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"category": {
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"id": "conflict_repair",
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"display_name": "Conflict Repair",
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"description": "Warm, practical questions about what happens after a disagreement: returning, apologizing, understanding hurt, taking responsibility, reconnecting, following up, and building better repair habits without blame or forced forgiveness.",
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"access": "mixed",
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"icon_name": "healing",
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"schema_version": "question_v2",
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"metadata": {
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"total_questions": 150,
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"free_questions": 45,
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"premium_questions": 105,
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"type_counts": {
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"multi_choice": 90,
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"single_choice": 30,
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"scale": 15,
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"this_or_that": 10,
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"written": 5
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},
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"depth_counts": {
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"1": 47,
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"2": 79,
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"3": 24
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},
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"source_question_count": 250,
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"source_written_count": 150,
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"new_question_count": 150,
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"net_catalog_change": -100,
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"preserved_legacy_question_ids": "conflict_repair_001 through conflict_repair_150",
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"content_version": "conflict_repair_v2_guide_reviewed",
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"guide_basis": "QUESTION_CONTENT_GUIDE on dev, QUESTION_QUALITY_CHECKLIST v11, and QUESTION_SCHEMA v8 reviewed July 12, 2026.",
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"pack_purpose": "Help couples compare what makes returning, apologies, being heard, accountability, affection, follow-up, changed behavior, and long-term repair feel safe and believable after ordinary disagreements.",
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"pack_boundary": "Owns what happens after a disagreement. Conflict owns the active disagreement itself; Difficult Conversations owns raising major topics; Communication owns everyday talking and listening; Rebuilding Trust owns voluntary repair after a trust breach; Physical Intimacy owns detailed touch preferences.",
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"safety_boundary": "Repair never requires instant forgiveness, forced affection, coerced disclosure, surveillance, control, staying in an unsafe relationship, or treating cruelty as normal conflict.",
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"mass_rewrite_reason": "The source contained 250 questions, including 150 written prompts, with repeated template blocks and depth values outside the current importer contract. More than 60 percent of the source shared the same legacy failure, so a controlled rebuild was safer than isolated patching.",
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"review_workflow": "Ten subject sections drafted as 15-question sensitive batches, followed by schema, read-aloud, prompt-option fit, repetition, pack-boundary, safety, and full-pack validation."
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}
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},
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"questions": [
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_001",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "Which signs show that I am ready to repair instead of keep arguing?",
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"depth": 2,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"repair_signals",
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"accountability",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "i_stop_building_my_case",
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"text": "I stop building my case"
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},
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{
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"id": "my_questions_sound_curious",
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"text": "My questions sound curious"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_can_repeat_your_point_fairly",
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"text": "I can repeat your point fairly"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_admit_my_part_without_adding_but",
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"text": "I admit my part without adding “but”"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_am_willing_to_slow_the_pace",
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"text": "I am willing to slow the pace"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "i_stop_building_my_case",
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"text": "I stop building my case"
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},
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{
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"id": "my_questions_sound_curious",
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"text": "My questions sound curious"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_can_repeat_your_point_fairly",
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"text": "I can repeat your point fairly"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_admit_my_part_without_adding_but",
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"text": "I admit my part without adding “but”"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_am_willing_to_slow_the_pace",
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"text": "I am willing to slow the pace"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_002",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "What helps the first few minutes after a disagreement feel easier?",
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"depth": 1,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"reentry",
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"cooling_down",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_little_quiet_first",
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"text": "A little quiet first"
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},
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{
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"id": "hearing_im_still_here",
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"text": "Hearing “I’m still here”"
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},
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{
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"id": "something_to_drink_nearby",
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"text": "Something to drink nearby"
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},
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{
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"id": "sitting_close_without_forcing_touch",
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"text": "Sitting close without forcing touch"
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},
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{
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"id": "knowing_we_can_revisit_the_issue_later",
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"text": "Knowing we can revisit the issue later"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_little_quiet_first",
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"text": "A little quiet first"
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},
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{
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"id": "hearing_im_still_here",
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"text": "Hearing “I’m still here”"
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},
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{
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"id": "something_to_drink_nearby",
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"text": "Something to drink nearby"
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},
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{
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"id": "sitting_close_without_forcing_touch",
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"text": "Sitting close without forcing touch"
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},
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{
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"id": "knowing_we_can_revisit_the_issue_later",
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"text": "Knowing we can revisit the issue later"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_003",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "single_choice",
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"text": "Which opening would help you come back to the conversation?",
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"depth": 1,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"restart",
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"repair_language",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "can_we_try_again_more_gently",
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"text": "“Can we try again more gently?”"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_want_to_understand_your_side",
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"text": "“I want to understand your side.”"
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},
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{
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"id": "im_ready_when_you_are",
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"text": "“I’m ready when you are.”"
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},
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{
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"id": "lets_start_with_what_hurt_most",
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"text": "“Let’s start with what hurt most.”"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "can_we_try_again_more_gently",
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"text": "“Can we try again more gently?”"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_want_to_understand_your_side",
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"text": "“I want to understand your side.”"
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},
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{
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"id": "im_ready_when_you_are",
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"text": "“I’m ready when you are.”"
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},
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{
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"id": "lets_start_with_what_hurt_most",
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"text": "“Let’s start with what hurt most.”"
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}
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]
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_004",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "What helps you believe the next attempt might go better?",
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"depth": 2,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"hope",
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"next_attempt",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_different_opening_line",
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"text": "A different opening line"
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},
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{
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"id": "one_clear_topic",
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"text": "One clear topic"
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},
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{
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"id": "less_urgency_to_finish_everything",
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"text": "Less urgency to finish everything"
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},
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{
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"id": "proof_that_both_views_matter",
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"text": "Proof that both views matter"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_plan_for_a_break_if_needed",
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"text": "A plan for a break if needed"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_different_opening_line",
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"text": "A different opening line"
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},
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{
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"id": "one_clear_topic",
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"text": "One clear topic"
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},
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{
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"id": "less_urgency_to_finish_everything",
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"text": "Less urgency to finish everything"
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},
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{
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"id": "proof_that_both_views_matter",
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"text": "Proof that both views matter"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_plan_for_a_break_if_needed",
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"text": "A plan for a break if needed"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_005",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "After a rough moment, what tells you we are actually cooling down?",
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"depth": 1,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"signals",
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"cooling_down",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "our_voices_settle",
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"text": "Our voices settle"
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},
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{
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"id": "we_stop_trying_to_win",
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"text": "We stop trying to win"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_real_question_replaces_a_comeback",
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"text": "A real question replaces a comeback"
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},
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{
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"id": "the_silence_no_longer_feels_punishing",
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"text": "The silence no longer feels punishing"
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},
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{
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"id": "one_of_us_admits_we_are_tired",
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"text": "One of us admits we are tired"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "our_voices_settle",
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"text": "Our voices settle"
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},
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{
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"id": "we_stop_trying_to_win",
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"text": "We stop trying to win"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_real_question_replaces_a_comeback",
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"text": "A real question replaces a comeback"
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},
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{
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"id": "the_silence_no_longer_feels_punishing",
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"text": "The silence no longer feels punishing"
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},
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{
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"id": "one_of_us_admits_we_are_tired",
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"text": "One of us admits we are tired"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_006",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "this_or_that",
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"text": "Would a quiet restart or a direct restart feel better?",
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"depth": 1,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"restart_style",
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"quick_choice",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_quiet_restart",
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"text": "A quiet restart"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_direct_restart",
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"text": "A direct restart"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_quiet_restart",
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"text": "A quiet restart"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_direct_restart",
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"text": "A direct restart"
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}
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]
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_007",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "What keeps a restart from feeling forced or fake?",
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"depth": 2,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"authenticity",
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"restart",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "the_issue_gets_named_plainly",
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"text": "The issue gets named plainly"
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},
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{
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"id": "no_one_pretends_it_never_happened",
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"text": "No one pretends it never happened"
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},
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{
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"id": "the_apology_matches_the_moment",
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"text": "The apology matches the moment"
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},
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{
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"id": "we_make_one_realistic_change",
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"text": "We make one realistic change"
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},
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{
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"id": "there_is_room_for_mixed_feelings",
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"text": "There is room for mixed feelings"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "the_issue_gets_named_plainly",
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"text": "The issue gets named plainly"
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},
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{
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"id": "no_one_pretends_it_never_happened",
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"text": "No one pretends it never happened"
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},
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{
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"id": "the_apology_matches_the_moment",
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"text": "The apology matches the moment"
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},
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{
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"id": "we_make_one_realistic_change",
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"text": "We make one realistic change"
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},
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{
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"id": "there_is_room_for_mixed_feelings",
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"text": "There is room for mixed feelings"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_008",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "written",
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"text": "What is one sentence that would help us begin again after a rough moment?",
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"depth": 2,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"repair_language",
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"restart",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"max_length": 500
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_009",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "Once we are calmer, what kind of first step feels manageable?",
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"depth": 1,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"small_steps",
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"reconnection",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "sit_together_for_five_minutes",
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"text": "Sit together for five minutes"
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},
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{
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"id": "name_one_thing_we_agree_on",
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"text": "Name one thing we agree on"
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},
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{
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"id": "ask_what_the_other_person_needs",
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"text": "Ask what the other person needs"
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},
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{
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"id": "share_the_shortest_version_of_each_side",
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"text": "Share the shortest version of each side"
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},
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{
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"id": "decide_whether_to_talk_now_or_later",
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"text": "Decide whether to talk now or later"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "sit_together_for_five_minutes",
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"text": "Sit together for five minutes"
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},
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{
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"id": "name_one_thing_we_agree_on",
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"text": "Name one thing we agree on"
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},
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{
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"id": "ask_what_the_other_person_needs",
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"text": "Ask what the other person needs"
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},
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{
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"id": "share_the_shortest_version_of_each_side",
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"text": "Share the shortest version of each side"
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},
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{
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"id": "decide_whether_to_talk_now_or_later",
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"text": "Decide whether to talk now or later"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "conflict_repair_010",
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"category_id": "conflict_repair",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "Which small peace offerings work after a minor disagreement?",
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"depth": 1,
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"access": "free",
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"tags": [
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"peace_offering",
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"minor_conflict",
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"conflict_repair"
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],
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "the_better_couch_spot_saved",
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"text": "The better couch spot saved"
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},
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{
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"id": "making_the_usual_drink",
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"text": "Making the usual drink"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_low_key_check_in",
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"text": "A low-key check-in"
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},
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{
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"id": "one_small_task_handled",
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"text": "One small task handled"
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},
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{
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"id": "offering_a_snack_without_a_speech",
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"text": "Offering a snack without a speech"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_better_couch_spot_saved",
|
||
"text": "The better couch spot saved"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_the_usual_drink",
|
||
"text": "Making the usual drink"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_low_key_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A low-key check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_small_task_handled",
|
||
"text": "One small task handled"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offering_a_snack_without_a_speech",
|
||
"text": "Offering a snack without a speech"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_011",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When one of us is still tender, what kind of approach helps?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"gentleness",
|
||
"emotional_safety",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_with_a_softer_topic",
|
||
"text": "Start with a softer topic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_whether_now_is_okay",
|
||
"text": "Ask whether now is okay"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_first_exchange_short",
|
||
"text": "Keep the first exchange short"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_the_hurt_person_set_the_pace",
|
||
"text": "Let the hurt person set the pace"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offer_company_without_demanding_a_talk",
|
||
"text": "Offer company without demanding a talk"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_with_a_softer_topic",
|
||
"text": "Start with a softer topic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_whether_now_is_okay",
|
||
"text": "Ask whether now is okay"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_first_exchange_short",
|
||
"text": "Keep the first exchange short"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_the_hurt_person_set_the_pace",
|
||
"text": "Let the hurt person set the pace"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offer_company_without_demanding_a_talk",
|
||
"text": "Offer company without demanding a talk"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_012",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How ready do you usually feel to reconnect once the tension drops?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not ready yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Ready to reconnect"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_013",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes returning to the same room feel less awkward?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reentry",
|
||
"comfort",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_simple_normal_question",
|
||
"text": "A simple normal question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_door_being_left_open",
|
||
"text": "The door being left open"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_brief_acknowledgment_of_what_happened",
|
||
"text": "A brief acknowledgment of what happened"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "bringing_each_other_water",
|
||
"text": "Bringing each other water"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_pressure_for_immediate_eye_contact",
|
||
"text": "No pressure for immediate eye contact"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_simple_normal_question",
|
||
"text": "A simple normal question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_door_being_left_open",
|
||
"text": "The door being left open"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_brief_acknowledgment_of_what_happened",
|
||
"text": "A brief acknowledgment of what happened"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "bringing_each_other_water",
|
||
"text": "Bringing each other water"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_pressure_for_immediate_eye_contact",
|
||
"text": "No pressure for immediate eye contact"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_014",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we show that the argument is paused, not abandoned?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"pause",
|
||
"reassurance",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_a_time_to_return",
|
||
"text": "Set a time to return"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "say_where_we_are_going",
|
||
"text": "Say where we are going"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confirm_that_the_relationship_is_okay",
|
||
"text": "Confirm that the relationship is okay"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_pause_free_of_punishment",
|
||
"text": "Keep the pause free of punishment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "come_back_when_we_said_we_would",
|
||
"text": "Come back when we said we would"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_a_time_to_return",
|
||
"text": "Set a time to return"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "say_where_we_are_going",
|
||
"text": "Say where we are going"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confirm_that_the_relationship_is_okay",
|
||
"text": "Confirm that the relationship is okay"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_pause_free_of_punishment",
|
||
"text": "Keep the pause free of punishment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "come_back_when_we_said_we_would",
|
||
"text": "Come back when we said we would"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_015",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What should happen before we try to solve the issue?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"timing",
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_of_us_calm_down",
|
||
"text": "Both of us calm down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_agree_on_the_real_issue",
|
||
"text": "We agree on the real issue"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_gets_a_turn",
|
||
"text": "Each person gets a turn"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_decide_whether_tonight_is_the_right_time",
|
||
"text": "We decide whether tonight is the right time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_of_us_calm_down",
|
||
"text": "Both of us calm down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_agree_on_the_real_issue",
|
||
"text": "We agree on the real issue"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_gets_a_turn",
|
||
"text": "Each person gets a turn"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_decide_whether_tonight_is_the_right_time",
|
||
"text": "We decide whether tonight is the right time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_016",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How important is changed behavior after an apology?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"follow_through",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Helpful but not central",
|
||
"max_label": "Essential"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_017",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A short apology now or a fuller apology later?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology_timing",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_apology_now",
|
||
"text": "A short apology now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_fuller_apology_later",
|
||
"text": "A fuller apology later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_apology_now",
|
||
"text": "A short apology now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_fuller_apology_later",
|
||
"text": "A fuller apology later"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_018",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What can make a delayed apology still feel meaningful?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology_timing",
|
||
"reflection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_brief_explanation_for_the_delay",
|
||
"text": "A brief explanation for the delay"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_the_exact_concern",
|
||
"text": "Remembering the exact concern"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "coming_back_without_being_chased",
|
||
"text": "Coming back without being chased"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "clearer_ownership",
|
||
"text": "Clearer ownership"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "follow_through_after_the_talk",
|
||
"text": "Follow-through after the talk"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_brief_explanation_for_the_delay",
|
||
"text": "A brief explanation for the delay"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_the_exact_concern",
|
||
"text": "Remembering the exact concern"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "coming_back_without_being_chased",
|
||
"text": "Coming back without being chased"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "clearer_ownership",
|
||
"text": "Clearer ownership"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "follow_through_after_the_talk",
|
||
"text": "Follow-through after the talk"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_019",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When the harm was accidental, what still belongs in the apology?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"impact",
|
||
"intent",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledging_the_impact",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledging the impact"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "listen_before_explaining",
|
||
"text": "Listen before explaining"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "respect_for_the_other_persons_reaction",
|
||
"text": "Respect for the other person’s reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "take_responsibility_for_what_we_control",
|
||
"text": "Take responsibility for what we control"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_practical_repair_offered",
|
||
"text": "A practical repair offered"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledging_the_impact",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledging the impact"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "listen_before_explaining",
|
||
"text": "Listen before explaining"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "respect_for_the_other_persons_reaction",
|
||
"text": "Respect for the other person’s reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "take_responsibility_for_what_we_control",
|
||
"text": "Take responsibility for what we control"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_practical_repair_offered",
|
||
"text": "A practical repair offered"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_020",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which follow-up would make an apology feel complete enough for now?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"follow_up",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_check_in_the_next_day",
|
||
"text": "A check-in the next day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "changing_one_repeat_behavior",
|
||
"text": "Changing one repeat behavior"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_whether_anything_was_missed",
|
||
"text": "Ask whether anything was missed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "give_the_hurt_person_some_room",
|
||
"text": "Give the hurt person some room"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_agreement_remembered_later",
|
||
"text": "The agreement remembered later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_check_in_the_next_day",
|
||
"text": "A check-in the next day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "changing_one_repeat_behavior",
|
||
"text": "Changing one repeat behavior"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_whether_anything_was_missed",
|
||
"text": "Ask whether anything was missed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "give_the_hurt_person_some_room",
|
||
"text": "Give the hurt person some room"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_agreement_remembered_later",
|
||
"text": "The agreement remembered later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_021",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When would you most want to hear an apology?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology_timing",
|
||
"preference",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "as_soon_as_the_harm_is_clear",
|
||
"text": "As soon as the harm is clear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_we_have_both_cooled_down",
|
||
"text": "After we have both cooled down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "at_the_next_private_moment",
|
||
"text": "At the next private moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_there_is_enough_time_to_listen",
|
||
"text": "When there is enough time to listen"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "as_soon_as_the_harm_is_clear",
|
||
"text": "As soon as the harm is clear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_we_have_both_cooled_down",
|
||
"text": "After we have both cooled down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "at_the_next_private_moment",
|
||
"text": "At the next private moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_there_is_enough_time_to_listen",
|
||
"text": "When there is enough time to listen"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_022",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What should never be demanded in return for an apology?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"consent",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "immediate_forgiveness",
|
||
"text": "Immediate forgiveness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "physical_affection",
|
||
"text": "Physical affection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_matching_confession",
|
||
"text": "A matching confession"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "proof_that_everything_is_fine",
|
||
"text": "Proof that everything is fine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "silence_about_future_concerns",
|
||
"text": "Silence about future concerns"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "immediate_forgiveness",
|
||
"text": "Immediate forgiveness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "physical_affection",
|
||
"text": "Physical affection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_matching_confession",
|
||
"text": "A matching confession"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "proof_that_everything_is_fine",
|
||
"text": "Proof that everything is fine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "silence_about_future_concerns",
|
||
"text": "Silence about future concerns"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_023",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which apology habits make the words lose meaning?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"missteps",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_defense_afterward",
|
||
"text": "A long defense afterward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologizing_only_to_end_the_talk",
|
||
"text": "Apologizing only to end the talk"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_promise_again",
|
||
"text": "The same promise again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_for_instant_reassurance",
|
||
"text": "Asking for instant reassurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "turning_the_focus_onto_the_other_person",
|
||
"text": "Turning the focus onto the other person"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_defense_afterward",
|
||
"text": "A long defense afterward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologizing_only_to_end_the_talk",
|
||
"text": "Apologizing only to end the talk"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_promise_again",
|
||
"text": "The same promise again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_for_instant_reassurance",
|
||
"text": "Asking for instant reassurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "turning_the_focus_onto_the_other_person",
|
||
"text": "Turning the focus onto the other person"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_024",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes an apology easier for you to trust?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"credibility",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_arrives_without_being_demanded",
|
||
"text": "It arrives without being demanded"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_wording_is_specific",
|
||
"text": "The wording is specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "defensiveness_stays_out_of_it",
|
||
"text": "Defensiveness stays out of it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "actions_match_it_afterward",
|
||
"text": "Actions match it afterward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_pressure_to_accept_it_quickly",
|
||
"text": "There is no pressure to accept it quickly"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_arrives_without_being_demanded",
|
||
"text": "It arrives without being demanded"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_wording_is_specific",
|
||
"text": "The wording is specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "defensiveness_stays_out_of_it",
|
||
"text": "Defensiveness stays out of it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "actions_match_it_afterward",
|
||
"text": "Actions match it afterward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_pressure_to_accept_it_quickly",
|
||
"text": "There is no pressure to accept it quickly"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_025",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which sentence would feel most accountable after a hurtful comment?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology_language",
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_said_that_to_win_and_it_was_unfair",
|
||
"text": "“I said that to win, and it was unfair.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_why_that_stayed_with_you",
|
||
"text": "“I understand why that stayed with you.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_did_not_deserve_that_from_me",
|
||
"text": "“You did not deserve that from me.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_need_to_handle_that_differently_next_time",
|
||
"text": "“I need to handle that differently next time.”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_said_that_to_win_and_it_was_unfair",
|
||
"text": "“I said that to win, and it was unfair.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_why_that_stayed_with_you",
|
||
"text": "“I understand why that stayed with you.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_did_not_deserve_that_from_me",
|
||
"text": "“You did not deserve that from me.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_need_to_handle_that_differently_next_time",
|
||
"text": "“I need to handle that differently next time.”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_026",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "If both of us caused harm, what makes mutual apologies work?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"mutual_apology",
|
||
"fairness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_owns_a_separate_part",
|
||
"text": "Each person owns a separate part"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_scorekeeping_over_who_starts",
|
||
"text": "No scorekeeping over who starts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_apologies_get_full_attention",
|
||
"text": "Both apologies get full attention"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_worse_moment_is_not_used_to_erase_the_smaller_one",
|
||
"text": "The worse moment is not used to erase the smaller one"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_avoid_trading_apologies_like_receipts",
|
||
"text": "We avoid trading apologies like receipts"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_owns_a_separate_part",
|
||
"text": "Each person owns a separate part"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_scorekeeping_over_who_starts",
|
||
"text": "No scorekeeping over who starts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_apologies_get_full_attention",
|
||
"text": "Both apologies get full attention"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_worse_moment_is_not_used_to_erase_the_smaller_one",
|
||
"text": "The worse moment is not used to erase the smaller one"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_avoid_trading_apologies_like_receipts",
|
||
"text": "We avoid trading apologies like receipts"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_027",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How easy is it for you to receive an apology while still upset?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Very hard",
|
||
"max_label": "Fairly easy"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_028",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which part of a sincere apology carries the most weight for you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"preferences",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "naming_the_specific_hurt",
|
||
"text": "Naming the specific hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_excuses_added",
|
||
"text": "No excuses added"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_sign_of_understanding",
|
||
"text": "A clear sign of understanding"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_will_change_next",
|
||
"text": "What will change next"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "naming_the_specific_hurt",
|
||
"text": "Naming the specific hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_excuses_added",
|
||
"text": "No excuses added"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_sign_of_understanding",
|
||
"text": "A clear sign of understanding"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_will_change_next",
|
||
"text": "What will change next"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_029",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What tone makes an apology sound most sincere to you?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"tone",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_and_steady",
|
||
"text": "Quiet and steady"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "direct_and_plain",
|
||
"text": "Direct and plain"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "warm_but_not_dramatic",
|
||
"text": "Warm but not dramatic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "careful_and_unhurried",
|
||
"text": "Careful and unhurried"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_and_steady",
|
||
"text": "Quiet and steady"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "direct_and_plain",
|
||
"text": "Direct and plain"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "warm_but_not_dramatic",
|
||
"text": "Warm but not dramatic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "careful_and_unhurried",
|
||
"text": "Careful and unhurried"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_030",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps an apology feel warm without becoming a performance?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"warmth",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "natural_eye_contact",
|
||
"text": "Natural eye contact"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_calm_voice",
|
||
"text": "A calm voice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_honest_sentence",
|
||
"text": "One honest sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_grand_gesture_required",
|
||
"text": "No grand gesture required"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "room_for_the_other_person_to_respond",
|
||
"text": "Room for the other person to respond"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "natural_eye_contact",
|
||
"text": "Natural eye contact"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_calm_voice",
|
||
"text": "A calm voice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_honest_sentence",
|
||
"text": "One honest sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_grand_gesture_required",
|
||
"text": "No grand gesture required"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "room_for_the_other_person_to_respond",
|
||
"text": "Room for the other person to respond"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_031",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes being heard feel different from being agreed with?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"listening",
|
||
"difference",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_point_is_stated_fairly",
|
||
"text": "My point is stated fairly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_feelings_are_treated_as_real",
|
||
"text": "My feelings are treated as real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_replace_persuasion",
|
||
"text": "Questions replace persuasion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_disagreement_stays_respectful",
|
||
"text": "The disagreement stays respectful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_demands_the_same_conclusion",
|
||
"text": "No one demands the same conclusion"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_point_is_stated_fairly",
|
||
"text": "My point is stated fairly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_feelings_are_treated_as_real",
|
||
"text": "My feelings are treated as real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_replace_persuasion",
|
||
"text": "Questions replace persuasion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_disagreement_stays_respectful",
|
||
"text": "The disagreement stays respectful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_demands_the_same_conclusion",
|
||
"text": "No one demands the same conclusion"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_032",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Would you rather start with understanding or solutions?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_style",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "understanding_first",
|
||
"text": "Understanding first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "solutions_first",
|
||
"text": "Solutions first"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "understanding_first",
|
||
"text": "Understanding first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "solutions_first",
|
||
"text": "Solutions first"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_033",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you are explaining what happened, what helps you keep going?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"listening",
|
||
"support",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_interrupting",
|
||
"text": "No interrupting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_face_that_stays_open",
|
||
"text": "A face that stays open"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_that_seek_clarity",
|
||
"text": "Questions that seek clarity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "time_to_find_the_right_words",
|
||
"text": "Time to find the right words"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_a_fair_summary_afterward",
|
||
"text": "Hearing a fair summary afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_interrupting",
|
||
"text": "No interrupting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_face_that_stays_open",
|
||
"text": "A face that stays open"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_that_seek_clarity",
|
||
"text": "Questions that seek clarity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "time_to_find_the_right_words",
|
||
"text": "Time to find the right words"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_a_fair_summary_afterward",
|
||
"text": "Hearing a fair summary afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_034",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When explaining hurt, what keeps it from feeling like a case?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hurt",
|
||
"expression",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "starting_with_the_clearest_moment",
|
||
"text": "Starting with the clearest moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "using_ordinary_words",
|
||
"text": "Using ordinary words"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "not_having_to_prove_every_detail",
|
||
"text": "Not having to prove every detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_questions_will_be_gentle",
|
||
"text": "Knowing questions will be gentle"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "taking_breaks_when_the_story_gets_tangled",
|
||
"text": "Taking breaks when the story gets tangled"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "starting_with_the_clearest_moment",
|
||
"text": "Starting with the clearest moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "using_ordinary_words",
|
||
"text": "Using ordinary words"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "not_having_to_prove_every_detail",
|
||
"text": "Not having to prove every detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_questions_will_be_gentle",
|
||
"text": "Knowing questions will be gentle"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "taking_breaks_when_the_story_gets_tangled",
|
||
"text": "Taking breaks when the story gets tangled"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_035",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you believe that your hurt is taken seriously?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"belief",
|
||
"validation",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "their_reaction_is_not_mocked",
|
||
"text": "Their reaction is not mocked"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "details_are_not_cross_examined",
|
||
"text": "Details are not cross-examined"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_impact_is_accepted_as_real",
|
||
"text": "The impact is accepted as real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "uncertainty_is_admitted_honestly",
|
||
"text": "Uncertainty is admitted honestly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_listener_stays_present",
|
||
"text": "The listener stays present"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "their_reaction_is_not_mocked",
|
||
"text": "Their reaction is not mocked"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "details_are_not_cross_examined",
|
||
"text": "Details are not cross-examined"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_impact_is_accepted_as_real",
|
||
"text": "The impact is accepted as real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "uncertainty_is_admitted_honestly",
|
||
"text": "Uncertainty is admitted honestly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_listener_stays_present",
|
||
"text": "The listener stays present"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_036",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which response helps you feel heard before anything else?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"listening",
|
||
"validation",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_what_hurt",
|
||
"text": "“I understand what hurt.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tell_me_the_part_i_am_missing",
|
||
"text": "“Tell me the part I am missing.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_see_why_that_landed_badly",
|
||
"text": "“I can see why that landed badly.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_listening_before_i_answer",
|
||
"text": "“I am listening before I answer.”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_what_hurt",
|
||
"text": "“I understand what hurt.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tell_me_the_part_i_am_missing",
|
||
"text": "“Tell me the part I am missing.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_see_why_that_landed_badly",
|
||
"text": "“I can see why that landed badly.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_listening_before_i_answer",
|
||
"text": "“I am listening before I answer.”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_037",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What do you need most when I misunderstood your point?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"misunderstanding",
|
||
"clarification",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_fresh_question",
|
||
"text": "A fresh question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_chance_to_say_it_differently",
|
||
"text": "A chance to say it differently"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_words_repeated_back_more_carefully",
|
||
"text": "My words repeated back more carefully"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pause_before_either_of_us_responds",
|
||
"text": "A pause before either of us responds"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_fresh_question",
|
||
"text": "A fresh question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_chance_to_say_it_differently",
|
||
"text": "A chance to say it differently"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_words_repeated_back_more_carefully",
|
||
"text": "My words repeated back more carefully"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pause_before_either_of_us_responds",
|
||
"text": "A pause before either of us responds"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_038",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which reactions make it harder to talk about hurt?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hurt",
|
||
"defensiveness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "debating_the_exact_wording",
|
||
"text": "Debating the exact wording"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "intent_explained_too_soon",
|
||
"text": "Intent explained too soon"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "comparing_it_with_another_mistake",
|
||
"text": "Comparing it with another mistake"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_listeners_guilt_takes_over",
|
||
"text": "The listener’s guilt takes over"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "rushing_toward_a_solution",
|
||
"text": "Rushing toward a solution"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "debating_the_exact_wording",
|
||
"text": "Debating the exact wording"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "intent_explained_too_soon",
|
||
"text": "Intent explained too soon"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "comparing_it_with_another_mistake",
|
||
"text": "Comparing it with another mistake"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_listeners_guilt_takes_over",
|
||
"text": "The listener’s guilt takes over"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "rushing_toward_a_solution",
|
||
"text": "Rushing toward a solution"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_039",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What is one thing you wish I understood about how you experience hurt?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hurt",
|
||
"understanding",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"max_length": 500
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_040",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "After you feel understood, what usually helps next?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"next_step",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_quiet",
|
||
"text": "A little quiet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_practical_change",
|
||
"text": "A practical change"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "some_reassurance",
|
||
"text": "Some reassurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_lighter_moment_together",
|
||
"text": "A lighter moment together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "time_to_let_the_conversation_settle",
|
||
"text": "Time to let the conversation settle"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_quiet",
|
||
"text": "A little quiet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_practical_change",
|
||
"text": "A practical change"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "some_reassurance",
|
||
"text": "Some reassurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_lighter_moment_together",
|
||
"text": "A lighter moment together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "time_to_let_the_conversation_settle",
|
||
"text": "Time to let the conversation settle"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_041",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we disagree about details without dismissing the pain?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"details",
|
||
"validation",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "separate_memory_from_impact",
|
||
"text": "Separate memory from impact"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_i_remember_it_differently_calmly",
|
||
"text": "Use “I remember it differently” calmly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "agree_on_what_does_not_need_debate",
|
||
"text": "Agree on what does not need debate"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "leave_room_for_two_perspectives",
|
||
"text": "Leave room for two perspectives"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_focus_on_repair",
|
||
"text": "Keep the focus on repair"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "separate_memory_from_impact",
|
||
"text": "Separate memory from impact"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_i_remember_it_differently_calmly",
|
||
"text": "Use “I remember it differently” calmly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "agree_on_what_does_not_need_debate",
|
||
"text": "Agree on what does not need debate"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "leave_room_for_two_perspectives",
|
||
"text": "Leave room for two perspectives"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_focus_on_repair",
|
||
"text": "Keep the focus on repair"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_042",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a summary of your side feel accurate?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"listening",
|
||
"summary",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_feeling_is_included",
|
||
"text": "The feeling is included"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_key_event_stays_specific",
|
||
"text": "The key event stays specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_intent_is_not_rewritten",
|
||
"text": "My intent is not rewritten"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_mattered_most_is_named",
|
||
"text": "The part that mattered most is named"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_correct_it_without_another_debate",
|
||
"text": "I can correct it without another debate"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_feeling_is_included",
|
||
"text": "The feeling is included"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_key_event_stays_specific",
|
||
"text": "The key event stays specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_intent_is_not_rewritten",
|
||
"text": "My intent is not rewritten"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_mattered_most_is_named",
|
||
"text": "The part that mattered most is named"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_correct_it_without_another_debate",
|
||
"text": "I can correct it without another debate"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_043",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How confident are you that your hurt will be taken seriously here?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hurt",
|
||
"emotional_safety",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not confident yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very confident"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_044",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which question would help uncover the part that still hurts?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hurt",
|
||
"clarity",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "which_part_keeps_replaying",
|
||
"text": "“Which part keeps replaying?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_did_you_need_from_me_then",
|
||
"text": "“What did you need from me then?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "is_anything_still_unfinished",
|
||
"text": "“Is anything still unfinished?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "where_do_you_feel_least_understood",
|
||
"text": "“Where do you feel least understood?”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "which_part_keeps_replaying",
|
||
"text": "“Which part keeps replaying?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_did_you_need_from_me_then",
|
||
"text": "“What did you need from me then?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "is_anything_still_unfinished",
|
||
"text": "“Is anything still unfinished?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "where_do_you_feel_least_understood",
|
||
"text": "“Where do you feel least understood?”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_045",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How do you stay open when the feedback is hard to hear?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"listening",
|
||
"defensiveness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remember_that_impact_matters",
|
||
"text": "Remember that impact matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quietly_take_in_the_point",
|
||
"text": "Quietly take in the point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_for_one_example",
|
||
"text": "Ask for one example"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_breath_before_answering",
|
||
"text": "A breath before answering"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_there_will_be_time_to_respond_later",
|
||
"text": "Knowing there will be time to respond later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remember_that_impact_matters",
|
||
"text": "Remember that impact matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quietly_take_in_the_point",
|
||
"text": "Quietly take in the point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_for_one_example",
|
||
"text": "Ask for one example"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_breath_before_answering",
|
||
"text": "A breath before answering"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_there_will_be_time_to_respond_later",
|
||
"text": "Knowing there will be time to respond later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_046",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which phrases help separate a mistake from the whole person?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"mistakes",
|
||
"identity",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "that_choice_hurt_me",
|
||
"text": "“That choice hurt me.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "this_is_about_what_happened_not_your_worth",
|
||
"text": "“This is about what happened, not your worth.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_know_this_is_not_all_of_who_you_are",
|
||
"text": "“I know this is not all of who you are.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_address_this_without_tearing_you_down",
|
||
"text": "“We can address this without tearing you down.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_need_change_not_self_punishment",
|
||
"text": "“I need change, not self-punishment.”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "that_choice_hurt_me",
|
||
"text": "“That choice hurt me.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "this_is_about_what_happened_not_your_worth",
|
||
"text": "“This is about what happened, not your worth.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_know_this_is_not_all_of_who_you_are",
|
||
"text": "“I know this is not all of who you are.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_address_this_without_tearing_you_down",
|
||
"text": "“We can address this without tearing you down.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_need_change_not_self_punishment",
|
||
"text": "“I need change, not self-punishment.”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_047",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What can we do when an honest apology still feels incomplete?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apology",
|
||
"unfinished_repair",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_remains_unaddressed",
|
||
"text": "Ask what remains unaddressed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "accept_that_more_time_may_be_needed",
|
||
"text": "Accept that more time may be needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "make_the_next_action_clearer",
|
||
"text": "Make the next action clearer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_conversation_later",
|
||
"text": "Return to the conversation later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_forcing_a_better_emotional_response",
|
||
"text": "Avoid forcing a better emotional response"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_remains_unaddressed",
|
||
"text": "Ask what remains unaddressed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "accept_that_more_time_may_be_needed",
|
||
"text": "Accept that more time may be needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "make_the_next_action_clearer",
|
||
"text": "Make the next action clearer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_conversation_later",
|
||
"text": "Return to the conversation later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_forcing_a_better_emotional_response",
|
||
"text": "Avoid forcing a better emotional response"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_048",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How much does tone affect your ability to take responsibility?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"tone",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Only a little",
|
||
"max_label": "A great deal"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_049",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "If the same mistake happens again, what response helps most?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repeated_mistake",
|
||
"response",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_pattern_without_exaggerating",
|
||
"text": "Name the pattern without exaggerating"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_blocked_the_earlier_plan",
|
||
"text": "Ask what blocked the earlier plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_whether_the_agreement_needs_changing",
|
||
"text": "Decide whether the agreement needs changing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_a_clearer_next_step",
|
||
"text": "Set a clearer next step"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "take_more_time_before_calling_it_repaired",
|
||
"text": "Take more time before calling it repaired"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_pattern_without_exaggerating",
|
||
"text": "Name the pattern without exaggerating"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_blocked_the_earlier_plan",
|
||
"text": "Ask what blocked the earlier plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_whether_the_agreement_needs_changing",
|
||
"text": "Decide whether the agreement needs changing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_a_clearer_next_step",
|
||
"text": "Set a clearer next step"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "take_more_time_before_calling_it_repaired",
|
||
"text": "Take more time before calling it repaired"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_050",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which reminder would help you stay accountable during repair?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"self_reminder",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "impact_matters_even_without_bad_intent",
|
||
"text": "Impact matters even without bad intent"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "listening_is_not_the_same_as_agreeing",
|
||
"text": "Listening is not the same as agreeing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_explanation_can_wait",
|
||
"text": "An explanation can wait"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "repair_matters_more_than_looking_right",
|
||
"text": "Repair matters more than looking right"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "impact_matters_even_without_bad_intent",
|
||
"text": "Impact matters even without bad intent"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "listening_is_not_the_same_as_agreeing",
|
||
"text": "Listening is not the same as agreeing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_explanation_can_wait",
|
||
"text": "An explanation can wait"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "repair_matters_more_than_looking_right",
|
||
"text": "Repair matters more than looking right"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_051",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What turns accountability into scorekeeping between the two of us?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"scorekeeping",
|
||
"missteps",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_list_of_unrelated_past_mistakes",
|
||
"text": "A list of unrelated past mistakes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keeping_a_running_total",
|
||
"text": "Keeping a running total"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_apology_used_as_leverage",
|
||
"text": "One apology used as leverage"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "comparing_whose_harm_was_worse",
|
||
"text": "Comparing whose harm was worse"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "equal_pain_demanded_before_moving_on",
|
||
"text": "Equal pain demanded before moving on"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_list_of_unrelated_past_mistakes",
|
||
"text": "A list of unrelated past mistakes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keeping_a_running_total",
|
||
"text": "Keeping a running total"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_apology_used_as_leverage",
|
||
"text": "One apology used as leverage"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "comparing_whose_harm_was_worse",
|
||
"text": "Comparing whose harm was worse"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "equal_pain_demanded_before_moving_on",
|
||
"text": "Equal pain demanded before moving on"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_052",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Private reflection first or talking it through first?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability_style",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "private_reflection_first",
|
||
"text": "Private reflection first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talking_it_through_first",
|
||
"text": "Talking it through first"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "private_reflection_first",
|
||
"text": "Private reflection first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talking_it_through_first",
|
||
"text": "Talking it through first"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_053",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a request for change feel reasonable?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"change",
|
||
"fairness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_addresses_one_behavior",
|
||
"text": "It addresses one behavior"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_request_is_possible_to_follow",
|
||
"text": "The request is possible to follow"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_understand_why_it_matters",
|
||
"text": "Both people understand why it matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_room_to_negotiate_the_method",
|
||
"text": "There is room to negotiate the method"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "progress_counts_even_when_it_is_imperfect",
|
||
"text": "Progress counts even when it is imperfect"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_addresses_one_behavior",
|
||
"text": "It addresses one behavior"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_request_is_possible_to_follow",
|
||
"text": "The request is possible to follow"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_understand_why_it_matters",
|
||
"text": "Both people understand why it matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_room_to_negotiate_the_method",
|
||
"text": "There is room to negotiate the method"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "progress_counts_even_when_it_is_imperfect",
|
||
"text": "Progress counts even when it is imperfect"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_054",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What is the best sign that accountability is real?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"follow_through",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_excuse_disappears",
|
||
"text": "The same excuse disappears"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_new_behavior_lasts",
|
||
"text": "The new behavior lasts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_concern_is_remembered_later",
|
||
"text": "The concern is remembered later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "repair_happens_without_another_reminder",
|
||
"text": "Repair happens without another reminder"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_excuse_disappears",
|
||
"text": "The same excuse disappears"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_new_behavior_lasts",
|
||
"text": "The new behavior lasts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_concern_is_remembered_later",
|
||
"text": "The concern is remembered later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "repair_happens_without_another_reminder",
|
||
"text": "Repair happens without another reminder"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_055",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How safe does it feel to admit a mistake between us?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"emotional_safety",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not safe yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very safe"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_056",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you admit your part without erasing mine?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"mutual_accountability",
|
||
"balance",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_take_one_persons_part_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "We take one person’s part at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ownership_is_not_treated_as_surrender",
|
||
"text": "Ownership is not treated as surrender"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_experiences_can_matter",
|
||
"text": "Both experiences can matter"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_rushes_to_split_blame_evenly",
|
||
"text": "No one rushes to split blame evenly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_second_issue_gets_its_own_turn",
|
||
"text": "The second issue gets its own turn"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_take_one_persons_part_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "We take one person’s part at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ownership_is_not_treated_as_surrender",
|
||
"text": "Ownership is not treated as surrender"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_experiences_can_matter",
|
||
"text": "Both experiences can matter"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_rushes_to_split_blame_evenly",
|
||
"text": "No one rushes to split blame evenly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_second_issue_gets_its_own_turn",
|
||
"text": "The second issue gets its own turn"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_057",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "If defensiveness shows up during repair, what helps us move past it?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"defensiveness",
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "pause_the_explanation",
|
||
"text": "Pause the explanation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_defensive_reaction",
|
||
"text": "Name the defensive reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_original_concern",
|
||
"text": "Return to the original concern"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_part_needs_acknowledgment",
|
||
"text": "Ask what part needs acknowledgment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "try_again_with_fewer_words",
|
||
"text": "Try again with fewer words"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "pause_the_explanation",
|
||
"text": "Pause the explanation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_defensive_reaction",
|
||
"text": "Name the defensive reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_original_concern",
|
||
"text": "Return to the original concern"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_part_needs_acknowledgment",
|
||
"text": "Ask what part needs acknowledgment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "try_again_with_fewer_words",
|
||
"text": "Try again with fewer words"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_058",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of ownership feels most meaningful to you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"ownership",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "owning_what_was_said",
|
||
"text": "Owning what was said"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_choice_behind_it_gets_admitted",
|
||
"text": "The choice behind it gets admitted"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "recognition_of_the_effect_on_us",
|
||
"text": "Recognition of the effect on us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "taking_responsibility_for_what_happens_next",
|
||
"text": "Taking responsibility for what happens next"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "owning_what_was_said",
|
||
"text": "Owning what was said"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_choice_behind_it_gets_admitted",
|
||
"text": "The choice behind it gets admitted"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "recognition_of_the_effect_on_us",
|
||
"text": "Recognition of the effect on us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "taking_responsibility_for_what_happens_next",
|
||
"text": "Taking responsibility for what happens next"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_059",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps accountability feel fair instead of humiliating?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"respect",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "focus_on_the_specific_choice",
|
||
"text": "Focus on the specific choice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_private_matters_private",
|
||
"text": "Keep private matters private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_impact_without_attacking_character",
|
||
"text": "Name the impact without attacking character"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "allow_a_response_after_listening",
|
||
"text": "Allow a response after listening"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_for_change_without_demanding_shame",
|
||
"text": "Ask for change without demanding shame"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "focus_on_the_specific_choice",
|
||
"text": "Focus on the specific choice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_private_matters_private",
|
||
"text": "Keep private matters private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_impact_without_attacking_character",
|
||
"text": "Name the impact without attacking character"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "allow_a_response_after_listening",
|
||
"text": "Allow a response after listening"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_for_change_without_demanding_shame",
|
||
"text": "Ask for change without demanding shame"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_060",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we notice progress without lowering the standard?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"progress",
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_specific_improvements",
|
||
"text": "Name specific improvements"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_original_agreement_visible",
|
||
"text": "Keep the original agreement visible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "celebrate_effort_without_declaring_victory",
|
||
"text": "Celebrate effort without declaring victory"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "review_what_still_needs_work",
|
||
"text": "Review what still needs work"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "adjust_the_plan_when_life_changes",
|
||
"text": "Adjust the plan when life changes"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_specific_improvements",
|
||
"text": "Name specific improvements"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_original_agreement_visible",
|
||
"text": "Keep the original agreement visible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "celebrate_effort_without_declaring_victory",
|
||
"text": "Celebrate effort without declaring victory"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "review_what_still_needs_work",
|
||
"text": "Review what still needs work"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "adjust_the_plan_when_life_changes",
|
||
"text": "Adjust the plan when life changes"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_061",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which return time sounds easiest after a late-night disagreement?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"timing",
|
||
"late_night",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_a_short_reset_tonight",
|
||
"text": "After a short reset tonight"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "first_thing_in_the_morning",
|
||
"text": "First thing in the morning"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_breakfast_and_coffee",
|
||
"text": "After breakfast and coffee"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "later_the_next_day_with_privacy",
|
||
"text": "Later the next day with privacy"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_a_short_reset_tonight",
|
||
"text": "After a short reset tonight"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "first_thing_in_the_morning",
|
||
"text": "First thing in the morning"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_breakfast_and_coffee",
|
||
"text": "After breakfast and coffee"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "later_the_next_day_with_privacy",
|
||
"text": "Later the next day with privacy"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_062",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which details make a plan to return feel believable?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"return_plan",
|
||
"reliability",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_specific_time",
|
||
"text": "A specific time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_place_with_enough_privacy",
|
||
"text": "A place with enough privacy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_topic_to_begin_with",
|
||
"text": "One topic to begin with"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_message_if_the_timing_changes",
|
||
"text": "A message if the timing changes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_agree_to_the_plan",
|
||
"text": "Both people agree to the plan"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_specific_time",
|
||
"text": "A specific time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_place_with_enough_privacy",
|
||
"text": "A place with enough privacy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_topic_to_begin_with",
|
||
"text": "One topic to begin with"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_message_if_the_timing_changes",
|
||
"text": "A message if the timing changes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_agree_to_the_plan",
|
||
"text": "Both people agree to the plan"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_063",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When one person is ready sooner, what keeps the waiting fair?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"different_paces",
|
||
"patience",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_slower_person_gives_an_update",
|
||
"text": "The slower person gives an update"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_faster_person_avoids_repeated_pressure",
|
||
"text": "The faster person avoids repeated pressure"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_reasonable_time_is_agreed_on",
|
||
"text": "A reasonable time is agreed on"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "urgent_practical_needs_are_separated_out",
|
||
"text": "Urgent practical needs are separated out"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "neither_pace_is_treated_as_wrong",
|
||
"text": "Neither pace is treated as wrong"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_slower_person_gives_an_update",
|
||
"text": "The slower person gives an update"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_faster_person_avoids_repeated_pressure",
|
||
"text": "The faster person avoids repeated pressure"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_reasonable_time_is_agreed_on",
|
||
"text": "A reasonable time is agreed on"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "urgent_practical_needs_are_separated_out",
|
||
"text": "Urgent practical needs are separated out"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "neither_pace_is_treated_as_wrong",
|
||
"text": "Neither pace is treated as wrong"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_064",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How easy is it for you to ask for more recovery time?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"space",
|
||
"self_advocacy",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Very difficult",
|
||
"max_label": "Very easy"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_065",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a break after conflict feel most respectful?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"space",
|
||
"respect",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_return_time",
|
||
"text": "A clear return time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_calm_reason_for_stepping_away",
|
||
"text": "A calm reason for stepping away"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "reassurance_before_leaving",
|
||
"text": "Reassurance before leaving"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "freedom_to_ask_for_more_time",
|
||
"text": "Freedom to ask for more time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_return_time",
|
||
"text": "A clear return time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_calm_reason_for_stepping_away",
|
||
"text": "A calm reason for stepping away"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "reassurance_before_leaving",
|
||
"text": "Reassurance before leaving"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "freedom_to_ask_for_more_time",
|
||
"text": "Freedom to ask for more time"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_066",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which forms of contact feel okay during a cooling-off period?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"space",
|
||
"contact",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "practical_messages_only",
|
||
"text": "Practical messages only"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_brief_reassurance",
|
||
"text": "A brief reassurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_neutral_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A neutral check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_the_return_plan",
|
||
"text": "Sharing the return plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_contact_until_the_agreed_time",
|
||
"text": "No contact until the agreed time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "practical_messages_only",
|
||
"text": "Practical messages only"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_brief_reassurance",
|
||
"text": "A brief reassurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_neutral_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A neutral check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_the_return_plan",
|
||
"text": "Sharing the return plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_contact_until_the_agreed_time",
|
||
"text": "No contact until the agreed time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_067",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What tells you that we are both ready to return?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"return",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_hear_the_other_persons_first_sentence",
|
||
"text": "We can hear the other person’s first sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_urge_to_punish_has_passed",
|
||
"text": "The urge to punish has passed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_feel_possible",
|
||
"text": "Questions feel possible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "neither_person_is_rushing_the_ending",
|
||
"text": "Neither person is rushing the ending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_remember_the_goal_is_repair",
|
||
"text": "We remember the goal is repair"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_hear_the_other_persons_first_sentence",
|
||
"text": "We can hear the other person’s first sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_urge_to_punish_has_passed",
|
||
"text": "The urge to punish has passed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_feel_possible",
|
||
"text": "Questions feel possible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "neither_person_is_rushing_the_ending",
|
||
"text": "Neither person is rushing the ending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_remember_the_goal_is_repair",
|
||
"text": "We remember the goal is repair"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_068",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What signals that a pause needs to last longer?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"pause",
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_is_still_rehearsing_comebacks",
|
||
"text": "Either person is still rehearsing comebacks"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_body_still_feels_flooded",
|
||
"text": "The body still feels flooded"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_sentences_keep_repeating",
|
||
"text": "The same sentences keep repeating"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "listening_is_not_possible_yet",
|
||
"text": "Listening is not possible yet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_conversation_is_turning_cruel",
|
||
"text": "The conversation is turning cruel"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_is_still_rehearsing_comebacks",
|
||
"text": "Either person is still rehearsing comebacks"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_body_still_feels_flooded",
|
||
"text": "The body still feels flooded"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_sentences_keep_repeating",
|
||
"text": "The same sentences keep repeating"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "listening_is_not_possible_yet",
|
||
"text": "Listening is not possible yet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_conversation_is_turning_cruel",
|
||
"text": "The conversation is turning cruel"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_069",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "How should we handle a missed return time?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"return_plan",
|
||
"repair",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "send_a_brief_update_immediately",
|
||
"text": "Send a brief update immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologize_and_set_a_new_time",
|
||
"text": "Apologize and set a new time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_whether_the_delay_caused_more_hurt",
|
||
"text": "Ask whether the delay caused more hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "pause_until_both_can_commit_again",
|
||
"text": "Pause until both can commit again"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "send_a_brief_update_immediately",
|
||
"text": "Send a brief update immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologize_and_set_a_new_time",
|
||
"text": "Apologize and set a new time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_whether_the_delay_caused_more_hurt",
|
||
"text": "Ask whether the delay caused more hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "pause_until_both_can_commit_again",
|
||
"text": "Pause until both can commit again"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_070",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps us come back without restarting the entire fight?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"return",
|
||
"focus",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "begin_with_what_we_understood",
|
||
"text": "Begin with what we understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choose_one_unfinished_point",
|
||
"text": "Choose one unfinished point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "leave_settled_details_alone",
|
||
"text": "Leave settled details alone"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_notes_if_memory_is_fuzzy",
|
||
"text": "Use notes if memory is fuzzy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stop_if_the_old_pace_returns",
|
||
"text": "Stop if the old pace returns"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "begin_with_what_we_understood",
|
||
"text": "Begin with what we understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choose_one_unfinished_point",
|
||
"text": "Choose one unfinished point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "leave_settled_details_alone",
|
||
"text": "Leave settled details alone"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_notes_if_memory_is_fuzzy",
|
||
"text": "Use notes if memory is fuzzy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stop_if_the_old_pace_returns",
|
||
"text": "Stop if the old pace returns"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_071",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A check-in by text or a check-in face to face?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"check_in_style",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_check_in_by_text",
|
||
"text": "A check-in by text"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_check_in_face_to_face",
|
||
"text": "A check-in face to face"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_check_in_by_text",
|
||
"text": "A check-in by text"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_check_in_face_to_face",
|
||
"text": "A check-in face to face"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_072",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "If we need to sleep before resolving it, what helps overnight?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"overnight",
|
||
"unfinished_conflict",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "agree_that_the_relationship_is_not_ending",
|
||
"text": "Agree that the relationship is not ending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_when_we_will_talk_again",
|
||
"text": "Name when we will talk again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "skip_the_last_minute_jab",
|
||
"text": "Skip the last-minute jab"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "allow_separate_sleeping_space_if_needed",
|
||
"text": "Allow separate sleeping space if needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_necessary_kindness_intact",
|
||
"text": "Keep necessary kindness intact"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "agree_that_the_relationship_is_not_ending",
|
||
"text": "Agree that the relationship is not ending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_when_we_will_talk_again",
|
||
"text": "Name when we will talk again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "skip_the_last_minute_jab",
|
||
"text": "Skip the last-minute jab"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "allow_separate_sleeping_space_if_needed",
|
||
"text": "Allow separate sleeping space if needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_necessary_kindness_intact",
|
||
"text": "Keep necessary kindness intact"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_073",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What would make taking space feel safer and more reliable between us?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"space",
|
||
"reliability",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"max_length": 500
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_074",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps space feel restorative rather than punishing?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"space",
|
||
"restoration",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_hostile_silence",
|
||
"text": "No hostile silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_vague_disappearing",
|
||
"text": "No vague disappearing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_pause_has_a_purpose",
|
||
"text": "The pause has a purpose"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "daily_responsibilities_stay_respectful",
|
||
"text": "Daily responsibilities stay respectful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "reconnection_remains_possible",
|
||
"text": "Reconnection remains possible"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_hostile_silence",
|
||
"text": "No hostile silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_vague_disappearing",
|
||
"text": "No vague disappearing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_pause_has_a_purpose",
|
||
"text": "The pause has a purpose"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "daily_responsibilities_stay_respectful",
|
||
"text": "Daily responsibilities stay respectful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "reconnection_remains_possible",
|
||
"text": "Reconnection remains possible"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_075",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When the pause was requested badly, what repairs that part?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"pause",
|
||
"secondary_repair",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledge_the_harsh_exit",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledge the harsh exit"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "explain_the_need_without_defending_the_delivery",
|
||
"text": "Explain the need without defending the delivery"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confirm_the_new_return_time",
|
||
"text": "Confirm the new return time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_would_make_future_pauses_gentler",
|
||
"text": "Ask what would make future pauses gentler"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "follow_the_next_plan_reliably",
|
||
"text": "Follow the next plan reliably"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledge_the_harsh_exit",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledge the harsh exit"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "explain_the_need_without_defending_the_delivery",
|
||
"text": "Explain the need without defending the delivery"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confirm_the_new_return_time",
|
||
"text": "Confirm the new return time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_would_make_future_pauses_gentler",
|
||
"text": "Ask what would make future pauses gentler"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "follow_the_next_plan_reliably",
|
||
"text": "Follow the next plan reliably"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_076",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a comforting gesture feel genuinely welcome?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"comfort",
|
||
"consent",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_timing_is_checked_first",
|
||
"text": "The timing is checked first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_gesture_fits_the_size_of_the_hurt",
|
||
"text": "The gesture fits the size of the hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_not_used_to_stop_the_conversation",
|
||
"text": "It is not used to stop the conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_expectation_attached",
|
||
"text": "There is no expectation attached"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_other_person_can_decline_easily",
|
||
"text": "The other person can decline easily"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_timing_is_checked_first",
|
||
"text": "The timing is checked first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_gesture_fits_the_size_of_the_hurt",
|
||
"text": "The gesture fits the size of the hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_not_used_to_stop_the_conversation",
|
||
"text": "It is not used to stop the conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_expectation_attached",
|
||
"text": "There is no expectation attached"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_other_person_can_decline_easily",
|
||
"text": "The other person can decline easily"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_077",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How quickly do you usually want normal conversation to return?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"normalcy",
|
||
"pace",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Very slowly",
|
||
"max_label": "Right away"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_078",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs show that warmth is returning naturally?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"warmth",
|
||
"signals",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_room_feels_less_guarded",
|
||
"text": "The room feels less guarded"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_small_joke_lands_kindly",
|
||
"text": "A small joke lands kindly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conversation_stops_feeling_careful",
|
||
"text": "Conversation stops feeling careful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_choose_to_sit_nearer",
|
||
"text": "We choose to sit nearer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tomorrow_feels_normal_to_mention",
|
||
"text": "Tomorrow feels normal to mention"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_room_feels_less_guarded",
|
||
"text": "The room feels less guarded"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_small_joke_lands_kindly",
|
||
"text": "A small joke lands kindly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conversation_stops_feeling_careful",
|
||
"text": "Conversation stops feeling careful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_choose_to_sit_nearer",
|
||
"text": "We choose to sit nearer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tomorrow_feels_normal_to_mention",
|
||
"text": "Tomorrow feels normal to mention"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_079",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes the end of a repair conversation feel complete enough?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"ending",
|
||
"closure",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_knows_what_was_understood",
|
||
"text": "Each person knows what was understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_next_step_is_clear",
|
||
"text": "One next step is clear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_is_pressured_to_feel_perfect",
|
||
"text": "No one is pressured to feel perfect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_remaining_issue_has_a_return_plan",
|
||
"text": "The remaining issue has a return plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_part_with_basic_kindness",
|
||
"text": "We part with basic kindness"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_knows_what_was_understood",
|
||
"text": "Each person knows what was understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_next_step_is_clear",
|
||
"text": "One next step is clear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_is_pressured_to_feel_perfect",
|
||
"text": "No one is pressured to feel perfect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_remaining_issue_has_a_return_plan",
|
||
"text": "The remaining issue has a return plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_part_with_basic_kindness",
|
||
"text": "We part with basic kindness"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_080",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Quiet company or a change of scenery after repair?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reconnection_style",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_company",
|
||
"text": "Quiet company"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_change_of_scenery",
|
||
"text": "A change of scenery"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_company",
|
||
"text": "Quiet company"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_change_of_scenery",
|
||
"text": "A change of scenery"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_081",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How comfortable are you with affection before the issue is fully settled?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"affection",
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not comfortable",
|
||
"max_label": "Very comfortable"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_082",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What should happen before physical affection after conflict?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"affection",
|
||
"consent",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_rather_than_assume",
|
||
"text": "Ask rather than assume"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_whether_the_body_has_relaxed",
|
||
"text": "Notice whether the body has relaxed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "accept_a_no_without_taking_it_personally",
|
||
"text": "Accept a no without taking it personally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choose_a_smaller_gesture_if_unsure",
|
||
"text": "Choose a smaller gesture if unsure"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_affection_wait_when_words_are_unfinished",
|
||
"text": "Let affection wait when words are unfinished"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_rather_than_assume",
|
||
"text": "Ask rather than assume"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_whether_the_body_has_relaxed",
|
||
"text": "Notice whether the body has relaxed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "accept_a_no_without_taking_it_personally",
|
||
"text": "Accept a no without taking it personally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choose_a_smaller_gesture_if_unsure",
|
||
"text": "Choose a smaller gesture if unsure"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_affection_wait_when_words_are_unfinished",
|
||
"text": "Let affection wait when words are unfinished"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_083",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which shared activity would help you reconnect after a tense day?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_activity",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_walk_without_solving_anything",
|
||
"text": "A walk without solving anything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "cooking_something_easy",
|
||
"text": "Cooking something easy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_episode_on_the_couch",
|
||
"text": "One episode on the couch"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quiet_errand_together",
|
||
"text": "A quiet errand together"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_walk_without_solving_anything",
|
||
"text": "A walk without solving anything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "cooking_something_easy",
|
||
"text": "Cooking something easy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_episode_on_the_couch",
|
||
"text": "One episode on the couch"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quiet_errand_together",
|
||
"text": "A quiet errand together"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_084",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps affection feel like care rather than a shortcut?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"affection",
|
||
"care",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_apology_came_first",
|
||
"text": "The apology came first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_was_not_brushed_aside",
|
||
"text": "The issue was not brushed aside"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "touch_matches_the_other_persons_comfort",
|
||
"text": "Touch matches the other person’s comfort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "words_and_behavior_agree",
|
||
"text": "Words and behavior agree"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_time_to_reconnect_slowly",
|
||
"text": "There is time to reconnect slowly"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_apology_came_first",
|
||
"text": "The apology came first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_was_not_brushed_aside",
|
||
"text": "The issue was not brushed aside"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "touch_matches_the_other_persons_comfort",
|
||
"text": "Touch matches the other person’s comfort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "words_and_behavior_agree",
|
||
"text": "Words and behavior agree"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_time_to_reconnect_slowly",
|
||
"text": "There is time to reconnect slowly"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_085",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can closeness return while some feelings are still unsettled?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"honesty",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledge_what_is_still_tender",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledge what is still tender"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "enjoy_a_small_normal_moment",
|
||
"text": "Enjoy a small normal moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_affection_optional",
|
||
"text": "Keep affection optional"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_the_mood_improve_gradually",
|
||
"text": "Let the mood improve gradually"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "make_room_for_another_check_in",
|
||
"text": "Make room for another check-in"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledge_what_is_still_tender",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledge what is still tender"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "enjoy_a_small_normal_moment",
|
||
"text": "Enjoy a small normal moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_affection_optional",
|
||
"text": "Keep affection optional"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_the_mood_improve_gradually",
|
||
"text": "Let the mood improve gradually"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "make_room_for_another_check_in",
|
||
"text": "Make room for another check-in"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_086",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which ordinary moments help life feel normal again?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"normalcy",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "make_a_meal_together",
|
||
"text": "Make a meal together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "something_familiar_on_tv",
|
||
"text": "Something familiar on TV"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_drive",
|
||
"text": "A short drive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "folding_into_the_same_evening_routine",
|
||
"text": "Folding into the same evening routine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_a_completely_different_topic",
|
||
"text": "Talk about a completely different topic"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "make_a_meal_together",
|
||
"text": "Make a meal together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "something_familiar_on_tv",
|
||
"text": "Something familiar on TV"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_drive",
|
||
"text": "A short drive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "folding_into_the_same_evening_routine",
|
||
"text": "Folding into the same evening routine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_a_completely_different_topic",
|
||
"text": "Talk about a completely different topic"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_087",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of contact feels best after a successful repair?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"affection",
|
||
"preference",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_hug",
|
||
"text": "A long hug"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "holding_hands_for_a_minute",
|
||
"text": "Holding hands for a minute"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sitting_shoulder_to_shoulder",
|
||
"text": "Sitting shoulder to shoulder"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_touch_until_later",
|
||
"text": "No touch until later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_hug",
|
||
"text": "A long hug"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "holding_hands_for_a_minute",
|
||
"text": "Holding hands for a minute"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sitting_shoulder_to_shoulder",
|
||
"text": "Sitting shoulder to shoulder"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_touch_until_later",
|
||
"text": "No touch until later"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_088",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we protect a good repair from turning into forced cheerfulness?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_honesty",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_relief_be_enough",
|
||
"text": "Let relief be enough"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_demanding_smiles",
|
||
"text": "Avoid demanding smiles"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_any_lingering_uncertainty",
|
||
"text": "Name any lingering uncertainty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_rest_of_the_night_simple",
|
||
"text": "Keep the rest of the night simple"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "allow_different_recovery_speeds",
|
||
"text": "Allow different recovery speeds"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_relief_be_enough",
|
||
"text": "Let relief be enough"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_demanding_smiles",
|
||
"text": "Avoid demanding smiles"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_any_lingering_uncertainty",
|
||
"text": "Name any lingering uncertainty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_rest_of_the_night_simple",
|
||
"text": "Keep the rest of the night simple"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "allow_different_recovery_speeds",
|
||
"text": "Allow different recovery speeds"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_089",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What kind of reassurance lands best once we have made up?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reassurance",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_are_okay_even_if_this_was_hard",
|
||
"text": "“We are okay, even if this was hard.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_still_choosing_us",
|
||
"text": "“I am still choosing us.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_you_better_now",
|
||
"text": "“I understand you better now.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_keep_working_on_this",
|
||
"text": "“We can keep working on this.”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_are_okay_even_if_this_was_hard",
|
||
"text": "“We are okay, even if this was hard.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_still_choosing_us",
|
||
"text": "“I am still choosing us.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_you_better_now",
|
||
"text": "“I understand you better now.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_keep_working_on_this",
|
||
"text": "“We can keep working on this.”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_090",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When one of us wants closeness and the other wants distance, what helps?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"different_needs",
|
||
"consent",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choose_a_smaller_form_of_connection",
|
||
"text": "Choose a smaller form of connection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "agree_on_when_to_check_again",
|
||
"text": "Agree on when to check again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "do_not_treat_distance_as_rejection",
|
||
"text": "Do not treat distance as rejection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "do_not_use_closeness_as_proof_of_forgiveness",
|
||
"text": "Do not use closeness as proof of forgiveness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "respect_the_answer_given_today",
|
||
"text": "Respect the answer given today"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choose_a_smaller_form_of_connection",
|
||
"text": "Choose a smaller form of connection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "agree_on_when_to_check_again",
|
||
"text": "Agree on when to check again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "do_not_treat_distance_as_rejection",
|
||
"text": "Do not treat distance as rejection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "do_not_use_closeness_as_proof_of_forgiveness",
|
||
"text": "Do not use closeness as proof of forgiveness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "respect_the_answer_given_today",
|
||
"text": "Respect the answer given today"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_091",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which minor repair move would make you smile first?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"minor_repair",
|
||
"warmth",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_note_beside_your_drink",
|
||
"text": "A note beside your drink"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_best_snack_quietly_surrendered",
|
||
"text": "The best snack quietly surrendered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_saved_seat_on_the_couch",
|
||
"text": "A saved seat on the couch"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_text_that_says_truce",
|
||
"text": "A text that says “truce?”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_note_beside_your_drink",
|
||
"text": "A note beside your drink"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_best_snack_quietly_surrendered",
|
||
"text": "The best snack quietly surrendered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_saved_seat_on_the_couch",
|
||
"text": "A saved seat on the couch"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_text_that_says_truce",
|
||
"text": "A text that says “truce?”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_092",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How often does shared humor help you reconnect?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"humor",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Almost never",
|
||
"max_label": "Very often"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_093",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When is humor most helpful after tension between us?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"humor",
|
||
"timing",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_the_hurt_is_understood",
|
||
"text": "After the hurt is understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_both_people_start_smiling",
|
||
"text": "When both people start smiling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "once_the_apology_is_complete",
|
||
"text": "Once the apology is complete"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "during_a_minor_mix_up_only",
|
||
"text": "During a minor mix-up only"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "after_the_hurt_is_understood",
|
||
"text": "After the hurt is understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_both_people_start_smiling",
|
||
"text": "When both people start smiling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "once_the_apology_is_complete",
|
||
"text": "Once the apology is complete"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "during_a_minor_mix_up_only",
|
||
"text": "During a minor mix-up only"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_094",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which details make a small peace offering feel personal?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"peace_offering",
|
||
"personal",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_matches_what_the_person_actually_likes",
|
||
"text": "It matches what the person actually likes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_gesture_is_low_pressure",
|
||
"text": "The gesture is low pressure"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_speech_attached",
|
||
"text": "There is no speech attached"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_arrives_at_the_right_time",
|
||
"text": "It arrives at the right time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_does_not_replace_accountability",
|
||
"text": "It does not replace accountability"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_matches_what_the_person_actually_likes",
|
||
"text": "It matches what the person actually likes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_gesture_is_low_pressure",
|
||
"text": "The gesture is low pressure"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_speech_attached",
|
||
"text": "There is no speech attached"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_arrives_at_the_right_time",
|
||
"text": "It arrives at the right time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_does_not_replace_accountability",
|
||
"text": "It does not replace accountability"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_095",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs mean it is too soon to lighten the mood?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"humor",
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hurt_has_not_been_acknowledged",
|
||
"text": "The hurt has not been acknowledged"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_person_is_still_crying",
|
||
"text": "One person is still crying"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_joke_has_a_target",
|
||
"text": "The joke has a target"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_apology_is_being_avoided",
|
||
"text": "The apology is being avoided"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_laughter_would_be_nervous_rather_than_shared",
|
||
"text": "The laughter would be nervous rather than shared"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hurt_has_not_been_acknowledged",
|
||
"text": "The hurt has not been acknowledged"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_person_is_still_crying",
|
||
"text": "One person is still crying"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_joke_has_a_target",
|
||
"text": "The joke has a target"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_apology_is_being_avoided",
|
||
"text": "The apology is being avoided"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_laughter_would_be_nervous_rather_than_shared",
|
||
"text": "The laughter would be nervous rather than shared"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_096",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which low-effort comforts help after a draining disagreement?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"comfort",
|
||
"recovery",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "fresh_clothes_and_a_quiet_room",
|
||
"text": "Fresh clothes and a quiet room"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_warm_drink",
|
||
"text": "A warm drink"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_walk_outside",
|
||
"text": "A short walk outside"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "music_without_conversation",
|
||
"text": "Music without conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_early_night_with_a_return_plan",
|
||
"text": "An early night with a return plan"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "fresh_clothes_and_a_quiet_room",
|
||
"text": "Fresh clothes and a quiet room"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_warm_drink",
|
||
"text": "A warm drink"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_walk_outside",
|
||
"text": "A short walk outside"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "music_without_conversation",
|
||
"text": "Music without conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_early_night_with_a_return_plan",
|
||
"text": "An early night with a return plan"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_097",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A gentle joke or a completely normal topic?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"lightness_style",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_gentle_joke",
|
||
"text": "A gentle joke"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_completely_normal_topic",
|
||
"text": "A completely normal topic"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_gentle_joke",
|
||
"text": "A gentle joke"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_completely_normal_topic",
|
||
"text": "A completely normal topic"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_098",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps us recover when the argument was mostly exhaustion?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"fatigue",
|
||
"recovery",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "eat_before_trying_again",
|
||
"text": "Eat before trying again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "admit_that_we_are_both_spent",
|
||
"text": "Admit that we are both spent"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sleep_and_revisit_the_real_issue",
|
||
"text": "Sleep and revisit the real issue"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "drop_the_side_comments",
|
||
"text": "Drop the side comments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_tomorrows_plan_simple",
|
||
"text": "Keep tomorrow’s plan simple"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "eat_before_trying_again",
|
||
"text": "Eat before trying again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "admit_that_we_are_both_spent",
|
||
"text": "Admit that we are both spent"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sleep_and_revisit_the_real_issue",
|
||
"text": "Sleep and revisit the real issue"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "drop_the_side_comments",
|
||
"text": "Drop the side comments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_tomorrows_plan_simple",
|
||
"text": "Keep tomorrow’s plan simple"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_099",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "After a tiny misunderstanding, what kind of reset feels right?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"minor_conflict",
|
||
"reset",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quick_we_got_crossed_up",
|
||
"text": "A quick “we got crossed up”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_the_sentence_over",
|
||
"text": "Start the sentence over"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "trade_the_dramatic_version_for_the_real_one",
|
||
"text": "Trade the dramatic version for the real one"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "take_five_minutes_and_return",
|
||
"text": "Take five minutes and return"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "move_on_once_both_people_agree",
|
||
"text": "Move on once both people agree"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quick_we_got_crossed_up",
|
||
"text": "A quick “we got crossed up”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_the_sentence_over",
|
||
"text": "Start the sentence over"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "trade_the_dramatic_version_for_the_real_one",
|
||
"text": "Trade the dramatic version for the real one"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "take_five_minutes_and_return",
|
||
"text": "Take five minutes and return"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "move_on_once_both_people_agree",
|
||
"text": "Move on once both people agree"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_100",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When does a playful truce feel safe rather than dismissive?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"truce",
|
||
"playfulness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_already_feel_understood",
|
||
"text": "Both people already feel understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_is_genuinely_small",
|
||
"text": "The issue is genuinely small"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_is_laughing_at_the_other",
|
||
"text": "No one is laughing at the other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_can_stay_serious",
|
||
"text": "Either person can stay serious"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_real_follow_up_is_not_canceled",
|
||
"text": "The real follow-up is not canceled"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_already_feel_understood",
|
||
"text": "Both people already feel understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_is_genuinely_small",
|
||
"text": "The issue is genuinely small"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_is_laughing_at_the_other",
|
||
"text": "No one is laughing at the other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_can_stay_serious",
|
||
"text": "Either person can stay serious"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_real_follow_up_is_not_canceled",
|
||
"text": "The real follow-up is not canceled"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_101",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What kind of normal moment helps you stop replaying the conflict?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"normalcy",
|
||
"recovery",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "eating_together",
|
||
"text": "Eating together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_routine_drive",
|
||
"text": "A routine drive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "watch_a_familiar_show",
|
||
"text": "Watch a familiar show"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Talk about tomorrow"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "eating_together",
|
||
"text": "Eating together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_routine_drive",
|
||
"text": "A routine drive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "watch_a_familiar_show",
|
||
"text": "Watch a familiar show"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Talk about tomorrow"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_102",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which jokes should stay out of a repair conversation?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"humor",
|
||
"respect",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "anything_about_a_real_insecurity",
|
||
"text": "Anything about a real insecurity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_joke_that_makes_the_apology_disappear",
|
||
"text": "A joke that makes the apology disappear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "private_details_used_for_laughs",
|
||
"text": "Private details used for laughs"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "mocking_the_other_persons_reaction",
|
||
"text": "Mocking the other person’s reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sarcasm_that_restarts_the_argument",
|
||
"text": "Sarcasm that restarts the argument"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "anything_about_a_real_insecurity",
|
||
"text": "Anything about a real insecurity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_joke_that_makes_the_apology_disappear",
|
||
"text": "A joke that makes the apology disappear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "private_details_used_for_laughs",
|
||
"text": "Private details used for laughs"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "mocking_the_other_persons_reaction",
|
||
"text": "Mocking the other person’s reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sarcasm_that_restarts_the_argument",
|
||
"text": "Sarcasm that restarts the argument"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_103",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What harmless misunderstanding of ours can we laugh about now?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_memory",
|
||
"humor",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"max_length": 500
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_104",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which reminders keep one bad hour from becoming the whole relationship?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"perspective",
|
||
"relationship",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "recall_a_recent_good_moment",
|
||
"text": "Recall a recent good moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_what_we_repaired_well",
|
||
"text": "Notice what we repaired well"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_conflict_in_proportion",
|
||
"text": "Keep the conflict in proportion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_one_thing_still_solid_between_us",
|
||
"text": "Name one thing still solid between us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "plan_one_ordinary_thing_for_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Plan one ordinary thing for tomorrow"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "recall_a_recent_good_moment",
|
||
"text": "Recall a recent good moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_what_we_repaired_well",
|
||
"text": "Notice what we repaired well"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_conflict_in_proportion",
|
||
"text": "Keep the conflict in proportion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_one_thing_still_solid_between_us",
|
||
"text": "Name one thing still solid between us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "plan_one_ordinary_thing_for_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Plan one ordinary thing for tomorrow"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_105",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we keep a small issue from becoming the evening’s main event?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"minor_conflict",
|
||
"perspective",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "state_the_issue_in_one_sentence",
|
||
"text": "State the issue in one sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_whether_it_needs_more_time",
|
||
"text": "Decide whether it needs more time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "fix_the_practical_part_first",
|
||
"text": "Fix the practical part first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "skip_the_courtroom_recap",
|
||
"text": "Skip the courtroom recap"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_night_once_it_is_handled",
|
||
"text": "Return to the night once it is handled"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "state_the_issue_in_one_sentence",
|
||
"text": "State the issue in one sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_whether_it_needs_more_time",
|
||
"text": "Decide whether it needs more time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "fix_the_practical_part_first",
|
||
"text": "Fix the practical part first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "skip_the_courtroom_recap",
|
||
"text": "Skip the courtroom recap"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_night_once_it_is_handled",
|
||
"text": "Return to the night once it is handled"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_106",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When is a follow-up conversation truly worth having?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"follow_up",
|
||
"purpose",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "something_important_remains_unclear",
|
||
"text": "Something important remains unclear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_promised_change_needs_review",
|
||
"text": "A promised change needs review"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "new_information_has_come_up",
|
||
"text": "New information has come up"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hurt_keeps_resurfacing",
|
||
"text": "The hurt keeps resurfacing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_have_more_capacity_now",
|
||
"text": "Both people have more capacity now"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "something_important_remains_unclear",
|
||
"text": "Something important remains unclear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_promised_change_needs_review",
|
||
"text": "A promised change needs review"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "new_information_has_come_up",
|
||
"text": "New information has come up"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hurt_keeps_resurfacing",
|
||
"text": "The hurt keeps resurfacing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_have_more_capacity_now",
|
||
"text": "Both people have more capacity now"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_107",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which question best checks whether repair actually helped?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"follow_up",
|
||
"check_in",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "does_anything_still_feel_missed",
|
||
"text": "“Does anything still feel missed?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "did_our_plan_make_a_difference",
|
||
"text": "“Did our plan make a difference?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "is_there_a_part_you_are_carrying_alone",
|
||
"text": "“Is there a part you are carrying alone?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_should_we_keep_doing",
|
||
"text": "“What should we keep doing?”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "does_anything_still_feel_missed",
|
||
"text": "“Does anything still feel missed?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "did_our_plan_make_a_difference",
|
||
"text": "“Did our plan make a difference?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "is_there_a_part_you_are_carrying_alone",
|
||
"text": "“Is there a part you are carrying alone?”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_should_we_keep_doing",
|
||
"text": "“What should we keep doing?”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_108",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What should we do when repair helps but does not fully resolve the issue?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"unfinished_issue",
|
||
"next_step",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_another_time_to_talk",
|
||
"text": "Set another time to talk"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "write_down_the_remaining_point",
|
||
"text": "Write down the remaining point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "get_through_the_immediate_day_first",
|
||
"text": "Get through the immediate day first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_whether_the_issue_belongs_elsewhere",
|
||
"text": "Decide whether the issue belongs elsewhere"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_another_time_to_talk",
|
||
"text": "Set another time to talk"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "write_down_the_remaining_point",
|
||
"text": "Write down the remaining point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "get_through_the_immediate_day_first",
|
||
"text": "Get through the immediate day first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_whether_the_issue_belongs_elsewhere",
|
||
"text": "Decide whether the issue belongs elsewhere"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_109",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How comfortable are you saying that an issue still feels unfinished?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"unfinished_issue",
|
||
"honesty",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not comfortable yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very comfortable"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_110",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Would you rather schedule the follow-up now or decide tomorrow?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"follow_up_timing",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "schedule_the_follow_up_now",
|
||
"text": "Schedule the follow-up now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Decide tomorrow"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "schedule_the_follow_up_now",
|
||
"text": "Schedule the follow-up now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "decide_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Decide tomorrow"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_111",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When no perfect solution exists, what can still count as repair?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"unresolved_difference",
|
||
"acceptance",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "understanding_the_other_persons_position",
|
||
"text": "Understanding the other person’s position"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_respectful_behavior_agreement",
|
||
"text": "A respectful behavior agreement"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "protecting_each_persons_dignity",
|
||
"text": "Protecting each person’s dignity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "find_a_temporary_compromise",
|
||
"text": "Find a temporary compromise"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "room_for_mixed_feelings",
|
||
"text": "Room for mixed feelings"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "understanding_the_other_persons_position",
|
||
"text": "Understanding the other person’s position"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_respectful_behavior_agreement",
|
||
"text": "A respectful behavior agreement"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "protecting_each_persons_dignity",
|
||
"text": "Protecting each person’s dignity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "find_a_temporary_compromise",
|
||
"text": "Find a temporary compromise"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "room_for_mixed_feelings",
|
||
"text": "Room for mixed feelings"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_112",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps prevent an unfinished issue from becoming silent resentment?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"resentment",
|
||
"follow_up",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_visible_plan_to_revisit_it",
|
||
"text": "A visible plan to revisit it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "permission_to_raise_it_calmly",
|
||
"text": "Permission to raise it calmly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "small_updates_on_promised_changes",
|
||
"text": "Small updates on promised changes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "honest_answers_about_progress",
|
||
"text": "Honest answers about progress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_punishment_for_needing_more_time",
|
||
"text": "No punishment for needing more time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_visible_plan_to_revisit_it",
|
||
"text": "A visible plan to revisit it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "permission_to_raise_it_calmly",
|
||
"text": "Permission to raise it calmly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "small_updates_on_promised_changes",
|
||
"text": "Small updates on promised changes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "honest_answers_about_progress",
|
||
"text": "Honest answers about progress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_punishment_for_needing_more_time",
|
||
"text": "No punishment for needing more time"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_113",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which topics deserve more than one repair conversation?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"complex_issues",
|
||
"pacing",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pattern_that_has_lasted_a_long_time",
|
||
"text": "A pattern that has lasted a long time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_decision_affecting_both_lives",
|
||
"text": "A decision affecting both lives"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hurt_involving_family_or_friends",
|
||
"text": "Hurt involving family or friends"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_change_that_needs_practice",
|
||
"text": "A change that needs practice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "anything_either_person_cannot_talk_through_safely_in_one_sitting",
|
||
"text": "Anything either person cannot talk through safely in one sitting"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pattern_that_has_lasted_a_long_time",
|
||
"text": "A pattern that has lasted a long time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_decision_affecting_both_lives",
|
||
"text": "A decision affecting both lives"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hurt_involving_family_or_friends",
|
||
"text": "Hurt involving family or friends"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_change_that_needs_practice",
|
||
"text": "A change that needs practice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "anything_either_person_cannot_talk_through_safely_in_one_sitting",
|
||
"text": "Anything either person cannot talk through safely in one sitting"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_114",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "How should we end a talk that cannot be finished tonight?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"ending",
|
||
"unfinished_issue",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_what_remains",
|
||
"text": "Name what remains"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_a_realistic_return_time",
|
||
"text": "Set a realistic return time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confirm_any_immediate_agreements",
|
||
"text": "Confirm any immediate agreements"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offer_a_kind_closing_without_false_resolution",
|
||
"text": "Offer a kind closing without false resolution"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_what_remains",
|
||
"text": "Name what remains"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "set_a_realistic_return_time",
|
||
"text": "Set a realistic return time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confirm_any_immediate_agreements",
|
||
"text": "Confirm any immediate agreements"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offer_a_kind_closing_without_false_resolution",
|
||
"text": "Offer a kind closing without false resolution"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_115",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What keeps a follow-up from feeling like the argument is being reopened?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"follow_up",
|
||
"safety",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_with_what_was_already_resolved",
|
||
"text": "Start with what was already resolved"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_one_remaining_point",
|
||
"text": "Name the one remaining point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_repeating_the_entire_timeline",
|
||
"text": "Avoid repeating the entire timeline"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_the_agreement_as_a_starting_place",
|
||
"text": "Use the agreement as a starting place"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stop_if_the_old_fight_takes_over",
|
||
"text": "Stop if the old fight takes over"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_with_what_was_already_resolved",
|
||
"text": "Start with what was already resolved"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_one_remaining_point",
|
||
"text": "Name the one remaining point"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_repeating_the_entire_timeline",
|
||
"text": "Avoid repeating the entire timeline"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_the_agreement_as_a_starting_place",
|
||
"text": "Use the agreement as a starting place"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stop_if_the_old_fight_takes_over",
|
||
"text": "Stop if the old fight takes over"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_116",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How much time usually helps you know what is still bothering you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reflection",
|
||
"timing",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Very little time",
|
||
"max_label": "Several days"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_117",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What belongs in a next-day check-in after a hard disagreement?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"next_day",
|
||
"check_in",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "how_each_person_feels_now",
|
||
"text": "How each person feels now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "whether_the_apology_still_lands",
|
||
"text": "Whether the apology still lands"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "any_concern_about_the_plan",
|
||
"text": "Any concern about the plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_worked_during_the_repair",
|
||
"text": "What worked during the repair"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "whether_more_conversation_is_wanted",
|
||
"text": "Whether more conversation is wanted"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "how_each_person_feels_now",
|
||
"text": "How each person feels now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "whether_the_apology_still_lands",
|
||
"text": "Whether the apology still lands"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "any_concern_about_the_plan",
|
||
"text": "Any concern about the plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "what_worked_during_the_repair",
|
||
"text": "What worked during the repair"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "whether_more_conversation_is_wanted",
|
||
"text": "Whether more conversation is wanted"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_118",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "If we remember the conversation differently later, what helps?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"memory",
|
||
"difference",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "compare_the_main_takeaway_not_every_word",
|
||
"text": "Compare the main takeaway, not every word"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "admit_uncertainty",
|
||
"text": "Admit uncertainty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "focus_on_the_agreement_we_made",
|
||
"text": "Focus on the agreement we made"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_each_person_needs_now",
|
||
"text": "Ask what each person needs now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_using_memory_as_a_character_test",
|
||
"text": "Avoid using memory as a character test"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "compare_the_main_takeaway_not_every_word",
|
||
"text": "Compare the main takeaway, not every word"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "admit_uncertainty",
|
||
"text": "Admit uncertainty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "focus_on_the_agreement_we_made",
|
||
"text": "Focus on the agreement we made"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_each_person_needs_now",
|
||
"text": "Ask what each person needs now"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_using_memory_as_a_character_test",
|
||
"text": "Avoid using memory as a character test"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_119",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs show that we closed the talk too early?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"unfinished_issue",
|
||
"signals",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_concern_returns_immediately",
|
||
"text": "The same concern returns immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_person_agreed_just_to_stop",
|
||
"text": "One person agreed just to stop"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_next_step_is_vague",
|
||
"text": "The next step is vague"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "warmth_disappears_once_the_talk_ends",
|
||
"text": "Warmth disappears once the talk ends"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "important_questions_were_skipped",
|
||
"text": "Important questions were skipped"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_concern_returns_immediately",
|
||
"text": "The same concern returns immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_person_agreed_just_to_stop",
|
||
"text": "One person agreed just to stop"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_next_step_is_vague",
|
||
"text": "The next step is vague"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "warmth_disappears_once_the_talk_ends",
|
||
"text": "Warmth disappears once the talk ends"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "important_questions_were_skipped",
|
||
"text": "Important questions were skipped"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_120",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What kind of follow-up feels easiest to receive?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"follow_up",
|
||
"format",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A short check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sit_down_at_a_planned_time",
|
||
"text": "Sit down at a planned time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_with_a_thoughtful_text",
|
||
"text": "Start with a thoughtful text"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "bring_it_up_during_a_calm_moment",
|
||
"text": "Bring it up during a calm moment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_short_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A short check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sit_down_at_a_planned_time",
|
||
"text": "Sit down at a planned time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "start_with_a_thoughtful_text",
|
||
"text": "Start with a thoughtful text"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "bring_it_up_during_a_calm_moment",
|
||
"text": "Bring it up during a calm moment"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_121",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What can make a promise after conflict more believable?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"promise",
|
||
"credibility",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_promise_is_specific",
|
||
"text": "The promise is specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_person_chooses_the_action_themselves",
|
||
"text": "The person chooses the action themselves"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_a_way_to_notice_progress",
|
||
"text": "There is a way to notice progress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_timeline_is_realistic",
|
||
"text": "The timeline is realistic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "past_difficulty_is_acknowledged",
|
||
"text": "Past difficulty is acknowledged"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_promise_is_specific",
|
||
"text": "The promise is specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_person_chooses_the_action_themselves",
|
||
"text": "The person chooses the action themselves"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_a_way_to_notice_progress",
|
||
"text": "There is a way to notice progress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_timeline_is_realistic",
|
||
"text": "The timeline is realistic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "past_difficulty_is_acknowledged",
|
||
"text": "Past difficulty is acknowledged"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_122",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What should happen after a setback in a repair pattern?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"setback",
|
||
"accountability",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "own_it_sooner",
|
||
"text": "Own it sooner"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "check_whether_new_hurt_was_caused",
|
||
"text": "Check whether new hurt was caused"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_plan",
|
||
"text": "Return to the plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "change_what_was_unrealistic",
|
||
"text": "Change what was unrealistic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "give_trust_time_to_catch_up",
|
||
"text": "Give trust time to catch up"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "own_it_sooner",
|
||
"text": "Own it sooner"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "check_whether_new_hurt_was_caused",
|
||
"text": "Check whether new hurt was caused"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "return_to_the_plan",
|
||
"text": "Return to the plan"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "change_what_was_unrealistic",
|
||
"text": "Change what was unrealistic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "give_trust_time_to_catch_up",
|
||
"text": "Give trust time to catch up"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_123",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What is one repair habit you would like us to practice until it feels natural?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_habit",
|
||
"future",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"max_length": 500
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_124",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of change would reassure you most after conflict?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"changed_behavior",
|
||
"reassurance",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_different_response_next_time",
|
||
"text": "A different response next time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "more_consistency_in_small_moments",
|
||
"text": "More consistency in small moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "faster_ownership_when_harm_happens",
|
||
"text": "Faster ownership when harm happens"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "better_follow_through_on_our_agreement",
|
||
"text": "Better follow-through on our agreement"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_different_response_next_time",
|
||
"text": "A different response next time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "more_consistency_in_small_moments",
|
||
"text": "More consistency in small moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "faster_ownership_when_harm_happens",
|
||
"text": "Faster ownership when harm happens"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "better_follow_through_on_our_agreement",
|
||
"text": "Better follow-through on our agreement"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_125",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a repair plan realistic enough to follow?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_plan",
|
||
"realistic_change",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_behavior_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "One behavior at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_example_of_the_new_response",
|
||
"text": "A clear example of the new response"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_plan_that_fits_ordinary_life",
|
||
"text": "A plan that fits ordinary life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "room_to_notice_setbacks_early",
|
||
"text": "Room to notice setbacks early"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_date_to_check_progress",
|
||
"text": "A date to check progress"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_behavior_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "One behavior at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_example_of_the_new_response",
|
||
"text": "A clear example of the new response"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_plan_that_fits_ordinary_life",
|
||
"text": "A plan that fits ordinary life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "room_to_notice_setbacks_early",
|
||
"text": "Room to notice setbacks early"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_date_to_check_progress",
|
||
"text": "A date to check progress"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_126",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How confident are you that our repair talks lead to real change?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"changed_behavior",
|
||
"confidence",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not confident yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very confident"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_127",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What is the most useful response when we catch the pattern early?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"patterns",
|
||
"interruption",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_it_without_blame",
|
||
"text": "Name it without blame"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_the_agreed_pause",
|
||
"text": "Use the agreed pause"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "change_the_setting",
|
||
"text": "Change the setting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_we_are_actually_trying_to_repair",
|
||
"text": "Ask what we are actually trying to repair"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_it_without_blame",
|
||
"text": "Name it without blame"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_the_agreed_pause",
|
||
"text": "Use the agreed pause"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "change_the_setting",
|
||
"text": "Change the setting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_we_are_actually_trying_to_repair",
|
||
"text": "Ask what we are actually trying to repair"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_128",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps a new repair habit become easier to remember?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"habits",
|
||
"practice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_habit_simple",
|
||
"text": "Keep the habit simple"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_it_during_small_tensions_first",
|
||
"text": "Use it during small tensions first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remind_each_other_without_ridicule",
|
||
"text": "Remind each other without ridicule"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_when_it_works",
|
||
"text": "Notice when it works"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "adjust_it_after_a_real_test",
|
||
"text": "Adjust it after a real test"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_the_habit_simple",
|
||
"text": "Keep the habit simple"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_it_during_small_tensions_first",
|
||
"text": "Use it during small tensions first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remind_each_other_without_ridicule",
|
||
"text": "Remind each other without ridicule"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_when_it_works",
|
||
"text": "Notice when it works"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "adjust_it_after_a_real_test",
|
||
"text": "Adjust it after a real test"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_129",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Would one firm agreement or a flexible experiment work better?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_plan_style",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_firm_agreement",
|
||
"text": "One firm agreement"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_flexible_experiment",
|
||
"text": "A flexible experiment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_firm_agreement",
|
||
"text": "One firm agreement"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_flexible_experiment",
|
||
"text": "A flexible experiment"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_130",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When should a repair plan involve outside help?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"support",
|
||
"limits",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_harm_keeps_escalating",
|
||
"text": "The same harm keeps escalating"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "neither_person_feels_safe_talking",
|
||
"text": "Neither person feels safe talking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "promises_repeatedly_collapse",
|
||
"text": "Promises repeatedly collapse"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_conflict_affects_daily_functioning",
|
||
"text": "The conflict affects daily functioning"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_want_more_support_than_the_app_can_offer",
|
||
"text": "Both people want more support than the app can offer"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_harm_keeps_escalating",
|
||
"text": "The same harm keeps escalating"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "neither_person_feels_safe_talking",
|
||
"text": "Neither person feels safe talking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "promises_repeatedly_collapse",
|
||
"text": "Promises repeatedly collapse"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_conflict_affects_daily_functioning",
|
||
"text": "The conflict affects daily functioning"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_want_more_support_than_the_app_can_offer",
|
||
"text": "Both people want more support than the app can offer"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_131",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we review a repair agreement without making it a performance score?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"review",
|
||
"progress",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_what_helped",
|
||
"text": "Talk about what helped"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_obstacles_honestly",
|
||
"text": "Name obstacles honestly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_grading_each_other",
|
||
"text": "Avoid grading each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "revise_the_agreement_together",
|
||
"text": "Revise the agreement together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_one_next_step",
|
||
"text": "Keep one next step"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_what_helped",
|
||
"text": "Talk about what helped"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_obstacles_honestly",
|
||
"text": "Name obstacles honestly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "avoid_grading_each_other",
|
||
"text": "Avoid grading each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "revise_the_agreement_together",
|
||
"text": "Revise the agreement together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_one_next_step",
|
||
"text": "Keep one next step"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_132",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps when one of us forgets the new plan in the moment?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"setback",
|
||
"repair_plan",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_a_neutral_reminder_word",
|
||
"text": "Use a neutral reminder word"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "pause_before_correcting_the_delivery",
|
||
"text": "Pause before correcting the delivery"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "try_the_new_response_immediately",
|
||
"text": "Try the new response immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_the_miss_after_things_settle",
|
||
"text": "Talk about the miss after things settle"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "treat_one_slip_as_information_not_proof",
|
||
"text": "Treat one slip as information, not proof"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_a_neutral_reminder_word",
|
||
"text": "Use a neutral reminder word"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "pause_before_correcting_the_delivery",
|
||
"text": "Pause before correcting the delivery"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "try_the_new_response_immediately",
|
||
"text": "Try the new response immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talk_about_the_miss_after_things_settle",
|
||
"text": "Talk about the miss after things settle"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "treat_one_slip_as_information_not_proof",
|
||
"text": "Treat one slip as information, not proof"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_133",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which sign would show that we are repairing faster over time?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"progress",
|
||
"repair_speed",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_tension_sooner",
|
||
"text": "We notice tension sooner"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologies_need_less_prompting",
|
||
"text": "Apologies need less prompting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "breaks_have_reliable_returns",
|
||
"text": "Breaks have reliable returns"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_issue_takes_fewer_rounds",
|
||
"text": "The same issue takes fewer rounds"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_tension_sooner",
|
||
"text": "We notice tension sooner"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologies_need_less_prompting",
|
||
"text": "Apologies need less prompting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "breaks_have_reliable_returns",
|
||
"text": "Breaks have reliable returns"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_issue_takes_fewer_rounds",
|
||
"text": "The same issue takes fewer rounds"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_134",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When the new behavior feels awkward, what helps us keep trying?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"practice",
|
||
"awkwardness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "expect_it_to_sound_imperfect",
|
||
"text": "Expect it to sound imperfect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "praise_the_attempt_without_overdoing_it",
|
||
"text": "Praise the attempt without overdoing it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "correct_gently",
|
||
"text": "Correct gently"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remember_why_the_change_matters",
|
||
"text": "Remember why the change matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_humor_only_when_both_feel_safe",
|
||
"text": "Use humor only when both feel safe"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "expect_it_to_sound_imperfect",
|
||
"text": "Expect it to sound imperfect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "praise_the_attempt_without_overdoing_it",
|
||
"text": "Praise the attempt without overdoing it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "correct_gently",
|
||
"text": "Correct gently"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remember_why_the_change_matters",
|
||
"text": "Remember why the change matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_humor_only_when_both_feel_safe",
|
||
"text": "Use humor only when both feel safe"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_135",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which early signs tell us the old pattern is returning?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"patterns",
|
||
"early_signs",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_phrases_appear",
|
||
"text": "The same phrases appear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_person_starts_chasing_an_ending",
|
||
"text": "One person starts chasing an ending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_spreads_to_unrelated_topics",
|
||
"text": "The issue spreads to unrelated topics"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pause_becomes_impossible",
|
||
"text": "A pause becomes impossible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_predict_the_next_line",
|
||
"text": "Both people predict the next line"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_same_phrases_appear",
|
||
"text": "The same phrases appear"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_person_starts_chasing_an_ending",
|
||
"text": "One person starts chasing an ending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_spreads_to_unrelated_topics",
|
||
"text": "The issue spreads to unrelated topics"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pause_becomes_impossible",
|
||
"text": "A pause becomes impossible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_predict_the_next_line",
|
||
"text": "Both people predict the next line"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_136",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How proud are you of the way we repair compared with a year ago?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"progress",
|
||
"reflection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not proud yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very proud"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_137",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A regular repair check-in or only when something happens?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_routine",
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_regular_repair_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A regular repair check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "only_when_something_happens",
|
||
"text": "Only when something happens"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_regular_repair_check_in",
|
||
"text": "A regular repair check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "only_when_something_happens",
|
||
"text": "Only when something happens"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_138",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps repair feel like something we do together?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"teamwork",
|
||
"repair",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_can_ask_for_a_restart",
|
||
"text": "Both people can ask for a restart"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_plan_is_not_one_sided",
|
||
"text": "The plan is not one-sided"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_persons_pace_matters",
|
||
"text": "Each person’s pace matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_share_responsibility_for_the_tone",
|
||
"text": "We share responsibility for the tone"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "success_is_defined_together",
|
||
"text": "Success is defined together"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_can_ask_for_a_restart",
|
||
"text": "Both people can ask for a restart"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_plan_is_not_one_sided",
|
||
"text": "The plan is not one-sided"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_persons_pace_matters",
|
||
"text": "Each person’s pace matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_share_responsibility_for_the_tone",
|
||
"text": "We share responsibility for the tone"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "success_is_defined_together",
|
||
"text": "Success is defined together"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_139",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When would this pack feel genuinely useful to us?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"pack_feedback",
|
||
"usefulness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_learn_each_others_repair_preferences",
|
||
"text": "We learn each other’s repair preferences"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_question_gives_us_a_better_phrase",
|
||
"text": "One question gives us a better phrase"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_new_agreement_works_in_real_life",
|
||
"text": "A new agreement works in real life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_feel_less_alone_after_conflict",
|
||
"text": "We feel less alone after conflict"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_answers_are_easy_to_compare",
|
||
"text": "The answers are easy to compare"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_learn_each_others_repair_preferences",
|
||
"text": "We learn each other’s repair preferences"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_question_gives_us_a_better_phrase",
|
||
"text": "One question gives us a better phrase"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_new_agreement_works_in_real_life",
|
||
"text": "A new agreement works in real life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_feel_less_alone_after_conflict",
|
||
"text": "We feel less alone after conflict"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_answers_are_easy_to_compare",
|
||
"text": "The answers are easy to compare"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_140",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What should remain true even when repair is difficult?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"safety",
|
||
"core_values",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_owes_instant_forgiveness",
|
||
"text": "No one owes instant forgiveness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_stays_optional",
|
||
"text": "Affection stays optional"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "privacy_and_independence_still_matter",
|
||
"text": "Privacy and independence still matter"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "cruelty_is_not_part_of_honesty",
|
||
"text": "Cruelty is not part of honesty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_can_step_back_from_an_unsafe_exchange",
|
||
"text": "Either person can step back from an unsafe exchange"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "no_one_owes_instant_forgiveness",
|
||
"text": "No one owes instant forgiveness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_stays_optional",
|
||
"text": "Affection stays optional"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "privacy_and_independence_still_matter",
|
||
"text": "Privacy and independence still matter"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "cruelty_is_not_part_of_honesty",
|
||
"text": "Cruelty is not part of honesty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_can_step_back_from_an_unsafe_exchange",
|
||
"text": "Either person can step back from an unsafe exchange"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_141",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which sentence would make a good repair ritual for us?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"ritual",
|
||
"repair_language",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_be_upset_and_still_be_a_team",
|
||
"text": "“We can be upset and still be a team.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "lets_understand_before_we_decide",
|
||
"text": "“Let’s understand before we decide.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_have_to_finish_this_badly",
|
||
"text": "“We do not have to finish this badly.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_try_this_part_again",
|
||
"text": "“We can try this part again.”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_be_upset_and_still_be_a_team",
|
||
"text": "“We can be upset and still be a team.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "lets_understand_before_we_decide",
|
||
"text": "“Let’s understand before we decide.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_have_to_finish_this_badly",
|
||
"text": "“We do not have to finish this badly.”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_try_this_part_again",
|
||
"text": "“We can try this part again.”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_142",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "How can we celebrate a repair win without pretending conflict is good?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_success",
|
||
"appreciation",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_what_we_handled_better",
|
||
"text": "Notice what we handled better"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "thank_each_other_for_one_effort",
|
||
"text": "Thank each other for one effort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_the_lesson_next_time",
|
||
"text": "Use the lesson next time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "enjoy_the_relief_without_praising_the_fight",
|
||
"text": "Enjoy the relief without praising the fight"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_the_good_moment_stand_on_its_own",
|
||
"text": "Let the good moment stand on its own"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "notice_what_we_handled_better",
|
||
"text": "Notice what we handled better"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "thank_each_other_for_one_effort",
|
||
"text": "Thank each other for one effort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_the_lesson_next_time",
|
||
"text": "Use the lesson next time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "enjoy_the_relief_without_praising_the_fight",
|
||
"text": "Enjoy the relief without praising the fight"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "let_the_good_moment_stand_on_its_own",
|
||
"text": "Let the good moment stand on its own"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
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"id": "conflict_repair_143",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How hopeful are you that we can repair well after the next disagreement?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hope",
|
||
"future",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not hopeful yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very hopeful"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_144",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps prevent repair from becoming one person’s job?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_responsibility",
|
||
"fairness",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_can_initiate_it",
|
||
"text": "Either person can initiate it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_learn_the_agreed_tools",
|
||
"text": "Both people learn the agreed tools"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_calmer_partner_is_not_always_responsible",
|
||
"text": "The calmer partner is not always responsible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologies_are_not_assigned_by_role",
|
||
"text": "Apologies are not assigned by role"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_notices_their_own_patterns",
|
||
"text": "Each person notices their own patterns"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "either_person_can_initiate_it",
|
||
"text": "Either person can initiate it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_learn_the_agreed_tools",
|
||
"text": "Both people learn the agreed tools"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_calmer_partner_is_not_always_responsible",
|
||
"text": "The calmer partner is not always responsible"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "apologies_are_not_assigned_by_role",
|
||
"text": "Apologies are not assigned by role"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "each_person_notices_their_own_patterns",
|
||
"text": "Each person notices their own patterns"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_145",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which reminders help us stay kind while still being honest?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"kindness",
|
||
"honesty",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "this_person_is_not_the_problem_to_defeat",
|
||
"text": "This person is not the problem to defeat"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "truth_does_not_need_cruelty",
|
||
"text": "Truth does not need cruelty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pause_can_protect_the_conversation",
|
||
"text": "A pause can protect the conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_understood_may_take_more_than_one_try",
|
||
"text": "Being understood may take more than one try"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_goal_is_a_workable_relationship_afterward",
|
||
"text": "The goal is a workable relationship afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "this_person_is_not_the_problem_to_defeat",
|
||
"text": "This person is not the problem to defeat"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "truth_does_not_need_cruelty",
|
||
"text": "Truth does not need cruelty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_pause_can_protect_the_conversation",
|
||
"text": "A pause can protect the conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_understood_may_take_more_than_one_try",
|
||
"text": "Being understood may take more than one try"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_goal_is_a_workable_relationship_afterward",
|
||
"text": "The goal is a workable relationship afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_146",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What deserves appreciation after a hard repair conversation?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"appreciation",
|
||
"repair",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_courage_to_return",
|
||
"text": "The courage to return"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "honesty_that_stayed_respectful",
|
||
"text": "Honesty that stayed respectful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_real_apology",
|
||
"text": "A real apology"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "patience_with_different_speeds",
|
||
"text": "Patience with different speeds"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "following_through_afterward",
|
||
"text": "Following through afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_courage_to_return",
|
||
"text": "The courage to return"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "honesty_that_stayed_respectful",
|
||
"text": "Honesty that stayed respectful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_real_apology",
|
||
"text": "A real apology"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "patience_with_different_speeds",
|
||
"text": "Patience with different speeds"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "following_through_afterward",
|
||
"text": "Following through afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_147",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which repair strength do you think we already have?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"strengths",
|
||
"repair",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "coming_back_eventually",
|
||
"text": "Coming back eventually"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_admit_when_we_are_wrong",
|
||
"text": "We can admit when we are wrong"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "protecting_each_others_dignity",
|
||
"text": "Protecting each other’s dignity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "not_giving_up_after_a_hard_round",
|
||
"text": "Not giving up after a hard round"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "coming_back_eventually",
|
||
"text": "Coming back eventually"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_admit_when_we_are_wrong",
|
||
"text": "We can admit when we are wrong"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "protecting_each_others_dignity",
|
||
"text": "Protecting each other’s dignity"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "not_giving_up_after_a_hard_round",
|
||
"text": "Not giving up after a hard round"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_148",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What would make a repair check-in feel natural rather than formal?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"check_in",
|
||
"natural_voice",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_during_a_drive",
|
||
"text": "Ask during a drive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_it_under_ten_minutes",
|
||
"text": "Keep it under ten minutes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_one_familiar_question",
|
||
"text": "Use one familiar question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "bring_it_up_after_a_calm_day",
|
||
"text": "Bring it up after a calm day"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_during_a_drive",
|
||
"text": "Ask during a drive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keep_it_under_ten_minutes",
|
||
"text": "Keep it under ten minutes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "use_one_familiar_question",
|
||
"text": "Use one familiar question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "bring_it_up_after_a_calm_day",
|
||
"text": "Bring it up after a calm day"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_149",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes our best repair moments different from the rough ones?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"repair_success",
|
||
"reflection",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_start_before_resentment_builds",
|
||
"text": "We start before resentment builds"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_have_enough_energy",
|
||
"text": "Both people have enough energy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_stays_specific",
|
||
"text": "The issue stays specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "curiosity_lasts_longer",
|
||
"text": "Curiosity lasts longer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_end_with_a_clear_next_step",
|
||
"text": "We end with a clear next step"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_start_before_resentment_builds",
|
||
"text": "We start before resentment builds"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_people_have_enough_energy",
|
||
"text": "Both people have enough energy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_issue_stays_specific",
|
||
"text": "The issue stays specific"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "curiosity_lasts_longer",
|
||
"text": "Curiosity lasts longer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_end_with_a_clear_next_step",
|
||
"text": "We end with a clear next step"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conflict_repair_150",
|
||
"category_id": "conflict_repair",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs would tell you our repair culture is getting healthier?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"healthier_patterns",
|
||
"progress",
|
||
"conflict_repair"
|
||
],
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "less_fear_before_returning",
|
||
"text": "Less fear before returning"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "shorter_periods_of_cold_distance",
|
||
"text": "Shorter periods of cold distance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "more_specific_apologies",
|
||
"text": "More specific apologies"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "fewer_repeat_wounds",
|
||
"text": "Fewer repeat wounds"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "warmth_returns_without_pressure",
|
||
"text": "Warmth returns without pressure"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "less_fear_before_returning",
|
||
"text": "Less fear before returning"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "shorter_periods_of_cold_distance",
|
||
"text": "Shorter periods of cold distance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "more_specific_apologies",
|
||
"text": "More specific apologies"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "fewer_repeat_wounds",
|
||
"text": "Fewer repeat wounds"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "warmth_returns_without_pressure",
|
||
"text": "Warmth returns without pressure"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|