{ "category": { "id": "rebuilding_trust", "display_name": "Rebuilding Trust", "description": "Careful, forward-looking questions for couples who both freely choose to repair trust through honesty, accountability, consistency, healthy boundaries, and respect for each person's independence.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "verified_user", "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { "total_questions": 150, "free_questions": 45, "premium_questions": 105, "type_counts": { "multi_choice": 90, "single_choice": 30, "scale": 15, "this_or_that": 10, "written": 5 }, "depth_counts": { "1": 29, "2": 83, "3": 38 }, "legacy_question_count": 25, "preserved_legacy_question_ids": "rt_001 through rt_025", "content_version": "rebuilding_trust_150_final_v5", "pack_boundary": "This pack owns voluntary repair after trust has been hurt: apologies, truth-telling, follow-through, reassurance, setbacks, healthy privacy, rebuilding closeness, progress, and long-term maintenance. General everyday trust belongs in trust; argument mechanics belong in conflict.", "safety_boundary": "Repair must never require surveillance, location proof, device access, isolation, surrendered privacy, coerced disclosure, forced affection, forced forgiveness, or staying in a relationship that feels unsafe.", "rewrite_reason": "The legacy 25-question file used an invalid production wrapper, string depths, missing category_id and tags, missing mirrored answer_config options, top-level scale/answer objects, and one controlling option. The existing question IDs were retained while schema and documented content failures were corrected; 125 new questions were then added in five reviewed 25-question batches.", "review_workflow": "Six 25-question batches with schema, safety, voice, option-fit, repetition, and 50-question checkpoint reviews.", "final_validation": "pass", "batch_review": [ { "batch": 1, "first_id": "rt_001", "last_id": "rt_025", "count": 25, "status": "PASS" }, { "batch": 2, "first_id": "rt_026", "last_id": "rt_050", "count": 25, "status": "PASS" }, { "batch": 3, "first_id": "rt_051", "last_id": "rt_075", "count": 25, "status": "PASS" }, { "batch": 4, "first_id": "rt_076", "last_id": "rt_100", "count": 25, "status": "PASS" }, { "batch": 5, "first_id": "rt_101", "last_id": "rt_125", "count": 25, "status": "PASS" }, { "batch": 6, "first_id": "rt_126", "last_id": "rt_150", "count": 25, "status": "PASS" } ], "fifty_question_checkpoints": [ { "checkpoint": 1, "first_id": "rt_001", "last_id": "rt_050", "count": 50, "status": "PASS" }, { "checkpoint": 2, "first_id": "rt_051", "last_id": "rt_100", "count": 50, "status": "PASS" }, { "checkpoint": 3, "first_id": "rt_101", "last_id": "rt_150", "count": 50, "status": "PASS" } ], "final_review": "Final production and editorial pass completed. Replaced remaining therapy-like phrasing with plain partner-to-partner language while preserving IDs, access, types, depths, and safety boundaries. Revalidated all schema fields, mirrored options, counts, uniqueness, prompt length, repetition, control-language context, six 25-question batches, and three 50-question checkpoints.", "final_editorial_patches": 14 } }, "questions": [ { "id": "rt_001", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which small things I do lately have started to feel trustworthy?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "early_repair", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "following_through_on_small_things", "text": "Following through on small things" }, { "id": "telling_the_truth_quickly", "text": "Telling the truth quickly" }, { "id": "checking_in_without_being_asked", "text": "Checking in without being asked" }, { "id": "keeping_what_we_agreed_on", "text": "Keeping what we agreed on" }, { "id": "being_where_i_said_i_would_be", "text": "Being where I said I would be" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "following_through_on_small_things", "text": "Following through on small things" }, { "id": "telling_the_truth_quickly", "text": "Telling the truth quickly" }, { "id": "checking_in_without_being_asked", "text": "Checking in without being asked" }, { "id": "keeping_what_we_agreed_on", "text": "Keeping what we agreed on" }, { "id": "being_where_i_said_i_would_be", "text": "Being where I said I would be" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_002", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you know I really listened?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "listening", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "letting_you_finish_the_thought", "text": "Letting you finish the thought" }, { "id": "asking_a_specific_follow_up_question", "text": "Asking a specific follow-up question" }, { "id": "remembering_the_important_part_later", "text": "Remembering the important part later" }, { "id": "saying_back_what_i_understood", "text": "Saying back what I understood" }, { "id": "not_jumping_straight_into_fixing_it", "text": "Not jumping straight into fixing it" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "letting_you_finish_the_thought", "text": "Letting you finish the thought" }, { "id": "asking_a_specific_follow_up_question", "text": "Asking a specific follow-up question" }, { "id": "remembering_the_important_part_later", "text": "Remembering the important part later" }, { "id": "saying_back_what_i_understood", "text": "Saying back what I understood" }, { "id": "not_jumping_straight_into_fixing_it", "text": "Not jumping straight into fixing it" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_003", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which small wins would matter this week?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "small_wins", "early_repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_short_check_in_over_coffee", "text": "A short check-in over coffee" }, { "id": "a_walk_with_no_phones", "text": "A walk with no phones" }, { "id": "a_kind_message_while_apart", "text": "A kind message while apart" }, { "id": "one_shared_meal_we_both_protect", "text": "One shared meal we both protect" }, { "id": "ten_quiet_minutes_before_bed", "text": "Ten quiet minutes before bed" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_short_check_in_over_coffee", "text": "A short check-in over coffee" }, { "id": "a_walk_with_no_phones", "text": "A walk with no phones" }, { "id": "a_kind_message_while_apart", "text": "A kind message while apart" }, { "id": "one_shared_meal_we_both_protect", "text": "One shared meal we both protect" }, { "id": "ten_quiet_minutes_before_bed", "text": "Ten quiet minutes before bed" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_004", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which part of an apology makes it believable to you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "apology", "accountability", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_names_what_happened_clearly", "text": "It names what happened clearly" }, { "id": "it_comes_without_being_forced", "text": "It comes without being forced" }, { "id": "it_includes_a_specific_next_step", "text": "It includes a specific next step" }, { "id": "changed_behavior_follows", "text": "Changed behavior follows" }, { "id": "your_feelings_are_not_rushed", "text": "Your feelings are not rushed" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_names_what_happened_clearly", "text": "It names what happened clearly" }, { "id": "it_comes_without_being_forced", "text": "It comes without being forced" }, { "id": "it_includes_a_specific_next_step", "text": "It includes a specific next step" }, { "id": "changed_behavior_follows", "text": "Changed behavior follows" }, { "id": "your_feelings_are_not_rushed", "text": "Your feelings are not rushed" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_005", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How steady does our relationship feel right now?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "current_state", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Still shaky", "max_label": "Mostly steady" } }, { "id": "rt_006", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How would a useful check-in between us usually begin?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "check_in", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_simple_question_about_how_we_are_doing", "text": "A simple question about how we are doing" }, { "id": "walking_side_by_side", "text": "Walking side by side" }, { "id": "after_a_calm_moment", "text": "After a calm moment" }, { "id": "with_one_clear_topic", "text": "With one clear topic" }, { "id": "after_some_time_to_think", "text": "After some time to think" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_simple_question_about_how_we_are_doing", "text": "A simple question about how we are doing" }, { "id": "walking_side_by_side", "text": "Walking side by side" }, { "id": "after_a_calm_moment", "text": "After a calm moment" }, { "id": "with_one_clear_topic", "text": "With one clear topic" }, { "id": "after_some_time_to_think", "text": "After some time to think" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_007", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Talk about it soon or think alone first?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "timing", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "talk_about_it_soon", "text": "Talk about it soon" }, { "id": "think_alone_first", "text": "Think alone first" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "talk_about_it_soon", "text": "Talk about it soon" }, { "id": "think_alone_first", "text": "Think alone first" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_008", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which everyday habits help you believe I will be dependable?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "consistency", "follow_through", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "responding_when_i_reasonably_can", "text": "Responding when I reasonably can" }, { "id": "saying_when_plans_change", "text": "Saying when plans change" }, { "id": "following_through_on_small_promises", "text": "Following through on small promises" }, { "id": "listening_after_asking_about_your_day", "text": "Listening after asking about your day" }, { "id": "owning_a_mistake_quickly", "text": "Owning a mistake quickly" }, { "id": "doing_what_i_said_i_would_do", "text": "Doing what I said I would do" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "responding_when_i_reasonably_can", "text": "Responding when I reasonably can" }, { "id": "saying_when_plans_change", "text": "Saying when plans change" }, { "id": "following_through_on_small_promises", "text": "Following through on small promises" }, { "id": "listening_after_asking_about_your_day", "text": "Listening after asking about your day" }, { "id": "owning_a_mistake_quickly", "text": "Owning a mistake quickly" }, { "id": "doing_what_i_said_i_would_do", "text": "Doing what I said I would do" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_009", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of an apology tend to land best for you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "apology", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_admission_without_excuses", "text": "A clear admission without excuses" }, { "id": "hearing_that_your_reaction_makes_sense", "text": "Hearing that your reaction makes sense" }, { "id": "a_specific_plan_for_what_changes", "text": "A specific plan for what changes" }, { "id": "time_to_settle_before_talking", "text": "Time to settle before talking" }, { "id": "a_follow_up_after_a_few_days", "text": "A follow-up after a few days" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_admission_without_excuses", "text": "A clear admission without excuses" }, { "id": "hearing_that_your_reaction_makes_sense", "text": "Hearing that your reaction makes sense" }, { "id": "a_specific_plan_for_what_changes", "text": "A specific plan for what changes" }, { "id": "time_to_settle_before_talking", "text": "Time to settle before talking" }, { "id": "a_follow_up_after_a_few_days", "text": "A follow-up after a few days" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_010", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What could help us remember the promises we make?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "agreements", "follow_through", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "write_down_the_important_ones_together", "text": "Write down the important ones together" }, { "id": "mention_them_during_a_weekly_check_in", "text": "Mention them during a weekly check-in" }, { "id": "repeat_back_what_each_person_agreed_to", "text": "Repeat back what each person agreed to" }, { "id": "use_one_shared_reminder", "text": "Use one shared reminder" }, { "id": "keep_the_system_simple_and_follow_through", "text": "Keep the system simple and follow through" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "write_down_the_important_ones_together", "text": "Write down the important ones together" }, { "id": "mention_them_during_a_weekly_check_in", "text": "Mention them during a weekly check-in" }, { "id": "repeat_back_what_each_person_agreed_to", "text": "Repeat back what each person agreed to" }, { "id": "use_one_shared_reminder", "text": "Use one shared reminder" }, { "id": "keep_the_system_simple_and_follow_through", "text": "Keep the system simple and follow through" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_011", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a hard question feel caring rather than suspicious?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "hard_questions", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "asking_instead_of_assuming", "text": "Asking instead of assuming" }, { "id": "letting_not_now_be_a_real_answer", "text": "Letting not now be a real answer" }, { "id": "starting_with_your_own_feeling", "text": "Starting with your own feeling" }, { "id": "keeping_a_calm_tone", "text": "Keeping a calm tone" }, { "id": "saying_that_understanding_matters_more_than_winning", "text": "Saying that understanding matters more than winning" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "asking_instead_of_assuming", "text": "Asking instead of assuming" }, { "id": "letting_not_now_be_a_real_answer", "text": "Letting not now be a real answer" }, { "id": "starting_with_your_own_feeling", "text": "Starting with your own feeling" }, { "id": "keeping_a_calm_tone", "text": "Keeping a calm tone" }, { "id": "saying_that_understanding_matters_more_than_winning", "text": "Saying that understanding matters more than winning" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_012", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you tell me something hurt, which response helps you feel believed?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "validation", "listening", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "taking_a_moment_before_responding", "text": "Taking a moment before responding" }, { "id": "asking_what_it_felt_like_for_you", "text": "Asking what it felt like for you" }, { "id": "not_becoming_defensive_immediately", "text": "Not becoming defensive immediately" }, { "id": "saying_back_what_i_heard", "text": "Saying back what I heard" }, { "id": "focusing_on_repair_instead_of_explanations", "text": "Focusing on repair instead of explanations" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "taking_a_moment_before_responding", "text": "Taking a moment before responding" }, { "id": "asking_what_it_felt_like_for_you", "text": "Asking what it felt like for you" }, { "id": "not_becoming_defensive_immediately", "text": "Not becoming defensive immediately" }, { "id": "saying_back_what_i_heard", "text": "Saying back what I heard" }, { "id": "focusing_on_repair_instead_of_explanations", "text": "Focusing on repair instead of explanations" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_013", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What pace for rebuilding feels most workable right now?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "pace", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "one_small_step_at_a_time", "text": "One small step at a time" }, { "id": "short_check_ins_more_often", "text": "Short check-ins more often" }, { "id": "longer_talks_with_space_between_them", "text": "Longer talks with space between them" }, { "id": "mostly_normal_life_with_talks_when_needed", "text": "Mostly normal life with talks when needed" }, { "id": "still_figuring_out_the_pace", "text": "Still figuring out the pace" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_small_step_at_a_time", "text": "One small step at a time" }, { "id": "short_check_ins_more_often", "text": "Short check-ins more often" }, { "id": "longer_talks_with_space_between_them", "text": "Longer talks with space between them" }, { "id": "mostly_normal_life_with_talks_when_needed", "text": "Mostly normal life with talks when needed" }, { "id": "still_figuring_out_the_pace", "text": "Still figuring out the pace" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_014", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How manageable does the pace of rebuilding feel right now?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "pace", "current_state", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Too much right now", "max_label": "Manageable" } }, { "id": "rt_015", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make honesty about small things easier between us?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "honesty", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "knowing_the_reaction_will_stay_measured", "text": "Knowing the reaction will stay measured" }, { "id": "a_calm_voice_even_when_it_is_hard", "text": "A calm voice even when it is hard" }, { "id": "time_to_think_before_answering", "text": "Time to think before answering" }, { "id": "talking_about_the_issue_instead_of_attacking_character", "text": "Talking about the issue instead of attacking character" }, { "id": "remembering_that_honesty_is_the_goal", "text": "Remembering that honesty is the goal" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_the_reaction_will_stay_measured", "text": "Knowing the reaction will stay measured" }, { "id": "a_calm_voice_even_when_it_is_hard", "text": "A calm voice even when it is hard" }, { "id": "time_to_think_before_answering", "text": "Time to think before answering" }, { "id": "talking_about_the_issue_instead_of_attacking_character", "text": "Talking about the issue instead of attacking character" }, { "id": "remembering_that_honesty_is_the_goal", "text": "Remembering that honesty is the goal" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_016", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When one of us slips, what is the most helpful first response?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "setback", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_it_gently_and_soon", "text": "Name it gently and soon" }, { "id": "take_a_breath_and_return_to_it", "text": "Take a breath and return to it" }, { "id": "ask_what_is_needed_first", "text": "Ask what is needed first" }, { "id": "correct_the_behavior_and_check_in_later", "text": "Correct the behavior and check in later" }, { "id": "decide_together_based_on_the_situation", "text": "Decide together based on the situation" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_it_gently_and_soon", "text": "Name it gently and soon" }, { "id": "take_a_breath_and_return_to_it", "text": "Take a breath and return to it" }, { "id": "ask_what_is_needed_first", "text": "Ask what is needed first" }, { "id": "correct_the_behavior_and_check_in_later", "text": "Correct the behavior and check in later" }, { "id": "decide_together_based_on_the_situation", "text": "Decide together based on the situation" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_017", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What kind of closeness would you want to rebuild first?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "closeness", "pace", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "easy_time_together_without_heavy_topics", "text": "Easy time together without heavy topics" }, { "id": "unhurried_physical_affection", "text": "Unhurried physical affection" }, { "id": "quiet_time_in_the_same_room", "text": "Quiet time in the same room" }, { "id": "small_routines_done_together", "text": "Small routines done together" }, { "id": "honest_talks_with_recovery_time_afterward", "text": "Honest talks with recovery time afterward" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "easy_time_together_without_heavy_topics", "text": "Easy time together without heavy topics" }, { "id": "unhurried_physical_affection", "text": "Unhurried physical affection" }, { "id": "quiet_time_in_the_same_room", "text": "Quiet time in the same room" }, { "id": "small_routines_done_together", "text": "Small routines done together" }, { "id": "honest_talks_with_recovery_time_afterward", "text": "Honest talks with recovery time afterward" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_018", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you with regular trust check-ins?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "check_in", "comfort", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not comfortable yet", "max_label": "Very comfortable" } }, { "id": "rt_019", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After a setback, what would help us regain our footing first?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "setback", "recovery", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_short_honest_talk", "text": "A short honest talk" }, { "id": "one_clear_change_for_next_time", "text": "One clear change for next time" }, { "id": "time_to_cool_down", "text": "Time to cool down" }, { "id": "returning_to_a_steady_routine", "text": "Returning to a steady routine" }, { "id": "naming_what_still_worked", "text": "Naming what still worked" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_short_honest_talk", "text": "A short honest talk" }, { "id": "one_clear_change_for_next_time", "text": "One clear change for next time" }, { "id": "time_to_cool_down", "text": "Time to cool down" }, { "id": "returning_to_a_steady_routine", "text": "Returning to a steady routine" }, { "id": "naming_what_still_worked", "text": "Naming what still worked" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_020", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which words from me help most when trust has been hurt?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "reassurance", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "i_hear_what_you_are_saying", "text": "I hear what you are saying" }, { "id": "it_makes_sense_that_this_affected_you", "text": "It makes sense that this affected you" }, { "id": "here_is_what_i_will_do_differently", "text": "Here is what I will do differently" }, { "id": "you_do_not_have_to_answer_now", "text": "You do not have to answer now" }, { "id": "thank_you_for_telling_me", "text": "Thank you for telling me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_hear_what_you_are_saying", "text": "I hear what you are saying" }, { "id": "it_makes_sense_that_this_affected_you", "text": "It makes sense that this affected you" }, { "id": "here_is_what_i_will_do_differently", "text": "Here is what I will do differently" }, { "id": "you_do_not_have_to_answer_now", "text": "You do not have to answer now" }, { "id": "thank_you_for_telling_me", "text": "Thank you for telling me" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_021", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which changes would feel like steady proof that things are improving?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "progress", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "fewer_repeats_of_the_same_problem", "text": "Fewer repeats of the same problem" }, { "id": "more_relaxed_time_together", "text": "More relaxed time together" }, { "id": "quicker_recovery_after_tension", "text": "Quicker recovery after tension" }, { "id": "more_honest_short_check_ins", "text": "More honest short check-ins" }, { "id": "plans_that_actually_happen", "text": "Plans that actually happen" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "fewer_repeats_of_the_same_problem", "text": "Fewer repeats of the same problem" }, { "id": "more_relaxed_time_together", "text": "More relaxed time together" }, { "id": "quicker_recovery_after_tension", "text": "Quicker recovery after tension" }, { "id": "more_honest_short_check_ins", "text": "More honest short check-ins" }, { "id": "plans_that_actually_happen", "text": "Plans that actually happen" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_022", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "written", "text": "What is one thing you wish I understood about how this has affected you?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "understanding", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "rt_023", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After a hard day affects us, what would help most afterward?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "stress", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_what_happened_gently", "text": "Name what happened gently" }, { "id": "ask_whether_something_deeper_is_going_on", "text": "Ask whether something deeper is going on" }, { "id": "take_space_and_return_later", "text": "Take space and return later" }, { "id": "plan_a_calmer_conversation", "text": "Plan a calmer conversation" }, { "id": "decide_based_on_what_the_day_requires", "text": "Decide based on what the day requires" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_what_happened_gently", "text": "Name what happened gently" }, { "id": "ask_whether_something_deeper_is_going_on", "text": "Ask whether something deeper is going on" }, { "id": "take_space_and_return_later", "text": "Take space and return later" }, { "id": "plan_a_calmer_conversation", "text": "Plan a calmer conversation" }, { "id": "decide_based_on_what_the_day_requires", "text": "Decide based on what the day requires" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_024", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should a useful trust check-in cover?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "check_in", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "how_each_of_us_is_doing", "text": "How each of us is doing" }, { "id": "one_thing_we_appreciate", "text": "One thing we appreciate" }, { "id": "anything_small_that_felt_off", "text": "Anything small that felt off" }, { "id": "one_thing_we_want_to_do_together", "text": "One thing we want to do together" }, { "id": "permission_to_say_nothing_is_wrong", "text": "Permission to say nothing is wrong" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "how_each_of_us_is_doing", "text": "How each of us is doing" }, { "id": "one_thing_we_appreciate", "text": "One thing we appreciate" }, { "id": "anything_small_that_felt_off", "text": "Anything small that felt off" }, { "id": "one_thing_we_want_to_do_together", "text": "One thing we want to do together" }, { "id": "permission_to_say_nothing_is_wrong", "text": "Permission to say nothing is wrong" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_025", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which simple things would feel good to do together this week?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "small_wins", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "cook_a_meal_we_both_choose", "text": "Cook a meal we both choose" }, { "id": "take_a_short_walk_after_dinner", "text": "Take a short walk after dinner" }, { "id": "start_one_show_together", "text": "Start one show together" }, { "id": "sit_without_phones_for_twenty_minutes", "text": "Sit without phones for twenty minutes" }, { "id": "plan_something_small_to_anticipate", "text": "Plan something small to anticipate" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "cook_a_meal_we_both_choose", "text": "Cook a meal we both choose" }, { "id": "take_a_short_walk_after_dinner", "text": "Take a short walk after dinner" }, { "id": "start_one_show_together", "text": "Start one show together" }, { "id": "sit_without_phones_for_twenty_minutes", "text": "Sit without phones for twenty minutes" }, { "id": "plan_something_small_to_anticipate", "text": "Plan something small to anticipate" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_026", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of follow-through matter most after trust has been hurt?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "follow_through", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "doing_the_promised_thing", "text": "Doing the promised thing" }, { "id": "speaking_up_before_a_plan_changes", "text": "Speaking up before a plan changes" }, { "id": "remembering_what_was_agreed", "text": "Remembering what was agreed" }, { "id": "checking_back_without_being_prompted", "text": "Checking back without being prompted" }, { "id": "admitting_early_when_something_will_not_happen", "text": "Admitting early when something will not happen" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "doing_the_promised_thing", "text": "Doing the promised thing" }, { "id": "speaking_up_before_a_plan_changes", "text": "Speaking up before a plan changes" }, { "id": "remembering_what_was_agreed", "text": "Remembering what was agreed" }, { "id": "checking_back_without_being_prompted", "text": "Checking back without being prompted" }, { "id": "admitting_early_when_something_will_not_happen", "text": "Admitting early when something will not happen" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_027", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of promise feels easiest to trust right now?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "promises", "pace", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_small_promise_kept_today", "text": "A small promise kept today" }, { "id": "a_clear_plan_for_this_week", "text": "A clear plan for this week" }, { "id": "one_ongoing_habit", "text": "One ongoing habit" }, { "id": "no_new_promise_until_the_last_one_is_kept", "text": "No new promise until the last one is kept" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_small_promise_kept_today", "text": "A small promise kept today" }, { "id": "a_clear_plan_for_this_week", "text": "A clear plan for this week" }, { "id": "one_ongoing_habit", "text": "One ongoing habit" }, { "id": "no_new_promise_until_the_last_one_is_kept", "text": "No new promise until the last one is kept" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_028", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes the truth easier to hear, even when it hurts?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "honesty", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "hearing_it_directly", "text": "Hearing it directly" }, { "id": "no_important_detail_being_hidden", "text": "No important detail being hidden" }, { "id": "a_calm_setting", "text": "A calm setting" }, { "id": "enough_time_to_respond", "text": "Enough time to respond" }, { "id": "accountability_without_excuses", "text": "Accountability without excuses" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "hearing_it_directly", "text": "Hearing it directly" }, { "id": "no_important_detail_being_hidden", "text": "No important detail being hidden" }, { "id": "a_calm_setting", "text": "A calm setting" }, { "id": "enough_time_to_respond", "text": "Enough time to respond" }, { "id": "accountability_without_excuses", "text": "Accountability without excuses" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_029", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How predictable does my follow-through feel lately?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "consistency", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Hard to predict", "max_label": "Very dependable" } }, { "id": "rt_030", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "One bigger repair step or several smaller ones?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "pace", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "one_bigger_repair_step", "text": "One bigger repair step" }, { "id": "several_smaller_ones", "text": "Several smaller ones" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_bigger_repair_step", "text": "One bigger repair step" }, { "id": "several_smaller_ones", "text": "Several smaller ones" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_031", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which habits make honesty feel normal rather than dramatic?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "honesty", "habits", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "mentioning_changes_early", "text": "Mentioning changes early" }, { "id": "answering_the_actual_question", "text": "Answering the actual question" }, { "id": "correcting_a_mistaken_detail", "text": "Correcting a mistaken detail" }, { "id": "sharing_concerns_before_they_grow", "text": "Sharing concerns before they grow" }, { "id": "keeping_ordinary_conversations_open", "text": "Keeping ordinary conversations open" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "mentioning_changes_early", "text": "Mentioning changes early" }, { "id": "answering_the_actual_question", "text": "Answering the actual question" }, { "id": "correcting_a_mistaken_detail", "text": "Correcting a mistaken detail" }, { "id": "sharing_concerns_before_they_grow", "text": "Sharing concerns before they grow" }, { "id": "keeping_ordinary_conversations_open", "text": "Keeping ordinary conversations open" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_032", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a promise stay realistic?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "promises", "planning", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "naming_exactly_what_will_happen", "text": "Naming exactly what will happen" }, { "id": "choosing_a_reasonable_deadline", "text": "Choosing a reasonable deadline" }, { "id": "planning_for_obstacles", "text": "Planning for obstacles" }, { "id": "agreeing_how_to_update_each_other", "text": "Agreeing how to update each other" }, { "id": "making_fewer_promises", "text": "Making fewer promises" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "naming_exactly_what_will_happen", "text": "Naming exactly what will happen" }, { "id": "choosing_a_reasonable_deadline", "text": "Choosing a reasonable deadline" }, { "id": "planning_for_obstacles", "text": "Planning for obstacles" }, { "id": "agreeing_how_to_update_each_other", "text": "Agreeing how to update each other" }, { "id": "making_fewer_promises", "text": "Making fewer promises" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_033", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When plans change, what response rebuilds the most trust?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "plans", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "tell_me_as_soon_as_you_know", "text": "Tell me as soon as you know" }, { "id": "explain_briefly_without_overdefending", "text": "Explain briefly without overdefending" }, { "id": "offer_a_new_plan", "text": "Offer a new plan" }, { "id": "acknowledge_the_effect_on_me", "text": "Acknowledge the effect on me" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "tell_me_as_soon_as_you_know", "text": "Tell me as soon as you know" }, { "id": "explain_briefly_without_overdefending", "text": "Explain briefly without overdefending" }, { "id": "offer_a_new_plan", "text": "Offer a new plan" }, { "id": "acknowledge_the_effect_on_me", "text": "Acknowledge the effect on me" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_034", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which everyday moments reveal whether repair is becoming real?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "daily_life", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "how_we_handle_a_small_mistake", "text": "How we handle a small mistake" }, { "id": "whether_plans_stay_clear", "text": "Whether plans stay clear" }, { "id": "how_we_speak_under_stress", "text": "How we speak under stress" }, { "id": "whether_apologies_lead_to_action", "text": "Whether apologies lead to action" }, { "id": "how_quickly_honesty_appears", "text": "How quickly honesty appears" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "how_we_handle_a_small_mistake", "text": "How we handle a small mistake" }, { "id": "whether_plans_stay_clear", "text": "Whether plans stay clear" }, { "id": "how_we_speak_under_stress", "text": "How we speak under stress" }, { "id": "whether_apologies_lead_to_action", "text": "Whether apologies lead to action" }, { "id": "how_quickly_honesty_appears", "text": "How quickly honesty appears" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_035", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "written", "text": "What is one promise that would mean more through action than through words?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "promises", "action", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "rt_036", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would help us notice progress without pretending everything is fixed?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "progress", "realism", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_specific_improvements", "text": "Name specific improvements" }, { "id": "acknowledge_what_still_hurts", "text": "Acknowledge what still hurts" }, { "id": "compare_patterns_rather_than_single_days", "text": "Compare patterns rather than single days" }, { "id": "celebrate_effort_without_declaring_victory", "text": "Celebrate effort without declaring victory" }, { "id": "review_what_needs_more_time", "text": "Review what needs more time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_specific_improvements", "text": "Name specific improvements" }, { "id": "acknowledge_what_still_hurts", "text": "Acknowledge what still hurts" }, { "id": "compare_patterns_rather_than_single_days", "text": "Compare patterns rather than single days" }, { "id": "celebrate_effort_without_declaring_victory", "text": "Celebrate effort without declaring victory" }, { "id": "review_what_needs_more_time", "text": "Review what needs more time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_037", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs show that accountability is becoming a habit?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "accountability", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "mistakes_are_admitted_sooner", "text": "Mistakes are admitted sooner" }, { "id": "excuses_become_shorter", "text": "Excuses become shorter" }, { "id": "repairs_happen_without_reminders", "text": "Repairs happen without reminders" }, { "id": "the_same_issue_happens_less_often", "text": "The same issue happens less often" }, { "id": "hard_questions_get_honest_answers", "text": "Hard questions get honest answers" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "mistakes_are_admitted_sooner", "text": "Mistakes are admitted sooner" }, { "id": "excuses_become_shorter", "text": "Excuses become shorter" }, { "id": "repairs_happen_without_reminders", "text": "Repairs happen without reminders" }, { "id": "the_same_issue_happens_less_often", "text": "The same issue happens less often" }, { "id": "hard_questions_get_honest_answers", "text": "Hard questions get honest answers" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_038", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should happen when a promise cannot be kept?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "promises", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "say_so_before_the_deadline", "text": "Say so before the deadline" }, { "id": "explain_what_changed", "text": "Explain what changed" }, { "id": "offer_a_realistic_replacement", "text": "Offer a realistic replacement" }, { "id": "ask_what_would_reduce_the_impact", "text": "Ask what would reduce the impact" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "say_so_before_the_deadline", "text": "Say so before the deadline" }, { "id": "explain_what_changed", "text": "Explain what changed" }, { "id": "offer_a_realistic_replacement", "text": "Offer a realistic replacement" }, { "id": "ask_what_would_reduce_the_impact", "text": "Ask what would reduce the impact" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_039", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How much do recent actions match recent words?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "action", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Rarely match", "max_label": "Consistently match" } }, { "id": "rt_040", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a change feel lasting rather than temporary?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "change", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_continues_without_praise", "text": "It continues without praise" }, { "id": "it_holds_up_during_stress", "text": "It holds up during stress" }, { "id": "it_survives_an_inconvenient_week", "text": "It survives an inconvenient week" }, { "id": "it_is_discussed_honestly_when_it_slips", "text": "It is discussed honestly when it slips" }, { "id": "it_becomes_part_of_ordinary_life", "text": "It becomes part of ordinary life" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_continues_without_praise", "text": "It continues without praise" }, { "id": "it_holds_up_during_stress", "text": "It holds up during stress" }, { "id": "it_survives_an_inconvenient_week", "text": "It survives an inconvenient week" }, { "id": "it_is_discussed_honestly_when_it_slips", "text": "It is discussed honestly when it slips" }, { "id": "it_becomes_part_of_ordinary_life", "text": "It becomes part of ordinary life" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_041", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which truths are better shared early?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "honesty", "timing", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_change_of_plans", "text": "A change of plans" }, { "id": "a_mistake_that_affects_us", "text": "A mistake that affects us" }, { "id": "a_worry_about_an_agreement", "text": "A worry about an agreement" }, { "id": "a_feeling_that_could_become_resentment", "text": "A feeling that could become resentment" }, { "id": "uncertainty_about_keeping_a_promise", "text": "Uncertainty about keeping a promise" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_change_of_plans", "text": "A change of plans" }, { "id": "a_mistake_that_affects_us", "text": "A mistake that affects us" }, { "id": "a_worry_about_an_agreement", "text": "A worry about an agreement" }, { "id": "a_feeling_that_could_become_resentment", "text": "A feeling that could become resentment" }, { "id": "uncertainty_about_keeping_a_promise", "text": "Uncertainty about keeping a promise" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_042", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which kind of reminder feels least parental?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "reminders", "respect", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_shared_calendar_note", "text": "A shared calendar note" }, { "id": "a_quick_question", "text": "A quick question" }, { "id": "a_reminder_we_both_agreed_to", "text": "A reminder we both agreed to" }, { "id": "no_reminder_unless_it_affects_a_deadline", "text": "No reminder unless it affects a deadline" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_shared_calendar_note", "text": "A shared calendar note" }, { "id": "a_quick_question", "text": "A quick question" }, { "id": "a_reminder_we_both_agreed_to", "text": "A reminder we both agreed to" }, { "id": "no_reminder_unless_it_affects_a_deadline", "text": "No reminder unless it affects a deadline" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_043", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps responsibility stay mutual instead of becoming supervision?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "accountability", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "each_person_tracks_their_own_commitments", "text": "Each person tracks their own commitments" }, { "id": "both_can_raise_concerns", "text": "Both can raise concerns" }, { "id": "agreements_have_clear_limits", "text": "Agreements have clear limits" }, { "id": "no_one_must_constantly_prove_innocence", "text": "No one must constantly prove innocence" }, { "id": "independence_remains_respected", "text": "Independence remains respected" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "each_person_tracks_their_own_commitments", "text": "Each person tracks their own commitments" }, { "id": "both_can_raise_concerns", "text": "Both can raise concerns" }, { "id": "agreements_have_clear_limits", "text": "Agreements have clear limits" }, { "id": "no_one_must_constantly_prove_innocence", "text": "No one must constantly prove innocence" }, { "id": "independence_remains_respected", "text": "Independence remains respected" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_044", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Repair the missed promise first or discuss why it happened?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "setback", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "repair_the_missed_promise_first", "text": "Repair the missed promise first" }, { "id": "discuss_why_it_happened", "text": "Discuss why it happened" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "repair_the_missed_promise_first", "text": "Repair the missed promise first" }, { "id": "discuss_why_it_happened", "text": "Discuss why it happened" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_045", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which reactions encourage honesty the next time?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "honesty", "response", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "listen_before_deciding", "text": "Listen before deciding" }, { "id": "thank_the_person_for_telling_you", "text": "Thank the person for telling you" }, { "id": "address_the_issue_without_insults", "text": "Address the issue without insults" }, { "id": "take_a_break_if_emotions_rise", "text": "Take a break if emotions rise" }, { "id": "return_to_the_conversation_as_promised", "text": "Return to the conversation as promised" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "listen_before_deciding", "text": "Listen before deciding" }, { "id": "thank_the_person_for_telling_you", "text": "Thank the person for telling you" }, { "id": "address_the_issue_without_insults", "text": "Address the issue without insults" }, { "id": "take_a_break_if_emotions_rise", "text": "Take a break if emotions rise" }, { "id": "return_to_the_conversation_as_promised", "text": "Return to the conversation as promised" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_046", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes an update feel reassuring without becoming a report?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_is_relevant_to_an_agreement", "text": "It is relevant to an agreement" }, { "id": "it_is_freely_offered", "text": "It is freely offered" }, { "id": "it_stays_brief", "text": "It stays brief" }, { "id": "it_respects_normal_privacy", "text": "It respects normal privacy" }, { "id": "both_people_follow_the_same_standard", "text": "Both people follow the same standard" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_is_relevant_to_an_agreement", "text": "It is relevant to an agreement" }, { "id": "it_is_freely_offered", "text": "It is freely offered" }, { "id": "it_stays_brief", "text": "It stays brief" }, { "id": "it_respects_normal_privacy", "text": "It respects normal privacy" }, { "id": "both_people_follow_the_same_standard", "text": "Both people follow the same standard" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_047", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which improvement would you notice first?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "daily_life", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "more_reliable_plans", "text": "More reliable plans" }, { "id": "faster_honesty", "text": "Faster honesty" }, { "id": "calmer_hard_talks", "text": "Calmer hard talks" }, { "id": "less_need_to_ask_twice", "text": "Less need to ask twice" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_reliable_plans", "text": "More reliable plans" }, { "id": "faster_honesty", "text": "Faster honesty" }, { "id": "calmer_hard_talks", "text": "Calmer hard talks" }, { "id": "less_need_to_ask_twice", "text": "Less need to ask twice" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_048", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can help us separate one mistake from a repeating pattern?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "patterns", "setback", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "look_at_frequency", "text": "Look at frequency" }, { "id": "notice_whether_it_was_owned", "text": "Notice whether it was owned" }, { "id": "check_whether_repair_followed", "text": "Check whether repair followed" }, { "id": "consider_what_changed_afterward", "text": "Consider what changed afterward" }, { "id": "avoid_deciding_in_the_hottest_moment", "text": "Avoid deciding in the hottest moment" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "look_at_frequency", "text": "Look at frequency" }, { "id": "notice_whether_it_was_owned", "text": "Notice whether it was owned" }, { "id": "check_whether_repair_followed", "text": "Check whether repair followed" }, { "id": "consider_what_changed_afterward", "text": "Consider what changed afterward" }, { "id": "avoid_deciding_in_the_hottest_moment", "text": "Avoid deciding in the hottest moment" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_049", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which expectations should be written down rather than assumed?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreements", "clarity", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "deadlines_that_matter", "text": "Deadlines that matter" }, { "id": "what_counts_as_an_update", "text": "What counts as an update" }, { "id": "how_to_handle_changes", "text": "How to handle changes" }, { "id": "which_decisions_are_shared", "text": "Which decisions are shared" }, { "id": "when_to_revisit_the_agreement", "text": "When to revisit the agreement" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "deadlines_that_matter", "text": "Deadlines that matter" }, { "id": "what_counts_as_an_update", "text": "What counts as an update" }, { "id": "how_to_handle_changes", "text": "How to handle changes" }, { "id": "which_decisions_are_shared", "text": "Which decisions are shared" }, { "id": "when_to_revisit_the_agreement", "text": "When to revisit the agreement" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_050", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make our agreements feel more trustworthy?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreements", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "fewer_vague_promises", "text": "Fewer vague promises" }, { "id": "clear_responsibility", "text": "Clear responsibility" }, { "id": "realistic_timing", "text": "Realistic timing" }, { "id": "a_plan_for_setbacks", "text": "A plan for setbacks" }, { "id": "equal_room_to_question_the_agreement", "text": "Equal room to question the agreement" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "fewer_vague_promises", "text": "Fewer vague promises" }, { "id": "clear_responsibility", "text": "Clear responsibility" }, { "id": "realistic_timing", "text": "Realistic timing" }, { "id": "a_plan_for_setbacks", "text": "A plan for setbacks" }, { "id": "equal_room_to_question_the_agreement", "text": "Equal room to question the agreement" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_051", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of reassurance respect both closeness and independence?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "independence", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "answering_a_reasonable_question_honestly", "text": "Answering a reasonable question honestly" }, { "id": "sharing_relevant_changes", "text": "Sharing relevant changes" }, { "id": "keeping_agreed_commitments", "text": "Keeping agreed commitments" }, { "id": "offering_affection_without_demanding_trust", "text": "Offering affection without demanding trust" }, { "id": "respecting_time_apart", "text": "Respecting time apart" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "answering_a_reasonable_question_honestly", "text": "Answering a reasonable question honestly" }, { "id": "sharing_relevant_changes", "text": "Sharing relevant changes" }, { "id": "keeping_agreed_commitments", "text": "Keeping agreed commitments" }, { "id": "offering_affection_without_demanding_trust", "text": "Offering affection without demanding trust" }, { "id": "respecting_time_apart", "text": "Respecting time apart" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_052", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What reassurance feels most useful when worry suddenly returns?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "trigger", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_calm_factual_answer", "text": "A calm factual answer" }, { "id": "a_reminder_of_recent_follow_through", "text": "A reminder of recent follow-through" }, { "id": "a_short_moment_of_closeness", "text": "A short moment of closeness" }, { "id": "time_to_settle_before_talking", "text": "Time to settle before talking" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_calm_factual_answer", "text": "A calm factual answer" }, { "id": "a_reminder_of_recent_follow_through", "text": "A reminder of recent follow-through" }, { "id": "a_short_moment_of_closeness", "text": "A short moment of closeness" }, { "id": "time_to_settle_before_talking", "text": "Time to settle before talking" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_053", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which demands would worry you most during repair?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "safety", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "giving_up_supportive_friendships", "text": "Giving up supportive friendships" }, { "id": "constant_location_proof", "text": "Constant location proof" }, { "id": "surrendering_all_privacy", "text": "Surrendering all privacy" }, { "id": "accepting_insults_or_threats", "text": "Accepting insults or threats" }, { "id": "forgiving_before_it_feels_right", "text": "Forgiving before it feels right" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "giving_up_supportive_friendships", "text": "Giving up supportive friendships" }, { "id": "constant_location_proof", "text": "Constant location proof" }, { "id": "surrendering_all_privacy", "text": "Surrendering all privacy" }, { "id": "accepting_insults_or_threats", "text": "Accepting insults or threats" }, { "id": "forgiving_before_it_feels_right", "text": "Forgiving before it feels right" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_054", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How respected does your independence feel during this process?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "independence", "respect", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not respected enough", "max_label": "Fully respected" } }, { "id": "rt_055", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Ask for reassurance now or revisit it after settling?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "timing", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "ask_for_reassurance_now", "text": "Ask for reassurance now" }, { "id": "revisit_it_after_settling", "text": "Revisit it after settling" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_for_reassurance_now", "text": "Ask for reassurance now" }, { "id": "revisit_it_after_settling", "text": "Revisit it after settling" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_056", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which questions seek understanding without demanding proof?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "questions", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "what_would_help_me_understand_this", "text": "What would help me understand this?" }, { "id": "is_there_a_detail_i_am_missing", "text": "Is there a detail I am missing?" }, { "id": "can_we_revisit_what_we_agreed", "text": "Can we revisit what we agreed?" }, { "id": "do_you_have_the_energy_to_talk_now", "text": "Do you have the energy to talk now?" }, { "id": "what_would_make_this_conversation_clearer", "text": "What would make this conversation clearer?" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "what_would_help_me_understand_this", "text": "What would help me understand this?" }, { "id": "is_there_a_detail_i_am_missing", "text": "Is there a detail I am missing?" }, { "id": "can_we_revisit_what_we_agreed", "text": "Can we revisit what we agreed?" }, { "id": "do_you_have_the_energy_to_talk_now", "text": "Do you have the energy to talk now?" }, { "id": "what_would_make_this_conversation_clearer", "text": "What would make this conversation clearer?" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_057", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps protect normal privacy while trust is rebuilding?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy", "independence", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "clear_shared_agreements", "text": "Clear shared agreements" }, { "id": "no_secret_rules", "text": "No secret rules" }, { "id": "freedom_from_device_searches", "text": "Freedom from device searches" }, { "id": "honesty_about_matters_that_affect_us", "text": "Honesty about matters that affect us" }, { "id": "respect_for_personal_conversations", "text": "Respect for personal conversations" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clear_shared_agreements", "text": "Clear shared agreements" }, { "id": "no_secret_rules", "text": "No secret rules" }, { "id": "freedom_from_device_searches", "text": "Freedom from device searches" }, { "id": "honesty_about_matters_that_affect_us", "text": "Honesty about matters that affect us" }, { "id": "respect_for_personal_conversations", "text": "Respect for personal conversations" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_058", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which request would feel most reasonable during a worried moment?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "request", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "please_tell_me_what_changed", "text": "Please tell me what changed" }, { "id": "can_we_review_the_agreement", "text": "Can we review the agreement?" }, { "id": "could_we_talk_when_we_are_calmer", "text": "Could we talk when we are calmer?" }, { "id": "would_you_remind_me_what_you_plan_to_do", "text": "Would you remind me what you plan to do?" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "please_tell_me_what_changed", "text": "Please tell me what changed" }, { "id": "can_we_review_the_agreement", "text": "Can we review the agreement?" }, { "id": "could_we_talk_when_we_are_calmer", "text": "Could we talk when we are calmer?" }, { "id": "would_you_remind_me_what_you_plan_to_do", "text": "Would you remind me what you plan to do?" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_059", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can calm uncertainty without turning into checking behavior?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "uncertainty", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "reviewing_known_facts", "text": "Reviewing known facts" }, { "id": "waiting_before_asking_again", "text": "Waiting before asking again" }, { "id": "using_a_grounding_routine", "text": "Using a grounding routine" }, { "id": "talking_at_an_agreed_time", "text": "Talking at an agreed time" }, { "id": "noticing_recent_dependable_actions", "text": "Noticing recent dependable actions" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "reviewing_known_facts", "text": "Reviewing known facts" }, { "id": "waiting_before_asking_again", "text": "Waiting before asking again" }, { "id": "using_a_grounding_routine", "text": "Using a grounding routine" }, { "id": "talking_at_an_agreed_time", "text": "Talking at an agreed time" }, { "id": "noticing_recent_dependable_actions", "text": "Noticing recent dependable actions" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_060", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "written", "text": "What kind of reassurance helps you without making either person feel controlled?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "rt_061", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which boundaries keep the repair process respectful?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundaries", "respect", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_insults_during_questions", "text": "No insults during questions" }, { "id": "no_forced_access_to_private_accounts", "text": "No forced access to private accounts" }, { "id": "breaks_are_honored", "text": "Breaks are honored" }, { "id": "answers_can_wait_until_a_calm_time", "text": "Answers can wait until a calm time" }, { "id": "either_person_may_reject_a_controlling_request", "text": "Either person may reject a controlling request" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_insults_during_questions", "text": "No insults during questions" }, { "id": "no_forced_access_to_private_accounts", "text": "No forced access to private accounts" }, { "id": "breaks_are_honored", "text": "Breaks are honored" }, { "id": "answers_can_wait_until_a_calm_time", "text": "Answers can wait until a calm time" }, { "id": "either_person_may_reject_a_controlling_request", "text": "Either person may reject a controlling request" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_062", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a worried question stay separate from an accusation?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "questions", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_the_worry_as_your_own", "text": "Name the worry as your own" }, { "id": "ask_one_clear_thing", "text": "Ask one clear thing" }, { "id": "avoid_claiming_to_know_motives", "text": "Avoid claiming to know motives" }, { "id": "listen_to_the_complete_answer", "text": "Listen to the complete answer" }, { "id": "pause_before_asking_again", "text": "Pause before asking again" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_the_worry_as_your_own", "text": "Name the worry as your own" }, { "id": "ask_one_clear_thing", "text": "Ask one clear thing" }, { "id": "avoid_claiming_to_know_motives", "text": "Avoid claiming to know motives" }, { "id": "listen_to_the_complete_answer", "text": "Listen to the complete answer" }, { "id": "pause_before_asking_again", "text": "Pause before asking again" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_063", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When reassurance does not help immediately, what should happen next?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "pace", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "give_it_time", "text": "Give it time" }, { "id": "return_to_the_facts_later", "text": "Return to the facts later" }, { "id": "ask_what_part_still_feels_unresolved", "text": "Ask what part still feels unresolved" }, { "id": "stop_trying_to_force_relief", "text": "Stop trying to force relief" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "give_it_time", "text": "Give it time" }, { "id": "return_to_the_facts_later", "text": "Return to the facts later" }, { "id": "ask_what_part_still_feels_unresolved", "text": "Ask what part still feels unresolved" }, { "id": "stop_trying_to_force_relief", "text": "Stop trying to force relief" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_064", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How free do you feel to say a request feels controlling?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "non_control", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not free yet", "max_label": "Completely free" } }, { "id": "rt_065", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which actions support trust without reducing normal freedom?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "independence", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "keeping_plans_clear", "text": "Keeping plans clear" }, { "id": "updating_relevant_changes", "text": "Updating relevant changes" }, { "id": "following_shared_agreements", "text": "Following shared agreements" }, { "id": "maintaining_separate_friendships", "text": "Maintaining separate friendships" }, { "id": "allowing_ordinary_private_time", "text": "Allowing ordinary private time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_plans_clear", "text": "Keeping plans clear" }, { "id": "updating_relevant_changes", "text": "Updating relevant changes" }, { "id": "following_shared_agreements", "text": "Following shared agreements" }, { "id": "maintaining_separate_friendships", "text": "Maintaining separate friendships" }, { "id": "allowing_ordinary_private_time", "text": "Allowing ordinary private time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_066", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can help us tell reassurance from surveillance?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "non_control", "clarity", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "reassurance_has_a_clear_purpose", "text": "Reassurance has a clear purpose" }, { "id": "the_request_is_limited", "text": "The request is limited" }, { "id": "both_people_can_discuss_it", "text": "Both people can discuss it" }, { "id": "no_punishment_follows_a_no", "text": "No punishment follows a no" }, { "id": "it_does_not_expand_without_agreement", "text": "It does not expand without agreement" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "reassurance_has_a_clear_purpose", "text": "Reassurance has a clear purpose" }, { "id": "the_request_is_limited", "text": "The request is limited" }, { "id": "both_people_can_discuss_it", "text": "Both people can discuss it" }, { "id": "no_punishment_follows_a_no", "text": "No punishment follows a no" }, { "id": "it_does_not_expand_without_agreement", "text": "It does not expand without agreement" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_067", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which response would feel most respectful during a suspicious moment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "respect", "questions", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "i_will_answer_but_please_ask_calmly", "text": "I will answer, but please ask calmly" }, { "id": "let_us_return_to_this_in_twenty_minutes", "text": "Let us return to this in twenty minutes" }, { "id": "i_understand_why_you_are_worried", "text": "I understand why you are worried" }, { "id": "i_cannot_agree_to_being_searched", "text": "I cannot agree to being searched" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_will_answer_but_please_ask_calmly", "text": "I will answer, but please ask calmly" }, { "id": "let_us_return_to_this_in_twenty_minutes", "text": "Let us return to this in twenty minutes" }, { "id": "i_understand_why_you_are_worried", "text": "I understand why you are worried" }, { "id": "i_cannot_agree_to_being_searched", "text": "I cannot agree to being searched" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_068", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a temporary repair agreement fair?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreements", "fairness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_reason", "text": "A clear reason" }, { "id": "a_specific_end_date", "text": "A specific end date" }, { "id": "consent_from_both_people", "text": "Consent from both people" }, { "id": "regular_review", "text": "Regular review" }, { "id": "no_loss_of_basic_independence", "text": "No loss of basic independence" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_reason", "text": "A clear reason" }, { "id": "a_specific_end_date", "text": "A specific end date" }, { "id": "consent_from_both_people", "text": "Consent from both people" }, { "id": "regular_review", "text": "Regular review" }, { "id": "no_loss_of_basic_independence", "text": "No loss of basic independence" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_069", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "More information or more consistent action?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "reassurance", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "more_information", "text": "More information" }, { "id": "more_consistent_action", "text": "More consistent action" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_information", "text": "More information" }, { "id": "more_consistent_action", "text": "More consistent action" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_070", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs suggest a reassurance request needs to be reconsidered?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "non_control", "boundaries", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_keeps_expanding", "text": "It keeps expanding" }, { "id": "it_requires_constant_proof", "text": "It requires constant proof" }, { "id": "it_isolates_someone", "text": "It isolates someone" }, { "id": "it_never_reduces_worry", "text": "It never reduces worry" }, { "id": "it_is_enforced_through_anger", "text": "It is enforced through anger" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_keeps_expanding", "text": "It keeps expanding" }, { "id": "it_requires_constant_proof", "text": "It requires constant proof" }, { "id": "it_isolates_someone", "text": "It isolates someone" }, { "id": "it_never_reduces_worry", "text": "It never reduces worry" }, { "id": "it_is_enforced_through_anger", "text": "It is enforced through anger" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_071", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps trust grow while each person keeps a separate identity?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "identity", "independence", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "supporting_individual_interests", "text": "Supporting individual interests" }, { "id": "respecting_private_reflection", "text": "Respecting private reflection" }, { "id": "keeping_honest_shared_plans", "text": "Keeping honest shared plans" }, { "id": "welcoming_outside_support", "text": "Welcoming outside support" }, { "id": "choosing_closeness_rather_than_requiring_it", "text": "Choosing closeness rather than requiring it" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "supporting_individual_interests", "text": "Supporting individual interests" }, { "id": "respecting_private_reflection", "text": "Respecting private reflection" }, { "id": "keeping_honest_shared_plans", "text": "Keeping honest shared plans" }, { "id": "welcoming_outside_support", "text": "Welcoming outside support" }, { "id": "choosing_closeness_rather_than_requiring_it", "text": "Choosing closeness rather than requiring it" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_072", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the best response to an unreasonable proof request?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundaries", "non_control", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_the_concern_calmly", "text": "Name the concern calmly" }, { "id": "decline_the_request", "text": "Decline the request" }, { "id": "offer_a_healthier_alternative", "text": "Offer a healthier alternative" }, { "id": "pause_the_conversation_if_pressure_continues", "text": "Pause the conversation if pressure continues" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_the_concern_calmly", "text": "Name the concern calmly" }, { "id": "decline_the_request", "text": "Decline the request" }, { "id": "offer_a_healthier_alternative", "text": "Offer a healthier alternative" }, { "id": "pause_the_conversation_if_pressure_continues", "text": "Pause the conversation if pressure continues" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_073", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which private areas matter most to protect during repair?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "privacy", "support", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "therapy_or_counseling_conversations", "text": "Therapy or counseling conversations" }, { "id": "a_friend_s_personal_information", "text": "A friend's personal information" }, { "id": "private_journaling", "text": "Private journaling" }, { "id": "work_matters_protected_by_confidentiality", "text": "Work matters protected by confidentiality" }, { "id": "support_conversations_that_do_not_hide_harmful_actions", "text": "Support conversations that do not hide harmful actions" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "therapy_or_counseling_conversations", "text": "Therapy or counseling conversations" }, { "id": "a_friend_s_personal_information", "text": "A friend's personal information" }, { "id": "private_journaling", "text": "Private journaling" }, { "id": "work_matters_protected_by_confidentiality", "text": "Work matters protected by confidentiality" }, { "id": "support_conversations_that_do_not_hide_harmful_actions", "text": "Support conversations that do not hide harmful actions" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_074", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make time apart feel less threatening?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "time_apart", "reassurance", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_general_plan", "text": "A clear general plan" }, { "id": "a_warm_goodbye", "text": "A warm goodbye" }, { "id": "keeping_one_agreed_check_in", "text": "Keeping one agreed check-in" }, { "id": "following_through_on_return_plans", "text": "Following through on return plans" }, { "id": "freedom_from_repeated_questioning", "text": "Freedom from repeated questioning" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_general_plan", "text": "A clear general plan" }, { "id": "a_warm_goodbye", "text": "A warm goodbye" }, { "id": "keeping_one_agreed_check_in", "text": "Keeping one agreed check-in" }, { "id": "following_through_on_return_plans", "text": "Following through on return plans" }, { "id": "freedom_from_repeated_questioning", "text": "Freedom from repeated questioning" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_075", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which freedoms should stay protected during repair?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "independence", "safety", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "choosing_friends", "text": "Choosing friends" }, { "id": "having_personal_interests", "text": "Having personal interests" }, { "id": "keeping_bodily_autonomy", "text": "Keeping bodily autonomy" }, { "id": "seeking_outside_support", "text": "Seeking outside support" }, { "id": "saying_no_to_coercive_demands", "text": "Saying no to coercive demands" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "choosing_friends", "text": "Choosing friends" }, { "id": "having_personal_interests", "text": "Having personal interests" }, { "id": "keeping_bodily_autonomy", "text": "Keeping bodily autonomy" }, { "id": "seeking_outside_support", "text": "Seeking outside support" }, { "id": "saying_no_to_coercive_demands", "text": "Saying no to coercive demands" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_076", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps us discuss the original hurt without reliving every detail?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "hard_conversations", "pace", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "choose_one_part_at_a_time", "text": "Choose one part at a time" }, { "id": "stop_when_either_person_is_overwhelmed", "text": "Stop when either person is overwhelmed" }, { "id": "focus_on_what_remains_unresolved", "text": "Focus on what remains unresolved" }, { "id": "avoid_demanding_repeated_retelling", "text": "Avoid demanding repeated retelling" }, { "id": "agree_when_to_continue", "text": "Agree when to continue" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "choose_one_part_at_a_time", "text": "Choose one part at a time" }, { "id": "stop_when_either_person_is_overwhelmed", "text": "Stop when either person is overwhelmed" }, { "id": "focus_on_what_remains_unresolved", "text": "Focus on what remains unresolved" }, { "id": "avoid_demanding_repeated_retelling", "text": "Avoid demanding repeated retelling" }, { "id": "agree_when_to_continue", "text": "Agree when to continue" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_077", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should guide a conversation when our memories differ?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "memory", "conflict", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "the_effect_on_each_person", "text": "The effect on each person" }, { "id": "facts_we_both_agree_on", "text": "Facts we both agree on" }, { "id": "what_repair_is_possible_now", "text": "What repair is possible now" }, { "id": "a_pause_before_deciding_what_it_means", "text": "A pause before deciding what it means" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_effect_on_each_person", "text": "The effect on each person" }, { "id": "facts_we_both_agree_on", "text": "Facts we both agree on" }, { "id": "what_repair_is_possible_now", "text": "What repair is possible now" }, { "id": "a_pause_before_deciding_what_it_means", "text": "A pause before deciding what it means" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_078", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which responses make defensiveness less likely?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "defensiveness", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "ask_about_one_event", "text": "Ask about one event" }, { "id": "avoid_character_judgments", "text": "Avoid character judgments" }, { "id": "use_a_measured_tone", "text": "Use a measured tone" }, { "id": "acknowledge_what_is_already_understood", "text": "Acknowledge what is already understood" }, { "id": "allow_time_before_answering", "text": "Allow time before answering" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_about_one_event", "text": "Ask about one event" }, { "id": "avoid_character_judgments", "text": "Avoid character judgments" }, { "id": "use_a_measured_tone", "text": "Use a measured tone" }, { "id": "acknowledge_what_is_already_understood", "text": "Acknowledge what is already understood" }, { "id": "allow_time_before_answering", "text": "Allow time before answering" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_079", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How quickly do our hard conversations become defensive?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "defensiveness", "current_state", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very quickly", "max_label": "Rarely" } }, { "id": "rt_080", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Short conversation now or a longer one later?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "timing", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "short_conversation_now", "text": "Short conversation now" }, { "id": "a_longer_one_later", "text": "A longer one later" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "short_conversation_now", "text": "Short conversation now" }, { "id": "a_longer_one_later", "text": "A longer one later" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_081", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps an explanation avoid sounding like an excuse?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "accountability", "explanation", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "start_by_owning_the_impact", "text": "Start by owning the impact" }, { "id": "keep_the_context_brief", "text": "Keep the context brief" }, { "id": "do_not_blame_the_other_person", "text": "Do not blame the other person" }, { "id": "name_what_changes_next", "text": "Name what changes next" }, { "id": "accept_that_understanding_may_take_time", "text": "Accept that understanding may take time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "start_by_owning_the_impact", "text": "Start by owning the impact" }, { "id": "keep_the_context_brief", "text": "Keep the context brief" }, { "id": "do_not_blame_the_other_person", "text": "Do not blame the other person" }, { "id": "name_what_changes_next", "text": "Name what changes next" }, { "id": "accept_that_understanding_may_take_time", "text": "Accept that understanding may take time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_082", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs mean a conversation needs a break?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "hard_conversations", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "voices_keep_rising", "text": "Voices keep rising" }, { "id": "the_same_sentence_repeats", "text": "The same sentence repeats" }, { "id": "someone_cannot_think_clearly", "text": "Someone cannot think clearly" }, { "id": "questions_become_accusations", "text": "Questions become accusations" }, { "id": "either_person_asks_to_stop", "text": "Either person asks to stop" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "voices_keep_rising", "text": "Voices keep rising" }, { "id": "the_same_sentence_repeats", "text": "The same sentence repeats" }, { "id": "someone_cannot_think_clearly", "text": "Someone cannot think clearly" }, { "id": "questions_become_accusations", "text": "Questions become accusations" }, { "id": "either_person_asks_to_stop", "text": "Either person asks to stop" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_083", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the best way to return after a break?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "follow_through", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "at_the_agreed_time", "text": "At the agreed time" }, { "id": "with_one_clear_topic", "text": "With one clear topic" }, { "id": "after_checking_readiness", "text": "After checking readiness" }, { "id": "with_a_calmer_opening", "text": "With a calmer opening" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "at_the_agreed_time", "text": "At the agreed time" }, { "id": "with_one_clear_topic", "text": "With one clear topic" }, { "id": "after_checking_readiness", "text": "After checking readiness" }, { "id": "with_a_calmer_opening", "text": "With a calmer opening" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_084", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can keep one setback from erasing every improvement?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "setback", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_what_changed_before_it", "text": "Name what changed before it" }, { "id": "repair_the_current_mistake", "text": "Repair the current mistake" }, { "id": "avoid_all_or_nothing_language", "text": "Avoid all-or-nothing language" }, { "id": "review_whether_the_pattern_returned", "text": "Review whether the pattern returned" }, { "id": "keep_the_progress_that_is_still_real", "text": "Keep the progress that is still real" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_what_changed_before_it", "text": "Name what changed before it" }, { "id": "repair_the_current_mistake", "text": "Repair the current mistake" }, { "id": "avoid_all_or_nothing_language", "text": "Avoid all-or-nothing language" }, { "id": "review_whether_the_pattern_returned", "text": "Review whether the pattern returned" }, { "id": "keep_the_progress_that_is_still_real", "text": "Keep the progress that is still real" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_085", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "written", "text": "What would help you talk about a setback without feeling that all progress disappeared?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "setback", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "rt_086", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which first steps help after new information comes to light?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "new_information", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "tell_the_full_relevant_truth", "text": "Tell the full relevant truth" }, { "id": "allow_an_immediate_pause", "text": "Allow an immediate pause" }, { "id": "answer_one_question_at_a_time", "text": "Answer one question at a time" }, { "id": "do_not_demand_a_quick_decision", "text": "Do not demand a quick decision" }, { "id": "discuss_the_next_practical_step", "text": "Discuss the next practical step" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "tell_the_full_relevant_truth", "text": "Tell the full relevant truth" }, { "id": "allow_an_immediate_pause", "text": "Allow an immediate pause" }, { "id": "answer_one_question_at_a_time", "text": "Answer one question at a time" }, { "id": "do_not_demand_a_quick_decision", "text": "Do not demand a quick decision" }, { "id": "discuss_the_next_practical_step", "text": "Discuss the next practical step" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_087", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a difficult answer easier to trust?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "honesty", "hard_conversations", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_stays_consistent", "text": "It stays consistent" }, { "id": "it_includes_uncertainty_honestly", "text": "It includes uncertainty honestly" }, { "id": "it_does_not_minimize_the_effect", "text": "It does not minimize the effect" }, { "id": "it_answers_the_question_asked", "text": "It answers the question asked" }, { "id": "it_can_be_revisited_without_changing", "text": "It can be revisited without changing" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_stays_consistent", "text": "It stays consistent" }, { "id": "it_includes_uncertainty_honestly", "text": "It includes uncertainty honestly" }, { "id": "it_does_not_minimize_the_effect", "text": "It does not minimize the effect" }, { "id": "it_answers_the_question_asked", "text": "It answers the question asked" }, { "id": "it_can_be_revisited_without_changing", "text": "It can be revisited without changing" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_088", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which response helps most when shame takes over?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "shame", "accountability", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "return_to_the_specific_behavior", "text": "Return to the specific behavior" }, { "id": "take_a_short_break", "text": "Take a short break" }, { "id": "remember_shame_is_not_repair", "text": "Remember shame is not repair" }, { "id": "ask_what_action_is_needed_now", "text": "Ask what action is needed now" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "return_to_the_specific_behavior", "text": "Return to the specific behavior" }, { "id": "take_a_short_break", "text": "Take a short break" }, { "id": "remember_shame_is_not_repair", "text": "Remember shame is not repair" }, { "id": "ask_what_action_is_needed_now", "text": "Ask what action is needed now" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_089", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident are you that we can recover from a smaller setback?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "setback", "confidence", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not confident yet", "max_label": "Very confident" } }, { "id": "rt_090", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps accountability continue without endless punishment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "accountability", "non_punishing", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "clear_consequences_tied_to_the_issue", "text": "Clear consequences tied to the issue" }, { "id": "a_real_path_to_improvement", "text": "A real path to improvement" }, { "id": "no_repeated_humiliation", "text": "No repeated humiliation" }, { "id": "progress_is_allowed_to_count", "text": "Progress is allowed to count" }, { "id": "boundaries_remain_consistent", "text": "Boundaries remain consistent" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clear_consequences_tied_to_the_issue", "text": "Clear consequences tied to the issue" }, { "id": "a_real_path_to_improvement", "text": "A real path to improvement" }, { "id": "no_repeated_humiliation", "text": "No repeated humiliation" }, { "id": "progress_is_allowed_to_count", "text": "Progress is allowed to count" }, { "id": "boundaries_remain_consistent", "text": "Boundaries remain consistent" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_091", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which phrases can slow down a defensive conversation?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "communication", "pause", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "let_me_make_sure_i_understood", "text": "Let me make sure I understood" }, { "id": "i_need_a_moment_before_i_answer", "text": "I need a moment before I answer" }, { "id": "i_can_see_why_that_matters", "text": "I can see why that matters" }, { "id": "we_are_discussing_one_thing", "text": "We are discussing one thing" }, { "id": "can_we_return_to_this_calmly", "text": "Can we return to this calmly?" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "let_me_make_sure_i_understood", "text": "Let me make sure I understood" }, { "id": "i_need_a_moment_before_i_answer", "text": "I need a moment before I answer" }, { "id": "i_can_see_why_that_matters", "text": "I can see why that matters" }, { "id": "we_are_discussing_one_thing", "text": "We are discussing one thing" }, { "id": "can_we_return_to_this_calmly", "text": "Can we return to this calmly?" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_092", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When the same issue returns, what should we examine first?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "patterns", "setback", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "whether_the_agreement_was_clear", "text": "Whether the agreement was clear" }, { "id": "what_blocked_follow_through", "text": "What blocked follow-through" }, { "id": "how_the_issue_was_repaired", "text": "How the issue was repaired" }, { "id": "whether_the_current_plan_is_realistic", "text": "Whether the current plan is realistic" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "whether_the_agreement_was_clear", "text": "Whether the agreement was clear" }, { "id": "what_blocked_follow_through", "text": "What blocked follow-through" }, { "id": "how_the_issue_was_repaired", "text": "How the issue was repaired" }, { "id": "whether_the_current_plan_is_realistic", "text": "Whether the current plan is realistic" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_093", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps distinguish a mistake from deception?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "honesty", "patterns", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "whether_it_was_corrected_voluntarily", "text": "Whether it was corrected voluntarily" }, { "id": "whether_details_stayed_consistent", "text": "Whether details stayed consistent" }, { "id": "whether_there_was_an_effort_to_hide_it", "text": "Whether there was an effort to hide it" }, { "id": "whether_responsibility_was_accepted", "text": "Whether responsibility was accepted" }, { "id": "whether_the_behavior_continued", "text": "Whether the behavior continued" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "whether_it_was_corrected_voluntarily", "text": "Whether it was corrected voluntarily" }, { "id": "whether_details_stayed_consistent", "text": "Whether details stayed consistent" }, { "id": "whether_there_was_an_effort_to_hide_it", "text": "Whether there was an effort to hide it" }, { "id": "whether_responsibility_was_accepted", "text": "Whether responsibility was accepted" }, { "id": "whether_the_behavior_continued", "text": "Whether the behavior continued" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_094", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Focus on the impact or focus on the next action?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "focus_on_the_impact", "text": "Focus on the impact" }, { "id": "focus_on_the_next_action", "text": "Focus on the next action" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "focus_on_the_impact", "text": "Focus on the impact" }, { "id": "focus_on_the_next_action", "text": "Focus on the next action" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_095", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which behaviors make a sincere apology harder to believe?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "apology", "barriers", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "rushing_for_forgiveness", "text": "Rushing for forgiveness" }, { "id": "arguing_over_every_word", "text": "Arguing over every word" }, { "id": "repeating_the_same_behavior", "text": "Repeating the same behavior" }, { "id": "making_the_hurt_person_provide_comfort", "text": "Making the hurt person provide comfort" }, { "id": "treating_the_apology_as_the_end", "text": "Treating the apology as the end" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "rushing_for_forgiveness", "text": "Rushing for forgiveness" }, { "id": "arguing_over_every_word", "text": "Arguing over every word" }, { "id": "repeating_the_same_behavior", "text": "Repeating the same behavior" }, { "id": "making_the_hurt_person_provide_comfort", "text": "Making the hurt person provide comfort" }, { "id": "treating_the_apology_as_the_end", "text": "Treating the apology as the end" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_096", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can help when one person needs more answers than the other can give at once?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "questions", "pace", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "write_down_remaining_questions", "text": "Write down remaining questions" }, { "id": "answer_in_smaller_conversations", "text": "Answer in smaller conversations" }, { "id": "be_honest_about_what_is_unknown", "text": "Be honest about what is unknown" }, { "id": "set_a_time_to_continue", "text": "Set a time to continue" }, { "id": "avoid_inventing_certainty", "text": "Avoid inventing certainty" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "write_down_remaining_questions", "text": "Write down remaining questions" }, { "id": "answer_in_smaller_conversations", "text": "Answer in smaller conversations" }, { "id": "be_honest_about_what_is_unknown", "text": "Be honest about what is unknown" }, { "id": "set_a_time_to_continue", "text": "Set a time to continue" }, { "id": "avoid_inventing_certainty", "text": "Avoid inventing certainty" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_097", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the healthiest goal for a hard conversation?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "hard_conversations", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "understand_one_thing_better", "text": "Understand one thing better" }, { "id": "agree_on_one_next_step", "text": "Agree on one next step" }, { "id": "clarify_what_remains_unresolved", "text": "Clarify what remains unresolved" }, { "id": "end_with_less_confusion", "text": "End with less confusion" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "understand_one_thing_better", "text": "Understand one thing better" }, { "id": "agree_on_one_next_step", "text": "Agree on one next step" }, { "id": "clarify_what_remains_unresolved", "text": "Clarify what remains unresolved" }, { "id": "end_with_less_confusion", "text": "End with less confusion" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_098", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs show a break is being used responsibly?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "follow_through", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_return_time_is_named", "text": "A return time is named" }, { "id": "the_person_actually_comes_back", "text": "The person actually comes back" }, { "id": "no_punishment_happens_during_the_break", "text": "No punishment happens during the break" }, { "id": "the_topic_is_not_quietly_abandoned", "text": "The topic is not quietly abandoned" }, { "id": "both_people_use_the_time_to_settle", "text": "Both people use the time to settle" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_return_time_is_named", "text": "A return time is named" }, { "id": "the_person_actually_comes_back", "text": "The person actually comes back" }, { "id": "no_punishment_happens_during_the_break", "text": "No punishment happens during the break" }, { "id": "the_topic_is_not_quietly_abandoned", "text": "The topic is not quietly abandoned" }, { "id": "both_people_use_the_time_to_settle", "text": "Both people use the time to settle" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_099", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a painful conversation stay honest without becoming cruel?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "honesty", "hard_conversations", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "plain_words", "text": "Plain words" }, { "id": "no_exaggerated_promises", "text": "No exaggerated promises" }, { "id": "room_for_mixed_feelings", "text": "Room for mixed feelings" }, { "id": "no_pressure_to_comfort_each_other_immediately", "text": "No pressure to comfort each other immediately" }, { "id": "permission_to_say_the_answer_is_incomplete", "text": "Permission to say the answer is incomplete" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "plain_words", "text": "Plain words" }, { "id": "no_exaggerated_promises", "text": "No exaggerated promises" }, { "id": "room_for_mixed_feelings", "text": "Room for mixed feelings" }, { "id": "no_pressure_to_comfort_each_other_immediately", "text": "No pressure to comfort each other immediately" }, { "id": "permission_to_say_the_answer_is_incomplete", "text": "Permission to say the answer is incomplete" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_100", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which repair steps matter after words become cruel?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "harmful_words", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "stop_the_conversation", "text": "Stop the conversation" }, { "id": "own_the_exact_words", "text": "Own the exact words" }, { "id": "allow_space_without_retaliation", "text": "Allow space without retaliation" }, { "id": "discuss_what_prevents_a_repeat", "text": "Discuss what prevents a repeat" }, { "id": "accept_that_the_harm_may_take_time", "text": "Accept that the harm may take time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "stop_the_conversation", "text": "Stop the conversation" }, { "id": "own_the_exact_words", "text": "Own the exact words" }, { "id": "allow_space_without_retaliation", "text": "Allow space without retaliation" }, { "id": "discuss_what_prevents_a_repeat", "text": "Discuss what prevents a repeat" }, { "id": "accept_that_the_harm_may_take_time", "text": "Accept that the harm may take time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_101", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of closeness can return before full trust does?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closeness", "pace", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "sharing_an_ordinary_meal", "text": "Sharing an ordinary meal" }, { "id": "laughing_at_something_together", "text": "Laughing at something together" }, { "id": "sitting_nearby_without_pressure", "text": "Sitting nearby without pressure" }, { "id": "working_on_a_small_task", "text": "Working on a small task" }, { "id": "talking_about_a_neutral_memory", "text": "Talking about a neutral memory" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sharing_an_ordinary_meal", "text": "Sharing an ordinary meal" }, { "id": "laughing_at_something_together", "text": "Laughing at something together" }, { "id": "sitting_nearby_without_pressure", "text": "Sitting nearby without pressure" }, { "id": "working_on_a_small_task", "text": "Working on a small task" }, { "id": "talking_about_a_neutral_memory", "text": "Talking about a neutral memory" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_102", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What would make shared time feel least pressured?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closeness", "comfort", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_trust_talk_required", "text": "No trust talk required" }, { "id": "a_clear_ending_time", "text": "A clear ending time" }, { "id": "a_familiar_activity", "text": "A familiar activity" }, { "id": "permission_to_change_plans", "text": "Permission to change plans" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_trust_talk_required", "text": "No trust talk required" }, { "id": "a_clear_ending_time", "text": "A clear ending time" }, { "id": "a_familiar_activity", "text": "A familiar activity" }, { "id": "permission_to_change_plans", "text": "Permission to change plans" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_103", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps affection from feeling required during repair?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "consent", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "ask_rather_than_assume", "text": "Ask rather than assume" }, { "id": "accept_no_warmly", "text": "Accept no warmly" }, { "id": "keep_affection_from_becoming_proof", "text": "Keep affection from becoming proof" }, { "id": "let_closeness_stay_nonsexual", "text": "Let closeness stay nonsexual" }, { "id": "do_not_measure_love_by_the_response", "text": "Do not measure love by the response" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_rather_than_assume", "text": "Ask rather than assume" }, { "id": "accept_no_warmly", "text": "Accept no warmly" }, { "id": "keep_affection_from_becoming_proof", "text": "Keep affection from becoming proof" }, { "id": "let_closeness_stay_nonsexual", "text": "Let closeness stay nonsexual" }, { "id": "do_not_measure_love_by_the_response", "text": "Do not measure love by the response" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_104", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How natural does ordinary affection feel between us lately?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not natural yet", "max_label": "Very natural" } }, { "id": "rt_105", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Rebuild routines first or create new memories first?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closeness", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "rebuild_routines_first", "text": "Rebuild routines first" }, { "id": "create_new_memories_first", "text": "Create new memories first" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "rebuild_routines_first", "text": "Rebuild routines first" }, { "id": "create_new_memories_first", "text": "Create new memories first" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_106", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which shared moments could remind us that repair is not our whole relationship?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "identity", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_familiar_joke", "text": "A familiar joke" }, { "id": "a_relaxed_meal", "text": "A relaxed meal" }, { "id": "a_small_plan_for_the_future", "text": "A small plan for the future" }, { "id": "music_we_both_like", "text": "Music we both like" }, { "id": "time_with_no_serious_agenda", "text": "Time with no serious agenda" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_familiar_joke", "text": "A familiar joke" }, { "id": "a_relaxed_meal", "text": "A relaxed meal" }, { "id": "a_small_plan_for_the_future", "text": "A small plan for the future" }, { "id": "music_we_both_like", "text": "Music we both like" }, { "id": "time_with_no_serious_agenda", "text": "Time with no serious agenda" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_107", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a positive moment feel real rather than forced?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "nobody_announces_that_it_is_progress", "text": "Nobody announces that it is progress" }, { "id": "the_mood_arrives_naturally", "text": "The mood arrives naturally" }, { "id": "both_can_enjoy_it_without_a_heavy_talk", "text": "Both can enjoy it without a heavy talk" }, { "id": "no_one_demands_that_it_prove_everything", "text": "No one demands that it prove everything" }, { "id": "it_is_allowed_to_be_brief", "text": "It is allowed to be brief" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "nobody_announces_that_it_is_progress", "text": "Nobody announces that it is progress" }, { "id": "the_mood_arrives_naturally", "text": "The mood arrives naturally" }, { "id": "both_can_enjoy_it_without_a_heavy_talk", "text": "Both can enjoy it without a heavy talk" }, { "id": "no_one_demands_that_it_prove_everything", "text": "No one demands that it prove everything" }, { "id": "it_is_allowed_to_be_brief", "text": "It is allowed to be brief" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_108", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which sign of closeness would mean the most right now?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closeness", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "easy_laughter", "text": "Easy laughter" }, { "id": "comfortable_silence", "text": "Comfortable silence" }, { "id": "unprompted_affection", "text": "Unprompted affection" }, { "id": "making_a_future_plan", "text": "Making a future plan" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "easy_laughter", "text": "Easy laughter" }, { "id": "comfortable_silence", "text": "Comfortable silence" }, { "id": "unprompted_affection", "text": "Unprompted affection" }, { "id": "making_a_future_plan", "text": "Making a future plan" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_109", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can help us enjoy a good day without fearing the next setback?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "uncertainty", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "stay_in_the_current_day", "text": "Stay in the current day" }, { "id": "avoid_declaring_everything_fixed", "text": "Avoid declaring everything fixed" }, { "id": "remember_progress_can_be_uneven", "text": "Remember progress can be uneven" }, { "id": "keep_useful_agreements", "text": "Keep useful agreements" }, { "id": "let_joy_count_without_becoming_evidence", "text": "Let joy count without becoming evidence" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "stay_in_the_current_day", "text": "Stay in the current day" }, { "id": "avoid_declaring_everything_fixed", "text": "Avoid declaring everything fixed" }, { "id": "remember_progress_can_be_uneven", "text": "Remember progress can be uneven" }, { "id": "keep_useful_agreements", "text": "Keep useful agreements" }, { "id": "let_joy_count_without_becoming_evidence", "text": "Let joy count without becoming evidence" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_110", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "written", "text": "What is one ordinary moment that would make us feel more like ourselves again?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "identity", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "rt_111", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs suggest trust is becoming less fragile?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "stability", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "questions_can_be_answered_calmly", "text": "Questions can be answered calmly" }, { "id": "time_apart_causes_less_panic", "text": "Time apart causes less panic" }, { "id": "a_mistake_does_not_become_a_crisis", "text": "A mistake does not become a crisis" }, { "id": "plans_feel_believable", "text": "Plans feel believable" }, { "id": "affection_is_not_used_as_reassurance", "text": "Affection is not used as reassurance" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "questions_can_be_answered_calmly", "text": "Questions can be answered calmly" }, { "id": "time_apart_causes_less_panic", "text": "Time apart causes less panic" }, { "id": "a_mistake_does_not_become_a_crisis", "text": "A mistake does not become a crisis" }, { "id": "plans_feel_believable", "text": "Plans feel believable" }, { "id": "affection_is_not_used_as_reassurance", "text": "Affection is not used as reassurance" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_112", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make celebrating progress feel appropriate?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "recognition", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "the_change_has_lasted", "text": "The change has lasted" }, { "id": "both_people_notice_it", "text": "Both people notice it" }, { "id": "the_celebration_stays_modest", "text": "The celebration stays modest" }, { "id": "unresolved_pain_is_still_acknowledged", "text": "Unresolved pain is still acknowledged" }, { "id": "nobody_feels_pressured_to_move_on", "text": "Nobody feels pressured to move on" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_change_has_lasted", "text": "The change has lasted" }, { "id": "both_people_notice_it", "text": "Both people notice it" }, { "id": "the_celebration_stays_modest", "text": "The celebration stays modest" }, { "id": "unresolved_pain_is_still_acknowledged", "text": "Unresolved pain is still acknowledged" }, { "id": "nobody_feels_pressured_to_move_on", "text": "Nobody feels pressured to move on" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_113", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which milestone would you want to acknowledge privately?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "milestone", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_month_of_reliable_follow_through", "text": "A month of reliable follow-through" }, { "id": "a_hard_conversation_handled_well", "text": "A hard conversation handled well" }, { "id": "a_trigger_that_passed_more_gently", "text": "A trigger that passed more gently" }, { "id": "a_promise_kept_without_reminders", "text": "A promise kept without reminders" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_month_of_reliable_follow_through", "text": "A month of reliable follow-through" }, { "id": "a_hard_conversation_handled_well", "text": "A hard conversation handled well" }, { "id": "a_trigger_that_passed_more_gently", "text": "A trigger that passed more gently" }, { "id": "a_promise_kept_without_reminders", "text": "A promise kept without reminders" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_114", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How hopeful do you feel about rebuilding something solid together?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "hope", "current_state", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not hopeful yet", "max_label": "Very hopeful" } }, { "id": "rt_115", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps hope stay realistic?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "hope", "realism", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "base_it_on_actions", "text": "Base it on actions" }, { "id": "allow_uncertainty", "text": "Allow uncertainty" }, { "id": "keep_boundaries_in_place", "text": "Keep boundaries in place" }, { "id": "notice_patterns_over_time", "text": "Notice patterns over time" }, { "id": "do_not_confuse_hope_with_obligation", "text": "Do not confuse hope with obligation" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "base_it_on_actions", "text": "Base it on actions" }, { "id": "allow_uncertainty", "text": "Allow uncertainty" }, { "id": "keep_boundaries_in_place", "text": "Keep boundaries in place" }, { "id": "notice_patterns_over_time", "text": "Notice patterns over time" }, { "id": "do_not_confuse_hope_with_obligation", "text": "Do not confuse hope with obligation" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_116", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which activities could rebuild teamwork without becoming a trust exercise?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "teamwork", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "cooking_something_simple", "text": "Cooking something simple" }, { "id": "planning_a_short_outing", "text": "Planning a short outing" }, { "id": "solving_a_practical_problem", "text": "Solving a practical problem" }, { "id": "learning_a_small_skill", "text": "Learning a small skill" }, { "id": "choosing_something_for_the_home_together", "text": "Choosing something for the home together" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "cooking_something_simple", "text": "Cooking something simple" }, { "id": "planning_a_short_outing", "text": "Planning a short outing" }, { "id": "solving_a_practical_problem", "text": "Solving a practical problem" }, { "id": "learning_a_small_skill", "text": "Learning a small skill" }, { "id": "choosing_something_for_the_home_together", "text": "Choosing something for the home together" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_117", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should happen when a good moment suddenly feels complicated?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mixed_feelings", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_the_change_gently", "text": "Name the change gently" }, { "id": "pause_without_blaming", "text": "Pause without blaming" }, { "id": "ask_whether_closeness_or_space_helps", "text": "Ask whether closeness or space helps" }, { "id": "let_both_feelings_be_true", "text": "Let both feelings be true" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_the_change_gently", "text": "Name the change gently" }, { "id": "pause_without_blaming", "text": "Pause without blaming" }, { "id": "ask_whether_closeness_or_space_helps", "text": "Ask whether closeness or space helps" }, { "id": "let_both_feelings_be_true", "text": "Let both feelings be true" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_118", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps mixed feelings fit inside the same day?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mixed_feelings", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_demand_to_choose_one_feeling", "text": "No demand to choose one feeling" }, { "id": "acknowledge_the_good_and_the_hurt", "text": "Acknowledge the good and the hurt" }, { "id": "avoid_treating_sadness_as_failure", "text": "Avoid treating sadness as failure" }, { "id": "take_breaks_from_repair_talk", "text": "Take breaks from repair talk" }, { "id": "keep_expectations_modest", "text": "Keep expectations modest" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_demand_to_choose_one_feeling", "text": "No demand to choose one feeling" }, { "id": "acknowledge_the_good_and_the_hurt", "text": "Acknowledge the good and the hurt" }, { "id": "avoid_treating_sadness_as_failure", "text": "Avoid treating sadness as failure" }, { "id": "take_breaks_from_repair_talk", "text": "Take breaks from repair talk" }, { "id": "keep_expectations_modest", "text": "Keep expectations modest" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_119", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "More ordinary time together or one meaningful conversation?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closeness", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "more_ordinary_time_together", "text": "More ordinary time together" }, { "id": "one_meaningful_conversation", "text": "One meaningful conversation" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_ordinary_time_together", "text": "More ordinary time together" }, { "id": "one_meaningful_conversation", "text": "One meaningful conversation" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_120", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which changes would make future plans easier to believe?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "future", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "past_plans_have_been_kept", "text": "Past plans have been kept" }, { "id": "details_stay_realistic", "text": "Details stay realistic" }, { "id": "both_people_help_plan", "text": "Both people help plan" }, { "id": "changes_are_shared_early", "text": "Changes are shared early" }, { "id": "no_promise_is_made_just_to_calm_the_moment", "text": "No promise is made just to calm the moment" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "past_plans_have_been_kept", "text": "Past plans have been kept" }, { "id": "details_stay_realistic", "text": "Details stay realistic" }, { "id": "both_people_help_plan", "text": "Both people help plan" }, { "id": "changes_are_shared_early", "text": "Changes are shared early" }, { "id": "no_promise_is_made_just_to_calm_the_moment", "text": "No promise is made just to calm the moment" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_121", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can help physical closeness return at a respectful pace?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "consent", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "ask_what_feels_welcome", "text": "Ask what feels welcome" }, { "id": "begin_with_nonsexual_affection", "text": "Begin with nonsexual affection" }, { "id": "accept_hesitation_without_pressure", "text": "Accept hesitation without pressure" }, { "id": "let_either_person_stop", "text": "Let either person stop" }, { "id": "keep_trust_separate_from_physical_access", "text": "Keep trust separate from physical access" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_what_feels_welcome", "text": "Ask what feels welcome" }, { "id": "begin_with_nonsexual_affection", "text": "Begin with nonsexual affection" }, { "id": "accept_hesitation_without_pressure", "text": "Accept hesitation without pressure" }, { "id": "let_either_person_stop", "text": "Let either person stop" }, { "id": "keep_trust_separate_from_physical_access", "text": "Keep trust separate from physical access" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_122", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which shared routine would be easiest to restart?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "routines", "closeness", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "coffee_together", "text": "Coffee together" }, { "id": "a_short_evening_walk", "text": "A short evening walk" }, { "id": "one_weekly_meal", "text": "One weekly meal" }, { "id": "a_regular_goodnight_check_in", "text": "A regular goodnight check-in" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "coffee_together", "text": "Coffee together" }, { "id": "a_short_evening_walk", "text": "A short evening walk" }, { "id": "one_weekly_meal", "text": "One weekly meal" }, { "id": "a_regular_goodnight_check_in", "text": "A regular goodnight check-in" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_123", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a new memory feel safe to enjoy?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "memories", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_expectation_that_it_erases_the_past", "text": "No expectation that it erases the past" }, { "id": "the_plan_is_mutually_chosen", "text": "The plan is mutually chosen" }, { "id": "the_mood_stays_flexible", "text": "The mood stays flexible" }, { "id": "either_person_can_step_back", "text": "Either person can step back" }, { "id": "the_moment_is_allowed_to_stand_alone", "text": "The moment is allowed to stand alone" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_expectation_that_it_erases_the_past", "text": "No expectation that it erases the past" }, { "id": "the_plan_is_mutually_chosen", "text": "The plan is mutually chosen" }, { "id": "the_mood_stays_flexible", "text": "The mood stays flexible" }, { "id": "either_person_can_step_back", "text": "Either person can step back" }, { "id": "the_moment_is_allowed_to_stand_alone", "text": "The moment is allowed to stand alone" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_124", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of appreciation support repair without rewarding basic decency?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "appreciation", "accountability", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "notice_sustained_effort", "text": "Notice sustained effort" }, { "id": "name_a_specific_improvement", "text": "Name a specific improvement" }, { "id": "thank_honesty_that_was_difficult", "text": "Thank honesty that was difficult" }, { "id": "appreciate_repair_without_lowering_standards", "text": "Appreciate repair without lowering standards" }, { "id": "avoid_praise_that_demands_forgiveness", "text": "Avoid praise that demands forgiveness" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "notice_sustained_effort", "text": "Notice sustained effort" }, { "id": "name_a_specific_improvement", "text": "Name a specific improvement" }, { "id": "thank_honesty_that_was_difficult", "text": "Thank honesty that was difficult" }, { "id": "appreciate_repair_without_lowering_standards", "text": "Appreciate repair without lowering standards" }, { "id": "avoid_praise_that_demands_forgiveness", "text": "Avoid praise that demands forgiveness" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_125", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would help us feel like partners in repair rather than opponents?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "teamwork", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_shared_goal", "text": "A shared goal" }, { "id": "separate_responsibility_for_each_person_s_actions", "text": "Separate responsibility for each person's actions" }, { "id": "respectful_questions", "text": "Respectful questions" }, { "id": "boundaries_that_apply_consistently", "text": "Boundaries that apply consistently" }, { "id": "room_for_different_timelines", "text": "Room for different timelines" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_shared_goal", "text": "A shared goal" }, { "id": "separate_responsibility_for_each_person_s_actions", "text": "Separate responsibility for each person's actions" }, { "id": "respectful_questions", "text": "Respectful questions" }, { "id": "boundaries_that_apply_consistently", "text": "Boundaries that apply consistently" }, { "id": "room_for_different_timelines", "text": "Room for different timelines" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_126", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which habits would help protect rebuilt trust over time?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "consistency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "raise_concerns_early", "text": "Raise concerns early" }, { "id": "keep_ordinary_promises", "text": "Keep ordinary promises" }, { "id": "admit_mistakes_promptly", "text": "Admit mistakes promptly" }, { "id": "review_agreements_when_life_changes", "text": "Review agreements when life changes" }, { "id": "protect_respectful_independence", "text": "Protect respectful independence" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "raise_concerns_early", "text": "Raise concerns early" }, { "id": "keep_ordinary_promises", "text": "Keep ordinary promises" }, { "id": "admit_mistakes_promptly", "text": "Admit mistakes promptly" }, { "id": "review_agreements_when_life_changes", "text": "Review agreements when life changes" }, { "id": "protect_respectful_independence", "text": "Protect respectful independence" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_127", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What would tell you regular trust check-ins are no longer needed?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "concerns_come_up_naturally", "text": "Concerns come up naturally" }, { "id": "agreements_feel_automatic", "text": "Agreements feel automatic" }, { "id": "questions_no_longer_become_crises", "text": "Questions no longer become crises" }, { "id": "both_people_prefer_less_structure", "text": "Both people prefer less structure" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "concerns_come_up_naturally", "text": "Concerns come up naturally" }, { "id": "agreements_feel_automatic", "text": "Agreements feel automatic" }, { "id": "questions_no_longer_become_crises", "text": "Questions no longer become crises" }, { "id": "both_people_prefer_less_structure", "text": "Both people prefer less structure" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_128", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can keep an old hurt from becoming a weapon in every disagreement?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "past_hurt", "non_punishing", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "discuss_the_current_issue_first", "text": "Discuss the current issue first" }, { "id": "name_when_the_past_is_relevant", "text": "Name when the past is relevant" }, { "id": "avoid_using_it_to_win", "text": "Avoid using it to win" }, { "id": "keep_boundaries_separate_from_punishment", "text": "Keep boundaries separate from punishment" }, { "id": "return_to_unresolved_parts_at_a_planned_time", "text": "Return to unresolved parts at a planned time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "discuss_the_current_issue_first", "text": "Discuss the current issue first" }, { "id": "name_when_the_past_is_relevant", "text": "Name when the past is relevant" }, { "id": "avoid_using_it_to_win", "text": "Avoid using it to win" }, { "id": "keep_boundaries_separate_from_punishment", "text": "Keep boundaries separate from punishment" }, { "id": "return_to_unresolved_parts_at_a_planned_time", "text": "Return to unresolved parts at a planned time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_129", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How much do you trust your own judgment in this relationship right now?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "self_trust", "current_state", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very little right now", "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "rt_130", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Keep a repair routine or let conversations happen naturally?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "quick_choice", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "keep_a_repair_routine", "text": "Keep a repair routine" }, { "id": "let_conversations_happen_naturally", "text": "Let conversations happen naturally" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keep_a_repair_routine", "text": "Keep a repair routine" }, { "id": "let_conversations_happen_naturally", "text": "Let conversations happen naturally" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_131", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which experiences can help rebuild trust in your own instincts?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "self_trust", "agency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "your_concerns_are_taken_seriously", "text": "Your concerns are taken seriously" }, { "id": "you_can_say_no_without_retaliation", "text": "You can say no without retaliation" }, { "id": "actions_match_what_you_observe", "text": "Actions match what you observe" }, { "id": "you_make_decisions_without_pressure", "text": "You make decisions without pressure" }, { "id": "outside_support_remains_available", "text": "Outside support remains available" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "your_concerns_are_taken_seriously", "text": "Your concerns are taken seriously" }, { "id": "you_can_say_no_without_retaliation", "text": "You can say no without retaliation" }, { "id": "actions_match_what_you_observe", "text": "Actions match what you observe" }, { "id": "you_make_decisions_without_pressure", "text": "You make decisions without pressure" }, { "id": "outside_support_remains_available", "text": "Outside support remains available" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_132", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should happen when one person believes repair has stalled?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stalled_progress", "communication", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_the_specific_concern", "text": "Name the specific concern" }, { "id": "review_recent_patterns", "text": "Review recent patterns" }, { "id": "ask_what_each_person_is_willing_to_change", "text": "Ask what each person is willing to change" }, { "id": "revisit_boundaries", "text": "Revisit boundaries" }, { "id": "seek_outside_support_if_it_would_help", "text": "Seek outside support if it would help" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "name_the_specific_concern", "text": "Name the specific concern" }, { "id": "review_recent_patterns", "text": "Review recent patterns" }, { "id": "ask_what_each_person_is_willing_to_change", "text": "Ask what each person is willing to change" }, { "id": "revisit_boundaries", "text": "Revisit boundaries" }, { "id": "seek_outside_support_if_it_would_help", "text": "Seek outside support if it would help" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_133", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which question best checks whether progress is real?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "reflection", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "what_happens_under_stress_now", "text": "What happens under stress now?" }, { "id": "are_the_same_promises_being_broken", "text": "Are the same promises being broken?" }, { "id": "can_concerns_be_raised_safely", "text": "Can concerns be raised safely?" }, { "id": "do_actions_remain_consistent_without_reminders", "text": "Do actions remain consistent without reminders?" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "what_happens_under_stress_now", "text": "What happens under stress now?" }, { "id": "are_the_same_promises_being_broken", "text": "Are the same promises being broken?" }, { "id": "can_concerns_be_raised_safely", "text": "Can concerns be raised safely?" }, { "id": "do_actions_remain_consistent_without_reminders", "text": "Do actions remain consistent without reminders?" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_134", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a boundary part of repair rather than a threat?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundaries", "repair", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_protects_a_clear_need", "text": "It protects a clear need" }, { "id": "the_consequence_is_realistic", "text": "The consequence is realistic" }, { "id": "it_does_not_control_unrelated_choices", "text": "It does not control unrelated choices" }, { "id": "it_can_be_stated_calmly", "text": "It can be stated calmly" }, { "id": "the_person_setting_it_can_follow_through", "text": "The person setting it can follow through" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_protects_a_clear_need", "text": "It protects a clear need" }, { "id": "the_consequence_is_realistic", "text": "The consequence is realistic" }, { "id": "it_does_not_control_unrelated_choices", "text": "It does not control unrelated choices" }, { "id": "it_can_be_stated_calmly", "text": "It can be stated calmly" }, { "id": "the_person_setting_it_can_follow_through", "text": "The person setting it can follow through" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_135", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident are you that current boundaries will be respected?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundaries", "confidence", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not confident yet", "max_label": "Very confident" } }, { "id": "rt_136", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs suggest an agreement needs to change?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreements", "maintenance", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "it_is_vague", "text": "It is vague" }, { "id": "it_creates_constant_conflict", "text": "It creates constant conflict" }, { "id": "it_depends_on_surveillance", "text": "It depends on surveillance" }, { "id": "it_no_longer_fits_the_situation", "text": "It no longer fits the situation" }, { "id": "one_person_never_freely_agreed", "text": "One person never freely agreed" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_is_vague", "text": "It is vague" }, { "id": "it_creates_constant_conflict", "text": "It creates constant conflict" }, { "id": "it_depends_on_surveillance", "text": "It depends on surveillance" }, { "id": "it_no_longer_fits_the_situation", "text": "It no longer fits the situation" }, { "id": "one_person_never_freely_agreed", "text": "One person never freely agreed" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_137", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a repaired relationship stay honest during calm periods?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "honesty", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "keep_small_truths_easy_to_share", "text": "Keep small truths easy to share" }, { "id": "do_not_wait_for_a_crisis", "text": "Do not wait for a crisis" }, { "id": "mention_concerns_before_resentment_builds", "text": "Mention concerns before resentment builds" }, { "id": "continue_ordinary_check_ins", "text": "Continue ordinary check-ins" }, { "id": "avoid_assuming_repair_is_permanently_finished", "text": "Avoid assuming repair is permanently finished" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keep_small_truths_easy_to_share", "text": "Keep small truths easy to share" }, { "id": "do_not_wait_for_a_crisis", "text": "Do not wait for a crisis" }, { "id": "mention_concerns_before_resentment_builds", "text": "Mention concerns before resentment builds" }, { "id": "continue_ordinary_check_ins", "text": "Continue ordinary check-ins" }, { "id": "avoid_assuming_repair_is_permanently_finished", "text": "Avoid assuming repair is permanently finished" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_138", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which change would make you feel most secure about the future?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "future", "security", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "reliable_honesty", "text": "Reliable honesty" }, { "id": "respectful_conflict", "text": "Respectful conflict" }, { "id": "room_to_remain_independent", "text": "Room to remain independent" }, { "id": "consistent_follow_through", "text": "Consistent follow-through" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "reliable_honesty", "text": "Reliable honesty" }, { "id": "respectful_conflict", "text": "Respectful conflict" }, { "id": "room_to_remain_independent", "text": "Room to remain independent" }, { "id": "consistent_follow_through", "text": "Consistent follow-through" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_139", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How free do you feel to decide the future of this relationship?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agency", "future", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not free enough", "max_label": "Completely my choice" } }, { "id": "rt_140", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which choices matter most to keep in your own hands during repair?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agency", "safety", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "the_pace_of_difficult_talks", "text": "The pace of difficult talks" }, { "id": "whether_a_request_feels_acceptable", "text": "Whether a request feels acceptable" }, { "id": "when_to_seek_outside_support", "text": "When to seek outside support" }, { "id": "what_boundaries_they_need", "text": "What boundaries they need" }, { "id": "whether_continuing_the_relationship_is_right", "text": "Whether continuing the relationship is right" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_pace_of_difficult_talks", "text": "The pace of difficult talks" }, { "id": "whether_a_request_feels_acceptable", "text": "Whether a request feels acceptable" }, { "id": "when_to_seek_outside_support", "text": "When to seek outside support" }, { "id": "what_boundaries_they_need", "text": "What boundaries they need" }, { "id": "whether_continuing_the_relationship_is_right", "text": "Whether continuing the relationship is right" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_141", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which actions show that trust is no longer being taken for granted?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "appreciation", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "agreements_are_still_respected", "text": "Agreements are still respected" }, { "id": "honesty_stays_prompt", "text": "Honesty stays prompt" }, { "id": "questions_are_answered_without_contempt", "text": "Questions are answered without contempt" }, { "id": "independence_remains_protected", "text": "Independence remains protected" }, { "id": "repair_habits_continue_when_inconvenient", "text": "Repair habits continue when inconvenient" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "agreements_are_still_respected", "text": "Agreements are still respected" }, { "id": "honesty_stays_prompt", "text": "Honesty stays prompt" }, { "id": "questions_are_answered_without_contempt", "text": "Questions are answered without contempt" }, { "id": "independence_remains_protected", "text": "Independence remains protected" }, { "id": "repair_habits_continue_when_inconvenient", "text": "Repair habits continue when inconvenient" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_142", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should happen if rebuilding starts to feel harmful?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agency", "safety", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "pause_the_process", "text": "Pause the process" }, { "id": "reassess_boundaries", "text": "Reassess boundaries" }, { "id": "seek_trusted_outside_support", "text": "Seek trusted outside support" }, { "id": "consider_whether_continuing_is_right", "text": "Consider whether continuing is right" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "pause_the_process", "text": "Pause the process" }, { "id": "reassess_boundaries", "text": "Reassess boundaries" }, { "id": "seek_trusted_outside_support", "text": "Seek trusted outside support" }, { "id": "consider_whether_continuing_is_right", "text": "Consider whether continuing is right" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_143", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps outside support remain useful rather than intrusive?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "outside_support", "privacy", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "choose_trustworthy_people", "text": "Choose trustworthy people" }, { "id": "share_only_your_own_experience", "text": "Share only your own experience" }, { "id": "keep_private_details_limited", "text": "Keep private details limited" }, { "id": "use_support_for_clarity_not_retaliation", "text": "Use support for clarity, not retaliation" }, { "id": "respect_professional_confidentiality", "text": "Respect professional confidentiality" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "choose_trustworthy_people", "text": "Choose trustworthy people" }, { "id": "share_only_your_own_experience", "text": "Share only your own experience" }, { "id": "keep_private_details_limited", "text": "Keep private details limited" }, { "id": "use_support_for_clarity_not_retaliation", "text": "Use support for clarity, not retaliation" }, { "id": "respect_professional_confidentiality", "text": "Respect professional confidentiality" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_144", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "scale", "text": "How able do you feel to make decisions without pressure?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agency", "current_state", "rebuilding_trust" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not able enough", "max_label": "Fully able" } }, { "id": "rt_145", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which maintenance habits should become less formal over time?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "scheduled_check_ins", "text": "Scheduled check-ins" }, { "id": "written_reminders", "text": "Written reminders" }, { "id": "repeated_reassurance_requests", "text": "Repeated reassurance requests" }, { "id": "detailed_progress_reviews", "text": "Detailed progress reviews" }, { "id": "temporary_repair_agreements", "text": "Temporary repair agreements" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "scheduled_check_ins", "text": "Scheduled check-ins" }, { "id": "written_reminders", "text": "Written reminders" }, { "id": "repeated_reassurance_requests", "text": "Repeated reassurance requests" }, { "id": "detailed_progress_reviews", "text": "Detailed progress reviews" }, { "id": "temporary_repair_agreements", "text": "Temporary repair agreements" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_146", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make forgiveness feel genuinely optional?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "forgiveness", "agency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_deadline", "text": "No deadline" }, { "id": "no_reward_for_saying_it", "text": "No reward for saying it" }, { "id": "no_punishment_for_not_feeling_it", "text": "No punishment for not feeling it" }, { "id": "repair_does_not_depend_on_the_word", "text": "Repair does not depend on the word" }, { "id": "your_decision_can_change_over_time", "text": "Your decision can change over time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_deadline", "text": "No deadline" }, { "id": "no_reward_for_saying_it", "text": "No reward for saying it" }, { "id": "no_punishment_for_not_feeling_it", "text": "No punishment for not feeling it" }, { "id": "repair_does_not_depend_on_the_word", "text": "Repair does not depend on the word" }, { "id": "your_decision_can_change_over_time", "text": "Your decision can change over time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_147", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which outcome matters more than returning to how things were?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "future", "growth", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_more_honest_relationship", "text": "A more honest relationship" }, { "id": "stronger_boundaries", "text": "Stronger boundaries" }, { "id": "trusting_your_own_judgment", "text": "Trusting your own judgment" }, { "id": "a_clear_decision_about_what_comes_next", "text": "A clear decision about what comes next" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_more_honest_relationship", "text": "A more honest relationship" }, { "id": "stronger_boundaries", "text": "Stronger boundaries" }, { "id": "trusting_your_own_judgment", "text": "Trusting your own judgment" }, { "id": "a_clear_decision_about_what_comes_next", "text": "A clear decision about what comes next" } ] } }, { "id": "rt_148", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make a final decision feel clearer?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "decision", "agency", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "look_at_patterns_over_time", "text": "Look at patterns over time" }, { "id": "separate_hope_from_evidence", "text": "Separate hope from evidence" }, { "id": "consider_how_the_relationship_affects_you", "text": "Consider how the relationship affects you" }, { "id": "talk_with_someone_neutral_you_trust", "text": "Talk with someone neutral you trust" }, { "id": "allow_yourself_enough_time", "text": "Allow yourself enough time" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "look_at_patterns_over_time", "text": "Look at patterns over time" }, { "id": "separate_hope_from_evidence", "text": "Separate hope from evidence" }, { "id": "consider_how_the_relationship_affects_you", "text": "Consider how the relationship affects you" }, { "id": "talk_with_someone_neutral_you_trust", "text": "Talk with someone neutral you trust" }, { "id": "allow_yourself_enough_time", "text": "Allow yourself enough time" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_149", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs show both people are doing the repair work?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mutual_repair", "progress", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "both_people_take_responsibility", "text": "Both people take responsibility" }, { "id": "both_can_raise_concerns", "text": "Both can raise concerns" }, { "id": "both_respect_boundaries", "text": "Both respect boundaries" }, { "id": "neither_person_carries_all_the_emotional_work", "text": "Neither person carries all the emotional work" }, { "id": "change_does_not_depend_on_constant_reminders", "text": "Change does not depend on constant reminders" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "both_people_take_responsibility", "text": "Both people take responsibility" }, { "id": "both_can_raise_concerns", "text": "Both can raise concerns" }, { "id": "both_respect_boundaries", "text": "Both respect boundaries" }, { "id": "neither_person_carries_all_the_emotional_work", "text": "Neither person carries all the emotional work" }, { "id": "change_does_not_depend_on_constant_reminders", "text": "Change does not depend on constant reminders" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "rt_150", "category_id": "rebuilding_trust", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would help rebuilt trust remain something we choose every day?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "future", "rebuilding_trust" ], "options": [ { "id": "honesty_before_convenience", "text": "Honesty before convenience" }, { "id": "respect_during_disagreement", "text": "Respect during disagreement" }, { "id": "follow_through_on_ordinary_promises", "text": "Follow-through on ordinary promises" }, { "id": "freedom_without_secrecy", "text": "Freedom without secrecy" }, { "id": "care_that_does_not_require_control", "text": "Care that does not require control" } ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "honesty_before_convenience", "text": "Honesty before convenience" }, { "id": "respect_during_disagreement", "text": "Respect during disagreement" }, { "id": "follow_through_on_ordinary_promises", "text": "Follow-through on ordinary promises" }, { "id": "freedom_without_secrecy", "text": "Freedom without secrecy" }, { "id": "care_that_does_not_require_control", "text": "Care that does not require control" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } } ] }