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"id": "boundaries",
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"description": "Calm, practical questions about personal space, privacy, independence, family and friends, phones, belongings, time, affection, and saying no without guilt or control.",
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"mass_rewrite_exception": "Approved rebuild: the source contained 250 questions, including 150 written prompts, and more than 60% of the pack shared the same legacy-structure, repetition, and neighboring-pack overlap failures.",
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"text": "When you need time alone, what kind feels best?",
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"id": "i_feel_restless_or_crowded",
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"id": "no_questions_the_second_i_return",
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"text": "What do you prefer deciding on your own?",
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"id": "what_i_wear",
"text": "What I wear"
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"id": "what_i_eat_when_i_am_alone",
"text": "What I eat when I am alone"
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"id": "how_i_spend_free_time",
"text": "How I spend free time"
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"id": "give_me_a_little_space",
"text": "Give me a little space"
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"id": "check_back_another_day",
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"text": "What can make a small request feel bigger than it is?",
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"id": "bad_timing",
"text": "Bad timing"
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"id": "a_guilty_tone",
"text": "A guilty tone"
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"text": "Other people being present"
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"id": "boundaries_009",
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"text": "When are interruptions hardest for you?",
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"id": "when_i_am_sleeping",
"text": "When I am sleeping"
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"id": "when_i_am_concentrating",
"text": "When I am concentrating"
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{
"id": "when_i_am_decompressing",
"text": "When I am decompressing"
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"id": "when_i_am_on_a_call",
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"id": "boundaries_010",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How often do we notice the need for space before tension builds?",
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"access": "free",
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"awareness",
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{
"id": "boundaries_011",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which reconnects feel good after alone time?",
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"access": "free",
"tags": [
"alone_time",
"reconnection",
"boundaries"
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"id": "a_warm_hello",
"text": "A warm hello"
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{
"id": "no_interrogation",
"text": "No interrogation"
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{
"id": "an_easy_shared_snack",
"text": "An easy shared snack"
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{
"id": "a_normal_conversation",
"text": "A normal conversation"
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}
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"id": "boundaries_012",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which personal space matters most to you at home?",
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"id": "a_drawer_or_shelf_of_my_own",
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"id": "a_favorite_chair_or_desk",
"text": "A favorite chair or desk"
},
{
"id": "a_quiet_corner",
"text": "A quiet corner"
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{
"id": "time_alone_in_the_bedroom",
"text": "Time alone in the bedroom"
}
]
}
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"id": "boundaries_013",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should always be ask-first?",
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"boundaries"
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"id": "borrowing_something_valuable",
"text": "Borrowing something valuable"
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"id": "reading_a_message_on_my_screen",
"text": "Reading a message on my screen"
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"id": "inviting_someone_over",
"text": "Inviting someone over"
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"id": "sharing_news_about_me",
"text": "Sharing news about me"
}
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}
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"id": "boundaries_014",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which details make a boundary sound caring instead of cold?",
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"access": "free",
"tags": [
"boundary_requests",
"tone",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "plain_direct_words",
"text": "Plain, direct words"
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"id": "a_kind_tone",
"text": "A kind tone"
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{
"id": "a_short_honest_reason",
"text": "A short honest reason"
},
{
"id": "saying_what_is_still_okay",
"text": "Saying what is still okay"
}
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}
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"id": "boundaries_015",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which request for space would be easiest to hear?",
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"access": "free",
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"id": "i_need_an_hour_to_myself",
"text": "I need an hour to myself"
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"id": "i_am_overloaded_and_need_quiet",
"text": "I am overloaded and need quiet"
},
{
"id": "i_want_to_finish_this_alone",
"text": "I want to finish this alone"
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{
"id": "can_we_reconnect_after_i_clear_my_head",
"text": "Can we reconnect after I clear my head?"
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"id": "boundaries_016",
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should never require a long defense?",
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"id": "needing_sleep",
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"text": "Declining a social plan"
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{
"id": "keeping_a_conversation_private",
"text": "Keeping a conversation private"
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"id": "taking_time_to_think",
"text": "Taking time to think"
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"id": "boundaries_017",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much room do we give each other to change our minds?",
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"max_label": "Plenty of room"
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{
"id": "boundaries_018",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "How can a no stay free of guilt?",
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"access": "free",
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"pressure",
"boundaries"
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"id": "the_answer_is_accepted_once",
"text": "The answer is accepted once"
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{
"id": "affection_stays_normal",
"text": "Affection stays normal"
},
{
"id": "no_scorekeeping_later",
"text": "No scorekeeping later"
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{
"id": "no_need_for_a_long_explanation",
"text": "No need for a long explanation"
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}
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{
"id": "boundaries_019",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What boundaries are easiest for you to say out loud?",
"depth": 1,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"self_awareness",
"boundary_requests",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "i_need_some_space",
"text": "I need some space"
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{
"id": "i_cannot_fit_that_into_my_schedule",
"text": "I cannot fit that into my schedule"
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{
"id": "please_ask_before_borrowing_that",
"text": "Please ask before borrowing that"
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{
"id": "i_am_not_up_for_that_plan",
"text": "I am not up for that plan"
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"id": "boundaries_020",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is your first sign that a limit has been reached?",
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"access": "free",
"tags": [
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"boundaries"
],
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"id": "i_need_quiet",
"text": "I need quiet"
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"id": "i_get_irritated",
"text": "I get irritated"
},
{
"id": "i_start_pulling_away",
"text": "I start pulling away"
},
{
"id": "i_say_it_directly",
"text": "I say it directly"
}
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}
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one small boundary that would make daily life easier?",
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"access": "free",
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}
},
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What makes a limit easy to remember?",
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"id": "the_wording_is_simple",
"text": "The wording is simple"
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"id": "they_connect_to_a_specific_place",
"text": "They connect to a specific place"
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{
"id": "they_have_a_clear_trigger",
"text": "They have a clear trigger"
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{
"id": "they_fit_an_existing_routine",
"text": "They fit an existing routine"
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"id": "boundaries_023",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Where does healthy privacy matter most to you?",
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"id": "private_messages",
"text": "Private messages"
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{
"id": "solo_hobbies",
"text": "Solo hobbies"
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{
"id": "something_a_friend_told_me_in_confidence",
"text": "Something a friend told me in confidence"
}
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}
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"id": "boundaries_024",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "After one of us asks for space, what feels right?",
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"id": "accepting_it_without_offense",
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"id": "agreeing_when_to_reconnect",
"text": "Agreeing when to reconnect"
},
{
"id": "keeping_necessary_plans_clear",
"text": "Keeping necessary plans clear"
},
{
"id": "letting_silence_be_okay",
"text": "Letting silence be okay"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_026",
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"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which phone boundary matters most at bedtime?",
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},
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"text": "What phone habits feel respectful when we are together?",
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"daily_life",
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"id": "turning_the_screen_down",
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"id": "not_reading_over_each_other_s_shoulder",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should stay private unless we both agree?",
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"id": "our_disagreements",
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"text": "Our financial details"
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"id": "family_problems_told_in_confidence",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"phones",
"privacy",
"boundaries"
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"max": 5,
"min_label": "I prefer them separate",
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},
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"social_media",
"public_sharing",
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"id": "checking_before_relationship_news",
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"id": "keeping_private_jokes_private",
"text": "Keeping private jokes private"
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"id": "respecting_days_i_do_not_want_to_post",
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
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"social_media",
"fun_first",
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"id": "post_it",
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]
}
},
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"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What kind of online sharing needs a check-in first?",
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"social_media",
"public_sharing",
"boundaries"
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"id": "our_live_location",
"text": "Our live location"
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"id": "a_personal_story_about_me",
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}
},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
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"digital_privacy",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
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"id": "email",
"text": "Email"
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"text": "Private chats"
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{
"id": "search_history",
"text": "Search history"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_034",
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps location sharing practical without becoming controlling?",
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"location_sharing",
"safety",
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"text": "Either person can pause it"
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"id": "it_never_becomes_an_interrogation",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How clear are our expectations about online privacy?",
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"digital_privacy",
"clarity",
"boundaries"
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
"min_label": "Mostly unclear",
"max_label": "Very clear"
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},
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What can we usually borrow without asking?",
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"belongings",
"shared_space",
"boundaries"
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"id": "a_phone_charger",
"text": "A phone charger"
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"text": "A blanket"
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"id": "a_kitchen_item",
"text": "A kitchen item"
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"id": "a_household_tool",
"text": "A household tool"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_037",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What borrowing rule fits personal belongings best?",
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"belongings",
"permission",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "ask_every_time",
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"id": "ask_only_for_valuable_items",
"text": "Ask only for valuable items"
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"id": "decide_item_by_item",
"text": "Decide item by item"
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]
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_038",
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What feels more personal than it might look?",
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"belongings",
"privacy",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "clothes",
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"id": "notebooks",
"text": "Notebooks"
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"id": "headphones",
"text": "Headphones"
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{
"id": "keepsakes",
"text": "Keepsakes"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_039",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "For a shared account, what feels fair?",
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"shared_accounts",
"digital_privacy",
"boundaries"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_040",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How comfortable are you with surprise photos of you?",
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"access": "free",
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"photos",
"public_sharing",
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
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},
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"type": "multi_choice",
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{
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"text": "Private affection"
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{
"id": "emotional_family_moments",
"text": "Emotional family moments"
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}
},
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"id": "boundaries_042",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which kind of privacy matters most to you?",
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"preferences",
"boundaries"
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"id": "digital_privacy",
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"id": "time_alone",
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}
},
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should we ask about before telling friends?",
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"friends",
"boundaries"
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{
"id": "money_news",
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{
"id": "intimate_details",
"text": "Intimate details"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_044",
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What digital habits feel intrusive, even when meant kindly?",
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"digital_privacy",
"pressure",
"boundaries"
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"id": "checking_online_status",
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"id": "watching_location_updates",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_045",
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps a shared calendar useful without feeling invasive?",
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"boundaries"
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"id": "there_is_room_for_spontaneous_plans",
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}
},
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"id": "boundaries_046",
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"type": "single_choice",
"text": "If a password is shared, what should that mean?",
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"id": "ask_before_using_it",
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"id": "it_depends_on_the_account",
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}
},
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Where do we need clearer online agreements?",
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"social_media",
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"boundaries"
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"id": "flirty_messages",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"text": "What keeps outside friendships respectful to us?",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"text": "What is one thing you want kept just between us?",
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"written",
"boundaries"
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"max_length": 500
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},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should never become a joke outside our relationship?",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"text": "How much notice feels fair before someone visits?",
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},
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}
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"max": 5,
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},
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"id": "boundaries_055",
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"type": "this_or_that",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_057",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When a friend needs a lot, which limit matters most?",
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"id": "keeping_our_private_life_private",
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"id": "not_becoming_the_only_support_person",
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}
},
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which habits help friendships and our relationship fit together?",
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"id": "no_jealousy_games",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_059",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What is hardest to turn down when someone asks?",
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"teamwork",
"boundaries"
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{
"id": "surprise_visits",
"text": "Surprise visits"
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{
"id": "requests_to_lend_money",
"text": "Requests to lend money"
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{
"id": "holiday_pressure",
"text": "Holiday pressure"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How easy is it for us to decline plans without guilt?",
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"social_plans",
"saying_no",
"boundaries"
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"max": 5,
"min_label": "It often feels hard",
"max_label": "It usually feels easy"
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},
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"text": "Which parts of our life should stay ours to decide?",
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"family",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
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"options": [
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"id": "our_home_rules",
"text": "Our home rules"
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"id": "private_disagreements",
"text": "Private disagreements"
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{
"id": "major_couple_decisions",
"text": "Major couple decisions"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What kind of family involvement feels best?",
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"tags": [
"family",
"preferences",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "mostly_separate",
"text": "Mostly separate"
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"id": "very_involved_but_they_ask_first",
"text": "Very involved, but they ask first"
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{
"id": "different_limits_for_different_relatives",
"text": "Different limits for different relatives"
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]
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_063",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "For hosting, what rules feel fair to both of us?",
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"visitors",
"home_space",
"boundaries"
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"id": "checking_before_inviting",
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{
"id": "room_to_say_not_tonight",
"text": "Room to say not tonight"
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{
"id": "private_areas_stay_private",
"text": "Private areas stay private"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_064",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Once made, what plans deserve protection?",
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"scheduling",
"commitments",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "date_time",
"text": "Date time"
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"id": "a_family_commitment",
"text": "A family commitment"
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{
"id": "a_personal_appointment",
"text": "A personal appointment"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_065",
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"type": "scale",
"text": "How often do outside obligations crowd out our time?",
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"tags": [
"outside_obligations",
"couple_time",
"boundaries"
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
"min_label": "Rarely",
"max_label": "Very often"
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},
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"id": "boundaries_066",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which habits make saying no to family easier as a team?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"family",
"teamwork",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "using_the_same_message",
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{
"id": "deciding_privately_first",
"text": "Deciding privately first"
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{
"id": "supporting_each_other_afterward",
"text": "Supporting each other afterward"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_067",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which boundary is hardest with people you love?",
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"tags": [
"family",
"friends",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "time",
"text": "Time"
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{
"id": "money",
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"id": "unwanted_advice",
"text": "Unwanted advice"
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{
"id": "privacy",
"text": "Privacy"
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]
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_068",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What drains your social energy fastest?",
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"tags": [
"social_energy",
"self_awareness",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "large_groups",
"text": "Large groups"
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{
"id": "long_visits",
"text": "Long visits"
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{
"id": "surprise_plans",
"text": "Surprise plans"
},
{
"id": "being_expected_to_stay_late",
"text": "Being expected to stay late"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_069",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which options help you enjoy social plans without feeling trapped?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"social_energy",
"social_plans",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "having_our_own_ride",
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"id": "knowing_the_end_time",
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{
"id": "being_free_to_leave_early",
"text": "Being free to leave early"
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{
"id": "quiet_time_before_or_after",
"text": "Quiet time before or after"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_070",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What can we comfortably share with close friends?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"friends",
"private_information",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
{
"id": "harmless_funny_stories",
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{
"id": "plans_that_are_already_public",
"text": "Plans that are already public"
},
{
"id": "things_we_agreed_were_shareable",
"text": "Things we agreed were shareable"
},
{
"id": "general_advice_without_identifying_details",
"text": "General advice without identifying details"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_071",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "If one of us wants to leave early, what works best?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"social_plans",
"signals",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
{
"id": "say_it_directly",
"text": "Say it directly"
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"id": "use_a_private_signal",
"text": "Use a private signal"
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{
"id": "agree_on_a_time_beforehand",
"text": "Agree on a time beforehand"
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{
"id": "leave_separately_if_needed",
"text": "Leave separately if needed"
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]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_072",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should stay ours during holidays?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"holidays",
"family",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "some_private_time",
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{
"id": "our_spending_limit",
"text": "Our spending limit"
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{
"id": "traditions_we_choose_together",
"text": "Traditions we choose together"
},
{
"id": "the_right_to_decline_extras",
"text": "The right to decline extras"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_073",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Before saying yes, what outside commitments need a conversation?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"outside_obligations",
"couple_decisions",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "overnight_guests",
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{
"id": "lending_shared_money",
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{
"id": "a_long_trip",
"text": "A long trip"
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{
"id": "a_recurring_weekly_commitment",
"text": "A recurring weekly commitment"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_074",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one outside pressure you want us to handle as a team?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"outside_pressure",
"written",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"max_length": 500
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_075",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What protects our time without shutting others out?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"couple_time",
"outside_obligations",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
{
"id": "making_plans_early",
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"id": "keeping_some_flexible_time",
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{
"id": "explaining_limits_kindly",
"text": "Explaining limits kindly"
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{
"id": "choosing_priorities_together",
"text": "Choosing priorities together"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_076",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When work follows us home, which limit matters most?",
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"access": "premium",
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"work",
"home_space",
"boundaries"
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"options": [
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"id": "a_firm_end_time",
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"id": "no_work_during_meals",
"text": "No work during meals"
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{
"id": "no_work_during_planned_couple_time",
"text": "No work during planned couple time"
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{
"id": "a_separate_work_area",
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}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_077",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When can work reasonably interrupt personal time?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"work",
"interruptions",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "a_true_emergency",
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"id": "a_deadline_that_affects_tomorrow",
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{
"id": "a_scheduled_on_call_issue",
"text": "A scheduled on-call issue"
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{
"id": "a_message_only_one_person_can_answer",
"text": "A message only one person can answer"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_078",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What helps work time feel respected at home?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"work",
"personal_space",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "clear_start_and_end_times",
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{
"id": "a_visible_do_not_disturb_signal",
"text": "A visible do-not-disturb signal"
},
{
"id": "asking_before_interrupting",
"text": "Asking before interrupting"
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{
"id": "real_breaks_during_long_stretches",
"text": "Real breaks during long stretches"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_079",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How well do we protect rest from work demands?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"work",
"rest",
"boundaries"
],
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
"min_label": "Work often takes over",
"max_label": "Rest stays protected"
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_080",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Work talk now or after dinner?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"work",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
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"options": [
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"id": "talk_about_it_now",
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{
"id": "wait_until_after_dinner",
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]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_081",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When does a schedule change need a heads-up?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"scheduling",
"consideration",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "running_late",
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{
"id": "adding_guests",
"text": "Adding guests"
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{
"id": "changing_shared_plans",
"text": "Changing shared plans"
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{
"id": "becoming_unavailable",
"text": "Becoming unavailable"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_082",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "How much planning feels best for weekends?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"scheduling",
"weekends",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "a_loose_idea",
"text": "A loose idea"
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{
"id": "one_anchor_plan",
"text": "One anchor plan"
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{
"id": "most_of_it_planned",
"text": "Most of it planned"
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{
"id": "decide_as_we_go",
"text": "Decide as we go"
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]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_083",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What makes a last-minute change easier to take?",
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"tags": [
"scheduling",
"changes",
"boundaries"
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"id": "saying_it_as_early_as_possible",
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"text": "Explaining how it affects us"
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{
"id": "asking_instead_of_announcing",
"text": "Asking instead of announcing"
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{
"id": "helping_make_a_new_plan",
"text": "Helping make a new plan"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_084",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What expenses make sense to keep individual?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"money",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
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"id": "hobbies",
"text": "Hobbies"
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{
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{
"id": "personal_care",
"text": "Personal care"
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{
"id": "solo_meals_or_treats",
"text": "Solo meals or treats"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_085",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How clear are our ask-first rules for shared money?",
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"money",
"clarity",
"boundaries"
],
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
"min_label": "Not very clear",
"max_label": "Completely clear"
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_086",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Before spending shared money, what needs a conversation?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"money",
"couple_decisions",
"boundaries"
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"id": "lending_money_to_someone",
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"id": "a_major_purchase",
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{
"id": "a_new_recurring_payment",
"text": "A new recurring payment"
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{
"id": "using_savings",
"text": "Using savings"
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_087",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which kind of financial independence feels reasonable?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"money",
"privacy",
"boundaries"
],
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{
"id": "separate_personal_spending_money",
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{
"id": "private_gift_purchases",
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},
{
"id": "an_individual_account_with_agreed_transparency",
"text": "An individual account with agreed transparency"
},
{
"id": "a_set_amount_that_needs_no_check_in",
"text": "A set amount that needs no check-in"
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]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_088",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "How can money rules preserve freedom for both of us?",
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"money",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
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"id": "the_rules_are_fair_to_both_people",
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"text": "We agree on the thresholds"
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{
"id": "each_person_has_personal_spending_room",
"text": "Each person has personal spending room"
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{
"id": "questions_do_not_become_interrogations",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_089",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Where at home should an ask-first rule apply?",
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"tags": [
"home_space",
"personal_space",
"boundaries"
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"id": "a_work_area",
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{
"id": "personal_storage",
"text": "Personal storage"
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{
"id": "a_hobby_area",
"text": "A hobby area"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_090",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much control do you feel over your own time?",
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"time",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
],
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
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"max_label": "Plenty"
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_091",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps shared plans from feeling like orders?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"scheduling",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "being_asked_first",
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{
"id": "having_room_to_decline",
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{
"id": "no_guilt_if_the_answer_is_no",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_092",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When you are emotionally drained, which limit helps most?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"emotional_bandwidth",
"rest",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "postpone_serious_talks",
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{
"id": "sit_together_quietly",
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{
"id": "give_me_time_alone",
"text": "Give me time alone"
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{
"id": "stick_to_urgent_details_only",
"text": "Stick to urgent details only"
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]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_093",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When do you have the least energy for a serious topic?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"emotional_bandwidth",
"self_awareness",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
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"id": "i_am_exhausted",
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{
"id": "i_cannot_focus",
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},
{
"id": "i_am_already_upset",
"text": "I am already upset"
},
{
"id": "i_need_to_leave_soon",
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],
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_094",
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "How should we respond to “not right now”?",
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"id": "keeping_normal_warmth",
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which kinds of help should be offered before taking over?",
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"max_selections": 3
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "How should unsolicited advice work between us?",
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"id": "handle_it_differently_by_topic",
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},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should each person be free to decide alone?",
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"tags": [
"autonomy",
"personal_choices",
"boundaries"
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"id": "what_to_wear",
"text": "What to wear"
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"text": "A personal routine"
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"id": "harmless_hobbies",
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"id": "how_to_spend_solo_time",
"text": "How to spend solo time"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps a shared routine flexible enough?",
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"tags": [
"routines",
"autonomy",
"boundaries"
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"text": "Exceptions are allowed"
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"text": "Either person can suggest changes"
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"id": "no_scorekeeping",
"text": "No scorekeeping"
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"id": "we_can_drop_it_when_it_stops_helping",
"text": "We can drop it when it stops helping"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_099",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one area where you want more say over your own time?",
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"time",
"autonomy",
"written",
"boundaries"
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"max_length": 500
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_100",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps boundaries usable during a busy week?",
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"busy_life",
"maintenance",
"boundaries"
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"id": "keeping_agreements_simple",
"text": "Keeping agreements simple"
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"id": "giving_brief_reminders",
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"id": "protecting_the_most_important_limits",
"text": "Protecting the most important limits"
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"id": "asking_before_assuming",
"text": "Asking before assuming"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_101",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When affection is not welcome, what response feels best?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"affection",
"consent",
"boundaries"
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"id": "accept_it_easily",
"text": "Accept it easily"
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"id": "switch_to_kind_words",
"text": "Switch to kind words"
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"id": "ask_what_would_feel_okay",
"text": "Ask what would feel okay"
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{
"id": "give_me_some_space",
"text": "Give me some space"
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"id": "boundaries_102",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What helps physical affection feel welcome?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"affection",
"consent",
"boundaries"
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"id": "being_asked_first",
"text": "Being asked first"
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"id": "good_timing",
"text": "Good timing"
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{
"id": "no_expectation_attached",
"text": "No expectation attached"
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{
"id": "knowing_i_can_change_my_mind",
"text": "Knowing I can change my mind"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_103",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When you need space, what closeness still feels good?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"affection",
"personal_space",
"boundaries"
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"id": "sitting_nearby",
"text": "Sitting nearby"
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"id": "kind_words",
"text": "Kind words"
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"id": "doing_something_together",
"text": "Doing something together"
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"id": "a_brief_hug_if_i_want_one",
"text": "A brief hug if I want one"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_104",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How easy is it to change your mind about physical closeness?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"affection",
"changing_limits",
"boundaries"
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"min": 1,
"max": 5,
"min_label": "It feels difficult",
"max_label": "It feels completely okay"
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_105",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Ask out loud or offer a hand and wait?",
"depth": 1,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"affection",
"consent",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
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"id": "ask_out_loud",
"text": "Ask out loud"
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"id": "offer_a_hand_and_wait",
"text": "Offer a hand and wait"
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}
},
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"id": "boundaries_106",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What kinds of physical help should be ask-first?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"consent",
"body_language",
"boundaries"
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"id": "moving_my_body_or_position",
"text": "Moving my body or position"
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"id": "touching_an_injury",
"text": "Touching an injury"
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{
"id": "fixing_my_clothes_or_hair",
"text": "Fixing my clothes or hair"
},
{
"id": "guiding_me_through_a_crowd",
"text": "Guiding me through a crowd"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_107",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which way of declining touch feels easiest for you?",
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"tags": [
"consent",
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"id": "say_no_directly",
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"id": "ask_for_some_space",
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{
"id": "offer_a_different_kind_of_closeness",
"text": "Offer a different kind of closeness"
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{
"id": "use_a_private_cue",
"text": "Use a private cue"
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}
},
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"id": "boundaries_108",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "How can an affection boundary feel normal?",
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"tags": [
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"options": [
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"id": "warm_acceptance",
"text": "Warm acceptance"
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"id": "other_affection_if_it_is_wanted",
"text": "Other affection if it is wanted"
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"id": "no_need_for_a_long_explanation",
"text": "No need for a long explanation"
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"id": "an_easy_chance_to_revisit_later",
"text": "An easy chance to revisit later"
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"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_109",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Cuddle nearby or give full space?",
"depth": 1,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"affection",
"personal_space",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
],
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"options": [
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"id": "cuddle_nearby",
"text": "Cuddle nearby"
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"id": "give_full_space",
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}
},
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"id": "boundaries_110",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should never become a couple vote?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"body_autonomy",
"personal_choices",
"boundaries"
],
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"id": "clothing",
"text": "Clothing"
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{
"id": "hairstyle",
"text": "Hairstyle"
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"id": "body_changes",
"text": "Body changes"
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{
"id": "medical_care",
"text": "Medical care"
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],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_111",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which appearance comments feel best?",
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"appearance",
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"boundaries"
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"id": "simple_compliments",
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"id": "a_practical_heads_up",
"text": "A practical heads-up"
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"id": "no_comments_unless_i_bring_it_up",
"text": "No comments unless I bring it up"
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}
},
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"id": "boundaries_112",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps body-related advice from crossing a line?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"body_autonomy",
"advice",
"boundaries"
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"id": "asking_permission_first",
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"id": "focusing_on_care_not_criticism",
"text": "Focusing on care, not criticism"
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"id": "keeping_comments_private",
"text": "Keeping comments private"
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"id": "accepting_no",
"text": "Accepting no"
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"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_113",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How confident are you that I will respect a changed answer?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"changing_limits",
"consent",
"boundaries"
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"max": 5,
"min_label": "I am not sure yet",
"max_label": "I am very confident"
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},
{
"id": "boundaries_114",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When is it hardest to state a boundary clearly?",
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"tags": [
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"boundaries"
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"id": "when_i_am_tired",
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"id": "when_other_people_are_present",
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"id": "when_i_expect_disappointment",
"text": "When I expect disappointment"
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"id": "when_something_has_already_started",
"text": "When something has already started"
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"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_115",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Explain the boundary or keep it simple?",
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"tags": [
"boundary_requests",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
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"answer_config": {
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"id": "explain_it",
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},
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"id": "boundaries_116",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What makes an old agreement easier to revise?",
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"tags": [
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"agreements",
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"id": "acknowledging_that_our_needs_changed",
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"id": "leaving_blame_out_of_it",
"text": "Leaving blame out of it"
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"id": "talking_through_one_specific_part",
"text": "Talking through one specific part"
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"id": "trying_the_new_version_for_a_while",
"text": "Trying the new version for a while"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_117",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When a boundary changes, what matters most?",
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"tags": [
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"id": "clear_words",
"text": "Clear words"
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"id": "reasonable_notice",
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"id": "an_honest_reason",
"text": "An honest reason"
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"id": "room_for_questions",
"text": "Room for questions"
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"id": "boundaries_118",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When should life changes trigger a fresh boundary conversation?",
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"id": "a_new_work_schedule",
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"id": "a_health_change",
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"id": "a_different_living_arrangement",
"text": "A different living arrangement"
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{
"id": "a_new_caregiving_responsibility",
"text": "A new caregiving responsibility"
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"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_119",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When does a request start to feel like pressure?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"requests",
"pressure",
"boundaries"
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"id": "asking_again_and_again",
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"id": "withholding_affection",
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"id": "using_guilt",
"text": "Using guilt"
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"id": "demanding_an_immediate_answer",
"text": "Demanding an immediate answer"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_120",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What keeps a request genuinely optional?",
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"access": "premium",
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"id": "time_to_think",
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"id": "more_than_one_acceptable_choice",
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"max_selections": 3
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"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When a request needs more time, which options help?",
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"decision_time",
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"id": "sleeping_on_it",
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"id": "getting_more_information",
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"id": "talking_when_we_are_rested",
"text": "Talking when we are rested"
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_122",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When do you want me to ask before touch?",
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"max_selections": 3
}
},
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"id": "boundaries_123",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "Which public affection boundary fits you best?",
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What makes public affection feel respectful?",
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"max_selections": 3
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},
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"id": "boundaries_125",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What changes may need extra patience from both of us?",
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"max_selections": 3
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"id": "boundaries_126",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "During busy weeks, what boundary is easiest to forget?",
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"id": "shared_plans",
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"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "How can you tell a boundary is working well?",
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{
"id": "closeness_still_feels_natural",
"text": "Closeness still feels natural"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_128",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "How can we tell an old agreement needs updating?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"changing_limits",
"agreements",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "resentment_keeps_showing_up",
"text": "Resentment keeps showing up"
},
{
"id": "life_has_changed",
"text": "Life has changed"
},
{
"id": "exceptions_happen_constantly",
"text": "Exceptions happen constantly"
},
{
"id": "someone_avoids_the_topic",
"text": "Someone avoids the topic"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_129",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How confident are you that our boundaries can change without making us feel less close?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"changing_limits",
"security",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"min": 1,
"max": 5,
"min_label": "Not confident yet",
"max_label": "Very confident"
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_130",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Clear rule or case-by-case?",
"depth": 1,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"agreements",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "a_clear_rule",
"text": "A clear rule"
},
{
"id": "case_by_case",
"text": "Case-by-case"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_131",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What makes a boundary fair to both people?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"fairness",
"agreements",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "it_feels_fair_in_practice",
"text": "It feels fair in practice"
},
{
"id": "it_respects_real_differences",
"text": "It respects real differences"
},
{
"id": "it_is_realistic_to_follow",
"text": "It is realistic to follow"
},
{
"id": "it_can_be_revisited",
"text": "It can be revisited"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_132",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "If a boundary is forgotten once, what response feels right?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"reminders",
"maintenance",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "a_gentle_reminder",
"text": "A gentle reminder"
},
{
"id": "a_quick_apology",
"text": "A quick apology"
},
{
"id": "a_calm_talk_later",
"text": "A calm talk later"
},
{
"id": "it_depends_on_the_impact",
"text": "It depends on the impact"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_133",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What kind of reminders are easiest to receive?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"reminders",
"respect",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "brief_and_direct",
"text": "Brief and direct"
},
{
"id": "a_private_cue",
"text": "A private cue"
},
{
"id": "a_calm_spoken_reminder",
"text": "A calm spoken reminder"
},
{
"id": "a_text_for_practical_rules",
"text": "A text for practical rules"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_134",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What should we check in on occasionally?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"maintenance",
"agreements",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "phones_and_privacy",
"text": "Phones and privacy"
},
{
"id": "family_involvement",
"text": "Family involvement"
},
{
"id": "shared_money_thresholds",
"text": "Shared-money thresholds"
},
{
"id": "affection_and_space",
"text": "Affection and space"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_135",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Private cue or direct words?",
"depth": 1,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"signals",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "a_private_cue",
"text": "A private cue"
},
{
"id": "direct_words",
"text": "Direct words"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_136",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What can make a reasonable boundary hard to follow?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"agreements",
"clarity",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "it_is_too_vague",
"text": "It is too vague"
},
{
"id": "it_is_unrealistic",
"text": "It is unrealistic"
},
{
"id": "it_changes_without_notice",
"text": "It changes without notice"
},
{
"id": "it_conflicts_with_another_commitment",
"text": "It conflicts with another commitment"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_137",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When two boundaries clash, what should guide the decision?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"balancing_needs",
"decisions",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "urgency",
"text": "Urgency"
},
{
"id": "the_size_of_the_impact",
"text": "The size of the impact"
},
{
"id": "what_we_agreed_before",
"text": "What we agreed before"
},
{
"id": "the_best_available_compromise",
"text": "The best available compromise"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_138",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When both needs are valid but different, what helps?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"balancing_needs",
"fairness",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "being_clear_about_what_cannot_bend",
"text": "Being clear about what cannot bend"
},
{
"id": "looking_for_a_third_option",
"text": "Looking for a third option"
},
{
"id": "taking_turns_when_possible",
"text": "Taking turns when possible"
},
{
"id": "revisiting_it_later",
"text": "Revisiting it later"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_139",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What limits protect us without controlling either person?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"healthy_boundaries",
"safety",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "no_public_humiliation",
"text": "No public humiliation"
},
{
"id": "no_sharing_private_information",
"text": "No sharing private information"
},
{
"id": "no_volunteering_the_other_person",
"text": "No volunteering the other person"
},
{
"id": "no_pressure_after_a_no",
"text": "No pressure after a no"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_140",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "One firm boundary or a flexible guideline?",
"depth": 1,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"agreements",
"fun_first",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "one_firm_boundary",
"text": "One firm boundary"
},
{
"id": "a_flexible_guideline",
"text": "A flexible guideline"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_141",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes a boundary worth revisiting?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"changing_limits",
"agreements",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "one_person_is_unhappy_with_it",
"text": "One person is unhappy with it"
},
{
"id": "life_has_changed",
"text": "Life has changed"
},
{
"id": "the_rule_never_works_in_practice",
"text": "The rule never works in practice"
},
{
"id": "new_information_matters",
"text": "New information matters"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_142",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which boundaries make it easier to relax in a relationship?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"healthy_boundaries",
"security",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "private_details_stay_private",
"text": "Private details stay private"
},
{
"id": "a_no_is_not_punished",
"text": "A no is not punished"
},
{
"id": "alone_time_is_normal",
"text": "Alone time is normal"
},
{
"id": "personal_belongings_are_respected",
"text": "Personal belongings are respected"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_143",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What information makes a boundary easier to follow?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"clarity",
"agreements",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "what_it_protects",
"text": "What it protects"
},
{
"id": "what_counts_as_crossing_it",
"text": "What counts as crossing it"
},
{
"id": "what_is_still_okay",
"text": "What is still okay"
},
{
"id": "when_we_will_review_it",
"text": "When we will review it"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_144",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Where should we state expectations instead of assuming them?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"clarity",
"agreements",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "rules_for_guests",
"text": "Rules for guests"
},
{
"id": "a_spending_threshold",
"text": "A spending threshold"
},
{
"id": "what_can_be_shared_publicly",
"text": "What can be shared publicly"
},
{
"id": "when_interruptions_are_okay",
"text": "When interruptions are okay"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_145",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What kind of boundary brings you the most relief?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"preferences",
"healthy_boundaries",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "one_that_protects_rest",
"text": "One that protects rest"
},
{
"id": "one_that_protects_privacy",
"text": "One that protects privacy"
},
{
"id": "one_that_protects_independence",
"text": "One that protects independence"
},
{
"id": "one_that_protects_our_time",
"text": "One that protects our time"
}
]
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_146",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What helps us respect differences without needing identical rules?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"fairness",
"differences",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "accepting_different_comfort_levels",
"text": "Accepting different comfort levels"
},
{
"id": "not_keeping_score",
"text": "Not keeping score"
},
{
"id": "focusing_on_what_affects_both_of_us",
"text": "Focusing on what affects both of us"
},
{
"id": "staying_curious",
"text": "Staying curious"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_147",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "When should a boundary request get extra gentleness?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"boundary_requests",
"gentleness",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "family_limits",
"text": "Family limits"
},
{
"id": "body_or_affection_limits",
"text": "Body or affection limits"
},
{
"id": "privacy_limits",
"text": "Privacy limits"
},
{
"id": "health_and_energy_limits",
"text": "Health and energy limits"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_148",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What makes boundaries feel like care rather than rules?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"healthy_boundaries",
"care",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "a_clear_purpose",
"text": "A clear purpose"
},
{
"id": "kind_words",
"text": "Kind words"
},
{
"id": "mutual_respect",
"text": "Mutual respect"
},
{
"id": "freedom_to_revisit",
"text": "Freedom to revisit"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_149",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one boundary you hope we always protect?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"healthy_boundaries",
"written",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"max_length": 500
}
},
{
"id": "boundaries_150",
"category_id": "boundaries",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "What habits protect boundaries over time?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"maintenance",
"healthy_boundaries",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"options": [
{
"id": "believing_the_first_no",
"text": "Believing the first no"
},
{
"id": "asking_before_assuming",
"text": "Asking before assuming"
},
{
"id": "updating_old_agreements",
"text": "Updating old agreements"
},
{
"id": "keeping_private_things_private",
"text": "Keeping private things private"
}
],
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
}
]
}
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