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"Playful interest during the day" }, { "id": "help_clearing_mental_distractions", "text": "Help clearing mental distractions" }, { "id": "affection_with_no_automatic_next_step", "text": "Affection with no automatic next step" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_008", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which form of anticipation feels exciting without becoming pressure?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_009", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which makes being wanted feel more believable?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "consistent_everyday_attention", "text": "Consistent everyday attention" }, { "id": "a_bold_unmistakable_moment", "text": "A 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"sex_and_desire_012", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When only one of us is interested, what helps us still feel like a team?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_013", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes it easiest for you to say yes, no, or not yet?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_014", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After 'not tonight' is fully accepted, which response feels most caring?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "warm_affection_that_clearly_stays_pressure_free", "text": "Warm affection that clearly stays pressure-free" }, { "id": "kind_space_now_and_normal_warmth_tomorrow", "text": "Kind space now and normal warmth tomorrow" }, { "id": "a_gentle_offer_of_another_shared_activity", "text": "A gentle offer of another shared activity" }, { "id": "a_simple_reminder_that_we_are_still_close", "text": "A simple reminder that we are still close" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_015", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes talking about desire feel less formal for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_016", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "On low-confidence days, what makes you feel attractive?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_017", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How quickly can you shift from daily responsibilities into couple time?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "transition", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very slowly", "max_label": "Quite easily" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_018", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What familiar part of our chemistry is worth bringing back?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_019", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Where or when do you feel most able to relax into privacy?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_020", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a vulnerable preference feel safe to share?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "vulnerability", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_joking_at_the_persons_expense", "text": "No joking at the person's expense" }, { "id": "no_pressure_to_explain_every_detail", "text": "No pressure to explain every detail" }, { "id": "privacy_after_the_conversation", "text": "Privacy after the conversation" }, { "id": "curious_questions_instead_of_assumptions", "text": "Curious questions instead of assumptions" }, { "id": "acceptance_that_the_answer_may_change", "text": "Acceptance that the answer may change" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_021", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which closeness feels complete even when it stays nonsexual?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_022", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you stay present instead of self-conscious?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "low_light_and_less_visual_focus", "text": "Low light and less visual focus" }, { "id": "encouraging_words_without_overdoing_them", "text": "Encouraging words without overdoing them" }, { "id": "a_slower_pace_with_frequent_pauses", "text": "A slower pace with frequent pauses" }, { "id": "attention_on_connection_rather_than_appearance", "text": "Attention on connection rather than appearance" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_023", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When a romantic moment gets awkward, what helps you laugh kindly?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_024", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which helps you shift into couple mode faster?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "transition", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "music_and_dimmer_lights", "text": "Music and dimmer lights" }, { "id": "conversation_and_close_attention", "text": "Conversation and close attention" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_025", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "After a close moment, what helps you feel cared for?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_026", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which early moment between us first carried real chemistry?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_027", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which way of saying 'I want you' feels best?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "warm_and_unmistakably_direct", "text": "Warm and unmistakably direct" }, { "id": "playful_with_room_to_laugh", "text": "Playful with room to laugh" }, { "id": "softly_spoken_during_affection", "text": "Softly spoken during affection" }, { "id": "written_in_a_private_message", "text": "Written in a private message" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_028", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What tiny romantic plan would make next week more exciting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_029", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What does a satisfying sense of desire between us mean to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_030", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much does stress interfere with your interest in closeness?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Hardly at all", "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_031", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When do you notice my attraction to you most clearly?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_032", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What signal could show interest without interrupting everything else?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_033", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes planned private time feel romantic?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "planning", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_personal_detail_chosen_for_me", "text": "A personal detail chosen for me" }, { "id": "no_chores_waiting_in_the_background", "text": "No chores waiting in the background" }, { "id": "a_flexible_plan_instead_of_a_script", "text": "A flexible plan instead of a script" }, { "id": "knowing_we_protected_the_time_together", "text": "Knowing we protected the time together" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_034", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How do you like interest to be shown when the timing is uncertain?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_035", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "With an easy stop guaranteed, what makes playful teasing work between us?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "teasing", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_avoids_real_insecurities", "text": "It avoids real insecurities" }, { "id": "both_people_can_tease_back", "text": "Both people can tease back" }, { "id": "it_happens_in_the_right_setting", "text": "It happens in the right setting" }, { "id": "affection_is_obvious_underneath_it", "text": "Affection is obvious underneath it" }, { "id": "it_never_relies_on_embarrassment", "text": "It never relies on embarrassment" } ], "min_selections": 1, 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"max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_051", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which protects privacy better for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "planning_uninterrupted_time", "text": "Planning uninterrupted time" }, { "id": "keeping_flirtation_discreet_all_day", "text": "Keeping flirtation discreet all day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_052", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we recover when timing suddenly feels wrong?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_053", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which invitation style leaves the most room for an honest answer?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clear_words_with_no_pressure", "text": "Clear words with no pressure" }, { "id": "a_gentle_question_in_private", "text": "A gentle question in private" }, { "id": "a_playful_hint_plus_a_check_in", "text": "A playful hint plus a check-in" }, { "id": "a_plan_that_welcomes_changing_minds", "text": "A plan that welcomes changing minds" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_054", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How much quiet time do you usually want afterward?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_055", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What old flirtation of ours still makes you smile?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_056", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How private does our couple time feel in daily life?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Often interrupted", "max_label": "Protected and private" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_057", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which low-effort date could leave us wanting more time together?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_058", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How do you want our sexual connection to feel emotionally?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_059", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which everyday gesture feels most flirtatious?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_lingering_look_across_the_room", "text": "A lingering look across the room" }, { "id": "a_private_joke_whispered_nearby", "text": "A private joke whispered nearby" }, { "id": "a_warm_hand_at_my_waist", "text": "A warm hand at my waist" }, { "id": "a_message_that_hints_at_later", "text": "A message that hints at later" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_060", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which everyday moment makes you feel unexpectedly desirable?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_061", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which shared joke brings out our flirtiest side?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_062", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which small moments can carry real chemistry?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "small_moments", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_hello_that_lasts_longer_than_usual", "text": "A hello that lasts longer than usual" }, { "id": "a_look_held_for_one_extra_second", "text": "A look held for one extra second" }, { "id": "a_private_compliment_in_public", "text": "A private compliment in public" }, { "id": "a_hand_reaching_for_mine_first", "text": "A hand reaching for mine first" }, { "id": "a_shared_joke_with_romantic_history", "text": "A shared joke with romantic history" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_063", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What is the gentlest way to check whether you are open to more?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_064", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After pausing to clarify an uncertain signal, what should guide the next step?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_unsure_person_chooses_the_pace", "text": "The unsure person chooses the pace" }, { "id": "return_to_nonsexual_affection", "text": "Return to nonsexual affection" }, { "id": "offer_clearly_named_choices", "text": "Offer clearly named choices" }, { "id": "end_the_moment_without_tension", "text": "End the moment without tension" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_065", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "On an exhausting day, what keeps us romantically connected?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_066", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How satisfying does our current pace of intimacy feel?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "pace", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not satisfying", "max_label": "Very satisfying" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_067", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What small promise could make later time together feel special?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_068", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When does desire tend to surprise you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_069", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which pace suits a low-energy evening better?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "pace", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "slow_and_affectionate", "text": "Slow and affectionate" }, { "id": "brief_and_playful", "text": "Brief and playful" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_070", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can the interested partner share desire without creating guilt?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_071", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of confidence from me feels attractive?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "calmly_saying_what_i_hope_for", "text": "Calmly saying what I hope for" }, { "id": "taking_initiative_while_welcoming_direction", "text": "Taking initiative while welcoming direction" }, { "id": "being_playful_when_plans_change", "text": "Being playful when plans change" }, { "id": "accepting_a_no_without_losing_warmth", "text": "Accepting a no without losing warmth" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_072", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What response makes a changed mind feel completely accepted?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_073", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What lets us ask curious questions without turning answers into promises?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_074", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you suggesting a new shared experience?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I usually hold back", "max_label": "I suggest it easily" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_075", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which reassurance feels believable when you are self-conscious?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_076", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What small change could make a usual evening feel different?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_077", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes it easier to ask for something you want?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_curiosity_will_not_be_mocked", "text": "Knowing curiosity will not be mocked" }, { "id": "being_able_to_phrase_it_as_an_option", "text": "Being able to phrase it as an option" }, { "id": "having_time_to_explain_without_urgency", "text": "Having time to explain without urgency" }, { "id": "hearing_that_uncertainty_is_acceptable", "text": "Hearing that uncertainty is acceptable" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_078", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which distractions are hardest for you to ignore during private time?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_079", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps us recover from an awkward moment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_gentle_laugh_without_making_fun", "text": "A gentle laugh without making fun" }, { "id": "saying_plainly_that_nothing_is_wrong", "text": "Saying plainly that nothing is wrong" }, { "id": "switching_to_a_simpler_kind_of_closeness", "text": "Switching to a simpler kind of closeness" }, { "id": "taking_a_short_pause_together", "text": "Taking a short pause together" }, { "id": "letting_the_moment_end_gracefully", "text": "Letting the moment end gracefully" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_080", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What everyday touch makes you feel connected rather than distracted?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_081", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes it safe to admit that something is not working?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_082", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "What style of novelty sounds more inviting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_familiar_idea_with_a_twist", "text": "A familiar idea with a twist" }, { "id": "a_completely_new_shared_plan", "text": "A completely new shared plan" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_083", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "After the intensity passes, what conversation feels good?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_084", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of buildup sounds most appealing tonight?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "slow_teasing_through_conversation", "text": "Slow teasing through conversation" }, { "id": "sweet_affection_that_gradually_deepens", "text": "Sweet affection that gradually deepens" }, { "id": "a_direct_invitation_after_privacy", "text": "A direct invitation after privacy" }, { "id": "spontaneous_chemistry_with_check_ins", "text": "Spontaneous chemistry with check-ins" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_085", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When did you first realize I was strongly attracted to you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_086", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What playful tradition should our future selves keep?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_087", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much nonsexual affection helps you feel desired?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "nonsexual_affection", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very little", "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_088", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps desire add joy to our relationship instead of pressure?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_089", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What tells you that I am still genuinely captivated by you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_090", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which aftercare sounds most comforting?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "quiet_cuddling_with_no_conversation", "text": "Quiet cuddling with no conversation" }, { "id": "a_drink_and_a_gentle_check_in", "text": "A drink and a gentle check-in" }, { "id": "reassuring_words_before_some_space", "text": "Reassuring words before some space" }, { "id": "light_conversation_while_staying_close", "text": "Light conversation while staying close" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_091", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What is a harmless way we could tease each other more?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_092", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When does a direct invitation feel better than a subtle hint?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_093", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make you feel pursued in a good way?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pursuit", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "interest_that_notices_your_actual_mood", "text": "Interest that notices your actual mood" }, { "id": "effort_tailored_to_what_you_enjoy", "text": "Effort tailored to what you enjoy" }, { "id": "invitations_that_remain_easy_to_decline", "text": "Invitations that remain easy to decline" }, { "id": "warmth_that_continues_after_any_answer", "text": "Warmth that continues after any answer" }, { "id": "a_sense_that_the_person_chose_you_specifically", "text": "A sense that the person chose you specifically" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_094", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which transition helps you stop feeling rushed?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_095", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which small gesture makes you feel deliberately chosen?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "saving_a_private_moment_for_me", "text": "Saving a private moment for me" }, { "id": "remembering_something_i_said_i_liked", "text": "Remembering something I said I liked" }, { "id": "looking_for_me_first_in_a_room", "text": "Looking for me first in a room" }, { "id": "planning_around_what_helps_me_relax", "text": "Planning around what helps me relax" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_096", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which buildup makes you more curious than impatient?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_097", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which signals help you notice interest before it becomes obvious?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_098", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which makes desire feel more mutual?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mutual_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "taking_turns_initiating", "text": "Taking turns initiating" }, { "id": "building_the_mood_together", "text": "Building the mood together" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_099", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps the less-interested partner stay affectionate without sending a false signal?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_100", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much freedom do you feel to want closeness without promising more?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "no_pressure", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very little freedom", "max_label": "Complete freedom" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_101", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which check-in words sound natural enough for us to actually use?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_102", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which wording helps you share a preference honestly?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_103", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which reset helps you leave stress behind fastest?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "transition", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_quiet_shower_and_fresh_clothes", "text": "A quiet shower and fresh clothes" }, { "id": "ten_minutes_alone_to_decompress", "text": "Ten minutes alone to decompress" }, { "id": "music_while_we_tidy_the_mood", "text": "Music while we tidy the mood" }, { "id": "a_cuddle_with_no_next_step", "text": "A cuddle with no next step" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_104", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What brings you back to the moment when appearance worries show up?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_105", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which surprise stays fun because it is easy to decline?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_106", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which details can make private time feel protected?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "devices_silenced_and_put_away", "text": "Devices silenced and put away" }, { "id": "a_door_that_will_not_be_interrupted", "text": "A door that will not be interrupted" }, { "id": "enough_time_without_watching_the_clock", "text": "Enough time without watching the clock" }, { "id": "a_space_that_feels_comfortable", "text": "A space that feels comfortable" }, { "id": "responsibilities_handled_or_intentionally_postponed", "text": "Responsibilities handled or intentionally postponed" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_107", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps a shared space feel temporarily like it belongs only to us?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_108", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "With an immediate stop always available, what makes teasing feel welcome?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "teasing", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_stays_affectionate_rather_than_critical", "text": "It stays affectionate rather than critical" }, { "id": "it_is_private_and_personally_understood", "text": "It is private and personally understood" }, { "id": "it_leaves_room_for_an_easy_comeback", "text": "It leaves room for an easy comeback" }, { "id": "it_matches_the_mood_we_are_actually_in", "text": "It matches the mood we are actually in" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_109", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which part of the day makes quiet holding feel most welcome?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_110", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would help us reset without treating the moment like a failure?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_111", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which response feels kinder when one of us is not interested?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "warm_reassurance_and_space", "text": "Warm reassurance and space" }, { "id": "a_different_kind_of_closeness", "text": "A different kind of closeness" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_112", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What keeps a check-in from making the moment feel analyzed?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_113", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to hear 'not tonight' without taking it personally?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Still difficult", "max_label": "Completely manageable" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_114", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which date made us feel most like co-conspirators?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_115", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "With no penalty for declining, what makes a surprise feel genuinely welcome?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "surprise", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_builds_on_something_i_already_mentioned", "text": "It builds on something I already mentioned" }, { "id": "it_begins_with_a_playful_invitation", "text": "It begins with a playful invitation" }, { "id": "it_stays_small_enough_to_change_course", "text": "It stays small enough to change course" }, { "id": "the_timing_leaves_room_to_relax", "text": "The timing leaves room to relax" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_116", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could we make an anniversary feel intimate without making it elaborate?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_117", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which part of our chemistry feels most uniquely ours?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_118", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What could make our desire feel more playful this month?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_tiny_romantic_challenge", "text": "A tiny romantic challenge" }, { "id": "a_new_version_of_a_favorite_date", "text": "A new version of a favorite date" }, { "id": "more_private_jokes_and_teasing", "text": "More private jokes and teasing" }, { "id": "a_planned_low_pressure_evening", "text": "A planned low-pressure evening" }, { "id": "a_shared_playlist_for_flirty_moods", "text": "A shared playlist for flirty moods" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_119", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can I show attraction without turning it into an expectation?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_120", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When does flirting between us feel easiest and most genuine?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_121", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which signal would be easiest for us to use?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "signals", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_direct_phrase_we_both_recognize", "text": "A direct phrase we both recognize" }, { "id": "a_playful_code_word_in_a_message", "text": "A playful code word in a message" }, { "id": "a_question_that_offers_several_answers", "text": "A question that offers several answers" }, { "id": "a_gesture_followed_by_a_verbal_check", "text": "A gesture followed by a verbal check" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_122", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps initiation feel shared rather than one-sided?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_123", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When stress is high, what form of closeness still feels easy?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_124", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do our shared memories still create sparks?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Almost never", "max_label": "Very often" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_125", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can anticipation stay fun when plans are delayed?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_126", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which environment makes interruptions easiest to forget?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "soft_lighting_and_a_locked_door", "text": "Soft lighting and a locked door" }, { "id": "a_familiar_room_with_no_interruptions", "text": "A familiar room with no interruptions" }, { "id": "music_low_enough_to_still_talk", "text": "Music low enough to still talk" }, { "id": "a_clean_space_and_plenty_of_time", "text": "A clean space and plenty of time" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_127", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How much does emotional closeness affect your physical interest?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_128", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When our moods differ, which reassurance matters most?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_129", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which memory creates more romantic energy?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "our_earliest_butterflies", "text": "Our earliest butterflies" }, { "id": "a_recent_unexpected_spark", "text": "A recent unexpected spark" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_130", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make stopping feel ordinary rather than dramatic?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_131", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Would you rather discuss delicate topics face-to-face or side-by-side?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_132", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which version of romance brings out your desire?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "romance", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "thoughtful_and_softly_planned", "text": "Thoughtful and softly planned" }, { "id": "spontaneous_and_a_little_daring", "text": "Spontaneous and a little daring" }, { "id": "cozy_with_lots_of_affectionate_buildup", "text": "Cozy with lots of affectionate buildup" }, { "id": "playful_with_shared_laughter", "text": "Playful with shared laughter" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_133", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could we make private time kinder to changing bodies?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_134", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make a planned romantic night feel personal?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "planning", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_detail_chosen_from_something_i_mentioned", "text": "A detail chosen from something I mentioned" }, { "id": "food_or_music_tied_to_our_history", "text": "Food or music tied to our history" }, { "id": "a_flexible_plan_built_around_our_energy", "text": "A flexible plan built around our energy" }, { "id": "a_private_note_about_why_you_chose_it", "text": "A private note about why you chose it" }, { "id": "time_protected_from_routine_interruptions", "text": "Time protected from routine interruptions" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_135", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps a new idea feel collaborative instead of performative?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_136", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Where can we find privacy when time or space is limited?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_137", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How supported do you feel when your desire is low?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "low_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very supported", "max_label": "Deeply supported" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_138", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which goodbye affection stays with you during the day?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_139", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which tiny ritual could protect our spark?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "ritual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_longer_hello_at_the_end_of_the_day", "text": "A longer hello at the end of the day" }, { "id": "one_private_compliment_before_bed", "text": "One private compliment before bed" }, { "id": "a_weekly_no_phone_cuddle", "text": "A weekly no-phone cuddle" }, { "id": "a_playful_message_during_the_afternoon", "text": "A playful message during the afternoon" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_140", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What response helps embarrassment pass quickly?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_141", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What small gesture helps you feel emotionally settled afterward?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_142", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "For long-term romance, which matters more to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_familiar_rituals_meaningful", "text": "Keeping familiar rituals meaningful" }, { "id": "continuing_to_surprise_each_other", "text": "Continuing to surprise each other" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_143", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What memory proves that our chemistry can survive an awkward moment?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_144", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which getaway would bring out our most flirtatious side?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_145", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps an awkward moment recover fastest?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_kind_laugh_that_includes_both_of_us", "text": "A kind laugh that includes both of us" }, { "id": "a_calm_pause_with_no_blame", "text": "A calm pause with no blame" }, { "id": "switching_to_simple_affection", "text": "Switching to simple affection" }, { "id": "admitting_it_feels_awkward_and_resetting", "text": "Admitting it feels awkward and resetting" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_146", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What do you hope becomes easier for us to discuss over time?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_147", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How hopeful do you feel about our desire growing with us?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very hopeful", "max_label": "Very hopeful" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_148", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which everyday attention makes you feel magnetic?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_149", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What tiny habit could keep our playful chemistry visible?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_150", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Beyond clear consent and an easy stop, what keeps a new idea pressure-free?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "discussing_it_away_from_the_moment", "text": "Discussing it away from the moment" }, { "id": "treating_curiosity_as_an_invitation_to_talk", "text": "Treating curiosity as an invitation to talk" }, { "id": "naming_firm_limits_before_making_plans", "text": "Naming firm limits before making plans" }, { "id": "starting_smaller_than_the_full_idea", "text": "Starting smaller than the full idea" }, { "id": "checking_in_afterward_without_judgment", "text": "Checking in afterward without judgment" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_151", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can either of us begin without making the other feel responsible for the outcome?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_152", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which way of reconnecting after distance feels best?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reconnection", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "start_with_a_relaxed_date_and_no_agenda", "text": "Start with a relaxed date and no agenda" }, { "id": "talk_honestly_before_adding_affection", "text": "Talk honestly before adding affection" }, { "id": "return_through_small_everyday_touches", "text": "Return through small everyday touches" }, { "id": "share_a_memory_that_reminds_us_of_us", "text": "Share a memory that reminds us of us" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_153", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What usually needs to happen before you can relax into affection?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_154", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could we stretch a romantic moment without overplanning it?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_155", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which invitation feels more appealing when you are receptive?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clearly_planned_evening", "text": "A clearly planned evening" }, { "id": "a_spontaneous_private_moment", "text": "A spontaneous private moment" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_156", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What tends to make desire grow slowly for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_157", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes pursuit feel flattering rather than pressuring?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pursuit", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "attention_continues_to_respect_my_pace", "text": "Attention continues to respect my pace" }, { "id": "interest_is_specific_rather_than_generic", "text": "Interest is specific rather than generic" }, { "id": "the_invitation_can_be_declined_gracefully", "text": "The invitation can be declined gracefully" }, { "id": "affection_remains_warm_either_way", "text": "Affection remains warm either way" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_158", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we reconnect after one of us feels disappointed?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_159", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What reassures you that affection will not automatically lead further?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_160", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How balanced does initiation feel between us?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation_balance", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very one-sided", "max_label": "Naturally shared" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_161", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps feedback sound caring instead of corrective?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_162", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes you feel admired without feeling put on display?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_163", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which form of privacy matters most to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_chance_of_being_overheard", "text": "No chance of being overheard" }, { "id": "phones_silenced_and_out_of_reach", "text": "Phones silenced and out of reach" }, { "id": "enough_time_without_a_deadline", "text": "Enough time without a deadline" }, { "id": "a_space_that_feels_comfortable_and_secure", "text": "A space that feels comfortable and secure" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_164", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How do we know when routine feels comforting rather than stale?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_165", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of nonsexual closeness still feel intimate?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "holding_each_other_quietly", "text": "Holding each other quietly" }, { "id": "sharing_honest_conversation_in_bed", "text": "Sharing honest conversation in bed" }, { "id": "slow_dancing_without_a_plan", "text": "Slow dancing without a plan" }, { "id": "resting_with_your_head_on_me", "text": "Resting with your head on me" }, { "id": "a_long_kiss_that_ends_there", "text": "A long kiss that ends there" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_166", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How does the room's lighting change your comfort with being seen?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_167", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What keeps cuddling from feeling like a hidden request?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_168", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which playful energy suits us best?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sweet_and_slightly_mischievous", "text": "Sweet and slightly mischievous" }, { "id": "bold_but_easy_to_redirect", "text": "Bold but easy to redirect" }, { "id": "silly_enough_to_break_tension", "text": "Silly enough to break tension" }, { "id": "quiet_with_lots_of_eye_contact", "text": "Quiet with lots of eye contact" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_169", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When plans fall apart, what keeps the connection intact?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_170", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When would space feel better than cuddling?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_171", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which future plan feels more exciting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_private_weekend_escape", "text": "A private weekend escape" }, { "id": "a_playful_night_at_home", "text": "A playful night at home" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_172", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which compliment from our history do you still remember?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_173", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you initiating when the mood feels right?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I rarely initiate", "max_label": "I initiate comfortably" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_174", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which monthly ritual could protect our chemistry from busy schedules?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_175", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can our differences make our connection more interesting rather than harder?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_176", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which small plan would create the most anticipation?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "planning", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_no_phone_hour_later_tonight", "text": "A no-phone hour later tonight" }, { "id": "a_private_dessert_after_everything_is_done", "text": "A private dessert after everything is done" }, { "id": "a_walk_that_ends_with_time_alone", "text": "A walk that ends with time alone" }, { "id": "a_note_naming_one_thing_i_look_forward_to", "text": "A note naming one thing I look forward to" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_177", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When has a small look from me made you feel especially wanted?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_178", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could I flirt with you when words would feel awkward?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_179", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "With no blame or scorekeeping, what helps mismatched desire feel less personal?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatch", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "remembering_that_moods_naturally_change", "text": "Remembering that moods naturally change" }, { "id": "talking_outside_the_immediate_moment", "text": "Talking outside the immediate moment" }, { "id": "naming_affection_that_still_feels_welcome", "text": "Naming affection that still feels welcome" }, { "id": "reassuring_each_other_without_making_promises", "text": "Reassuring each other without making promises" }, { "id": "remembering_one_moment_does_not_define_our_chemistry", "text": "Remembering one moment does not define our chemistry" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_180", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which first move feels warm even if it goes no further?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_181", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What pace helps you stay most connected to the moment?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "pace", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "slow_enough_to_notice_every_change", "text": "Slow enough to notice every change" }, { "id": "natural_and_guided_by_both_people", "text": "Natural and guided by both people" }, { "id": "playful_with_frequent_verbal_check_ins", "text": "Playful with frequent verbal check-ins" }, { "id": "flexible_depending_on_the_day", "text": "Flexible depending on the day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_182", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could we signal that tonight is for unwinding, not performing?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_183", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What detail makes you look forward to private time most?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_184", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How freely can you express strong desire without creating pressure?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "high_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not freely yet", "max_label": "Very freely" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_185", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When interest is quiet, what helps you stay connected to it?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_186", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "What flirt would brighten an ordinary afternoon?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_mischievous_message", "text": "A mischievous message" }, { "id": "a_lingering_in_person_look", "text": "A lingering in-person look" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_187", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What keeps a difference in desire from feeling personal?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_188", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we clarify an unclear signal instead of guessing?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_189", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Once stopping is guaranteed, which first step makes a new idea approachable?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "talk_about_what_interests_each_of_us", "text": "Talk about what interests each of us" }, { "id": "name_any_firm_limits", "text": "Name any firm limits" }, { "id": "choose_the_simplest_possible_version", "text": "Choose the simplest possible version" }, { "id": "decide_when_to_check_in", "text": "Decide when to check in" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_190", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make post-moment feedback feel caring instead of graded?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_191", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When do you feel most at ease in your own skin around me?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_192", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things keep long-term chemistry alive?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "continuing_to_notice_each_other", "text": "Continuing to notice each other" }, { "id": "making_time_for_unhurried_affection", "text": "Making time for unhurried affection" }, { "id": "trying_small_changes_without_pressure", "text": "Trying small changes without pressure" }, { "id": "remembering_what_already_works", "text": "Remembering what already works" }, { "id": "talking_kindly_when_desire_shifts", "text": "Talking kindly when desire shifts" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_193", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would refresh our connection without requiring a big plan?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_194", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps desire feel mutual in the moment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mutuality", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "both_people_actively_choosing_to_move_closer", "text": "Both people actively choosing to move closer" }, { "id": "clear_words_plus_active_participation", "text": "Clear words plus active participation" }, { "id": "taking_turns_showing_interest", "text": "Taking turns showing interest" }, { "id": "pausing_whenever_either_person_hesitates", "text": "Pausing whenever either person hesitates" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_195", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Does music help you settle in, or does quiet feel better?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_196", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes a long hug feel especially grounding?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_197", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How excited are you about making new romantic memories together?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very excited", "max_label": "Extremely excited" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_198", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How would you like feedback handled when something misses the mark?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_199", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What usually protects your mood best?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "mood", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "enough_time_that_nothing_feels_rushed", "text": "Enough time that nothing feels rushed" }, { "id": "privacy_from_likely_interruptions", "text": "Privacy from likely interruptions" }, { "id": "a_gentle_transition_out_of_responsibilities", "text": "A gentle transition out of responsibilities" }, { "id": "knowing_affection_can_stop_anywhere", "text": "Knowing affection can stop anywhere" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_200", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How do you know closeness mattered beyond the physical moment?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_201", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What was our most unexpectedly romantic ordinary day?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_202", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which makes honest feedback easier?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "talking_outside_the_moment", "text": "Talking outside the moment" }, { "id": "gentle_guidance_in_the_moment", "text": "Gentle guidance in the moment" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_203", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would a perfect slow evening together include?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_204", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What does feeling sexually understood look like in everyday life?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_205", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "With no debt or scorekeeping, which reassurance helps most after a mismatch?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatch", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_are_still_close_even_without_sex", "text": "We are still close even without sex" }, { "id": "your_honest_answer_did_not_hurt_us", "text": "Your honest answer did not hurt us" }, { "id": "our_attraction_is_still_real", "text": "Our attraction is still real" }, { "id": "we_can_reconnect_in_another_way", "text": "We can reconnect in another way" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_206", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes praise about your appearance feel sincere rather than automatic?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_207", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How playful has our flirting felt this week?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Barely playful", "max_label": "Very playful" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_208", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which message would brighten your day without demanding a response?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_209", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "With every answer treated warmly, which conditions make initiation feel inviting?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clear_interest_without_urgency", "text": "Clear interest without urgency" }, { "id": "enough_time_to_answer_honestly", "text": "Enough time to answer honestly" }, { "id": "a_private_setting_with_dependable_quiet", "text": "A private setting with dependable quiet" }, { "id": "attention_to_the_mood_we_are_actually_in", "text": "Attention to the mood we are actually in" }, { "id": "an_invitation_that_fits_our_shared_style", "text": "An invitation that fits our shared style" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_210", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we handle a missed signal without embarrassment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_211", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When your mind is busy, what helps you become present?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_212", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which type of private message feels most exciting?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "messages", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_memory_that_hints_at_our_chemistry", "text": "A memory that hints at our chemistry" }, { "id": "a_compliment_too_personal_for_public", "text": "A compliment too personal for public" }, { "id": "a_playful_invitation_for_later", "text": "A playful invitation for later" }, { "id": "a_simple_statement_that_you_miss_me", "text": "A simple statement that you miss me" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_213", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When does suspense add spark, and when does it become distracting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_214", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps us respect different desire schedules?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_215", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which spoken check-in feels most natural?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_direct_yes_or_no_question", "text": "A direct yes-or-no question" }, { "id": "a_pause_followed_by_still_good", "text": "A pause followed by 'Still good?'" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_216", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When would trying again later feel welcome, and when would it not?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_217", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes a boundary feel respected in the moment, not only afterward?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_218", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which old spark would be most fun to revive?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memory", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_way_we_flirted_on_early_dates", "text": "The way we flirted on early dates" }, { "id": "a_favorite_slow_dance_song", "text": "A favorite slow-dance song" }, { "id": "our_habit_of_lingering_goodnight_kisses", "text": "Our habit of lingering goodnight kisses" }, { "id": "a_private_joke_with_romantic_history", "text": "A private joke with romantic history" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_219", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes a vulnerable answer feel protected after it is shared?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_220", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How connected do you feel to your own desire lately?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_awareness", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Disconnected from it", "max_label": "Strongly connected" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_221", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would help you receive a compliment instead of dismissing it?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_222", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which old spark deserves a modern version?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_223", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps conversations about frequency stay respectful?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "frequency", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "talking_about_feelings_rather_than_quotas", "text": "Talking about feelings rather than quotas" }, { "id": "recognizing_stress_health_and_energy_changes", "text": "Recognizing stress, health, and energy changes" }, { "id": "keeping_affection_separate_from_obligation", "text": "Keeping affection separate from obligation" }, { "id": "looking_for_shared_possibilities_not_blame", "text": "Looking for shared possibilities, not blame" }, { "id": "allowing_the_conversation_to_continue_later", "text": "Allowing the conversation to continue later" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_224", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes a planned private evening feel protected from interruptions?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_225", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which low-energy option still feels romantic?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "low_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sharing_a_blanket_and_holding_hands", "text": "Sharing a blanket and holding hands" }, { "id": "a_slow_kiss_before_going_to_sleep", "text": "A slow kiss before going to sleep" }, { "id": "a_back_rub_with_no_expectations", "text": "A back rub with no expectations" }, { "id": "listening_to_one_song_while_close", "text": "Listening to one song while close" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_226", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which quiet form of affection helps after a difficult day?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_227", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps us avoid taking an awkward pause personally?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_228", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which helps confidence more on an ordinary day?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "an_unexpected_compliment", "text": "An unexpected compliment" }, { "id": "undivided_admiring_attention", "text": "Undivided admiring attention" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_229", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we handle different aftercare needs without either person feeling rejected?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_230", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which version of our younger selves would be proud of our closeness now?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_231", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When affection is guaranteed to stay optional, which support matters most on a low-desire day?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "low_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_can_ask_for_less_without_explaining", "text": "I can ask for less without explaining" }, { "id": "you_follow_my_pace_instead_of_guessing", "text": "You follow my pace instead of guessing" }, { "id": "we_choose_a_kind_of_touch_i_name", "text": "We choose a kind of touch I name" }, { "id": "the_moment_can_stay_brief_and_simple", "text": "The moment can stay brief and simple" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_232", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What could give future private time something to look forward to?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_233", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How safe does it feel to change your mind during a private moment?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not safe enough", "max_label": "Completely safe" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_234", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make this part of our relationship feel more playful this year?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "broader_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_235", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which part of being desired matters most beyond physical attraction?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_236", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make feedback easier to share?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "choosing_a_calm_time_afterward", "text": "Choosing a calm time afterward" }, { "id": "beginning_with_what_felt_good", "text": "Beginning with what felt good" }, { "id": "making_one_clear_request_at_a_time", "text": "Making one clear request at a time" }, { "id": "listening_without_defending_immediately", "text": "Listening without defending immediately" }, { "id": "allowing_some_thoughts_to_wait", "text": "Allowing some thoughts to wait" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_237", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Where does our best flirting usually begin?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_238", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which part of initiation should feel most shared?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "who_starts_the_conversation", "text": "Who starts the conversation" }, { "id": "who_sets_the_pace", "text": "Who sets the pace" }, { "id": "who_suggests_the_next_step", "text": "Who suggests the next step" }, { "id": "who_can_comfortably_pause_it", "text": "Who can comfortably pause it" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_239", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What protects your freedom to change your answer after closeness begins?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_240", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which part of the evening most affects your openness to desire?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_241", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident do you feel receiving genuine compliments from me?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I deflect them", "max_label": "I fully receive them" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_242", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What is a subtle way to say, 'I am thinking about later'?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_243", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which humor helps romantic tension?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "humor", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "an_inside_joke_at_exactly_the_right_time", "text": "An inside joke at exactly the right time" }, { "id": "gentle_teasing_that_never_targets_insecurity", "text": "Gentle teasing that never targets insecurity" }, { "id": "laughing_together_when_plans_go_wrong", "text": "Laughing together when plans go wrong" }, { "id": "pretending_to_be_dramatically_irresistible", "text": "Pretending to be dramatically irresistible" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_244", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What does a healthy rhythm of closeness look like to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_245", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What keeps recurring mismatch talks from turning into scorekeeping?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_246", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which compliment lands more deeply?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "compliments", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "something_about_my_appearance", "text": "Something about my appearance" }, { "id": "something_about_my_energy", "text": "Something about my energy" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_247", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can curiosity stay welcome without becoming persuasion?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_248", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which topics are easier to discuss before a romantic moment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_249", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which future plan sounds most chemistry-friendly?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_cozy_overnight_with_no_schedule", "text": "A cozy overnight with no schedule" }, { "id": "a_playful_date_in_a_new_place", "text": "A playful date in a new place" }, { "id": "a_familiar_favorite_with_extra_privacy", "text": "A familiar favorite with extra privacy" }, { "id": "a_quiet_weekend_built_around_rest", "text": "A quiet weekend built around rest" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_250", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes insecurity talks supportive without making insecurity the focus?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_251", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "After an honest no is fully accepted, which gestures help us stay connected?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "pressure_free_affection_if_welcome", "text": "Pressure-free affection if welcome" }, { "id": "a_warm_change_of_subject", "text": "A warm change of subject" }, { "id": "some_space_without_coldness", "text": "Some space without coldness" }, { "id": "a_different_shared_activity", "text": "A different shared activity" }, { "id": "trusting_we_can_reconnect_later", "text": "Trusting we can reconnect later" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_252", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What keeps curiosity alive while honoring different comfort levels?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_253", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How much does knowing we have enough time affect your openness?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_254", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you naming what would feel good emotionally?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Hard to put into words", "max_label": "Easy to name clearly" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_255", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What physical closeness works when one of us needs low stimulation?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_256", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps frequency talks stay kind?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "frequency", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "speaking_about_patterns_instead_of_blame", "text": "Speaking about patterns instead of blame" }, { "id": "naming_closeness_we_already_value", "text": "Naming closeness we already value" }, { "id": "making_no_promises_in_the_moment", "text": "Making no promises in the moment" }, { "id": "choosing_a_calm_time_outside_the_bedroom", "text": "Choosing a calm time outside the bedroom" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_257", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can humor help without making either person feel mocked?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_258", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "After vulnerability, what reassurance feels natural?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_259", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which conversation opener feels safer?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "can_i_share_something_i_want", "text": "Can I share something I want?" }, { "id": "would_you_like_to_hear_an_idea", "text": "Would you like to hear an idea?" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_260", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What private joke became part of our romantic language?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_261", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What playful agreement could make spontaneous affection easier?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_262", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which busy-day gesture keeps romantic energy alive?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_quick_mischievous_text", "text": "A quick mischievous text" }, { "id": "a_meaningful_look_while_passing", "text": "A meaningful look while passing" }, { "id": "a_tiny_favor_with_playful_energy", "text": "A tiny favor with playful energy" }, { "id": "a_planned_moment_to_reconnect_later", "text": "A planned moment to reconnect later" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_263", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes my interest feel personal rather than situational?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_264", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes a compliment feel flirtatious rather than simply nice?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_265", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you that we are emotionally connected?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "connection", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "conversation_feels_easy_and_attentive", "text": "Conversation feels easy and attentive" }, { "id": "affection_does_not_carry_an_agenda", "text": "Affection does not carry an agenda" }, { "id": "we_can_laugh_without_avoiding_real_feelings", "text": "We can laugh without avoiding real feelings" }, { "id": "differences_do_not_threaten_warmth", "text": "Differences do not threaten warmth" }, { "id": "we_both_feel_free_to_be_honest", "text": "We both feel free to be honest" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_266", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which part of initiation deserves more playfulness between us?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_267", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How attractive do you feel in our everyday life together?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "body_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Rarely attractive", "max_label": "Frequently attractive" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_268", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What is a low-effort way to shift from task mode into us mode?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_269", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of feedback is easiest to receive?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_thing_you_especially_enjoyed", "text": "One thing you especially enjoyed" }, { "id": "a_gentle_request_for_next_time", "text": "A gentle request for next time" }, { "id": "a_question_about_how_it_felt", "text": "A question about how it felt" }, { "id": "a_later_conversation_when_relaxed", "text": "A later conversation when relaxed" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_270", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What builds anticipation while keeping every next step optional?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_271", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which changes in routine affect your interest more than expected?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_272", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes emotional closeness turn into desire?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "emotional_closeness", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_deeply_listened_to", "text": "Feeling deeply listened to" }, { "id": "laughing_until_the_day_feels_lighter", "text": "Laughing until the day feels lighter" }, { "id": "being_appreciated_in_a_specific_way", "text": "Being appreciated in a specific way" }, { "id": "knowing_we_have_protected_private_time", "text": "Knowing we have protected private time" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_273", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What does kindness look like when one person wants more closeness?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_274", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What should always remain true when we try something unfamiliar?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_275", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which helps desire survive a busy season?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "busy_life", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "protecting_small_couple_rituals", "text": "Protecting small couple rituals" }, { "id": "planning_occasional_bigger_moments", "text": "Planning occasional bigger moments" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_276", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we revisit a conversation that felt unfinished?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_277", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which attention helps confidence grow naturally?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_278", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How easily can we laugh when a romantic moment gets awkward?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkwardness", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not easily", "max_label": "Very easily" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_279", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes experimenting feel playful rather than goal-oriented?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_280", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which desire difference is easiest to navigate?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "differences", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "different_preferred_times_of_day", "text": "Different preferred times of day" }, { "id": "different_speeds_of_getting_interested", "text": "Different speeds of getting interested" }, { "id": "different_amounts_of_advance_planning", "text": "Different amounts of advance planning" }, { "id": "different_needs_for_affection_afterward", "text": "Different needs for affection afterward" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_281", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What small environmental detail changes the mood fastest for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_282", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "With pausing always welcome, what supports confidence during closeness?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "attention_that_is_not_evaluative", "text": "Attention that is not evaluative" }, { "id": "lighting_or_clothing_that_feels_comfortable", "text": "Lighting or clothing that feels comfortable" }, { "id": "permission_to_guide_the_pace", "text": "Permission to guide the pace" }, { "id": "compliments_that_sound_specific_and_true", "text": "Compliments that sound specific and true" }, { "id": "careful_attention_without_staring", "text": "Careful attention without staring" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_283", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which playful touch also feels clearly pressure-free?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_284", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make trying again later feel natural?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_285", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which ordinary moment has the best spark potential?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "daily_life", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "reuniting_at_the_end_of_the_day", "text": "Reuniting at the end of the day" }, { "id": "cooking_together_after_everyone_settles", "text": "Cooking together after everyone settles" }, { "id": "a_quiet_goodbye_before_leaving", "text": "A quiet goodbye before leaving" }, { "id": "getting_ready_side_by_side", "text": "Getting ready side by side" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_286", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes the ending of private time feel unhurried?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_287", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When have we handled a difference in desire especially well?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_288", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to notice when I am attracted to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Hard to notice", "max_label": "Very easy to notice" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_289", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which season brings out the most romantic version of us?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_290", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How would you like me to show that I am excited to be close?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_291", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "When chemistry gets interrupted, which reset feels better?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkwardness", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "laugh_and_reset_together", "text": "Laugh and reset together" }, { "id": "pause_and_talk_softly", "text": "Pause and talk softly" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_292", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which version of us is the most naturally playful together?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_293", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which private ritual best captures our particular chemistry?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "couple_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_private_phrase_nobody_else_understands", "text": "A private phrase nobody else understands" }, { "id": "a_familiar_song_with_shared_history", "text": "A familiar song with shared history" }, { "id": "a_ritual_we_invented_together", "text": "A ritual we invented together" }, { "id": "a_look_that_carries_an_entire_conversation", "text": "A look that carries an entire conversation" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_294", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes being approached feel thoughtful rather than assumed?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_295", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a flirty conversation stay comfortable?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "privacy_from_other_people", "text": "Privacy from other people" }, { "id": "room_to_laugh_or_change_the_subject", "text": "Room to laugh or change the subject" }, { "id": "questions_that_do_not_demand_disclosure", "text": "Questions that do not demand disclosure" }, { "id": "no_assumption_that_talk_becomes_action", "text": "No assumption that talk becomes action" }, { "id": "kindness_if_our_answers_differ", "text": "Kindness if our answers differ" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_296", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can I help without making relaxation feel like a transaction?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_297", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What countdown would feel playful rather than serious?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_298", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Once a no is fully safe, what helps a yes feel genuinely chosen?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_invitation_reflects_my_actual_mood", "text": "The invitation reflects my actual mood" }, { "id": "time_to_notice_what_i_really_want", "text": "Time to notice what I really want" }, { "id": "a_question_that_is_clear_and_specific", "text": "A question that is clear and specific" }, { "id": "freedom_to_change_my_mind_later", "text": "Freedom to change my mind later" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_299", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How do you know when you want affection but not anything further?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_300", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could we celebrate an honest no as part of trust?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_301", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much anticipation do you enjoy before private time?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very little", "max_label": "A long slow build" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_302", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How would you like me to respond when you need more time?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_303", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes clarification easier than pretending to understand?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_304", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which attention feels flattering without becoming intense?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_private_glance_that_does_not_linger_too_long", "text": "A private glance that does not linger too long" }, { "id": "specific_words_about_your_presence", "text": "Specific words about your presence" }, { "id": "affection_focused_on_comfort", "text": "Affection focused on comfort" }, { "id": "being_asked_what_kind_of_attention_feels_good", "text": "Being asked what kind of attention feels good" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_305", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps desire feel possible when you do not feel your best?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_306", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which creates more anticipation for you?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "hints_spread_through_the_day", "text": "Hints spread through the day" }, { "id": "one_bold_surprise_later", "text": "One bold surprise later" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_307", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When would planning something new feel more exciting than spontaneity?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_308", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes privacy feel secure without making the plan feel secretive?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_309", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make desire harder to access?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "barriers", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "exhaustion_that_has_not_eased", "text": "Exhaustion that has not eased" }, { "id": "feeling_rushed_or_observed", "text": "Feeling rushed or observed" }, { "id": "unfinished_conflict_between_us", "text": "Unfinished conflict between us" }, { "id": "pressure_to_respond_a_certain_way", "text": "Pressure to respond a certain way" }, { "id": "too_many_distractions_nearby", "text": "Too many distractions nearby" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_310", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When does sitting close say more than a conversation?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_311", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which compliment feels most believable to you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "compliments", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "something_specific_i_noticed_today", "text": "Something specific I noticed today" }, { "id": "praise_for_how_you_carry_yourself", "text": "Praise for how you carry yourself" }, { "id": "words_about_the_effect_you_have_on_me", "text": "Words about the effect you have on me" }, { "id": "a_quiet_comment_meant_only_for_you", "text": "A quiet comment meant only for you" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_312", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How should we end a moment that no longer feels right?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_313", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What carries warmth into the rest of the day?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_314", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How cared for do you feel after an emotionally intense private moment?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not cared for enough", "max_label": "Very cared for" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_315", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What moment made you feel safely bold with me?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_316", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make a planned night feel personal rather than scheduled?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_317", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should a good desire conversation leave behind?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_understanding_without_new_pressure", "text": "More understanding without new pressure" }, { "id": "a_practical_idea_we_both_like", "text": "A practical idea we both like" }, { "id": "permission_to_think_and_revisit_later", "text": "Permission to think and revisit later" }, { "id": "warmth_even_when_answers_differ", "text": "Warmth even when answers differ" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_318", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes feeling wanted playful instead of emotionally heavy?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "wanted_attraction", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_319", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make flirting feel fresh without making it feel forced?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_320", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which aftercare helps you settle more?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "close_quiet_contact", "text": "Close quiet contact" }, { "id": "gentle_conversation_afterward", "text": "Gentle conversation afterward" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_321", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How could we make room for both spontaneous and planned initiation?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_322", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of anticipation sound enjoyable?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_playful_message_earlier_in_the_day", "text": "A playful message earlier in the day" }, { "id": "a_private_plan_with_flexible_timing", "text": "A private plan with flexible timing" }, { "id": "a_compliment_that_lingers_in_your_mind", "text": "A compliment that lingers in your mind" }, { "id": "a_shared_joke_about_later", "text": "A shared joke about later" }, { "id": "a_slow_affectionate_buildup", "text": "A slow affectionate buildup" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_323", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes a tired night feel connected even if nothing physical follows?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "transition_stress", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_324", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "During body changes, what helps you feel attractive?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "body_changes", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "consistent_affection_that_does_not_compare", "text": "Consistent affection that does not compare" }, { "id": "compliments_about_more_than_appearance", "text": "Compliments about more than appearance" }, { "id": "patience_with_changing_comfort_levels", "text": "Patience with changing comfort levels" }, { "id": "being_invited_to_say_what_feels_good_now", "text": "Being invited to say what feels good now" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_325", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which ordinary moment could become the beginning of a slow build?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_326", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make conversations about frequency feel kinder?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythms", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_327", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How clearly do we separate affection from expectation?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection_expectation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not clearly", "max_label": "Very clearly" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_328", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps both people feel respected when plans change?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_329", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which anticipation would brighten your day?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_note_about_a_private_plan", "text": "A note about a private plan" }, { "id": "a_time_set_aside_just_for_us", "text": "A time set aside just for us" }, { "id": "a_playful_clue_with_no_obligation", "text": "A playful clue with no obligation" }, { "id": "a_promise_of_uninterrupted_affection", "text": "A promise of uninterrupted affection" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_330", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What helps consent feel like an ongoing conversation rather than one question?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent_boundaries", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_331", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What makes 'I do not know yet' feel like a complete answer?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_332", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Which affection feels more charged?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_long_unhurried_hug", "text": "A long unhurried hug" }, { "id": "a_quick_meaningful_touch", "text": "A quick meaningful touch" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_333", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "How can I show attraction while respecting days when attention feels uncomfortable?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_334", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What tiny ritual could keep desire from disappearing into routine?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "novelty_routine", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_335", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After closeness, which connection matters most?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_emotionally_reassured", "text": "Feeling emotionally reassured" }, { "id": "staying_physically_near_for_a_while", "text": "Staying physically near for a while" }, { "id": "being_able_to_talk_or_laugh_normally", "text": "Being able to talk or laugh normally" }, { "id": "knowing_any_feedback_can_wait", "text": "Knowing any feedback can wait" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_336", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What setting helps conversation about desire feel easiest?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy_setting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_337", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of aftercare might feel good depending on the day?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "quiet_physical_closeness", "text": "Quiet physical closeness" }, { "id": "water_a_snack_or_practical_comfort", "text": "Water, a snack, or practical comfort" }, { "id": "warm_reassurance_in_a_few_words", "text": "Warm reassurance in a few words" }, { "id": "light_conversation_or_shared_humor", "text": "Light conversation or shared humor" }, { "id": "some_peaceful_space_with_no_offense_taken", "text": "Some peaceful space with no offense taken" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_338", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What affectionate habit would make our home feel warmer?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection_nonsexual", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_339", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What turns an imperfect experience into a good memory anyway?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "awkward_repair", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_340", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How welcome does spontaneous affection feel lately?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Usually not welcome", "max_label": "Usually very welcome" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_341", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would make post-intimacy feedback easier to hear?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_342", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which type of affection feels complete on its own?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "affection", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_held_close_without_a_hurry", "text": "Being held close without a hurry" }, { "id": "holding_hands_under_a_blanket", "text": "Holding hands under a blanket" }, { "id": "a_forehead_kiss_before_sleep", "text": "A forehead kiss before sleep" }, { "id": "sitting_close_with_legs_touching", "text": "Sitting close with legs touching" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_343", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "Which shared memory would you gladly recreate with one small change?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "memories_lore", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_344", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What small promise about closeness would feel realistic and exciting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "future_play", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } } ] }