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"id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"description": "Warm, natural questions that help couples feel known, welcomed, comforted, wanted, admired, and emotionally close without sounding clinical or like therapy homework.",
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"guide_version": "QUESTION_CONTENT_GUIDE current dev + QUESTION_SCHEMA v7 + QUESTION_QUALITY_CHECKLIST v8",
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"review_policy": "Rebuilt in six controlled 25-question batches. Every batch received schema, read-aloud, prompt-option, repetition, depth, safety, and free/premium value review before the next batch began.",
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"mass_rewrite_reason": "The prior pack contained 250 questions and 150 written responses, so more than 60% shared structural failures under the current 150-question maximum and 0-to-5 written-question rule.",
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"compatibility_note": "Numeric depth and answer_config are retained for the active importer. Choice questions mirror options at the top level.",
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"pack_purpose": "Help partners feel emotionally known, welcomed, comforted, wanted, admired, and close through ordinary and vulnerable moments.",
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"communication": "Avoids conversation technique, feedback, and hard-talk mechanics.",
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"trust": "Avoids promises, monitoring, honesty rules, privacy rules, and betrayal repair.",
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"quality_time": "Focuses on emotional experience rather than scheduling or shared-time planning.",
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"fun": "Uses lightness selectively without turning the pack into games or random humor."
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},
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},
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"corrections": 25,
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"focus": [
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"natural adult spoken voice",
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"emotional safety",
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"prompt-option fit",
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"therapy-coded phrasing",
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"free and premium value",
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"category distinction"
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],
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"result": "Preserved the full 150-question structure while naturalizing awkward phrasing, clarifying answer perspective, and replacing clinical or over-polished language with believable adult-couple wording."
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}
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}
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},
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"questions": [
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_001",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "Which small things make you feel emotionally close to me?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"everyday_closeness",
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"little_things",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "you_remember_a_detail_i_mentioned",
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"text": "You remember a detail I mentioned"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_reach_for_me_without_a_reason",
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"text": "You reach for me without a reason"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_make_me_laugh_when_i_am_tense",
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"text": "You make me laugh when I am tense"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_notice_when_my_mood_changes",
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"text": "You notice when my mood changes"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_include_me_in_a_small_decision",
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"text": "You include me in a small decision"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "you_remember_a_detail_i_mentioned",
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"text": "You remember a detail I mentioned"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_reach_for_me_without_a_reason",
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"text": "You reach for me without a reason"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_make_me_laugh_when_i_am_tense",
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"text": "You make me laugh when I am tense"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_notice_when_my_mood_changes",
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"text": "You notice when my mood changes"
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},
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{
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"id": "you_include_me_in_a_small_decision",
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"text": "You include me in a small decision"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_002",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "single_choice",
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"text": "After a rough day, what kind of welcome feels best?",
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"depth": 1,
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"tags": [
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"comfort",
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"rough_days",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_long_hug_before_any_questions",
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"text": "A long hug before any questions"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_warm_hello_and_a_little_space",
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"text": "A warm hello and a little space"
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},
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{
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"id": "something_funny_to_break_the_tension",
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"text": "Something funny to break the tension"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_quiet_drink_or_snack_beside_you",
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"text": "A quiet drink or snack beside you"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "a_long_hug_before_any_questions",
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"text": "A long hug before any questions"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_warm_hello_and_a_little_space",
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"text": "A warm hello and a little space"
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},
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{
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"id": "something_funny_to_break_the_tension",
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"text": "Something funny to break the tension"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_quiet_drink_or_snack_beside_you",
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"text": "A quiet drink or snack beside you"
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}
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]
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_003",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "scale",
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"text": "How easy is it to tell me when you need extra tenderness?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"asking_for_closeness",
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"tenderness",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"answer_config": {
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"min": 1,
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"max": 5,
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"min_label": "Not easy yet",
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"max_label": "Very easy"
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_004",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "What makes a compliment from me really land?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"compliments",
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"feeling_known",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "it_is_specific_to_something_i_did",
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"text": "It is specific to something I did"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_sounds_spontaneous_and_unplanned",
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"text": "It sounds spontaneous and unplanned"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_notices_more_than_my_appearance",
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"text": "It notices more than my appearance"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_comes_with_affectionate_eye_contact",
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"text": "It comes with affectionate eye contact"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_reflects_something_you_truly_know_about_me",
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"text": "It reflects something you truly know about me"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "it_is_specific_to_something_i_did",
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"text": "It is specific to something I did"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_sounds_spontaneous_and_unplanned",
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"text": "It sounds spontaneous and unplanned"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_notices_more_than_my_appearance",
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"text": "It notices more than my appearance"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_comes_with_affectionate_eye_contact",
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"text": "It comes with affectionate eye contact"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_reflects_something_you_truly_know_about_me",
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"text": "It reflects something you truly know about me"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_005",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "this_or_that",
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"text": "Quiet understanding or playful reassurance?",
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"depth": 1,
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"tags": [
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"quick_choice",
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"reassurance",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "quiet_understanding",
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"text": "Quiet understanding"
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},
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{
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"id": "playful_reassurance",
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"text": "Playful reassurance"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "quiet_understanding",
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"text": "Quiet understanding"
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},
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{
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"id": "playful_reassurance",
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"text": "Playful reassurance"
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}
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]
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_006",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "When do you feel most deeply known by me?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"being_known",
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"ordinary_moments",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "i_predict_what_you_are_about_to_say",
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"text": "I predict what you are about to say"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_remember_what_usually_wears_you_out",
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"text": "I remember what usually wears you out"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_know_when_you_want_company",
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"text": "I know when you want company"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_bring_up_something_you_care_about",
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"text": "I bring up something you care about"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_understand_a_joke_nobody_else_would",
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"text": "I understand a joke nobody else would"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "i_predict_what_you_are_about_to_say",
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"text": "I predict what you are about to say"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_remember_what_usually_wears_you_out",
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"text": "I remember what usually wears you out"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_know_when_you_want_company",
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"text": "I know when you want company"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_bring_up_something_you_care_about",
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"text": "I bring up something you care about"
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},
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{
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"id": "i_understand_a_joke_nobody_else_would",
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"text": "I understand a joke nobody else would"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_007",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "written",
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"text": "What is one recent moment when you felt understood by me?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"recent_memory",
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"understanding",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"answer_config": {
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"min_length": 1,
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"max_length": 500,
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"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_008",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "When you are quiet, which kinds of closeness still feel good?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"quiet_closeness",
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"low_pressure",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "sitting_near_each_other_without_talking",
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"text": "Sitting near each other without talking"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_hand_resting_on_your_leg",
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"text": "A hand resting on your leg"
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},
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{
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"id": "doing_separate_things_in_the_same_room",
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"text": "Doing separate things in the same room"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_brief_check_in_with_no_follow_up_pressure",
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"text": "A brief check-in with no follow-up pressure"
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},
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{
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"id": "sharing_music_in_comfortable_silence",
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"text": "Sharing music in comfortable silence"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "sitting_near_each_other_without_talking",
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"text": "Sitting near each other without talking"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_hand_resting_on_your_leg",
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"text": "A hand resting on your leg"
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},
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{
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"id": "doing_separate_things_in_the_same_room",
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"text": "Doing separate things in the same room"
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},
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{
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"id": "a_brief_check_in_with_no_follow_up_pressure",
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"text": "A brief check-in with no follow-up pressure"
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},
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{
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"id": "sharing_music_in_comfortable_silence",
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"text": "Sharing music in comfortable silence"
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}
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],
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"min_selections": 1,
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"max_selections": 3
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_009",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "single_choice",
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"text": "Which kind of check-in feels most natural to you?",
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"depth": 1,
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"tags": [
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"check_ins",
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"natural_connection",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "how_are_you_really_doing",
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"text": "How are you really doing?"
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},
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{
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"id": "need_anything_from_me_tonight",
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"text": "Need anything from me tonight?"
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},
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{
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"id": "what_part_of_your_day_stuck_with_you",
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"text": "What part of your day stuck with you?"
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},
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{
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"id": "want_company_or_some_breathing_room",
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"text": "Want company or some breathing room?"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "how_are_you_really_doing",
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"text": "How are you really doing?"
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},
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{
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"id": "need_anything_from_me_tonight",
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"text": "Need anything from me tonight?"
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},
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{
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"id": "what_part_of_your_day_stuck_with_you",
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"text": "What part of your day stuck with you?"
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},
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{
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"id": "want_company_or_some_breathing_room",
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"text": "Want company or some breathing room?"
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}
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]
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}
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},
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{
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"id": "emotional_intimacy_010",
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"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
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"type": "multi_choice",
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"text": "What makes affection feel emotionally meaningful to you?",
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"depth": 2,
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"tags": [
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"affection",
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"meaning",
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"emotional_intimacy"
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],
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"access": "free",
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"sex": "neutral",
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"options": [
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{
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"id": "it_happens_outside_romantic_moments",
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"text": "It happens outside romantic moments"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_matches_the_mood_i_am_in",
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"text": "It matches the mood I am in"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_is_offered_without_expecting_more",
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"text": "It is offered without expecting more"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_feels_personal_rather_than_automatic",
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"text": "It feels personal rather than automatic"
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},
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{
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"id": "it_continues_after_a_difficult_day",
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"text": "It continues after a difficult day"
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}
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],
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"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_happens_outside_romantic_moments",
|
||
"text": "It happens outside romantic moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_matches_the_mood_i_am_in",
|
||
"text": "It matches the mood I am in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_offered_without_expecting_more",
|
||
"text": "It is offered without expecting more"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_feels_personal_rather_than_automatic",
|
||
"text": "It feels personal rather than automatic"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_continues_after_a_difficult_day",
|
||
"text": "It continues after a difficult day"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_011",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How connected have you felt to me lately?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"current_closeness",
|
||
"connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "A little distant",
|
||
"max_label": "Very connected"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_012",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs tell you I am paying attention to your inner world?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"attention",
|
||
"inner_world",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_about_something_you_mentioned_earlier",
|
||
"text": "I ask about something you mentioned earlier"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_when_your_energy_is_different",
|
||
"text": "I notice when your energy is different"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_what_you_were_worried_about",
|
||
"text": "I remember what you were worried about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_celebrate_things_that_matter_to_you",
|
||
"text": "I celebrate things that matter to you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_give_you_room_when_you_are_thinking",
|
||
"text": "I give you room when you are thinking"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_about_something_you_mentioned_earlier",
|
||
"text": "I ask about something you mentioned earlier"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_when_your_energy_is_different",
|
||
"text": "I notice when your energy is different"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_what_you_were_worried_about",
|
||
"text": "I remember what you were worried about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_celebrate_things_that_matter_to_you",
|
||
"text": "I celebrate things that matter to you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_give_you_room_when_you_are_thinking",
|
||
"text": "I give you room when you are thinking"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_013",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you doubt yourself, what kind of reassurance helps most?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"self_doubt",
|
||
"reassurance",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remind_me_what_i_have_already_handled",
|
||
"text": "Remind me what I have already handled"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tell_me_what_you_genuinely_see_in_me",
|
||
"text": "Tell me what you genuinely see in me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stay_close_while_i_find_my_footing",
|
||
"text": "Stay close while I find my footing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "help_me_laugh_at_the_worst_case_story",
|
||
"text": "Help me laugh at the worst-case story"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remind_me_what_i_have_already_handled",
|
||
"text": "Remind me what I have already handled"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tell_me_what_you_genuinely_see_in_me",
|
||
"text": "Tell me what you genuinely see in me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stay_close_while_i_find_my_footing",
|
||
"text": "Stay close while I find my footing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "help_me_laugh_at_the_worst_case_story",
|
||
"text": "Help me laugh at the worst-case story"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_014",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you receive comfort without feeling crowded?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"receiving_comfort",
|
||
"personal_space",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_before_giving_advice",
|
||
"text": "You ask before giving advice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_choose_how_much_to_share",
|
||
"text": "You let me choose how much to share"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_your_voice_calm_and_normal",
|
||
"text": "You keep your voice calm and normal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_nearby_without_hovering",
|
||
"text": "You stay nearby without hovering"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_treat_my_mood_like_an_emergency",
|
||
"text": "You do not treat my mood like an emergency"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_before_giving_advice",
|
||
"text": "You ask before giving advice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_choose_how_much_to_share",
|
||
"text": "You let me choose how much to share"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_your_voice_calm_and_normal",
|
||
"text": "You keep your voice calm and normal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_nearby_without_hovering",
|
||
"text": "You stay nearby without hovering"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_treat_my_mood_like_an_emergency",
|
||
"text": "You do not treat my mood like an emergency"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_015",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which everyday gestures make you feel chosen?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"feeling_chosen",
|
||
"daily_life",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_save_you_a_spot_beside_me",
|
||
"text": "I save you a spot beside me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_look_for_you_when_something_funny_happens",
|
||
"text": "I look for you when something funny happens"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_bring_you_into_a_conversation",
|
||
"text": "I bring you into a conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_check_what_you_would_enjoy_too",
|
||
"text": "I check what you would enjoy too"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_greet_you_like_i_am_glad_you_are_here",
|
||
"text": "I greet you like I am glad you are here"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_save_you_a_spot_beside_me",
|
||
"text": "I save you a spot beside me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_look_for_you_when_something_funny_happens",
|
||
"text": "I look for you when something funny happens"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_bring_you_into_a_conversation",
|
||
"text": "I bring you into a conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_check_what_you_would_enjoy_too",
|
||
"text": "I check what you would enjoy too"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_greet_you_like_i_am_glad_you_are_here",
|
||
"text": "I greet you like I am glad you are here"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_016",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How comfortable are you being a little vulnerable with me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"vulnerability",
|
||
"comfort",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Still cautious",
|
||
"max_label": "Very comfortable"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_017",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What keeps a serious feeling from becoming too heavy between us?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_weight",
|
||
"gentleness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_we_can_pause_whenever_needed",
|
||
"text": "Knowing we can pause whenever needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_warmth_in_the_way_we_speak",
|
||
"text": "A little warmth in the way we speak"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "not_having_to_explain_every_detail",
|
||
"text": "Not having to explain every detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_touch_of_humor_at_the_right_moment",
|
||
"text": "A touch of humor at the right moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ending_with_affection_instead_of_picking_it_apart",
|
||
"text": "Ending with affection instead of picking it apart"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_we_can_pause_whenever_needed",
|
||
"text": "Knowing we can pause whenever needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_warmth_in_the_way_we_speak",
|
||
"text": "A little warmth in the way we speak"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "not_having_to_explain_every_detail",
|
||
"text": "Not having to explain every detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_touch_of_humor_at_the_right_moment",
|
||
"text": "A touch of humor at the right moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ending_with_affection_instead_of_picking_it_apart",
|
||
"text": "Ending with affection instead of picking it apart"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_018",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "If you want closeness without a big talk, what sounds best?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"low_pressure_closeness",
|
||
"simple_needs",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "curling_up_together_for_one_episode",
|
||
"text": "Curling up together for one episode"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "taking_a_slow_drive_with_music",
|
||
"text": "Taking a slow drive with music"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "holding_hands_while_we_do_something_ordinary",
|
||
"text": "Holding hands while we do something ordinary"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "lying_together_for_a_few_quiet_minutes",
|
||
"text": "Lying together for a few quiet minutes"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "curling_up_together_for_one_episode",
|
||
"text": "Curling up together for one episode"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "taking_a_slow_drive_with_music",
|
||
"text": "Taking a slow drive with music"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "holding_hands_while_we_do_something_ordinary",
|
||
"text": "Holding hands while we do something ordinary"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "lying_together_for_a_few_quiet_minutes",
|
||
"text": "Lying together for a few quiet minutes"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_019",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which actions leave you feeling emotionally appreciated?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"appreciation",
|
||
"emotional_value",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_thank_you_for_the_invisible_things",
|
||
"text": "I thank you for the invisible things"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_the_effort_behind_what_you_do",
|
||
"text": "I notice the effort behind what you do"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_tell_other_people_something_i_admire",
|
||
"text": "I tell other people something I admire"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_acknowledge_what_a_day_cost_you",
|
||
"text": "I acknowledge what a day cost you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_sure_your_feelings_are_not_an_afterthought",
|
||
"text": "I make sure your feelings are not an afterthought"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_thank_you_for_the_invisible_things",
|
||
"text": "I thank you for the invisible things"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_the_effort_behind_what_you_do",
|
||
"text": "I notice the effort behind what you do"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_tell_other_people_something_i_admire",
|
||
"text": "I tell other people something I admire"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_acknowledge_what_a_day_cost_you",
|
||
"text": "I acknowledge what a day cost you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_sure_your_feelings_are_not_an_afterthought",
|
||
"text": "I make sure your feelings are not an afterthought"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_020",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which parts of your day do you most enjoy sharing with me?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"sharing_daily_life",
|
||
"curiosity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_funniest_thing_that_happened",
|
||
"text": "The funniest thing that happened"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_drained_me",
|
||
"text": "The part that drained me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_thought_i_could_not_stop_having",
|
||
"text": "A thought I could not stop having"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "something_small_i_am_proud_of",
|
||
"text": "Something small I am proud of"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_moment_i_wished_you_were_there",
|
||
"text": "The moment I wished you were there"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_funniest_thing_that_happened",
|
||
"text": "The funniest thing that happened"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_drained_me",
|
||
"text": "The part that drained me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_thought_i_could_not_stop_having",
|
||
"text": "A thought I could not stop having"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "something_small_i_am_proud_of",
|
||
"text": "Something small I am proud of"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_moment_i_wished_you_were_there",
|
||
"text": "The moment I wished you were there"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_021",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which surprise from me would brighten your day most?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"surprises",
|
||
"warmth",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_text_about_something_specific_i_love_about_you",
|
||
"text": "A text about something specific I love about you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_memory_that_made_me_think_of_us",
|
||
"text": "A memory that made me think of us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_small_plan_built_around_your_mood",
|
||
"text": "A small plan built around your mood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_voice_note_because_i_missed_you",
|
||
"text": "A voice note because I missed you"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_text_about_something_specific_i_love_about_you",
|
||
"text": "A text about something specific I love about you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_memory_that_made_me_think_of_us",
|
||
"text": "A memory that made me think of us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_small_plan_built_around_your_mood",
|
||
"text": "A small plan built around your mood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_voice_note_because_i_missed_you",
|
||
"text": "A voice note because I missed you"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_022",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes our private world feel special to you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"private_world",
|
||
"couple_identity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_phrases_only_we_use",
|
||
"text": "The phrases only we use"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_looks_that_say_a_whole_sentence",
|
||
"text": "The looks that say a whole sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stories_we_tell_differently_than_anyone_else",
|
||
"text": "The stories we tell differently than anyone else"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_we_can_be_ridiculous_together",
|
||
"text": "The way we can be ridiculous together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_version_of_ourselves_that_comes_out_at_home",
|
||
"text": "The version of ourselves that comes out at home"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_phrases_only_we_use",
|
||
"text": "The phrases only we use"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_looks_that_say_a_whole_sentence",
|
||
"text": "The looks that say a whole sentence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stories_we_tell_differently_than_anyone_else",
|
||
"text": "The stories we tell differently than anyone else"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_we_can_be_ridiculous_together",
|
||
"text": "The way we can be ridiculous together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_version_of_ourselves_that_comes_out_at_home",
|
||
"text": "The version of ourselves that comes out at home"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_023",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When life feels heavy, what helps you feel less alone with me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hard_times",
|
||
"companionship",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_sit_with_me_before_trying_to_fix_anything",
|
||
"text": "You sit with me before trying to fix anything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_we_can_handle_one_piece_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "You remind me we can handle one piece at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_take_one_small_burden_off_my_plate",
|
||
"text": "You take one small burden off my plate"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_affectionate_even_when_i_am_withdrawn",
|
||
"text": "You stay affectionate even when I am withdrawn"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_check_back_later_instead_of_assuming_i_am_fine",
|
||
"text": "You check back later instead of assuming I am fine"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_sit_with_me_before_trying_to_fix_anything",
|
||
"text": "You sit with me before trying to fix anything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_we_can_handle_one_piece_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "You remind me we can handle one piece at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_take_one_small_burden_off_my_plate",
|
||
"text": "You take one small burden off my plate"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_affectionate_even_when_i_am_withdrawn",
|
||
"text": "You stay affectionate even when I am withdrawn"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_check_back_later_instead_of_assuming_i_am_fine",
|
||
"text": "You check back later instead of assuming I am fine"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_024",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you need encouragement, what do you want first?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"encouragement",
|
||
"support_preferences",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confidence_that_i_can_handle_it",
|
||
"text": "Confidence that I can handle it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "permission_to_be_tired_for_a_minute",
|
||
"text": "Permission to be tired for a minute"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "help_seeing_the_next_small_step",
|
||
"text": "Help seeing the next small step"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_reminder_of_why_it_matters_to_me",
|
||
"text": "A reminder of why it matters to me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "confidence_that_i_can_handle_it",
|
||
"text": "Confidence that I can handle it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "permission_to_be_tired_for_a_minute",
|
||
"text": "Permission to be tired for a minute"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "help_seeing_the_next_small_step",
|
||
"text": "Help seeing the next small step"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_reminder_of_why_it_matters_to_me",
|
||
"text": "A reminder of why it matters to me"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_025",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a hug feel emotionally comforting to you?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"hugs",
|
||
"physical_comfort",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_lasts_long_enough_for_me_to_settle",
|
||
"text": "It lasts long enough for me to settle"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_happens_before_either_of_us_explains",
|
||
"text": "It happens before either of us explains"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_hold_me_firmly_but_not_tightly",
|
||
"text": "You hold me firmly but not tightly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_a_soft_word_or_kiss_with_it",
|
||
"text": "There is a soft word or kiss with it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_be_the_first_to_pull_away",
|
||
"text": "You let me be the first to pull away"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_lasts_long_enough_for_me_to_settle",
|
||
"text": "It lasts long enough for me to settle"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_happens_before_either_of_us_explains",
|
||
"text": "It happens before either of us explains"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_hold_me_firmly_but_not_tightly",
|
||
"text": "You hold me firmly but not tightly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_a_soft_word_or_kiss_with_it",
|
||
"text": "There is a soft word or kiss with it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_be_the_first_to_pull_away",
|
||
"text": "You let me be the first to pull away"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_026",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel remembered when we are apart?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"apart",
|
||
"being_remembered",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_message_tied_to_something_we_talked_about",
|
||
"text": "A message tied to something we talked about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_photo_of_something_that_made_you_think_of_me",
|
||
"text": "A photo of something that made you think of me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quick_update_from_the_middle_of_your_day",
|
||
"text": "A quick update from the middle of your day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_song_that_reminded_you_of_us",
|
||
"text": "A song that reminded you of us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_plan_for_when_we_are_together_again",
|
||
"text": "A plan for when we are together again"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_message_tied_to_something_we_talked_about",
|
||
"text": "A message tied to something we talked about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_photo_of_something_that_made_you_think_of_me",
|
||
"text": "A photo of something that made you think of me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quick_update_from_the_middle_of_your_day",
|
||
"text": "A quick update from the middle of your day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_song_that_reminded_you_of_us",
|
||
"text": "A song that reminded you of us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_plan_for_when_we_are_together_again",
|
||
"text": "A plan for when we are together again"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_027",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of “I miss you” feels best to receive?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"missing_each_other",
|
||
"messages",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_simple_text_with_no_extra_explanation",
|
||
"text": "A simple text with no extra explanation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_funny_callback_to_our_last_time_together",
|
||
"text": "A funny callback to our last time together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_voice_note_that_sounds_genuinely_affectionate",
|
||
"text": "A voice note that sounds genuinely affectionate"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_specific_thing_you_miss_about_having_me_there",
|
||
"text": "A specific thing you miss about having me there"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_simple_text_with_no_extra_explanation",
|
||
"text": "A simple text with no extra explanation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_funny_callback_to_our_last_time_together",
|
||
"text": "A funny callback to our last time together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_voice_note_that_sounds_genuinely_affectionate",
|
||
"text": "A voice note that sounds genuinely affectionate"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_specific_thing_you_miss_about_having_me_there",
|
||
"text": "A specific thing you miss about having me there"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_028",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel proud to be with me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"pride",
|
||
"admiration",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_i_treat_people_when_nobody_is_watching",
|
||
"text": "The way I treat people when nobody is watching"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "how_i_keep_going_when_something_is_difficult",
|
||
"text": "How I keep going when something is difficult"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_things_i_care_deeply_about",
|
||
"text": "The things I care deeply about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_version_of_myself_i_have_grown_into",
|
||
"text": "The version of myself I have grown into"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "how_openly_i_love_the_people_who_matter_to_me",
|
||
"text": "How openly I love the people who matter to me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_i_treat_people_when_nobody_is_watching",
|
||
"text": "The way I treat people when nobody is watching"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "how_i_keep_going_when_something_is_difficult",
|
||
"text": "How I keep going when something is difficult"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_things_i_care_deeply_about",
|
||
"text": "The things I care deeply about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_version_of_myself_i_have_grown_into",
|
||
"text": "The version of myself I have grown into"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "how_openly_i_love_the_people_who_matter_to_me",
|
||
"text": "How openly I love the people who matter to me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_029",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How easy is it to let me celebrate you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"celebration",
|
||
"receiving_praise",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "A little awkward",
|
||
"max_label": "Very easy"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_030",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which parts of yourself feel easiest to show me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"authenticity",
|
||
"being_yourself",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_silly_side",
|
||
"text": "My silly side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_ambitious_side",
|
||
"text": "My ambitious side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_sensitive_side",
|
||
"text": "My sensitive side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_uncertain_side",
|
||
"text": "My uncertain side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_completely_unfiltered_side",
|
||
"text": "My completely unfiltered side"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_silly_side",
|
||
"text": "My silly side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_ambitious_side",
|
||
"text": "My ambitious side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_sensitive_side",
|
||
"text": "My sensitive side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_uncertain_side",
|
||
"text": "My uncertain side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_completely_unfiltered_side",
|
||
"text": "My completely unfiltered side"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_031",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A thoughtful text or a surprise hug?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"affection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_thoughtful_text",
|
||
"text": "A thoughtful text"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_surprise_hug",
|
||
"text": "A surprise hug"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_thoughtful_text",
|
||
"text": "A thoughtful text"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_surprise_hug",
|
||
"text": "A surprise hug"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_032",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When words are not enough, what still helps you feel loved?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"nonverbal_love",
|
||
"care",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_close_instead_of_filling_the_silence",
|
||
"text": "You stay close instead of filling the silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_one_kind_thing_without_making_a_production_of_it",
|
||
"text": "You do one kind thing without making a production of it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_look_at_me_with_real_softness",
|
||
"text": "You look at me with real softness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_the_room_feel_calmer",
|
||
"text": "You make the room feel calmer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_reach_for_my_hand",
|
||
"text": "You reach for my hand"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_close_instead_of_filling_the_silence",
|
||
"text": "You stay close instead of filling the silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_one_kind_thing_without_making_a_production_of_it",
|
||
"text": "You do one kind thing without making a production of it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_look_at_me_with_real_softness",
|
||
"text": "You look at me with real softness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_the_room_feel_calmer",
|
||
"text": "You make the room feel calmer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_reach_for_my_hand",
|
||
"text": "You reach for my hand"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_033",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which small ritual would make us feel closer?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"rituals",
|
||
"connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_real_hello_when_we_reunite",
|
||
"text": "A real hello when we reunite"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_honest_question_before_bed",
|
||
"text": "One honest question before bed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_weekly_song_picked_for_each_other",
|
||
"text": "A weekly song picked for each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quiet_cup_of_something_together",
|
||
"text": "A quiet cup of something together"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_real_hello_when_we_reunite",
|
||
"text": "A real hello when we reunite"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_honest_question_before_bed",
|
||
"text": "One honest question before bed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_weekly_song_picked_for_each_other",
|
||
"text": "A weekly song picked for each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quiet_cup_of_something_together",
|
||
"text": "A quiet cup of something together"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_034",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What tells you I enjoy who you are, not only what you do?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"being_valued",
|
||
"identity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_want_your_company_when_nothing_needs_doing",
|
||
"text": "I want your company when nothing needs doing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_what_you_think_just_because_i_am_curious",
|
||
"text": "I ask what you think just because I am curious"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_laugh_at_the_way_your_mind_works",
|
||
"text": "I laugh at the way your mind works"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_your_personality_in_ordinary_moments",
|
||
"text": "I notice your personality in ordinary moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_room_for_the_interests_that_are_yours_alone",
|
||
"text": "I make room for the interests that are yours alone"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_want_your_company_when_nothing_needs_doing",
|
||
"text": "I want your company when nothing needs doing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_what_you_think_just_because_i_am_curious",
|
||
"text": "I ask what you think just because I am curious"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_laugh_at_the_way_your_mind_works",
|
||
"text": "I laugh at the way your mind works"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_your_personality_in_ordinary_moments",
|
||
"text": "I notice your personality in ordinary moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_room_for_the_interests_that_are_yours_alone",
|
||
"text": "I make room for the interests that are yours alone"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_035",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What is one part of you that you wish I noticed more often?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"being_noticed",
|
||
"personal_depth",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min_length": 1,
|
||
"max_length": 500,
|
||
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_036",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kinds of emotional closeness feel romantic to you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"romance",
|
||
"emotional_closeness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_looked_at_like_you_still_cannot_believe_i_am_yours",
|
||
"text": "Being looked at like you still cannot believe I am yours"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talking_quietly_after_everyone_else_is_asleep",
|
||
"text": "Talking quietly after everyone else is asleep"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_what_you_admire_about_my_inner_life",
|
||
"text": "Hearing what you admire about my inner life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_wanted_on_an_ordinary_day",
|
||
"text": "Feeling wanted on an ordinary day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_a_memory_that_still_has_a_pull_between_us",
|
||
"text": "Sharing a memory that still has a pull between us"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_looked_at_like_you_still_cannot_believe_i_am_yours",
|
||
"text": "Being looked at like you still cannot believe I am yours"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talking_quietly_after_everyone_else_is_asleep",
|
||
"text": "Talking quietly after everyone else is asleep"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_what_you_admire_about_my_inner_life",
|
||
"text": "Hearing what you admire about my inner life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_wanted_on_an_ordinary_day",
|
||
"text": "Feeling wanted on an ordinary day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_a_memory_that_still_has_a_pull_between_us",
|
||
"text": "Sharing a memory that still has a pull between us"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_037",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How often do you feel like I genuinely enjoy who you are?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"delight",
|
||
"feeling_wanted",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not often lately",
|
||
"max_label": "Very often"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_038",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a message from me feel like I genuinely missed you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"missing_each_other",
|
||
"meaningful_messages",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_names_something_specific_about_you",
|
||
"text": "It names something specific about you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_arrives_without_needing_a_reply",
|
||
"text": "It arrives without needing a reply"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_sounds_like_my_actual_voice",
|
||
"text": "It sounds like my actual voice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_brings_up_a_moment_we_shared",
|
||
"text": "It brings up a moment we shared"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_makes_our_next_reunion_feel_closer",
|
||
"text": "It makes our next reunion feel closer"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_names_something_specific_about_you",
|
||
"text": "It names something specific about you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_arrives_without_needing_a_reply",
|
||
"text": "It arrives without needing a reply"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_sounds_like_my_actual_voice",
|
||
"text": "It sounds like my actual voice"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_brings_up_a_moment_we_shared",
|
||
"text": "It brings up a moment we shared"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_makes_our_next_reunion_feel_closer",
|
||
"text": "It makes our next reunion feel closer"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_039",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of shared memory feels most emotionally powerful?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"memories",
|
||
"shared_history",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_time_we_laughed_until_we_could_not_breathe",
|
||
"text": "A time we laughed until we could not breathe"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_difficult_season_we_made_it_through",
|
||
"text": "A difficult season we made it through"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_ordinary_day_that_became_unforgettable",
|
||
"text": "An ordinary day that became unforgettable"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_moment_one_of_us_felt_deeply_cared_for",
|
||
"text": "A moment one of us felt deeply cared for"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_time_we_laughed_until_we_could_not_breathe",
|
||
"text": "A time we laughed until we could not breathe"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_difficult_season_we_made_it_through",
|
||
"text": "A difficult season we made it through"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_ordinary_day_that_became_unforgettable",
|
||
"text": "An ordinary day that became unforgettable"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_moment_one_of_us_felt_deeply_cared_for",
|
||
"text": "A moment one of us felt deeply cared for"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_040",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes laughter feel intimate between us?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"laughter",
|
||
"playful_closeness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_laugh_at_ourselves_without_embarrassment",
|
||
"text": "We can laugh at ourselves without embarrassment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_look_can_restart_an_old_joke",
|
||
"text": "One look can restart an old joke"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_know_when_humor_will_help_and_when_it_will_not",
|
||
"text": "We know when humor will help and when it will not"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_funniest_moments_happen_when_nobody_else_is_around",
|
||
"text": "Our funniest moments happen when nobody else is around"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "laughter_brings_us_back_to_being_ourselves",
|
||
"text": "Laughter brings us back to being ourselves"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_laugh_at_ourselves_without_embarrassment",
|
||
"text": "We can laugh at ourselves without embarrassment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_look_can_restart_an_old_joke",
|
||
"text": "One look can restart an old joke"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_know_when_humor_will_help_and_when_it_will_not",
|
||
"text": "We know when humor will help and when it will not"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_funniest_moments_happen_when_nobody_else_is_around",
|
||
"text": "Our funniest moments happen when nobody else is around"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "laughter_brings_us_back_to_being_ourselves",
|
||
"text": "Laughter brings us back to being ourselves"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_041",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Being gently teased or openly adored?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"affection_style",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_gently_teased",
|
||
"text": "Being gently teased"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_openly_adored",
|
||
"text": "Being openly adored"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_gently_teased",
|
||
"text": "Being gently teased"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_openly_adored",
|
||
"text": "Being openly adored"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_042",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes home feel warmer when we’re together?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"home_warmth",
|
||
"belonging",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_we_greet_each_other",
|
||
"text": "The way we greet each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_familiar_background_noises",
|
||
"text": "Our familiar background noises"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_i_can_fully_exhale_around_you",
|
||
"text": "Knowing I can fully exhale around you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "small_affection_while_we_pass_each_other",
|
||
"text": "Small affection while we pass each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_feeling_that_we_are_on_the_same_side",
|
||
"text": "The feeling that we are on the same side"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_we_greet_each_other",
|
||
"text": "The way we greet each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_familiar_background_noises",
|
||
"text": "Our familiar background noises"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_i_can_fully_exhale_around_you",
|
||
"text": "Knowing I can fully exhale around you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "small_affection_while_we_pass_each_other",
|
||
"text": "Small affection while we pass each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_feeling_that_we_are_on_the_same_side",
|
||
"text": "The feeling that we are on the same side"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_043",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you share good news, what reaction do you want first?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"good_news",
|
||
"celebration",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "big_obvious_excitement",
|
||
"text": "Big obvious excitement"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_proud_smile_and_a_long_hug",
|
||
"text": "A proud smile and a long hug"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_that_show_real_interest",
|
||
"text": "Questions that show real interest"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_playful_plan_to_celebrate",
|
||
"text": "A playful plan to celebrate"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "big_obvious_excitement",
|
||
"text": "Big obvious excitement"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_proud_smile_and_a_long_hug",
|
||
"text": "A proud smile and a long hug"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "questions_that_show_real_interest",
|
||
"text": "Questions that show real interest"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_playful_plan_to_celebrate",
|
||
"text": "A playful plan to celebrate"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_044",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you are excited, what helps you feel free to show it?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"joy",
|
||
"emotional_freedom",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_match_my_energy_instead_of_calming_me_down",
|
||
"text": "You match my energy instead of calming me down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_tell_the_story_in_my_own_order",
|
||
"text": "You let me tell the story in my own order"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_about_the_part_that_matters_most_to_me",
|
||
"text": "You ask about the part that matters most to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_celebrate_before_pointing_out_practical_details",
|
||
"text": "You celebrate before pointing out practical details"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remember_the_news_later",
|
||
"text": "You remember the news later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_match_my_energy_instead_of_calming_me_down",
|
||
"text": "You match my energy instead of calming me down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_tell_the_story_in_my_own_order",
|
||
"text": "You let me tell the story in my own order"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_about_the_part_that_matters_most_to_me",
|
||
"text": "You ask about the part that matters most to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_celebrate_before_pointing_out_practical_details",
|
||
"text": "You celebrate before pointing out practical details"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remember_the_news_later",
|
||
"text": "You remember the news later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_045",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When do you feel most emotionally in sync with me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"same_wavelength",
|
||
"couple_sync",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "free",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_the_same_funny_detail",
|
||
"text": "We notice the same funny detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_both_know_when_it_is_time_to_leave",
|
||
"text": "We both know when it is time to leave"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_say_the_same_thing_at_nearly_the_same_time",
|
||
"text": "We say the same thing at nearly the same time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_understand_what_the_other_needs_without_a_speech",
|
||
"text": "We understand what the other needs without a speech"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_turn_toward_each_other_during_a_crowded_moment",
|
||
"text": "We turn toward each other during a crowded moment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_the_same_funny_detail",
|
||
"text": "We notice the same funny detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_both_know_when_it_is_time_to_leave",
|
||
"text": "We both know when it is time to leave"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_say_the_same_thing_at_nearly_the_same_time",
|
||
"text": "We say the same thing at nearly the same time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_understand_what_the_other_needs_without_a_speech",
|
||
"text": "We understand what the other needs without a speech"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_turn_toward_each_other_during_a_crowded_moment",
|
||
"text": "We turn toward each other during a crowded moment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_046",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel loved when neither of us is at our best?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"imperfect_days",
|
||
"steady_love",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_stay_kind_even_when_we_are_tired",
|
||
"text": "We stay kind even when we are tired"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_demand_the_best_version_of_each_other",
|
||
"text": "We do not demand the best version of each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_recover_from_small_off_moments_without_making_them_bigger",
|
||
"text": "We recover from small off moments without making them bigger"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_still_find_one_moment_of_affection",
|
||
"text": "We still find one moment of affection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_remember_that_a_hard_day_is_not_the_whole_relationship",
|
||
"text": "We remember that a hard day is not the whole relationship"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_stay_kind_even_when_we_are_tired",
|
||
"text": "We stay kind even when we are tired"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_demand_the_best_version_of_each_other",
|
||
"text": "We do not demand the best version of each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_recover_from_small_off_moments_without_making_them_bigger",
|
||
"text": "We recover from small off moments without making them bigger"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_still_find_one_moment_of_affection",
|
||
"text": "We still find one moment of affection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_remember_that_a_hard_day_is_not_the_whole_relationship",
|
||
"text": "We remember that a hard day is not the whole relationship"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_047",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which part of emotional closeness do you want more of lately?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"current_needs",
|
||
"closeness_preferences",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_noticed",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more noticed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_comforted",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more comforted"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_playful_together",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more playful together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_emotionally_wanted",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more emotionally wanted"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_noticed",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more noticed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_comforted",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more comforted"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_playful_together",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more playful together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_more_emotionally_wanted",
|
||
"text": "Feeling more emotionally wanted"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_048",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes it easier to let me see your softer side?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"softness",
|
||
"vulnerability",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_rush_me_to_explain",
|
||
"text": "You do not rush me to explain"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respond_warmly_rather_than_dramatically",
|
||
"text": "You respond warmly rather than dramatically"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_treat_tenderness_like_something_normal",
|
||
"text": "You treat tenderness like something normal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_the_moment_private",
|
||
"text": "You keep the moment private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_the_same_with_me_afterward",
|
||
"text": "You stay the same with me afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_rush_me_to_explain",
|
||
"text": "You do not rush me to explain"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respond_warmly_rather_than_dramatically",
|
||
"text": "You respond warmly rather than dramatically"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_treat_tenderness_like_something_normal",
|
||
"text": "You treat tenderness like something normal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_the_moment_private",
|
||
"text": "You keep the moment private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_stay_the_same_with_me_afterward",
|
||
"text": "You stay the same with me afterward"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_049",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A quiet “I know” or a detailed “tell me more”?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"understanding_style",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quiet_i_know",
|
||
"text": "A quiet “I know”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_detailed_tell_me_more",
|
||
"text": "A detailed “tell me more”"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_quiet_i_know",
|
||
"text": "A quiet “I know”"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_detailed_tell_me_more",
|
||
"text": "A detailed “tell me more”"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_050",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs tell you we have emotionally found our way back to each other?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"emotional_return",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_tone_sounds_warm_again",
|
||
"text": "Our tone sounds warm again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_stops_feeling_careful",
|
||
"text": "Affection stops feeling careful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_start_sharing_small_thoughts_naturally",
|
||
"text": "We start sharing small thoughts naturally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "humor_returns_without_being_forced",
|
||
"text": "Humor returns without being forced"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_room_feels_easier_when_we_are_together",
|
||
"text": "The room feels easier when we are together"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_tone_sounds_warm_again",
|
||
"text": "Our tone sounds warm again"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_stops_feeling_careful",
|
||
"text": "Affection stops feeling careful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_start_sharing_small_thoughts_naturally",
|
||
"text": "We start sharing small thoughts naturally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "humor_returns_without_being_forced",
|
||
"text": "Humor returns without being forced"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_room_feels_easier_when_we_are_together",
|
||
"text": "The room feels easier when we are together"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_051",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel emotionally wanted instead of merely included?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"feeling_wanted",
|
||
"belonging",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_seek_me_out_when_you_do_not_need_anything",
|
||
"text": "You seek me out when you do not need anything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_room_for_my_reaction_before_deciding",
|
||
"text": "You make room for my reaction before deciding"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_look_genuinely_happy_when_i_join_you",
|
||
"text": "You look genuinely happy when I join you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_invite_me_into_the_parts_of_life_you_enjoy",
|
||
"text": "You invite me into the parts of life you enjoy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_choose_closeness_when_convenience_would_be_easier",
|
||
"text": "You choose closeness when convenience would be easier"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_seek_me_out_when_you_do_not_need_anything",
|
||
"text": "You seek me out when you do not need anything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_room_for_my_reaction_before_deciding",
|
||
"text": "You make room for my reaction before deciding"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_look_genuinely_happy_when_i_join_you",
|
||
"text": "You look genuinely happy when I join you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_invite_me_into_the_parts_of_life_you_enjoy",
|
||
"text": "You invite me into the parts of life you enjoy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_choose_closeness_when_convenience_would_be_easier",
|
||
"text": "You choose closeness when convenience would be easier"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_052",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When I can tell something is off, what response feels best?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"mood_awareness",
|
||
"support_preferences",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_once_and_let_me_decide_how_much_to_say",
|
||
"text": "Ask once and let me decide how much to say"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offer_comfort_before_asking_what_happened",
|
||
"text": "Offer comfort before asking what happened"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stay_normal_but_a_little_more_attentive",
|
||
"text": "Stay normal but a little more attentive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "give_me_space_and_check_back_later",
|
||
"text": "Give me space and check back later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_once_and_let_me_decide_how_much_to_say",
|
||
"text": "Ask once and let me decide how much to say"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offer_comfort_before_asking_what_happened",
|
||
"text": "Offer comfort before asking what happened"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stay_normal_but_a_little_more_attentive",
|
||
"text": "Stay normal but a little more attentive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "give_me_space_and_check_back_later",
|
||
"text": "Give me space and check back later"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_053",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you know your feelings matter to me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"feelings_matter",
|
||
"care",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_the_feeling_after_the_facts_have_passed",
|
||
"text": "I remember the feeling after the facts have passed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_argue_with_how_something_affected_you",
|
||
"text": "I do not argue with how something affected you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_adjust_something_small_when_i_can",
|
||
"text": "I adjust something small when I can"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_what_part_was_hardest_for_you",
|
||
"text": "I ask what part was hardest for you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_treat_your_reaction_as_worth_understanding",
|
||
"text": "I treat your reaction as worth understanding"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_the_feeling_after_the_facts_have_passed",
|
||
"text": "I remember the feeling after the facts have passed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_argue_with_how_something_affected_you",
|
||
"text": "I do not argue with how something affected you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_adjust_something_small_when_i_can",
|
||
"text": "I adjust something small when I can"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_what_part_was_hardest_for_you",
|
||
"text": "I ask what part was hardest for you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_treat_your_reaction_as_worth_understanding",
|
||
"text": "I treat your reaction as worth understanding"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_054",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How easy is it to accept comfort from me when you are upset?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"accepting_comfort",
|
||
"openness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Usually difficult",
|
||
"max_label": "Usually easy"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_055",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which parts of your inner world would you like me to know better?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"inner_world",
|
||
"curiosity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_ideas_i_keep_returning_to",
|
||
"text": "The ideas I keep returning to"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_fears_i_rarely_say_out_loud",
|
||
"text": "The fears I rarely say out loud"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_things_i_secretly_hope_for",
|
||
"text": "The things I secretly hope for"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_memories_that_shaped_how_i_see_myself",
|
||
"text": "The memories that shaped how I see myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_small_joys_other_people_overlook",
|
||
"text": "The small joys other people overlook"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_ideas_i_keep_returning_to",
|
||
"text": "The ideas I keep returning to"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_fears_i_rarely_say_out_loud",
|
||
"text": "The fears I rarely say out loud"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_things_i_secretly_hope_for",
|
||
"text": "The things I secretly hope for"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_memories_that_shaped_how_i_see_myself",
|
||
"text": "The memories that shaped how I see myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_small_joys_other_people_overlook",
|
||
"text": "The small joys other people overlook"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_056",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A soft question or a familiar touch?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"tenderness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_soft_question",
|
||
"text": "A soft question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_familiar_touch",
|
||
"text": "A familiar touch"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_soft_question",
|
||
"text": "A soft question"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_familiar_touch",
|
||
"text": "A familiar touch"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_057",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps a tender moment feel natural instead of staged?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"tender_moments",
|
||
"authenticity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_happens_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_life",
|
||
"text": "It happens in the middle of ordinary life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "nobody_is_trying_to_say_the_perfect_thing",
|
||
"text": "Nobody is trying to say the perfect thing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_room_to_laugh_if_it_gets_awkward",
|
||
"text": "There is room to laugh if it gets awkward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_affection_fits_what_we_are_feeling",
|
||
"text": "The affection fits what we are feeling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_let_the_moment_end_without_overexplaining_it",
|
||
"text": "We let the moment end without overexplaining it"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_happens_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_life",
|
||
"text": "It happens in the middle of ordinary life"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "nobody_is_trying_to_say_the_perfect_thing",
|
||
"text": "Nobody is trying to say the perfect thing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_room_to_laugh_if_it_gets_awkward",
|
||
"text": "There is room to laugh if it gets awkward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_affection_fits_what_we_are_feeling",
|
||
"text": "The affection fits what we are feeling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_let_the_moment_end_without_overexplaining_it",
|
||
"text": "We let the moment end without overexplaining it"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_058",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which compliment feels most emotionally intimate?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"compliments",
|
||
"intimacy",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_me_feel_more_like_myself",
|
||
"text": "You make me feel more like myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_trust_the_way_you_see_the_world",
|
||
"text": "I trust the way you see the world"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_love_who_you_are_when_nobody_is_watching",
|
||
"text": "I love who you are when nobody is watching"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "life_feels_warmer_with_you_in_it",
|
||
"text": "Life feels warmer with you in it"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_me_feel_more_like_myself",
|
||
"text": "You make me feel more like myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_trust_the_way_you_see_the_world",
|
||
"text": "I trust the way you see the world"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_love_who_you_are_when_nobody_is_watching",
|
||
"text": "I love who you are when nobody is watching"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "life_feels_warmer_with_you_in_it",
|
||
"text": "Life feels warmer with you in it"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_059",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What lets you know I can handle your honest feelings?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"honest_feelings",
|
||
"emotional_capacity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_make_your_emotion_about_me",
|
||
"text": "I do not make your emotion about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_stay_calm_without_becoming_distant",
|
||
"text": "I can stay calm without becoming distant"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_let_mixed_feelings_exist_at_the_same_time",
|
||
"text": "I let mixed feelings exist at the same time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_demand_an_immediate_solution",
|
||
"text": "I do not demand an immediate solution"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remain_affectionate_after_hearing_something_difficult",
|
||
"text": "I remain affectionate after hearing something difficult"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_make_your_emotion_about_me",
|
||
"text": "I do not make your emotion about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_stay_calm_without_becoming_distant",
|
||
"text": "I can stay calm without becoming distant"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_let_mixed_feelings_exist_at_the_same_time",
|
||
"text": "I let mixed feelings exist at the same time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_demand_an_immediate_solution",
|
||
"text": "I do not demand an immediate solution"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remain_affectionate_after_hearing_something_difficult",
|
||
"text": "I remain affectionate after hearing something difficult"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_060",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What is something about you that I understand better than most people do?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"deep_understanding",
|
||
"personal_story",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min_length": 1,
|
||
"max_length": 500,
|
||
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_061",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel connected when our energy levels do not match?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"different_energy",
|
||
"adaptability",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_choose_something_neither_person_has_to_force",
|
||
"text": "We choose something neither person has to force"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_quieter_person_is_not_treated_like_a_problem",
|
||
"text": "The quieter person is not treated like a problem"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_more_energetic_person_can_still_be_themselves",
|
||
"text": "The more energetic person can still be themselves"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_find_one_small_point_of_connection",
|
||
"text": "We find one small point of connection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_agree_that_closeness_can_look_different_that_day",
|
||
"text": "We agree that closeness can look different that day"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_choose_something_neither_person_has_to_force",
|
||
"text": "We choose something neither person has to force"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_quieter_person_is_not_treated_like_a_problem",
|
||
"text": "The quieter person is not treated like a problem"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_more_energetic_person_can_still_be_themselves",
|
||
"text": "The more energetic person can still be themselves"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_find_one_small_point_of_connection",
|
||
"text": "We find one small point of connection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_agree_that_closeness_can_look_different_that_day",
|
||
"text": "We agree that closeness can look different that day"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_062",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How accepted do you feel by me when your feelings are complicated?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_welcome",
|
||
"belonging",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "I still feel guarded",
|
||
"max_label": "Fully accepted"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_063",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you feel lonely, which kinds of closeness help most?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"loneliness",
|
||
"comfort",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_conversation_that_goes_beyond_logistics",
|
||
"text": "A conversation that goes beyond logistics"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "physical_affection_with_no_pressure_attached",
|
||
"text": "Physical affection with no pressure attached"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_invited_into_whatever_you_are_doing",
|
||
"text": "Being invited into whatever you are doing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_that_my_presence_matters_to_you",
|
||
"text": "Hearing that my presence matters to you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_one_small_plan_to_look_forward_to",
|
||
"text": "Making one small plan to look forward to"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_conversation_that_goes_beyond_logistics",
|
||
"text": "A conversation that goes beyond logistics"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "physical_affection_with_no_pressure_attached",
|
||
"text": "Physical affection with no pressure attached"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_invited_into_whatever_you_are_doing",
|
||
"text": "Being invited into whatever you are doing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_that_my_presence_matters_to_you",
|
||
"text": "Hearing that my presence matters to you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_one_small_plan_to_look_forward_to",
|
||
"text": "Making one small plan to look forward to"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_064",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "What kind of attention feels especially personal?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"personal_attention",
|
||
"being_known",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_an_exact_detail_from_weeks_ago",
|
||
"text": "Remembering an exact detail from weeks ago"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_a_change_i_did_not_announce",
|
||
"text": "Noticing a change I did not announce"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_about_something_i_care_about_deeply",
|
||
"text": "Asking about something I care about deeply"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_what_will_make_me_laugh_today",
|
||
"text": "Knowing what will make me laugh today"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_an_exact_detail_from_weeks_ago",
|
||
"text": "Remembering an exact detail from weeks ago"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_a_change_i_did_not_announce",
|
||
"text": "Noticing a change I did not announce"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_about_something_i_care_about_deeply",
|
||
"text": "Asking about something I care about deeply"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_what_will_make_me_laugh_today",
|
||
"text": "Knowing what will make me laugh today"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_065",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes it easier to share joy with me, not only stress?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"sharing_joy",
|
||
"positive_connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_be_excited_without_teasing_it_down",
|
||
"text": "You let me be excited without teasing it down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_for_the_full_story",
|
||
"text": "You ask for the full story"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_celebrate_before_discussing_the_next_step",
|
||
"text": "You celebrate before discussing the next step"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remember_what_the_win_means_to_me",
|
||
"text": "You remember what the win means to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_bring_the_good_news_up_again_later",
|
||
"text": "You bring the good news up again later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_be_excited_without_teasing_it_down",
|
||
"text": "You let me be excited without teasing it down"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_for_the_full_story",
|
||
"text": "You ask for the full story"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_celebrate_before_discussing_the_next_step",
|
||
"text": "You celebrate before discussing the next step"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remember_what_the_win_means_to_me",
|
||
"text": "You remember what the win means to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_bring_the_good_news_up_again_later",
|
||
"text": "You bring the good news up again later"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_066",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Being quietly understood or enthusiastically encouraged?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"support_style",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_quietly_understood",
|
||
"text": "Being quietly understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_enthusiastically_encouraged",
|
||
"text": "Being enthusiastically encouraged"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_quietly_understood",
|
||
"text": "Being quietly understood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_enthusiastically_encouraged",
|
||
"text": "Being enthusiastically encouraged"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_067",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs make affection feel genuine to you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"genuine_affection",
|
||
"authenticity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_not_limited_to_certain_moods",
|
||
"text": "It is not limited to certain moods"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_reflects_what_you_know_i_actually_like",
|
||
"text": "It reflects what you know I actually like"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_shows_up_when_nobody_else_can_see_it",
|
||
"text": "It shows up when nobody else can see it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_not_used_to_avoid_a_real_feeling",
|
||
"text": "It is not used to avoid a real feeling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_feels_freely_given_rather_than_performed",
|
||
"text": "It feels freely given rather than performed"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_not_limited_to_certain_moods",
|
||
"text": "It is not limited to certain moods"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_reflects_what_you_know_i_actually_like",
|
||
"text": "It reflects what you know I actually like"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_shows_up_when_nobody_else_can_see_it",
|
||
"text": "It shows up when nobody else can see it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_is_not_used_to_avoid_a_real_feeling",
|
||
"text": "It is not used to avoid a real feeling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "it_feels_freely_given_rather_than_performed",
|
||
"text": "It feels freely given rather than performed"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_068",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you are emotionally tired, what sounds most restorative?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_fatigue",
|
||
"restoration",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_company_with_very_few_questions",
|
||
"text": "Quiet company with very few questions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "gentle_affection_and_an_early_night",
|
||
"text": "Gentle affection and an early night"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_familiar_activity_that_requires_nothing_from_me",
|
||
"text": "A familiar activity that requires nothing from me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_laughter_that_changes_the_atmosphere",
|
||
"text": "A little laughter that changes the atmosphere"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_company_with_very_few_questions",
|
||
"text": "Quiet company with very few questions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "gentle_affection_and_an_early_night",
|
||
"text": "Gentle affection and an early night"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_familiar_activity_that_requires_nothing_from_me",
|
||
"text": "A familiar activity that requires nothing from me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_laughter_that_changes_the_atmosphere",
|
||
"text": "A little laughter that changes the atmosphere"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_069",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel like all sides of you are welcome with me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"whole_self",
|
||
"acceptance",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_welcome_both_my_confidence_and_uncertainty",
|
||
"text": "You welcome both my confidence and uncertainty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_expect_me_to_stay_in_one_mood",
|
||
"text": "You do not expect me to stay in one mood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_interests_do_not_have_to_become_yours",
|
||
"text": "My interests do not have to become yours"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_change_my_mind_without_losing_your_respect",
|
||
"text": "I can change my mind without losing your respect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_have_to_be_useful_to_feel_lovable",
|
||
"text": "I do not have to be useful to feel lovable"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_welcome_both_my_confidence_and_uncertainty",
|
||
"text": "You welcome both my confidence and uncertainty"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_expect_me_to_stay_in_one_mood",
|
||
"text": "You do not expect me to stay in one mood"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_interests_do_not_have_to_become_yours",
|
||
"text": "My interests do not have to become yours"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_change_my_mind_without_losing_your_respect",
|
||
"text": "I can change my mind without losing your respect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_have_to_be_useful_to_feel_lovable",
|
||
"text": "I do not have to be useful to feel lovable"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_070",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which things make my admiration easiest to feel?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"admiration",
|
||
"recognition",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_watch_me_do_something_i_am_good_at",
|
||
"text": "You watch me do something I am good at"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_for_my_perspective_because_you_value_it",
|
||
"text": "You ask for my perspective because you value it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_name_a_quality_you_hope_never_changes",
|
||
"text": "You name a quality you hope never changes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_look_proud_when_i_talk_about_what_matters",
|
||
"text": "You look proud when I talk about what matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_courage_behind_a_choice_i_made",
|
||
"text": "You notice the courage behind a choice I made"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_watch_me_do_something_i_am_good_at",
|
||
"text": "You watch me do something I am good at"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_for_my_perspective_because_you_value_it",
|
||
"text": "You ask for my perspective because you value it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_name_a_quality_you_hope_never_changes",
|
||
"text": "You name a quality you hope never changes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_look_proud_when_i_talk_about_what_matters",
|
||
"text": "You look proud when I talk about what matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_courage_behind_a_choice_i_made",
|
||
"text": "You notice the courage behind a choice I made"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_071",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps us stay emotionally close while life is changing?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"change",
|
||
"continuity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_one_familiar_ritual",
|
||
"text": "We keep one familiar ritual"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_say_what_feels_different_instead_of_pretending",
|
||
"text": "We say what feels different instead of pretending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_learning_who_the_other_person_is_becoming",
|
||
"text": "We keep learning who the other person is becoming"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_grief_and_excitement_together",
|
||
"text": "We make room for grief and excitement together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_protect_affection_even_when_routines_shift",
|
||
"text": "We protect affection even when routines shift"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_one_familiar_ritual",
|
||
"text": "We keep one familiar ritual"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_say_what_feels_different_instead_of_pretending",
|
||
"text": "We say what feels different instead of pretending"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_learning_who_the_other_person_is_becoming",
|
||
"text": "We keep learning who the other person is becoming"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_grief_and_excitement_together",
|
||
"text": "We make room for grief and excitement together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_protect_affection_even_when_routines_shift",
|
||
"text": "We protect affection even when routines shift"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_072",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which parts of our history make you feel anchored to us?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_history",
|
||
"emotional_anchor",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_early_moments_when_we_chose_each_other",
|
||
"text": "The early moments when we chose each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hard_years_that_proved_our_endurance",
|
||
"text": "The hard years that proved our endurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_ordinary_traditions_that_became_ours",
|
||
"text": "The ordinary traditions that became ours"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_ways_we_have_changed_side_by_side",
|
||
"text": "The ways we have changed side by side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stories_our_family_and_friends_know_by_heart",
|
||
"text": "The stories our family and friends know by heart"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_early_moments_when_we_chose_each_other",
|
||
"text": "The early moments when we chose each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hard_years_that_proved_our_endurance",
|
||
"text": "The hard years that proved our endurance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_ordinary_traditions_that_became_ours",
|
||
"text": "The ordinary traditions that became ours"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_ways_we_have_changed_side_by_side",
|
||
"text": "The ways we have changed side by side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stories_our_family_and_friends_know_by_heart",
|
||
"text": "The stories our family and friends know by heart"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_073",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a deeper question from me feel welcome?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"deeper_questions",
|
||
"readiness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_timing_feels_private_and_unhurried",
|
||
"text": "The timing feels private and unhurried"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_sound_curious_rather_than_concerned",
|
||
"text": "You sound curious rather than concerned"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_know_a_short_answer_is_acceptable",
|
||
"text": "I know a short answer is acceptable"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_question_is_about_knowing_me_not_correcting_me",
|
||
"text": "The question is about knowing me, not correcting me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_are_willing_to_answer_it_too",
|
||
"text": "You are willing to answer it too"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_timing_feels_private_and_unhurried",
|
||
"text": "The timing feels private and unhurried"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_sound_curious_rather_than_concerned",
|
||
"text": "You sound curious rather than concerned"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_know_a_short_answer_is_acceptable",
|
||
"text": "I know a short answer is acceptable"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_question_is_about_knowing_me_not_correcting_me",
|
||
"text": "The question is about knowing me, not correcting me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_are_willing_to_answer_it_too",
|
||
"text": "You are willing to answer it too"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_074",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel tender toward me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"tenderness",
|
||
"fondness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "seeing_a_side_of_you_other_people_rarely_see",
|
||
"text": "Seeing a side of you other people rarely see"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_how_young_we_both_once_were",
|
||
"text": "Remembering how young we both once were"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "watching_you_care_about_something_deeply",
|
||
"text": "Watching you care about something deeply"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_the_effort_behind_your_brave_face",
|
||
"text": "Noticing the effort behind your brave face"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "catching_a_familiar_expression_i_have_always_loved",
|
||
"text": "Catching a familiar expression I have always loved"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "seeing_a_side_of_you_other_people_rarely_see",
|
||
"text": "Seeing a side of you other people rarely see"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_how_young_we_both_once_were",
|
||
"text": "Remembering how young we both once were"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "watching_you_care_about_something_deeply",
|
||
"text": "Watching you care about something deeply"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_the_effort_behind_your_brave_face",
|
||
"text": "Noticing the effort behind your brave face"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "catching_a_familiar_expression_i_have_always_loved",
|
||
"text": "Catching a familiar expression I have always loved"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_075",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kinds of kindness matter most between us?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_generosity",
|
||
"care",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "giving_each_other_the_benefit_of_the_doubt_on_a_hard_day",
|
||
"text": "Giving each other the benefit of the doubt on a hard day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_room_for_a_feeling_that_arrives_at_a_bad_time",
|
||
"text": "Making room for a feeling that arrives at a bad time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offering_warmth_without_waiting_to_be_asked",
|
||
"text": "Offering warmth without waiting to be asked"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "letting_the_other_person_have_the_bigger_moment",
|
||
"text": "Letting the other person have the bigger moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choosing_kindness_when_a_sharper_answer_would_be_easier",
|
||
"text": "Choosing kindness when a sharper answer would be easier"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "giving_each_other_the_benefit_of_the_doubt_on_a_hard_day",
|
||
"text": "Giving each other the benefit of the doubt on a hard day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_room_for_a_feeling_that_arrives_at_a_bad_time",
|
||
"text": "Making room for a feeling that arrives at a bad time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offering_warmth_without_waiting_to_be_asked",
|
||
"text": "Offering warmth without waiting to be asked"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "letting_the_other_person_have_the_bigger_moment",
|
||
"text": "Letting the other person have the bigger moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "choosing_kindness_when_a_sharper_answer_would_be_easier",
|
||
"text": "Choosing kindness when a sharper answer would be easier"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_076",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which subtle signs usually mean you could use more care from me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"subtle_signals",
|
||
"care",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_get_unusually_quiet",
|
||
"text": "I get unusually quiet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_become_more_practical_than_emotional",
|
||
"text": "I become more practical than emotional"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_keep_repeating_that_i_am_fine",
|
||
"text": "I keep repeating that I am fine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_lose_interest_in_things_i_normally_enjoy",
|
||
"text": "I lose interest in things I normally enjoy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_stay_busy_so_i_do_not_have_to_slow_down",
|
||
"text": "I stay busy so I do not have to slow down"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_get_unusually_quiet",
|
||
"text": "I get unusually quiet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_become_more_practical_than_emotional",
|
||
"text": "I become more practical than emotional"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_keep_repeating_that_i_am_fine",
|
||
"text": "I keep repeating that I am fine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_lose_interest_in_things_i_normally_enjoy",
|
||
"text": "I lose interest in things I normally enjoy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_stay_busy_so_i_do_not_have_to_slow_down",
|
||
"text": "I stay busy so I do not have to slow down"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_077",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "After you open up and feel a little exposed, what helps most?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"after_vulnerability",
|
||
"care",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_warm_response_without_making_it_a_huge_moment",
|
||
"text": "A warm response without making it a huge moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_affection_and_a_change_of_subject",
|
||
"text": "A little affection and a change of subject"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_that_you_are_glad_i_told_you",
|
||
"text": "Hearing that you are glad I told you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_treated_normally_while_you_stay_close",
|
||
"text": "Being treated normally while you stay close"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_warm_response_without_making_it_a_huge_moment",
|
||
"text": "A warm response without making it a huge moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_affection_and_a_change_of_subject",
|
||
"text": "A little affection and a change of subject"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_that_you_are_glad_i_told_you",
|
||
"text": "Hearing that you are glad I told you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_treated_normally_while_you_stay_close",
|
||
"text": "Being treated normally while you stay close"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_078",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel cared for without feeling managed?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_protection",
|
||
"autonomy",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_defend_my_dignity_when_i_am_not_present",
|
||
"text": "You defend my dignity when I am not present"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_private_moments_private",
|
||
"text": "You keep private moments private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_support_me_without_taking_over",
|
||
"text": "You support me without taking over"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_warn_me_gently_when_something_may_hurt",
|
||
"text": "You warn me gently when something may hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respect_that_i_still_make_my_own_choices",
|
||
"text": "You respect that I still make my own choices"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_defend_my_dignity_when_i_am_not_present",
|
||
"text": "You defend my dignity when I am not present"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_private_moments_private",
|
||
"text": "You keep private moments private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_support_me_without_taking_over",
|
||
"text": "You support me without taking over"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_warn_me_gently_when_something_may_hurt",
|
||
"text": "You warn me gently when something may hurt"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respect_that_i_still_make_my_own_choices",
|
||
"text": "You respect that I still make my own choices"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_079",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How comfortable are you letting me see you disappointed?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"disappointment",
|
||
"vulnerability",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Usually guarded",
|
||
"max_label": "Very comfortable"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_080",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which parts of being known feel most intimate to you?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"being_known",
|
||
"intimacy",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_know_what_i_mean_before_i_finish",
|
||
"text": "You know what I mean before I finish"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_recognize_when_i_am_covering_hurt_with_humor",
|
||
"text": "You recognize when I am covering hurt with humor"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_understand_what_i_need_after_social_time",
|
||
"text": "You understand what I need after social time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remember_the_younger_version_of_me",
|
||
"text": "You remember the younger version of me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_know_which_dreams_i_have_not_given_up_on",
|
||
"text": "You know which dreams I have not given up on"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_know_what_i_mean_before_i_finish",
|
||
"text": "You know what I mean before I finish"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_recognize_when_i_am_covering_hurt_with_humor",
|
||
"text": "You recognize when I am covering hurt with humor"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_understand_what_i_need_after_social_time",
|
||
"text": "You understand what I need after social time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remember_the_younger_version_of_me",
|
||
"text": "You remember the younger version of me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_know_which_dreams_i_have_not_given_up_on",
|
||
"text": "You know which dreams I have not given up on"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_081",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A private nickname or a meaningful look?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"private_affection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_private_nickname",
|
||
"text": "A private nickname"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_meaningful_look",
|
||
"text": "A meaningful look"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_private_nickname",
|
||
"text": "A private nickname"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_meaningful_look",
|
||
"text": "A meaningful look"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_082",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel close again after a lot of social time?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"after_socializing",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_private_recap_on_the_way_home",
|
||
"text": "A private recap on the way home"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_few_minutes_alone_together_before_bed",
|
||
"text": "A few minutes alone together before bed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talking_about_the_funniest_moment",
|
||
"text": "Talking about the funniest moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_whether_either_of_us_felt_left_out",
|
||
"text": "Checking whether either of us felt left out"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "returning_to_one_familiar_little_routine",
|
||
"text": "Returning to one familiar little routine"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_private_recap_on_the_way_home",
|
||
"text": "A private recap on the way home"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_few_minutes_alone_together_before_bed",
|
||
"text": "A few minutes alone together before bed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "talking_about_the_funniest_moment",
|
||
"text": "Talking about the funniest moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_whether_either_of_us_felt_left_out",
|
||
"text": "Checking whether either of us felt left out"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "returning_to_one_familiar_little_routine",
|
||
"text": "Returning to one familiar little routine"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_083",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of emotional closeness feels most romantic lately?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"romantic_intimacy",
|
||
"current_preferences",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_completely_noticed",
|
||
"text": "Feeling completely noticed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_openly_admired",
|
||
"text": "Being openly admired"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_something_private",
|
||
"text": "Sharing something private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_cared_for_in_a_quiet_way",
|
||
"text": "Being cared for in a quiet way"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_completely_noticed",
|
||
"text": "Feeling completely noticed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_openly_admired",
|
||
"text": "Being openly admired"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_something_private",
|
||
"text": "Sharing something private"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_cared_for_in_a_quiet_way",
|
||
"text": "Being cared for in a quiet way"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_084",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps us keep tenderness when one of us is stressed?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"stress",
|
||
"tenderness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_mistake_a_short_mood_for_rejection",
|
||
"text": "We do not mistake a short mood for rejection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_use_affection_that_asks_for_nothing_back",
|
||
"text": "We use affection that asks for nothing back"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_our_words_gentler_than_the_day_was",
|
||
"text": "We keep our words gentler than the day was"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_effort_even_when_the_result_is_imperfect",
|
||
"text": "We notice effort even when the result is imperfect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_a_small_laugh_if_it_fits",
|
||
"text": "We make room for a small laugh if it fits"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_mistake_a_short_mood_for_rejection",
|
||
"text": "We do not mistake a short mood for rejection"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_use_affection_that_asks_for_nothing_back",
|
||
"text": "We use affection that asks for nothing back"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_our_words_gentler_than_the_day_was",
|
||
"text": "We keep our words gentler than the day was"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_effort_even_when_the_result_is_imperfect",
|
||
"text": "We notice effort even when the result is imperfect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_a_small_laugh_if_it_fits",
|
||
"text": "We make room for a small laugh if it fits"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_085",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "written",
|
||
"text": "What is one way you have changed emotionally since we became a couple?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"growth",
|
||
"shared_journey",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min_length": 1,
|
||
"max_length": 500,
|
||
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_086",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs tell you I am emotionally available to you?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_availability",
|
||
"presence",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_look_up_and_give_you_my_full_attention",
|
||
"text": "I look up and give you my full attention"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_rush_your_answer",
|
||
"text": "I do not rush your answer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_hear_a_feeling_without_immediately_fixing_it",
|
||
"text": "I can hear a feeling without immediately fixing it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_follow_up_after_the_moment_has_passed",
|
||
"text": "I follow up after the moment has passed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_room_for_your_experience_beside_mine",
|
||
"text": "I make room for your experience beside mine"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_look_up_and_give_you_my_full_attention",
|
||
"text": "I look up and give you my full attention"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_rush_your_answer",
|
||
"text": "I do not rush your answer"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_hear_a_feeling_without_immediately_fixing_it",
|
||
"text": "I can hear a feeling without immediately fixing it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_follow_up_after_the_moment_has_passed",
|
||
"text": "I follow up after the moment has passed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_room_for_your_experience_beside_mine",
|
||
"text": "I make room for your experience beside mine"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_087",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How well do you think I understand what drains you?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_drain",
|
||
"understanding",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not very well yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very well"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_088",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which feelings are easiest for you to let me see?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"visible_feelings",
|
||
"openness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "excitement_that_makes_me_talk_too_fast",
|
||
"text": "Excitement that makes me talk too fast"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sadness_that_makes_me_quiet",
|
||
"text": "Sadness that makes me quiet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "frustration_that_needs_a_little_distance",
|
||
"text": "Frustration that needs a little distance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "nervousness_before_something_important",
|
||
"text": "Nervousness before something important"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tenderness_that_catches_me_off_guard",
|
||
"text": "Tenderness that catches me off guard"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "excitement_that_makes_me_talk_too_fast",
|
||
"text": "Excitement that makes me talk too fast"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sadness_that_makes_me_quiet",
|
||
"text": "Sadness that makes me quiet"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "frustration_that_needs_a_little_distance",
|
||
"text": "Frustration that needs a little distance"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "nervousness_before_something_important",
|
||
"text": "Nervousness before something important"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tenderness_that_catches_me_off_guard",
|
||
"text": "Tenderness that catches me off guard"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_089",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which feeling would you most want me to gently ask about?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_curiosity",
|
||
"being_noticed",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_worry_behind_my_overthinking",
|
||
"text": "The worry behind my overthinking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hurt_behind_my_silence",
|
||
"text": "The hurt behind my silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_loneliness_behind_my_independence",
|
||
"text": "The loneliness behind my independence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hope_behind_my_hesitation",
|
||
"text": "The hope behind my hesitation"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_worry_behind_my_overthinking",
|
||
"text": "The worry behind my overthinking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hurt_behind_my_silence",
|
||
"text": "The hurt behind my silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_loneliness_behind_my_independence",
|
||
"text": "The loneliness behind my independence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_hope_behind_my_hesitation",
|
||
"text": "The hope behind my hesitation"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_090",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel emotionally close after a busy week?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"busy_weeks",
|
||
"reconnection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "catching_up_on_what_actually_mattered",
|
||
"text": "Catching up on what actually mattered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_slow_morning_with_no_urgent_decisions",
|
||
"text": "A slow morning with no urgent decisions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_affectionate_moment_that_is_not_rushed",
|
||
"text": "One affectionate moment that is not rushed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_what_you_missed_about_me",
|
||
"text": "Hearing what you missed about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "doing_something_familiar_that_feels_like_us",
|
||
"text": "Doing something familiar that feels like us"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "catching_up_on_what_actually_mattered",
|
||
"text": "Catching up on what actually mattered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_slow_morning_with_no_urgent_decisions",
|
||
"text": "A slow morning with no urgent decisions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_affectionate_moment_that_is_not_rushed",
|
||
"text": "One affectionate moment that is not rushed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_what_you_missed_about_me",
|
||
"text": "Hearing what you missed about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "doing_something_familiar_that_feels_like_us",
|
||
"text": "Doing something familiar that feels like us"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_091",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A long hug or a long conversation?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"comfort_style",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_hug",
|
||
"text": "A long hug"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_conversation",
|
||
"text": "A long conversation"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_hug",
|
||
"text": "A long hug"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_long_conversation",
|
||
"text": "A long conversation"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_092",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you enjoy your accomplishments with me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"self_pride",
|
||
"acceptance",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
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],
|
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"access": "premium",
|
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"sex": "neutral",
|
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"options": [
|
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{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_turn_the_moment_into_a_competition",
|
||
"text": "You do not turn the moment into a competition"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_what_the_accomplishment_meant_to_me",
|
||
"text": "You ask what the accomplishment meant to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_enjoy_praise_without_brushing_it_off",
|
||
"text": "You let me enjoy praise without brushing it off"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_work_behind_the_result",
|
||
"text": "You notice the work behind the result"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_confidence_looks_good_on_me",
|
||
"text": "You remind me confidence looks good on me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_turn_the_moment_into_a_competition",
|
||
"text": "You do not turn the moment into a competition"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_what_the_accomplishment_meant_to_me",
|
||
"text": "You ask what the accomplishment meant to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_enjoy_praise_without_brushing_it_off",
|
||
"text": "You let me enjoy praise without brushing it off"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_work_behind_the_result",
|
||
"text": "You notice the work behind the result"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_confidence_looks_good_on_me",
|
||
"text": "You remind me confidence looks good on me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_093",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of “I love you” feels most convincing?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"love_expressions",
|
||
"meaning",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_said_in_the_middle_of_an_ordinary_task",
|
||
"text": "One said in the middle of an ordinary task"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_connected_to_something_specific_about_me",
|
||
"text": "One connected to something specific about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_whispered_during_a_quiet_affectionate_moment",
|
||
"text": "One whispered during a quiet affectionate moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_shown_through_a_thoughtful_follow_through",
|
||
"text": "One shown through a thoughtful follow-through"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_said_in_the_middle_of_an_ordinary_task",
|
||
"text": "One said in the middle of an ordinary task"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_connected_to_something_specific_about_me",
|
||
"text": "One connected to something specific about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_whispered_during_a_quiet_affectionate_moment",
|
||
"text": "One whispered during a quiet affectionate moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_shown_through_a_thoughtful_follow_through",
|
||
"text": "One shown through a thoughtful follow-through"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_094",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What keeps emotional closeness alive during ordinary seasons?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"ordinary_seasons",
|
||
"sustaining_closeness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_asking_each_other_new_questions",
|
||
"text": "We keep asking each other new questions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_save_affection_for_special_occasions",
|
||
"text": "We do not save affection for special occasions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_share_small_reactions_throughout_the_day",
|
||
"text": "We share small reactions throughout the day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_who_we_are_becoming",
|
||
"text": "We make room for who we are becoming"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_still_act_interested_in_each_other",
|
||
"text": "We still act interested in each other"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_keep_asking_each_other_new_questions",
|
||
"text": "We keep asking each other new questions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_do_not_save_affection_for_special_occasions",
|
||
"text": "We do not save affection for special occasions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_share_small_reactions_throughout_the_day",
|
||
"text": "We share small reactions throughout the day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_who_we_are_becoming",
|
||
"text": "We make room for who we are becoming"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_still_act_interested_in_each_other",
|
||
"text": "We still act interested in each other"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_095",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which shared experiences make you feel most bonded to me?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"bonding",
|
||
"shared_experiences",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "solving_a_problem_side_by_side",
|
||
"text": "Solving a problem side by side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "laughing_through_something_that_went_wrong",
|
||
"text": "Laughing through something that went wrong"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "seeing_somewhere_new_together",
|
||
"text": "Seeing somewhere new together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "caring_for_someone_or_something_as_a_team",
|
||
"text": "Caring for someone or something as a team"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "having_a_quiet_moment_in_a_busy_place",
|
||
"text": "Having a quiet moment in a busy place"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "solving_a_problem_side_by_side",
|
||
"text": "Solving a problem side by side"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "laughing_through_something_that_went_wrong",
|
||
"text": "Laughing through something that went wrong"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "seeing_somewhere_new_together",
|
||
"text": "Seeing somewhere new together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "caring_for_someone_or_something_as_a_team",
|
||
"text": "Caring for someone or something as a team"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "having_a_quiet_moment_in_a_busy_place",
|
||
"text": "Having a quiet moment in a busy place"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_096",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you stay open to affection when your mind is elsewhere?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"preoccupation",
|
||
"receiving_affection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_gentle_touch_that_does_not_interrupt_everything",
|
||
"text": "A gentle touch that does not interrupt everything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_signal_that_nothing_more_is_expected",
|
||
"text": "A clear signal that nothing more is expected"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_time_to_finish_the_thought_i_am_in",
|
||
"text": "A little time to finish the thought I am in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_that_feels_familiar_and_grounding",
|
||
"text": "Affection that feels familiar and grounding"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_asked_whether_closeness_would_help",
|
||
"text": "Being asked whether closeness would help"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_gentle_touch_that_does_not_interrupt_everything",
|
||
"text": "A gentle touch that does not interrupt everything"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_clear_signal_that_nothing_more_is_expected",
|
||
"text": "A clear signal that nothing more is expected"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_little_time_to_finish_the_thought_i_am_in",
|
||
"text": "A little time to finish the thought I am in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_that_feels_familiar_and_grounding",
|
||
"text": "Affection that feels familiar and grounding"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_asked_whether_closeness_would_help",
|
||
"text": "Being asked whether closeness would help"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_097",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you are stressed, which kinds of emotional attention feel best?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"stress_support",
|
||
"attention",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_without_making_me_explain_immediately",
|
||
"text": "Noticing without making me explain immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "reminding_me_what_can_wait_until_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Reminding me what can wait until tomorrow"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offering_one_concrete_form_of_care",
|
||
"text": "Offering one concrete form of care"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keeping_me_company_while_i_decompress",
|
||
"text": "Keeping me company while I decompress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_whether_i_want_comfort_or_distraction",
|
||
"text": "Checking whether I want comfort or distraction"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_without_making_me_explain_immediately",
|
||
"text": "Noticing without making me explain immediately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "reminding_me_what_can_wait_until_tomorrow",
|
||
"text": "Reminding me what can wait until tomorrow"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "offering_one_concrete_form_of_care",
|
||
"text": "Offering one concrete form of care"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keeping_me_company_while_i_decompress",
|
||
"text": "Keeping me company while I decompress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_whether_i_want_comfort_or_distraction",
|
||
"text": "Checking whether I want comfort or distraction"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_098",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel like I know the person behind your mood?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"moods",
|
||
"deep_understanding",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_that_irritation_may_mean_exhaustion",
|
||
"text": "I remember that irritation may mean exhaustion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_define_you_by_one_difficult_moment",
|
||
"text": "I do not define you by one difficult moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_recognize_the_values_underneath_your_reaction",
|
||
"text": "I recognize the values underneath your reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_know_what_usually_helps_you_return_to_yourself",
|
||
"text": "I know what usually helps you return to yourself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_see_your_good_intentions_even_when_delivery_is_messy",
|
||
"text": "I can see your good intentions even when delivery is messy"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_that_irritation_may_mean_exhaustion",
|
||
"text": "I remember that irritation may mean exhaustion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_define_you_by_one_difficult_moment",
|
||
"text": "I do not define you by one difficult moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_recognize_the_values_underneath_your_reaction",
|
||
"text": "I recognize the values underneath your reaction"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_know_what_usually_helps_you_return_to_yourself",
|
||
"text": "I know what usually helps you return to yourself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_see_your_good_intentions_even_when_delivery_is_messy",
|
||
"text": "I can see your good intentions even when delivery is messy"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_099",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes emotional moments with me feel unhurried?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"unhurried_closeness",
|
||
"ease",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_fill_every_silence",
|
||
"text": "You do not fill every silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_hidden_goal_for_the_conversation",
|
||
"text": "There is no hidden goal for the conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_circle_back_after_thinking",
|
||
"text": "I can circle back after thinking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_are_not_watching_the_clock",
|
||
"text": "We are not watching the clock"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_moment_can_be_meaningful_without_becoming_serious",
|
||
"text": "The moment can be meaningful without becoming serious"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_fill_every_silence",
|
||
"text": "You do not fill every silence"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_no_hidden_goal_for_the_conversation",
|
||
"text": "There is no hidden goal for the conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_can_circle_back_after_thinking",
|
||
"text": "I can circle back after thinking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_are_not_watching_the_clock",
|
||
"text": "We are not watching the clock"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_moment_can_be_meaningful_without_becoming_serious",
|
||
"text": "The moment can be meaningful without becoming serious"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_100",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kinds of care make you feel cherished?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"feeling_cherished",
|
||
"love",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_care_for_you_when_you_feel_least_impressive",
|
||
"text": "I care for you when you feel least impressive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_a_preference_you_never_had_to_repeat",
|
||
"text": "I remember a preference you never had to repeat"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_your_comfort_part_of_my_thinking",
|
||
"text": "I make your comfort part of my thinking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_speak_about_you_with_warmth_when_you_are_absent",
|
||
"text": "I speak about you with warmth when you are absent"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_treat_your_happiness_like_something_worth_protecting",
|
||
"text": "I treat your happiness like something worth protecting"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_care_for_you_when_you_feel_least_impressive",
|
||
"text": "I care for you when you feel least impressive"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_a_preference_you_never_had_to_repeat",
|
||
"text": "I remember a preference you never had to repeat"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_make_your_comfort_part_of_my_thinking",
|
||
"text": "I make your comfort part of my thinking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_speak_about_you_with_warmth_when_you_are_absent",
|
||
"text": "I speak about you with warmth when you are absent"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_treat_your_happiness_like_something_worth_protecting",
|
||
"text": "I treat your happiness like something worth protecting"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_101",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel emotionally pursued in a long-term relationship?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_pursuit",
|
||
"long_term_love",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_discovering_new_things_about_me",
|
||
"text": "You keep discovering new things about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_initiate_affection_without_waiting_for_a_signal",
|
||
"text": "You initiate affection without waiting for a signal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_plan_something_around_what_i_would_enjoy",
|
||
"text": "You plan something around what I would enjoy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_tell_me_why_you_still_choose_me",
|
||
"text": "You tell me why you still choose me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_treat_my_attention_like_something_you_want",
|
||
"text": "You treat my attention like something you want"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_discovering_new_things_about_me",
|
||
"text": "You keep discovering new things about me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_initiate_affection_without_waiting_for_a_signal",
|
||
"text": "You initiate affection without waiting for a signal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_plan_something_around_what_i_would_enjoy",
|
||
"text": "You plan something around what I would enjoy"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_tell_me_why_you_still_choose_me",
|
||
"text": "You tell me why you still choose me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_treat_my_attention_like_something_you_want",
|
||
"text": "You treat my attention like something you want"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_102",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you are having a good day, how do you most want me to join it?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_joy",
|
||
"good_days",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "match_my_excitement_and_make_it_bigger",
|
||
"text": "Match my excitement and make it bigger"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_made_the_day_feel_so_good",
|
||
"text": "Ask what made the day feel so good"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "turn_it_into_a_small_celebration_together",
|
||
"text": "Turn it into a small celebration together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "simply_enjoy_the_lighter_version_of_me",
|
||
"text": "Simply enjoy the lighter version of me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "match_my_excitement_and_make_it_bigger",
|
||
"text": "Match my excitement and make it bigger"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "ask_what_made_the_day_feel_so_good",
|
||
"text": "Ask what made the day feel so good"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "turn_it_into_a_small_celebration_together",
|
||
"text": "Turn it into a small celebration together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "simply_enjoy_the_lighter_version_of_me",
|
||
"text": "Simply enjoy the lighter version of me"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_103",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How well do I notice the emotional details that matter to you?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_details",
|
||
"being_noticed",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Not very well yet",
|
||
"max_label": "Very well"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_104",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes a reunion after time apart feel emotionally satisfying?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"reunions",
|
||
"apart",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_pause_for_a_real_greeting",
|
||
"text": "We pause for a real greeting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_tell_me_one_thing_you_missed",
|
||
"text": "You tell me one thing you missed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_share_the_parts_of_the_time_apart_that_mattered",
|
||
"text": "We share the parts of the time apart that mattered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_affection_before_we_return_to_routine",
|
||
"text": "There is affection before we return to routine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_the_first_hour_feel_like_ours",
|
||
"text": "We make the first hour feel like ours"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_pause_for_a_real_greeting",
|
||
"text": "We pause for a real greeting"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_tell_me_one_thing_you_missed",
|
||
"text": "You tell me one thing you missed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_share_the_parts_of_the_time_apart_that_mattered",
|
||
"text": "We share the parts of the time apart that mattered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "there_is_affection_before_we_return_to_routine",
|
||
"text": "There is affection before we return to routine"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_the_first_hour_feel_like_ours",
|
||
"text": "We make the first hour feel like ours"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_105",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of curiosity from me feels most loving?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"loving_curiosity",
|
||
"being_known",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_what_has_been_on_my_mind_lately",
|
||
"text": "Asking what has been on my mind lately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "wanting_the_story_behind_one_of_my_opinions",
|
||
"text": "Wanting the story behind one of my opinions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_whether_an_old_dream_still_matters",
|
||
"text": "Checking whether an old dream still matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "wondering_how_a_recent_experience_changed_me",
|
||
"text": "Wondering how a recent experience changed me"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_what_has_been_on_my_mind_lately",
|
||
"text": "Asking what has been on my mind lately"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "wanting_the_story_behind_one_of_my_opinions",
|
||
"text": "Wanting the story behind one of my opinions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_whether_an_old_dream_still_matters",
|
||
"text": "Checking whether an old dream still matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "wondering_how_a_recent_experience_changed_me",
|
||
"text": "Wondering how a recent experience changed me"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_106",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which memories best remind you that we understand each other?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_memories",
|
||
"understanding",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_time_one_of_us_knew_what_the_other_needed",
|
||
"text": "A time one of us knew what the other needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_joke_that_landed_during_a_difficult_moment",
|
||
"text": "A joke that landed during a difficult moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_choice_we_made_without_needing_much_discussion",
|
||
"text": "A choice we made without needing much discussion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_night_when_conversation_felt_effortless",
|
||
"text": "A night when conversation felt effortless"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_moment_we_protected_each_other_from_embarrassment",
|
||
"text": "A moment we protected each other from embarrassment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_time_one_of_us_knew_what_the_other_needed",
|
||
"text": "A time one of us knew what the other needed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_joke_that_landed_during_a_difficult_moment",
|
||
"text": "A joke that landed during a difficult moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_choice_we_made_without_needing_much_discussion",
|
||
"text": "A choice we made without needing much discussion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_night_when_conversation_felt_effortless",
|
||
"text": "A night when conversation felt effortless"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_moment_we_protected_each_other_from_embarrassment",
|
||
"text": "A moment we protected each other from embarrassment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_107",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel like your softness is valued?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"softness",
|
||
"being_valued",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_never_use_it_to_make_me_feel_weak",
|
||
"text": "You never use it to make me feel weak"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respond_with_care_instead_of_surprise",
|
||
"text": "You respond with care instead of surprise"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_courage_it_takes_to_stay_tender",
|
||
"text": "You notice the courage it takes to stay tender"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_protect_the_moment_from_outside_attention",
|
||
"text": "You protect the moment from outside attention"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_meet_softness_with_softness_of_your_own",
|
||
"text": "You meet softness with softness of your own"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_never_use_it_to_make_me_feel_weak",
|
||
"text": "You never use it to make me feel weak"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respond_with_care_instead_of_surprise",
|
||
"text": "You respond with care instead of surprise"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_courage_it_takes_to_stay_tender",
|
||
"text": "You notice the courage it takes to stay tender"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_protect_the_moment_from_outside_attention",
|
||
"text": "You protect the moment from outside attention"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_meet_softness_with_softness_of_your_own",
|
||
"text": "You meet softness with softness of your own"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_108",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How comfortable are you telling me when you feel left out?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"feeling_left_out",
|
||
"openness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "I usually hold it in",
|
||
"max_label": "I can say it openly"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_109",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "When we are physically apart, what keeps emotional closeness alive?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"distance",
|
||
"ongoing_connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_one_unfiltered_part_of_the_day",
|
||
"text": "Sharing one unfiltered part of the day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keeping_a_familiar_joke_going",
|
||
"text": "Keeping a familiar joke going"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_when_we_will_talk_next",
|
||
"text": "Knowing when we will talk next"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sending_affection_that_does_not_require_a_conversation",
|
||
"text": "Sending affection that does not require a conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_the_distance_feel_temporary_rather_than_defining",
|
||
"text": "Making the distance feel temporary rather than defining"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_one_unfiltered_part_of_the_day",
|
||
"text": "Sharing one unfiltered part of the day"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "keeping_a_familiar_joke_going",
|
||
"text": "Keeping a familiar joke going"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_when_we_will_talk_next",
|
||
"text": "Knowing when we will talk next"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sending_affection_that_does_not_require_a_conversation",
|
||
"text": "Sending affection that does not require a conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_the_distance_feel_temporary_rather_than_defining",
|
||
"text": "Making the distance feel temporary rather than defining"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_110",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which emotional habit would you most like us to strengthen?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_habits",
|
||
"growth",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_each_other_sooner",
|
||
"text": "Noticing each other sooner"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "celebrating_each_other_more_openly",
|
||
"text": "Celebrating each other more openly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_for_comfort_more_directly",
|
||
"text": "Asking for comfort more directly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "returning_to_warmth_more_quickly",
|
||
"text": "Returning to warmth more quickly"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "noticing_each_other_sooner",
|
||
"text": "Noticing each other sooner"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "celebrating_each_other_more_openly",
|
||
"text": "Celebrating each other more openly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "asking_for_comfort_more_directly",
|
||
"text": "Asking for comfort more directly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "returning_to_warmth_more_quickly",
|
||
"text": "Returning to warmth more quickly"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_111",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel like I’m attracted to who you are, not just how you look?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_attraction",
|
||
"being_wanted",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_are_drawn_to_the_way_i_think",
|
||
"text": "You are drawn to the way I think"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_enjoy_the_intensity_of_what_i_care_about",
|
||
"text": "You enjoy the intensity of what I care about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_find_my_tenderness_appealing",
|
||
"text": "You find my tenderness appealing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_want_access_to_my_private_thoughts",
|
||
"text": "You want access to my private thoughts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_seem_captivated_when_i_am_fully_myself",
|
||
"text": "You seem captivated when I am fully myself"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_are_drawn_to_the_way_i_think",
|
||
"text": "You are drawn to the way I think"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_enjoy_the_intensity_of_what_i_care_about",
|
||
"text": "You enjoy the intensity of what I care about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_find_my_tenderness_appealing",
|
||
"text": "You find my tenderness appealing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_want_access_to_my_private_thoughts",
|
||
"text": "You want access to my private thoughts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_seem_captivated_when_i_am_fully_myself",
|
||
"text": "You seem captivated when I am fully myself"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_112",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "Being remembered or having a need anticipated?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"care_style",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_remembered",
|
||
"text": "Being remembered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "having_a_need_anticipated",
|
||
"text": "Having a need anticipated"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_remembered",
|
||
"text": "Being remembered"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "having_a_need_anticipated",
|
||
"text": "Having a need anticipated"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_113",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs tell you our emotional chemistry is strong?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_chemistry",
|
||
"connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conversation_can_become_meaningful_without_effort",
|
||
"text": "Conversation can become meaningful without effort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_and_humor_move_easily_together",
|
||
"text": "Affection and humor move easily together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_be_intense_without_losing_warmth",
|
||
"text": "We can be intense without losing warmth"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_each_other_across_a_room",
|
||
"text": "We notice each other across a room"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "time_alone_together_changes_the_way_we_both_feel",
|
||
"text": "Time alone together changes the way we both feel"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "conversation_can_become_meaningful_without_effort",
|
||
"text": "Conversation can become meaningful without effort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_and_humor_move_easily_together",
|
||
"text": "Affection and humor move easily together"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_be_intense_without_losing_warmth",
|
||
"text": "We can be intense without losing warmth"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_each_other_across_a_room",
|
||
"text": "We notice each other across a room"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "time_alone_together_changes_the_way_we_both_feel",
|
||
"text": "Time alone together changes the way we both feel"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_114",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of quiet moment feels most intimate?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quiet_intimacy",
|
||
"stillness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "waking_up_before_the_day_starts",
|
||
"text": "Waking up before the day starts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sitting_together_after_everyone_leaves",
|
||
"text": "Sitting together after everyone leaves"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "holding_each_other_without_talking",
|
||
"text": "Holding each other without talking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_a_view_neither_of_us_needs_to_describe",
|
||
"text": "Sharing a view neither of us needs to describe"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "waking_up_before_the_day_starts",
|
||
"text": "Waking up before the day starts"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sitting_together_after_everyone_leaves",
|
||
"text": "Sitting together after everyone leaves"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "holding_each_other_without_talking",
|
||
"text": "Holding each other without talking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_a_view_neither_of_us_needs_to_describe",
|
||
"text": "Sharing a view neither of us needs to describe"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_115",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which patterns make our connection feel emotionally steady?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"steadiness",
|
||
"security",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_care_does_not_disappear_when_moods_change",
|
||
"text": "My care does not disappear when moods change"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_have_separate_days_and_still_feel_connected",
|
||
"text": "We can have separate days and still feel connected"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_know_affection_is_not_a_reward",
|
||
"text": "You know affection is not a reward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_return_to_familiar_warmth_after_stress",
|
||
"text": "We return to familiar warmth after stress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_closeness_does_not_depend_on_being_impressive",
|
||
"text": "Our closeness does not depend on being impressive"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "my_care_does_not_disappear_when_moods_change",
|
||
"text": "My care does not disappear when moods change"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_have_separate_days_and_still_feel_connected",
|
||
"text": "We can have separate days and still feel connected"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_know_affection_is_not_a_reward",
|
||
"text": "You know affection is not a reward"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_return_to_familiar_warmth_after_stress",
|
||
"text": "We return to familiar warmth after stress"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "our_closeness_does_not_depend_on_being_impressive",
|
||
"text": "Our closeness does not depend on being impressive"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_116",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How easy is it to tell me when your need for closeness changes?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"changing_needs",
|
||
"asking_for_closeness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "I tend to hide it",
|
||
"max_label": "I can say it easily"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_117",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes it easier to receive love on days you do not feel lovable?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"receiving_love",
|
||
"hard_self_image_days",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_try_to_talk_me_out_of_every_feeling",
|
||
"text": "You do not try to talk me out of every feeling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "your_affection_stays_simple_and_believable",
|
||
"text": "Your affection stays simple and believable"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_of_one_quality_you_know_is_real",
|
||
"text": "You remind me of one quality you know is real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_care_for_me_without_needing_a_big_response",
|
||
"text": "You care for me without needing a big response"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_the_day_be_hard_without_treating_me_as_hard_to_love",
|
||
"text": "You let the day be hard without treating me as hard to love"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_try_to_talk_me_out_of_every_feeling",
|
||
"text": "You do not try to talk me out of every feeling"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "your_affection_stays_simple_and_believable",
|
||
"text": "Your affection stays simple and believable"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_of_one_quality_you_know_is_real",
|
||
"text": "You remind me of one quality you know is real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_care_for_me_without_needing_a_big_response",
|
||
"text": "You care for me without needing a big response"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_the_day_be_hard_without_treating_me_as_hard_to_love",
|
||
"text": "You let the day be hard without treating me as hard to love"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_118",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which part of your inner world would you most like to share more often?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"inner_world",
|
||
"sharing_more",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_future_i_imagine_when_i_am_hopeful",
|
||
"text": "The future I imagine when I am hopeful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_thoughts_i_have_when_i_cannot_sleep",
|
||
"text": "The thoughts I have when I cannot sleep"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stories_i_tell_myself_about_who_i_am",
|
||
"text": "The stories I tell myself about who I am"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_private_things_that_make_me_feel_alive",
|
||
"text": "The private things that make me feel alive"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_future_i_imagine_when_i_am_hopeful",
|
||
"text": "The future I imagine when I am hopeful"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_thoughts_i_have_when_i_cannot_sleep",
|
||
"text": "The thoughts I have when I cannot sleep"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stories_i_tell_myself_about_who_i_am",
|
||
"text": "The stories I tell myself about who I am"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_private_things_that_make_me_feel_alive",
|
||
"text": "The private things that make me feel alive"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_119",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What tells you I respect your emotional pace?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_pace",
|
||
"respect",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_turn_hesitation_into_a_deadline",
|
||
"text": "I do not turn hesitation into a deadline"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_okay_with_you_sharing_things_a_little_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "I am okay with you sharing things a little at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_accept_that_some_feelings_need_privacy_first",
|
||
"text": "I accept that some feelings need privacy first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_confuse_slower_sharing_with_less_love",
|
||
"text": "I do not confuse slower sharing with less love"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_stay_interested_without_pushing",
|
||
"text": "I stay interested without pushing"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_turn_hesitation_into_a_deadline",
|
||
"text": "I do not turn hesitation into a deadline"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_okay_with_you_sharing_things_a_little_at_a_time",
|
||
"text": "I am okay with you sharing things a little at a time"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_accept_that_some_feelings_need_privacy_first",
|
||
"text": "I accept that some feelings need privacy first"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_confuse_slower_sharing_with_less_love",
|
||
"text": "I do not confuse slower sharing with less love"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_stay_interested_without_pushing",
|
||
"text": "I stay interested without pushing"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_120",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which imperfect parts of yourself feel most accepted by me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"imperfection",
|
||
"acceptance",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_overthinks",
|
||
"text": "The part that overthinks"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_needs_reassurance_sometimes",
|
||
"text": "The part that needs reassurance sometimes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_gets_tired_and_withdrawn",
|
||
"text": "The part that gets tired and withdrawn"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_wants_more_than_it_admits",
|
||
"text": "The part that wants more than it admits"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_has_a_hard_time_accepting_love",
|
||
"text": "The part that has a hard time accepting love"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_overthinks",
|
||
"text": "The part that overthinks"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_needs_reassurance_sometimes",
|
||
"text": "The part that needs reassurance sometimes"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_gets_tired_and_withdrawn",
|
||
"text": "The part that gets tired and withdrawn"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_wants_more_than_it_admits",
|
||
"text": "The part that wants more than it admits"
|
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},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_part_that_has_a_hard_time_accepting_love",
|
||
"text": "The part that has a hard time accepting love"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_121",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kind of shared silence feels best?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"shared_silence",
|
||
"comfort",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_quiet_after_a_meaningful_conversation",
|
||
"text": "The quiet after a meaningful conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_calm_of_doing_separate_things_nearby",
|
||
"text": "The calm of doing separate things nearby"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stillness_during_a_long_embrace",
|
||
"text": "The stillness during a long embrace"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_peaceful_ride_home_after_a_good_day",
|
||
"text": "The peaceful ride home after a good day"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_quiet_after_a_meaningful_conversation",
|
||
"text": "The quiet after a meaningful conversation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_calm_of_doing_separate_things_nearby",
|
||
"text": "The calm of doing separate things nearby"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_stillness_during_a_long_embrace",
|
||
"text": "The stillness during a long embrace"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_peaceful_ride_home_after_a_good_day",
|
||
"text": "The peaceful ride home after a good day"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_122",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel like I understand the importance of your past?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"personal_history",
|
||
"understanding",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_which_experiences_still_affect_you",
|
||
"text": "I remember which experiences still affect you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_respect_the_people_and_places_that_shaped_you",
|
||
"text": "I respect the people and places that shaped you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_when_an_old_memory_enters_a_new_moment",
|
||
"text": "I notice when an old memory enters a new moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_reduce_your_past_to_one_simple_lesson",
|
||
"text": "I do not reduce your past to one simple lesson"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_that_growth_does_not_erase_history",
|
||
"text": "I understand that growth does not erase history"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_remember_which_experiences_still_affect_you",
|
||
"text": "I remember which experiences still affect you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_respect_the_people_and_places_that_shaped_you",
|
||
"text": "I respect the people and places that shaped you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_when_an_old_memory_enters_a_new_moment",
|
||
"text": "I notice when an old memory enters a new moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_reduce_your_past_to_one_simple_lesson",
|
||
"text": "I do not reduce your past to one simple lesson"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_understand_that_growth_does_not_erase_history",
|
||
"text": "I understand that growth does not erase history"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_123",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which moments help you feel least guarded with me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"less_guarded",
|
||
"ease",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_we_are_laughing_late_at_night",
|
||
"text": "When we are laughing late at night"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_you_listen_without_changing_your_expression",
|
||
"text": "When you listen without changing your expression"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_affection_feels_completely_ordinary",
|
||
"text": "When affection feels completely ordinary"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_i_know_nothing_needs_to_be_decided",
|
||
"text": "When I know nothing needs to be decided"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_you_share_something_vulnerable_first",
|
||
"text": "When you share something vulnerable first"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_we_are_laughing_late_at_night",
|
||
"text": "When we are laughing late at night"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_you_listen_without_changing_your_expression",
|
||
"text": "When you listen without changing your expression"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_affection_feels_completely_ordinary",
|
||
"text": "When affection feels completely ordinary"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_i_know_nothing_needs_to_be_decided",
|
||
"text": "When I know nothing needs to be decided"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "when_you_share_something_vulnerable_first",
|
||
"text": "When you share something vulnerable first"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_124",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel loved when you are not very expressive?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"low_expression",
|
||
"being_loved",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_smaller_ways_i_reach_toward_you",
|
||
"text": "You notice the smaller ways I reach toward you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_demand_a_matching_level_of_enthusiasm",
|
||
"text": "You do not demand a matching level of enthusiasm"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_trust_that_quiet_affection_can_still_be_real",
|
||
"text": "You trust that quiet affection can still be real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_what_would_feel_good_without_taking_it_personally",
|
||
"text": "You ask what would feel good without taking it personally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_leave_room_for_me_to_warm_up_in_my_own_way",
|
||
"text": "You leave room for me to warm up in my own way"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_notice_the_smaller_ways_i_reach_toward_you",
|
||
"text": "You notice the smaller ways I reach toward you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_demand_a_matching_level_of_enthusiasm",
|
||
"text": "You do not demand a matching level of enthusiasm"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_trust_that_quiet_affection_can_still_be_real",
|
||
"text": "You trust that quiet affection can still be real"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_ask_what_would_feel_good_without_taking_it_personally",
|
||
"text": "You ask what would feel good without taking it personally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_leave_room_for_me_to_warm_up_in_my_own_way",
|
||
"text": "You leave room for me to warm up in my own way"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_125",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes emotional closeness feel playful without becoming shallow?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"playful_intimacy",
|
||
"depth",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "jokes_that_reveal_how_well_we_know_each_other",
|
||
"text": "Jokes that reveal how well we know each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "flirting_that_still_feels_emotionally_personal",
|
||
"text": "Flirting that still feels emotionally personal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "silly_questions_with_surprisingly_honest_answers",
|
||
"text": "Silly questions with surprisingly honest answers"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_that_makes_serious_days_feel_lighter",
|
||
"text": "Affection that makes serious days feel lighter"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "private_traditions_that_carry_real_meaning",
|
||
"text": "Private traditions that carry real meaning"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "jokes_that_reveal_how_well_we_know_each_other",
|
||
"text": "Jokes that reveal how well we know each other"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "flirting_that_still_feels_emotionally_personal",
|
||
"text": "Flirting that still feels emotionally personal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "silly_questions_with_surprisingly_honest_answers",
|
||
"text": "Silly questions with surprisingly honest answers"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_that_makes_serious_days_feel_lighter",
|
||
"text": "Affection that makes serious days feel lighter"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "private_traditions_that_carry_real_meaning",
|
||
"text": "Private traditions that carry real meaning"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_126",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you let your guard down without regretting it later?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"letting_guard_down",
|
||
"aftercare",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respond_without_treating_me_as_fragile",
|
||
"text": "You respond without treating me as fragile"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_what_i_share_in_the_right_context",
|
||
"text": "You keep what I share in the right context"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_bring_the_moment_up_carelessly_later",
|
||
"text": "You do not bring the moment up carelessly later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_allow_me_to_keep_some_parts_unfinished",
|
||
"text": "You allow me to keep some parts unfinished"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_vulnerability_feel_respected_rather_than_examined",
|
||
"text": "You make vulnerability feel respected rather than examined"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_respond_without_treating_me_as_fragile",
|
||
"text": "You respond without treating me as fragile"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_keep_what_i_share_in_the_right_context",
|
||
"text": "You keep what I share in the right context"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_bring_the_moment_up_carelessly_later",
|
||
"text": "You do not bring the moment up carelessly later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_allow_me_to_keep_some_parts_unfinished",
|
||
"text": "You allow me to keep some parts unfinished"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_make_vulnerability_feel_respected_rather_than_examined",
|
||
"text": "You make vulnerability feel respected rather than examined"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_127",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you feel discouraged, which response makes you feel most known?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"discouragement",
|
||
"being_known",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remind_me_what_usually_brings_me_back",
|
||
"text": "Remind me what usually brings me back"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_strength_i_cannot_see_in_myself",
|
||
"text": "Name the strength I cannot see in myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledge_why_this_matters_so_much_to_me",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledge why this matters so much to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stay_beside_me_without_trying_to_improve_my_mood",
|
||
"text": "Stay beside me without trying to improve my mood"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remind_me_what_usually_brings_me_back",
|
||
"text": "Remind me what usually brings me back"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "name_the_strength_i_cannot_see_in_myself",
|
||
"text": "Name the strength I cannot see in myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "acknowledge_why_this_matters_so_much_to_me",
|
||
"text": "Acknowledge why this matters so much to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "stay_beside_me_without_trying_to_improve_my_mood",
|
||
"text": "Stay beside me without trying to improve my mood"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_128",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How confident are you that I know when to comfort you and when to give you space?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"comfort_or_space",
|
||
"partner_knowledge",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "Still learning",
|
||
"max_label": "Usually accurate"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_129",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which parts of our emotional connection have improved over time?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"relationship_growth",
|
||
"emotional_progress",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_each_other_more_quickly",
|
||
"text": "We notice each other more quickly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_are_less_afraid_of_awkward_tenderness",
|
||
"text": "We are less afraid of awkward tenderness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_recover_our_warmth_more_naturally",
|
||
"text": "We recover our warmth more naturally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_understand_each_others_quiet_moods_better",
|
||
"text": "We understand each other’s quiet moods better"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_show_appreciation_with_fewer_reminders",
|
||
"text": "We show appreciation with fewer reminders"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_each_other_more_quickly",
|
||
"text": "We notice each other more quickly"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_are_less_afraid_of_awkward_tenderness",
|
||
"text": "We are less afraid of awkward tenderness"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_recover_our_warmth_more_naturally",
|
||
"text": "We recover our warmth more naturally"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_understand_each_others_quiet_moods_better",
|
||
"text": "We understand each other’s quiet moods better"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_show_appreciation_with_fewer_reminders",
|
||
"text": "We show appreciation with fewer reminders"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_130",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you feel loved after you have disappointed yourself?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"self_disappointment",
|
||
"compassion",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_separate_one_mistake_from_who_i_am",
|
||
"text": "You separate one mistake from who I am"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_of_progress_i_tend_to_forget",
|
||
"text": "You remind me of progress I tend to forget"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_be_accountable_without_becoming_ashamed",
|
||
"text": "You let me be accountable without becoming ashamed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_make_me_earn_your_affection_back",
|
||
"text": "You do not make me earn your affection back"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_trust_me_to_learn_without_lecturing",
|
||
"text": "You trust me to learn without lecturing"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_separate_one_mistake_from_who_i_am",
|
||
"text": "You separate one mistake from who I am"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_remind_me_of_progress_i_tend_to_forget",
|
||
"text": "You remind me of progress I tend to forget"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_let_me_be_accountable_without_becoming_ashamed",
|
||
"text": "You let me be accountable without becoming ashamed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_make_me_earn_your_affection_back",
|
||
"text": "You do not make me earn your affection back"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_trust_me_to_learn_without_lecturing",
|
||
"text": "You trust me to learn without lecturing"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_131",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which emotional signal from me is easiest for you to recognize?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"partner_signals",
|
||
"emotional_awareness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_look_that_means_i_need_comfort",
|
||
"text": "The look that means I need comfort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_tone_that_means_i_am_overwhelmed",
|
||
"text": "The tone that means I am overwhelmed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_humor_that_means_i_am_trying_to_reconnect",
|
||
"text": "The humor that means I am trying to reconnect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_quietness_that_means_i_am_still_thinking",
|
||
"text": "The quietness that means I am still thinking"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_look_that_means_i_need_comfort",
|
||
"text": "The look that means I need comfort"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_tone_that_means_i_am_overwhelmed",
|
||
"text": "The tone that means I am overwhelmed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_humor_that_means_i_am_trying_to_reconnect",
|
||
"text": "The humor that means I am trying to reconnect"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_quietness_that_means_i_am_still_thinking",
|
||
"text": "The quietness that means I am still thinking"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_132",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What makes you feel like we are emotionally on the same team?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"emotional_teamwork",
|
||
"mutual_care",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_care_without_pretending_we_control_it",
|
||
"text": "We care about each other’s happiness without pretending we control it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_protect_each_others_dignity_during_vulnerable_moments",
|
||
"text": "We protect each other’s dignity during vulnerable moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_two_different_reactions",
|
||
"text": "We make room for two different reactions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_when_one_person_needs_more_care",
|
||
"text": "We notice when one person needs more care"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_want_to_understand_before_deciding_what_something_means",
|
||
"text": "We want to understand before deciding what something means"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_care_without_pretending_we_control_it",
|
||
"text": "We care about each other’s happiness without pretending we control it"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_protect_each_others_dignity_during_vulnerable_moments",
|
||
"text": "We protect each other’s dignity during vulnerable moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_make_room_for_two_different_reactions",
|
||
"text": "We make room for two different reactions"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_notice_when_one_person_needs_more_care",
|
||
"text": "We notice when one person needs more care"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_want_to_understand_before_deciding_what_something_means",
|
||
"text": "We want to understand before deciding what something means"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_133",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How free do you feel to change and still be known by me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"change",
|
||
"being_known",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "A little boxed in",
|
||
"max_label": "Free to keep growing"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_134",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which forms of tenderness would you like more of?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"tenderness_preferences",
|
||
"more_closeness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_tasks",
|
||
"text": "Affection in the middle of ordinary tasks"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "gentle_words_when_i_am_being_hard_on_myself",
|
||
"text": "Gentle words when I am being hard on myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "longer_eye_contact_when_we_reunite",
|
||
"text": "Longer eye contact when we reunite"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "small_messages_that_feel_emotionally_personal",
|
||
"text": "Small messages that feel emotionally personal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_held_for_a_moment_before_sleep",
|
||
"text": "Being held for a moment before sleep"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_in_the_middle_of_ordinary_tasks",
|
||
"text": "Affection in the middle of ordinary tasks"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "gentle_words_when_i_am_being_hard_on_myself",
|
||
"text": "Gentle words when I am being hard on myself"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "longer_eye_contact_when_we_reunite",
|
||
"text": "Longer eye contact when we reunite"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "small_messages_that_feel_emotionally_personal",
|
||
"text": "Small messages that feel emotionally personal"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_held_for_a_moment_before_sleep",
|
||
"text": "Being held for a moment before sleep"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_135",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "this_or_that",
|
||
"text": "A remembered detail or an unexpected compliment?",
|
||
"depth": 1,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"quick_choice",
|
||
"feeling_seen",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_remembered_detail",
|
||
"text": "A remembered detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_unexpected_compliment",
|
||
"text": "An unexpected compliment"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_remembered_detail",
|
||
"text": "A remembered detail"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_unexpected_compliment",
|
||
"text": "An unexpected compliment"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_136",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What shows you that I know who you are now, not only who you used to be?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"current_self",
|
||
"ongoing_curiosity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_which_priorities_have_changed",
|
||
"text": "I notice which priorities have changed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_about_new_interests_without_comparing_them_to_old_ones",
|
||
"text": "I ask about new interests without comparing them to old ones"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_update_the_way_i_support_you",
|
||
"text": "I update the way I support you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_recognize_strengths_you_developed_later",
|
||
"text": "I recognize strengths you developed later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_leave_room_for_opinions_that_have_evolved",
|
||
"text": "I leave room for opinions that have evolved"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_which_priorities_have_changed",
|
||
"text": "I notice which priorities have changed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_about_new_interests_without_comparing_them_to_old_ones",
|
||
"text": "I ask about new interests without comparing them to old ones"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_update_the_way_i_support_you",
|
||
"text": "I update the way I support you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_recognize_strengths_you_developed_later",
|
||
"text": "I recognize strengths you developed later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_leave_room_for_opinions_that_have_evolved",
|
||
"text": "I leave room for opinions that have evolved"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_137",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "If life became much busier, which kind of closeness would you protect first?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"protecting_closeness",
|
||
"busy_life",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_real_greeting_and_goodbye",
|
||
"text": "A real greeting and goodbye"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_honest_daily_check_in",
|
||
"text": "One honest daily check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "regular_affection_without_a_schedule",
|
||
"text": "Regular affection without a schedule"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_weekly_moment_that_belongs_only_to_us",
|
||
"text": "A weekly moment that belongs only to us"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_real_greeting_and_goodbye",
|
||
"text": "A real greeting and goodbye"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_honest_daily_check_in",
|
||
"text": "One honest daily check-in"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "regular_affection_without_a_schedule",
|
||
"text": "Regular affection without a schedule"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_weekly_moment_that_belongs_only_to_us",
|
||
"text": "A weekly moment that belongs only to us"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_138",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you let a good moment with me fully sink in?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"savoring",
|
||
"positive_moments",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_pause_instead_of_immediately_moving_on",
|
||
"text": "We pause instead of immediately moving on"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_say_out_loud_that_the_moment_matters",
|
||
"text": "You say out loud that the moment matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_take_a_photo_without_living_through_the_camera",
|
||
"text": "We take a photo without living through the camera"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_revisit_the_memory_a_few_days_later",
|
||
"text": "We revisit the memory a few days later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_enjoy_it_without_trying_to_make_it_bigger",
|
||
"text": "We enjoy it without trying to make it bigger"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_pause_instead_of_immediately_moving_on",
|
||
"text": "We pause instead of immediately moving on"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_say_out_loud_that_the_moment_matters",
|
||
"text": "You say out loud that the moment matters"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_take_a_photo_without_living_through_the_camera",
|
||
"text": "We take a photo without living through the camera"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_revisit_the_memory_a_few_days_later",
|
||
"text": "We revisit the memory a few days later"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_enjoy_it_without_trying_to_make_it_bigger",
|
||
"text": "We enjoy it without trying to make it bigger"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_139",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which things make our bond feel private and irreplaceable?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"unique_bond",
|
||
"private_connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_exact_history_behind_our_ordinary_phrases",
|
||
"text": "The exact history behind our ordinary phrases"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_our_humor_has_changed_over_the_years",
|
||
"text": "The way our humor has changed over the years"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_parts_of_each_other_few_people_get_to_see",
|
||
"text": "The parts of each other few people get to see"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_comfort_built_from_thousands_of_small_moments",
|
||
"text": "The comfort built from thousands of small moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_particular_way_we_return_to_one_another",
|
||
"text": "The particular way we return to one another"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_exact_history_behind_our_ordinary_phrases",
|
||
"text": "The exact history behind our ordinary phrases"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_way_our_humor_has_changed_over_the_years",
|
||
"text": "The way our humor has changed over the years"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_parts_of_each_other_few_people_get_to_see",
|
||
"text": "The parts of each other few people get to see"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_comfort_built_from_thousands_of_small_moments",
|
||
"text": "The comfort built from thousands of small moments"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "the_particular_way_we_return_to_one_another",
|
||
"text": "The particular way we return to one another"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_140",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "scale",
|
||
"text": "How warm has our emotional connection felt lately?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"current_warmth",
|
||
"connection",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"min": 1,
|
||
"max": 5,
|
||
"min_label": "A little cool",
|
||
"max_label": "Very warm"
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_141",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "When you are carrying something privately, which invitation feels best?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"private_feelings",
|
||
"invitation",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_here_if_you_want_company",
|
||
"text": "I am here if you want company"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_have_to_explain_but_you_do_not_have_to_be_alone",
|
||
"text": "You do not have to explain, but you do not have to be alone"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "would_comfort_distraction_or_space_help_most",
|
||
"text": "Would comfort, distraction, or space help most?"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tell_me_whenever_the_words_are_ready",
|
||
"text": "Tell me whenever the words are ready"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_am_here_if_you_want_company",
|
||
"text": "I am here if you want company"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_have_to_explain_but_you_do_not_have_to_be_alone",
|
||
"text": "You do not have to explain, but you do not have to be alone"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "would_comfort_distraction_or_space_help_most",
|
||
"text": "Would comfort, distraction, or space help most?"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "tell_me_whenever_the_words_are_ready",
|
||
"text": "Tell me whenever the words are ready"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_142",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you say that you need more emotional closeness from me?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"asking_for_more",
|
||
"emotional_needs",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_i_can_ask_without_proving_something_is_wrong",
|
||
"text": "Knowing I can ask without proving something is wrong"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "having_simple_words_for_what_i_want",
|
||
"text": "Having simple words for what I want"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "trusting_that_you_will_not_hear_it_as_criticism",
|
||
"text": "Trusting that you will not hear it as criticism"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_able_to_request_one_small_change",
|
||
"text": "Being able to request one small change"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_you_ask_for_closeness_sometimes_too",
|
||
"text": "Hearing you ask for closeness sometimes too"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_i_can_ask_without_proving_something_is_wrong",
|
||
"text": "Knowing I can ask without proving something is wrong"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "having_simple_words_for_what_i_want",
|
||
"text": "Having simple words for what I want"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "trusting_that_you_will_not_hear_it_as_criticism",
|
||
"text": "Trusting that you will not hear it as criticism"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "being_able_to_request_one_small_change",
|
||
"text": "Being able to request one small change"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_you_ask_for_closeness_sometimes_too",
|
||
"text": "Hearing you ask for closeness sometimes too"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_143",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which signs tell you I am curious about who you are becoming?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"becoming",
|
||
"curiosity",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_what_feels_different_inside_you",
|
||
"text": "I ask what feels different inside you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_new_confidence_or_new_hesitation",
|
||
"text": "I notice new confidence or new hesitation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_want_to_know_what_you_are_outgrowing",
|
||
"text": "I want to know what you are outgrowing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_listen_for_dreams_that_were_not_there_before",
|
||
"text": "I listen for dreams that were not there before"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_assume_your_old_answers_still_fit",
|
||
"text": "I do not assume your old answers still fit"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_ask_what_feels_different_inside_you",
|
||
"text": "I ask what feels different inside you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_notice_new_confidence_or_new_hesitation",
|
||
"text": "I notice new confidence or new hesitation"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_want_to_know_what_you_are_outgrowing",
|
||
"text": "I want to know what you are outgrowing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_listen_for_dreams_that_were_not_there_before",
|
||
"text": "I listen for dreams that were not there before"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "i_do_not_assume_your_old_answers_still_fit",
|
||
"text": "I do not assume your old answers still fit"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_144",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "After we have lived in separate worlds all day, what brings emotional closeness back?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"separate_days",
|
||
"returning_together",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_the_one_moment_that_affected_us_most",
|
||
"text": "Sharing the one moment that affected us most"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_few_minutes_with_no_screens_or_multitasking",
|
||
"text": "A few minutes with no screens or multitasking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_that_marks_the_shift_back_to_us",
|
||
"text": "Affection that marks the shift back to us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_one_thing_the_other_person_thought_about",
|
||
"text": "Hearing one thing the other person thought about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "doing_something_small_at_the_same_pace",
|
||
"text": "Doing something small at the same pace"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_the_one_moment_that_affected_us_most",
|
||
"text": "Sharing the one moment that affected us most"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_few_minutes_with_no_screens_or_multitasking",
|
||
"text": "A few minutes with no screens or multitasking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_that_marks_the_shift_back_to_us",
|
||
"text": "Affection that marks the shift back to us"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "hearing_one_thing_the_other_person_thought_about",
|
||
"text": "Hearing one thing the other person thought about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "doing_something_small_at_the_same_pace",
|
||
"text": "Doing something small at the same pace"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_145",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "single_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which caring gesture feels most romantic?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"romantic_care",
|
||
"emotional_romance",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_what_i_was_nervous_about",
|
||
"text": "Remembering what I was nervous about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "defending_time_for_something_important_to_me",
|
||
"text": "Defending time for something important to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_on_the_part_of_me_nobody_else_noticed",
|
||
"text": "Checking on the part of me nobody else noticed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_me_feel_wanted_when_i_am_not_dressed_up",
|
||
"text": "Making me feel wanted when I am not dressed up"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "remembering_what_i_was_nervous_about",
|
||
"text": "Remembering what I was nervous about"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "defending_time_for_something_important_to_me",
|
||
"text": "Defending time for something important to me"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "checking_on_the_part_of_me_nobody_else_noticed",
|
||
"text": "Checking on the part of me nobody else noticed"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "making_me_feel_wanted_when_i_am_not_dressed_up",
|
||
"text": "Making me feel wanted when I am not dressed up"
|
||
}
|
||
]
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_146",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "What helps you believe tenderness is welcome between us?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"welcoming_tenderness",
|
||
"emotional_openness",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_joke_away_every_tender_moment",
|
||
"text": "You do not joke away every tender moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_does_not_have_to_lead_anywhere",
|
||
"text": "Affection does not have to lead anywhere"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_ask_for_comfort_without_apologizing",
|
||
"text": "We can ask for comfort without apologizing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_moments_are_not_treated_as_inconvenient",
|
||
"text": "Emotional moments are not treated as inconvenient"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_of_us_are_allowed_to_initiate_gentleness",
|
||
"text": "Both of us are allowed to initiate gentleness"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "you_do_not_joke_away_every_tender_moment",
|
||
"text": "You do not joke away every tender moment"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "affection_does_not_have_to_lead_anywhere",
|
||
"text": "Affection does not have to lead anywhere"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_can_ask_for_comfort_without_apologizing",
|
||
"text": "We can ask for comfort without apologizing"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_moments_are_not_treated_as_inconvenient",
|
||
"text": "Emotional moments are not treated as inconvenient"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "both_of_us_are_allowed_to_initiate_gentleness",
|
||
"text": "Both of us are allowed to initiate gentleness"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_147",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which moments make you feel like we still surprise each other?",
|
||
"depth": 2,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"surprise",
|
||
"ongoing_discovery",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_of_us_reveals_a_story_the_other_never_heard",
|
||
"text": "One of us reveals a story the other never heard"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_familiar_person_reacts_in_an_unexpected_way",
|
||
"text": "A familiar person reacts in an unexpected way"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_discover_a_new_shared_opinion",
|
||
"text": "We discover a new shared opinion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_of_us_becomes_brave_in_a_new_area",
|
||
"text": "One of us becomes brave in a new area"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_ordinary_conversation_turns_unexpectedly_intimate",
|
||
"text": "An ordinary conversation turns unexpectedly intimate"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_of_us_reveals_a_story_the_other_never_heard",
|
||
"text": "One of us reveals a story the other never heard"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "a_familiar_person_reacts_in_an_unexpected_way",
|
||
"text": "A familiar person reacts in an unexpected way"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "we_discover_a_new_shared_opinion",
|
||
"text": "We discover a new shared opinion"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "one_of_us_becomes_brave_in_a_new_area",
|
||
"text": "One of us becomes brave in a new area"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "an_ordinary_conversation_turns_unexpectedly_intimate",
|
||
"text": "An ordinary conversation turns unexpectedly intimate"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_148",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which things do you think help me feel closest to you?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"partner_prediction",
|
||
"emotional_needs",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_fully_listened_to",
|
||
"text": "Feeling fully listened to"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "receiving_affection_without_having_to_ask",
|
||
"text": "Receiving affection without having to ask"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_my_inner_life_interests_you",
|
||
"text": "Knowing my inner life interests you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_accepted_when_my_mood_is_complicated",
|
||
"text": "Feeling accepted when my mood is complicated"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_humor_and_lightness_with_you",
|
||
"text": "Sharing humor and lightness with you"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"answer_config": {
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_fully_listened_to",
|
||
"text": "Feeling fully listened to"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "receiving_affection_without_having_to_ask",
|
||
"text": "Receiving affection without having to ask"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "knowing_my_inner_life_interests_you",
|
||
"text": "Knowing my inner life interests you"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "feeling_accepted_when_my_mood_is_complicated",
|
||
"text": "Feeling accepted when my mood is complicated"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "sharing_humor_and_lightness_with_you",
|
||
"text": "Sharing humor and lightness with you"
|
||
}
|
||
],
|
||
"min_selections": 1,
|
||
"max_selections": 3
|
||
}
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "emotional_intimacy_149",
|
||
"category_id": "emotional_intimacy",
|
||
"type": "multi_choice",
|
||
"text": "Which kinds of memories would you like us to make more often?",
|
||
"depth": 3,
|
||
"tags": [
|
||
"future_memories",
|
||
"emotional_experiences",
|
||
"emotional_intimacy"
|
||
],
|
||
"access": "premium",
|
||
"sex": "neutral",
|
||
"options": [
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "nights_when_we_lose_track_of_time_talking",
|
||
"text": "Nights when we lose track of time talking"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "moments_when_one_of_us_feels_deeply_celebrated",
|
||
"text": "Moments when one of us feels deeply celebrated"
|
||
},
|
||
{
|
||
"id": "quiet_days_that_feel_unusually_close",
|
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