Closer/seed/questions/rebuilding_trust.json

{
  "id": "rebuilding_trust_v2",
  "title": "Rebuilding Trust",
  "access": "mixed",
  "description": "Honest, forward-looking questions for couples actively working to rebuild trust — small actions, follow-through, gentle check-ins, and patience for the slow work of repair.",
  "count": 25,
  "free_count": 7,
  "premium_count": 18,
  "questions": [
    {
      "id": "rt_001",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What small thing I do lately actually feels trustworthy?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "free",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_kepx", "text": "Following through on small things" },
        { "id": "opt_qnbl", "text": "Telling me the truth quickly" },
        { "id": "opt_vwrm", "text": "Checking in without being asked" },
        { "id": "opt_jhct", "text": "Sticking to what we agreed on" },
        { "id": "opt_pzfs", "text": "Being where I say I will be" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_002",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps you feel actually heard by me?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "free",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_uqal", "text": "Letting me finish my thought" },
        { "id": "opt_bwvn", "text": "Asking a real follow-up question" },
        { "id": "opt_mxrk", "text": "Noticing how I feel, not just what I said" },
        { "id": "opt_fyld", "text": "Saying back what I meant in your own words" },
        { "id": "opt_dzqg", "text": "Not jumping straight to fixing it" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_003",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which of these would feel like a small win this week?",
      "depth": "light",
      "access": "free",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_tncs", "text": "A short check-in over coffee" },
        { "id": "opt_lmfb", "text": "A walk with no phones" },
        { "id": "opt_hrwd", "text": "A quick goodnight text while apart" },
        { "id": "opt_vbpx", "text": "A plan for one shared meal" },
        { "id": "opt_kqzr", "text": "A ten-minute talk before bed" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_004",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "What makes an apology feel real to you?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "free",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_gxpk", "text": "It names what happened, not just how I felt" },
        { "id": "opt_sjct", "text": "It comes quickly, not after I push" },
        { "id": "opt_yrlz", "text": "It comes with a clear next step" },
        { "id": "opt_pqnh", "text": "It is followed by changed behavior" },
        { "id": "opt_fvmq", "text": "It leaves room for my feelings" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_005",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How safe does our relationship feel to you right now?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "free",
      "scale": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Still pretty shaky",
        "max_label": "Mostly steady"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_006",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "How would a good check-in between us usually start?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "free",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_mthb", "text": "A simple 'how are we doing?'" },
        { "id": "opt_xrfk", "text": "Walking side by side, not face to face" },
        { "id": "opt_wlcq", "text": "After a calm moment, not in the middle of stress" },
        { "id": "opt_hbpn", "text": "With one specific thing to talk about" },
        { "id": "opt_dnqr", "text": "After I have had time to think" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_007",
      "type": "this_or_that",
      "text": "When something feels off, would you rather talk it through right away or sit with it a bit first?",
      "depth": "light",
      "access": "free",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_right_away", "text": "Right away" },
        { "id": "opt_sit_with_it", "text": "Sit with it a bit first" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_008",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What everyday habit from me helps you trust that I will keep showing up?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_qwzl", "text": "Answering texts in a reasonable time" },
        { "id": "opt_vpkb", "text": "Saying when plans change" },
        { "id": "opt_fhqx", "text": "Following through on small promises" },
        { "id": "opt_mcyd", "text": "Asking about my day, then actually listening" },
        { "id": "opt_nxjr", "text": "Telling me where I am going when I leave" },
        { "id": "opt_tbwm", "text": "Doing the thing I said I would do" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_009",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which parts of an apology tend to land best for you?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_aqvn", "text": "A clear 'I was wrong' without excuses" },
        { "id": "opt_yrfd", "text": "Hearing that your feelings make sense" },
        { "id": "opt_ljmp", "text": "A specific plan for what changes next" },
        { "id": "opt_krwt", "text": "Time to calm down before the conversation" },
        { "id": "opt_bhfs", "text": "A check-in a few days later, not just once" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_010",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "How could we keep track of promises we have made to each other?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_dlxg", "text": "Write them down together" },
        { "id": "opt_yrbc", "text": "Mention them at our weekly check-in" },
        { "id": "opt_qzmp", "text": "Each of us repeats them back in our own words" },
        { "id": "opt_wfkh", "text": "A short Sunday review over coffee" },
        { "id": "opt_nlsk", "text": "We do not need a system, just follow through" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_011",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What helps a hard question feel like care, not an interrogation?",
      "depth": "deep",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_wrnq", "text": "Asking, not assuming" },
        { "id": "opt_hkql", "text": "Letting me say 'not now' without it turning into a fight" },
        { "id": "opt_yjbt", "text": "Starting with how I am feeling, not what I think you did" },
        { "id": "opt_cwfk", "text": "A gentle tone, even when it is a serious topic" },
        { "id": "opt_rqzd", "text": "A clear 'I want to understand, not argue'" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_012",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When you share something that hurt, what would feel most like being believed?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_jrmb", "text": "You take time before responding" },
        { "id": "opt_ktwc", "text": "You ask what it felt like for me" },
        { "id": "opt_xqbh", "text": "You do not get defensive right away" },
        { "id": "opt_lfpn", "text": "You say back what you heard me say" },
        { "id": "opt_bpzv", "text": "You focus on repair, not on explaining it away" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_013",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What pace for rebuilding feels right to you right now?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_mcwj", "text": "Slow and steady, one small thing at a time" },
        { "id": "opt_lnqy", "text": "Quick check-ins more often than long talks" },
        { "id": "opt_hfxr", "text": "Longer talks less often, with time to think between" },
        { "id": "opt_xbnm", "text": "Mostly normal life, with trust talks when needed" },
        { "id": "opt_kwfd", "text": "Honestly, I am still figuring that out" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_014",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How patient do you feel like you can be with this process right now?",
      "depth": "deep",
      "access": "premium",
      "scale": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Honestly, not very",
        "max_label": "More than I expected"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_015",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What would make it easier to be honest with me, even about the small stuff?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_rvkp", "text": "Knowing I will not get a big reaction" },
        { "id": "opt_jhln", "text": "A calm voice, even when it is hard to hear" },
        { "id": "opt_xbqg", "text": "More time before we have to respond" },
        { "id": "opt_tzfw", "text": "Knowing we will talk about it, not about me as a person" },
        { "id": "opt_qhrv", "text": "A sense that we are on the same team" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_016",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "When one of us slips, what is the most helpful first response?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_pvwt", "text": "Name it out loud, quickly" },
        { "id": "opt_yrkg", "text": "Take a breath, then come back to it" },
        { "id": "opt_nxzd", "text": "Ask what the other person needs first" },
        { "id": "opt_mjrv", "text": "Quietly change the behavior and check in later" },
        { "id": "opt_qmcd", "text": "It depends, let us figure it out together" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_017",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What kind of closeness feels safe to rebuild first?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_ykpv", "text": "Easy time together, no heavy topics" },
        { "id": "opt_rhld", "text": "Physical affection that is not rushed" },
        { "id": "opt_tnwj", "text": "Quiet time in the same room" },
        { "id": "opt_lqfs", "text": "Small everyday routines done together" },
        { "id": "opt_bwkg", "text": "Honest talks with time to recover after" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_018",
      "type": "scale",
      "text": "How comfortable are you with us having regular check-ins?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "scale": {
        "min": 1,
        "max": 5,
        "min_label": "Not really my thing",
        "max_label": "I look forward to them"
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_019",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "After a setback, what would help us get back on track fastest?",
      "depth": "deep",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_jmkl", "text": "A short, honest talk soon after" },
        { "id": "opt_xcnf", "text": "A clear, small plan for what changes next" },
        { "id": "opt_lwhq", "text": "Time to cool off before we talk" },
        { "id": "opt_dprk", "text": "Going back to one of our steady routines" },
        { "id": "opt_bqzr", "text": "Naming what we did well before the setback" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_020",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which words from me actually help when trust has been hurt?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_qzrh", "text": "'I hear you.'" },
        { "id": "opt_vhkb", "text": "'You make sense to feel that way.'" },
        { "id": "opt_dlyc", "text": "'Here is what I will do differently.'" },
        { "id": "opt_fjwm", "text": "'I am not going anywhere.'" },
        { "id": "opt_tnkd", "text": "'Take all the time you need.'" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_021",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "What would feel like steady, week-to-week proof that things are getting better?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_kfhm", "text": "Fewer hard talks about the same old thing" },
        { "id": "opt_yzld", "text": "More easy time together" },
        { "id": "opt_lqnb", "text": "Quicker recovery after a small fight" },
        { "id": "opt_cwvr", "text": "More honest check-ins, even short ones" },
        { "id": "opt_bfpn", "text": "Plans that actually happen, not just get talked about" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_022",
      "type": "written",
      "text": "What is one thing you wish I understood about what you are carrying right now?",
      "depth": "deep",
      "access": "premium",
      "answer": {
        "max_length": 500
      }
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_023",
      "type": "single_choice",
      "text": "If one of us has a hard day and slips up, what should the other do?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_pvkb", "text": "Name it gently, not let it slide" },
        { "id": "opt_yjwh", "text": "Ask if something is going on under the surface" },
        { "id": "opt_lfcd", "text": "Give space, then come back to it later" },
        { "id": "opt_qrtz", "text": "Plan to talk about it once the hard day has passed" },
        { "id": "opt_bnmx", "text": "Honestly, it depends on the day" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_024",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "When we sit down for a check-in, what do you want it to cover?",
      "depth": "medium",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_ycqt", "text": "How we are each doing, not just logistics" },
        { "id": "opt_wzrl", "text": "One small thing we appreciate" },
        { "id": "opt_lkhm", "text": "Any small thing that felt off this week" },
        { "id": "opt_qnvd", "text": "One thing we want to do together soon" },
        { "id": "opt_frbx", "text": "Room to say 'nothing is wrong, I just wanted to talk'" }
      ]
    },
    {
      "id": "rt_025",
      "type": "multi_choice",
      "text": "Which of these would feel good to do together this week?",
      "depth": "light",
      "access": "premium",
      "options": [
        { "id": "opt_kjmd", "text": "Cook a meal we both pick" },
        { "id": "opt_pwzy", "text": "Take a short walk after dinner" },
        { "id": "opt_hnxt", "text": "Pick a show to start together" },
        { "id": "opt_lbfr", "text": "Sit on the couch with no phones for twenty minutes" },
        { "id": "opt_qvsn", "text": "Plan one small thing to look forward to" }
      ]
    }
  ]
}