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"boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When does alone time feel easiest between us?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "alone_time", "reconnection", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_heads_up", "text": "A clear heads-up" }, { "id": "a_rough_idea_of_when_we_will_reconnect", "text": "A rough idea of when we will reconnect" }, { "id": "a_warm_goodbye", "text": "A warm goodbye" }, { "id": "no_questions_the_second_i_return", "text": "No questions the second I return" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_004", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it to ask me for time alone?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "alone_time", "comfort", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "It is hard to ask", "max_label": "It feels easy to say" } }, { "id": "boundaries_005", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Same room, separate things or completely separate spaces?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "alone_time", "fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "same_room_separate_things", "text": "Same room, separate things" }, { "id": "completely_separate_spaces", "text": "Completely separate spaces" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_006", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What do you prefer deciding on your own?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "autonomy", "daily_life", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "what_i_wear", "text": "What I wear" }, { "id": "what_i_eat_when_i_am_alone", "text": "What I eat when I am alone" }, { "id": "how_i_spend_free_time", "text": "How I spend free time" }, { "id": "small_personal_purchases", "text": "Small personal purchases" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_007", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you say no, what response feels most respectful?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "saying_no", "respect", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "accept_it_without_pushing", "text": "Accept it without pushing" }, { "id": "ask_one_calm_question", "text": "Ask one calm question" }, { "id": "give_me_a_little_space", "text": "Give me a little space" }, { "id": "check_back_another_day", "text": "Check back another day" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_008", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make a small request feel bigger than it is?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "requests", "pressure", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "bad_timing", "text": "Bad timing" }, { "id": "being_asked_more_than_once", "text": "Being asked more than once" }, { "id": "a_guilty_tone", "text": "A guilty tone" }, { "id": "other_people_being_present", "text": "Other people being present" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_009", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When are interruptions hardest for you?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "interruptions", "personal_space", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "when_i_am_sleeping", "text": "When I am sleeping" }, { "id": "when_i_am_concentrating", "text": "When I am concentrating" }, { "id": "when_i_am_decompressing", "text": "When I am decompressing" }, { "id": "when_i_am_on_a_call", "text": "When I am on a call" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_010", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do we notice the need for space before tension builds?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "personal_space", "awareness", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "We usually notice late", "max_label": "We usually catch it early" } }, { "id": "boundaries_011", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which reconnects feel good after alone time?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "alone_time", "reconnection", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_warm_hello", "text": "A warm hello" }, { "id": "no_interrogation", "text": "No interrogation" }, { "id": "an_easy_shared_snack", "text": "An easy shared snack" }, { "id": "a_normal_conversation", "text": "A normal conversation" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_012", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which personal space matters most to you at home?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "home_space", "personal_space", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_drawer_or_shelf_of_my_own", "text": "A drawer or shelf of my own" }, { "id": "a_favorite_chair_or_desk", "text": "A favorite chair or desk" }, { "id": "a_quiet_corner", "text": "A quiet corner" }, { "id": "time_alone_in_the_bedroom", "text": "Time alone in the bedroom" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_013", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should always be ask-first?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "permission", "privacy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "borrowing_something_valuable", "text": "Borrowing something valuable" }, { "id": "reading_a_message_on_my_screen", "text": "Reading a message on my screen" }, { "id": "inviting_someone_over", "text": "Inviting someone over" }, { "id": "sharing_news_about_me", "text": "Sharing news about me" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_014", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which details make a boundary sound caring instead of cold?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "boundary_requests", "tone", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "plain_direct_words", "text": "Plain, direct words" }, { "id": "a_kind_tone", "text": "A kind tone" }, { "id": "a_short_honest_reason", "text": "A short honest reason" }, { "id": "saying_what_is_still_okay", "text": "Saying what is still okay" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_015", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which request for space would be easiest to hear?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "alone_time", "wording", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_need_an_hour_to_myself", "text": "I need an hour to myself" }, { "id": "i_am_overloaded_and_need_quiet", "text": "I am overloaded and need quiet" }, { "id": "i_want_to_finish_this_alone", "text": "I want to finish this alone" }, { "id": "can_we_reconnect_after_i_clear_my_head", "text": "Can we reconnect after I clear my head?" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_016", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should never require a long defense?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "autonomy", "saying_no", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "needing_sleep", "text": "Needing sleep" }, { "id": "declining_a_social_plan", "text": "Declining a social plan" }, { "id": "keeping_a_conversation_private", "text": "Keeping a conversation private" }, { "id": "taking_time_to_think", "text": "Taking time to think" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_017", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How much room do we give each other to change our minds?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "autonomy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not enough room", "max_label": "Plenty of room" } }, { "id": "boundaries_018", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How can a no stay free of guilt?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "saying_no", "pressure", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_answer_is_accepted_once", "text": "The answer is accepted once" }, { "id": "affection_stays_normal", "text": "Affection stays normal" }, { "id": "no_scorekeeping_later", "text": "No scorekeeping later" }, { "id": "no_need_for_a_long_explanation", "text": "No need for a long explanation" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_019", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What boundaries are easiest for you to say out loud?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "self_awareness", "boundary_requests", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_need_some_space", "text": "I need some space" }, { "id": "i_cannot_fit_that_into_my_schedule", "text": "I cannot fit that into my schedule" }, { "id": "please_ask_before_borrowing_that", "text": "Please ask before borrowing that" }, { "id": "i_am_not_up_for_that_plan", "text": "I am not up for that plan" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_020", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is your first sign that a limit has been reached?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "self_awareness", "limits", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_need_quiet", "text": "I need quiet" }, { "id": "i_get_irritated", "text": "I get irritated" }, { "id": "i_start_pulling_away", "text": "I start pulling away" }, { "id": "i_say_it_directly", "text": "I say it directly" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_021", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "written", "text": "What is one small boundary that would make daily life easier?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "daily_life", "written", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "boundaries_022", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a limit easy to remember?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "clarity", "boundary_requests", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_wording_is_simple", "text": "The wording is simple" }, { "id": "they_connect_to_a_specific_place", "text": "They connect to a specific place" }, { "id": "they_have_a_clear_trigger", "text": "They have a clear trigger" }, { "id": "they_fit_an_existing_routine", "text": "They fit an existing routine" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_023", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Where does healthy privacy matter most to you?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy", "autonomy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "thoughts_i_am_not_ready_to_share", "text": "Thoughts I am not ready to share" }, { "id": "private_messages", "text": "Private messages" }, { "id": "solo_hobbies", "text": "Solo hobbies" }, { "id": "something_a_friend_told_me_in_confidence", "text": "Something a friend told me in confidence" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_024", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "After one of us asks for space, what feels right?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "alone_time", "respect", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "accepting_it_without_offense", "text": "Accepting it without offense" }, { "id": "agreeing_when_to_reconnect", "text": "Agreeing when to reconnect" }, { "id": "keeping_necessary_plans_clear", "text": "Keeping necessary plans clear" }, { "id": "letting_silence_be_okay", "text": "Letting silence be okay" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_025", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes independence feel healthy between us?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "independence", "autonomy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "cheering_each_other_on", "text": "Cheering each other on" }, { "id": "keeping_separate_friendships", "text": "Keeping separate friendships" }, { "id": "having_solo_interests", "text": "Having solo interests" }, { "id": "not_needing_constant_updates", "text": "Not needing constant updates" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_026", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which phone boundary matters most at bedtime?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "phones", "sleep", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_phones_in_bed", "text": "No phones in bed" }, { "id": "a_quick_check_then_phones_away", "text": "A quick check, then phones away" }, { "id": "silent_mode_for_both_phones", "text": "Silent mode for both phones" }, { "id": "charging_phones_away_from_us", "text": "Charging phones away from us" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_027", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What phone habits feel respectful when we are together?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "phones", "daily_life", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "turning_the_screen_down", "text": "Turning the screen down" }, { "id": "mentioning_when_a_reply_is_urgent", "text": "Mentioning when a reply is urgent" }, { "id": "not_reading_over_each_other_s_shoulder", "text": "Not reading over each other’s shoulder" }, { "id": "asking_before_sharing_a_photo", "text": "Asking before sharing a photo" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_028", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should stay private unless we both agree?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "privacy", "private_information", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "our_disagreements", "text": "Our disagreements" }, { "id": "our_sex_life", "text": "Our sex life" }, { "id": "our_financial_details", "text": "Our financial details" }, { "id": "family_problems_told_in_confidence", "text": "Family problems told in confidence" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_029", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you with us using each other’s phones?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "phones", "privacy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I prefer them separate", "max_label": "I am fully comfortable" } }, { "id": "boundaries_030", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes social media sharing feel considerate?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "social_media", "public_sharing", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "checking_before_relationship_news", "text": "Checking before relationship news" }, { "id": "letting_me_approve_photos_of_myself", "text": "Letting me approve photos of myself" }, { "id": "keeping_private_jokes_private", "text": "Keeping private jokes private" }, { "id": "respecting_days_i_do_not_want_to_post", "text": "Respecting days I do not want to post" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_031", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Post it or keep it between us?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "social_media", "fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "post_it", "text": "Post it" }, { "id": "keep_it_between_us", "text": "Keep it between us" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_032", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of online sharing needs a check-in first?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "social_media", "public_sharing", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "an_unflattering_photo", "text": "An unflattering photo" }, { "id": "relationship_news", "text": "Relationship news" }, { "id": "our_live_location", "text": "Our live location" }, { "id": "a_personal_story_about_me", "text": "A personal story about me" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_033", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Where should privacy be the default online?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ 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"boundaries_045", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps a shared calendar useful without feeling invasive?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "scheduling", "digital_privacy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "only_joint_plans_are_required", "text": "Only joint plans are required" }, { "id": "personal_details_stay_optional", "text": "Personal details stay optional" }, { "id": "no_minute_by_minute_tracking", "text": "No minute-by-minute tracking" }, { "id": "there_is_room_for_spontaneous_plans", "text": "There is room for spontaneous plans" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_046", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "If a password is shared, what should that mean?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "passwords", "privacy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "practical_backup_only", "text": "Practical backup only" }, { "id": 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"being_out_late", "text": "Being out late" }, { "id": "an_overnight_trip", "text": "An overnight trip" }, { "id": "hosting_at_home", "text": "Hosting at home" }, { "id": "changing_plans_we_already_made", "text": "Changing plans we already made" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_057", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When a friend needs a lot, which limit matters most?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "friends", "emotional_bandwidth", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "protecting_plans_we_already_made", "text": "Protecting plans we already made" }, { "id": "being_honest_about_available_time", "text": "Being honest about available time" }, { "id": "keeping_our_private_life_private", "text": "Keeping our private life private" }, { "id": "not_becoming_the_only_support_person", "text": "Not becoming the only support person" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_058", "category_id": "boundaries", 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"Hobbies" }, { "id": "gifts", "text": "Gifts" }, { "id": "personal_care", "text": "Personal care" }, { "id": "solo_meals_or_treats", "text": "Solo meals or treats" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_085", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How clear are our ask-first rules for shared money?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "money", "clarity", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very clear", "max_label": "Completely clear" } }, { "id": "boundaries_086", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Before spending shared money, what needs a conversation?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "money", "couple_decisions", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "lending_money_to_someone", "text": "Lending money to someone" }, { "id": "a_major_purchase", "text": "A major purchase" }, { "id": "a_new_recurring_payment", "text": "A new recurring 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"options": [ { "id": "the_rules_are_fair_to_both_people", "text": "The rules are fair to both people" }, { "id": "we_agree_on_the_thresholds", "text": "We agree on the thresholds" }, { "id": "each_person_has_personal_spending_room", "text": "Each person has personal spending room" }, { "id": "questions_do_not_become_interrogations", "text": "Questions do not become interrogations" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_089", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Where at home should an ask-first rule apply?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "home_space", "personal_space", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_work_area", "text": "A work area" }, { "id": "the_bedroom_when_someone_is_resting", "text": "The bedroom when someone is resting" }, { "id": "personal_storage", "text": "Personal storage" }, { "id": "a_hobby_area", "text": "A hobby area" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_090", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How much control do you feel over your own time?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "time", "autonomy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not enough", "max_label": "Plenty" } }, { "id": "boundaries_091", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps shared plans from feeling like orders?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "scheduling", "autonomy", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_asked_first", "text": "Being asked first" }, { "id": "getting_real_options", "text": "Getting real options" }, { "id": "having_room_to_decline", "text": "Having room to decline" }, { "id": "no_guilt_if_the_answer_is_no", "text": "No guilt if the answer is no" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_092", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you are emotionally 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}, { "id": "boundaries_094", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How should we respond to “not right now”?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "emotional_bandwidth", "pausing", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "agreeing_when_to_revisit", "text": "Agreeing when to revisit" }, { "id": "accepting_the_pause", "text": "Accepting the pause" }, { "id": "keeping_normal_warmth", "text": "Keeping normal warmth" }, { "id": "checking_whether_it_is_urgent", "text": "Checking whether it is urgent" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_095", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of help should be offered before taking over?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "autonomy", "help", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "fixing_a_task", "text": "Fixing a task" }, { "id": "answering_for_me", "text": "Answering for me" }, { "id": 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say over your own time?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "time", "autonomy", "written", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "boundaries_100", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps boundaries usable during a busy week?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "busy_life", "maintenance", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_agreements_simple", "text": "Keeping agreements simple" }, { "id": "giving_brief_reminders", "text": "Giving brief reminders" }, { "id": "protecting_the_most_important_limits", "text": "Protecting the most important limits" }, { "id": "asking_before_assuming", "text": "Asking before assuming" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_101", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When affection is not welcome, what response feels best?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "consent", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "accept_it_easily", "text": "Accept it easily" }, { "id": "switch_to_kind_words", "text": "Switch to kind words" }, { "id": "ask_what_would_feel_okay", "text": "Ask what would feel okay" }, { "id": "give_me_some_space", "text": "Give me some space" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_102", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps physical affection feel welcome?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "consent", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_asked_first", "text": "Being asked first" }, { "id": "good_timing", "text": "Good timing" }, { "id": "no_expectation_attached", "text": "No expectation attached" }, { "id": "knowing_i_can_change_my_mind", "text": "Knowing I can change my mind" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_103", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When you need space, what closeness 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"fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_out_loud", "text": "Ask out loud" }, { "id": "offer_a_hand_and_wait", "text": "Offer a hand and wait" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_106", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What kinds of physical help should be ask-first?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "body_language", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "moving_my_body_or_position", "text": "Moving my body or position" }, { "id": "touching_an_injury", "text": "Touching an injury" }, { "id": "fixing_my_clothes_or_hair", "text": "Fixing my clothes or hair" }, { "id": "guiding_me_through_a_crowd", "text": "Guiding me through a crowd" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_107", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which way of declining touch feels easiest for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "pausing", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "say_no_directly", "text": "Say no directly" }, { "id": "ask_for_some_space", "text": "Ask for some space" }, { "id": "offer_a_different_kind_of_closeness", "text": "Offer a different kind of closeness" }, { "id": "use_a_private_cue", "text": "Use a private cue" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_108", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How can an affection boundary feel normal?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "respect", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "warm_acceptance", "text": "Warm acceptance" }, { "id": "other_affection_if_it_is_wanted", "text": "Other affection if it is wanted" }, { "id": "no_need_for_a_long_explanation", "text": "No need for a long explanation" }, { "id": "an_easy_chance_to_revisit_later", "text": "An easy chance to revisit later" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_109", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Cuddle nearby or give full space?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "personal_space", "fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "cuddle_nearby", "text": "Cuddle nearby" }, { "id": "give_full_space", "text": "Give full space" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_110", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should never become a couple vote?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "body_autonomy", "personal_choices", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clothing", "text": "Clothing" }, { "id": "hairstyle", "text": "Hairstyle" }, { "id": "body_changes", "text": "Body changes" }, { "id": "medical_care", "text": "Medical care" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_111", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which appearance comments feel best?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "appearance", 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"boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident are you that I will respect a changed answer?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "consent", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "I am not sure yet", "max_label": "I am very confident" } }, { "id": "boundaries_114", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When is it hardest to state a boundary clearly?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundary_requests", "pressure", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "when_i_am_tired", "text": "When I am tired" }, { "id": "when_other_people_are_present", "text": "When other people are present" }, { "id": "when_i_expect_disappointment", "text": "When I expect disappointment" }, { "id": "when_something_has_already_started", "text": "When something has already started" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_115", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Explain the boundary or keep it simple?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundary_requests", "fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "explain_it", "text": "Explain it" }, { "id": "keep_it_simple", "text": "Keep it simple" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_116", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes an old agreement easier to revise?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "agreements", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "acknowledging_that_our_needs_changed", "text": "Acknowledging that our needs changed" }, { "id": "leaving_blame_out_of_it", "text": "Leaving blame out of it" }, { "id": "talking_through_one_specific_part", "text": "Talking through one specific part" }, { "id": "trying_the_new_version_for_a_while", "text": "Trying the new version for a while" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_117", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When a boundary changes, what matters most?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "clarity", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clear_words", "text": "Clear words" }, { "id": "reasonable_notice", "text": "Reasonable notice" }, { "id": "an_honest_reason", "text": "An honest reason" }, { "id": "room_for_questions", "text": "Room for questions" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_118", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When should life changes trigger a fresh boundary conversation?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "life_changes", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_new_work_schedule", "text": "A new work schedule" }, { "id": "a_health_change", "text": "A health change" }, { "id": "a_different_living_arrangement", "text": "A different living arrangement" }, { "id": "a_new_caregiving_responsibility", "text": "A new caregiving responsibility" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_119", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When does a request start to feel like pressure?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "requests", "pressure", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "asking_again_and_again", "text": "Asking again and again" }, { "id": "withholding_affection", "text": "Withholding affection" }, { "id": "using_guilt", "text": "Using guilt" }, { "id": "demanding_an_immediate_answer", "text": "Demanding an immediate answer" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_120", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps a request genuinely optional?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "requests", "consent", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_no_that_is_accepted", "text": "A no that is accepted" }, { "id": "no_punishment_afterward", "text": "No punishment afterward" }, { "id": "time_to_think", "text": "Time to think" }, { "id": "more_than_one_acceptable_choice", "text": "More than one acceptable choice" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_121", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When a request needs more time, which options help?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "requests", "decision_time", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "sleeping_on_it", "text": "Sleeping on it" }, { "id": "setting_a_time_to_revisit", "text": "Setting a time to revisit" }, { "id": "getting_more_information", "text": "Getting more information" }, { "id": "talking_when_we_are_rested", "text": "Talking when we are rested" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_122", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When do you want me to ask before touch?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "affection", "consent", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "when_i_just_woke_up", "text": "When I just woke up" }, { "id": "when_i_am_stressed", "text": "When I am stressed" }, { "id": "when_we_are_in_public", "text": "When we are in public" }, { "id": "when_i_am_concentrating", "text": "When I am concentrating" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_123", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which public affection boundary fits you best?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "public_affection", "preferences", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "affection_is_fine_almost_anywhere", "text": "Affection is fine almost anywhere" }, { "id": "small_gestures_only", "text": "Small gestures only" }, { "id": "it_depends_on_the_place", "text": "It depends on the place" }, { "id": "i_prefer_affection_in_private", "text": "I prefer affection in private" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_124", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes public affection feel respectful?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "public_affection", "consent", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "checking_my_mood", "text": "Checking my mood" }, { "id": "keeping_it_subtle", "text": "Keeping it subtle" }, { "id": "accepting_a_no_immediately", "text": "Accepting a no immediately" }, { "id": "following_what_we_already_agreed", "text": "Following what we already agreed" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_125", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What changes may need extra patience from both of us?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "patience", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "lower_energy", "text": "Lower energy" }, { "id": "different_social_needs", "text": "Different social needs" }, { "id": "new_privacy_needs", "text": "New privacy needs" }, { "id": "changed_affection_preferences", "text": "Changed affection preferences" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_126", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "During busy weeks, what boundary is easiest to forget?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "busy_life", "maintenance", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "alone_time", "text": "Alone time" }, { "id": "phone_privacy", "text": "Phone privacy" }, { "id": "shared_plans", "text": "Shared plans" }, { "id": "personal_belongings", "text": "Personal belongings" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_127", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How can you tell a boundary is working well?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "success", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "there_is_less_tension", "text": "There is less tension" }, { "id": "it_needs_fewer_reminders", "text": "It needs fewer reminders" }, { "id": "both_people_can_still_say_no", "text": "Both people can still say no" }, { "id": "closeness_still_feels_natural", "text": "Closeness still feels natural" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_128", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "How can we tell an old agreement needs updating?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "agreements", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "resentment_keeps_showing_up", "text": "Resentment keeps showing up" }, { "id": "life_has_changed", "text": "Life has changed" }, { "id": "exceptions_happen_constantly", "text": "Exceptions happen constantly" }, { "id": "someone_avoids_the_topic", "text": "Someone avoids the topic" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_129", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident are you that our boundaries can change without making us feel less close?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "security", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not confident yet", "max_label": "Very confident" } }, { "id": "boundaries_130", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Clear rule or case-by-case?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreements", "fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_rule", "text": "A clear rule" }, { "id": "case_by_case", "text": "Case-by-case" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_131", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a boundary fair to both people?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "fairness", "agreements", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_feels_fair_in_practice", "text": "It feels fair in practice" }, { "id": "it_respects_real_differences", "text": "It respects real 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"brief_and_direct", "text": "Brief and direct" }, { "id": "a_private_cue", "text": "A private cue" }, { "id": "a_calm_spoken_reminder", "text": "A calm spoken reminder" }, { "id": "a_text_for_practical_rules", "text": "A text for practical rules" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_134", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should we check in on occasionally?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "maintenance", "agreements", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "phones_and_privacy", "text": "Phones and privacy" }, { "id": "family_involvement", "text": "Family involvement" }, { "id": "shared_money_thresholds", "text": "Shared-money thresholds" }, { "id": "affection_and_space", "text": "Affection and space" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_135", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Private cue or direct words?", "depth": 1, "access": 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"balancing_needs", "decisions", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "urgency", "text": "Urgency" }, { "id": "the_size_of_the_impact", "text": "The size of the impact" }, { "id": "what_we_agreed_before", "text": "What we agreed before" }, { "id": "the_best_available_compromise", "text": "The best available compromise" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_138", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When both needs are valid but different, what helps?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "balancing_needs", "fairness", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_clear_about_what_cannot_bend", "text": "Being clear about what cannot bend" }, { "id": "looking_for_a_third_option", "text": "Looking for a third option" }, { "id": "taking_turns_when_possible", "text": "Taking turns when possible" }, { "id": "revisiting_it_later", "text": "Revisiting it later" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_139", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What limits protect us without controlling either person?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "healthy_boundaries", "safety", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_public_humiliation", "text": "No public humiliation" }, { "id": "no_sharing_private_information", "text": "No sharing private information" }, { "id": "no_volunteering_the_other_person", "text": "No volunteering the other person" }, { "id": "no_pressure_after_a_no", "text": "No pressure after a no" } ], "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "boundaries_140", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "One firm boundary or a flexible guideline?", "depth": 1, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreements", "fun_first", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_firm_boundary", "text": "One firm boundary" }, { "id": "a_flexible_guideline", "text": "A flexible guideline" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_141", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes a boundary worth revisiting?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "changing_limits", "agreements", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "one_person_is_unhappy_with_it", "text": "One person is unhappy with it" }, { "id": "life_has_changed", "text": "Life has changed" }, { "id": "the_rule_never_works_in_practice", "text": "The rule never works in practice" }, { "id": "new_information_matters", "text": "New information matters" } ] } }, { "id": "boundaries_142", "category_id": "boundaries", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which boundaries make it easier to relax in a relationship?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "healthy_boundaries", "security", "boundaries" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "private_details_stay_private", "text": "Private details stay private" }, { "id": "a_no_is_not_punished", "text": "A no is not punished" }, { "id": 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