{ "id": "rebuilding_trust_v2", "title": "Rebuilding Trust", "access": "mixed", "description": "Honest, forward-looking questions for couples actively working to rebuild trust — small actions, follow-through, gentle check-ins, and patience for the slow work of repair.", "count": 25, "free_count": 7, "premium_count": 18, "questions": [ { "id": "rt_001", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What small thing I do lately actually feels trustworthy?", "depth": "medium", "access": "free", "options": [ { "id": "opt_kepx", "text": "Following through on small things" }, { "id": "opt_qnbl", "text": "Telling me the truth quickly" }, { "id": "opt_vwrm", "text": "Checking in without being asked" }, { "id": "opt_jhct", "text": "Sticking to what we agreed on" }, { "id": "opt_pzfs", "text": "Being where I say I will be" } ] }, { "id": "rt_002", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel actually heard by me?", "depth": "medium", "access": "free", "options": [ { "id": "opt_uqal", "text": "Letting me finish my thought" }, { "id": "opt_bwvn", "text": "Asking a real follow-up question" }, { "id": "opt_mxrk", "text": "Noticing how I feel, not just what I said" }, { "id": "opt_fyld", "text": "Saying back what I meant in your own words" }, { "id": "opt_dzqg", "text": "Not jumping straight to fixing it" } ] }, { "id": "rt_003", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which of these would feel like a small win this week?", "depth": "light", "access": "free", "options": [ { "id": "opt_tncs", "text": "A short check-in over coffee" }, { "id": "opt_lmfb", "text": "A walk with no phones" }, { "id": "opt_hrwd", "text": "A quick goodnight text while apart" }, { "id": "opt_vbpx", "text": "A plan for one shared meal" }, { "id": "opt_kqzr", "text": "A ten-minute talk before bed" } ] }, { "id": "rt_004", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes an apology feel real to you?", "depth": "medium", "access": "free", "options": [ { "id": "opt_gxpk", "text": "It names what happened, not just how I felt" }, { "id": "opt_sjct", "text": "It comes quickly, not after I push" }, { "id": "opt_yrlz", "text": "It comes with a clear next step" }, { "id": "opt_pqnh", "text": "It is followed by changed behavior" }, { "id": "opt_fvmq", "text": "It leaves room for my feelings" } ] }, { "id": "rt_005", "type": "scale", "text": "How safe does our relationship feel to you right now?", "depth": "medium", "access": "free", "scale": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Still pretty shaky", "max_label": "Mostly steady" } }, { "id": "rt_006", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How would a good check-in between us usually start?", "depth": "medium", "access": "free", "options": [ { "id": "opt_mthb", "text": "A simple 'how are we doing?'" }, { "id": "opt_xrfk", "text": "Walking side by side, not face to face" }, { "id": "opt_wlcq", "text": "After a calm moment, not in the middle of stress" }, { "id": "opt_hbpn", "text": "With one specific thing to talk about" }, { "id": "opt_dnqr", "text": "After I have had time to think" } ] }, { "id": "rt_007", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "When something feels off, would you rather talk it through right away or sit with it a bit first?", "depth": "light", "access": "free", "options": [ { "id": "opt_right_away", "text": "Right away" }, { "id": "opt_sit_with_it", "text": "Sit with it a bit first" } ] }, { "id": "rt_008", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What everyday habit from me helps you trust that I will keep showing up?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_qwzl", "text": "Answering texts in a reasonable time" }, { "id": "opt_vpkb", "text": "Saying when plans change" }, { "id": "opt_fhqx", "text": "Following through on small promises" }, { "id": "opt_mcyd", "text": "Asking about my day, then actually listening" }, { "id": "opt_nxjr", "text": "Telling me where I am going when I leave" }, { "id": "opt_tbwm", "text": "Doing the thing I said I would do" } ] }, { "id": "rt_009", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of an apology tend to land best for you?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_aqvn", "text": "A clear 'I was wrong' without excuses" }, { "id": "opt_yrfd", "text": "Hearing that your feelings make sense" }, { "id": "opt_ljmp", "text": "A specific plan for what changes next" }, { "id": "opt_krwt", "text": "Time to calm down before the conversation" }, { "id": "opt_bhfs", "text": "A check-in a few days later, not just once" } ] }, { "id": "rt_010", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How could we keep track of promises we have made to each other?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_dlxg", "text": "Write them down together" }, { "id": "opt_yrbc", "text": "Mention them at our weekly check-in" }, { "id": "opt_qzmp", "text": "Each of us repeats them back in our own words" }, { "id": "opt_wfkh", "text": "A short Sunday review over coffee" }, { "id": "opt_nlsk", "text": "We do not need a system, just follow through" } ] }, { "id": "rt_011", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a hard question feel like care, not an interrogation?", "depth": "deep", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_wrnq", "text": "Asking, not assuming" }, { "id": "opt_hkql", "text": "Letting me say 'not now' without it turning into a fight" }, { "id": "opt_yjbt", "text": "Starting with how I am feeling, not what I think you did" }, { "id": "opt_cwfk", "text": "A gentle tone, even when it is a serious topic" }, { "id": "opt_rqzd", "text": "A clear 'I want to understand, not argue'" } ] }, { "id": "rt_012", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you share something that hurt, what would feel most like being believed?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_jrmb", "text": "You take time before responding" }, { "id": "opt_ktwc", "text": "You ask what it felt like for me" }, { "id": "opt_xqbh", "text": "You do not get defensive right away" }, { "id": "opt_lfpn", "text": "You say back what you heard me say" }, { "id": "opt_bpzv", "text": "You focus on repair, not on explaining it away" } ] }, { "id": "rt_013", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What pace for rebuilding feels right to you right now?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_mcwj", "text": "Slow and steady, one small thing at a time" }, { "id": "opt_lnqy", "text": "Quick check-ins more often than long talks" }, { "id": "opt_hfxr", "text": "Longer talks less often, with time to think between" }, { "id": "opt_xbnm", "text": "Mostly normal life, with trust talks when needed" }, { "id": "opt_kwfd", "text": "Honestly, I am still figuring that out" } ] }, { "id": "rt_014", "type": "scale", "text": "How patient do you feel like you can be with this process right now?", "depth": "deep", "access": "premium", "scale": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Honestly, not very", "max_label": "More than I expected" } }, { "id": "rt_015", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make it easier to be honest with me, even about the small stuff?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_rvkp", "text": "Knowing I will not get a big reaction" }, { "id": "opt_jhln", "text": "A calm voice, even when it is hard to hear" }, { "id": "opt_xbqg", "text": "More time before we have to respond" }, { "id": "opt_tzfw", "text": "Knowing we will talk about it, not about me as a person" }, { "id": "opt_qhrv", "text": "A sense that we are on the same team" } ] }, { "id": "rt_016", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When one of us slips, what is the most helpful first response?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_pvwt", "text": "Name it out loud, quickly" }, { "id": "opt_yrkg", "text": "Take a breath, then come back to it" }, { "id": "opt_nxzd", "text": "Ask what the other person needs first" }, { "id": "opt_mjrv", "text": "Quietly change the behavior and check in later" }, { "id": "opt_qmcd", "text": "It depends, let us figure it out together" } ] }, { "id": "rt_017", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What kind of closeness feels safe to rebuild first?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_ykpv", "text": "Easy time together, no heavy topics" }, { "id": "opt_rhld", "text": "Physical affection that is not rushed" }, { "id": "opt_tnwj", "text": "Quiet time in the same room" }, { "id": "opt_lqfs", "text": "Small everyday routines done together" }, { "id": "opt_bwkg", "text": "Honest talks with time to recover after" } ] }, { "id": "rt_018", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you with us having regular check-ins?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "scale": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not really my thing", "max_label": "I look forward to them" } }, { "id": "rt_019", "type": "single_choice", "text": "After a setback, what would help us get back on track fastest?", "depth": "deep", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_jmkl", "text": "A short, honest talk soon after" }, { "id": "opt_xcnf", "text": "A clear, small plan for what changes next" }, { "id": "opt_lwhq", "text": "Time to cool off before we talk" }, { "id": "opt_dprk", "text": "Going back to one of our steady routines" }, { "id": "opt_bqzr", "text": "Naming what we did well before the setback" } ] }, { "id": "rt_020", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which words from me actually help when trust has been hurt?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_qzrh", "text": "'I hear you.'" }, { "id": "opt_vhkb", "text": "'You make sense to feel that way.'" }, { "id": "opt_dlyc", "text": "'Here is what I will do differently.'" }, { "id": "opt_fjwm", "text": "'I am not going anywhere.'" }, { "id": "opt_tnkd", "text": "'Take all the time you need.'" } ] }, { "id": "rt_021", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would feel like steady, week-to-week proof that things are getting better?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_kfhm", "text": "Fewer hard talks about the same old thing" }, { "id": "opt_yzld", "text": "More easy time together" }, { "id": "opt_lqnb", "text": "Quicker recovery after a small fight" }, { "id": "opt_cwvr", "text": "More honest check-ins, even short ones" }, { "id": "opt_bfpn", "text": "Plans that actually happen, not just get talked about" } ] }, { "id": "rt_022", "type": "written", "text": "What is one thing you wish I understood about what you are carrying right now?", "depth": "deep", "access": "premium", "answer": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "rt_023", "type": "single_choice", "text": "If one of us has a hard day and slips up, what should the other do?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_pvkb", "text": "Name it gently, not let it slide" }, { "id": "opt_yjwh", "text": "Ask if something is going on under the surface" }, { "id": "opt_lfcd", "text": "Give space, then come back to it later" }, { "id": "opt_qrtz", "text": "Plan to talk about it once the hard day has passed" }, { "id": "opt_bnmx", "text": "Honestly, it depends on the day" } ] }, { "id": "rt_024", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When we sit down for a check-in, what do you want it to cover?", "depth": "medium", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_ycqt", "text": "How we are each doing, not just logistics" }, { "id": "opt_wzrl", "text": "One small thing we appreciate" }, { "id": "opt_lkhm", "text": "Any small thing that felt off this week" }, { "id": "opt_qnvd", "text": "One thing we want to do together soon" }, { "id": "opt_frbx", "text": "Room to say 'nothing is wrong, I just wanted to talk'" } ] }, { "id": "rt_025", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which of these would feel good to do together this week?", "depth": "light", "access": "premium", "options": [ { "id": "opt_kjmd", "text": "Cook a meal we both pick" }, { "id": "opt_pwzy", "text": "Take a short walk after dinner" }, { "id": "opt_hnxt", "text": "Pick a show to start together" }, { "id": "opt_lbfr", "text": "Sit on the couch with no phones for twenty minutes" }, { "id": "opt_qvsn", "text": "Plan one small thing to look forward to" } ] } ] }