there_before", "text": "I listen for dreams that were not there before" }, { "id": "i_do_not_assume_your_old_answers_still_fit", "text": "I do not assume your old answers still fit" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_144", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "After we have lived in separate worlds all day, what brings emotional closeness back?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "separate_days", "returning_together", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "sharing_the_one_moment_that_affected_us_most", "text": "Sharing the one moment that affected us most" }, { "id": "a_few_minutes_with_no_screens_or_multitasking", "text": "A few minutes with no screens or multitasking" }, { "id": "affection_that_marks_the_shift_back_to_us", "text": "Affection that marks the shift back to us" }, { "id": "hearing_one_thing_the_other_person_thought_about", "text": "Hearing one thing the other person thought about" }, { "id": "doing_something_small_at_the_same_pace", "text": "Doing something small at the same pace" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sharing_the_one_moment_that_affected_us_most", "text": "Sharing the one moment that affected us most" }, { "id": "a_few_minutes_with_no_screens_or_multitasking", "text": "A few minutes with no screens or multitasking" }, { "id": "affection_that_marks_the_shift_back_to_us", "text": "Affection that marks the shift back to us" }, { "id": "hearing_one_thing_the_other_person_thought_about", "text": "Hearing one thing the other person thought about" }, { "id": "doing_something_small_at_the_same_pace", "text": "Doing something small at the same pace" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_145", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which caring gesture feels most romantic?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "romantic_care", "emotional_romance", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "remembering_what_i_was_nervous_about", "text": "Remembering what I was nervous about" }, { "id": "defending_time_for_something_important_to_me", "text": "Defending time for something important to me" }, { "id": "checking_on_the_part_of_me_nobody_else_noticed", "text": "Checking on the part of me nobody else noticed" }, { "id": "making_me_feel_wanted_when_i_am_not_dressed_up", "text": "Making me feel wanted when I am not dressed up" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "remembering_what_i_was_nervous_about", "text": "Remembering what I was nervous about" }, { "id": "defending_time_for_something_important_to_me", "text": "Defending time for something important to me" }, { "id": "checking_on_the_part_of_me_nobody_else_noticed", "text": "Checking on the part of me nobody else noticed" }, { "id": "making_me_feel_wanted_when_i_am_not_dressed_up", "text": "Making me feel wanted when I am not dressed up" } ] } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_146", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you believe tenderness is welcome between us?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "welcoming_tenderness", "emotional_openness", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_joke_away_every_tender_moment", "text": "You do not joke away every tender moment" }, { "id": "affection_does_not_have_to_lead_anywhere", "text": "Affection does not have to lead anywhere" }, { "id": "we_can_ask_for_comfort_without_apologizing", "text": "We can ask for comfort without apologizing" }, { "id": "emotional_moments_are_not_treated_as_inconvenient", "text": "Emotional moments are not treated as inconvenient" }, { "id": "both_of_us_are_allowed_to_initiate_gentleness", "text": "Both of us are allowed to initiate gentleness" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_do_not_joke_away_every_tender_moment", "text": "You do not joke away every tender moment" }, { "id": "affection_does_not_have_to_lead_anywhere", "text": "Affection does not have to lead anywhere" }, { "id": "we_can_ask_for_comfort_without_apologizing", "text": "We can ask for comfort without apologizing" }, { "id": "emotional_moments_are_not_treated_as_inconvenient", "text": "Emotional moments are not treated as inconvenient" }, { "id": "both_of_us_are_allowed_to_initiate_gentleness", "text": "Both of us are allowed to initiate gentleness" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_147", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which moments make you feel like we still surprise each other?", "depth": 2, "tags": [ "surprise", "ongoing_discovery", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "one_of_us_reveals_a_story_the_other_never_heard", "text": "One of us reveals a story the other never heard" }, { "id": "a_familiar_person_reacts_in_an_unexpected_way", "text": "A familiar person reacts in an unexpected way" }, { "id": "we_discover_a_new_shared_opinion", "text": "We discover a new shared opinion" }, { "id": "one_of_us_becomes_brave_in_a_new_area", "text": "One of us becomes brave in a new area" }, { "id": "an_ordinary_conversation_turns_unexpectedly_intimate", "text": "An ordinary conversation turns unexpectedly intimate" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_of_us_reveals_a_story_the_other_never_heard", "text": "One of us reveals a story the other never heard" }, { "id": "a_familiar_person_reacts_in_an_unexpected_way", "text": "A familiar person reacts in an unexpected way" }, { "id": "we_discover_a_new_shared_opinion", "text": "We discover a new shared opinion" }, { "id": "one_of_us_becomes_brave_in_a_new_area", "text": "One of us becomes brave in a new area" }, { "id": "an_ordinary_conversation_turns_unexpectedly_intimate", "text": "An ordinary conversation turns unexpectedly intimate" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_148", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things do you think help me feel closest to you?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "partner_prediction", "emotional_needs", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "feeling_fully_listened_to", "text": "Feeling fully listened to" }, { "id": "receiving_affection_without_having_to_ask", "text": "Receiving affection without having to ask" }, { "id": "knowing_my_inner_life_interests_you", "text": "Knowing my inner life interests you" }, { "id": "feeling_accepted_when_my_mood_is_complicated", "text": "Feeling accepted when my mood is complicated" }, { "id": "sharing_humor_and_lightness_with_you", "text": "Sharing humor and lightness with you" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_fully_listened_to", "text": "Feeling fully listened to" }, { "id": "receiving_affection_without_having_to_ask", "text": "Receiving affection without having to ask" }, { "id": "knowing_my_inner_life_interests_you", "text": "Knowing my inner life interests you" }, { "id": "feeling_accepted_when_my_mood_is_complicated", "text": "Feeling accepted when my mood is complicated" }, { "id": "sharing_humor_and_lightness_with_you", "text": "Sharing humor and lightness with you" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "emotional_intimacy_149", "category_id": "emotional_intimacy", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of memories would you like us to make more often?", "depth": 3, "tags": [ "future_memories", "emotional_experiences", "emotional_intimacy" ], "access": "premium", "sex": "neutral", "options": [ { "id": "nights_when_we_lose_track_of_time_talking", "text": "Nights when we lose track of time talking" }, { "id": "moments_when_one_of_us_feels_deeply_celebrated", "text": "Moments when one of us feels deeply celebrated" }, { "id": "quiet_days_that_feel_unusually_close", "text": "Quiet days that feel unusually close" }, { "id": "adventures_that_reveal_a_new_side_of_us", "text": "Adventures that reveal a new side of us" }, { "id": "times_we_choose_tenderness_in_an_ordinary_place", "text": "Times we choose tenderness in an ordinary place" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "nights_when_we_lose_track_of_time_talking", "text": "Nights when we lose track of time talking" }, { "id": "moments_when_one_of_us_feels_deeply_celebrated", "text": "Moments when one of us feels deeply celebrated" }, { "id": "quiet_days_that_feel_unusually_close", "text": "Quiet days that feel unusually 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